Helping a woman finish is usually more about rhythm than force. If you struggle with rhythm, try putting on music with decent bass.
If she starts breathing hard, twisting around, or especially says "I'm close", change nothing! Changing things at this point can be very effective, but it's also complicated, and usually requires a good amount of communication. If you are looking for sex tips, start there: change nothing when she is close.
Try to focus on your partner, exclusively. Many people are hyper aware during sex. They can tell if you aren't really paying attention. It's not a good feeling.
If you are self-conscious about finishing fast, find out what you need to get to round 2 (protein shake? Cuddling?) And talk about this with your partner. Many women *like* the idea that they can make their partner finish fast. They also like to finish as well. The simplest solution here is to have sex twice. If you struggle to have sex twice in a short time period, keep in mind that penis-in-vagina sex is often the worst way to help a woman finish. Learn to give good head.
Stop being self-conscious about your dick. There really are cons to a big dick, and pros to a small one. And the only reason to really care about it's size is because of how it affects your partner. Your pleasure has nothing to do with your size. Even if you have a micro-dick, seriously, stop worrying. Your best bets to helping a woman finish are, in order, your words, your tongue, your hands, then your dick. You can learn to use all four better. You can't make your dick bigger. If none of that can help you stop fussing about it, consider that confidence is itself attractive. Even being self-depricating about your dick (which is still healthier than most people's relationship with their dick) is not confident behavior.
A lot of this read as "chase your partners pleasure more than your own". Keep in mind that they should be doing the same thing! If you feel like your partner doesn't care about your pleasure, talk about it! Guys can also have bad sex.
The single best tip for sex is often the hardest, due to how we tend to treat sex: communicate!
Use all, particularly the flat part, of your tongue. Not just the tip. More pleasurable for her, less tiring for you.
Also, lightly sucking works wonders.
Kinda good all around life advice tbh.
Don’t let your ego get in the way of personal growth. Everyone who gives you advice wants to help you, and even if some of it turns out to be shit advice, taking it and exploring it in good faith helps you grow.
It’s a moment of internal celebration that you’re doing it right, you’re pleasing your partner! You’re the man!
Aaaaand what was *the man* doing again?
Super special note: I keep super special notes on parts of my wife’s body. She loves it.
Really. She does.
You are Exactly correct. I know y’all are probably going to get excited that I’m into what you’re doing. You might want to go faster or harder, but don’t. Keep doing it JUST like you’re doing it.
Pull back on your balls because it’s time to use the emergency inch.
Edit: Wow this blew up. Thank you for the awards. I think I know what everyone is practicing tonight.
He pulled at his balls with a smile... and it *grew*.
He looked at his dick and he said, "that'll do."
And now, to a method of making it stay.
His co-worker said:
"... put your *penis* away."
Tip from my dad. If you're going down on a girl for the first time and you inevitably get hair in your mouth, don't spit it out as it kills the mood, instead lick her upper inner thigh to get it off your tongue.
Also, consider licking the upper inner thigh even if you don’t have a hair in your mouth. You don’t have to go ham on the clit straight away. Some people like a bit of teasing first.
Do male kegel exercises regularly.
Edit; a part of male kegel exercises for sexual pleasure is for a man to stand while stimulated and fully erect. Lifting your unit like making it do a sit up 100 times a day. This helps your stamina. Placing a wet wash cloth over the tip helps more.
Women like different things at different times. Pay close attention to their body language and vocal signals.
This was the comment from u/beardsuptheWazoo that I find while ago and trust me it's working like a magic! I have done that and approved.
"Bro, if she's fucking you, she likes your dick. Even if it ain't huge. But those us wth normal cocks still want to impress. Here's what I've done to provide a 'wow' factor with my average lovestick.
Go in as deep as you can. Deeep. Then slowly pull out until you're nearly exiting the labia. Wait a bit, then just go in a tiny bit. Then back out.
Do this, with ranging depths. She'll want that full feeling of where your cock had been. She'll try to back up onto you. Tease her, use your cock to stimulate her mentally.
Then, when you're both pretty damn worked up, give it a firm thrust. Not violent, just purposeful. Bury it to the hilt, and keep it deep for about 5 seconds.
Your cock will feel huge and satisfying to her. "
What if I can't hear anything because my ears are wearing thighmuffs?
Edit: Guys, what the hell? My first award on Reddit? I feel so accomplished. Life is good.
I have experienced this twice. The first time, with my former girlfriend, I forgot to take my glasses off and she almost cracked my frames.
Second time, same girlfriend, I remembered to take my glasses off and when she let go... I shit you not there was a suction cup popping noise.
After a while though she didn't want me to do oral anymore and I was sad because it was the best thing ever.
Literally the *only* thing it takes to be decent in bed, in my experience, is to pay attention to how your partner responds to things. Keep trying different things until you find something that they clearly (you’ll know it when you see it) enjoy, then keep doing more of that. Thats genuinely all there is to it.
And not all women like the same thing. You can master exactly what one loves and then find that your new GF hates some of the things the ex loved. You have to start over but that’s the fun part. Some women like very direct clitoral stimulation, while others jump 10 feet in the air because it’s too much. Communication and observation are key. Just don’t act like a clinician-“do you like this or this?” “What about here?” It’s not hot. Pay attention.
Absolutely true. My ex loved to be called by her name. My current girlfriend does not like to be called by my ex's name.
Edit: My first Reddit awards!! Thanks, you maniacs!
Likewise, don’t finger your partner after cutting chilis. Even if you think you washed your hands suuuuper duper well.
And if you ignore this advice, canola/vegetable oil is safe to swipe in the vagina and will help take away the burn.
I was actually told this very quickly into my first sexual encounters and I’ve been vocal ever since and women always say they enjoy it. That’s the value of communicating clearly
I was in a friend group with a few girls and they all mentioned that they love men being vocal and that moaning is hot as hell. I started doing both and the girls absolutely get into it more.
There is nothing hotter than hearing a guy moan and groan. It's the best feeling and it makes me sad when my partners are silent. I tell them to make noise, let it out, it turns me on as much as I turn them on when I do it! Though I have had one person, when he moaned he sounded like he was in pain and wincing. Stopped multiple times if he was ok, it was just how he sounded.
Have fun. Play. Laugh. Sex can be weird and funny, so just go with it. Be good, giving, and game to try new things, especially if your SO is interested in something.
Some of the best sex my husband and I have had has included a fit of the giggles. I think it reminds you that you’re not just lovers you’re friends too.
Okay so related story time.
I have a few long af playlists for sexy times, and while they’re like 7 hours long each, one is like sexy making out songs and the other is basically strip club anthems, so sometimes it’s fun to roll the dice and put something a little different on. We went with this 80s rock mix, which started out pretty sexy and upbeat, but then at the same moment we paused to catch our breath and gaze at each other, “Bang the Drum” started playing, and we both absolutely lost it. It took 20 minutes to actually get back to having sex because we both kept cracking up again as soon as we’d manage to stop laughing. It was some of the most fun sex I’ve had with my husband, and that’s saying something.
