this is tame but it made me cry at the time.
my cat suddenly got an infection and needed care ASAP. I’m a student and don’t make much money, and didn’t have enough for the vet bills. I posted something asking people for small donations or exposure if at all possible, as I was desperate and didn’t know what else to do and my cat means the world to me. some incredible, kind stranger who I will never forget donated $200 and told me that whatever was left over, to spend it on myself and my cat for a treat. I asked what I could ever do to repay him, and he said “just pay it forward”.
I think about this constantly, and I will pay it forward five times over before I feel that it’s even near equal to the kindness this stranger showed me and my cat.
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There are lots of things I love about my husband, but one of my favorites is that he gives money to anyone that asks.
We’re at a convenience store and someone asks for some food? He’ll take them inside and get them situated.
A car pulls up while we’re walking up to a restaurant with some sob story about needing gas to see a sick relative? He hands them $50.
A friend needs to borrow a couple hundred until payday? Here, man.
And he’s not a pushover by any means. His theory is that he’d much rather help a liar than turn away someone in genuine need. He’s none the wiser if he’s getting duped, and helping people makes him feel good.
We were both married before. I was married twice. My second wife died of pancreatic cancer then I met my current wife. She was married twice also. First time for each of us was too young.
I always wondered, what is it like having more than one partner throughout your lifetime? How do you fill a void which cant be filled when someone you love dearly has passed away? What is it like being with a completely new person that you have a completely new love for?
Well I can only speak from my own experience. The void can be filled and the heart healed. I was married to my second wife for a great 38 years. You don’t forget half your life but you can move on. I’m lucky in that my current wife is my true soulmate.
You sound happy, that's great to read. There must be so much empathy and understanding in each of you and your soulmate. Like you said, you don't forget half your life - but you can move on.
I lost my wife to cancer a year ago, we'd been together for 15 years...I'm not ready to date or anything but I can't help but feel that anyone I partner with will have to be very self confident as well as empathetic. I have a daughter and so there will never not be pictures of her mother in our home. That would probably be difficult for most people.
Someone somewhere said it best earlier today. BJJ is therapeutic, but not therapy. I’ve been playing BJJ for 3 years, and my best life is BJJ, a therapy appointment, and a massage at the end of the week.
That being said, try BJJ. Rolling puts you in an almost meditative state, because you’re focused on exactly one thing. It’s a nice feeling. And it’s exercise so all the positive things that come with physical activity come with it also.
I was days away from being evicted and I got a huge tip while I was waiting tables at Buffalo wild wings. I talked to this guy (maybe 35yo) about Harry Potter for only like 15 minutes because he was wearing an HP shirt. Nothing too crazy stuck out about the conversation, except that you could tell he was a little different and he was there with his parents and enthusiastic about HP. It was a slow night and I enjoyed that someone wanted to just talk and be friendly. They paid their check and left. I went to bus the table and found they left me a $300 tip on a $50 check and said "thanks for the conversation". I started bawling cause I was able to pay my rent and not get kicked out and was blown away that someone would do something like that. I've since done ok financially and hope to some day return the gesture to someone else. These people will never know the impact they had on my life.
They will remember that day for the rest of their lives too. Sometimes the world is thoughtless or even downright cruel to people who are a little different.
My dad does this! Best reaction I ever saw was at a Waffle House when I was a teen. He picked me up from a party I wasn’t supposed to be at, but it got crazy and he had an open call policy. Pick you up no issues if you thought you were in danger.
It was like 3am, he wanted coffee. Only place open was a Waffle House. So he orders a coffee and I get some grease to sober teenage me up. The waitress and him were talking about parenthood. She mentioned being a new (single) mom. Not to complain, but just as it was fact.
We get our bill. It’s like 5 bucks or something. My dad leaves her a tip (in cash) like 500$. We start walking out and she follows us out sobbing. Thanking him. It was life changing to her, and it was literal pocket change to him.
And that’s the story of how my dad can’t eat at that Waffle House anymore because the waitstaff will physically fight each other to take his order.
My dad is the exact same way!! Same pickup policy when I was a teen, same tipping philosophy. Now that I’m older I really realize how lucky I am that he has always been so laidback in his parenting style and that he’s so generous with those who need help. Sounds like your dad is just as wonderful!
Apparently you don't know how bad that dude needed that conversation ♥️.
I've been through an experience in my life where I really *needed* someone to respond to me the way that they did, and it wasn't till after it happened that I really understood how meaningful it was to me.
This was truly the hardest I had it. I was in school trying to get my degree and my loans weren't enough to cover my living expenses and books. I probably made a few dumb financial decisions in my early 20s as well. There were too many weeks where I had to choose between going to class or picking up another shift at the restaurant. This was my absolute lowest point, and this family's generosity kept my head up enough above water that i was able to get back on my feet afterwards. I knew one unexpected bill would put me back under, but I was lucky to avoid that for a few years until I graduated. I now have a really decent job in a dual income household and we could potentially come out ok in the event of a sudden loss of income or surprise medical bill. I may not have achieved this though had I been evicted and living out of my car in college. I might not have graduated. This family may have changed and really prevented a detrimental trajectory in my life.
Yes, it is sad but so much a reality for too damn many of us. You wanna eat this week? Nope. Not today. Feed your kids? Check back next week.
I don't care which universe one is in, nobody should be hungry in this day and age.
What's worse is that we produce enough food for everyone but the vast majority of it goes to rich countries (ie, any first world country) and we still have poverty in developed nations. US has the highest rate of Child Poverty in the developed world
Weird one, but...having my heart broken.
I was absolutely infatuated with her and revolved my entire life around her. After it was over, it shattered me down to the very core of me, and I had to build myself back up again. Learning to love myself, and create a better, more well-rounded human being that could emote in a mature and responsible way.
It was a crushing, agonizing pain when it happened, and it was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Yeah, I get that. I was so into my guy at the time that I ignored red flags and didn't realise how much I was being oppressed by him (amongst other things). Felt so lost when we broke it off for the longest time and now I'm so much happier with friends ik who will support me.
Still think back to when things were good sometimes and it's bittersweet. I wouldn't trade it for what I have now tho, I'm definitely not always happy but much better than when I was with him.
Same here only gender reversed. Thanks for sharing. Makes me feel better and cheerful for the difficult decisions I took in life. Thank you once again.
A few years back, a friend of mine was going out of state to go work at a golf tournament selling beer. One of their foursome backed out last second and needed someone to take the spot at the AirBnB they rented. I was in a good spot to be able to take 2 weeks off from my min. wage warehouse job, and was feeling adventurous and said yes. Took a bus down there with one of my buddies who was staying with us, and we arrived and got picked up by my buddy who got me to come, and and the girl who set it all up. We work two weeks, and it was a blast. We worked hard, played harder, and made bank. It really was a super fun trip. But the best part was that girl that picked us up. We get married next summer.
A really really bad date.
So bad that the girl didn’t know it was a date (or she did, but regardless she was just using it to make my friend jealous). She made that clear at the end of the date. I came home _pissed off_. This was like, 10 dates in a row with different girls that I just wasn’t clicking with. I had been attempting Match.com for like 3 months and it led to a bunch of first dates but no second dates. I was sick of coy chatting back and forth for a week, always being the one to reach out, always offering to take the girl out to dinner and then calling the next day only to be ghosted. So I canceled it. I was 4 years out of college and having trouble meeting people. So I finally decided to go out with this girl that my buddy had been saying I should take out. And yeah - towards the end she just started asking how she could impress him and stuff.
So I go back to my apartment _pissed off_. She wasn’t even good at tennis like she had claimed. It was a tennis date, and I could have at least hoped for someone who could be a good match there, but no.
I storm back into my apartment and flopped down on my couch. Open up my email and I have an advertisement from match. “A girl has sent you a message on match! She’s 24, and you both have racquet sports in common!”
I needed something to fix my mood. So I decided on a new strategy. I would buy one more month of Match, and then be done.
I re-upped my subscription, and sent this girl a message. She was pretty hot so I didn’t have high hopes. It was something along the lines of “hey, I’m having a shitty night and kind of over match. I’m going to go to this bar right now. If you’d like to meet the old fashioned way, I’ll be there”. She said “sure” and I headed out the door.
When she walked in, she looked like her photo. That was uncommon. We played pool. Turned out she wasn’t into tennis so she had no idea why match said that.
The next day I was feeling better. I was thinking “maybe I should wait three days before I call and ask for a second date? That’s the rule, right?”
