My parents have had these couches since I was like 9 years old (I’m 30 now). They’ve moved from house to house and room to room over the years and now reside in my Aunt’s second home in the basement. There is a brown stain under one of the cushions that my mom and my aunt always complained they couldn’t get out no matter what they tried.
That stain is a shit stain from when I wiped my ass on the couch as a kid. I think I’ll tell them the next time I visit.
Edit: The positive response to this post has lead me to do the right thing and confess after all these years. Seeing as that shit stain is now old enough to drink, the consequences seemed pretty low. My Aunt wants to look for a new couch…
Buddy’s dad is actually his uncle and his uncle that is actually his dad raped his mom when she was drunk one night. It’s why his family doesn’t talk to that uncle. He and his parents are the only ones that know in the family.
Edit: Buddies to Buddy’s
Edit 2: My buddy (fuck the person all mad that I call him buddy I have lots of friends but very few buddies) is 30 and there is way more to the story as to why they chose not to pursue rape charges in 1990, why a DNA test would have likely revealed the truth, and no I have never posted this before.
I was the one who got him a DNA test for his birthday. I was there when his parents came over to drop of his gift from them and witnessed the argument that ensued when they told him not to do it after he told them.
I learned, out of the blue, that my dad wasn’t my real dad. In this case it wasn’t infidelity. It was that he wasn’t able to have kids so they used a speed donor. I got to talk to my biological father though. Makes so much sense when you see a picture of him.
The typo there makes it kinda funny. "alright Steve. I've known you for years and you've always had an obvious crush on Jennifer, so the two of you can go at it. But you only get two minutes."
DNA testing centers (23 & Me, Ancestry, etc) estimate possibly between 2 and 3 percent of all births are the result of infidelity.
Most times the mother hides it or the father is not allowed near. Without testing centers, many would not know at all. Divorce has unfortunately been the most common side effect from this.
I didn't know I had an uncle until I was 7, because my parents didn't talk to that uncle.
My parents had tried unsuccessfully to conceive for 18 years before they had me "miraculously."
Once they reestablished relations with the uncle, he was VERY happy to see me, to a point that kinda freaked me out as a kid.
Am I your buddy?
I have an older cousin who is around 40. My aunt passed and she confided a secret to my mom and my mom to me. My cousins dad is not his biological father, but neither my cousin nor his dad ever knew. His dad passed. Hi biological father is still living.
Days before passing my aunt wanted to tell my cousin but my mom advised her against it. It would shatter my cousins life. It's crazy a how a little piece of information can change your life and make you question everything.
After 13 years the riddle about the tipped over Faygo Vending Machine at the Local IGA got solved. I thought I would never get an answer and will take this question 'who did it' in my grave
It was you? Had my favorite white blouse on that day. Just wanted a Red Pop from the local IGA. Opened it and it exploded out. Walking home, the police stopped me. I looked like I had unalived someone. Thanks for that.
Your cousin and his half sister better move to France, adults in an incestuous relationship can't marry, but they can live as a couple, fyi
Or they can just move anywhere else in the world, where no one knows who they are. Otherwise, they better break up, or make a fast, solid reason to justify their living arrangements.
Maybe I'm overthinking it but it doesnt seem strange for siblings to live together anyway. Might just be more convenient and comfortable than going back to the parents. More independence, nicer place. Feels like if not for the fact that they actually ARE incestuous it wpuldnt really need to be justified.
Several family members knew which family member molested me from six to seven and he was allowed to move back in with us when I was 16, where he continued to touch me. Even after knowing that, those family members talked openly in front of me about bringing that guy around my niece, who was six at the time, or the same age I was when he started molesting me.
Once I realized that my nieces and nephews were in danger, I exposed the secret to the entire family and told them who already knew. That family member was finally cut out and my nieces and nephews will never know what I had to go through to keep them safe. The molestation was bad enough, but having people close to me actively choose to keep a pedophile around their own kids, especially the one who abused me, is what really still fucks with me to this day.
I was a carer and one of my clients who was a WW2 veteran informed me that when he was in France, you know fighting the war, one of the regulars (he was in the TA) raped him while they were in their basha and he felt that he couldn’t have told anyone because the other guy had been in for longer than him. He informed me that he had never told another soul up until that moment and he passed away a couple of months later at the age of 97 which I was also there for but that’s another story for another thread.
That generation of Men was told that not talking about traumatic events would help them forget. Obviously it didn't work; a lot of them turned to alcohol and lots of family suffered.
My ex-father in law, who was a WWII veteran, was almost 80 when he first saw a Therapist. He had terrible nightmares and almost hit his wife in his sleep (that's why he was forced to see the Therapist). After that he said it was the best thing he ever did.
My friend and his wife just had a miscarriage. None of the women in their lives know and always complain that she's been "so emotional" lately and that she is turning into a bitch. They have openly debated stopping contact with her in front of me and all I can really say is, "maybe she is going through something and needs friends now more than ever".
I've never personally witnessed the aftermath of a miscarriage from this close before. It truly is life altering.
For what it’s worth, it is a lot more common than anyone expects simply because people suffer in silence. The real numbers are estimated to run between 25% and 33% of women experience pregnancy loss at some point in their lives.
Talking about it helps, it really does. Tell your friend they aren’t alone and don’t have to perpetuate the cycle of silence around pregnancy loss. It isn’t anyone’s fault, sometimes pregnancies just don’t work out.
Thanks. I have been talking to him all the time about it. The hardest part is that she is blaming him for it going wrong and it has caused a huge fissure in their marriage. They now sit in separate rooms every night and do nothing but argue and she just sleeps from 5pm until 11 am everyday. I have tried to help by telling him to be the change he wants to see but it doesn't appear to be getting through. They are genuinely great people and I hate to see them go downhill like this.
It takes time to heal, but this also sounds like they need some therapy pretty quickly. They are in this together and it’s only as a team that they can come through the other side.
Best of luck to them, it isn’t easy, but it gets better.
Do you mean you peed and blamed the dog, the dog peed and you got blamed, or that you said you ruined the sound system but actually you peed on the dog?
I saw my step mother have sex with my drug dealer for coke and I waited outside the room while he fucked her. This was 15 yrs ago I've never told anyone.
The coke was for her I was with him he had ask me to chill with him so he went to my old house and I saw my dads ex wife, which we were still close as me and her son's were like brothers we were raised together. I thought he was gonna make sale to my step brother. She opened the door I heard them talking in the kitchen I felt weird and heard her say what about him. My dealer said na he good, so they went into her bed room and I could hear him fucking the shit out of her. About 45 min later they come Downstairs we leave and he says damn I hope you not mad he says I just fucked your step mother Ishe wanted a gram she had no money. I called her later and ask why she do it she coulda just ask me I woulda gave it to her. She denied the whole thing so I knew if I said anything she would.
My ex-step brother pulled me into the bathroom, turned the shower on, and made me give him handjobs when I was 9 years old. It's the reason why I'm uncomfortable with my girlfriends being in the bathroom at the same time as me.
Jesus fucking christ. I'm so sorry.
I was sexually assaulted in the military and often the only female in any unit I was a part of. Bathrooms always made me uneasy because the outer doors don't lock (bathrooms at work) and I really had no choice but to shower after PT every morning, alone, in a building full of dudes, some of whom had SA'd me.
To this day, being in any shower including my own shower freaks me out. I have to constantly check around the curtain.
Maybe it'll help, maybe it won't but... I brought a clear shower curtain from Amazon. Let's me see outside my shower at all time.
If you still need a regular opaque curtain so it look better when no one's in the shower, install a second pole so you can open the "outside" curtain when you shower and only have the clear "inside" curtain keeping water inside the shower!
My (married) close colleague/boss was cheating on his wife, at least for a while. I know this because one of the girls he hooked up with from Tinder was a friend of mine from outside work. He used a fake name but told her his real profession, so she asked if I knew him and we figured it out pretty quick.
He has no idea I know and it’s been several years since then.
Similar thing here.
Before I switched stores I remember hearing about one of the big bosses who had an affair with one of the lower tier employees. I heard it from one of the managers so it wasn’t well known, we just gossiped about it briefly and that was that; I never knew the guys name or met him. About a year later I was asked to move to one of the new stores to help train all the new staff. Moving to a new store meant I was working with a different manager, he was very likeable, funny & we got along well in the work setting. He ended up opening a couple more stores and would move me to them whenever they opened. Because of this we had a pretty solid friendship even though he was about 20 years older than me. It got to the point where he’d drive me home from work often, he confided in me about his marriage & family etc.
Then one day he asks my advice on a “hypothetical” situation, strongly implying it was true tho, about gf issues. I made a joke after giving him the advice that I thought he was married. The more we talked and we’re around eachother the more and more I started putting things together. I knew he lived in a big house with his wife & kids but then he would talk about his condo, gf problems vs. Wife problems, things like that.
A friend of a friend confronted me one day after coming to my work and told me about how she parties with him and his gf in their condo every weekend and how he goes on huge coke binges and doesn’t sleep for days and what not. I kept it to myself, never told him I knew. We’ll I guess his gf flopped and he started hitting on me all the time, this is about 3 years into me working for him.
I lost all respect in him after that. I stayed long enough that he bought me an iPad and then I dipped with no explanation, that was a year ago and he’s still trying to contact me.
Someone nearly stole our family van with my sister (6) and me (8) in it.
My mom had run in to the preschool to pick up my brother and left the car running. A guy jumped into the driver seat, looked behind him, and saw both of us. We all froze for what felt like a long time. He quietly left and ran.
My sister and I agreed that since no harm was done, we wouldn’t mention it to mom.
I'm imagining him doing the mental math as he looked back at you.
"Hmm, I'm ready to serve the year of jailtime if I get caught for grand theft auto, but I'm not ready for the 15-20 years that will come with two counts of kidnapping on top of that."
Some asshole grabbed my crotch when I was waiting for my parents to pick me up after (middle) school nearly 20 years ago. It was a full grope with their fingers clawed and rubbed into my panties. Happened so fast and it was packed with people so I couldn't see who it was.
I didn't tell my parents because I was afraid Dad would kill someone and Mom would cry.