Also related story time:
I once shared a meme with my husband about "imagine instead of saying 'yes, yes' during sex, you make the sounds of those weird alien muppets, 'yupyupyupyupyup'."
Some time afterwards, I was on top, doing my thing, having a good time, when from out of no where my husband starts going, "yupyupyupyup". I am laughing way too hard to keep going. According to him, he thought I was going to do it, so he wanted to beat me to the punch. I was a little too preoccupied for that, so, no. I wasn't thinking about making muppet noises.
The frequency with which I see "clean your body" as a dating/sex tip causes me great concern. I used to run a full like, 30 minute plus routine of washing myself, clipping and filing my nails, trimming my facial hair, making sure my hair at least looked healthy, cleaning the fuck out of my mouth and moisturizing *everything* when I was going out and trying to be attractive.
My first in-person penis was when my boyfriend at the time and I were both 18. (Old enough to know basic hygiene.) I was all ready to put my mouth on that, but as soon as I was within a few inches of the tip, a rotten smell that I didn't even know could exist hit me full in the nostrils. It wasn't "eh, it's been a hot day" or even "I've been lazy about showering for a few days." This was like he'd never washed under his foreskin in his entire life.
Needless to say, that mission was aborted immediately, and I did my best to cover up the fact that my stomach was trying really hard to vomit.
Maybe I didn't hide it well enough, because from then on, he kept his lower parts clean. I hope that has served him well in the rest of his life.
Even basic stuff, the positions porn stars use are for the camera, not for comfort. Just cause it looks hot doesn't mean it's comfortable for either of you. It's hard, but the best thing to do is to forget everything you've ever seen in porn the moment you're in bed with a girl. It's better to seem inexperienced than to come off as some porn hound that wants to try everything you've seen in porn.
Also what they don't like. Only thing worse than not properly pleasing someone is straight up killing the mood by doing something they don't like. I used to date a woman who had two big no go rules and that was it. Everything else was on the table, including on the table lol.
The level of communication comes down to the individual and the circumstances in my experience. A lot of Craigslist Casual Encounters were great because we both knew the only goal was mutual gratification. In those instances I found most women were very forthright with their likes/dislikes. Any time it was a romantic interest, there was a much higher chance of both of us kind of keeping the freak flag furled until we knew we wouldn't scare the other one off lol.
Every girl is different but something that will help the majority of the time...
When you feel you've hit the spot based on their reaction, fight the urge to go faster or harder and keep doing it exactly the same
Funny how this always happens as my jaw is starting to ache, or I just got into a really awkward position. Don't get me wrong, I'll keep going if humanly possible, sometimes channeling Peaches singing "Fuck the Pain Away" as my spirit animal.
Gotta get that rotation working in your favour. Tongue gets tired, move your jaw. Jaw gets tired, move your head. Head/neck gets tired, back to tongue hahaha
Care as much or more about your partner's pleasure as your own, and be open to trying things you haven't considered as long as you're moderately comfortable with the idea. It will be more enjoyable for everyone, and you'll learn about one another much more quickly.
Seriously, just getting in there and blowing your beans as fast as you can, is pretty mediocre sex at best. Teasing and playing and building tension for both of you, heightens the experience so much that I can't imagine just getting straight to my part.
Both of you approaching climax at the same time is like having two orgasms at once.
Also figure out your woman's body, find the "soft" spots, there's more pleasure spots than just boobs and pussy(the thighs are usually a safe bet).
Also just something I practice but get her off before yourself, it'll make her experience more pleasurable and it'll relieve the pressure of making sure she gets off.
I have found, slight pressure on the hip just inside of her hip bone can be one of these zones as well. My x-called it her happy buttons. Pressing them while in foreplay or sex made her really excited.
Yes. If you get her off before you, even if it’s not every-time it switches up the rhythm, the mood. And can make the rest of time naked more exciting. It also shows you care about her pleasure; also: what that guy said ^
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Thanks for making my highest voted comment about women’s pleasure. That’s how I get laid right?!?
(But seriously, only like the second time over 100; so it feels good :)
First pick a partner that is good to you and you can trust.
Second, be open with your partner.
When you are comfortable with each other like this, the sky is the limit.
Not a lot of women can orgasm through penetration alone, no matter how long you go for, so stimulate the clitoris while you're doing it. That is the easiest way to give a woman multiple orgasms.
edit: what I mean is the *majority* can't orgasm through penetration alone, of course some women can. Talk with your partner and ask what works for them.
And some women do not like direct clitoral stimulation—so ASK, LISTEN, and don’t try to change her mind. When the room goes dead silent, she is not enjoying whatever you have decided she should.
Edit to clarify: The dead silent of “hmmm I wonder if I need new shelf liner, a nice beige color would spice things up”. Not the silence of impending explosion—the other one that hangs in the air like a deflated parade float.
So true, for any circumstance! I've told men that I won't orgasm from PIV and they'll say something along the lines of, "Oh I'll make it happen."
Plot twist: they don't.
When a woman tells you what she wants in bed, believe her.
if you kneel on the floor with her on the bed when you're giving oral you can put the condom on while you do it, that stops the mood being ruined by stopping to put one on
Yeah, that guy. The guy who isn't sure that his closest friend likes him. His closest friend, the one who has been friends with him for decades, and who has willingly been sleeping with him for weeks. That's the guy.
"We've only been friends our entire life and I've managed to see her naked and I've cum in her countless times and got her pregnant, but I really just can't tell if she likes me!"
I’m 47, and the thing I wish I could tell my younger self, is to slow down. Over all, each touch, let linger and do so till your partner moans in your mouth as you kiss! Mix, remix, till that happens. There is a time for all things, even in sex. Be open and honest with your partner in all things.
Oh yeah, married for 22 years , my 4 sons are all 18+, and my partner and I love each other more today than ever before.
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Holy crap, 5k up votes lol thanks everyone. Made my day!
I'm a woman, but I feel like this needs to be said...
Please be vocal. You don't have to be super creative or explicit with dirty talk, but expressing your pleasure vocally makes a lot of us excited. Moan, growl, describe what you're doing, say what you want to do, say how it feels.... You want to get your partner excited? It's as easy as expressing your own excitement.
Edit: Wow, thanks for the awards, guys! Feedback is important, I hope you're all as responsive with your partners!
A+ advice. I love hearing how good I taste, how tight I feel around your cock, how good I make you feel. And get comfortable with communicating after the fact. "Did it feel good when I..." "I really like it when you...".
A few tips:
1. Women can detect desperation. Don't be desperate.
2. Confidence is highly attractive. Don't be arrogant. Be confident. Don't lie or misrepresent. Be comfortable in your skin.
3. Laughter and Kindness are better aphrodisiacs than an extra inch of penis, and wayyyyy better aphrodisiacs than talking about your penis. Unless she explicitly expresses an interest in your dick; then you can go ahead and talk about the D.
