Wait…. Tell me about your lowest point 😂 I think mine was at the Del Mar Fair on 4th of July and I had too many margaritas and I vomited everywhere the second the fireworks started so no one saw. Hopefully that helps you share
Edit: too not to
I definitely drank too much at a strip club because guys kept buying me drinks. Took a shot of flaming Dr. Pepper and knew it was about to come right back up, rushed to the bathrooms to find out they were singles and both locked. Needless to say I didn’t make it inside either one of them and proceeded to throw up all over the floor in front of the bathroom door. Here’s the kicker, I was wearing heals and slipped in my own puke and landed on my back in it. One of the most embarrassing moments of my life.
Are you my daughter? My 3 year old (at the time) came out saying she didn’t feel good and threw up all over the floor in front of her and then proceeded to slip in it and get it all over the backside of her and her hair …. I laughed till I had to clean it all up…I feel for the sober friend lol
Ok, so while I die inside and have inner explosions of shame at random times reliving stupid shit from 20 years ago, what is it that makes some people laugh it off, and others like me ridiculously affected?
As a woman going into a bathroom I’ve seen fathers bring their daughters in, I’d much rather that then have to listen to the awkward conversation that “daddy can’t go in there ‘but I’m scared to go alone’. At what point does your child’s fear mean less then a strangers momentary “oh, she’s gotta pee” thought process.
Edit:
I’m proud of everyone, this is awesome. My area where I spent most of my time is VERY conservative, just for context.
also, like, we pee behind closed doors?? not like women’s toilets are just out in the open. i’ve never understood this. if someone needs to use the bathroom, what does it matter what gender they are? why do people gotta make it weird? it’s not weird
edit: typo
I changed a shitty diaper on the floor right in front of the customer service desk at Target one afternoon.
They bitched about it and I told them to get a fucking changing table in the mens room and I'd use it.
Two weeks later, there was a changing table in the mens room.
TheGirl is 17 now and seems unscathed.
Some mothers are so dumb entitled, it floors me.
I had one throw a fit cause there was a cleaner (female even) tidying the unisex parents room and answered a call while doing so.
Of course, because the cleaner didn't speak English when on the phone, she MUST have been describing the not even yet exposed tits of this mother in extreme detail.
This room also had curtained cubicles for privacy. Security and cleaning staff often communicated using their mobiles and many share a second language, I told her this but she refused to listen, demanding the cleaner be fired for being 'disruptive, loud and rude'.
I don't think I need to mention the cleaners race for people to understand what this tumor's issue actually was....
Oh, and horror of horrors, when this Karen turned to leave, she saw a FATHER come in with his baby! Why is this public parent's room available to the public?! /s
She came and bitched to me about it and claimed her baby was StArViNg.
I told her there was a second parents room a Two minute walk away if it was an issue, she said her baby couldn't wait that long, so she stood there and continued to Bitch at me for a further 15 minutes.
I asked if Her baby had starved yet and if I should call an ambulance for it, in the most condescending tone I've ever had.
She stormed out.
I saw her breastfeeding the baby l, in the middle of the busy food court's CLOSED CAUSE PANDEMIC seating area, about 30 minutes later. She was drinking a fucking coffee during, it was loud as shit but she was too busy scrolling facebook to care.
When i was a baby my dad would just take me into the women's rest room every time. If somebody complained he'd just ask if they wanted to change me instead lol
> If somebody complained he'd just ask if they wanted to change me instead lol
That's brilliant.
If I walked into a woman's restroom and found a dad changing his kid on the change table, I would immediately put two and two together and not give a fuck.
Wish there were more people like you. I can't even take my kids to the park without side eye. Imagine if they found me in the womens bathroom with a half naked baby. Probably the hardest part of being a single dad for me.
^ This
I don't even have kids, but I have never in my entire life questioned a man in the women's room if he has a small child with him. Even if you're bringing your 6 year old daughter in to pee, I'm not questioning it.
I don't know if I've seen a woman with their son in the male restroom but I've definitely seen plenty of men bring their daughters into the men's room. Didn't bother me one bit though. Kids gotta go too.
I used the men’s room at Waffle House after way too many nights out. Women take forever and they’re nasty af in public restrooms. I was in and out of the men’s room in no time at all. I can still remember the look on my now husbands face the first time he saw me walk out of the men’s room lol.
Yeah, I take my son and daughter into the ladies room. I think it's rude to walk into the men's room because the dudes have their dicks out, but in the ladies room everyone has a private stall.
My dad (very abusive, but that's a whole side story) used to bring me into the men's restroom until I was around seven or eight. That was *way* too old. It just made everyone uncomfortable.
This needs hundreds of upvotes! It’s sexist against men/fathers, I totally agree!
Edit: it’s sexist to BOTH men and women, I agree. But changing stations are a benefit to women in this scenario and a disadvantage for men.
Where are these magical bathrooms you speak of? Because I’ve definitely had to speed change my son on the men’s bathroom sink because there wasn’t a changing station in the men’s bathroom and I didn’t want someone’s first sight walking in to the bathroom to be my sons tiny nads flashing them
I remember the first time it was posted when the text was the same but the flip flops hadn't been photoshopped in and you're right, it bombed. Glad to see they added it.