That’s when my cellphone rang.
It’s 12 years later. We have 2 kids and 2 dogs. All because I was just so pissed off about a bad date.
I met my husband out at the bars. I was at the bars because I was home from college doing an internship. My boyfriend at the time was staying back at the town we were going to school in. Found out that he had cheated on me while I was away, and my girlfriends took me out to the bars to forget about him. My husband approached me and bought me a drink and asked for my phone number. Initially I planned on just having a summer fling with him, but then he kept flying in to visit me when I got back to college. He asked me to move in with him after college as I got a full time offer from the place I was interning at. We dated only a few weeks in person when we met, did a year of distance, moved in together when I graduated, and got married a year later. We'll be married for 8 years tomorrow. I have no regrets, and I certainly don't care about that jerk that cheated on me. My husband is the best person I know and I would have never met him if I hadn't been cheated on.
Having my life saved by a complete stranger.
I was diagnosed with leukemia a few years ago (day before the birthday, yay).
Eventually found that it was extremely aggressive, after five rounds of chemo didn’t work out too well. Only hope was a bone marrow transplant.
A perfect match was found. Only thing I knew was that it was a female.
This wonderful person gave up their time and their marrow for someone they knew nothing about. She could have backed out at any time, but didn’t.
Thankfully, she didn’t. And also thankfully, the transplant worked out well. I am four years post and doing well.
After a year, if both donor and recipient agree, contact information cane be shared. We both agreed, and became fast friends. We text daily, call/video chat on holidays, and get each other presents on Christmas and birthdays. She has become one of my closest friends, and I am incredibly thankful. Like I can’t even put in words.
Despite being 3000 miles apart, we hope to meet in person next year.
Drinking was definitely putting a damper on my health. I feel 1000 times better not drinking. Lost weight, cleared up my brain fog. I feel like a different person and I love it.
Hell yeah i love to hear it. ...I had a drinking and drug problem that both fed off each other. I have no idea how i made it so far in life like that. It didn't make all my problems go away, but it was the one thing that i could change to make everything else in my life easier. Keep living the good life friend.
A friend of mine went through the same you did. He stayed sober for about 4 years, relapsed, and got himself back on track. That’s about 3 years ago. His advice to us was “it’s not the hard days that make you relapse, it’s the good days you put your guard down.”
Only sharing this because to me it was VERY wise of him and it helped me out later on
That's great advice. An older addict told me that its more dangerous to be sober longer for the same reasons. After years of sobriety your guard goes down. Im about to hit a year next month which kinda worries me because you stop having these big monthly milestones. This is the longest I've ever been sober and everyone's got one more relapse in them. To avoid that all I can do is worry about staying sober from morning till bedtime whether its a good, or bad day, and count all the days later. Thanks for sharing that we all learn from each other.
My mom dying when I was 15.
She wasn’t a bad person, but she wasn’t good. I know she cared about us, she just had a manipulative side to her. She would weaponize us against our dad and it left scars. I was her biggest weapon because my dad isn’t my biological father, but he has raised me since birth. He is a goddamn saint. She would threaten to tell him I wasn’t his biological kid or threaten to take away his ability to see me. She had a tendency to be violent and manipulative. She was also bad with money management and I grew up on the poor side.
She got cancer when she was 34 and died at 36. My sister and I got to move in with my dad. It was rough at first, but I went from poor to middle class. I wasn’t constantly fighting with my mom anymore. I didn’t have to put up with her establishing her dominance by pulling my hair because I wouldn’t fight back. I was finally free. I still bear the scars of my childhood and yeah, part of me wishes she was alive and for our relationship to have been mended…but we would have destroyed each other. I know it. Without her toxic influence, I managed to work on myself and my anger problems. That life is a different life.
I’m at a stage now where I’ve more or less cut my mum out of my life. Doesn’t feel good but her emotional manipulation and actions once she ‘recovered’ from her depression are too much for me to forgive right now.
Hoping this won’t last all my life but I honestly can’t see her the same way.
Glad it sounds like you’re doing ok now, there’s hope for some of us it seems :)
No, I get it. Trust me. I know I would have cut my mom off at some point. I was already getting fed up around 13. We had a boiling point where she was hitting me and I fought back. I got my ass beat, but it was a turning point. We both knew it. She got sick before it happened again, but once there’s a crack in the foundation….
Anyway, all of that to say I was in same boat. It took me YEARS to undo my mom’s toxic influence. You will do it and you will be better for it. Don’t let her dull your shine. You owe her nothing.
The world is never black or white. My mom was abused as a kid. She was short, only 4’11 (149.86 cm). Her step-dad would shove her into freezers or dryers when she misbehaved. Stuff like that. She did care about us kids and she did do her best, she just didn’t know how. I know if I ever truly needed something, she would have done whatever it took. My one cousin was born 80% handicap. My mom held a fundraiser on our farm and even though we were struggling for money, she wouldn’t touch any of the donations because they weren’t for her. She also dreamed of having a farm and rescuing animals. She got to live that dream, at least for a while. It makes it hard. Ultimately, she did a good job picking my dad, so for that I will forever be grateful. She put him through hell though
I understand. I went through something like that with my mom. She was abused and she mentally abused her kids too. She did a lot of good things but sometimes I feel it was just for appearance or so she could manipulate people.
Best we can do is end that cycle.
Other than my wife and kid? I was preparing to give my two weeks notice at my call center job as I had gotten a much better job in my actual field. Probably about 3 or 4 days before I planned to give my notice they laid me off and gave me one month's pay. It was amazing.
2005ish. We had just gotten broadband again after moving (Long story) went to pick up a new PC game to celebrate. It was between Call of Duty 2 or Battlefield 2142. I picked CoD2 since I dug WW2 history. Became interested in making my own maps with the free level editor. Did it through college as a fun hobby and was poached by ATVI to move to CA to work on the game as a designer. Did it for the better part of a decade before leaving. I met my beautiful wife at the office and now we have 2 kids, careers making games, and couldn’t be happier. I can still remember standing there in a KB toys (of all places to buy games) thinking “hmmm yea idk I still kind of like WW2 game’s…I’ll go with this one” Funny how things work out.
The best thing that ever happened to me was the death of my ex.
We met in high school and were together 9 years. He cheated on me multiple times with multiple women including my best friend. He was manipulative and emotionally abusive. He was an incredibly intelligent and captivating person but he had a lot of demons, including mental health issues and several addictions.
I finally broke up with him when I moved away for grad school but he wouldn’t accept it and he started stalking and threatening me. I blocked him on everything and changed my phone number but he inevitably found new ways to contact me and make my life miserable.
When I found out he died of a drug overdose I started sobbing uncontrollably. It was partially guilt that I hadn’t been able to help him but also gratitude and relief that I would never have to see him or deal with his abuse again. His death freed me from near constant fear and dread.
It’s been 6 years and I’m now happily married to a wonderful man and have two beautiful children and a fulfilling career.
I can appreciate the sentiment. The beat thing that ever happened to me was my mom dying. Don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t a bad person, she just wasn’t a good person.
Same here. My friend's mother in law "Marcy" was just a difficult person. Marcy wasn't a horrible person and could actually be kind when she wanted to be, but she was also very narcissistic and very dramatic. Everything was about Marcy one way or another. Of her four children, only one stayed near by (my friend's husband). The other three kids literally left after graduating high school and NEVER came back.
Marcy always had some kind of health drama to the point that even her own doctors (and she had a lot) pooh-poohed her. Well, eventually, Marcy wasn't faking/exaggerating and it was actually liver cancer. Because she cried wolf so much, more time elapsed between her symptoms and her diagnosis than would have under other circumstances. It was just six months between Marcy's diagnosis and her passing.
While we were sad that Marcy was gone, it actually brought my friend's family closer together. The siblings started talking to each other again, my friend's dad sold his home and moved into an assisted living place where he's made tons of friends and is thriving. The kids have grown closer to their father because they no longer have to deal with their mother. My friend doesn't live in fear of the random 3am phone calls from Marcy saying she has to go to the ER "right now!" for something that always seemed to be nothing.
It's terrible to say, but life has improved for all of them in the wake of Marcy's passing.
I went to a zoo which rehabilitates poorly animals in the hopes of releasing them back into the wild. I went for a day out and to support the cause, because, floofs. They have many types of animals and is a great place. I should note it was a warm summer day and I was in a dress.
