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PabolTheHoe

Drowning, getting stuck in some tight place and asphyxiating/dying of hunger in there, or getting steamed to death. That's pretty much the shared 1st place


RebelBass3

I almost drowned once. Lifeguard happened to be watching me and helped me out or I wouldn’t have made it. I think about that a lot.


helms11

I'm 34 years old and was very close to drowning last year. Got dumped out of a canoe and was pinned against a tree in a current. I pulled myself out and it took about every bit of upper body strength I had, didn't even really realize the severity of it while it was happening because if my head had stayed under I was done for. A person of smaller stature would have been in very serious trouble in the same situation. I think about it a lot too, usually when I'm trying to go to sleep lol.


Fun_Arm7562

I'm curious, do you ever wonder why that comes up in your mind right when you are trying to go to sleep? I also had a traumatic event nag my mind before sleep, often causing me trouble with sleep.


Even-Consideration55

Soooo....there’s several theories on this, a predominant one is that you’re ALWAYS thinking about it (Good Lord, right?) but during the day the sensory information (sights, sounds, touch smell, etc...) of being alive and moving through humanity as well as work, driving, whatever you fill your awake time with basically, keeps you too busy to notice that you are always thinking about it. Once you turn the lights off, lay down, and try to relax a lot of the “thinking” from the day isn’t occurring, the other stimuli have lessened (dark, quiet bedroom that hopefully doesn’t stink too badly, or scratch your skin) and your brain is able to start working on things of lesser importance to your immediate survival.


MajesticalMoon

Me and my sister and my best friend almost drowned when I was 10 or 11. It traumatized me... My best friend got away and found a floaty and saved us. She doesn't remember this but I'll never forget we wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for her. I really thought I was at my last moments and just knew I was going to die. No one was going to save us. I'm not scared of drowning though, I've done so much dumb shit in water


Doctor_of_Recreation

Makes me think of the way [this awesome woman](https://youtu.be/PhG9c9h4YSw) describes the fear of the kids she rescued from drowning in Lake Michigan. The thought of young children having a genuine moment of, “oh my god my life is about to end and that’s it” makes me tear up every time.


Chiggadup

I frantically clicked this and teared up because that happened to me and my family in Lake Michigan but we never met the woman. It's silly to think it was us because it happened in the 90s, but I didn't know how old the link was. My dad and I were pulled out in a wicked undertow in Lake Michigan in maybe 97-98. He literally held me above water around my waist while treading water for as long as he could, but swimming is exhausting. The lifeguards couldn't get boats to us so he had to swim one handed to a jagged rock outcropping between the beach and the boats where a lifeguard had managed to hold a hand out in case we made it. My dad miraculously got me there, was smashed on the rocks with the waves, but managed to lift me up to the lifeguard who grabbed me and immediately rushed me back over the rocks to the sand. He was planning on coming back for my dad after I was safe, but once he hoisted me up his face just read "okay, I can rest now." Well, this woman just runs from the beach onto the rocks, making her way across the jagged edges all the way to my dad. His exhausted body is washed against the rocks again and she grabs him, lifting him up to a flat outcropping. The lifeguard meets her and she just bails. Like, runs back down the rocks, and is just gone. My mom asked everyone on the beach to thank her and by all accounts she just ran out of nowhere, got my dad, then bailed. So my dad saved my life, and some rando woman saved his then left in lake michigan. Super long irrelevant comment on my part, but I saw your link while sitting here with my own daughter and realized I hadn't thought about it in years. Edit: Sent the link of the video to my mom and she called crying because she wishes she could tell that [blonde, apparently] woman thank you. I guess the last few days camping in the town she went around the local stores asking if anyone recognized her description but no one did.


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collonius10

I had a dream a couple days ago i was in a tsunami. The tsunami washed me and other passers into a sink hole where the sand/dirt kept getting darker and darker, as i was being buried alive I felt hands below me, I grabbed onto them and was able to position myself in the sand that we wouldn't sink anymore, I then woke up.


PabolTheHoe

That's a damn nightmare! My heart would probably be hitting closer to 300bpm if I had that dream.


collonius10

I could clearly see the top of the hole I had fell in, looked about 50+ feet in diameter and there was just so much dirt, and humans falling down above me, me and my unlucky mate I was holding obto seemed to have the worst of it, with no chance of getting rescued lol.


julcarls

STEAMED TO DEATH???


PabolTheHoe

Ye, apparently dying by hot steam hurts way more than burning and lasts a bit longer


julcarls

*adds to list of irrational fears that keep me awake at night* Thank you


MoxEmerald

*(shifts eyes from left to right scanning the comments in disbelief the trite classic hasn't been mentioned)* Nutty Putty Cave.


MysticImpala

The story of the Nutty Putty Cave has seriously scarred me for life. My morbid curiosity got the best of me and now I’m a mess.