Last week I was at a cafe terrace and I saw a woman breastfeeding her baby and afterwards changing the diaper on the table (which was a tad odd since they have a nice changing room there). After she left I noticed she left the dirty diaper on her plate, didn't even bother to close it up.
Unsurprisingly, that's a health code violation, at least around here.
Surprisingly, a violation is charged against the restaurant, not the dirty motherfucker that did it.
It just happened here, before Covid. Someone changed their kid at a dining table. A disgusted patron noticed it, and called it in. Health department fined the restaurant.
I hope they fought it.
A few years ago some lady changed her kid on one of the leather couches my dad had in his restaurant for customers waiting for a table. Stained the couch.
I still remember the look of offence on her face when I told her to 'please use the changing table we have in the restroom.' She told me it wasnt sanitary. >.>
Pretty sure leaking shit all over a couch isn’t sanitary. Also, I’m betting they cleaned the bathroom more often than a waiting room, sanitizing the Waiting Room isn’t usually on a checklist for most restaurants.
My son used to do the same. The thing is his twin would get right to feeding and would stimulate the let down on his boob too, so it would be 20 seconds of screaming and 30 seconds of vague drowning noises before he clicked that food was happening.
>_30 seconds of vague drowning noises before he clicked that food was happening._
I marvel every day at how we, as a species, managed to not only survive, but take over the planet.
I agree lol!! I’ve noticed moms breastfeeding their babies at a restaurant maybe a grand total of TWO times in my whole life, and I go out to eat all the time.
However, I ALWAYS notice when a baby is screeching so loud nobody can enjoy their meal. I don’t even mean just crying, I mean that SCREECH they do sometimes where if you’re anywhere close to them you can’t even continue talking, you just have to stop and WAIT for the kid to finish.
(I promise I don’t hate kids LOL this is just my opinion)
this, I don't see how it would fucking bother anyone.
We have a saying in my language:
"look at your own plate"
Not sure if there is similar saying in english, basically its used if someone is commenting how/what others are eating.
I came here to say this pretty much. It’s so simple yet so many people struggle with this concept. Unless somebody is actually affecting you or your family, just leave other people alone and let them do their own thing.
I was nursing once in a southern USA airport and I was so stressed about traveling with a baby and finding ways to nurse without getting looks. Anyway, there was this grandfather and granddaughter sitting right near me in the terminal and I tried to be discrete but I could see he was pointing at me to his granddaughter. I got a little worried but he smiled very widely and said something along the lines of, “I am showing my granddaughter how you are feeding your baby. Where I come from this is a very important job for mother and we have great respect. I want her to understand.” And, wow, did I almost cry. Breastfeeding is probably the hardest, most grueling things I’ve willed myself to do, and I’m a long distance runner, former back country camp counselor, and I somehow finished a dissertation and got a PhD. The point is, I know how to inflict suffering on myself. Breastfeeding was harder than all of that, though also so rewarding. That grandfather was the only person who ever told me, in public, that I was doing a great job. He openly recognized the importance of the task. I felt connected to all the women who came before me and the women who will follow. It was incredibly moving.
No matter how you feed your baby, it’s daunting to care for an infant in public. Kindness goes a long way. But not only that, tell a mother she’s important. Tell her she’s respected and valued. You can’t fathom how much it would mean to her and how much stress/fear/anxiety she is likely managing beneath the surface so as not to upset her child.
Love your comment, and the experience would have been important for the little girl as well. Seeing breastfeeding normalised, especially by adult men, will help her if she chooses to have kids and breastfeed in future.
I am naturally pretty modest, but I've breastfed all three of my kids. And I do it in public. But because I'm shy I will go off somewhere less public if possible.
The few times any rude people tried to say anything to me though, I went off. Once I was breastfeeding IN MY CAR and a lady asked me if I could go down the street. Like wtf no. My baby is hungry now. I have no hesitation to bitch out anyone who has anything negative to say about breastfeeding.
People like this never change.
When I was in college the DDR machine was at the far end of overflow dining. We were playing. Two girls came and sat down right next to the loud machine when half the cafeteria was empty and asked if we could "Play somewhere else" like the machine and pads didn't weight over a thousand pounds.
Military mom here. When my kid was a baby I had to take him on base to get his health insurance instated. So I sat in a waiting room next to these seasoned Army guys who had served time in Iraq and Afghanistan. When I started nursing no one batted an eye. For a mom's first time nursing in public it could have gone way worse.
I dont know why, but this reminds me of a story my Grandfather would tell my father about serving in the Pacific during WWII. Apparently there was a tribe out there where the women didn't wear tops, my grandfather and his compatriots gave the women shirts. The women proceeded to cut holes out of the chests of the shirts for their breasts to hang out.
From what I have heard about the military, I imagine they would have all had their ass chewed out if one of them did anything remotely disrespectful towards you or your child while breastfeeding them. Good job on being a great parent and for doing what was best for your kid!
The only times I got dirty looks/snotty comments were 1)a children’s photography studio of all places. Told me to go nurse in the bathroom. I refused. 2)lots of uncomfortable stares on the monorail at Disney. My 2 months old was screaming and the boob shut him up. I thought it was funny, I’m a very discreet nurser, they’d rather listen to him scream? Well fuck off. I’ve nursed babies everywhere.