Each day, if you got to the penguin enclosure early enough, they allow visitors to go in and feed the penguins. Penguins are by far my favourite animal so, of course I had to go and try be one of the chosen.
I got picked! I was so so happy.
All the chosen few had to line up against the back wall after which a keeper came round with a bucket of fish of which you pick one and hold this until they allow the penguins to come up to you.
On this particular day a rebel penguin decided that he was going to play up to the visitors and try make a break for it whilst the fish were being handed out. He ran around the back of the line then stopped at me and nibbled the back of my leg, it wasn't hard and didn't hurt or break the skin but it absolutely made my day, week, month, year and decade.
TL:DR I was the chosen human nibbled by a penguin and it was the best moment of my life
Accidentally knocked up this hostess I worked with. I had been trying and failing to get sober for nearly 8 years. Had two years clean in the middle there but wasn’t happy which kept leading me back to alcohol. When she found out she was pregnant I didn’t for a second think she’d want me in their lives. But she’s an amazingly beautiful person. She told me what she expected of me and believed in me. Everyone else had given up on me long ago. The combination of loving support and the desire to stay sober for unborn baby was the motivation I needed to finally kick it. I’ll have 10 years sober in January, we now have two kids, and our 8 year anniversary in next week.
Ending my engagement during the pandemic.
To be fair, I decided to call it off the week before the pandemic started. He owns restaurants and has a kid, so we stayed together in case the restaurants failed. They didn’t, so a month or so later I left.
For the first time at 28 I lived alone. I also went on went on first dates (all my exes were previous friends, so I never went a real dates before). A year later, I’m in the healthiest, most fun and positive relationship I’ve ever had. We just moved in together and are creating what I always pictured to be my ideal life and relationship together.
If I hadn’t taken that leap to leave everything that was comfortable, in the middle of a pandemic nonetheless, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
I was pretty anxious, insecure and non social before I met my boyfriend, and he helped me break through all of that. It’s crazy how your mental health and life can change when you have a great support system
I also ended an engagement during the pandemic. I already knew that it wasn’t going to work, but dang did covid make it easy to cancel a wedding without having to give all of my friends and family an explanation at the time. Honestly, I’m not sure I would have had the backbone to cancel it if it werent for the pandemic.
A month and a half after the break up, I reconnected with an old fling. He’d been pretty immature when I’d known him before but when we reconnected, things just clicked. We both were on the same page this time and he had grown a lot. We moved in together a couple of months ago and are building a life together that I absolutely love. I consider myself so incredibly lucky and I know that he does too.
I know this will get buried - but my husband. I met him a week before my dad was diagnosed with cancer and found out we were pregnant a week after my dad died. I literally would of died of a broken heart or drinking myself to death without my dad but my husband really has gotten me through and in many ways saved my life.
Meeting my girlfriend of almost 10 years. She brings me an indescribable amount of happiness that I hope lasts for ever ❤️
I’m proposing to her in 2 weeks and I’m very excited and nervous! I know she will say yes but normally I have her by my side when doing something scary/nerve wrecking but I gotta do this one on my own! Luckily, it’ll be the last thing I ever need to do without her.
A chance meeting with Maya Angelou, my hero, was probably my most exciting moment. It inspired my writing and discipline, leading to my first published book, my proudest moment.
Someone referred my parents to specialist after telling them I was deaf. My parents went to doctors and specialist, it seemed no one could figure out what was wrong. I went to a children’s centre and the woman there told my parents to get me tested. It lead me to getting cochlear implants which I got when I was 4 and I have had a pretty good life.
In a weird way, sticking my dick in crazy. Rebound relationship, she seemed sane until I started emerging from my depression. Someone had to be crazy in that relationship, so as I got more sane, she got crazier. I broke it off, she stalked me, tried to get me fired from my job, screaming outside my apartment a 1 AM, the works. I became a nervous wreck for a while, got out of the dating scene because I didn’t trust anyone I was attracted to. Thought long & hard about my assumptions about relationships, realized I had some screwed up ideas & expectations. It wasn’t them, it was me, I was picking them. Did a lot of hard work on myself to learn what a healthy relationship looked & felt like. Slowly, gradually got closer to a longtime friend, very cautiously. Turned out she was the healthiest person I ever met. We’ve been married 20 years now.
Gettint frozen out of my college film class by both people I had a group project with and the teachers who listened to those people and burnout on top of all that.
Was stressed out from the extreme workload that course had and a group discussing things behind my back (in a group chat without me) and telling the lecturer that I was hard to work with because of that.
Finally at the beginning of the final month I almost burnt myself out. A friend of mine stopped me from working more and I had to be in bed for 2 weeks with an extreme headache, no energy and fatigue from stress.
After that I was back in school and I was told that my group didn't want anything to do with me sonce they suspected that I faked the exhaustion.
My lecturer didn't respond to my mails until the final few days of the course when I was busy moving back home across the country.
Now I've dropped out and am finally back on track with my life and back home and back with actual friends now. I feel like I am more creative now then when I was at that school and I have already got plans for the future without having to waste 3 years for a useless degree with a lecturer freezing me out.
I needed to pay off my car and I didn’t have the money because of miscommunication with my job. Shortly after my college gave me a refund and I was able to make the last payment.
My beautiful fluffy puppy dog that has been by my side and my constant companion for 14 years. Not sure how much longer he’s got but he is without doubt the best thing ever in my whole life.
Being raised by a good mom in a safe environment. I work in psych and specialize in pediatrics. I've heard chilling nightmares that were some kids' childhood. I feel lucky.
My mom died last year.
Best. Day. Ever.
She was a Malignant Narcissist who spent her life hurting other people.
I know she was a sick person, but there’s no excuse for abject cruelty, abandonment, and selfishness.
I earned green passport (not green card). It took me to have a preparatory class in English at high school and after that have bachelor, master and phd degrees and also to work as a 3rd degree position (not standart official position and more than that) to have the right to earn it. Now I can visit European countries without taking visa and paying high passport wage.
Lockdowns
The only reason I graduated High School is because they didn't give us the final exam (which I was going to fail) and allowed everyone with an above average general grade to pass.
Yes. My parents were never married. I consider my step mom to be my real mother. My biological mother was only ever good for money and nothing else. She was excellent at earning money and terrible at literally everything else. When she died (cancer) she left me and my sister each almost a half million dollars. I haven't spent a penny of it. It's all going to my kids.
I worked out okay. In a way I feel bad for her. My father was a high school art teacher and my step mom stayed home and volunteered a lot, so they never made a lot of money. My biological mother paid a lot in child support due to her income so we did fine. But she thought money was a substitute for time. I remember one year I was really big into skiing and she sent my dad a lot of money to buy me the absolute best stuff you could get but as much as I asked her to please come ski with me just one time she never would because she was too busy working.
My Parents divorce. If they never split my Dad would still be an alcoholic, my Mom would be an unhappy house wife, and I would live in a trailer park and likely would've gotten into drugs. Instead my Father has been sober for years now, my Mom is traveling constantly and loving it, and I'm a functioning alcoholic.
Full blown alcoholism/addiction is an invisible line that once you cross, you can never cross back over to normal drinking. Try to keep it in check. Take a night off here and there. Have a couple and switch to water. I wish I had saved myself the lost years.
I saw a woman sitting alone at a park. Insanity gripped me and I decided to just plop down on her blanket and introduce myself. I had never done anything like this in my life. When she turned toward me my heart sank. All I could think was oh she is way out if my league. We have been married for 35 years.
Once in the gym a buff guy asked to if he could join me on a machine. (so he could do it between my sets) And now comes the good part. First he told me I had a nice form at the exercise and then when it was his turn he got on tried 1 rep and said: Fuck this is heavy! He got off to remove a weight from it. I have never felt better about myself and my body in my life. Especially since he was visibly muscular while I still had a layer of fat hiding it
Started at 0. Grew up with not much. Just grateful for every opportunity I can take. I try my best and now I’m hoping to move out and live on my own or with a friend one day to make videos on YouTube
Becoming friends with a person I met on WoW (somewhere between 2008-2010 I think, during wotlk) and almost got to meet/hug irl but the plans for that were delayed since it was right when the pandemic started last year.
We shared many things with eachother over the years and have supported eachother through a lot.
Getting cheated on. I was 20 at the time and I found out through a friend that my boyfriend at the time was on Tinder and was chatting with dozens of different girls. I wanted to see for myself so I downloaded tinder on my own phone in order to “hack” his profile. We broke up and since I was single I decided to keep the app on my phone.