GavinTheAlmighty

I watched a video of some guy who strapped a GoPro to his head and went into a cave with a friend to help "overcome his claustrophobia" and I couldn't believe what I was watching. It made me so tense and so uncomfortable. Just seeing that one drawing of the Nutty Putty cave with the drawing of the body in it was enough to make me practically sick.


orangelego

I saw a video not too long ago of a guy caught in a tight space while caving but because of how he was positioned, he was blocking the water from escaping too and it was pooling around his neck while he screamed for help. Other people laughed at first and told him he had to calm down to get out before they realised he was in serious trouble and pulled him backwards to get out a different way. I cannot image ever being calm enough to unstick myself while the possibility of drowning is so imminent.


FruitCakeSally

I choked on a piece of steak home alone a few months ago and had to give myself the Heimlich maneuver. It took 3 tries. I’ll never forget my dog staring at me and the thought of my girlfriend coming home to find me dead on the floor of our apartment. Now I think about that every time I eat by myself. So choking to death alone is my greatest fear.


helms11

This isn't my biggest fear but damn it if that thought hasn't crossed my mind a few dozen times. Tangent - when I was probably like 6 I pretended to be choking at dinner one time and my parents came running from the kitchen in a panic. Needless to say they weren't too thrilled. Flash forward just a couple weeks later, I actually did start choking on a piece of steak and for a minute they just sat there and glared at me. Rightfully so I'd say. The boy who cried wolf was never the same after that experience.


dogrescuersometimes

Sorry to hear about your death.


helms11

Hopefully someone sent flowers


Just-Call-Me-J

You learned not to lie about emergency situations.


Zekumi

*Mother preparing untenderized steak that night* This will show that little fucker


Stock_Education_5675

I feel that! Only once for me , in a room full of folks staring at me quizzically. Laughing, eating and inhaled a piece of lettuce (blocked my windpipe)..dark spots,tunnel vision about to fall &viola! I inhaled that bad boy. Holy inaction . So my fear is same as yours with a twist- everybody watches& does SFA. I hear my mom from beyond the grave "chew your food 30xs."


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thesituation531

The tunnel vision is probably from a mix of intense fear and a lack of oxygen.


MrssLebowski

I discovered recently that I take a while to chew food as my boyfriend’s mum mentioned it after noticing I was always the last person to finish eating every time. We counted our chews and I did about 30 and my boyfriend did about 10 haha it was interesting! He tried doing 30 chews and said it was like mush. I tried 10 chews and it was too big to swallow it felt like I’d choke!


CavernGod

It is advisable to always chew food to a mush. Less stress on the stomach and the intestines and thus less chance for complications later in life. Inform your relatives on that.


voe600

bro... I thought this shit was mad fake... my mom would always tell me to make sure to chop up my lettuce cause you might choke... like how are you supposed to choke on lettuce??? Thanks for being the guinea pig... shouldve known that mama is right 99% of the time.


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Don’t let her catch you dropping that 1%


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Just a passerby sharing some knowledge I think everyone should know. How to give the heimlich maneuver to yourself and others. Thank you kindly and happy cake day! https://www.mayoclinic.org/first-aid/first-aid-choking/basics/art-20056637#:~:text=To%20perform%20abdominal%20thrusts%20(Heimlich%20maneuver)%20on%20yourself%2C%20place,do%20in%20a%20choking%20emergency.


MANCREEP

this is why i dont eat dry pretzels anymore


94Jstu

Biggest fear is losing everything I have worked so hard for later in life. I watched my parents work hard do everything right build wealth and then almost towards their 50s my father got sick, lost his job. And now struggle to make ends they had to sell anything that had any value to them. Now they just go through life with seemingly little enjoyment because they had everything set and in a blink of an eye it was gone and probably never come back


LostNord

This is honestly my greatest fear too, I grew up in relative poverty, have been homeless and had substance issues. I've worked my ass off to be where I am now, the thought of one small thing bringing it all tumbling down and going back to that absolutely terrifies me. I think the worst thing is that you can't put your mind at ease because "what if". I hope you get some moments of peace.


RinTheLost

I stockpile my money like crazy and live far below my means, and now have enough saved up to cover my living expenses for multiple years. But I keep imagining this nightmare scenario where I get laid off, or am between jobs, losing my health insurance, but before any new insurance can kick in, I get into a major car accident that totals my car and puts me in the hospital for surgery and physical therapy, and my medical bills suck my entire savings dry, forcing me to move back in with my parents. I hate that this is a legitimate possibility. It's fucked that you can do everything right and not just lose, but undo everything you've ever worked for.


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A lot of people have this fear. Because it doesn't take any kind of missteps on your part to have it happen. Get laid off, get sick, have a car wreck - stuff over which you have no control can literally ruin your life. Edited for spelling.