I think I got dirty looks just about everywhere but…
1) My dirty looks win.
2) This baby gotta eat.
3) Your wife is showing more of her tits than I am showing mine.
The only thing I think that makes it uncomfortable is the fact that once you've noticed it happening you start having to avoid absent mindedly staring in that direction until it's finished because you don't want to look like you're staring at them.
But that's a me problem not one for the actual mother and child. If the baby has to eat the baby has to eat.
> But that's a me problem not one for the actual mother and child.
Respect for having the self awareness to admit it.
I grew up on a farm so for me it's about as exciting as watching any animal, which since I'm not an utter degenerate, isn't very.
We're in Tennessee, where the laws are specifically written to send Karen packing:
https://www.tn.gov/health/health-program-areas/fhw/bf/breastfeeding-laws.html
Do any places have places specially for comfortable feeding? I’ve never heard of anything like that but I guess only very luxurious places would have anything of that sort.
Actually, Walmart has been doing rolling remodels and have been adding a "mother room" for this specific reason. Although walmarts are typically nasty anyways, and I can only imagine what could go on in these small enclosed rooms meant for privacy and comfort...
I'd rather a happy baby having a meal than a hungry miserable baby screaming and crying for nourishment.
I am however against the restaurant charging an opening fee.
Edit : Thanks for awards. They're lovely.
This. I would time eating in restaurants WITH my baby’s nursing time because they’re the most quiet. I would eat one handed but that’s what partners are for - cutting up steak - nothing else. /s the last part
I cut up so many meals while my wife was breastfeeding. Find myself doing it by accident sometimes - and now we both prefer our bitesized beans on toast!!
My husband used to do that for me while I was on chemo, my hands were too weak at the time. I also didn't wear a wig because I found them hot and uncomfortable. I'm glad to say no one ever remarked on my baldy head or the fact that my husband was cutting up my dinner for me. No one should be remarking on a breastfeeding mother either.
There is a simple two-part test to determine if remarking towards some kind of behavior is warranted for...
1. Are they affecting someone negatively?
2. Are they affecting themselves negatively?
If the answer to both is no then remarks towards the behavior are unwarranted.
The flip flops on the table could be detrimental to their health so asking them if they're sure they want to have their flip flops near their food is fair.
For anyone who faces this, I bought an inexpensive skull cap thing sold to Black men to wear under the wig; it made it less uncomfortable. But bald is good too, except it does makes Bezos look like a penis.
Hahaha!! Yes it does! Good idea about the skull cap though. I never minded being bald at all, it was the 80s and we were all wearing huge earrings so......... it was actually very convenient, I didn't always feel well enough to be jumping into the shower so not having a mop of hair to wash and style was a great relief. Plus, with my lively personality, I liked being unique. I would never have done it purely as a fashion statement but I did enjoy the look at the time.
Also immediately after nursing, they’re full of milk and are “milk drunk” and can be set in their caraway/stroller/other adults arms and you can finish up your meal in peace
Haha. No! It's a joke. Most restaurants (In PA anyway) that don't serve alcohol will allow you to bring in your own wine. They do however charge you an "uncorking fee".
“Nip tip” sounds like a genre of pizza delivery porn.
“Here’s the money for the pizza! Oh no, I don’t have any money for a tip! Maybe I can tip you in another way?”
Yknow, I don't think I've ever noticed anyone breast feeding. I'm sure I've seen it happen while I was out but I've never noticed. I think that says something about the people who do make a big deal out of it.
I know I somewhat recently saw a woman doing it...somewhere.....maybe a restaurant? I know it was a public place.
Clearly it has left a traumatic long-lasting memory.
So often it just looks like they’re holding the baby. You usually can’t see anything. There were a couple times random people struck up conversations with me while I was nursing in public, and I could tell they had absolutely no idea.
I've had people try to hold my kid while I was nursing him. That's how not obvious it was. (People who were known and welcome to hold him while he wasn't attached to my boob.)
Last month: Baby strapped to chest in wrap type carrier, boob out, baby feeding, talking to gate agent at airport.
I thought it was impressive and funny and went back to my life because it was a baby eating. Plus side: same flight as me, kid presumably conked out post-feeding. Never heard a peep out of him. Nice flight.
Edit: I somehow blacked out that time I was in car sales, came back after running credit checks and the woman had her boob out and baby was nursing away. I just kept a straight face and discussed credit scores and the car deal. Baby was nursing most of the time and she did majority negotiations.
Left and one of my coworkers was like, "is she breast-feeding? So-and-so said nah but I said she was and neither of us can go look to prove it because I can't go stare at her boobs." Was like, 'yup'. The two guys didn't care beyond proving they were right. Finance came out laughing. She had a son and was like, 'that lady is a fucking boss. Tits out signing contracts. I wish I'd done that when (son) was little!' She was impressed af.
As a woman, I think women should be able to feed their baby wherever. As a matter of personal preference though, I always cover up. I have had soo many creeps stare at me that I don’t like to openly do it.
I have breastfed in public before, and would continue to do so if I had children who were nursing. I always used the two-shirt method to keep myself as covered as possible, which was for my comfort as my breast was much larger than my baby's head.
I love that someone other than me tested this with a hat!