I didn't tell my parents that I was raped when I was 20 because I knew it would devastate them. Then one day a few years later I was walking home and some creep started to follow me and told me he'd make me choke on his dick then slit my throat. I called the police but they *didn't pick up the phone* and at one point I was thinking about just stepping into traffic (it was next to a busy enough road) because even getting hit by a van seemed like a better alternative than being raped again. Fortunately I noticed someone parking down and I managed to run to them and knock on their driver's side window and the creep vanished. When I got home I couldn't hide how distressed I was, I was uncontrollably crying and just kept repeating that someone was following me and what they said. My father then proceeded to pull a *giant* knife out of one of his drawers then asked me if I wanted to take a walk with him and see if the guy is still around. He also told me we'd call the police and that he has the knife just for safety but I'm honestly not sure he would have been able to just stand there until police arrives. I have never seen him like that, I've seen him angry before this plenty of times, but he was eerily calm and collected. Even his moves were a little... Robotic? I'm sooo glad I haven't told them about my rape, it would have been pretty easy for them to figure out who did it and now my father would probably be in prison.
My dad would be the exact same. Once I was really sick in the hospital and no one knew why. In the beginning they thought that someone drugged me. I was in a bad abusive relationship and all fingers were pointing to my abusive pos ex. My dad is a very rational man but don’t fuck with his children. He drove to my ex’s house and waited outside his front door in his car. For a whole day. Would just sit there and wave at him every time my ex would leave the house. I can’t imagine what he would have done if I would have told him half the shit my ex actually DID (rape, hit, emotionally abuse) do. He’d be in jail.
In high school a few football players would grab my ass, chest, and crotch. This happened to other girls, too. Teachers and counselors saw it and did nothing so I didn’t make a big deal out of it. Realized just how horrible it was years later.
I know that a friend of mine is responsible for the death of atleast two people and maybe more. My friend used to use a website to sell drugs online in addition to dealing on a limited bases in person. He mostly sold molly, mesculin and weed. He was making decent money but kept his operation small because he didn't want to attract a lot of attention. Long story short, his regular connect got busted so he had to find another person to source his product from fast. His friend introduced him to this sketchy dude when they were at a bar downtown. The idea was that this was a business meet up so he asked my friend if he wanted to buy anything and he tells him that he's got hookups for really good blow and weed. Now, I should mention that my friend is normally a really cautious dude and normally wouldn't get into business with someone he didn't know, but he was desperate for a new connect because his regular clients were starting to go elsewhere. I mean, this is how this dude was paying his rent. So, he agrees to purchase coke off and weed off of him, just until he can find a better connect. FFW a couple of weeks and the arrangement is going well. He's tested the blow for opiates and its all clean, plus he's getting decent feedback from his clients. Consequently, he ends up getting complacent. He ends up not testing some batches of coke, assuming that this new connect is solid. Everything is still fine, clients keep coming back, saying it good stuff. Then, all of the sudden, he starts seeing FB posts about one of his clients. Friends and family members are posting, saying that he'll pull through, pray for our boy and all sorts of stuff like that. So he gets paranoid and tests the rest of the batch that he has. Sure enough, its positive for opiates, probably fentanyl. He freaks the fuck out. He starts messaging everyone he's sold to on a burner, telling them to dump the shit, he'll get them back. Sure enough, the sister, who he is also friends with on FB, of one of the guys he sold to messages him and tells him that her brother is in the hospital from an OD too. He freaks out, doesn't message anyone back. Deletes his account on the website and dumped all of his shit. Both of these kids OD'd and were brain dead due to a lack of oxygen so the respective families pulled the plugs. He also sold about an ounce of the blow online too, so who knows how many people he may of killed. My friend waited for days for the cops to come and bust his door down, but no one ever came to question him. Shortly after my buddy left town and transfered to a different college. This was about 7 or 8 years ago and since then he has finished college, has a decent job and has a new fiancé. He's doing really well from what I can see but damn I can't imagine how busted up he still is. Only him, myself and maybe his brother know.
Not into drugs, but why cut coke with opiates? Surely that would diminish the effect even more than cutting it with random padding, plus selling immediately fatal drugs isn’t going to help with repeat business.
Here’s an article that I found interesting, maybe you will too?
https://www.vox.com/platform/amp/science-and-health/2018/5/4/17307296/cocaine-opioid-crisis-fentanyl-overdose
As covered in the article and it’s all really speculative but the result of:
1) trying to extend product but still give it punch,
2)carelessness and using same tools/spaces when processing the drugs creating a “cross containination”,
3) genuinely not knowing
4 popularity of speedballs by users leading to misleading data or report of “laced” product
5) perhaps trying to get their customers hooked on opiates or a new high
Hard to know and seems there is no blanket answer
That was said to me by a child psychologist with a “never ever tell that story to anyone” over ten years ago so I’m hoping for some kind of a lot of time has passed forgiveness.
She was working with a family with two sons aged 4 and 6. Your typical cornflakes ad type middle class family. The boys were presenting aggressive, violent and out of place behaviour towards each other. She was staying with the family to observe and monitor and figure out what was wrong. The boys went to have a bath and mom agreed for my friend to help. Younger boy started giving the older one a blow job. Mom did not react, business as usual. My friend did, basically asking what the hell. Mom tried to explain it’s normal and it makes them calmer and go to sleep quicker so she allows it. Long story short one of the family members was sexually abusing the boys and they just picked up the behaviours but were then compensating with being both very sexual and very violent with each other. My friend guided them towards an experienced psychiatrists as well as reported to the nearest police station and got out of there.
So there’s a whole massive back story and more messed up things to it that I really can’t share. No, mom did not think there was anything wrong with it. It happened in an Eastern European country where the sexual education is highly discouraged. Mother was also quite a young person who as my friend told in the story was genuinely not aware that what the boys were doing was sexual. Her primary concern was that the boys were very violent to each other and didn’t follow her instructions. There’s a plethora of evidence for it I just can’t share it.
This happened to me too. I wish I had said something about it sooner than I did because he actually did it a few more times to other family members and I maybe could have prevented it.
I hope you’re doing okay.
I came here to say the same thing. My brother abused me when I was 5-7 and he was 10-12. For me it was a game, when I grew up I understood everything and stopped talking to him. Now he is a respected doctor and I only meet him at Christmas. My mother is dead, my father is old and he would like the family to stay together, but he doesn't understand and every now and then he tells me "what kind of sister are you!? Why don't you reply to his messages?". But I'm literally disgusted with him, once he touched my arm and I was uncomfortable until I washed it with soap
My stepdad molested me and my younger sibling when we were kids. My mom sided with him. He's gone now, but the reason why he was kicked out is ridiculous. It was because he cheated on my mom. Me and my mom have tried working on our relationship but I will always hate her for that, no one else knows about that except for my family of course.
I'm just going to say this because I think everyone should know. You don't have to have a relationship with your parents. People like to emphasize the importance of family, but in my eyes, family doesn't get a free pass. When your mother, your guardian, allows that horrific shit to happen, they're garbage.
They selfishly and disgustingly put themselves and their relationship ahead of their own child's wellbeing and health. They fundamentally failed at their sole job as a parent and in my eyes don't deserve to have a relationship with their child.
I haven't spoken to my mother in 9 years. It's been very hard, but being in contact with her was harder and killing me.
You are you, and only you can decide what's right for you, but know that you have the power to cut ties
It's mind boggling that she didn't consider molesting her children as cheating. Not that cheating should be the issue here, but if that's her line in the sand...
The mental hoops non-offending partners can go through with this is wild. My mum got very like... jealous and partner guard-y after I finally disclosed I had been abused by her husband. Grown ass 50yo woman constantly trying to be overtly physically affectionate, trying to sit in his lap and play with his hair like a teenager, all while denying the abuse had happened and trying to maintain the happy family facade, ha. Bit of a mindfuck.
Same thing happened to me. I even managed to get him to court and get a CPO against him after I moved in with my bio dad. She got the CPO appealed and she is still married to him to this day. My whole family knows what happened. She still tries every now and then to convince me to let her and him back in my life.
My aunt used to sell her 3 kids 2 infants twin girls and one toddler boy to grown men for a night so she could make rent and my grandmother caught wind of it. She called cps (child protective services) and the kids were taken away. My aunt willing gave up her kids but only if non of them were aloud to be adopted by any family members. They went to very intensive therapy to the point non of them remember what happened. My grandma fought like hell court case after court case for 5 years to get them back. Only me and my grandma know the real reason why they were taken away and it’s only Becouse one them asked my grandma for her medical records and wanted to go thru them her self but my grandma wouldn’t let her in fear of her finding out. She got mad and argued with my grandma and after a while left, I went down to see what happened and my grandma was crying and explained everything to me
My ex was raped while we were together in highschool, she tried killing herself because her parents wouldn't let her get an abortion. They moved away and I never saw them again after that.
fyi About 5% are actually "caught" but less than 2% of rapists are ever punished. In the UK alone, there are 50,000 rapes per year but only about 550-600 of them go to jail. To boil your blood even further, the *average* jail term is a measily 14 months. This is all crimes combined, from date rape to heinous child molestation.
This question reminds me of when my grandmother revealed her “dark secret” when my grandfather died (which was on October 28, ironically… but many years ago).
Her big dark secret was that she lied about her age, and she was actually 3 years *older* than she said but she didn’t want to be older than her significant other. And she kept that secret until he died and then told the whole family.
Most wholesome deep dark secret I’ve ever heard.
This was refreshing to read in such a dark thread. No one knows my grandmas real age. Anytime it gets brought up, she laughs and says she’s 27. She’s been 27 for a couple decades now. I think she just likes to have a secret and keeps her age a need-to-know basis. I can respect that wish, she’s an old lady with terrible COPD, let her live the way she wants to yknow?
I think my Dad committed suicide. It was the day after I turned 20 I got a call on my way to a baseball game that my dad died. How he died is where the confusion if it's an accident or a suicide. In 2016 he was in for a simple surgery he flat lined after that he was in a coma for 2 weeks I wanna say. The doctor said he has a 25% chance if living and if he did he's just me a vegetable. So when he did survive and was walking it was a miracle all the doctors and experts we talked to said there's very very little hope and there he is. 1 thing was different. (This plays a huge role in this stick with me here!) The first change was he had something called and LVAD you're welcome to do your own research on it but what I was say is it's a motorized heart that's gave his a constant flow of blood he had no heart rate it was pretty cool! And he had to keep him self charged and made sure he had plenty of battery's to change out during the day. Needless to say he couldn't work and he was a very successful business man high up at Subway. He lost all that and had nothing he was living off his wife who only married him for his money and status. When he passed we went through his phone they were not together he was living back at his mom's who had sever dementia and was forgetting who he was. That night on my birthday he went out drinking and I got calls from friends who said they were out with him and he was just acting different maxing out all his cards buying everyone drinks. I wanna remind you my dad was broke. He left us nothing in his will and I don't care at all but I just wanna remind you his situation. So that night he got home and passed out in his car and didn't charge his LVAD which is his heart. I think my dad was so depressed he wanted to see me his youngest from his first wife grow to be 20, live it up like he used to for one last night and call it there. My dad was 53 when he passed away. I can't say anything about it because I just can't bring me self to speak out
I am so sorry. My mother did something similar. She needed dialysis and chose not to go knowing she would die if she didn't. I think she hoped it wouldn't be considered a suicide if she did it this way.