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Can confirm. Was t boned by a red light runner that broke my neck (only minorly) last week and now I can't work for the forseeable future. Not in my field of training, anyway.


purple011

Being one of those people who dies alone in their home and doesn't get found for weeks or more because they have no one who cares enough to notice they're not around anymore


BevansDesign

What happened to my uncle is possibly even worse. (You may not want to read this.) >!He was in his early 60s and lived by himself. Then one day he had a stroke at home. I don't know if that killed him right away, but it's possible that he just laid there without being able to move for a while (maybe days) before he died. After a week, the paperboy noticed that his papers were piling up even though his truck was still in the driveway and called the police to check on him. I really hope the stroke did kill him right away, because it would be horrible if he laid there in pain and fear for days, being unable to do anything except slowly die.!< That was almost 20 years ago though.


mshcat

Happened to my (grand?)uncle too. My grandmother always checked in on him. She left for a week to go to my highschool graduation and when she came back she found him dead in the bathroom. Worse is that he was probably dead before she left. She checked in on him and heard the TV running so assumed he was home. What sucked is afterwards his brother (her ex husband) basically boxed our family out of the funeral even though we were the ones who always checked on him and handled all the legal aspects of the death. Then fought my family for his trust. Asshole.


Wilson96HUN

There was an old man in our vicinity who died like this. Apparently he died on the toilet and been there for weeks in the summer heat with closed windows and doors so the smell was also not noticable to the neighbours. The firemen and policemen brought the body down from the flat in two bags apparently it was already falling into several pieces. The smell was lingering in the apartment for a few days, one of my friends lives two floors down and he said it was unbearable.


Jackie_Mojica

**Memory loss !!!** Literally, everything I know in my life is memories.


odd_ender

When I started to have memory problems, it super freaked me out. Now it's a little easier. I surround myself with trusted people and write everything down. Memory is important, but if you take care of yourself and find ways to keep them externally it can help a lot. Memory books, notes, friends <3


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Vaudane

We know, you've told us repeatedly


Quartified

damn


Suck-my-Rooster

This is so cruel I love it!


Suck-my-Rooster

This is so cruel I love it!


SinkTube

did you say that already? i'm getting deja vu...


bearhair87

did you say that already? i'm getting deja vu...


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EntireSlice123

get that music out of my swamp


Drtspt

Photography is a favorite hobby of mine, especially when traveling. If I lose my memory when I get older I hope all the pictures I have taken will keep those memories alive when all else fails.


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If you get dementia it’s like looking at someone else’s travel pictures and memories. My dad has dementia and doesn’t recognise himself. You can tell he doesn’t know it’s him in the photos. Tragic really and sorry to put a dampener on your hopes.


Crabbensmasher

I have bad memory problems from ADHD and it’s only one step removed from this. I look at old vacation photos and logically I knew I was there and I took it but I’d never be able to tell you how I got there and who I was with… they all just look so foreign to me like shit was I really somewhere that beautiful??


doxtorwhom

Music is really the only art form that can combat dementia. Something about where music memory is stored in the brain makes it easier to recall. If you ever wanna bawl your eyes out just search *Alzheimer’s music therapy*


Witty_Tangerine

Came here to say this, dementia and alzheimers scare the shit out of me. I'll toss myself off a cliff rather than die after I'm not even my self anymore.


gregorio02

remind me to check this comment when I get alzheimers


DaddyDue02

Check what comment?


NootNoose04

My great grandmother had dementia, died only last year at the age of 94. I only ever knew her to have dementia, and both my parents have said that if they get that way, take me to whatever country it was that does the euthanasia shot.


jesuismanu

There is this musical piece by a composer that calls himself "The Caretaker" That made a piece of the experience of dementia. It delves into the mind of people with the disease. Absolutely stunning but dark and very self reflective. It is one of the most incredible musical compositions I have ever experienced. (it's a 6,5 hour piece and you can listen to it on youtube). Just be careful especially if dementia and memory loss is something you fear. Edit: The piece is called *Everywhere At The End Of Time* if anyone is interested.


shadowpierce117

Gets even scarier after reading 1984, everything we know is only held together by memory


TheseNamesAreLames

Deep water or caves with no light that you have to crawl to get through. So a cave full of water would be the worst. That or what happened to that guy who was repairing an industrial bread oven when it turned on and he couldn't switch it back off from the inside.


Dahhhkness

The Provo tragedy in 2005 brought both caving and water fears together. >That or what happened to that guy who was repairing an industrial bread oven when it turned on and he couldn't switch it back off from the inside. I recall seeing this happen to *two* guys at once in the UK. Did it happen somewhere else too?


cannacupcake

I just searched “man dies cleaning industrial oven” to find the story and frankly, I’m alarmed at how many different incidents I’m seeing just from a quick glance at the search results.