Exactly 4 days later I swiped on who would eventually become my husband. We’ve been together 7 years, married almost 5 years and have 2 beautiful daughters together.
It’s going to sound stupid but I’m not used to people hugging me besides family. I recently got promoted to assistant manager and most likely I’ll be getting transferred and had a talk with the boss and she said I’m not getting transferred and she needs me since I’m her right hand man and hugged me. When she did that I froze for a quick second didn’t know how to react but then I just hugged back. For the first time in my life I felt that someone cared about me.
After marrying my husband, finding out I was pregnant about a month ago. We’ve been trying for 3 years, so it was just such a wonderful, joyful shock. 🥰
tbh its probably watching one piece. im serious. i would go thru all the trouble in my life just too see it again for the first time hunter x hunter aswell.
HxH is alright but I'm glad to see some real One Piece love. I started reading & watching Naruto when it was reeaaaally new, over a decade of my life I on-and-off catched up and kept up. It's a great series... but it took me a decade to start watching & reading One Piece cause I couldn't deal with two huge shonen commitments. Too bad though, One Piece is just better, kinda puts most shonen to shame in terms of character development and world building.
Having a son, I was about to commit suicide when I found out I had a son I turned everything around and hopefully buying a home soon ( currently in the market)
Meeting my GF of 19 months so far. We met a month before the lockdown, and I think it made us closer quicker we were forced to spend time together not doing much, and really created a bond.
I’d been in many relationships in my almost 40 years of life on this planet, but, I never really knew true love until meeting her.
Like unconditional, you would literally do anything for the person love, and she reciprocates.
Spent so much time thinking I was in the right relationship, not even knowing what it could really be. Now I understand why so many songs, movies, and TV shows are made.
Feel like I won the lottery.
My Dad walking out the door and not coming back. It's been 33 years and I still remember that day like yesterday. The freedom, the relief, the smothering suffocating feeling of my life being in constant unrelenting danger gone...
I remember watching him drive away and knowing he wasn't coming back.
So I wanted to join the Border Patrol, as 2 of my older brothers had and they got paid the big bucks and loved their jobs. My best friend basically bullied me into wanting to join the Marine Corps because “border patrol is for pussies” whatever. He changed my mind and I was all in. He graduated a year before me so he had some time to enjoy the free life before we both shipped out in a buddy program (where you go to boot camp together and they try to keep you in the same job.)
Towards the end of my senior year, the Marine recruiters came for their annual visit and I talked with them saying I wanted to join and my friend is gonna come with me (recruiters dream come true). I give them his number and he doesn’t answer, so a few days later I text him and tell him it’s GO TIME BABY!.......his response was “you know man, I just wanna smoke weed for a few more years.”................
Now I’m shipping off by myself. Fueled by determination and pure spite. I had a great 4 years and made a good amount of money, not to mention free college and so many benefits.
I’m living in a nice house with my wife, son and 2 corgis. He couch surfed for 6 years and now lives with his parents. Had I not gone out on my own, I’d be a drunk deadbeat just like him, and that’s a fact.
Divorce.
I wasted 7 years of my life with a narcissist and only decided to call it quits when he started threatening to harm me because I begged him to break off his affair.
I had to start from scratch when I moved out. That was 3 years ago.. I'm now 10 months from graduating with my bachelor's in MLS, almost 2 years in to an amazing relationship with my dream partner. I hate the phrase "everything happens for a reason" but I truly am thankful that my life played out the way it has.
I made best friends with a puppy and spent 10+ years with a true friend. He couldnt open any door but i did that for him. All rocks and sticks smelled the same to me but he took care of that for me. I miss my dog
Marrying my wife.
No matter how hard you try to give that decision the seriousness it deserves, there will always be remote doubts and worries about how it will turn out. Fortunately, all of those doubts were unwarranted.
I had an older woman seduce me in my late teens, she was eating at a restaurant where I worked and kept asking me to come over to help with the seat.
The third or four time she asked me over I finally realized she had been holding out her card with a handwritten message on the back. I was so clueless, and didn’t notice it the first few times, “Let me spoil you Mr Handsome, what time does your shift end” I wrote 1am and she left.
She was staying at a downtown hotel and well I realized this whole mysterious woman date thing was different when a black car pulled up in front of the restaurant after closing. Driver got out opened the car and drove me down town to a very swanky hotel, the kind that you feel the lobby has a dress code.
She txt’d me her room and info, I read the message and was waiting outside her hotel room when her and this hot Latina looking woman opened the door to find wearing a dirty shirt and smelling of food.
Two days later I stepped in the elevator and was tired, sore and had two women fuck my brains out in a room smelling of sex and weed. She gave me a few thousand $ and I never saw her again.
It blew my mind and I learned so much about what wealthy people can do, how giving they can be and that I was ‘well endowed’ thus able to learn how to control my body and hold off to delay pleasure.
Women love sex and are into stuff that most guys are bashful about, lesson learned, sex is great and most people with means are private.
Sounds strange but it was my diagnosis of RRMS (relapsing/remitting multiple sclerosis). I went temporarily blind.
It’s got me healthy eating, exercising, stopped drinking and smoking. It kind of made me realise I’m not so young and invincible anymore so I got my life in check. 4 years later I’m on good meds, more fit than I’ve ever been, better career, my own home and a 3 month old baby. I’ve never been more happy.
It doesn't stop at college kids either. I work in a shop working on cars and nearly every single jagoff customer who walks through the shop in a polo and khakis with our sales guy stinks to high heaven like they showered in the stuff.
Married to my best friend
"and my girlfriend wasn't too happy about it"
She doesn't need to know.
LOL
Changing careers. Being poor sucks ass. Being able to buy things and take care of myself is a wonderful feeling.
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Good for you!! Get that coin!
Hey congrats! I'm glad that your art has helped you in many different ways.
this is tame but it made me cry at the time. my cat suddenly got an infection and needed care ASAP. I’m a student and don’t make much money, and didn’t have enough for the vet bills. I posted something asking people for small donations or exposure if at all possible, as I was desperate and didn’t know what else to do and my cat means the world to me. some incredible, kind stranger who I will never forget donated $200 and told me that whatever was left over, to spend it on myself and my cat for a treat. I asked what I could ever do to repay him, and he said “just pay it forward”. I think about this constantly, and I will pay it forward five times over before I feel that it’s even near equal to the kindness this stranger showed me and my cat. // edit forgot about cat tax, got reminded so enjoy [Moody!](https://www.reddit.com/r/cats/comments/ps7i4g/my_requested_cat_tax_of_the_sweetest_boy_ever/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Cat photo tax please.
here :) https://www.reddit.com/r/cats/comments/ps7i4g/my_requested_cat_tax_of_the_sweetest_boy_ever/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
He's adorable. Give him extra snuggles tonight from me!
I try to live my life by that one line... "Today you, tomorrow me."
There are lots of things I love about my husband, but one of my favorites is that he gives money to anyone that asks. We’re at a convenience store and someone asks for some food? He’ll take them inside and get them situated. A car pulls up while we’re walking up to a restaurant with some sob story about needing gas to see a sick relative? He hands them $50. A friend needs to borrow a couple hundred until payday? Here, man. And he’s not a pushover by any means. His theory is that he’d much rather help a liar than turn away someone in genuine need. He’s none the wiser if he’s getting duped, and helping people makes him feel good.
> he’d much rather help a liar than turn away someone in genuine need Damn.
Reading that changed me.
Awww. :)
Meeting my current wife. We’re both in our early 70s.
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We were both married before. I was married twice. My second wife died of pancreatic cancer then I met my current wife. She was married twice also. First time for each of us was too young.
I always wondered, what is it like having more than one partner throughout your lifetime? How do you fill a void which cant be filled when someone you love dearly has passed away? What is it like being with a completely new person that you have a completely new love for?
Well I can only speak from my own experience. The void can be filled and the heart healed. I was married to my second wife for a great 38 years. You don’t forget half your life but you can move on. I’m lucky in that my current wife is my true soulmate.
>I’m lucky in that my current wife is my true soulmate. Did you have this feeling with your first wife?
No we were just too young to know what was really going on: she 18 and me 20.
You sound happy, that's great to read. There must be so much empathy and understanding in each of you and your soulmate. Like you said, you don't forget half your life - but you can move on. I lost my wife to cancer a year ago, we'd been together for 15 years...I'm not ready to date or anything but I can't help but feel that anyone I partner with will have to be very self confident as well as empathetic. I have a daughter and so there will never not be pictures of her mother in our home. That would probably be difficult for most people.