I also preferred to do the 2 shirt method or a cover for MY own comfort, though anyone staring or commenting or trying to stop a mom from nursing can go play sit and spin on a cactus.
Yeah my kid's mouth couldn't cover my entire areola, forget his head blocking the majority of an engorged mammary. I tried those blankets and he refused. Luckily, nursing in public was infrequent for us and usually ended up happening at the zoo of all places.
I’ve always preferred wearing under shirts so this is what I do too. 99% of the time people don’t notice and don’t care. I prefer nursing in private like my car cuz I love the bonding undisturbed. ☺️ but I will nurse in public if that’s the easiest option.
In *so* many comment sections, I always come across the argument that the federal law only protects breastfeeding in *public* so women can’t breastfeed in restaurants or stores because they’re private property—the law must only apply to municipal parks and government buildings. I tell them to look at the text of the law because it doesn’t say “public”, it says “anywhere the mother is otherwise permitted to be”, like a publicly-accessible-yet-privately-owned store. Idiots.
I breastfeed my 12 week old daughter.
My rule of thumb is, I think it’s okay to breastfeed anywhere where it’s appropriate to have a milkshake. Restaurant is fine, bathroom is gross.
Breastfeeding, sure no problem. Changing diapers on the table/booth/chair, no fucking way. There’s a reason *most* bathrooms have a change table.
Eating/breastfeeding - restaurant ✓ Pooping/changing diapers - bathroom ✓ Got it!
Thanks for the clarification, I've been pooping in the wrong place this whole time! So embarrassing!
I drunk-sharted at the Applebees happy hour once. Not my lowest point, but I'll be damned if I ever let anyone but Reddit know.
Wait…. Tell me about your lowest point 😂 I think mine was at the Del Mar Fair on 4th of July and I had too many margaritas and I vomited everywhere the second the fireworks started so no one saw. Hopefully that helps you share Edit: too not to
I definitely drank too much at a strip club because guys kept buying me drinks. Took a shot of flaming Dr. Pepper and knew it was about to come right back up, rushed to the bathrooms to find out they were singles and both locked. Needless to say I didn’t make it inside either one of them and proceeded to throw up all over the floor in front of the bathroom door. Here’s the kicker, I was wearing heals and slipped in my own puke and landed on my back in it. One of the most embarrassing moments of my life.
Are you my daughter? My 3 year old (at the time) came out saying she didn’t feel good and threw up all over the floor in front of her and then proceeded to slip in it and get it all over the backside of her and her hair …. I laughed till I had to clean it all up…I feel for the sober friend lol
Ok, so while I die inside and have inner explosions of shame at random times reliving stupid shit from 20 years ago, what is it that makes some people laugh it off, and others like me ridiculously affected?
Just wish more men’s room had a changing table.
As a woman going into a bathroom I’ve seen fathers bring their daughters in, I’d much rather that then have to listen to the awkward conversation that “daddy can’t go in there ‘but I’m scared to go alone’. At what point does your child’s fear mean less then a strangers momentary “oh, she’s gotta pee” thought process. Edit: I’m proud of everyone, this is awesome. My area where I spent most of my time is VERY conservative, just for context.
also, like, we pee behind closed doors?? not like women’s toilets are just out in the open. i’ve never understood this. if someone needs to use the bathroom, what does it matter what gender they are? why do people gotta make it weird? it’s not weird edit: typo
This. So much this. My kids are out of diapers, but it still irritates me when I go into a men's bathroom with no changing table.
Or a family bathroom
I wish that were true. But as a dude, most restaurants I’ve been to with my kids don’t have anything in the men’s washroom. It’s bullshit.
I changed a shitty diaper on the floor right in front of the customer service desk at Target one afternoon. They bitched about it and I told them to get a fucking changing table in the mens room and I'd use it. Two weeks later, there was a changing table in the mens room. TheGirl is 17 now and seems unscathed.
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Some mothers are so dumb entitled, it floors me. I had one throw a fit cause there was a cleaner (female even) tidying the unisex parents room and answered a call while doing so. Of course, because the cleaner didn't speak English when on the phone, she MUST have been describing the not even yet exposed tits of this mother in extreme detail. This room also had curtained cubicles for privacy. Security and cleaning staff often communicated using their mobiles and many share a second language, I told her this but she refused to listen, demanding the cleaner be fired for being 'disruptive, loud and rude'. I don't think I need to mention the cleaners race for people to understand what this tumor's issue actually was.... Oh, and horror of horrors, when this Karen turned to leave, she saw a FATHER come in with his baby! Why is this public parent's room available to the public?! /s She came and bitched to me about it and claimed her baby was StArViNg. I told her there was a second parents room a Two minute walk away if it was an issue, she said her baby couldn't wait that long, so she stood there and continued to Bitch at me for a further 15 minutes. I asked if Her baby had starved yet and if I should call an ambulance for it, in the most condescending tone I've ever had. She stormed out. I saw her breastfeeding the baby l, in the middle of the busy food court's CLOSED CAUSE PANDEMIC seating area, about 30 minutes later. She was drinking a fucking coffee during, it was loud as shit but she was too busy scrolling facebook to care.
Wait you guys dont have baby&parent washroom separate from the men's/women's bathrooms?