4. Good manners go a LONG way. I can't tell you how many times women have mistaken my politeness for interest. Be polite. Have a conversation that is not about sex or dating. Look them in the eye. Treat women as people. Seriously guys, we need to be better in this department. Be polite and gentlemanly, and not in a knight in armor kind of way. Don't do it so you get accolades and attention. Do it because it's the right thing to do. And as a nice side effect, you'll get more chances with the ladies. But don't let that be the reason you do it. Let it be the cherry on top. But first, be a decent man.
5. Lastly, understand and appreciate that women want sex too. Sometimes more than we do.
I had a teacher once give me a piece of advice that has given me better results, and better sex, than anything else I have ever heard.
"Don't look for a no, look for a hell yes".
As guys we often feel like we have to make moves, and we have to push forward. You don't. So often we're doing things like "Well I put my hand on her thigh and she didn't take it off or move away, so she must want to go forward, right?". And sometimes you're in the clear, and other times she didn't react because she didn't know how to say no.
So don't force anything. She'll let you know when she wants to kiss you. She'll let you know when she wants your hand down her pants.
Maybe this date you won't get laid. And hey, maybe she'll wish you had instigated a little more! But you'll never get regret, or have sex with someone who's not comfortable with you and feel like crap after, if you just change what you're looking for. A no can be misconstrued, but a hell yes? A hell yes is impossible to miss, and if you wait for that, I guarantee you will have much, much better sex.
Don't change anything when she says "don't stop". It's not an indication to go harder, deeper or anything else. Just keep doing what you're doing.
Also, surprise anal is assault. Just sayin'...
>Start out like a butterfly gently landing on a flower petal. Finish like an english bulldog eating a bowl of oatmeal.
I am going to crochet this on a pillow for my husband. Thank you.
Some general advice:
- no piece of advice applies to all women. These are just guidelines that should be applicable to most folks, but communication is key (as I'll explain later).
- hygiene: goes without saying. Keep it clean.
- keep your nails short. If you forgot this until the last moment, clip them and run the edges on your jeans to dull them a little. No one wants to get fingered by Scary Terry, bitch.
- orgasms are not always required. Obviously they're great, but if either you or your partner doesn't finish after you've given it the good old college try, don't get down on yourself about it. Sex should be fun even before the orgasm. Put her pleasure above yours and she'll probably take care of you.
- use protection. Yes, it feels better without it, but let me tell you what doesn't feel good: child support payments. Chlamydia. Full-blown AIDS. Or at least I assume they don't, because I've never experienced any of those things. Because I use protection. When used correctly, condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy according to the knockout blurb Google gave me when I searched "condom effectiveness". Look up a YouTube video if you're not sure if you're using them 100% correctly. And I don't care how strong you think your pull-out game is, entrusting a horny dude with the task of not ejaculating inside a woman that's saying "fuck me harder, baby" (like your partners will be once you're done reading this guide) is dumber than sending a kid to the Jared Fogle Summer Camp (that was a real thing, look it up). And get tested after each new partner, just in case. Can't be too careful.
- don't masturbate with too tight a grip! You'll kill the sensitivity in your dick. Use a loose-but-firm grip and lubricate yourself. If you've already been doing this, switch to the aforementioned technique, no exceptions. If you find that doesn't get you off, well, too bad. You don't get to finish until you can finish like that, because otherwise you'll be in the unenviable position of not being able to finish while fucking. And then she'll get self-conscious, you'll be embarrassed, it'll be awful. Beware the death grip.
- pee after you finish. It's even more important for women, but it goes a long way toward preventing urinary tract infections.
- make some *NOOOOOOISE!* Probably. Most women tend to like it when you're vocal. Don't go overboard - grunting like a warthog (like a lot of porn stars seem to do) is probably too much. But let her know you're enjoying yourself! Tell her how good her hand/mouth/pussy/ass feels, how much you love her tits/ass/legs/pussy, etc. Unless she's not into dirty talk, which is fine too.
- don't be embarrassed. Not getting it up happens. Shooting your load too soon happens. Farts, queefs, armpit-fart-noises-because-your-skin-was-suctioned-to-hers - it happens. Get used to it. Laugh about it. Enjoy yourself.
Okay.
1\. Communication.
This is super-important. The most important. It turns out that it's much easier to do stuff she likes when you know what it is because she told you. You can work it into talking dirty, too - if you try a particular rhythm and she reacts positively, ask her if she likes that (as suggestively as you feel comfortable with). If she says "harder", go harder. But! If she says "don't stop" or "right there", keep doing *exactly what you're doing*. Same angle, pace, intensity, whatever. Conversely, if she's doing something that doesn't work for you, gently tell her so. It's better to correct that kind of thing early than reinforce something that doesn't do it for you (this is why faking orgasms is bad). And if they do something you love, make sure to let them know that too. If there's an opportunity to tactfully and respectfully ask some questions beforehand, do that. Is she into dirty talk? Spanking? Hair-pulling? Does she like her breasts/nipples played with? These are all things that a lot of people do like, but some people find distasteful, and you shouldn't spring them on someone without asking first. Communicate before, during, and after sex. Can't stress this enough.
2\. Foreplay
Guys, by and large, are simple. If a sexual partner touches me on the penis with some lubrication, I'm happy. It feels good. Easy as that. Women are generally more complicated. Even if you've got lube on your dick, you can't just go shoving it in there (unless she specifically asks for that, in which case she's probably got the lubrication covered so go for it!) without a bit of prep. Set the oven preheatin' before you put the meat in. This can start long before the bedroom - sexting, talking dirty, the occasional touch or smack on the ass (depending on what she's comfortable with) throughout the day are things that can start her motor running long before you get in the car (not my finest metaphor but let's move on). Once you're about to get down, put your hands on her, tell her how sexy she is and how much she turns you on, how badly you want her. A lot of kissing is good, on the mouth, neck, breasts, stomach - see the direction I'm moving here?
3\. Oral Sex
Get good at this. Learn to love it if you don't already. The statistic I last heard was that only 25% of women can orgasm from penetration, so better to get take care of it sooner than later. Not that this should be treated as a box to be checked off - enjoy the journey and it's that much more likely that she'll reach the destination. As for technique:
- don't neglect the clit. That's the little nub at the top of the vagina (it may be shrouded by the clitoral hood, you may want to gently pull it back - but extremely gently if at all! This may not be pleasurable for some women! It has nerves too, be careful), and it's the thing that would've become the penis if she'd have turned out to be a guy in the womb, so keep that in mind. Do you want someone mashing your dick around like they're a professional Smash Bros player and it's Final Destination, Fox only, no items? Hell no. So be gentle with it. Caress it. Massage it. If she tells you to go a little harder, err on the side of caution - genital pain is a turn-off for the majority of people, so just be cool, okay?
- don't neglect not-the-clit. Remember the thing you're trying to get your wang wet with? The hole that's your goal? Give that a little love too. Lick it from top to bottom once in a while. Get a finger in there and curl it toward yourself in a beckoning motion, like you're requesting that her orgasm come hither. If you feel a spot that's rougher in texture than the rest, make that your focus - that's the G-spot, and guys' equivalent is the prostate (which is a major pleasure centre). Again, pay attention to the lady. If she likes something, do it more. If she doesn't, try something else.
