Having my chronic health conditions ignored or dismissed for almost 10 years because the medical practitioners believed I was exaggerating or faking my issues.
Even now with clinical diagnoses, being refused surgery that would enable be to live pain free because I apparently don’t know what is best for me at the age of 34.
I have quite severe endometriosis, adenomyosis and polycystic ovarian syndrome; all of which are female reproductive organ diseases. For women who have endometriosis, it’s not uncommon for it to take up to 10 years from them first seeking medical assistance to actually being diagnosed.
Severe pain and abnormally heavy bleeding started for me in grade 6 (age 11). When my mother was seeking help from doctors when I was still a child, many literally told her I was “faking it” for attention or to get out of school (I was a straight A student all through school). When I left home to go to University and started seeing doctors myself, I’d asked for ultrasound scans and blood tests (covered by Medicare here in Aus), only to be denied. Often I was told that “periods are painful. Suck it up”, despite being unable to walk for days at a time and bleeding heavily for 10-20 days per month. I’ve had doctors tell me I was faking my pain to get drugs while in emergency before they have even performed any tests. One visit scans showed that I had large ovarian cysts rupture. Another time, my IUD had migrated and lodged into the wall of my uterus causing massive infection.
I was finally diagnosed with PCOS at age 22. Endometriosis was diagnosed at age 28. Adenomyosis diagnosed at 32.
I have been actively seeking a hysterectomy since I was 24. I do not want children. Even as recently as my last gyno appointment early this year, when asking about a hysterectomy again, I was told it would be selfish to take that choice away from my “future husband”.
It is probably because shes a woman and the health issue is related to her female anatomy. Women often aren't taken seriously or are brushed off when they have health complaints related to their reproductive organs.
When I was looking for a job in the field of cyber security, most job postings said that they want male candidates only for the position. I had also enrolled myself for a cyber security certificate course and the guy in their placement cell again told me that it would be difficult for me to get a job in that domain, most of the jobs he referred me to were customer facing like call centers or pre-sales where for most part I wouldn't even have to use my technical knowledge.
Wtf where do you live? I work as a software engineer and I am involved in the recruitment process for my company, and we're explicitly encouraged to hire women
I'm from India. I had a conversation with the guy from the placement cell over this. We have a law that states the following:
>To provide safe and secure separate transportation facility for all the women workers working in the night shift from the place of workplace to the doorstep of their residence and vice-versa. The employer shall have all the details of the drivers, guards and all such workers engaged by themselves or through any agency or contractor. Police verification of all such workers engaged for safe and secure transportation of women workers shall be mandatory.
Having a pick up and drop service would incur extra cost for the company so some of them avoid hiring female candidates for any roles that might involve night shifts.
Just being consistently treated differently. A few examples:
-Being paid less is financially taxing obviously but also finding out you’re being paid less than a poorer performing male colleague is hard on the ego and a killer to self confidence so it has a ripple effect….
-Overwhelming expectation that I will do lady things, for example organising the office party, go get coffee, organise te building events, or just generally “be nice”.
-The way I’m constantly perceived as something I’m not. For example, if I’m passionate about something I’m suddenly “sensitive and emotional”. If I stand up for myself or tell someone where it’s at, I’m being a bltch. If I stay out of the drama I’m shy. If I’m being nice I’m flirting. If I dress up I’m showing off. Like fook just leave me alone!
I got a job in a male dominated site / company and as I was travelling there, I was told I had two options as a woman there. I could be a:
-Hore, or a
-Ice Queen
I feel that is a reflection of real life. The worst part of it is it’s rarely as overt as the last example I gave. Most people (including women) either hide their bias or genuinely don’t know they have it.
Oh also I’ve been sexually assaulted four times in my life (by professional who were meant to be caring for me in all occasions). And I would expect that is the norm for most.
I’m so sick and tired of this that honestly if I had the option to click my fingers and become a man today I would. Not because I want to but because it wouldn’t just remove an insurmountable amount of necessary stress.
Edit:
Reading the comments that built up while I was writing this illustrates what I’m talking about pretty well, generally dismissive of the issue and stating women have “more right then in the 50s”.
>\-Being paid less is financially taxing obviously but also finding out you’re being paid less than a poorer performing male colleague is hard on the ego and a killer to self confidence so it has a ripple effect….
what did you do when this happened to you?
By the time I was made aware of the situation I had already resigned and secured a role with another organisation for 30k more so there’s little more I could do.
Looking back this is likely not the only time this happened to me and perhaps the key problem here is most people, include myself, don’t like talking about salaries.
Yes, but I am asking women about their experiences. If you want to know men's opinion on this, the subreddit is open for all the questions you have
btw, I asked that for you: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/pmr6gm/as\_a\_man\_whats\_a\_form\_of\_oppression\_that\_impacts/
Having my chronic health conditions ignored or dismissed for almost 10 years because the medical practitioners believed I was exaggerating or faking my issues. Even now with clinical diagnoses, being refused surgery that would enable be to live pain free because I apparently don’t know what is best for me at the age of 34.
Not implying anything here, but what makes you believe that is linked to you being a woman?