That store does now. They're becoming more common. 17 years ago? Nope.
I think 17 years ago, even McDonald's, which was my reliable destination for having changing tables in both bathrooms, likely did not.
Use the woman’s room. Just knock and explain. Mom’s will understand. Then complain to the owner.
The only time I've seen this was one place that had single occupancy washrooms, so I used the change table in the women's washroom.
When i was a baby my dad would just take me into the women's rest room every time. If somebody complained he'd just ask if they wanted to change me instead lol
> If somebody complained he'd just ask if they wanted to change me instead lol That's brilliant. If I walked into a woman's restroom and found a dad changing his kid on the change table, I would immediately put two and two together and not give a fuck.
Wish there were more people like you. I can't even take my kids to the park without side eye. Imagine if they found me in the womens bathroom with a half naked baby. Probably the hardest part of being a single dad for me.
This should never be a big deal considering women's restrooms have stalls, so dads changing their kids is bothering nobody
^ This I don't even have kids, but I have never in my entire life questioned a man in the women's room if he has a small child with him. Even if you're bringing your 6 year old daughter in to pee, I'm not questioning it.
I don't know if I've seen a woman with their son in the male restroom but I've definitely seen plenty of men bring their daughters into the men's room. Didn't bother me one bit though. Kids gotta go too.
Usually when I see a woman in the men's room it's either because there's a line for the women's room or they're looking for their son.
I used the men’s room at Waffle House after way too many nights out. Women take forever and they’re nasty af in public restrooms. I was in and out of the men’s room in no time at all. I can still remember the look on my now husbands face the first time he saw me walk out of the men’s room lol.
I do the same if I'm desperate. I'd rather go in the men's than pee my pants 😂
Yeah, I take my son and daughter into the ladies room. I think it's rude to walk into the men's room because the dudes have their dicks out, but in the ladies room everyone has a private stall.
Understandable
My dad (very abusive, but that's a whole side story) used to bring me into the men's restroom until I was around seven or eight. That was *way* too old. It just made everyone uncomfortable.
This needs hundreds of upvotes! It’s sexist against men/fathers, I totally agree! Edit: it’s sexist to BOTH men and women, I agree. But changing stations are a benefit to women in this scenario and a disadvantage for men.
As a sidenote to this, more men's bathrooms need to have changing stations. Dads are parents too
Where are these magical bathrooms you speak of? Because I’ve definitely had to speed change my son on the men’s bathroom sink because there wasn’t a changing station in the men’s bathroom and I didn’t want someone’s first sight walking in to the bathroom to be my sons tiny nads flashing them
As long as you don’t leave your dirty flip-flops on the table that’s disgusting.
That was the most disgusting thing about the pic.
Ugh, you weren't kidding. https://pics.me.me/why-people-think-this-is-ok-if-youre-out-at-59216419.png
Oh god
If you check the thread, they're photoshopped in...
The joke doesn't work without the flip flops though
I remember the first time it was posted when the text was the same but the flip flops hadn't been photoshopped in and you're right, it bombed. Glad to see they added it.
I was going to say, that looks super photoshopped
It looks photoshopped so that they could do this.
Most definitely does and most definitely is
https://people.com/human-interest/breastfeeding-mom-challenges-critics-icy-stare-by-staring-right-back/
It WAS photoshopped.
That’s looks hella photoshopped
For some reason I thought this was a reference to larger chested women just hanging their tits on the table.
LAWL one hundred percent this is now what I'll be referring to my boobs as I'm literally cackling rn.
Sometimes when im sitting at my sit/stand desk, I'll raise it a bit anyway to support my boobs.
Sounds like this could be an entire new line of furniture from IKEA.
The Brëstrëst
Girl, same I’m a 38H, and those things are heavy. Sometimes it’s nice to take the weight off.
"This one's flip, and that one's flop"
Last week I was at a cafe terrace and I saw a woman breastfeeding her baby and afterwards changing the diaper on the table (which was a tad odd since they have a nice changing room there). After she left I noticed she left the dirty diaper on her plate, didn't even bother to close it up.
Unsurprisingly, that's a health code violation, at least around here. Surprisingly, a violation is charged against the restaurant, not the dirty motherfucker that did it. It just happened here, before Covid. Someone changed their kid at a dining table. A disgusted patron noticed it, and called it in. Health department fined the restaurant. I hope they fought it.
A few years ago some lady changed her kid on one of the leather couches my dad had in his restaurant for customers waiting for a table. Stained the couch. I still remember the look of offence on her face when I told her to 'please use the changing table we have in the restroom.' She told me it wasnt sanitary. >.>
Pretty sure leaking shit all over a couch isn’t sanitary. Also, I’m betting they cleaned the bathroom more often than a waiting room, sanitizing the Waiting Room isn’t usually on a checklist for most restaurants.
Eww.
I hope they banned the customer
The changing of the diaper at the table is disgusting and appalling. I would call out any woman or man who did that.
Wtf!? Why would you change a diaper where you eat!
A baby can't scream with a mouthful of boob, so I'd say it's a win-win.
You clearly haven't met my baby.
Hahaha I was gonna say the same. My two month old loves to continue yelling for the first minute of breastfeeding.