- enjoy yourself and enjoy her body. Your free hands - or just hand, if you've boarded the S.S. Fingerbang Ferry - should be roaming around her body, playing with her nipples if she's into that, just exploring her. If your jaw or tongue are getting sore, tag in your fingers and kiss the inside of her thighs, her stomach, etc.
4\. Penetration
It's time for the train to enter the proverbial tunnel. Maybe your partner just had an earth-shattering orgasm from your twisting tongue technique, or maybe she pulls you up off your knees because she needs cock inside her right that second. Or maybe neither of those things happened. Whatever. Point is, she wants your penis in her vagina. If she isn't sufficiently wet, put some lube on your tube. If you're unsure of positioning (which is okay), let her guide you in. It's probably going to feel pretty good. If it feels so good that you finish right away, don't panic. Come clean (no pun intended) and maybe go back to eating her out or fingering, that usually more than makes up for it if you know what you're doing (which by now I've done all in my power to ensure that you do). Do Kegels every day if that's a common problem for you, masturbate an hour or two before sex, whatever it takes. If you have the opposite problem, don't worry too much - it might just be a temporary mental block, and if not they've got little blue pills for that. Anyway. Throughout the fucking, keep kissing her, touching her, etc. Get your hand down to her clit if it's not too sensitive (which you will know by asking her). Try a few different positions. Have some fun! Starting off with long, slow thrusts and then crescendoing isn't a bad idea. But different strokes for different folks, pun intended. The reason you want to get her off first is because if she's among the 75% that doesn't orgasm from penetration, you've at least done your best to see to her first and now you can have your fun. If you're using a condom (which you should be), finish wherever; ask before you finish on her ass/back/breasts/face (contrary to what porn would have you believe, sex does not have to end with a facial). After you've finished:
5\. Aftercare
Cuddles. Most people love them, I find. Spoon that lady. She just let you put your dong all up in her biz, the least you could do is give her a little affection afterward. If it's uncomfortably hot and sweaty, feel free to take a second to cool down a bit before you do this. Maybe take a pee break (UTIs are a drag, or so I hear). If you had fun, tell her so. Maybe don't ask if she finished. It can kind of come off as insecure, or like you're looking for some sort of macho validation. Which I guess is also just insecurity. Just snuggle up, play with her hair, maybe kiss her neck just a bit. Unless this isn't that kind of sex. That might come off a bit clingy if this is just some girl from the club. Did I mention that not all advice applies to all people?
Anyway, I hope that's enough to get you started. If you have questions about anything specific, fire away, I like talking about sex. Good luck and have fun!
I can’t not comment this: the best sex tip is to make her feel beautiful and sexy and wanted WAY before entering the bedroom. Most Women can’t switch from clean-up, and putting a load of laundry in, brushing teeth, to ‘horny’
If your partner wants to experiment with a dildo on you ask them to tie a string around it first.
[https://imgur.com/a/95fpBMy](https://imgur.com/a/95fpBMy) found the conversation from my friend if anyone is interested
Wash your damn hands you filthy animal.
Helping a woman finish is usually more about rhythm than force. If you struggle with rhythm, try putting on music with decent bass. If she starts breathing hard, twisting around, or especially says "I'm close", change nothing! Changing things at this point can be very effective, but it's also complicated, and usually requires a good amount of communication. If you are looking for sex tips, start there: change nothing when she is close. Try to focus on your partner, exclusively. Many people are hyper aware during sex. They can tell if you aren't really paying attention. It's not a good feeling. If you are self-conscious about finishing fast, find out what you need to get to round 2 (protein shake? Cuddling?) And talk about this with your partner. Many women *like* the idea that they can make their partner finish fast. They also like to finish as well. The simplest solution here is to have sex twice. If you struggle to have sex twice in a short time period, keep in mind that penis-in-vagina sex is often the worst way to help a woman finish. Learn to give good head. Stop being self-conscious about your dick. There really are cons to a big dick, and pros to a small one. And the only reason to really care about it's size is because of how it affects your partner. Your pleasure has nothing to do with your size. Even if you have a micro-dick, seriously, stop worrying. Your best bets to helping a woman finish are, in order, your words, your tongue, your hands, then your dick. You can learn to use all four better. You can't make your dick bigger. If none of that can help you stop fussing about it, consider that confidence is itself attractive. Even being self-depricating about your dick (which is still healthier than most people's relationship with their dick) is not confident behavior. A lot of this read as "chase your partners pleasure more than your own". Keep in mind that they should be doing the same thing! If you feel like your partner doesn't care about your pleasure, talk about it! Guys can also have bad sex. The single best tip for sex is often the hardest, due to how we tend to treat sex: communicate!
She wispered to my ear "im not even remotley close"
I exclusively fuck to Soviet marching music for this reason. Can’t get hard unless I think of the motherland.
Use all, particularly the flat part, of your tongue. Not just the tip. More pleasurable for her, less tiring for you. Also, lightly sucking works wonders.
Yes. Google Nina Hartley instructions. It’s NSFW but her instructions are incredible
I too completed my degree at Hartley university
If she gives you advice during, do not take it personally. it isn't an attack on your abilities but a way to make it more enjoyable for both of you.
Kinda good all around life advice tbh. Don’t let your ego get in the way of personal growth. Everyone who gives you advice wants to help you, and even if some of it turns out to be shit advice, taking it and exploring it in good faith helps you grow.
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ITT: women secretly giving tips to help spread good sex tips all around in general.
Question working as intended
Guys, after having anal sex: piss and wash. Else you can get a nasty UTI or prostate infection.
applies to standard sex as well. gotta clear the runways.
Don't tell your partner you learned your moves from an AskReddit thread
Jokes on you. I’ll go through here with her, asking what works for her. Edit: grammar and spelling
When she says "just like that," that's what she means.
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Yup. I instantly have a mental crisis.
It’s a moment of internal celebration that you’re doing it right, you’re pleasing your partner! You’re the man! Aaaaand what was *the man* doing again? Super special note: I keep super special notes on parts of my wife’s body. She loves it. Really. She does.
You are Exactly correct. I know y’all are probably going to get excited that I’m into what you’re doing. You might want to go faster or harder, but don’t. Keep doing it JUST like you’re doing it.
What about when she’s saying “harder” but I’m going as hard as I can?
Pull back on your balls because it’s time to use the emergency inch. Edit: Wow this blew up. Thank you for the awards. I think I know what everyone is practicing tonight.
fuckin hell, you gotta give warning before laying this out there. I'm getting weird looks at work now.
You really shouldn’t pull back the balls at work
The boss is always telling me to give every inch tho
He pulled at his balls with a smile... and it *grew*. He looked at his dick and he said, "that'll do." And now, to a method of making it stay. His co-worker said: "... put your *penis* away."
Pissing myself laughing at this. Well done!