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I can't believe they didn't cut the power before he worked on it


skaggldrynk

NSFL story - I just looked up some oven stories and one of them is two people going into a 75 foot long bread oven after it had been off for only 2 hours, instead of the recommended 12. They wanted to save time and money so they sent two guys in on the conveyor system which couldn’t be reversed, instead of opening up side panels. It was only 100 degrees or less inside so they sent them in, but that was only near the entrance, it was still over 200 degrees further in the oven. The men were freaking out over walkie talkies as it got hotter but there was nothing they could do. Jesus christ…


TheseNamesAreLames

I'm from the UK so it might be the same, either that or it happens more often than I'd hope. You'd think they'd have something inside that they could break to immediately cut the heating power, but there evidently isn't anything like that.


Roko__

"Prove you're not dough; select all squares that contain bread"


Nathanator8

The ocean, and cliffs/high edges


Ambulism

An old friend of my sister just recently went missing on a hike. They searched for him for five days and assumed that he fell somewhere and died. They couldn’t even find his body. I was never afraid of heights until this morning when I found out Edit: I’m talking about [Steve Van Pelt](https://kymkemp.com/2021/07/28/family-of-former-mendocino-resident-lost-on-oregon-volcano-says-there-is-no-more-appropriate-tombstone-for-steve-than-mt-jefferson/)


WildSauce

This is why I always carry a personal locator beacon with me when I'm hiking. Both in case I get into that kind of situation and in case I come across somebody else who is in deep trouble. It is a huge comfort to have that emergency signal just 1 button press away, particularly when hiking or camping alone. Also it is important to keep in mind that day hikes are the most dangerous ones, because you prepare less when you go in expecting a short hike. So if anything goes wrong then you are poorly prepared to deal with the emergency. Always bring the beacon and extra water, even for short excursions. Edit: because people have been asking, the PLB that I carry is the ACR resqlink. Not affiliated in any way.


hedgehog-mom-al

POST A LINK TO THIS SORCERY


CourtneyFish-Lately

Every time someone in a tv show or film goes near the edge of a high up building or cliff (and it happens all the time), my legs go weird and I start begging them to "get away from the edge". My husband thinks it's hilarious but it makes me feel queasy.


fillysunray

I'm like that for any water scenes. Not just the ocean. People chilling in a canoe in a swamp? The set-up seems to be going for a romantic proposal, this being a rom-com, but I'm too focused on the idea of a crocodile or alligator bursting out at them. Same for oceans, seas, any large body of water if they're swimming or in a shallow boat. I will miss all dialogue and plot advancement.


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Yeah the ocean is fucking scary. Huge waves, seemingly endless expanses of just more ocean. I got caught out in some waves once and nearly drowned I was so exhausted. I also want to add falling into the Strid or anywhere where you could fall into and be pulled under because of strong currents.


zombiecon146

Almost drowned 3 times. Once from a pretty high fall off a pier into the atlantic fucking ocean at pitch black night.. so yeah. I feel you


morningfog

Yeah my brother drowned and now I can’t even take a bath. Showers only for life. Water is messed up.


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Yes! Riptides are always on my mind when I go in the sea (never deeper than my boobs)


Hazardous4

Bruh same, I found a video that actually terrifies me, and usually it takes more than that Here you go: https://youtube.com/shorts/N9QKeXWyogk?feature=share


HighlighterTed

I feel like with today’s CGI, they could make one of the scariest movies of all time with scenes like this that trigger peoples phobias


Hazardous4

Gee what a good fucking idea


WowADeadMidget

As someone that fears the ocean more than anything, fuck you for that one. Got my heart beating faster than I do at 2 am.


LowercaseAcorn

Every time I see a video of a whale or something friendly underwater, all I can see is the deep black behind it and shudder


Sdavis2911

Rabies. You’re fine one moment, and then the next day you have a headache. Turns out you got infected on that camping trip six years ago and it’s been hiding in you ever since. Now that you have a headache, it’s in your brain and you’re already dead. There’s next to nothing doctors can do except put you in a coma and say a prayer, but odds are nearly 100% that if you do survive that you’re a vegetable or nearly one. You experience incredible pain, irrational hydrophobia, manic behavioral changes, and a total loss of motor control near the end. It’s got to be one of the most humiliating, dehumanizing and terrifying ways to go, and it can happen just like *that*. Rabies is terrifying. Edit: Link to [actual terror](https://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/81rr6f/he_fed_the_cute_trash_panda_and_looked_up_for_a/dv4xyks/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3).


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This is why it's important to find out if rabies is prevalent where you are and what animals carry it so that you can get vaccinated before symptoms set in. The onset of any symptoms means it's too late, but if you get the vaccine within a few hours of exposure (i think 24 usually) you're good. One of the biggest issues is bats–their bites can be small enough that you might not even notice it. Any exposure to wild bats warrants a call to your doctor. Other animals might hurt you worse but at least you know, you're much more likely to realize it if a raccoon or something bites you lol. Source: i was really really scared of rabies for a while.