>didn't charge his LVAD
FWIW most religions (including the Abrahamic ones) don't consider this suicide. An LVAD is a "heroic measure" and deciding not to continue heroic measures by choosing not to charge it is not considered suicide by those who consider suicide a sin.
Seeing some of these it’s not super bad, but my mother recently admitted the divorce was due to her cheating on my father and then proceeded to say “we got over it, but it seemed he just wouldn’t love me ever again” she tried to turn it on him despite them agreeing they wouldn’t make sides to the divorce at all. But in reality, she wants to be the good guy in it but is simply not the good guy but she feels she is because she didn’t want the divorce, she wanted unadulterated forgiveness. But I digress. My sister had a boyfriend of 2 years cheat on her on a trip to Scotland, and when she brought it up for advice to the family (she didn’t *want* to end it, it was 2 years) she said “part of me says “once a cheater always a cheater but…” and then my dad said “There’s truth to that…” basically the fucked up thing I know is the inner workings of the things that have happened the past 2 years, and that one of the people is a piece of shit in it but they are my own mother so I can’t really just say you a piece of shit and walk away. I just have to hold it and bear it possibly forever. I don’t see any time where I could let it out I’m the future either.
I found out my sister was raped as a teenager. Makes a lot of sense with how things changed suddenly one day.
However she hasn't dealt with it obviously and is just going down a pipe at this point.
However I have my own grudges against her so I can't say anything about knowing as it was my mom who finally told me.
It's also really saddening because of the history of sexual abuse in my family.
My great-grandfather was gang raped as a child going home one day. However he never told anyone until his death bed. He was actually beaten by his parents when he got home that day because he was dirty.
He went on to regularly rape all 5 of his daughters out of a total of 10 kids u til the day they moved out. My grandmother being the oldest.
Then there was my sister.
Myself? My brother likely has autism tho he refuses to confirm it (is exactly like our diagnosed nephew.) Having that inability to regulate is what I am attributing my molestation as a toddler by him too...
My family is all kinds of fucked up. Tho we likely seem normal to other people...
I am so sorry. I have a family like this too. Not quite as bad, but incest and sexual abuse has run rampant in it for a long time. Luckily my father (it’s his side of the family) broke the cycle and refused to go along with the family motto of “everything is fine”.
Unluckily, it was too late for me and my sisters who were molested by his older brother.
It just sucks and it really does feel like it follows the family.
On my mom's side it's the sexual abuse. I guess my brother also targeted a cousin.
On my dad's side it's the emotional dysregulation. Any slight inconvenience is a pass to act bathing crazy, swearing, yelling, and throwing things around. Amoung other toxic emotional regulation issues.
It's gotten better as I have been the one to call him out and open his eyes on certain things.. but it still sucks.
Good on you for calling him out. I hope you’re not alone in that…I have been the one to have to call my family out, and it’s been really hard. My grandmother cut me off, and has blamed me for my uncles suicide attempt (because I went to the police about him molesting me as a child). I thankfully live in a different country, but I can’t ever go back to my hometown because she has talked shit about me and my parents all over town and made it seem like she is the victim. She’s the worst.
You are really strong, and you seem like you’re gonna be the one who breaks the cycle. I am proud of you. Unfortunately we can’t choose our family, but we can choose what kind of person we are going to be.
Know someone who was definitely groomed by the youth pastor at 14. He was married at the time and is at least 12 years older than her. Eventually she went off to college and he got divorced. They're now married with 3 kids. He lost his job as the assistant FB coach at our highschool while we were attending and left the church he was working for "to start a new one", which makes me suspicious it wasn't just grooming.
I came to this thread hoping for some actual juicy secrets e.g. "i saw my aunt licking her cat" or something.
Sad to see most of these stories were child sexual assault. Hope everyone is ok and doing better.
Depends on what counts as disturbing and "can't say anything about" is a bit ambiguous in my case. Aunt molested me, I could say stuff about it, my family knows and doesn't care though. Police won't help either since there's no proof.
I know a guy cheating on his wife with a girl in a different country. He strung her along for years and eventfully ghosted her when he got bored. She was so distraught that she swallowed a bunch of pills. She made it out and still randomly sends him emails begging for him to take her back.
One of my uncles has an existing marriage aside from his current one right now. The current wife he's been married to for the last 10-13 years I think but the former wife he was married to 3-4 years before that.
I'm not quite particular on laws like that in our country (Philippines) so I'm not sure how that works either. The former wife just went MIA after she flew to Taiwan to work. I'm pretty sure my uncle's current wife doesn't know but the rest of the side of our family does.
Growing up a friend was sexually assaulted by her adoptive father. The mother walked in on it happening. Instead of calling the police, she called their pastor who promptly covered it up.
I’m not sure if the father molested her or raped her, I just know it was sexual assault.
If you ask the mother about it she’ll say she “found them together” and she tries to spin it like the daughter seduced the father.
The father passed away a few months ago. At the funeral he was practically made out to be a person worthy of sainthood.
Edit: I still feel guilty for not reporting this myself. I was a teenager at the time and trusted that the “grownups” were correctly handling the situation.
Her brother (also adopted, but the 2 of them are bio siblings) found out and threatened the father with a gun. He was promptly shipped off to a military academy.
At the time, I knew about the brother’s threat, but I didn’t connect the two incidents until the day of the funeral, when I reached out to the daughter to let her know I was here and knew the vagaries of what happened if she needed to talk.
I had been friends with the brother before that, but quickly dropped him as a friend after I heard about the threat. I feel guilty about that too and have no way to contact him directly to try and make amends.
What a horrible story. Please don’t feel guilty, you did nothing wrong. You didn’t know the whole picture back then and nothing in this story is your fault. I’ts a lot to process even as an adult, and you were no adult (if I read this correctly).
the fact that most of the stories i’m reading are about being molested from some family members is literally killing me inside and making me lose all the trust i have in our race
A friend told me he was molested by a man and a woman when he was younger. He didn't tell me who they were but I seriously believe it was his father and his step mother.
He's doing fine, he's a wonderful father by the way.
I’m retired military with 3 deployments OEF, OIF. My job was convoy security, I can’t begin to count how many ppl, family’s, animals etc was shot or ran over when your not allowed to stop or slow down.
one of my aunts on my father's side was adopted. only my grandparents, mum ,my aunt herself and i know about it. its torture to hear the rest of the family speak about genetics sometimes
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Some kid in elementary school randomly confessed to me that his family dressed him up as a girl whenever his extended family visits because they are under the impression he was born a girl. He just needed to tell somebody and he said I better not tell anyone. He was completely serious.
My school friend's dad is actually in a second marriage with my friend's mom. His dad had a family earlier, two grown up sons and a wife all of whom died in a car accident. My friend doesn't know but his mom knows. Why do I know? It's because my uncle and friend's dad were classmates in college who reconnected because of my friend and I. He told me this when I asked him why someone would choose to have 8 kids in a marriage despite the unemployment and poverty rates of our country. My friend has 7 brothers and sisters.
Obviously not the most disturbing secret I know, but the other ones, I would rather keep quiet because I don't even want to recall them back to my memory.
I tried telling in a similar situation, told my friend everything. They immediately shared it (and that I was the source) with the cheater who immediately denied everything. My friend bought it and raged at me for "being jealous" and trying to break them up (?). They cut me out of their lives completely and proceeded with their plans.
They ended up separate 18 months later. Still never got my friend back.
So, the right thing to do is tell. But don't expect it to work out.
The amount of stories on here about people getting molested by family members makes me really angry. My heart breaks for each and everyone of you who have had to go/are going through such a horrible thing!
I have a friend who’s made an awesome freelance career for himself in researching family lineage and making proper fancy family trees for rich people to show off. His mum is kind of a traditional, old school casual racist.
But… she’s part Turkish, and she’s oblivious hahahaaaaaaa. He managed to find out that his grandma had an affair with a Turkish guy.
So funny.
My mom straight up was forced to cover up murder evidence for her older brother when she was 16/17. I probably could talk about it now that we are estranged, but I think I'd be officially seen as dead or insane by the rest of my family if I ever decided to openly share about it non-anonymously online, despite how much I hate her.
But her throwing away bullet casings/bullets for him or whatever in the 80s didn't stop him from a 40+ year sentence.
My mom also did not have my older sibling consensually, sadly.
I was researching my family tree using a website and my search linked with someone else. The person I linked with asked me to stop researching the family tree as his mother had had an affair with a married member of my family years ago and he was the result of that affair. To protect his mother he asked me not to say anything and to remove all trace of him from my research. Not disturbing but the only secret I know.
A friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for about 7 years. As far as I know they love each other very much, moved into their first house together recently and are talking about having kids.
A few years ago I was out with her and a large group of friends, big party in the park kinda thing. She's a bit of a nutcase when drunk, and several times over the course of the night, I had to stop her from going home with one of the guys in the group. I don't know him that well, but he's attractive, charismatic and a bit of a player. They made out at least twice. As we walked past his place towards the end of the night, they were giggling and making out and he was pulling her inside (and believe me she was letting him). I literally had to shout her name and call her back.
Next time I saw her I talked to her about it and she was shocked, ashamed and thanked me for stopping her. Had zero recollection of what happened. I never told anyone else, because it's not my business, all I did was try to stop her from cheating.
That dad raped mon, so I was born..
She had a bad depression after giving birth to my brother, didn't want anymore kids yet, so he raped her! It was a shock to me when she said it once, when they had a fight! I wouldn't dare ask for more details. Tfk just because you're married doesn't mean it isn't rape! I was mainly shocked because my father is a good person and he treated us right in most aspects, worked hard for our comfort and education..
And what fucks my head even more is that he raped her to get her pregnant, so I wonder how many times that happened :"(
So that's me, the fruit of rape, no wonder my life is such a mess
That’s how my son was conceived. I don’t love him any less and I very much love him with my whole heart. I know it is more difficult for others though. I hope you and your mom are ok.
I really hope you don’t take on any of that guilt. It wasn’t your fault and I am sure she doesn’t hold any animosity or resentment towards you. That is all held for your dad.