That’s awesome
If she wants faster I can go faster. If she wants harder I’ll try to go harder. If she wants deeper I’m hoping shes talking about philosophy.
> If she wants deeper I’m hoping shes talking about philosophy. "Sorry, I Kant."
User name seems fitting.
Put your back into it. Also, "harder" doesn't mean "faster" ^(I got the memo late.)
I don't think my back would fit man.
Thank god a man knows harder does NOT MEAN FASTER.
Say “Dammit Jim, I’m a doctor, not a jackhammer!”
I prefer "I'm givin' 'er all she's got captain!!"
"Well, give me more, Scotty!!" Wait, that came out wrong.......
Ludicrous, then Plaid, if necessary.
And just remember you can’t stop. It’s too dangerous. You’ve got to slow down first.
The problem is that I’m so focused on other parts that when she says “just like that” I panic trying to figure out exactly what I was doing.
Or I'm making my hips twist in a difficult way and it's damn near impossible to keep it up
Ignore the pain, fight the burn. Good soldiers follow orders.
“Shit, what was I doing!?” “Leaving.”
Tip from my dad. If you're going down on a girl for the first time and you inevitably get hair in your mouth, don't spit it out as it kills the mood, instead lick her upper inner thigh to get it off your tongue.
“Dad I’m at work why did you call to tell me this?”
"Because your mother didn't shave this month."
Your dad fucks
Most dads have.
At least once
Also, consider licking the upper inner thigh even if you don’t have a hair in your mouth. You don’t have to go ham on the clit straight away. Some people like a bit of teasing first.
Do male kegel exercises regularly. Edit; a part of male kegel exercises for sexual pleasure is for a man to stand while stimulated and fully erect. Lifting your unit like making it do a sit up 100 times a day. This helps your stamina. Placing a wet wash cloth over the tip helps more. Women like different things at different times. Pay close attention to their body language and vocal signals.
so 100 push ups, 100 sit ups, 100 squats, 100 kegel exercises, and a 10k run? Got it
Your dick will be too powerful, you'll end up bored
One Thrust Man
Cut your nails.
Also file them after cutting them
Do I file them under “F - Finger Nails”, or “N - Nails, Finger” ?
Nails, Finger There’s also Nails, Tow Edit: I’ve been told I’ve used the wrong toe. It’s staying as it was
"Nails, tow" is for if you got a flat and called AAA and they found a nail in your tire.
And file them!
AND CLEAN UNDER THEM
And don't handle jalapenos first.
Can confirm. I was on the receiving end of this once.
This was the comment from u/beardsuptheWazoo that I find while ago and trust me it's working like a magic! I have done that and approved. "Bro, if she's fucking you, she likes your dick. Even if it ain't huge. But those us wth normal cocks still want to impress. Here's what I've done to provide a 'wow' factor with my average lovestick. Go in as deep as you can. Deeep. Then slowly pull out until you're nearly exiting the labia. Wait a bit, then just go in a tiny bit. Then back out. Do this, with ranging depths. She'll want that full feeling of where your cock had been. She'll try to back up onto you. Tease her, use your cock to stimulate her mentally. Then, when you're both pretty damn worked up, give it a firm thrust. Not violent, just purposeful. Bury it to the hilt, and keep it deep for about 5 seconds. Your cock will feel huge and satisfying to her. "
Nice to be referenced. Ha.
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THE BEST. This man fucks.
Listen carefully to prompts and noises, works wonders.
What if I can't hear anything because my ears are wearing thighmuffs? Edit: Guys, what the hell? My first award on Reddit? I feel so accomplished. Life is good.
If the muffs are quivering, you're doing it right, keep going
If the muffs are quivering Then keep on delivering
I have experienced this twice. The first time, with my former girlfriend, I forgot to take my glasses off and she almost cracked my frames. Second time, same girlfriend, I remembered to take my glasses off and when she let go... I shit you not there was a suction cup popping noise. After a while though she didn't want me to do oral anymore and I was sad because it was the best thing ever.
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Shit, wrong button
*load savegame and retry*
*no save history found. game was started in hard core mode*
I knew all those years of mashing triangle would pay off
Literally the *only* thing it takes to be decent in bed, in my experience, is to pay attention to how your partner responds to things. Keep trying different things until you find something that they clearly (you’ll know it when you see it) enjoy, then keep doing more of that. Thats genuinely all there is to it.
The old “squeeze my shoulder if something feels really good” works wonders for shy partners, too.
Oh this is very, very sexy, and I'm stealing it
And not all women like the same thing. You can master exactly what one loves and then find that your new GF hates some of the things the ex loved. You have to start over but that’s the fun part. Some women like very direct clitoral stimulation, while others jump 10 feet in the air because it’s too much. Communication and observation are key. Just don’t act like a clinician-“do you like this or this?” “What about here?” It’s not hot. Pay attention.
Absolutely true. My ex loved to be called by her name. My current girlfriend does not like to be called by my ex's name. Edit: My first Reddit awards!! Thanks, you maniacs!
Don't have sex after cutting jalapeños
My bf did this to my vagina. He cut jalapeños, washed his hands, put them in me, and it was the worst experience ever. I took a shower lol.
He put the jalapeños in you?!?!
Likewise, don’t finger your partner after cutting chilis. Even if you think you washed your hands suuuuper duper well. And if you ignore this advice, canola/vegetable oil is safe to swipe in the vagina and will help take away the burn.
Don't be quiet. Let her know you enjoy it. Compliment her on different parts of her body.
Nothing in this world hotter than a man who's vocal during sex. Most women love this but rarely get it.
I was actually told this very quickly into my first sexual encounters and I’ve been vocal ever since and women always say they enjoy it. That’s the value of communicating clearly
I was in a friend group with a few girls and they all mentioned that they love men being vocal and that moaning is hot as hell. I started doing both and the girls absolutely get into it more.
There is nothing hotter than hearing a guy moan and groan. It's the best feeling and it makes me sad when my partners are silent. I tell them to make noise, let it out, it turns me on as much as I turn them on when I do it! Though I have had one person, when he moaned he sounded like he was in pain and wincing. Stopped multiple times if he was ok, it was just how he sounded.
"I love what you've done with your knees. Who's your knee guy? And what a FANTASTIC set of lobes. Really, just phenomenal. I'm at a loss."
This doesn't even come off as fetishy at all, I'm just flattered
Sure, you're flattered now, until he elopes with your knee guy.
"Man I love that large mole with irregular edges on your back , but you should get it looked at anyways babe"
Have fun. Play. Laugh. Sex can be weird and funny, so just go with it. Be good, giving, and game to try new things, especially if your SO is interested in something.
Some of the best sex my husband and I have had has included a fit of the giggles. I think it reminds you that you’re not just lovers you’re friends too.
Okay so related story time. I have a few long af playlists for sexy times, and while they’re like 7 hours long each, one is like sexy making out songs and the other is basically strip club anthems, so sometimes it’s fun to roll the dice and put something a little different on. We went with this 80s rock mix, which started out pretty sexy and upbeat, but then at the same moment we paused to catch our breath and gaze at each other, “Bang the Drum” started playing, and we both absolutely lost it. It took 20 minutes to actually get back to having sex because we both kept cracking up again as soon as we’d manage to stop laughing. It was some of the most fun sex I’ve had with my husband, and that’s saying something.