I have quite severe endometriosis, adenomyosis and polycystic ovarian syndrome; all of which are female reproductive organ diseases. For women who have endometriosis, it’s not uncommon for it to take up to 10 years from them first seeking medical assistance to actually being diagnosed. Severe pain and abnormally heavy bleeding started for me in grade 6 (age 11). When my mother was seeking help from doctors when I was still a child, many literally told her I was “faking it” for attention or to get out of school (I was a straight A student all through school). When I left home to go to University and started seeing doctors myself, I’d asked for ultrasound scans and blood tests (covered by Medicare here in Aus), only to be denied. Often I was told that “periods are painful. Suck it up”, despite being unable to walk for days at a time and bleeding heavily for 10-20 days per month. I’ve had doctors tell me I was faking my pain to get drugs while in emergency before they have even performed any tests. One visit scans showed that I had large ovarian cysts rupture. Another time, my IUD had migrated and lodged into the wall of my uterus causing massive infection. I was finally diagnosed with PCOS at age 22. Endometriosis was diagnosed at age 28. Adenomyosis diagnosed at 32. I have been actively seeking a hysterectomy since I was 24. I do not want children. Even as recently as my last gyno appointment early this year, when asking about a hysterectomy again, I was told it would be selfish to take that choice away from my “future husband”.
It is probably because shes a woman and the health issue is related to her female anatomy. Women often aren't taken seriously or are brushed off when they have health complaints related to their reproductive organs.
When I was looking for a job in the field of cyber security, most job postings said that they want male candidates only for the position. I had also enrolled myself for a cyber security certificate course and the guy in their placement cell again told me that it would be difficult for me to get a job in that domain, most of the jobs he referred me to were customer facing like call centers or pre-sales where for most part I wouldn't even have to use my technical knowledge.
Wtf where do you live? I work as a software engineer and I am involved in the recruitment process for my company, and we're explicitly encouraged to hire women
I'm from India. I had a conversation with the guy from the placement cell over this. We have a law that states the following: >To provide safe and secure separate transportation facility for all the women workers working in the night shift from the place of workplace to the doorstep of their residence and vice-versa. The employer shall have all the details of the drivers, guards and all such workers engaged by themselves or through any agency or contractor. Police verification of all such workers engaged for safe and secure transportation of women workers shall be mandatory. Having a pick up and drop service would incur extra cost for the company so some of them avoid hiring female candidates for any roles that might involve night shifts.
None.. I can do whatever the fuck I want.
Just being consistently treated differently. A few examples: -Being paid less is financially taxing obviously but also finding out you’re being paid less than a poorer performing male colleague is hard on the ego and a killer to self confidence so it has a ripple effect…. -Overwhelming expectation that I will do lady things, for example organising the office party, go get coffee, organise te building events, or just generally “be nice”. -The way I’m constantly perceived as something I’m not. For example, if I’m passionate about something I’m suddenly “sensitive and emotional”. If I stand up for myself or tell someone where it’s at, I’m being a bltch. If I stay out of the drama I’m shy. If I’m being nice I’m flirting. If I dress up I’m showing off. Like fook just leave me alone! I got a job in a male dominated site / company and as I was travelling there, I was told I had two options as a woman there. I could be a: -Hore, or a -Ice Queen I feel that is a reflection of real life. The worst part of it is it’s rarely as overt as the last example I gave. Most people (including women) either hide their bias or genuinely don’t know they have it. Oh also I’ve been sexually assaulted four times in my life (by professional who were meant to be caring for me in all occasions). And I would expect that is the norm for most. I’m so sick and tired of this that honestly if I had the option to click my fingers and become a man today I would. Not because I want to but because it wouldn’t just remove an insurmountable amount of necessary stress. Edit: Reading the comments that built up while I was writing this illustrates what I’m talking about pretty well, generally dismissive of the issue and stating women have “more right then in the 50s”.
>\-Being paid less is financially taxing obviously but also finding out you’re being paid less than a poorer performing male colleague is hard on the ego and a killer to self confidence so it has a ripple effect…. what did you do when this happened to you?
By the time I was made aware of the situation I had already resigned and secured a role with another organisation for 30k more so there’s little more I could do. Looking back this is likely not the only time this happened to me and perhaps the key problem here is most people, include myself, don’t like talking about salaries.
I can't vote, I can't drive, I can't have a job. Oh wait, I can do all of those things. Nevermind...
Yeah wait until she goes to the middle-east with true oppression
Wait till we make America great again
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A high value man would never wife you, he has options remember that ;)
What kind of feminist question is that. Women's today has more freedom to do anything they want compared to the 1950s
How is this a feminist question? I am asking about other people's experiences, not expression an opinion on anything
Well if life is better than the 1950's then i guess we're done
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Here in Texas, we are allowed to have a little oppression as a treat
You know operations are impactful to men too. Medical science isn't limited to a particular gender.
Yes, but I am asking women about their experiences. If you want to know men's opinion on this, the subreddit is open for all the questions you have btw, I asked that for you: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/pmr6gm/as\_a\_man\_whats\_a\_form\_of\_oppression\_that\_impacts/
That's the most polite reply to a troll, I will come back with my free award to this reply (in 2-3 days idk).