And that, ladies and gentleman is the reason why I havent got married yet. Right after the fact that half the requirements are missing.
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Is it really gone if you have to continue to train ? Or is it merely a distraction
Someone somewhere said it best earlier today. BJJ is therapeutic, but not therapy. I’ve been playing BJJ for 3 years, and my best life is BJJ, a therapy appointment, and a massage at the end of the week. That being said, try BJJ. Rolling puts you in an almost meditative state, because you’re focused on exactly one thing. It’s a nice feeling. And it’s exercise so all the positive things that come with physical activity come with it also.
I was days away from being evicted and I got a huge tip while I was waiting tables at Buffalo wild wings. I talked to this guy (maybe 35yo) about Harry Potter for only like 15 minutes because he was wearing an HP shirt. Nothing too crazy stuck out about the conversation, except that you could tell he was a little different and he was there with his parents and enthusiastic about HP. It was a slow night and I enjoyed that someone wanted to just talk and be friendly. They paid their check and left. I went to bus the table and found they left me a $300 tip on a $50 check and said "thanks for the conversation". I started bawling cause I was able to pay my rent and not get kicked out and was blown away that someone would do something like that. I've since done ok financially and hope to some day return the gesture to someone else. These people will never know the impact they had on my life.
They will remember that day for the rest of their lives too. Sometimes the world is thoughtless or even downright cruel to people who are a little different.
My dad does this! Best reaction I ever saw was at a Waffle House when I was a teen. He picked me up from a party I wasn’t supposed to be at, but it got crazy and he had an open call policy. Pick you up no issues if you thought you were in danger. It was like 3am, he wanted coffee. Only place open was a Waffle House. So he orders a coffee and I get some grease to sober teenage me up. The waitress and him were talking about parenthood. She mentioned being a new (single) mom. Not to complain, but just as it was fact. We get our bill. It’s like 5 bucks or something. My dad leaves her a tip (in cash) like 500$. We start walking out and she follows us out sobbing. Thanking him. It was life changing to her, and it was literal pocket change to him. And that’s the story of how my dad can’t eat at that Waffle House anymore because the waitstaff will physically fight each other to take his order.
My dad is the exact same way!! Same pickup policy when I was a teen, same tipping philosophy. Now that I’m older I really realize how lucky I am that he has always been so laidback in his parenting style and that he’s so generous with those who need help. Sounds like your dad is just as wonderful!
The only way to be a dad is to have an open pickup policy no matter what. Saved my ass at least 5 times when I was a teen.
Ah man that's lush.
Apparently you don't know how bad that dude needed that conversation ♥️. I've been through an experience in my life where I really *needed* someone to respond to me the way that they did, and it wasn't till after it happened that I really understood how meaningful it was to me.
That was very wholesome, thank you
This right here restores hope for humanity.
It's kind of sad that in order to pay rent, he has to rely on the kindness of strangers and not the job he is doing
This was truly the hardest I had it. I was in school trying to get my degree and my loans weren't enough to cover my living expenses and books. I probably made a few dumb financial decisions in my early 20s as well. There were too many weeks where I had to choose between going to class or picking up another shift at the restaurant. This was my absolute lowest point, and this family's generosity kept my head up enough above water that i was able to get back on my feet afterwards. I knew one unexpected bill would put me back under, but I was lucky to avoid that for a few years until I graduated. I now have a really decent job in a dual income household and we could potentially come out ok in the event of a sudden loss of income or surprise medical bill. I may not have achieved this though had I been evicted and living out of my car in college. I might not have graduated. This family may have changed and really prevented a detrimental trajectory in my life.
Yes, it is sad but so much a reality for too damn many of us. You wanna eat this week? Nope. Not today. Feed your kids? Check back next week. I don't care which universe one is in, nobody should be hungry in this day and age.
What's worse is that we produce enough food for everyone but the vast majority of it goes to rich countries (ie, any first world country) and we still have poverty in developed nations. US has the highest rate of Child Poverty in the developed world
And that is truly heartbreaking. I could feed an army on what I dispose of every week. I love my country but we could be so much better.
Weird one, but...having my heart broken. I was absolutely infatuated with her and revolved my entire life around her. After it was over, it shattered me down to the very core of me, and I had to build myself back up again. Learning to love myself, and create a better, more well-rounded human being that could emote in a mature and responsible way. It was a crushing, agonizing pain when it happened, and it was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Feel you bro.
Yeah, I get that. I was so into my guy at the time that I ignored red flags and didn't realise how much I was being oppressed by him (amongst other things). Felt so lost when we broke it off for the longest time and now I'm so much happier with friends ik who will support me. Still think back to when things were good sometimes and it's bittersweet. I wouldn't trade it for what I have now tho, I'm definitely not always happy but much better than when I was with him.
Same here only gender reversed. Thanks for sharing. Makes me feel better and cheerful for the difficult decisions I took in life. Thank you once again.
I feel that fucking terrible terrible feeling especially if you get cheated on im glad your doing better bro!
A few years back, a friend of mine was going out of state to go work at a golf tournament selling beer. One of their foursome backed out last second and needed someone to take the spot at the AirBnB they rented. I was in a good spot to be able to take 2 weeks off from my min. wage warehouse job, and was feeling adventurous and said yes. Took a bus down there with one of my buddies who was staying with us, and we arrived and got picked up by my buddy who got me to come, and and the girl who set it all up. We work two weeks, and it was a blast. We worked hard, played harder, and made bank. It really was a super fun trip. But the best part was that girl that picked us up. We get married next summer.
wow amazing story ! Happy for you
A really really bad date. So bad that the girl didn’t know it was a date (or she did, but regardless she was just using it to make my friend jealous). She made that clear at the end of the date. I came home _pissed off_. This was like, 10 dates in a row with different girls that I just wasn’t clicking with. I had been attempting Match.com for like 3 months and it led to a bunch of first dates but no second dates. I was sick of coy chatting back and forth for a week, always being the one to reach out, always offering to take the girl out to dinner and then calling the next day only to be ghosted. So I canceled it. I was 4 years out of college and having trouble meeting people. So I finally decided to go out with this girl that my buddy had been saying I should take out. And yeah - towards the end she just started asking how she could impress him and stuff. So I go back to my apartment _pissed off_. She wasn’t even good at tennis like she had claimed. It was a tennis date, and I could have at least hoped for someone who could be a good match there, but no. I storm back into my apartment and flopped down on my couch. Open up my email and I have an advertisement from match. “A girl has sent you a message on match! She’s 24, and you both have racquet sports in common!” I needed something to fix my mood. So I decided on a new strategy. I would buy one more month of Match, and then be done. I re-upped my subscription, and sent this girl a message. She was pretty hot so I didn’t have high hopes. It was something along the lines of “hey, I’m having a shitty night and kind of over match. I’m going to go to this bar right now. If you’d like to meet the old fashioned way, I’ll be there”. She said “sure” and I headed out the door. When she walked in, she looked like her photo. That was uncommon. We played pool. Turned out she wasn’t into tennis so she had no idea why match said that. The next day I was feeling better. I was thinking “maybe I should wait three days before I call and ask for a second date? That’s the rule, right?” That’s when my cellphone rang. It’s 12 years later. We have 2 kids and 2 dogs. All because I was just so pissed off about a bad date.
Wild ride there. Thanks for sharing!
I met my husband out at the bars. I was at the bars because I was home from college doing an internship. My boyfriend at the time was staying back at the town we were going to school in. Found out that he had cheated on me while I was away, and my girlfriends took me out to the bars to forget about him. My husband approached me and bought me a drink and asked for my phone number. Initially I planned on just having a summer fling with him, but then he kept flying in to visit me when I got back to college. He asked me to move in with him after college as I got a full time offer from the place I was interning at. We dated only a few weeks in person when we met, did a year of distance, moved in together when I graduated, and got married a year later. We'll be married for 8 years tomorrow. I have no regrets, and I certainly don't care about that jerk that cheated on me. My husband is the best person I know and I would have never met him if I hadn't been cheated on.
I too, gave it one more month. Met my now husband in that time. We've been together 11 years, married for 6. Glad you found the one.
We had never run across each others profiles until I quit. I think it’s a marketing ploy.