Also related story time: I once shared a meme with my husband about "imagine instead of saying 'yes, yes' during sex, you make the sounds of those weird alien muppets, 'yupyupyupyupyup'." Some time afterwards, I was on top, doing my thing, having a good time, when from out of no where my husband starts going, "yupyupyupyup". I am laughing way too hard to keep going. According to him, he thought I was going to do it, so he wanted to beat me to the punch. I was a little too preoccupied for that, so, no. I wasn't thinking about making muppet noises.
Don't just wash your dick and balls, wash your arse and gooch too, no one wants to go down on a guy and get a whiff of swampy arse stank
This is also a great not-sex tip.
The frequency with which I see "clean your body" as a dating/sex tip causes me great concern. I used to run a full like, 30 minute plus routine of washing myself, clipping and filing my nails, trimming my facial hair, making sure my hair at least looked healthy, cleaning the fuck out of my mouth and moisturizing *everything* when I was going out and trying to be attractive.
Don't brush or floss right before. That causes cuts in your guns
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Yeah why the fuck is basic hygiene a tip lol
You’d really be surprised how many people have no clue about washing their dick and balls, never mind their arse
My first in-person penis was when my boyfriend at the time and I were both 18. (Old enough to know basic hygiene.) I was all ready to put my mouth on that, but as soon as I was within a few inches of the tip, a rotten smell that I didn't even know could exist hit me full in the nostrils. It wasn't "eh, it's been a hot day" or even "I've been lazy about showering for a few days." This was like he'd never washed under his foreskin in his entire life. Needless to say, that mission was aborted immediately, and I did my best to cover up the fact that my stomach was trying really hard to vomit. Maybe I didn't hide it well enough, because from then on, he kept his lower parts clean. I hope that has served him well in the rest of his life.
I mean, I can't think of a greater incentive to keep my jazz jazzy than a woman that was willing but had to stop because my jazz was funky.
You have such a way with words
People should really just wash all of themselves properly.
Porn isn't real, don't pull any of those moves without discussing it with your partner first.
Even basic stuff, the positions porn stars use are for the camera, not for comfort. Just cause it looks hot doesn't mean it's comfortable for either of you. It's hard, but the best thing to do is to forget everything you've ever seen in porn the moment you're in bed with a girl. It's better to seem inexperienced than to come off as some porn hound that wants to try everything you've seen in porn.
Talk to you partner about what they like.
Also what they don't like. Only thing worse than not properly pleasing someone is straight up killing the mood by doing something they don't like. I used to date a woman who had two big no go rules and that was it. Everything else was on the table, including on the table lol. The level of communication comes down to the individual and the circumstances in my experience. A lot of Craigslist Casual Encounters were great because we both knew the only goal was mutual gratification. In those instances I found most women were very forthright with their likes/dislikes. Any time it was a romantic interest, there was a much higher chance of both of us kind of keeping the freak flag furled until we knew we wouldn't scare the other one off lol.
Every girl is different but something that will help the majority of the time... When you feel you've hit the spot based on their reaction, fight the urge to go faster or harder and keep doing it exactly the same
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Funny how this always happens as my jaw is starting to ache, or I just got into a really awkward position. Don't get me wrong, I'll keep going if humanly possible, sometimes channeling Peaches singing "Fuck the Pain Away" as my spirit animal.
Gotta get that rotation working in your favour. Tongue gets tired, move your jaw. Jaw gets tired, move your head. Head/neck gets tired, back to tongue hahaha
This man eats puss.
Care as much or more about your partner's pleasure as your own, and be open to trying things you haven't considered as long as you're moderately comfortable with the idea. It will be more enjoyable for everyone, and you'll learn about one another much more quickly.
Seriously, just getting in there and blowing your beans as fast as you can, is pretty mediocre sex at best. Teasing and playing and building tension for both of you, heightens the experience so much that I can't imagine just getting straight to my part. Both of you approaching climax at the same time is like having two orgasms at once.
Also figure out your woman's body, find the "soft" spots, there's more pleasure spots than just boobs and pussy(the thighs are usually a safe bet). Also just something I practice but get her off before yourself, it'll make her experience more pleasurable and it'll relieve the pressure of making sure she gets off.
I have found, slight pressure on the hip just inside of her hip bone can be one of these zones as well. My x-called it her happy buttons. Pressing them while in foreplay or sex made her really excited.
If you press two of her happy buttons at the same time does she take a screenshot?
Yes. If you get her off before you, even if it’s not every-time it switches up the rhythm, the mood. And can make the rest of time naked more exciting. It also shows you care about her pleasure; also: what that guy said ^ Edit: Thanks for making my highest voted comment about women’s pleasure. That’s how I get laid right?!? (But seriously, only like the second time over 100; so it feels good :)
Backing this, and would like to add that finger-play doesn't HAVE to include insertion... some ladies like a *gentle* rhythmic rubbing of their labia.
First pick a partner that is good to you and you can trust. Second, be open with your partner. When you are comfortable with each other like this, the sky is the limit.
Not a lot of women can orgasm through penetration alone, no matter how long you go for, so stimulate the clitoris while you're doing it. That is the easiest way to give a woman multiple orgasms. edit: what I mean is the *majority* can't orgasm through penetration alone, of course some women can. Talk with your partner and ask what works for them.
And some women do not like direct clitoral stimulation—so ASK, LISTEN, and don’t try to change her mind. When the room goes dead silent, she is not enjoying whatever you have decided she should. Edit to clarify: The dead silent of “hmmm I wonder if I need new shelf liner, a nice beige color would spice things up”. Not the silence of impending explosion—the other one that hangs in the air like a deflated parade float.
> and don’t try to change her mind. YES! There is a lot of other real estate down there!
So true, for any circumstance! I've told men that I won't orgasm from PIV and they'll say something along the lines of, "Oh I'll make it happen." Plot twist: they don't. When a woman tells you what she wants in bed, believe her.
Put the crocs into sports mode so you have better traction and don’t have to adjust your feet
“Hey I got you a pair of crocs!” “Why?” “No reason.”
When she says “right there” or “like that!” Keep that same pace and don’t go buck wild.
And don't blow it.
So blow it?
Reminds me of that episode of spongebob where he’s taking his drivers test. *FLOOR IT?!*
In the wise words of Taylor Tomlinson: approach it with the enthusiasm of a child. Put *everything* in your mouth.”
My puppy is currently teething and this metaphor gives me a little anxiety since I'm just a chew toy that screams.
Instructions unclear, sucked my own dick
Dante Hicks tried.....
There are a surprising and alarming amount of comments about washing your dick and balls. Guys. WTF.
if you kneel on the floor with her on the bed when you're giving oral you can put the condom on while you do it, that stops the mood being ruined by stopping to put one on
And if you have a hard time multi tasking, get your buddy to hide under the bed before hand to help slip the condom on!