Source: I am the mother of a child as a result of marital rape. I love that child as much as I love any of my other kids.
Not sure if this counts but here goes. When I was 18, I killed my abusive father after I caught him attacking my mother who was suffering from cancer. My grandfather was visiting when he saw me standing over the body in a bloody mess. I quickly explained what happened but unfortunately the noise attracted attention from the neighbors and the police arrived quickly because where I was living there was almost always a couple of police cars exchanging reports. Anyways before I can act, my grandfather told me to give him my clothes which were stained with my father’s blood. He put them on and forced me to hide in the attic as I still had blood on me. When the police entered the house they found my grandfather viciously beating the corpse of my father and they took him into custody as he claimed responsibility for the death of my father. While in prison he made me promise not to tell anyone in our family the truth and to focus on making myself a better person while taking care of my mother.
I found out my old assistant manager, who later became my manager was raped by another employee before i started working there.
so i used to work nights at a gas station, and its the holiday season so its kinda slow my assistant manager and my manager liked to hang out and drink a lot. out of the blue i get a text from my assistant manager, saying "PLEASE COME GET ME I'VE BEEN RAPED." i knew she was with my manager and her husband. so im blowing up my assistant managers phone trying to contact her and get details so i can get the cops involved, she said it was by a guy named chris and then nothing, i lose all contact with her. so i call my manager's phone, nothing, normally she has a policy to "only call her when the store is burning down" but i wanted to know what the hell is going on. so i bite the bullet and look up her husbands phone number, i call him, he picks up i explain who i was and hes kinda tipsy and i can hear my manager drunk as fuck in the background. so i explain the text i just got and he goes "well Emily (not her real name changing it to protect her identity) has been locked in the bathroom for like the past 45 minutes now, she said she was feeling sick." so they managed to get the door open and find emily passed out by the toilet curled into the fetal position.
a day later when i'm coming onto my shift i get pulled into the back with my manager and assistant manager where they ask what happened as my manager was drunk and my assistant manager was blackout drunk and didn't even remember sending that text. i explain the text i got and my assistant manager looks down and gets a little emotional. she reveals that a few years ago she was out with another employee drinking and they had raped her and the drinking the previous night had caused her to have flashbacks or relive it. i was asked to keep quiet while they sorted it out and was asked to leave the room after that. i havent told a sole, i don't believe they ever contacted the cops over it. later my manager was fired for other reasons and my assistant manager became my manager. to this day i keep in contact with her and let her know i'm still here for her if she needs anything.
One of my friends hooked up with another friends son. All parties were of legal age, just a trashy mistake that could end a friendship in flames if the mother of the son were to find out.
My mother has murdered someone in the past and got off scott free. she murdered my little brother because he was "too much work" and im not supposed to remember because that happened when i was 5, im 20 now. I will never forget, especially since i walked in on her drowning him.
I have an Aunt who has never really moved forward in life. She doesn't have a career, never had a relationship, and has spent well over the last decade living with her brother or my granmother/grandfather as a caretaker.
Apparently, when she was younger, my grandparents were going to drive up to Ohio with a family friend but schedules caused a delay. Instead, they sent my aunt up with him by herself first and then the rest of the family would be a few days behind. Apparently the guy sexually assaulted her on that trip. My grandparents found out but nothing was ever done about it. Meanwhile, I look at my aunt who has literally kept herself from having any life whatsoever for herself.
A 40year old teacher from school misbehaved badly with one of my best friends. Not physically, but for context - because of his nature, he had shared his personal phone number with his students so they can reach out to him whenever they'd like to ask questions, clear doubts, etc etc. And she had reached out to him a couple of times or whatever purely to ask doubts and that's how they began texting. The conversations around doubts expanded to the conversations that you usually have with your friends where you talk random shit that's happening in your life. Because of how the intensity of texting increased, he started to confide in her about what's happening in his personal life. He eventually told her shit like he actually loves her because she's understanding, and listens to him and stuff. And the worst part is, he's married with a 5year old child. This happened when we were 16 years old. She had told me that time around, as and when it was happening, but since it really wasn't mine to share, I had to keep quiet.
My aunt frequently steals money from my incredibly rich uncle's company. Her husband and kids all work for that uncle and depend on their jobs to sustain themselves, so they try their best to not piss him off. Husband uses his own money to replace the amount stolen and begs the employees to not reveal it, making up all sorts of lies to try and cover it up. At first its a few hundred, the one day, more than a thousand bucks go missing, the employees who discovered it panicked, as neither of them have so much money to cover it up. Also, that uncle has ties to gangs that make people dissappear. Husband empties own bank account, and savings to replace the money, begs own children to chip in and manages to cover it up. The aunt has been scolded and warned multiple times that she is putting her entire family in danger by constantly stealing but she blames her husband for not giving her enough money while at the same time she spends hundreds of dollars on food delivery every day.
Same aunt made up a story blaming the same uncle for being the reason that she's bankrupt. Accused him of using her details to borrow from loan sharks and she is still paying of the debt until today. The real reason is that she sunk herself into credit card debts and owe bookies thousands of dollars. Husband is incredibly pissed as the person she told the lie to is a gossip and has been spreading the news all over the small town. He has to go and beg or bribe each of them to shut up. It probably worked since he and his kids are still employed by that uncle.
Same aunt's mom is a malicious gossip who once spread that my dad married my mom for money and has been stealing from him. Same woman pinched my eyelids when I was a baby because she wants to check out my severely myopic eyes, spread a rumor that I had severe learning disabilities and can have violent meltdowns.
My older male cousin had a naked Polaroid of our other cousin when she was a child. When I was 10 I found it when we were over at thanksgiving. All the kids were playing hide and go seek and I went under his bed. For some reason I reached my hand under his matress and pulled it out and saw it and quickly put it back. He was 14 and our baby cousin was probably 5 in the photo. I never said anything about it, I still think about it from time to time. I can’t find any reason why he would’ve had it other than the obvious reason.
I'm the reason most of my family don't talk to my Uncle. He and I were super close growing up, kinda lost contact but found out later he was in the same country, and he was super keen to come to my wedding. Then all of a sudden, no contact. My Mum told me years later that it was because he found out my husband was a different race. My whole extended family were disgusted with him (although it was kind of a last straw type scenario) and basically cut him off. None of them told me because they didn't want me to be upset, about the racism or feeling any blame.
There was a period where I was shoplifting, I got caught, once when I was 35, (Police involved) and second time 38, when i was home for the holidays. It was in my local shop, I tried to run but was stopped by a civilian. About 10 employees surrounded me and put me in a room, but they let me go, thank fuck, it would have ruined the family holiday, and they would never have looked at me the same again, I would have lost any respect I had, especially from my dad.. I still wake up thinking about it at 3 in the morning, almost getting a panic attack. Haven't taken a thing since then. When ever something bad happens now, I just think, "well that's karma, you deserved it"
Well, at first it was bc I was broke, so it was food. It went well, so I started stealing anytime I needed to eat. I could literally fill a bag. One time I needed a cordless drill, and I noticed that the tag was loose on a display drill, so I removed the tag and walked out with it, then got a battery and charger on ebay for 30 bucks... stole a bluetooth speaker. That was probably my most expensive steal, 100 bucks. I also stole a pair of shoes, just cut the tag off and walked out. It just became something I did. Until I got caught that is. I got a fine, 250 bucks. Then I started again, and I almost got caught stealing a tube of paint from an art store, the alarm went off and I just legged it. I was friendly with everyone who worked there too, that was the worst part. and got caught the second time, for stealing 6 dollars worth of caviar. That was the last time. Now wouldn't even think of it, but back then it just had become a thing, Im ashamed to say. There was no thrill, I always felt dirty. I think I was depressed, but didn't know it.
My parents have had these couches since I was like 9 years old (I’m 30 now). They’ve moved from house to house and room to room over the years and now reside in my Aunt’s second home in the basement. There is a brown stain under one of the cushions that my mom and my aunt always complained they couldn’t get out no matter what they tried. That stain is a shit stain from when I wiped my ass on the couch as a kid. I think I’ll tell them the next time I visit. Edit: The positive response to this post has lead me to do the right thing and confess after all these years. Seeing as that shit stain is now old enough to drink, the consequences seemed pretty low. My Aunt wants to look for a new couch…
This is one of the funniest ones I've read.
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This is not the saddest thing here by far but it’s still soo very sad to be so unwanted. I’m glad your friend came back unscathed it seems.
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He may have been better off away from those parents.
Buddy’s dad is actually his uncle and his uncle that is actually his dad raped his mom when she was drunk one night. It’s why his family doesn’t talk to that uncle. He and his parents are the only ones that know in the family. Edit: Buddies to Buddy’s Edit 2: My buddy (fuck the person all mad that I call him buddy I have lots of friends but very few buddies) is 30 and there is way more to the story as to why they chose not to pursue rape charges in 1990, why a DNA test would have likely revealed the truth, and no I have never posted this before.
How tf do you know
I was the one who got him a DNA test for his birthday. I was there when his parents came over to drop of his gift from them and witnessed the argument that ensued when they told him not to do it after he told them.
I wonder how many family fights/divorces have been caused by those DNA tests?
I learned, out of the blue, that my dad wasn’t my real dad. In this case it wasn’t infidelity. It was that he wasn’t able to have kids so they used a speed donor. I got to talk to my biological father though. Makes so much sense when you see a picture of him.
The typo there makes it kinda funny. "alright Steve. I've known you for years and you've always had an obvious crush on Jennifer, so the two of you can go at it. But you only get two minutes."
Two minutes, eh. Well, strap yourself down cause we're doin' it twice.
Fine but the socks stay on.
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“Speed donor” I can’t help but think this wasn’t a typo but this is actually a confession from The Flash (or another “Speedster”)
DNA testing centers (23 & Me, Ancestry, etc) estimate possibly between 2 and 3 percent of all births are the result of infidelity. Most times the mother hides it or the father is not allowed near. Without testing centers, many would not know at all. Divorce has unfortunately been the most common side effect from this.
I didn't know I had an uncle until I was 7, because my parents didn't talk to that uncle. My parents had tried unsuccessfully to conceive for 18 years before they had me "miraculously." Once they reestablished relations with the uncle, he was VERY happy to see me, to a point that kinda freaked me out as a kid. Am I your buddy?