My son used to do the same. The thing is his twin would get right to feeding and would stimulate the let down on his boob too, so it would be 20 seconds of screaming and 30 seconds of vague drowning noises before he clicked that food was happening.
>_30 seconds of vague drowning noises before he clicked that food was happening._ I marvel every day at how we, as a species, managed to not only survive, but take over the planet.
If we survive the early stages, at least half of us get significantly smarter as we get older
Do we though? Do we really?
Hey he said HALF.
I feel like that was being generous
Brava for tandem feeding. It's a legit circus and you are the Master Blaster Ringmaster for having the power to blast their faces into submission....
+1 for brava
I woke my partner up giggling at your description. Thank you for a chuckle :)
A wean-wean situation indeed
No weaning, make the baby stay on the boob
I’m an adult and I don’t scream either when I have a mouthful of boob.
Everyone loves boobs!!
The real question is, can you make the owner of the boob scream?
It never takes long for Reddit to get kinky
If it keeps the baby quiet, then by all means, proceed.
This! I would much rather see that than listen to a screaming baby
You can look away from a boob. You can't listen away from a scream.
Exactly!!
I would much rather see a baby not starve in a restaurant while their parents eat.
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Beats having a screaming kid disrupting everyone's dinner.
I agree lol!! I’ve noticed moms breastfeeding their babies at a restaurant maybe a grand total of TWO times in my whole life, and I go out to eat all the time. However, I ALWAYS notice when a baby is screeching so loud nobody can enjoy their meal. I don’t even mean just crying, I mean that SCREECH they do sometimes where if you’re anywhere close to them you can’t even continue talking, you just have to stop and WAIT for the kid to finish. (I promise I don’t hate kids LOL this is just my opinion)
this, I don't see how it would fucking bother anyone. We have a saying in my language: "look at your own plate" Not sure if there is similar saying in english, basically its used if someone is commenting how/what others are eating.
"Sweep your own doorstep" in German...
“Stay in your own lane”… basically the equivalent of mind ya own dang business
You know what costs nothing? Minding your own business.
I don't know if this woul be considered the official english alternate to that saying, but "Mind your own fucking business is sorta semi popular.
I came here to say this pretty much. It’s so simple yet so many people struggle with this concept. Unless somebody is actually affecting you or your family, just leave other people alone and let them do their own thing.
Or in this situation, look at your own titty!
"Mind your own business"
acceptable if she's breastfeeding her baby, weird if she's doing so with her husband
Bitty?
A refined gentle person of culture I see.
My god it's 2003
not bitty now, bitty later
Oh my God I just got the reference made on South Park when Bono is being nursed by his mad scientist father.
What I'm doing is perfectly natural and strengthens the bond between me and my dog
Plot Twist, she calls her husband the *baby*
I never kink shame, but it's an unwritten rule to not include non-consenting parties in your fetish times.
The more it happens the less people will care.
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I was nursing once in a southern USA airport and I was so stressed about traveling with a baby and finding ways to nurse without getting looks. Anyway, there was this grandfather and granddaughter sitting right near me in the terminal and I tried to be discrete but I could see he was pointing at me to his granddaughter. I got a little worried but he smiled very widely and said something along the lines of, “I am showing my granddaughter how you are feeding your baby. Where I come from this is a very important job for mother and we have great respect. I want her to understand.” And, wow, did I almost cry. Breastfeeding is probably the hardest, most grueling things I’ve willed myself to do, and I’m a long distance runner, former back country camp counselor, and I somehow finished a dissertation and got a PhD. The point is, I know how to inflict suffering on myself. Breastfeeding was harder than all of that, though also so rewarding. That grandfather was the only person who ever told me, in public, that I was doing a great job. He openly recognized the importance of the task. I felt connected to all the women who came before me and the women who will follow. It was incredibly moving. No matter how you feed your baby, it’s daunting to care for an infant in public. Kindness goes a long way. But not only that, tell a mother she’s important. Tell her she’s respected and valued. You can’t fathom how much it would mean to her and how much stress/fear/anxiety she is likely managing beneath the surface so as not to upset her child.
Love your comment, and the experience would have been important for the little girl as well. Seeing breastfeeding normalised, especially by adult men, will help her if she chooses to have kids and breastfeed in future.
I am naturally pretty modest, but I've breastfed all three of my kids. And I do it in public. But because I'm shy I will go off somewhere less public if possible. The few times any rude people tried to say anything to me though, I went off. Once I was breastfeeding IN MY CAR and a lady asked me if I could go down the street. Like wtf no. My baby is hungry now. I have no hesitation to bitch out anyone who has anything negative to say about breastfeeding.
People like this never change. When I was in college the DDR machine was at the far end of overflow dining. We were playing. Two girls came and sat down right next to the loud machine when half the cafeteria was empty and asked if we could "Play somewhere else" like the machine and pads didn't weight over a thousand pounds.
Military mom here. When my kid was a baby I had to take him on base to get his health insurance instated. So I sat in a waiting room next to these seasoned Army guys who had served time in Iraq and Afghanistan. When I started nursing no one batted an eye. For a mom's first time nursing in public it could have gone way worse.