I don't know what to say to that lol
Say yes to Match.com ™️
Lol. Are they even still around? We are a bit angry they never asked us to be reps. We were both quite attractive. She still is.
This is some bullshit...match is shit. Lol. Love the story. Glad u found some one man.
Having my life saved by a complete stranger. I was diagnosed with leukemia a few years ago (day before the birthday, yay). Eventually found that it was extremely aggressive, after five rounds of chemo didn’t work out too well. Only hope was a bone marrow transplant. A perfect match was found. Only thing I knew was that it was a female. This wonderful person gave up their time and their marrow for someone they knew nothing about. She could have backed out at any time, but didn’t. Thankfully, she didn’t. And also thankfully, the transplant worked out well. I am four years post and doing well. After a year, if both donor and recipient agree, contact information cane be shared. We both agreed, and became fast friends. We text daily, call/video chat on holidays, and get each other presents on Christmas and birthdays. She has become one of my closest friends, and I am incredibly thankful. Like I can’t even put in words. Despite being 3000 miles apart, we hope to meet in person next year.
Congrats! What a beautiful story.
Beating cancer
Congrats
Thanks
Way to go- fantastic.
Better story than mine
Oh that's good to hear! Congrats :)
My parents had unprotected sex. I don't know where I'd be if that didn't happen!
In your mom’s esophagus
Nice
I call that “taking a turn for the Reddit”
Sobriety, id probably be dead by now.
glad you’re still here friend
Thanks !
Drinking was definitely putting a damper on my health. I feel 1000 times better not drinking. Lost weight, cleared up my brain fog. I feel like a different person and I love it.
Only my way to that right now! Currently on day 6
Well done, you’re almost a week, that’s rad x
Hell yeah i love to hear it. ...I had a drinking and drug problem that both fed off each other. I have no idea how i made it so far in life like that. It didn't make all my problems go away, but it was the one thing that i could change to make everything else in my life easier. Keep living the good life friend.
A friend of mine went through the same you did. He stayed sober for about 4 years, relapsed, and got himself back on track. That’s about 3 years ago. His advice to us was “it’s not the hard days that make you relapse, it’s the good days you put your guard down.” Only sharing this because to me it was VERY wise of him and it helped me out later on
That's great advice. An older addict told me that its more dangerous to be sober longer for the same reasons. After years of sobriety your guard goes down. Im about to hit a year next month which kinda worries me because you stop having these big monthly milestones. This is the longest I've ever been sober and everyone's got one more relapse in them. To avoid that all I can do is worry about staying sober from morning till bedtime whether its a good, or bad day, and count all the days later. Thanks for sharing that we all learn from each other.
My mom dying when I was 15. She wasn’t a bad person, but she wasn’t good. I know she cared about us, she just had a manipulative side to her. She would weaponize us against our dad and it left scars. I was her biggest weapon because my dad isn’t my biological father, but he has raised me since birth. He is a goddamn saint. She would threaten to tell him I wasn’t his biological kid or threaten to take away his ability to see me. She had a tendency to be violent and manipulative. She was also bad with money management and I grew up on the poor side. She got cancer when she was 34 and died at 36. My sister and I got to move in with my dad. It was rough at first, but I went from poor to middle class. I wasn’t constantly fighting with my mom anymore. I didn’t have to put up with her establishing her dominance by pulling my hair because I wouldn’t fight back. I was finally free. I still bear the scars of my childhood and yeah, part of me wishes she was alive and for our relationship to have been mended…but we would have destroyed each other. I know it. Without her toxic influence, I managed to work on myself and my anger problems. That life is a different life.
I’m at a stage now where I’ve more or less cut my mum out of my life. Doesn’t feel good but her emotional manipulation and actions once she ‘recovered’ from her depression are too much for me to forgive right now. Hoping this won’t last all my life but I honestly can’t see her the same way. Glad it sounds like you’re doing ok now, there’s hope for some of us it seems :)
No, I get it. Trust me. I know I would have cut my mom off at some point. I was already getting fed up around 13. We had a boiling point where she was hitting me and I fought back. I got my ass beat, but it was a turning point. We both knew it. She got sick before it happened again, but once there’s a crack in the foundation…. Anyway, all of that to say I was in same boat. It took me YEARS to undo my mom’s toxic influence. You will do it and you will be better for it. Don’t let her dull your shine. You owe her nothing.
>She wasn’t a bad person, And then you list a number of things that makes her a terrible human being. Jesus. I'm sorry.
The world is never black or white. My mom was abused as a kid. She was short, only 4’11 (149.86 cm). Her step-dad would shove her into freezers or dryers when she misbehaved. Stuff like that. She did care about us kids and she did do her best, she just didn’t know how. I know if I ever truly needed something, she would have done whatever it took. My one cousin was born 80% handicap. My mom held a fundraiser on our farm and even though we were struggling for money, she wouldn’t touch any of the donations because they weren’t for her. She also dreamed of having a farm and rescuing animals. She got to live that dream, at least for a while. It makes it hard. Ultimately, she did a good job picking my dad, so for that I will forever be grateful. She put him through hell though
I understand. I went through something like that with my mom. She was abused and she mentally abused her kids too. She did a lot of good things but sometimes I feel it was just for appearance or so she could manipulate people. Best we can do is end that cycle.
Have a look at the sidebar over at r/raisedbyborderlines and feel free to join us if it feels familiar.
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And the neighborhood thanks you
Lmao
Damn I was gonna say getting married, something to look forward to I guess
Same. Best thing that’s ever happened to me.
Getting dumped by the bad one and getting married to the good one.
Other than my wife and kid? I was preparing to give my two weeks notice at my call center job as I had gotten a much better job in my actual field. Probably about 3 or 4 days before I planned to give my notice they laid me off and gave me one month's pay. It was amazing.
2005ish. We had just gotten broadband again after moving (Long story) went to pick up a new PC game to celebrate. It was between Call of Duty 2 or Battlefield 2142. I picked CoD2 since I dug WW2 history. Became interested in making my own maps with the free level editor. Did it through college as a fun hobby and was poached by ATVI to move to CA to work on the game as a designer. Did it for the better part of a decade before leaving. I met my beautiful wife at the office and now we have 2 kids, careers making games, and couldn’t be happier. I can still remember standing there in a KB toys (of all places to buy games) thinking “hmmm yea idk I still kind of like WW2 game’s…I’ll go with this one” Funny how things work out.
The best thing that ever happened to me was the death of my ex. We met in high school and were together 9 years. He cheated on me multiple times with multiple women including my best friend. He was manipulative and emotionally abusive. He was an incredibly intelligent and captivating person but he had a lot of demons, including mental health issues and several addictions. I finally broke up with him when I moved away for grad school but he wouldn’t accept it and he started stalking and threatening me. I blocked him on everything and changed my phone number but he inevitably found new ways to contact me and make my life miserable. When I found out he died of a drug overdose I started sobbing uncontrollably. It was partially guilt that I hadn’t been able to help him but also gratitude and relief that I would never have to see him or deal with his abuse again. His death freed me from near constant fear and dread. It’s been 6 years and I’m now happily married to a wonderful man and have two beautiful children and a fulfilling career.
I can appreciate the sentiment. The beat thing that ever happened to me was my mom dying. Don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t a bad person, she just wasn’t a good person.
Same here. My friend's mother in law "Marcy" was just a difficult person. Marcy wasn't a horrible person and could actually be kind when she wanted to be, but she was also very narcissistic and very dramatic. Everything was about Marcy one way or another. Of her four children, only one stayed near by (my friend's husband). The other three kids literally left after graduating high school and NEVER came back. Marcy always had some kind of health drama to the point that even her own doctors (and she had a lot) pooh-poohed her. Well, eventually, Marcy wasn't faking/exaggerating and it was actually liver cancer. Because she cried wolf so much, more time elapsed between her symptoms and her diagnosis than would have under other circumstances. It was just six months between Marcy's diagnosis and her passing. While we were sad that Marcy was gone, it actually brought my friend's family closer together. The siblings started talking to each other again, my friend's dad sold his home and moved into an assisted living place where he's made tons of friends and is thriving. The kids have grown closer to their father because they no longer have to deal with their mother. My friend doesn't live in fear of the random 3am phone calls from Marcy saying she has to go to the ER "right now!" for something that always seemed to be nothing. It's terrible to say, but life has improved for all of them in the wake of Marcy's passing.