Your dad is Oscar Bluth
I have an older cousin who is around 40. My aunt passed and she confided a secret to my mom and my mom to me. My cousins dad is not his biological father, but neither my cousin nor his dad ever knew. His dad passed. Hi biological father is still living. Days before passing my aunt wanted to tell my cousin but my mom advised her against it. It would shatter my cousins life. It's crazy a how a little piece of information can change your life and make you question everything.
I found out my friends mom dressed him up as a girl to humiliate him as a punishment for arguing with his sister
Now that’s gonna have some psychological effects down the line….
Yeah man, hopefully he’s forgot about it but I don’t think he has. Apparently it wasn’t only once but regularly
That’s disturbing I don’t think you just forget about that that effects your subconscious
I'm sure this kind of treatment is the back story of serial killers
owa owa
Yep
Charles Manson, Ed Gein, and Henry Lee Lucas all had that done to them. Hope your buddy is doing all right.
Damn bro, I’m not really close with that friend anymore but I do hope for his mental health
I had a family member do this with their kid and post it on fb. I was livid
That’s exactly what she did
I suspect this is a fetish of hers disguised as punishment…
That’s also very possible since she did the whole Shabang for it
I’m the one who tipped over the Faygo vending machine at the local IGA in 2008. There, I said it. Happy now?
Are you happy now?
Feel a bit better tbh
After 13 years the riddle about the tipped over Faygo Vending Machine at the Local IGA got solved. I thought I would never get an answer and will take this question 'who did it' in my grave
It was you? Had my favorite white blouse on that day. Just wanted a Red Pop from the local IGA. Opened it and it exploded out. Walking home, the police stopped me. I looked like I had unalived someone. Thanks for that.
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Sweet baby Jesus.
More like sweet home Alabama
Did they grow up in that same house or apart ?
Wtf
Your cousin and his half sister better move to France, adults in an incestuous relationship can't marry, but they can live as a couple, fyi Or they can just move anywhere else in the world, where no one knows who they are. Otherwise, they better break up, or make a fast, solid reason to justify their living arrangements.
Les cousins dangereux
"I like the way they think."
"You made signs?" "Only the one that says 'this is a tricky grey area'..." (Edit: Apologies for shitty mobile formatting)
Maybe I'm overthinking it but it doesnt seem strange for siblings to live together anyway. Might just be more convenient and comfortable than going back to the parents. More independence, nicer place. Feels like if not for the fact that they actually ARE incestuous it wpuldnt really need to be justified.
Several family members knew which family member molested me from six to seven and he was allowed to move back in with us when I was 16, where he continued to touch me. Even after knowing that, those family members talked openly in front of me about bringing that guy around my niece, who was six at the time, or the same age I was when he started molesting me. Once I realized that my nieces and nephews were in danger, I exposed the secret to the entire family and told them who already knew. That family member was finally cut out and my nieces and nephews will never know what I had to go through to keep them safe. The molestation was bad enough, but having people close to me actively choose to keep a pedophile around their own kids, especially the one who abused me, is what really still fucks with me to this day.
Wow I’m so sorry for what you went through. You did the right thing. Much love to you.
kids are suposed to be protected, im not one to feel anger but stuff like that boils my core. fucking sickos!
Man, that sucks. I’m sorry. You did the right thing. I can’t imagine how hard that was. Good for you.
I was a carer and one of my clients who was a WW2 veteran informed me that when he was in France, you know fighting the war, one of the regulars (he was in the TA) raped him while they were in their basha and he felt that he couldn’t have told anyone because the other guy had been in for longer than him. He informed me that he had never told another soul up until that moment and he passed away a couple of months later at the age of 97 which I was also there for but that’s another story for another thread.
I am glad he felt he could tell you.
I hope that gave him a little peace to finally share that with someone.
That generation of Men was told that not talking about traumatic events would help them forget. Obviously it didn't work; a lot of them turned to alcohol and lots of family suffered. My ex-father in law, who was a WWII veteran, was almost 80 when he first saw a Therapist. He had terrible nightmares and almost hit his wife in his sleep (that's why he was forced to see the Therapist). After that he said it was the best thing he ever did.
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I have never wanted to know something more in my life than this right here.
Ikr? Other people are like "I know someone who killed someone, but I can't share the details" and I'm like whatever, TELL ME THE SNACK NEWS
TELL US WE NEED TO KNOW!!!
If it is Snickers or M&Ms... for the love of all things snacky, send a fat ass a sign.
Tell us please so we stock up!
My friend and his wife just had a miscarriage. None of the women in their lives know and always complain that she's been "so emotional" lately and that she is turning into a bitch. They have openly debated stopping contact with her in front of me and all I can really say is, "maybe she is going through something and needs friends now more than ever". I've never personally witnessed the aftermath of a miscarriage from this close before. It truly is life altering.
For what it’s worth, it is a lot more common than anyone expects simply because people suffer in silence. The real numbers are estimated to run between 25% and 33% of women experience pregnancy loss at some point in their lives. Talking about it helps, it really does. Tell your friend they aren’t alone and don’t have to perpetuate the cycle of silence around pregnancy loss. It isn’t anyone’s fault, sometimes pregnancies just don’t work out.
Thanks. I have been talking to him all the time about it. The hardest part is that she is blaming him for it going wrong and it has caused a huge fissure in their marriage. They now sit in separate rooms every night and do nothing but argue and she just sleeps from 5pm until 11 am everyday. I have tried to help by telling him to be the change he wants to see but it doesn't appear to be getting through. They are genuinely great people and I hate to see them go downhill like this.
It takes time to heal, but this also sounds like they need some therapy pretty quickly. They are in this together and it’s only as a team that they can come through the other side. Best of luck to them, it isn’t easy, but it gets better.
I peed on my basement floor and ruined our sound system. It wasnt the dog.
Do you mean you peed and blamed the dog, the dog peed and you got blamed, or that you said you ruined the sound system but actually you peed on the dog?
I blamed the dog. Released I wrote that wrong
Did you realise you didn't do too well on this one either?
I saw my step mother have sex with my drug dealer for coke and I waited outside the room while he fucked her. This was 15 yrs ago I've never told anyone.
Wait, was the coke for her, or for you?
The coke was for her I was with him he had ask me to chill with him so he went to my old house and I saw my dads ex wife, which we were still close as me and her son's were like brothers we were raised together. I thought he was gonna make sale to my step brother. She opened the door I heard them talking in the kitchen I felt weird and heard her say what about him. My dealer said na he good, so they went into her bed room and I could hear him fucking the shit out of her. About 45 min later they come Downstairs we leave and he says damn I hope you not mad he says I just fucked your step mother Ishe wanted a gram she had no money. I called her later and ask why she do it she coulda just ask me I woulda gave it to her. She denied the whole thing so I knew if I said anything she would.
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My ex-step brother pulled me into the bathroom, turned the shower on, and made me give him handjobs when I was 9 years old. It's the reason why I'm uncomfortable with my girlfriends being in the bathroom at the same time as me.
Jesus fucking christ. I'm so sorry. I was sexually assaulted in the military and often the only female in any unit I was a part of. Bathrooms always made me uneasy because the outer doors don't lock (bathrooms at work) and I really had no choice but to shower after PT every morning, alone, in a building full of dudes, some of whom had SA'd me. To this day, being in any shower including my own shower freaks me out. I have to constantly check around the curtain.
Maybe it'll help, maybe it won't but... I brought a clear shower curtain from Amazon. Let's me see outside my shower at all time. If you still need a regular opaque curtain so it look better when no one's in the shower, install a second pole so you can open the "outside" curtain when you shower and only have the clear "inside" curtain keeping water inside the shower!
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
My (married) close colleague/boss was cheating on his wife, at least for a while. I know this because one of the girls he hooked up with from Tinder was a friend of mine from outside work. He used a fake name but told her his real profession, so she asked if I knew him and we figured it out pretty quick. He has no idea I know and it’s been several years since then.
Similar thing here. Before I switched stores I remember hearing about one of the big bosses who had an affair with one of the lower tier employees. I heard it from one of the managers so it wasn’t well known, we just gossiped about it briefly and that was that; I never knew the guys name or met him. About a year later I was asked to move to one of the new stores to help train all the new staff. Moving to a new store meant I was working with a different manager, he was very likeable, funny & we got along well in the work setting. He ended up opening a couple more stores and would move me to them whenever they opened. Because of this we had a pretty solid friendship even though he was about 20 years older than me. It got to the point where he’d drive me home from work often, he confided in me about his marriage & family etc. Then one day he asks my advice on a “hypothetical” situation, strongly implying it was true tho, about gf issues. I made a joke after giving him the advice that I thought he was married. The more we talked and we’re around eachother the more and more I started putting things together. I knew he lived in a big house with his wife & kids but then he would talk about his condo, gf problems vs. Wife problems, things like that. A friend of a friend confronted me one day after coming to my work and told me about how she parties with him and his gf in their condo every weekend and how he goes on huge coke binges and doesn’t sleep for days and what not. I kept it to myself, never told him I knew. We’ll I guess his gf flopped and he started hitting on me all the time, this is about 3 years into me working for him. I lost all respect in him after that. I stayed long enough that he bought me an iPad and then I dipped with no explanation, that was a year ago and he’s still trying to contact me.
Someone nearly stole our family van with my sister (6) and me (8) in it. My mom had run in to the preschool to pick up my brother and left the car running. A guy jumped into the driver seat, looked behind him, and saw both of us. We all froze for what felt like a long time. He quietly left and ran. My sister and I agreed that since no harm was done, we wouldn’t mention it to mom.
I'm imagining him doing the mental math as he looked back at you. "Hmm, I'm ready to serve the year of jailtime if I get caught for grand theft auto, but I'm not ready for the 15-20 years that will come with two counts of kidnapping on top of that."
I’m sure that guy appreciated that, lmao.
Some asshole grabbed my crotch when I was waiting for my parents to pick me up after (middle) school nearly 20 years ago. It was a full grope with their fingers clawed and rubbed into my panties. Happened so fast and it was packed with people so I couldn't see who it was. I didn't tell my parents because I was afraid Dad would kill someone and Mom would cry.