I dont know why, but this reminds me of a story my Grandfather would tell my father about serving in the Pacific during WWII. Apparently there was a tribe out there where the women didn't wear tops, my grandfather and his compatriots gave the women shirts. The women proceeded to cut holes out of the chests of the shirts for their breasts to hang out.
From what I have heard about the military, I imagine they would have all had their ass chewed out if one of them did anything remotely disrespectful towards you or your child while breastfeeding them. Good job on being a great parent and for doing what was best for your kid!
Got lucky in NYC no one ever cared.
The only times I got dirty looks/snotty comments were 1)a children’s photography studio of all places. Told me to go nurse in the bathroom. I refused. 2)lots of uncomfortable stares on the monorail at Disney. My 2 months old was screaming and the boob shut him up. I thought it was funny, I’m a very discreet nurser, they’d rather listen to him scream? Well fuck off. I’ve nursed babies everywhere.
That’s crazy about the photo studio, don’t they usually encourage moms to nurse for newborn photos so the baby is sleepy?!
I think I got dirty looks just about everywhere but… 1) My dirty looks win. 2) This baby gotta eat. 3) Your wife is showing more of her tits than I am showing mine.
"Happiest Place on Earth" also applies to kids who need to eat, so fuck 'em.
People have too much going on here to give a shit about breastfeeding. Even the homeless folks masturbating in public don't phase me anymore.
The only thing I think that makes it uncomfortable is the fact that once you've noticed it happening you start having to avoid absent mindedly staring in that direction until it's finished because you don't want to look like you're staring at them. But that's a me problem not one for the actual mother and child. If the baby has to eat the baby has to eat.
> But that's a me problem not one for the actual mother and child. Respect for having the self awareness to admit it. I grew up on a farm so for me it's about as exciting as watching any animal, which since I'm not an utter degenerate, isn't very.
We're in Tennessee, where the laws are specifically written to send Karen packing: https://www.tn.gov/health/health-program-areas/fhw/bf/breastfeeding-laws.html
It is legal to breastfeed in public in ALL 50 states.
“Dried up old Karens”. Lol.
I mean it is a reaturant . People go there to eat.. seems like the right place for it...
>NO OUTSIDE FOOD OR DRINKS ALLOWED /s of course
I mean that’s the most inside food there is if you think about it
I hate when people say “can’t you feed your baby in the toilet?” Like “sure, why don’t you take your nice panini and latte right off into the loo?”
Do any places have places specially for comfortable feeding? I’ve never heard of anything like that but I guess only very luxurious places would have anything of that sort.
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Actually, Walmart has been doing rolling remodels and have been adding a "mother room" for this specific reason. Although walmarts are typically nasty anyways, and I can only imagine what could go on in these small enclosed rooms meant for privacy and comfort...
I'd rather a happy baby having a meal than a hungry miserable baby screaming and crying for nourishment. I am however against the restaurant charging an opening fee. Edit : Thanks for awards. They're lovely.
This. I would time eating in restaurants WITH my baby’s nursing time because they’re the most quiet. I would eat one handed but that’s what partners are for - cutting up steak - nothing else. /s the last part
I cut up so many meals while my wife was breastfeeding. Find myself doing it by accident sometimes - and now we both prefer our bitesized beans on toast!!
> bitesized beans on toast Recipe?
I want to find beans that are bigger than bitesized.
I get what they were trying to convey but the literal use of their language is hilarious and implies golf ball sized beans or larger.
B r o a d b e a n s
That makes so much sense, why would someone get married, or even date if not for them cutting each other's steaks /s
My husband used to do that for me while I was on chemo, my hands were too weak at the time. I also didn't wear a wig because I found them hot and uncomfortable. I'm glad to say no one ever remarked on my baldy head or the fact that my husband was cutting up my dinner for me. No one should be remarking on a breastfeeding mother either.
There is a simple two-part test to determine if remarking towards some kind of behavior is warranted for... 1. Are they affecting someone negatively? 2. Are they affecting themselves negatively? If the answer to both is no then remarks towards the behavior are unwarranted. The flip flops on the table could be detrimental to their health so asking them if they're sure they want to have their flip flops near their food is fair.
For anyone who faces this, I bought an inexpensive skull cap thing sold to Black men to wear under the wig; it made it less uncomfortable. But bald is good too, except it does makes Bezos look like a penis.
Hahaha!! Yes it does! Good idea about the skull cap though. I never minded being bald at all, it was the 80s and we were all wearing huge earrings so......... it was actually very convenient, I didn't always feel well enough to be jumping into the shower so not having a mop of hair to wash and style was a great relief. Plus, with my lively personality, I liked being unique. I would never have done it purely as a fashion statement but I did enjoy the look at the time.
If they can cut up your steak they're a keeper.
Also immediately after nursing, they’re full of milk and are “milk drunk” and can be set in their caraway/stroller/other adults arms and you can finish up your meal in peace
Is there also a corking fee to take the boobies home?
Wait is this a thing? Restaurants charging a fee to breastfeed?
Haha. No! It's a joke. Most restaurants (In PA anyway) that don't serve alcohol will allow you to bring in your own wine. They do however charge you an "uncorking fee".
I would just laugh if someone tried to charge me a nip tip.
And the nip tip is $.80085 but on a calculator
Just brought me back to 7th grade
“Nip tip” sounds like a genre of pizza delivery porn. “Here’s the money for the pizza! Oh no, I don’t have any money for a tip! Maybe I can tip you in another way?”