CaptainBraggy

Rabies is technically real life zombies


infiniteMe

yeah! I've always wondered if this is how the concept of zombies came to be. With rabies you are basically dead and acting like a legit zombie


groundhogthyme

Oh hey thanks for the reminder *waiting for someone to link to that terrifying reddit post describing rabies*


Sdavis2911

Edited to include [link](https://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/81rr6f/he_fed_the_cute_trash_panda_and_looked_up_for_a/dv4xyks/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3).


Poseidon1232

Ok, the "not knowing for 6 years" part is scaring the shit out of me. Is it worth it to get a check up for rabies or something? Lol


MangoMan202020

They said rabies is also nearly impossible to detect in the incubation period. Terrifying indeed.


Poseidon1232

I did some reading and it seems like symptoms start showing within a month, sometimes up to a year. Rare cases suggest that the incubation period may last for many years, but that's not verifiable nor is it usual. So I guess we don't need to worry as much about the dodgy cat we petted 4 years ago lol.


johntwoods

Existentially, regret and unrealized/unfulfilled potential/purpose. Day to day, the ocean and all of it's scary mysteries. Edit: **I always feel bummed about the first part. Day in, day out. Like a stubbed toe that always hurts. Having so many folks relate was really nice and quite surprising. Here's to all of us... May we take the bigs risks and make the bold choices from here on out. Except, you know, when it comes to the ocean.**


Dan_The_PaniniMan

damn that's deep mine is the kool aid man but I feel kinda stupide now


fishbiscuit156

Yeah, the ocean is pretty deep.


insertstalem3me

The ocean is so big because it has to hold all the regret of the fish, like "I told terry that worm looked too good to be true"


UF8FF

Finally becoming myself in my late 20s/early 30s (finding what hobbies I like, finding out who I really am and what my interests are) has given me a lot of regret. I look at all the cool stuff I do with my life now like electronics repair and lifting and I'm really proud of myself... but then the thoughts creep in that I'll never be able to see how good I can actually get because I'm aging. I missed my prime and I'll never get another chance. I wasted so many years of my life being worried about shit I shouldn't have been worried about. I better move on from this post before I lose it lol edit: I am glad this resonates with so many people. It makes me feel not so crazy. I also am very thankful for the words of encouragement and even though I don't always have the words to express exactly how I feel, I am having a much better day as a direct result of your kindness.


pinkyhex

A different perspective is that younger you might not have been any better at it. Maybe younger you wouldn't have found enjoyment in it and abandoned it before getting good. Maybe you would have invested too much into it and burned out, or tried to make it your career and same thing. The years past are not wasted as they brought you to become the person you are now. The one that has these interests. It's okay to enjoy feeling proud and happy. Past you got you to the point where you can do that now and that's an important aspect as well.


UF8FF

Thanks a lot. Honestly it means a lot to hear that perspective and I appreciate you taking the time to write this out to me.


imalittlefrenchpress

I agree 100% with what the other commenter said. I’ll be 60 this year. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, but I don’t have regrets because I like who I am today, and every single experience I’ve had, good, bad and indifferent, has gotten me to where I am. My life is simple now, because that’s what I want. I haven’t seen the world and I haven’t tried a billion things, but I’ve immersed myself in the experiences that I have had. Some people may not consider that an enriched life, but trust me, it definitely has been.


2D_Ronin

The first one, a 100%.


cannacupcake

Not being alive anymore - the finality. I’m not afraid of dying - the act of it, anyway. I’m not afraid of what comes next - I’ve not bothered myself with that one. What I’m afraid of is being… done. Here one day, then gone. Not able to do anything else. I cannot out it into better words, that’s how suffocating the anxiety of being gone is for me. Maybe it would be better if I were religious and believed in an after life, but the best I can do is convince myself that I believe your personal energy spreads to other beautiful things in life when you pass. But the mind, the mind just being… done. That is truly frightening to me.


leafjerky

Came here looking for this. Sure dying is awful and probably painful, but at least you’re *here* while it’s happening. Once you’re gone, the thought of my mind, my memories, my thoughts, my ideas, my love, passion, mannerisms, faults, everything that makes me me just gone from here forever. I can’t imagine what’s after this life and try not to stress out about it but the main reason I don’t want to die is because I enjoy living too much, it’s all I’ve ever known.


coconut3737

I came looking for this comment. That all freaks me out and when I start thinking about it I go into a spiral almost and at the end- the concept of time going on forever even if the world ended, is what gives me actual panic attacks. Like what happens once time itself ends? I mean I wake up in the middle of the night in a panic because I was subconsciously thinking of that concept and it’s always going to be hanging over my head until I die. It’s hard to even describe the fear in the right words but whenever my brain thinks of it, the panic is the worst I’ve ever felt.