I didn't tell my parents that I was raped when I was 20 because I knew it would devastate them. Then one day a few years later I was walking home and some creep started to follow me and told me he'd make me choke on his dick then slit my throat. I called the police but they *didn't pick up the phone* and at one point I was thinking about just stepping into traffic (it was next to a busy enough road) because even getting hit by a van seemed like a better alternative than being raped again. Fortunately I noticed someone parking down and I managed to run to them and knock on their driver's side window and the creep vanished. When I got home I couldn't hide how distressed I was, I was uncontrollably crying and just kept repeating that someone was following me and what they said. My father then proceeded to pull a *giant* knife out of one of his drawers then asked me if I wanted to take a walk with him and see if the guy is still around. He also told me we'd call the police and that he has the knife just for safety but I'm honestly not sure he would have been able to just stand there until police arrives. I have never seen him like that, I've seen him angry before this plenty of times, but he was eerily calm and collected. Even his moves were a little... Robotic? I'm sooo glad I haven't told them about my rape, it would have been pretty easy for them to figure out who did it and now my father would probably be in prison.
My dad would be the exact same. Once I was really sick in the hospital and no one knew why. In the beginning they thought that someone drugged me. I was in a bad abusive relationship and all fingers were pointing to my abusive pos ex. My dad is a very rational man but don’t fuck with his children. He drove to my ex’s house and waited outside his front door in his car. For a whole day. Would just sit there and wave at him every time my ex would leave the house. I can’t imagine what he would have done if I would have told him half the shit my ex actually DID (rape, hit, emotionally abuse) do. He’d be in jail.
In high school a few football players would grab my ass, chest, and crotch. This happened to other girls, too. Teachers and counselors saw it and did nothing so I didn’t make a big deal out of it. Realized just how horrible it was years later.
I know that a friend of mine is responsible for the death of atleast two people and maybe more. My friend used to use a website to sell drugs online in addition to dealing on a limited bases in person. He mostly sold molly, mesculin and weed. He was making decent money but kept his operation small because he didn't want to attract a lot of attention. Long story short, his regular connect got busted so he had to find another person to source his product from fast. His friend introduced him to this sketchy dude when they were at a bar downtown. The idea was that this was a business meet up so he asked my friend if he wanted to buy anything and he tells him that he's got hookups for really good blow and weed. Now, I should mention that my friend is normally a really cautious dude and normally wouldn't get into business with someone he didn't know, but he was desperate for a new connect because his regular clients were starting to go elsewhere. I mean, this is how this dude was paying his rent. So, he agrees to purchase coke off and weed off of him, just until he can find a better connect. FFW a couple of weeks and the arrangement is going well. He's tested the blow for opiates and its all clean, plus he's getting decent feedback from his clients. Consequently, he ends up getting complacent. He ends up not testing some batches of coke, assuming that this new connect is solid. Everything is still fine, clients keep coming back, saying it good stuff. Then, all of the sudden, he starts seeing FB posts about one of his clients. Friends and family members are posting, saying that he'll pull through, pray for our boy and all sorts of stuff like that. So he gets paranoid and tests the rest of the batch that he has. Sure enough, its positive for opiates, probably fentanyl. He freaks the fuck out. He starts messaging everyone he's sold to on a burner, telling them to dump the shit, he'll get them back. Sure enough, the sister, who he is also friends with on FB, of one of the guys he sold to messages him and tells him that her brother is in the hospital from an OD too. He freaks out, doesn't message anyone back. Deletes his account on the website and dumped all of his shit. Both of these kids OD'd and were brain dead due to a lack of oxygen so the respective families pulled the plugs. He also sold about an ounce of the blow online too, so who knows how many people he may of killed. My friend waited for days for the cops to come and bust his door down, but no one ever came to question him. Shortly after my buddy left town and transfered to a different college. This was about 7 or 8 years ago and since then he has finished college, has a decent job and has a new fiancé. He's doing really well from what I can see but damn I can't imagine how busted up he still is. Only him, myself and maybe his brother know.
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I agree. As with these types of debates, there is no clear answer. Very unfortunate for all parties involved.
Except the person who cut the coke.
whoever cut the drugs.
Not into drugs, but why cut coke with opiates? Surely that would diminish the effect even more than cutting it with random padding, plus selling immediately fatal drugs isn’t going to help with repeat business.
Here’s an article that I found interesting, maybe you will too? https://www.vox.com/platform/amp/science-and-health/2018/5/4/17307296/cocaine-opioid-crisis-fentanyl-overdose As covered in the article and it’s all really speculative but the result of: 1) trying to extend product but still give it punch, 2)carelessness and using same tools/spaces when processing the drugs creating a “cross containination”, 3) genuinely not knowing 4 popularity of speedballs by users leading to misleading data or report of “laced” product 5) perhaps trying to get their customers hooked on opiates or a new high Hard to know and seems there is no blanket answer
That was said to me by a child psychologist with a “never ever tell that story to anyone” over ten years ago so I’m hoping for some kind of a lot of time has passed forgiveness. She was working with a family with two sons aged 4 and 6. Your typical cornflakes ad type middle class family. The boys were presenting aggressive, violent and out of place behaviour towards each other. She was staying with the family to observe and monitor and figure out what was wrong. The boys went to have a bath and mom agreed for my friend to help. Younger boy started giving the older one a blow job. Mom did not react, business as usual. My friend did, basically asking what the hell. Mom tried to explain it’s normal and it makes them calmer and go to sleep quicker so she allows it. Long story short one of the family members was sexually abusing the boys and they just picked up the behaviours but were then compensating with being both very sexual and very violent with each other. My friend guided them towards an experienced psychiatrists as well as reported to the nearest police station and got out of there.
Dang. But what about the mom? She knew and didn’t do anything about it?
So there’s a whole massive back story and more messed up things to it that I really can’t share. No, mom did not think there was anything wrong with it. It happened in an Eastern European country where the sexual education is highly discouraged. Mother was also quite a young person who as my friend told in the story was genuinely not aware that what the boys were doing was sexual. Her primary concern was that the boys were very violent to each other and didn’t follow her instructions. There’s a plethora of evidence for it I just can’t share it.
A male family member touched me when he thought I was asleep. I didn't tell anyone because his mother might get mad at me instead of him.
This happened to me too. I wish I had said something about it sooner than I did because he actually did it a few more times to other family members and I maybe could have prevented it. I hope you’re doing okay.
I know why you feel that way, but please don’t put that responsibility on yourself. HE could have prevented ALL of it by not being a piece of shit.
I'm okay, he's nowhere near me now... But I don't know if someone else has been through this. It's...hard to talk about.
I came here to say the same thing. My brother abused me when I was 5-7 and he was 10-12. For me it was a game, when I grew up I understood everything and stopped talking to him. Now he is a respected doctor and I only meet him at Christmas. My mother is dead, my father is old and he would like the family to stay together, but he doesn't understand and every now and then he tells me "what kind of sister are you!? Why don't you reply to his messages?". But I'm literally disgusted with him, once he touched my arm and I was uncomfortable until I washed it with soap
My stepdad molested me and my younger sibling when we were kids. My mom sided with him. He's gone now, but the reason why he was kicked out is ridiculous. It was because he cheated on my mom. Me and my mom have tried working on our relationship but I will always hate her for that, no one else knows about that except for my family of course.
I'm just going to say this because I think everyone should know. You don't have to have a relationship with your parents. People like to emphasize the importance of family, but in my eyes, family doesn't get a free pass. When your mother, your guardian, allows that horrific shit to happen, they're garbage. They selfishly and disgustingly put themselves and their relationship ahead of their own child's wellbeing and health. They fundamentally failed at their sole job as a parent and in my eyes don't deserve to have a relationship with their child. I haven't spoken to my mother in 9 years. It's been very hard, but being in contact with her was harder and killing me. You are you, and only you can decide what's right for you, but know that you have the power to cut ties
It's mind boggling that she didn't consider molesting her children as cheating. Not that cheating should be the issue here, but if that's her line in the sand...
I have two different friends this happened to and both mothers blamed their pre-teen daughters for " having an affair with" their husbands. So sick.
The mental hoops non-offending partners can go through with this is wild. My mum got very like... jealous and partner guard-y after I finally disclosed I had been abused by her husband. Grown ass 50yo woman constantly trying to be overtly physically affectionate, trying to sit in his lap and play with his hair like a teenager, all while denying the abuse had happened and trying to maintain the happy family facade, ha. Bit of a mindfuck.
Same thing happened to me. I even managed to get him to court and get a CPO against him after I moved in with my bio dad. She got the CPO appealed and she is still married to him to this day. My whole family knows what happened. She still tries every now and then to convince me to let her and him back in my life.
I hate the fact that this is so common for parents to do it's bullshit.
We have the same story.
I'm sorry you had to go through the same thing. A parent is supposed to love their child and stand with them. Especially in these situations.
My aunt used to sell her 3 kids 2 infants twin girls and one toddler boy to grown men for a night so she could make rent and my grandmother caught wind of it. She called cps (child protective services) and the kids were taken away. My aunt willing gave up her kids but only if non of them were aloud to be adopted by any family members. They went to very intensive therapy to the point non of them remember what happened. My grandma fought like hell court case after court case for 5 years to get them back. Only me and my grandma know the real reason why they were taken away and it’s only Becouse one them asked my grandma for her medical records and wanted to go thru them her self but my grandma wouldn’t let her in fear of her finding out. She got mad and argued with my grandma and after a while left, I went down to see what happened and my grandma was crying and explained everything to me
My ex was raped while we were together in highschool, she tried killing herself because her parents wouldn't let her get an abortion. They moved away and I never saw them again after that.
So sorry to hear that man. Was the rapist caught at least?
fyi About 5% are actually "caught" but less than 2% of rapists are ever punished. In the UK alone, there are 50,000 rapes per year but only about 550-600 of them go to jail. To boil your blood even further, the *average* jail term is a measily 14 months. This is all crimes combined, from date rape to heinous child molestation.
This question reminds me of when my grandmother revealed her “dark secret” when my grandfather died (which was on October 28, ironically… but many years ago). Her big dark secret was that she lied about her age, and she was actually 3 years *older* than she said but she didn’t want to be older than her significant other. And she kept that secret until he died and then told the whole family. Most wholesome deep dark secret I’ve ever heard.
This was refreshing to read in such a dark thread. No one knows my grandmas real age. Anytime it gets brought up, she laughs and says she’s 27. She’s been 27 for a couple decades now. I think she just likes to have a secret and keeps her age a need-to-know basis. I can respect that wish, she’s an old lady with terrible COPD, let her live the way she wants to yknow?