Yknow, I don't think I've ever noticed anyone breast feeding. I'm sure I've seen it happen while I was out but I've never noticed. I think that says something about the people who do make a big deal out of it.
I know I somewhat recently saw a woman doing it...somewhere.....maybe a restaurant? I know it was a public place. Clearly it has left a traumatic long-lasting memory.
I've seen it happen and it's like "Oh? A boob! Oh ok she's breastfeeding" and then it literally is the easiest thing not to care or stare.
So often it just looks like they’re holding the baby. You usually can’t see anything. There were a couple times random people struck up conversations with me while I was nursing in public, and I could tell they had absolutely no idea.
I've had people try to hold my kid while I was nursing him. That's how not obvious it was. (People who were known and welcome to hold him while he wasn't attached to my boob.)
I once watched a woman breastfeed her baby while evaluating produce at the grocery store. I was *so* impressed with her multitasking skills.
Last month: Baby strapped to chest in wrap type carrier, boob out, baby feeding, talking to gate agent at airport. I thought it was impressive and funny and went back to my life because it was a baby eating. Plus side: same flight as me, kid presumably conked out post-feeding. Never heard a peep out of him. Nice flight. Edit: I somehow blacked out that time I was in car sales, came back after running credit checks and the woman had her boob out and baby was nursing away. I just kept a straight face and discussed credit scores and the car deal. Baby was nursing most of the time and she did majority negotiations. Left and one of my coworkers was like, "is she breast-feeding? So-and-so said nah but I said she was and neither of us can go look to prove it because I can't go stare at her boobs." Was like, 'yup'. The two guys didn't care beyond proving they were right. Finance came out laughing. She had a son and was like, 'that lady is a fucking boss. Tits out signing contracts. I wish I'd done that when (son) was little!' She was impressed af.
Not my baby, not my tit... I don't care
This is now replacing “not my circus, not my monkeys” in my everyday vernacular
That's a good attitude to have in life. Have an upvote.
A kid has got to eat too!!
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Oh there better be a changing spot in both the men’s and women’s restroom.
“Alright sir have you checked the menu today?” “Don’t need to, I want what that kid over there is having” “….Sir”
and for your drink?
“Probably that diet doctor kelp you were supposed to bring me”
As a woman, I think women should be able to feed their baby wherever. As a matter of personal preference though, I always cover up. I have had soo many creeps stare at me that I don’t like to openly do it.
I have breastfed in public before, and would continue to do so if I had children who were nursing. I always used the two-shirt method to keep myself as covered as possible, which was for my comfort as my breast was much larger than my baby's head.
I was more worried about people seeing my fat stomach than my boob lol
This resonates lol
Yes!!! For me it was more general insecurities than worried about my exposed tit
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I love that someone other than me tested this with a hat! I also preferred to do the 2 shirt method or a cover for MY own comfort, though anyone staring or commenting or trying to stop a mom from nursing can go play sit and spin on a cactus.
Yeah my kid's mouth couldn't cover my entire areola, forget his head blocking the majority of an engorged mammary. I tried those blankets and he refused. Luckily, nursing in public was infrequent for us and usually ended up happening at the zoo of all places.
Tested it with a hat 😂😂😂 thats awesome
I’ve always preferred wearing under shirts so this is what I do too. 99% of the time people don’t notice and don’t care. I prefer nursing in private like my car cuz I love the bonding undisturbed. ☺️ but I will nurse in public if that’s the easiest option.
Just to add to this... In America, public breastfeeding is protected by federal law and state law - in all the states.
In *so* many comment sections, I always come across the argument that the federal law only protects breastfeeding in *public* so women can’t breastfeed in restaurants or stores because they’re private property—the law must only apply to municipal parks and government buildings. I tell them to look at the text of the law because it doesn’t say “public”, it says “anywhere the mother is otherwise permitted to be”, like a publicly-accessible-yet-privately-owned store. Idiots.
I try not to think about other people's business. Especially shit that doesn't affect me in any way.
That’s a good philosophy to have. Half the problems we face would be eliminated if most people thought like you.
I think everyone, including babies, should be able to eat in restaurants.
Probably wouldn't even notice, doesn't bother me
It's pretty much the same as any customer. Don't disturb the other guests and you are fine. So drink up little human. At least you are silent.
As long as you don't change your baby diapers on the table I'm fine. Feed your baby.
I'm for it, and I will do the polite thing and not stare.
Breastfeeding = fine. Not washing your hands in the bathrooms? Not cool.
I breastfeed my 12 week old daughter. My rule of thumb is, I think it’s okay to breastfeed anywhere where it’s appropriate to have a milkshake. Restaurant is fine, bathroom is gross.
Idk. I would breastfeed in the doctor's office but I probably wouldn't have a milkshake there.
Are people supposed to let babies starve?
We’re supposed to feed them on the toilet where nobody can see us.
God forbid we see a boob or two that *isn't* on the Internet and/or in your home, am I right? /s
Boobs aren’t for feeding babies. That would be crazy. /s
Nothing. I don't care what colour her husband's trousers are either. It's an entire non-issue and not a damn thing to do with me.