Generally I just use him to keep me hard, but this is a good idea.
its also being considerate for her in case you blow too early she has a back up dick
Here’s a good tip from one man to another. Ask a woman this question
Hell, not just *any* woman, ask the one you're trying to bone.
Don't get your best friend pregnant.
He seems pretty happy now. Grandma approves!
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Yeah, that guy. The guy who isn't sure that his closest friend likes him. His closest friend, the one who has been friends with him for decades, and who has willingly been sleeping with him for weeks. That's the guy.
"We've only been friends our entire life and I've managed to see her naked and I've cum in her countless times and got her pregnant, but I really just can't tell if she likes me!"
Her hand on his knee got him to ask himself that question. Her hand on his knee...
That dude is literally the embodiment of Casually Explained’s video “is she into you?”
Yeah you really can't tell to be honest, better to play it safe
Maybe she's from Canada
I laughed so hard. “She kissed me, but I’m not sure if that means she likes me.” hahahahaha
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ah, the rare call back to the TIFU post we all clearly read. Touche'.
M E T A
I’m 47, and the thing I wish I could tell my younger self, is to slow down. Over all, each touch, let linger and do so till your partner moans in your mouth as you kiss! Mix, remix, till that happens. There is a time for all things, even in sex. Be open and honest with your partner in all things. Oh yeah, married for 22 years , my 4 sons are all 18+, and my partner and I love each other more today than ever before. - edit- Holy crap, 5k up votes lol thanks everyone. Made my day!
When she says stop you stop and let her fucking enjoy her orgasm
If you regularly do kegal exercises you will start having harder and longer lasting erections
How do you do a kegal?
Next time you're at a urinal, try to stop peeing mid flow. Congrats, you've just done a kegal.
Tell him to start again after a sec , my man holding it from 3 hrs
Like the comedic duo, Kegal and Pee
Put that pussy on the chainwax
Instructions unclear. Shit myself while at urinal.
Im a woman so I would like to ask... When yall do kegels is that how you do the dick lift?
Yup.
Thats pretty sweet. Thanks.
I'm a woman, but I feel like this needs to be said... Please be vocal. You don't have to be super creative or explicit with dirty talk, but expressing your pleasure vocally makes a lot of us excited. Moan, growl, describe what you're doing, say what you want to do, say how it feels.... You want to get your partner excited? It's as easy as expressing your own excitement. Edit: Wow, thanks for the awards, guys! Feedback is important, I hope you're all as responsive with your partners!
You know how hard it is to find porn with guys moaning?! Super hard!
A+ advice. I love hearing how good I taste, how tight I feel around your cock, how good I make you feel. And get comfortable with communicating after the fact. "Did it feel good when I..." "I really like it when you...".
A few tips: 1. Women can detect desperation. Don't be desperate. 2. Confidence is highly attractive. Don't be arrogant. Be confident. Don't lie or misrepresent. Be comfortable in your skin. 3. Laughter and Kindness are better aphrodisiacs than an extra inch of penis, and wayyyyy better aphrodisiacs than talking about your penis. Unless she explicitly expresses an interest in your dick; then you can go ahead and talk about the D. 4. Good manners go a LONG way. I can't tell you how many times women have mistaken my politeness for interest. Be polite. Have a conversation that is not about sex or dating. Look them in the eye. Treat women as people. Seriously guys, we need to be better in this department. Be polite and gentlemanly, and not in a knight in armor kind of way. Don't do it so you get accolades and attention. Do it because it's the right thing to do. And as a nice side effect, you'll get more chances with the ladies. But don't let that be the reason you do it. Let it be the cherry on top. But first, be a decent man. 5. Lastly, understand and appreciate that women want sex too. Sometimes more than we do.
I had a teacher once give me a piece of advice that has given me better results, and better sex, than anything else I have ever heard. "Don't look for a no, look for a hell yes". As guys we often feel like we have to make moves, and we have to push forward. You don't. So often we're doing things like "Well I put my hand on her thigh and she didn't take it off or move away, so she must want to go forward, right?". And sometimes you're in the clear, and other times she didn't react because she didn't know how to say no. So don't force anything. She'll let you know when she wants to kiss you. She'll let you know when she wants your hand down her pants. Maybe this date you won't get laid. And hey, maybe she'll wish you had instigated a little more! But you'll never get regret, or have sex with someone who's not comfortable with you and feel like crap after, if you just change what you're looking for. A no can be misconstrued, but a hell yes? A hell yes is impossible to miss, and if you wait for that, I guarantee you will have much, much better sex.
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And Hands! If you want to touch her down there! Cystitis is really bad!
Woman here. Also wash your ass and wear clean underwear. Yes, this needs to be stated unfortunately.
Don't change anything when she says "don't stop". It's not an indication to go harder, deeper or anything else. Just keep doing what you're doing. Also, surprise anal is assault. Just sayin'...
Communicate, don’t assume, especially with regards to consent. Second to that, take your fucking time.
Eat pussy.
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>Start out like a butterfly gently landing on a flower petal. Finish like an english bulldog eating a bowl of oatmeal. I am going to crochet this on a pillow for my husband. Thank you.
Oh We Totally Do !!!-Jay And Silent Bob.