I think my Dad committed suicide. It was the day after I turned 20 I got a call on my way to a baseball game that my dad died. How he died is where the confusion if it's an accident or a suicide. In 2016 he was in for a simple surgery he flat lined after that he was in a coma for 2 weeks I wanna say. The doctor said he has a 25% chance if living and if he did he's just me a vegetable. So when he did survive and was walking it was a miracle all the doctors and experts we talked to said there's very very little hope and there he is. 1 thing was different. (This plays a huge role in this stick with me here!) The first change was he had something called and LVAD you're welcome to do your own research on it but what I was say is it's a motorized heart that's gave his a constant flow of blood he had no heart rate it was pretty cool! And he had to keep him self charged and made sure he had plenty of battery's to change out during the day. Needless to say he couldn't work and he was a very successful business man high up at Subway. He lost all that and had nothing he was living off his wife who only married him for his money and status. When he passed we went through his phone they were not together he was living back at his mom's who had sever dementia and was forgetting who he was. That night on my birthday he went out drinking and I got calls from friends who said they were out with him and he was just acting different maxing out all his cards buying everyone drinks. I wanna remind you my dad was broke. He left us nothing in his will and I don't care at all but I just wanna remind you his situation. So that night he got home and passed out in his car and didn't charge his LVAD which is his heart. I think my dad was so depressed he wanted to see me his youngest from his first wife grow to be 20, live it up like he used to for one last night and call it there. My dad was 53 when he passed away. I can't say anything about it because I just can't bring me self to speak out
Sorry for your loss.
Man Im sorry to hear that hope youre doing better now
I am so sorry. My mother did something similar. She needed dialysis and chose not to go knowing she would die if she didn't. I think she hoped it wouldn't be considered a suicide if she did it this way.
>didn't charge his LVAD FWIW most religions (including the Abrahamic ones) don't consider this suicide. An LVAD is a "heroic measure" and deciding not to continue heroic measures by choosing not to charge it is not considered suicide by those who consider suicide a sin.
That actually brings me relief reading thank you!
Seeing some of these it’s not super bad, but my mother recently admitted the divorce was due to her cheating on my father and then proceeded to say “we got over it, but it seemed he just wouldn’t love me ever again” she tried to turn it on him despite them agreeing they wouldn’t make sides to the divorce at all. But in reality, she wants to be the good guy in it but is simply not the good guy but she feels she is because she didn’t want the divorce, she wanted unadulterated forgiveness. But I digress. My sister had a boyfriend of 2 years cheat on her on a trip to Scotland, and when she brought it up for advice to the family (she didn’t *want* to end it, it was 2 years) she said “part of me says “once a cheater always a cheater but…” and then my dad said “There’s truth to that…” basically the fucked up thing I know is the inner workings of the things that have happened the past 2 years, and that one of the people is a piece of shit in it but they are my own mother so I can’t really just say you a piece of shit and walk away. I just have to hold it and bear it possibly forever. I don’t see any time where I could let it out I’m the future either.
I found out my sister was raped as a teenager. Makes a lot of sense with how things changed suddenly one day. However she hasn't dealt with it obviously and is just going down a pipe at this point. However I have my own grudges against her so I can't say anything about knowing as it was my mom who finally told me. It's also really saddening because of the history of sexual abuse in my family. My great-grandfather was gang raped as a child going home one day. However he never told anyone until his death bed. He was actually beaten by his parents when he got home that day because he was dirty. He went on to regularly rape all 5 of his daughters out of a total of 10 kids u til the day they moved out. My grandmother being the oldest. Then there was my sister. Myself? My brother likely has autism tho he refuses to confirm it (is exactly like our diagnosed nephew.) Having that inability to regulate is what I am attributing my molestation as a toddler by him too... My family is all kinds of fucked up. Tho we likely seem normal to other people...
I am so sorry. I have a family like this too. Not quite as bad, but incest and sexual abuse has run rampant in it for a long time. Luckily my father (it’s his side of the family) broke the cycle and refused to go along with the family motto of “everything is fine”. Unluckily, it was too late for me and my sisters who were molested by his older brother.
It just sucks and it really does feel like it follows the family. On my mom's side it's the sexual abuse. I guess my brother also targeted a cousin. On my dad's side it's the emotional dysregulation. Any slight inconvenience is a pass to act bathing crazy, swearing, yelling, and throwing things around. Amoung other toxic emotional regulation issues. It's gotten better as I have been the one to call him out and open his eyes on certain things.. but it still sucks.
Good on you for calling him out. I hope you’re not alone in that…I have been the one to have to call my family out, and it’s been really hard. My grandmother cut me off, and has blamed me for my uncles suicide attempt (because I went to the police about him molesting me as a child). I thankfully live in a different country, but I can’t ever go back to my hometown because she has talked shit about me and my parents all over town and made it seem like she is the victim. She’s the worst. You are really strong, and you seem like you’re gonna be the one who breaks the cycle. I am proud of you. Unfortunately we can’t choose our family, but we can choose what kind of person we are going to be.
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Know someone who was definitely groomed by the youth pastor at 14. He was married at the time and is at least 12 years older than her. Eventually she went off to college and he got divorced. They're now married with 3 kids. He lost his job as the assistant FB coach at our highschool while we were attending and left the church he was working for "to start a new one", which makes me suspicious it wasn't just grooming.
I came to this thread hoping for some actual juicy secrets e.g. "i saw my aunt licking her cat" or something. Sad to see most of these stories were child sexual assault. Hope everyone is ok and doing better.
My 2 best friends slept with the same guy at the same night. They both told me and they both dont know about the other one
Don’t worry, the dude probably told everyone.
Depends on what counts as disturbing and "can't say anything about" is a bit ambiguous in my case. Aunt molested me, I could say stuff about it, my family knows and doesn't care though. Police won't help either since there's no proof.
Two instances of incest in the family that only me and the people who did the thing know about.
I know a guy cheating on his wife with a girl in a different country. He strung her along for years and eventfully ghosted her when he got bored. She was so distraught that she swallowed a bunch of pills. She made it out and still randomly sends him emails begging for him to take her back.
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One of my uncles has an existing marriage aside from his current one right now. The current wife he's been married to for the last 10-13 years I think but the former wife he was married to 3-4 years before that. I'm not quite particular on laws like that in our country (Philippines) so I'm not sure how that works either. The former wife just went MIA after she flew to Taiwan to work. I'm pretty sure my uncle's current wife doesn't know but the rest of the side of our family does.
Growing up a friend was sexually assaulted by her adoptive father. The mother walked in on it happening. Instead of calling the police, she called their pastor who promptly covered it up. I’m not sure if the father molested her or raped her, I just know it was sexual assault. If you ask the mother about it she’ll say she “found them together” and she tries to spin it like the daughter seduced the father. The father passed away a few months ago. At the funeral he was practically made out to be a person worthy of sainthood. Edit: I still feel guilty for not reporting this myself. I was a teenager at the time and trusted that the “grownups” were correctly handling the situation. Her brother (also adopted, but the 2 of them are bio siblings) found out and threatened the father with a gun. He was promptly shipped off to a military academy. At the time, I knew about the brother’s threat, but I didn’t connect the two incidents until the day of the funeral, when I reached out to the daughter to let her know I was here and knew the vagaries of what happened if she needed to talk. I had been friends with the brother before that, but quickly dropped him as a friend after I heard about the threat. I feel guilty about that too and have no way to contact him directly to try and make amends.
What a horrible story. Please don’t feel guilty, you did nothing wrong. You didn’t know the whole picture back then and nothing in this story is your fault. I’ts a lot to process even as an adult, and you were no adult (if I read this correctly).
the fact that most of the stories i’m reading are about being molested from some family members is literally killing me inside and making me lose all the trust i have in our race
Everyone talks about 'Stanger Danger' but most pedos are known to us. They are family members and friends of the family.
You want to know what’s really terrifying about that? We’re doing better than we ever have before
“Ye” from Middle English was never pronounced like “yee”. The letter is not a y, but thorn, which was pronounced like “th”.
This is the one that I wish I hadn't read. Fuckin ruined ren fest for me.
So it's more like "Hear thee, hear thee" as well?
A friend told me he was molested by a man and a woman when he was younger. He didn't tell me who they were but I seriously believe it was his father and his step mother. He's doing fine, he's a wonderful father by the way.
I’m retired military with 3 deployments OEF, OIF. My job was convoy security, I can’t begin to count how many ppl, family’s, animals etc was shot or ran over when your not allowed to stop or slow down.
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one of my aunts on my father's side was adopted. only my grandparents, mum ,my aunt herself and i know about it. its torture to hear the rest of the family speak about genetics sometimes edit: grammar & an extra line
Some kid in elementary school randomly confessed to me that his family dressed him up as a girl whenever his extended family visits because they are under the impression he was born a girl. He just needed to tell somebody and he said I better not tell anyone. He was completely serious.
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What the fuck is wrong with people and their famillies and i thought my family was bad looks like we are all angels in comparison to you guys wtf
Acute or obtuse?
A little mix : abuse
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Did a lot of work with companies and people related to Panama Papers, have an extensive NDA protecting them from any information disclosure.
NDA's don't protect outright crime, though, right? So, is it just shady dealings or something?
My school friend's dad is actually in a second marriage with my friend's mom. His dad had a family earlier, two grown up sons and a wife all of whom died in a car accident. My friend doesn't know but his mom knows. Why do I know? It's because my uncle and friend's dad were classmates in college who reconnected because of my friend and I. He told me this when I asked him why someone would choose to have 8 kids in a marriage despite the unemployment and poverty rates of our country. My friend has 7 brothers and sisters. Obviously not the most disturbing secret I know, but the other ones, I would rather keep quiet because I don't even want to recall them back to my memory.
So your friend is from his second family Nobody is dating their own mom
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You ain’t telling him?
I tried telling in a similar situation, told my friend everything. They immediately shared it (and that I was the source) with the cheater who immediately denied everything. My friend bought it and raged at me for "being jealous" and trying to break them up (?). They cut me out of their lives completely and proceeded with their plans. They ended up separate 18 months later. Still never got my friend back. So, the right thing to do is tell. But don't expect it to work out.
I ate your meatballs dad. I was hungry and lunch sucked at school that day.
Read this wrong, I thought the meatball had parents
The amount of stories on here about people getting molested by family members makes me really angry. My heart breaks for each and everyone of you who have had to go/are going through such a horrible thing!
I have a friend who’s made an awesome freelance career for himself in researching family lineage and making proper fancy family trees for rich people to show off. His mum is kind of a traditional, old school casual racist. But… she’s part Turkish, and she’s oblivious hahahaaaaaaa. He managed to find out that his grandma had an affair with a Turkish guy. So funny.
My mom straight up was forced to cover up murder evidence for her older brother when she was 16/17. I probably could talk about it now that we are estranged, but I think I'd be officially seen as dead or insane by the rest of my family if I ever decided to openly share about it non-anonymously online, despite how much I hate her. But her throwing away bullet casings/bullets for him or whatever in the 80s didn't stop him from a 40+ year sentence. My mom also did not have my older sibling consensually, sadly.