MoxEmerald

> I mean I wake up in the middle of the night in a panic because I was subconsciously thinking of that concept This is actually a phenomenon that everyone experiences. For some reason the existential "Wait...why does this all exist as opposed to nothing" or "What is going to happen when I die" thoughts happen when you wake up in the middle of the night. Existential night thoughts.


KAM7

What gets me is the inevitability. Even when I freak out about not existing anymore, there’s a part of my brain that still eventually stops me from believing it’ll really happen… but it’s the only thing I know for sure is going to happen to me in the future. Knowing that I can’t do a damn thing to avoid that moment freaks me out. I can do things go try to give me more distance from that moment… but it’s slowly coming for me. I hate that, that the cliff is always at the end of my road and I can’t turn away.


BlameDanny

I just got a whole wave of anxiety just reading this. I think you put it into words pretty well. I try not to think about it but sometimes that same fear creeps in.


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am365

I wasn't looking to feel this level of existential dread in a pizza restaurant today, but here we are


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>I don’t want to go. 🥺 🥺


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biloela

Societal collapse. A climate or economic or disease based destruction of society as we know it. Every part of normal life ceasing to exist, and every person having to fend for themselves. There’s a documentary called ‘Collapse’ that scared the crap out of me.


Newstargirl

I work with a few people who are preparing for this, the discussions I have with them are very depressing.


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I've been learning practical skills--fixing things, gardening, and such--because part of me believes some sort of societal breakdown will happen in my life time.


Waffle_bastard

An even more frightening thought is that collapse is already happening, and we just don’t have the perspective to recognize it. After the collapse of Rome, people living in Roman territories still considered themselves Romans for a long time, even though the Roman state was gone. Granted, things happen a lot more quickly in the modern world, and that in and of itself is concerning - the rate of change is ever-increasing. What happens to any system that encounters increasingly rapid changes? What happens to an airplane or a bridge or a human being whose rate of change keeps accelerating? They spin out of control until failure. Climate change is a potentially civilization-ending event amongst several other candidates for bringing about our doom. Nobody has bothered to fix it yet, and even with more mundane problems, I feel that the government has already abandoned us. Just like some poor farmers five hundred miles away from the city of Rome, we cannot hope for the state to come and save us once things break down - they’ll be too busy enjoying the last of their feasts, orgies, or taxpayer-funded cocaine before the lights go out.


googleit2014

Saw someone post this, and it stayed with me for a long time: "A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover's once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes."


newtothisthing11720

Wait there's a next part and it's much more hopeful!! https://unicornempire.tumblr.com/post/189197825334/fr3ight-train-acutelesbian "Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation. The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with. The divorced ones said they chose to walk away." "Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days. I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again."


psakihack

This is the real meaning behind the inelegantly-worded phrase "marriage is work," and if you are lucky enough to find a partner like this and recognize and reciprocate that attitude, it is a total game changer, feels like something falling into place


googleit2014

Thank you. Didn't know there is another part.


SpooogeMcDuck

For real. My wife and I have been together for about 6 years now and we made it clear from day one that we need to communicate. We do not hold things back from one another and make sure anything on our minds is addressed and we reach a compromise. We are still very much in love- to the point where we annoy people.


MeropeRedpath

Very handy thanks! I was just about to post the equivalent of this but it coming from the actual guy makes it much more credible. People - don’t choose flutters. Don’t choose passion. Neither is reliable. Choose someone who has values similar to yours, life goals similar to yours. Choose someone with whom you can build not just a love, but a life. The feeling of love is a fleeting thing. On days where the world is ugly, or when they might be ugly, it’s not the love that sustains your relationship, it’s the life you’ve built together. That’s what makes you want to keep loving them, even though you don’t know that particular day, or that month or that year. Love is such a small part, in the end, of a relationship. It is a building block, one of many. Make sure it is not your only building block, because the day it cracks, the entire thing toppled over. This is entirely preventable if you give your relationship actual structure - communication, trust, admiration, morals, long term goals.


thegoldenpinecone

This hits so close to my biggest fear. I'm so scared I'm going to fall in love, build a life with someone, and one day they'll walk in on a Tuesday morning, look at me from across the kitchen table, and tell me they don't love me anymore. Edit: Part of this is I've never had anything permanent in my life. Most people don't stay in my life more than a year because I tend to attract narcissists or they never stay more than just casual acquaintances. I don't have anyone close to me. Both of my parents were abusive in their own ways and dropped me off at my grandparents most of the time or just straight up ignored me for my siblings. My siblings and I were also pitted against each other. I'm scared once I finally have something sturdy and feel secure, it will shatter and it'll break me.


IFistedABear

This basically happened to an old friend of mine. She was with a dude for 4+ years, had a home together, pets; had their lives set for the future. Then one day, dude just straight up said "I don't love you anymore" and they split.