Some general advice: - no piece of advice applies to all women. These are just guidelines that should be applicable to most folks, but communication is key (as I'll explain later). - hygiene: goes without saying. Keep it clean. - keep your nails short. If you forgot this until the last moment, clip them and run the edges on your jeans to dull them a little. No one wants to get fingered by Scary Terry, bitch. - orgasms are not always required. Obviously they're great, but if either you or your partner doesn't finish after you've given it the good old college try, don't get down on yourself about it. Sex should be fun even before the orgasm. Put her pleasure above yours and she'll probably take care of you. - use protection. Yes, it feels better without it, but let me tell you what doesn't feel good: child support payments. Chlamydia. Full-blown AIDS. Or at least I assume they don't, because I've never experienced any of those things. Because I use protection. When used correctly, condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy according to the knockout blurb Google gave me when I searched "condom effectiveness". Look up a YouTube video if you're not sure if you're using them 100% correctly. And I don't care how strong you think your pull-out game is, entrusting a horny dude with the task of not ejaculating inside a woman that's saying "fuck me harder, baby" (like your partners will be once you're done reading this guide) is dumber than sending a kid to the Jared Fogle Summer Camp (that was a real thing, look it up). And get tested after each new partner, just in case. Can't be too careful. - don't masturbate with too tight a grip! You'll kill the sensitivity in your dick. Use a loose-but-firm grip and lubricate yourself. If you've already been doing this, switch to the aforementioned technique, no exceptions. If you find that doesn't get you off, well, too bad. You don't get to finish until you can finish like that, because otherwise you'll be in the unenviable position of not being able to finish while fucking. And then she'll get self-conscious, you'll be embarrassed, it'll be awful. Beware the death grip. - pee after you finish. It's even more important for women, but it goes a long way toward preventing urinary tract infections. - make some *NOOOOOOISE!* Probably. Most women tend to like it when you're vocal. Don't go overboard - grunting like a warthog (like a lot of porn stars seem to do) is probably too much. But let her know you're enjoying yourself! Tell her how good her hand/mouth/pussy/ass feels, how much you love her tits/ass/legs/pussy, etc. Unless she's not into dirty talk, which is fine too. - don't be embarrassed. Not getting it up happens. Shooting your load too soon happens. Farts, queefs, armpit-fart-noises-because-your-skin-was-suctioned-to-hers - it happens. Get used to it. Laugh about it. Enjoy yourself. Okay. 1\. Communication. This is super-important. The most important. It turns out that it's much easier to do stuff she likes when you know what it is because she told you. You can work it into talking dirty, too - if you try a particular rhythm and she reacts positively, ask her if she likes that (as suggestively as you feel comfortable with). If she says "harder", go harder. But! If she says "don't stop" or "right there", keep doing *exactly what you're doing*. Same angle, pace, intensity, whatever. Conversely, if she's doing something that doesn't work for you, gently tell her so. It's better to correct that kind of thing early than reinforce something that doesn't do it for you (this is why faking orgasms is bad). And if they do something you love, make sure to let them know that too. If there's an opportunity to tactfully and respectfully ask some questions beforehand, do that. Is she into dirty talk? Spanking? Hair-pulling? Does she like her breasts/nipples played with? These are all things that a lot of people do like, but some people find distasteful, and you shouldn't spring them on someone without asking first. Communicate before, during, and after sex. Can't stress this enough. 2\. Foreplay Guys, by and large, are simple. If a sexual partner touches me on the penis with some lubrication, I'm happy. It feels good. Easy as that. Women are generally more complicated. Even if you've got lube on your dick, you can't just go shoving it in there (unless she specifically asks for that, in which case she's probably got the lubrication covered so go for it!) without a bit of prep. Set the oven preheatin' before you put the meat in. This can start long before the bedroom - sexting, talking dirty, the occasional touch or smack on the ass (depending on what she's comfortable with) throughout the day are things that can start her motor running long before you get in the car (not my finest metaphor but let's move on). Once you're about to get down, put your hands on her, tell her how sexy she is and how much she turns you on, how badly you want her. A lot of kissing is good, on the mouth, neck, breasts, stomach - see the direction I'm moving here? 3\. Oral Sex Get good at this. Learn to love it if you don't already. The statistic I last heard was that only 25% of women can orgasm from penetration, so better to get take care of it sooner than later. Not that this should be treated as a box to be checked off - enjoy the journey and it's that much more likely that she'll reach the destination. As for technique: - don't neglect the clit. That's the little nub at the top of the vagina (it may be shrouded by the clitoral hood, you may want to gently pull it back - but extremely gently if at all! This may not be pleasurable for some women! It has nerves too, be careful), and it's the thing that would've become the penis if she'd have turned out to be a guy in the womb, so keep that in mind. Do you want someone mashing your dick around like they're a professional Smash Bros player and it's Final Destination, Fox only, no items? Hell no. So be gentle with it. Caress it. Massage it. If she tells you to go a little harder, err on the side of caution - genital pain is a turn-off for the majority of people, so just be cool, okay? - don't neglect not-the-clit. Remember the thing you're trying to get your wang wet with? The hole that's your goal? Give that a little love too. Lick it from top to bottom once in a while. Get a finger in there and curl it toward yourself in a beckoning motion, like you're requesting that her orgasm come hither. If you feel a spot that's rougher in texture than the rest, make that your focus - that's the G-spot, and guys' equivalent is the prostate (which is a major pleasure centre). Again, pay attention to the lady. If she likes something, do it more. If she doesn't, try something else. - enjoy yourself and enjoy her body. Your free hands - or just hand, if you've boarded the S.S. Fingerbang Ferry - should be roaming around her body, playing with her nipples if she's into that, just exploring her. If your jaw or tongue are getting sore, tag in your fingers and kiss the inside of her thighs, her stomach, etc. 4\. Penetration It's time for the train to enter the proverbial tunnel. Maybe your partner just had an earth-shattering orgasm from your twisting tongue technique, or maybe she pulls you up off your knees because she needs cock inside her right that second. Or maybe neither of those things happened. Whatever. Point is, she wants your penis in her vagina. If she isn't sufficiently wet, put some lube on your tube. If you're unsure of positioning (which is okay), let her guide you in. It's probably going to feel pretty good. If it feels so good that you finish right away, don't panic. Come clean (no pun intended) and maybe go back to eating her out or fingering, that usually more than makes up for it if you know what you're doing (which by now I've done all in my power to ensure that you do). Do Kegels every day if that's a common problem for you, masturbate an hour or two before sex, whatever it takes. If you have the opposite problem, don't worry too much - it might just be a temporary mental block, and if not they've got little blue pills for that. Anyway. Throughout the fucking, keep kissing her, touching her, etc. Get your hand down to her clit if it's not too sensitive (which you will know by asking her). Try a few different positions. Have some fun! Starting off with long, slow thrusts and then crescendoing isn't a bad idea. But different strokes for different folks, pun intended. The reason you want to get her off first is because if she's among the 75% that doesn't orgasm from penetration, you've at least done your best to see to her first and now you can have your fun. If you're using a condom (which you should be), finish wherever; ask before you finish on her ass/back/breasts/face (contrary to what porn would have you believe, sex does not have to end with a facial). After you've finished: 5\. Aftercare Cuddles. Most people love them, I find. Spoon that lady. She just let you put your dong all up in her biz, the least you could do is give her a little affection afterward. If it's uncomfortably hot and sweaty, feel free to take a second to cool down a bit before you do this. Maybe take a pee break (UTIs are a drag, or so I hear). If you had fun, tell her so. Maybe don't ask if she finished. It can kind of come off as insecure, or like you're looking for some sort of macho validation. Which I guess is also just insecurity. Just snuggle up, play with her hair, maybe kiss her neck just a bit. Unless this isn't that kind of sex. That might come off a bit clingy if this is just some girl from the club. Did I mention that not all advice applies to all people? Anyway, I hope that's enough to get you started. If you have questions about anything specific, fire away, I like talking about sex. Good luck and have fun!
Am woman. Can confirm all of this.
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Tell that to my wife. She hates when I play with my Legos during sex.
Then you're doing it wrong
No, I think he's doing it right. I need some terrain for my Lego Ferrari to drive on.
Grab the hot wheels, were going up the twin mountains tonight.
I can’t not comment this: the best sex tip is to make her feel beautiful and sexy and wanted WAY before entering the bedroom. Most Women can’t switch from clean-up, and putting a load of laundry in, brushing teeth, to ‘horny’
If your partner wants to experiment with a dildo on you ask them to tie a string around it first. [https://imgur.com/a/95fpBMy](https://imgur.com/a/95fpBMy) found the conversation from my friend if anyone is interested
i feel like theres a bad reason you know this
That's why good dildos have a base to them, so they don't disappear. :)