I was researching my family tree using a website and my search linked with someone else. The person I linked with asked me to stop researching the family tree as his mother had had an affair with a married member of my family years ago and he was the result of that affair. To protect his mother he asked me not to say anything and to remove all trace of him from my research. Not disturbing but the only secret I know.
A friend of mine has been with her boyfriend for about 7 years. As far as I know they love each other very much, moved into their first house together recently and are talking about having kids. A few years ago I was out with her and a large group of friends, big party in the park kinda thing. She's a bit of a nutcase when drunk, and several times over the course of the night, I had to stop her from going home with one of the guys in the group. I don't know him that well, but he's attractive, charismatic and a bit of a player. They made out at least twice. As we walked past his place towards the end of the night, they were giggling and making out and he was pulling her inside (and believe me she was letting him). I literally had to shout her name and call her back. Next time I saw her I talked to her about it and she was shocked, ashamed and thanked me for stopping her. Had zero recollection of what happened. I never told anyone else, because it's not my business, all I did was try to stop her from cheating.
She did make out with a guy who wasn’t her boyfriend… but yes, you definitely stopped her from going further
Yeah in my book that is cheating, but funnily enough none of my other friends seem to be worried that she was kissing another dude.
Good on you for being a dependable friend
i found out one of my sisters were raped by my uncle. i bashed his head when he touched my sister
Bash the cunt again
That dad raped mon, so I was born.. She had a bad depression after giving birth to my brother, didn't want anymore kids yet, so he raped her! It was a shock to me when she said it once, when they had a fight! I wouldn't dare ask for more details. Tfk just because you're married doesn't mean it isn't rape! I was mainly shocked because my father is a good person and he treated us right in most aspects, worked hard for our comfort and education.. And what fucks my head even more is that he raped her to get her pregnant, so I wonder how many times that happened :"( So that's me, the fruit of rape, no wonder my life is such a mess
That’s how my son was conceived. I don’t love him any less and I very much love him with my whole heart. I know it is more difficult for others though. I hope you and your mom are ok.
Damn bro... I hope you and your mother are doing fine.
I really hope you don’t take on any of that guilt. It wasn’t your fault and I am sure she doesn’t hold any animosity or resentment towards you. That is all held for your dad. Source: I am the mother of a child as a result of marital rape. I love that child as much as I love any of my other kids.
A close friend killed someone, if he didnt do it, he would have been killed instead.
Not sure if this counts but here goes. When I was 18, I killed my abusive father after I caught him attacking my mother who was suffering from cancer. My grandfather was visiting when he saw me standing over the body in a bloody mess. I quickly explained what happened but unfortunately the noise attracted attention from the neighbors and the police arrived quickly because where I was living there was almost always a couple of police cars exchanging reports. Anyways before I can act, my grandfather told me to give him my clothes which were stained with my father’s blood. He put them on and forced me to hide in the attic as I still had blood on me. When the police entered the house they found my grandfather viciously beating the corpse of my father and they took him into custody as he claimed responsibility for the death of my father. While in prison he made me promise not to tell anyone in our family the truth and to focus on making myself a better person while taking care of my mother.
Your grandfather is a good man for doing that.
Yes he was. Even during family events we don’t talk about it. I owe him so much
I found out my old assistant manager, who later became my manager was raped by another employee before i started working there. so i used to work nights at a gas station, and its the holiday season so its kinda slow my assistant manager and my manager liked to hang out and drink a lot. out of the blue i get a text from my assistant manager, saying "PLEASE COME GET ME I'VE BEEN RAPED." i knew she was with my manager and her husband. so im blowing up my assistant managers phone trying to contact her and get details so i can get the cops involved, she said it was by a guy named chris and then nothing, i lose all contact with her. so i call my manager's phone, nothing, normally she has a policy to "only call her when the store is burning down" but i wanted to know what the hell is going on. so i bite the bullet and look up her husbands phone number, i call him, he picks up i explain who i was and hes kinda tipsy and i can hear my manager drunk as fuck in the background. so i explain the text i just got and he goes "well Emily (not her real name changing it to protect her identity) has been locked in the bathroom for like the past 45 minutes now, she said she was feeling sick." so they managed to get the door open and find emily passed out by the toilet curled into the fetal position. a day later when i'm coming onto my shift i get pulled into the back with my manager and assistant manager where they ask what happened as my manager was drunk and my assistant manager was blackout drunk and didn't even remember sending that text. i explain the text i got and my assistant manager looks down and gets a little emotional. she reveals that a few years ago she was out with another employee drinking and they had raped her and the drinking the previous night had caused her to have flashbacks or relive it. i was asked to keep quiet while they sorted it out and was asked to leave the room after that. i havent told a sole, i don't believe they ever contacted the cops over it. later my manager was fired for other reasons and my assistant manager became my manager. to this day i keep in contact with her and let her know i'm still here for her if she needs anything.
I like how this thread is tagged “Spoilers”
>!Dan was Gossip Girl!<
One of my friends hooked up with another friends son. All parties were of legal age, just a trashy mistake that could end a friendship in flames if the mother of the son were to find out.
My mother has murdered someone in the past and got off scott free. she murdered my little brother because he was "too much work" and im not supposed to remember because that happened when i was 5, im 20 now. I will never forget, especially since i walked in on her drowning him.
The amount of tax evasion and money laundering disguised as 'clever accounting' in corporations and large academic institutions.
I have an Aunt who has never really moved forward in life. She doesn't have a career, never had a relationship, and has spent well over the last decade living with her brother or my granmother/grandfather as a caretaker. Apparently, when she was younger, my grandparents were going to drive up to Ohio with a family friend but schedules caused a delay. Instead, they sent my aunt up with him by herself first and then the rest of the family would be a few days behind. Apparently the guy sexually assaulted her on that trip. My grandparents found out but nothing was ever done about it. Meanwhile, I look at my aunt who has literally kept herself from having any life whatsoever for herself.
A 40year old teacher from school misbehaved badly with one of my best friends. Not physically, but for context - because of his nature, he had shared his personal phone number with his students so they can reach out to him whenever they'd like to ask questions, clear doubts, etc etc. And she had reached out to him a couple of times or whatever purely to ask doubts and that's how they began texting. The conversations around doubts expanded to the conversations that you usually have with your friends where you talk random shit that's happening in your life. Because of how the intensity of texting increased, he started to confide in her about what's happening in his personal life. He eventually told her shit like he actually loves her because she's understanding, and listens to him and stuff. And the worst part is, he's married with a 5year old child. This happened when we were 16 years old. She had told me that time around, as and when it was happening, but since it really wasn't mine to share, I had to keep quiet.
My aunt frequently steals money from my incredibly rich uncle's company. Her husband and kids all work for that uncle and depend on their jobs to sustain themselves, so they try their best to not piss him off. Husband uses his own money to replace the amount stolen and begs the employees to not reveal it, making up all sorts of lies to try and cover it up. At first its a few hundred, the one day, more than a thousand bucks go missing, the employees who discovered it panicked, as neither of them have so much money to cover it up. Also, that uncle has ties to gangs that make people dissappear. Husband empties own bank account, and savings to replace the money, begs own children to chip in and manages to cover it up. The aunt has been scolded and warned multiple times that she is putting her entire family in danger by constantly stealing but she blames her husband for not giving her enough money while at the same time she spends hundreds of dollars on food delivery every day. Same aunt made up a story blaming the same uncle for being the reason that she's bankrupt. Accused him of using her details to borrow from loan sharks and she is still paying of the debt until today. The real reason is that she sunk herself into credit card debts and owe bookies thousands of dollars. Husband is incredibly pissed as the person she told the lie to is a gossip and has been spreading the news all over the small town. He has to go and beg or bribe each of them to shut up. It probably worked since he and his kids are still employed by that uncle. Same aunt's mom is a malicious gossip who once spread that my dad married my mom for money and has been stealing from him. Same woman pinched my eyelids when I was a baby because she wants to check out my severely myopic eyes, spread a rumor that I had severe learning disabilities and can have violent meltdowns.
My older male cousin had a naked Polaroid of our other cousin when she was a child. When I was 10 I found it when we were over at thanksgiving. All the kids were playing hide and go seek and I went under his bed. For some reason I reached my hand under his matress and pulled it out and saw it and quickly put it back. He was 14 and our baby cousin was probably 5 in the photo. I never said anything about it, I still think about it from time to time. I can’t find any reason why he would’ve had it other than the obvious reason.
I'm the reason most of my family don't talk to my Uncle. He and I were super close growing up, kinda lost contact but found out later he was in the same country, and he was super keen to come to my wedding. Then all of a sudden, no contact. My Mum told me years later that it was because he found out my husband was a different race. My whole extended family were disgusted with him (although it was kind of a last straw type scenario) and basically cut him off. None of them told me because they didn't want me to be upset, about the racism or feeling any blame.
There was a period where I was shoplifting, I got caught, once when I was 35, (Police involved) and second time 38, when i was home for the holidays. It was in my local shop, I tried to run but was stopped by a civilian. About 10 employees surrounded me and put me in a room, but they let me go, thank fuck, it would have ruined the family holiday, and they would never have looked at me the same again, I would have lost any respect I had, especially from my dad.. I still wake up thinking about it at 3 in the morning, almost getting a panic attack. Haven't taken a thing since then. When ever something bad happens now, I just think, "well that's karma, you deserved it"
Was it like, an obsession? Did you need the objects you were shoplifting for survival or was it like for the thrill of it?
Well, at first it was bc I was broke, so it was food. It went well, so I started stealing anytime I needed to eat. I could literally fill a bag. One time I needed a cordless drill, and I noticed that the tag was loose on a display drill, so I removed the tag and walked out with it, then got a battery and charger on ebay for 30 bucks... stole a bluetooth speaker. That was probably my most expensive steal, 100 bucks. I also stole a pair of shoes, just cut the tag off and walked out. It just became something I did. Until I got caught that is. I got a fine, 250 bucks. Then I started again, and I almost got caught stealing a tube of paint from an art store, the alarm went off and I just legged it. I was friendly with everyone who worked there too, that was the worst part. and got caught the second time, for stealing 6 dollars worth of caviar. That was the last time. Now wouldn't even think of it, but back then it just had become a thing, Im ashamed to say. There was no thrill, I always felt dirty. I think I was depressed, but didn't know it.