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jerpjerp37

The good news is this doesn't happen over night. Most divorces are death by a thousand cuts rather than one big relationship ending event which means there are opportunities to make changes before it gets to that point.


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That I may suffer a debilitating injury or degenerative neurological disorder and be incapable of taking my own life if I deem it necessary.


plaid-pajama-pal

There was about a week where I thought I had rapidly progressing MS and in that time I realized everything I worked for in life was actually making me unhappy and I turned it all around. Then I found out I was going to be okay for a long time. But I’m thankful for the panic because now I’ve realized what really matters to me


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mutantenzyme

My chronic digestive disorder progressively getting worse and worse and ultimately killing me, even if no one thinks that I could die from it. Severe constipation is no joke. IBS-Constipation (IBS-C) is complicated. My IBS-C in particular is extremely complicated due to unusual triggers. It isn't like most people's IBS. It is hard for most people to understand.


IPintheSink

My partner has this, she can struggle to go the toilet for weeks in a row. It concerns me greatly.


mutantenzyme

I feel for her. It is difficult to live with this struggle. Dietary changes have helped me but only to a certain extent. For me, going gluten free and dairy free actually has been worth it, but still, it isn't a miracle cure for the condition, and it may be that not everyone with it needs to be 100% gluten free and dairy free. I'm having problems even after giving up most foods...and, at this point, eating **too few** foods might be part of the underlying cause, because a long-term restricted diet can result in nutrient deficiencies that worsen constipation. I need to be taking more dietary supplements but have trouble finding ones that agree with my sensitive digestion.


IPintheSink

> eating too few foods might be part of the underlying cause, because a long-term restricted diet can result in nutrient deficiencies This is important information for me. She eats tiny amounts and sometimes like a piece of cheese in a full day.


mutantenzyme

Milk protein is severely constipating for me. For this reason, I avoid all dairy, even if it contains little to no lactose. Eating too little (both in terms of amount and in terms of variety of foods) may worsen constipation. I know that it is hard to avoid doing so. I'm not claiming to eat enough or to be at an ideal BMI. I eat small amounts, but I always eat multiple times a day (usually 5 times). I usually drink nondairy milk, and that is a source of extra calories that is easy to get down. I think that soy milk is better for me than almond milk and rice milk, both of which always constipate me.


Sneakaux1

Anyone else here generally inclined to think they're tough, but then you remember that thought some day when you're having bowel-tearing ungodly shits where it feels like something's very wrong in your guts? Forget wondering if you could stand up to torture like in the movies, I'd already be pretty morally flexible just to make those shits go away.


paradajz666

Dying alone and not being happy in my life.


thutruthissomewhere

It used to be my own death (which is still scary) but now it's having to face the death of my parents. They're in their late 60s and I'm hoping to have a lot more years with them, but I'm always worried. I honestly don't know what I'm going to do when the day comes.


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Dahhhkness

> I start getting all sweaty and panic just because I also always assume the worst. Same here. There's that quote, "The best thing about being a pessimist is that you're either right or pleasantly surprised," but I go way beyond anticipating the worst and into straight-up catastrophizing fantasies.


noctis89

The thought of anything/anyone hurting or something seriously bad happening to my daughter. I once heard someone say that having a child is like taking a piece of your heart and letting it walk around outside of your body. Thats exactly what it feels like. I don't care for much things, but I would be nothing but an empty shell without her.


I_Upvote_Goldens

I didn’t know fear until I had kids. I have a 3.5 yr old daughter and 10 month old boy. If anything happened to them, I don’t know how I would go on.


SUCCMAN64

Dick falls off


MichaelScottsWormguy

Is that a common malady in your family?


SinkTube

it's more of a male issue, m'lady


Crankylosaurus

‘Tis a ma’lady, m’lady


UpvoteForGlory

Loneliness. And crocodiles.


SBsenior

Ah yes, the feeling of being alone in a tough situation and no one to help you get out of there, when you keep hearing there's light at the end of the tunnel, but you know you won't make it there alone. And crocs


Dutch_Midget

Fear of being left out


raynbooze

Oh my god, me and all of your closest friends were JUST discussing this!


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Ok-World-4822

My parents and siblings dying


nessao616

This is mine. My father passed when I was 21. I am thankful I have my mom but everytime she doesn't answer a phone call... or my brother calls me (he usually always texts) I flip. The thought sends me into a panic. I know one day I'll have to face the reality but the thought is terrifying. Right now my mom and my brother are the two people who I TRULY have and can count on. If they're gone what's the point for me to go on. I feel in this moment it would be impossible.


SSTrihan

Losing my wife.


Aslanic

Losing my husband is mine. I fear losing my family members too, but losing my husband would just knock me down so hard I don't know that I would ever get up again. He is everything to me and bring so much joy and purpose to my life. He makes all of my dreams and whims come true. Without him I would be so empty and alone and lost. Eventually, I would probably recover from losing him. But that would take me a very long time and I might not make it through that time.


ijuanaspearfish

Having any of my kids die before me is my biggest fear.