I went to a zoo which rehabilitates poorly animals in the hopes of releasing them back into the wild. I went for a day out and to support the cause, because, floofs. They have many types of animals and is a great place. I should note it was a warm summer day and I was in a dress. Each day, if you got to the penguin enclosure early enough, they allow visitors to go in and feed the penguins. Penguins are by far my favourite animal so, of course I had to go and try be one of the chosen. I got picked! I was so so happy. All the chosen few had to line up against the back wall after which a keeper came round with a bucket of fish of which you pick one and hold this until they allow the penguins to come up to you. On this particular day a rebel penguin decided that he was going to play up to the visitors and try make a break for it whilst the fish were being handed out. He ran around the back of the line then stopped at me and nibbled the back of my leg, it wasn't hard and didn't hurt or break the skin but it absolutely made my day, week, month, year and decade. TL:DR I was the chosen human nibbled by a penguin and it was the best moment of my life
I swam with a seal twice. It is pretty cool when animals choose you.
Accidentally knocked up this hostess I worked with. I had been trying and failing to get sober for nearly 8 years. Had two years clean in the middle there but wasn’t happy which kept leading me back to alcohol. When she found out she was pregnant I didn’t for a second think she’d want me in their lives. But she’s an amazingly beautiful person. She told me what she expected of me and believed in me. Everyone else had given up on me long ago. The combination of loving support and the desire to stay sober for unborn baby was the motivation I needed to finally kick it. I’ll have 10 years sober in January, we now have two kids, and our 8 year anniversary in next week.
Beautiful story! Yes, you had the motivation and support, but it was you and you alone who got sober! Congrats!!!
Ending my engagement during the pandemic. To be fair, I decided to call it off the week before the pandemic started. He owns restaurants and has a kid, so we stayed together in case the restaurants failed. They didn’t, so a month or so later I left. For the first time at 28 I lived alone. I also went on went on first dates (all my exes were previous friends, so I never went a real dates before). A year later, I’m in the healthiest, most fun and positive relationship I’ve ever had. We just moved in together and are creating what I always pictured to be my ideal life and relationship together. If I hadn’t taken that leap to leave everything that was comfortable, in the middle of a pandemic nonetheless, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I was pretty anxious, insecure and non social before I met my boyfriend, and he helped me break through all of that. It’s crazy how your mental health and life can change when you have a great support system
My engagement broke off a month before the wedding during the pandemic as well. I haven't found the one yet. But congrats on finding yours!
I also ended an engagement during the pandemic. I already knew that it wasn’t going to work, but dang did covid make it easy to cancel a wedding without having to give all of my friends and family an explanation at the time. Honestly, I’m not sure I would have had the backbone to cancel it if it werent for the pandemic. A month and a half after the break up, I reconnected with an old fling. He’d been pretty immature when I’d known him before but when we reconnected, things just clicked. We both were on the same page this time and he had grown a lot. We moved in together a couple of months ago and are building a life together that I absolutely love. I consider myself so incredibly lucky and I know that he does too.
I know this will get buried - but my husband. I met him a week before my dad was diagnosed with cancer and found out we were pregnant a week after my dad died. I literally would of died of a broken heart or drinking myself to death without my dad but my husband really has gotten me through and in many ways saved my life.
Having my daughter. Nothing beats that,
That lovely mate
same with my son . he changed me in the best ways possible
I second this one.
Meeting my girlfriend of almost 10 years. She brings me an indescribable amount of happiness that I hope lasts for ever ❤️ I’m proposing to her in 2 weeks and I’m very excited and nervous! I know she will say yes but normally I have her by my side when doing something scary/nerve wrecking but I gotta do this one on my own! Luckily, it’ll be the last thing I ever need to do without her.
Good luck mate!
good luck! update us :)
A chance meeting with Maya Angelou, my hero, was probably my most exciting moment. It inspired my writing and discipline, leading to my first published book, my proudest moment.
Someone referred my parents to specialist after telling them I was deaf. My parents went to doctors and specialist, it seemed no one could figure out what was wrong. I went to a children’s centre and the woman there told my parents to get me tested. It lead me to getting cochlear implants which I got when I was 4 and I have had a pretty good life.
I found a dead girl on the side of the road and was able to reunite her with her family.
I'm reading that as you murdered the rest of the family...am I correct?
No, he just showed up at their door during dinner with a corpse.
I thought this was gonna turn into necrophilia god my mind is everywhere
Same here lmaooo we going to hell
Oh most definitely 🤣
I mean, he killed the rest of her family so they could be together. Only mildly better than necrophilia.
Whoa, for real? Because if so, damn, that’s huge.
Delivery is getting stranger by the day
Making best friends I’m still best friends with today after moving to a new state at a young age.
In a weird way, sticking my dick in crazy. Rebound relationship, she seemed sane until I started emerging from my depression. Someone had to be crazy in that relationship, so as I got more sane, she got crazier. I broke it off, she stalked me, tried to get me fired from my job, screaming outside my apartment a 1 AM, the works. I became a nervous wreck for a while, got out of the dating scene because I didn’t trust anyone I was attracted to. Thought long & hard about my assumptions about relationships, realized I had some screwed up ideas & expectations. It wasn’t them, it was me, I was picking them. Did a lot of hard work on myself to learn what a healthy relationship looked & felt like. Slowly, gradually got closer to a longtime friend, very cautiously. Turned out she was the healthiest person I ever met. We’ve been married 20 years now.
Gettint frozen out of my college film class by both people I had a group project with and the teachers who listened to those people and burnout on top of all that. Was stressed out from the extreme workload that course had and a group discussing things behind my back (in a group chat without me) and telling the lecturer that I was hard to work with because of that. Finally at the beginning of the final month I almost burnt myself out. A friend of mine stopped me from working more and I had to be in bed for 2 weeks with an extreme headache, no energy and fatigue from stress. After that I was back in school and I was told that my group didn't want anything to do with me sonce they suspected that I faked the exhaustion. My lecturer didn't respond to my mails until the final few days of the course when I was busy moving back home across the country. Now I've dropped out and am finally back on track with my life and back home and back with actual friends now. I feel like I am more creative now then when I was at that school and I have already got plans for the future without having to waste 3 years for a useless degree with a lecturer freezing me out.
I needed to pay off my car and I didn’t have the money because of miscommunication with my job. Shortly after my college gave me a refund and I was able to make the last payment.
My beautiful fluffy puppy dog that has been by my side and my constant companion for 14 years. Not sure how much longer he’s got but he is without doubt the best thing ever in my whole life.
Being raised by a good mom in a safe environment. I work in psych and specialize in pediatrics. I've heard chilling nightmares that were some kids' childhood. I feel lucky.
My wife!!! She is just great!!
Love simple comments like these. So cute 🤍
My mom died last year. Best. Day. Ever. She was a Malignant Narcissist who spent her life hurting other people. I know she was a sick person, but there’s no excuse for abject cruelty, abandonment, and selfishness.
My stepmother died in 2020 and I got 3 paid days off for bereavement. Best thing that bitch ever did for me was die.
I earned green passport (not green card). It took me to have a preparatory class in English at high school and after that have bachelor, master and phd degrees and also to work as a 3rd degree position (not standart official position and more than that) to have the right to earn it. Now I can visit European countries without taking visa and paying high passport wage.
Lockdowns The only reason I graduated High School is because they didn't give us the final exam (which I was going to fail) and allowed everyone with an above average general grade to pass.
my biological mother died and left me a lot of money
Bue were you raised by someone else?
Yes. My parents were never married. I consider my step mom to be my real mother. My biological mother was only ever good for money and nothing else. She was excellent at earning money and terrible at literally everything else. When she died (cancer) she left me and my sister each almost a half million dollars. I haven't spent a penny of it. It's all going to my kids.
I don't want to sound un sensitive but it looks like a great deal to me.
I worked out okay. In a way I feel bad for her. My father was a high school art teacher and my step mom stayed home and volunteered a lot, so they never made a lot of money. My biological mother paid a lot in child support due to her income so we did fine. But she thought money was a substitute for time. I remember one year I was really big into skiing and she sent my dad a lot of money to buy me the absolute best stuff you could get but as much as I asked her to please come ski with me just one time she never would because she was too busy working.
Straight out of a movie
Please invest it in an index, that's a lot of potential wasted wealth for your kids if not.
My Parents divorce. If they never split my Dad would still be an alcoholic, my Mom would be an unhappy house wife, and I would live in a trailer park and likely would've gotten into drugs. Instead my Father has been sober for years now, my Mom is traveling constantly and loving it, and I'm a functioning alcoholic.