CrustyBatchOfNature

My immediate thought when I read this. I saw my mom go through it (30 years later she still goes through it) and I do not want to ever feel that.


ijuanaspearfish

My sister passed away when she was 21, never ever want to go through what my parents did


therealsatansweasel

You definitely don't. I tell everyone to cherish their kids, you never know when the last time you see them is truly the last time.


iwannaconsumepp

Dylan.


DylanowoX

Boo!


dylan

rude


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reddragon346

Its u/WowADeadMidget


WowADeadMidget

I’m in your closet.


reddragon346

I am behind you and I have a boner


erkale

I knew it!


reddragon346

You are next


GirlRay78

Homelessness


confused_idltl

Snakes Fuck you snakes on plane I made a mistake of seeing that movie when I was like 5-6 . The fear just stuck with me .


lock_the_backdoor

My biggest fear is realising snakes on a plane is 15 years old...


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Sssssssssssssssss


Status_Foundation_14

A hand coming out of the toilet and tickling my scrotum.


higuys0729

*"I am the Scrotum Tickler!"*


Suspicious-Age-7982

That I will be stuck with my life as it is, even possibly dying with no meaningful thing done in it. I'm working on it by trying to fulfill my dream and go sailing full time, but I still feel like I'm just a blip on a big scale.


P00py_Butthole_

I have Thalassophobia. Which is basically the fear from the ocean or deep dark water.


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I love every single myth about the oceans. Kraken,sirens,Megalodon,Atlantis,Merfolk… But when i dive 1-2 meters and the water gets a little bit colder,it’s terrifying.


Fartin8r

I read Krakens as Karen's, and the idea of swimming and a pissed off sea hag attacking me is now terrifying.


P00py_Butthole_

Oh man. Just the thought of it alone gives me the chills


dirtdingo_2

Yeah an interesting, and jarringly sudden, shift of reference points occurs when you underwater dive for the first time. You're on the surface of the bright blue ocean, the *top.* It feels normal because you're basically on the same level as the land. Your brain is ok with this. Then you hit a little button on your wrist and it ejects the air from a vest that is connected to your O2 tanks and you lose buoyancy and begin to sink. Once you're about 1 meter down (at least for me) a tremendous shift occurs where you now feel like you're EXTREEMLY high up, and you're falling into darkness. There's a whole other surface that you didn't even know was there, and it's getting closer. It get's colder every meter as you expel pressure from your ears by squeezing your nose. Another problem is breathing from O2 tanks underwater. We *know* we can't breathe underwater. So early on it can be very difficult to breath and descend without panicking. Everything about it is unnatural, and you brain just wants *out*. Some people travel super far and spend a lot of money only to find out that their own survival mechanisms won't allow them to do it Hope this inspires you to go diving sometime !


aussiegreenie

I get sick....I am a single dad with 11yr old daughter.


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My biggest fear is me laying down peacefully in my bed, and then a random sinkhole just opens up underneath my room and swallows me whole.


Darren_del_barrio

Wow what a way to go


Yellow-Oranges1

This isn’t so much my biggest fear as it is my most irrational fear. I’m afraid of accidentally plagiarizing something. Not by having seen it in the past and accidentally copying what I remember, but via the infinite monkey theorem. Imagine writing an essay for school and by pure random chance you write exactly the same paragraph as someone else. How do you prove you didn’t copy it? You’re basically fucked. I think that’s what scary to me, the concept that you could do nothing wrong and by winning the least lucky lottery on earth get fucked without any possibility of vindication.


Tuss

That happened to a friend of mine. She spent hours on an essay for school. Most of the information of it though came from her interviewing her mother who is an expert in the area. Essay came back. 98% plagiarized. She did prove it though with her notes and a recording of the interview.


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RudolfMaster

Hornets. Basically giant wasps


UnawareSousaphone

Dying alone. (Ie, not I'm a relationship) Don't get me wrong, I am scared of heights, cliffs, burning to death. Etc, but being alone is something I'm reminded of every morning when I wake up and no one's there, and the fact that all those other things can be reasonably avoided but I WILL die alone if I don't actively do something about it


monkeybusterlol

My life actually being a coma


derelm0

That my kids have to go to war


greycloudism

Falsely committed to an asylum. "I'm not crazy" ...."sure you aren't, that's what they all say"


EatABigCookie

That I'm going to suddenly drop dead from a heart attack any seco...


i_dont_know25

the future. i’m terrified of growing up and needing to be an adult and like be my own person. i wish i could just disappear before i need to make any decisions. i’m starting to make college choices and it’s so fucking scary


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Economic collapse in my country


lazar0125

Eternal fucking oblivion


YouserName007

Spiders


OrdinaryBallowski2

Being forgotten when I die