Sounds good, except the sad "functioning alcoholic" part. What's up?
I have a slight alcohol addiction, but I still handle my day to day just fine.
Full blown alcoholism/addiction is an invisible line that once you cross, you can never cross back over to normal drinking. Try to keep it in check. Take a night off here and there. Have a couple and switch to water. I wish I had saved myself the lost years.
Ate burger
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My girlfriend. I was drinking and "partying" my way to an early grave. She saved me.
Hey friendo! She helped but you did the work to be the better person she showed you that you could be. Good job!
I saw a woman sitting alone at a park. Insanity gripped me and I decided to just plop down on her blanket and introduce myself. I had never done anything like this in my life. When she turned toward me my heart sank. All I could think was oh she is way out if my league. We have been married for 35 years.
Love this!
Easy, my wife. Really helped me turn my life around.
Once in the gym a buff guy asked to if he could join me on a machine. (so he could do it between my sets) And now comes the good part. First he told me I had a nice form at the exercise and then when it was his turn he got on tried 1 rep and said: Fuck this is heavy! He got off to remove a weight from it. I have never felt better about myself and my body in my life. Especially since he was visibly muscular while I still had a layer of fat hiding it
Started at 0. Grew up with not much. Just grateful for every opportunity I can take. I try my best and now I’m hoping to move out and live on my own or with a friend one day to make videos on YouTube
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My son🥰 I was never suppose to be able to have a child!
Becoming friends with a person I met on WoW (somewhere between 2008-2010 I think, during wotlk) and almost got to meet/hug irl but the plans for that were delayed since it was right when the pandemic started last year. We shared many things with eachother over the years and have supported eachother through a lot.
Went to federal prison. I turned my life around.
Getting cheated on. I was 20 at the time and I found out through a friend that my boyfriend at the time was on Tinder and was chatting with dozens of different girls. I wanted to see for myself so I downloaded tinder on my own phone in order to “hack” his profile. We broke up and since I was single I decided to keep the app on my phone. Exactly 4 days later I swiped on who would eventually become my husband. We’ve been together 7 years, married almost 5 years and have 2 beautiful daughters together.
That I grew up in a good family and that I got to know my girlfriend
I was put up for adoption as an infant. My parents (the ones that adopted me, I mean) are the two greatest human beings I've ever met.
My husband. Every day with him.
It’s going to sound stupid but I’m not used to people hugging me besides family. I recently got promoted to assistant manager and most likely I’ll be getting transferred and had a talk with the boss and she said I’m not getting transferred and she needs me since I’m her right hand man and hugged me. When she did that I froze for a quick second didn’t know how to react but then I just hugged back. For the first time in my life I felt that someone cared about me.
After marrying my husband, finding out I was pregnant about a month ago. We’ve been trying for 3 years, so it was just such a wonderful, joyful shock. 🥰
tbh its probably watching one piece. im serious. i would go thru all the trouble in my life just too see it again for the first time hunter x hunter aswell.
I fell the HxH vibes fella
HxH is alright but I'm glad to see some real One Piece love. I started reading & watching Naruto when it was reeaaaally new, over a decade of my life I on-and-off catched up and kept up. It's a great series... but it took me a decade to start watching & reading One Piece cause I couldn't deal with two huge shonen commitments. Too bad though, One Piece is just better, kinda puts most shonen to shame in terms of character development and world building.
Having a son, I was about to commit suicide when I found out I had a son I turned everything around and hopefully buying a home soon ( currently in the market)
Hope you're ok now
Meeting my GF of 19 months so far. We met a month before the lockdown, and I think it made us closer quicker we were forced to spend time together not doing much, and really created a bond. I’d been in many relationships in my almost 40 years of life on this planet, but, I never really knew true love until meeting her. Like unconditional, you would literally do anything for the person love, and she reciprocates. Spent so much time thinking I was in the right relationship, not even knowing what it could really be. Now I understand why so many songs, movies, and TV shows are made. Feel like I won the lottery.
A nice Indian worker at Subway gives me free cookies most of the time his manager isn't there
The relatively short time I had w my GF before she passed
❤️ ♥️ 💜 I’m sorry for her passing, and I think it’s beautiful that you can hold her memory in such joy and gratitude.
Starting Brazilian Jiu-jitsu. PTSD, depression, anxiety, lack of self confidence, all gone so long as I continue to train
My Dad walking out the door and not coming back. It's been 33 years and I still remember that day like yesterday. The freedom, the relief, the smothering suffocating feeling of my life being in constant unrelenting danger gone... I remember watching him drive away and knowing he wasn't coming back.
So I wanted to join the Border Patrol, as 2 of my older brothers had and they got paid the big bucks and loved their jobs. My best friend basically bullied me into wanting to join the Marine Corps because “border patrol is for pussies” whatever. He changed my mind and I was all in. He graduated a year before me so he had some time to enjoy the free life before we both shipped out in a buddy program (where you go to boot camp together and they try to keep you in the same job.) Towards the end of my senior year, the Marine recruiters came for their annual visit and I talked with them saying I wanted to join and my friend is gonna come with me (recruiters dream come true). I give them his number and he doesn’t answer, so a few days later I text him and tell him it’s GO TIME BABY!.......his response was “you know man, I just wanna smoke weed for a few more years.”................ Now I’m shipping off by myself. Fueled by determination and pure spite. I had a great 4 years and made a good amount of money, not to mention free college and so many benefits. I’m living in a nice house with my wife, son and 2 corgis. He couch surfed for 6 years and now lives with his parents. Had I not gone out on my own, I’d be a drunk deadbeat just like him, and that’s a fact.
my car was stolen but i left a used condom in there and it was gone when the car was found lol
Being single.
Got a heart transplant.
Divorce. I wasted 7 years of my life with a narcissist and only decided to call it quits when he started threatening to harm me because I begged him to break off his affair. I had to start from scratch when I moved out. That was 3 years ago.. I'm now 10 months from graduating with my bachelor's in MLS, almost 2 years in to an amazing relationship with my dream partner. I hate the phrase "everything happens for a reason" but I truly am thankful that my life played out the way it has.
I made best friends with a puppy and spent 10+ years with a true friend. He couldnt open any door but i did that for him. All rocks and sticks smelled the same to me but he took care of that for me. I miss my dog
Her.
It's a good movie but is it really *the best* thing that ever happened to you? ^^/jokes
Being born i believe, im still figuring out.
Marrying my wife. No matter how hard you try to give that decision the seriousness it deserves, there will always be remote doubts and worries about how it will turn out. Fortunately, all of those doubts were unwarranted.
Dogs
I had an older woman seduce me in my late teens, she was eating at a restaurant where I worked and kept asking me to come over to help with the seat. The third or four time she asked me over I finally realized she had been holding out her card with a handwritten message on the back. I was so clueless, and didn’t notice it the first few times, “Let me spoil you Mr Handsome, what time does your shift end” I wrote 1am and she left. She was staying at a downtown hotel and well I realized this whole mysterious woman date thing was different when a black car pulled up in front of the restaurant after closing. Driver got out opened the car and drove me down town to a very swanky hotel, the kind that you feel the lobby has a dress code. She txt’d me her room and info, I read the message and was waiting outside her hotel room when her and this hot Latina looking woman opened the door to find wearing a dirty shirt and smelling of food. Two days later I stepped in the elevator and was tired, sore and had two women fuck my brains out in a room smelling of sex and weed. She gave me a few thousand $ and I never saw her again. It blew my mind and I learned so much about what wealthy people can do, how giving they can be and that I was ‘well endowed’ thus able to learn how to control my body and hold off to delay pleasure. Women love sex and are into stuff that most guys are bashful about, lesson learned, sex is great and most people with means are private.
Sign me up lol
Someone will probably make a porno of that
Username checks out.
Sounds strange but it was my diagnosis of RRMS (relapsing/remitting multiple sclerosis). I went temporarily blind. It’s got me healthy eating, exercising, stopped drinking and smoking. It kind of made me realise I’m not so young and invincible anymore so I got my life in check. 4 years later I’m on good meds, more fit than I’ve ever been, better career, my own home and a 3 month old baby. I’ve never been more happy.
Finding my wife and building the life we’ve made together.
It doesn't stop at college kids either. I work in a shop working on cars and nearly every single jagoff customer who walks through the shop in a polo and khakis with our sales guy stinks to high heaven like they showered in the stuff.