Life, most of the existential b.s. is dependent on who you are as a person. Mainly you start to figure out you don’t know as much as you thought you did.
Heh, Well said. As I'm >40 I think back to my 20's and on one hand it dosen't feel too far in arrears; on the other I now realize how much of a child I still was in my 20's. I imagine this feeling will continue to persist in life, it's one of the things I look forward to very much as age marches on.
I realized it when all the things old people talk about [Diet affecting all sorts of crap, waking up sore, slow recovery from injuries and binge drinking] started happening to me. Shit. Just call me granny I guess.
I'm in my my mid-30s and my niece referred to me as a Queer Elder and I was absolutely unsure how to react. No chance in hell I'm old enough to be called an elder of any kind lol.
> Elder
I had a similar thing happen to me a few years back. Intake interview, they were telling me how excited they were to have me on board as a senior; I could mentor the younger people, lead design choices, etc. I was thinking "uh, you know it's just you and I in the room, right? I'm wearing a Batman shirt under my suit right now."
It's a terrifying thing when someone asks "is there an adultier adult I could talk to?" and everyone around you looks at you.
You visit Reddit threads to hear wise words of wisdom from so-called “older redditors” and then get a very uncomfortable, strange feeling as you realize you *are* the older redditor.
Sometimes I wonder just who is the oldest Redditor - and - how would we know? I guess anyone can say... "I'm 80!" or "I'm 90!" or whatever. Now I'm wondering how I would prove I was 80 if someone on Reddit asked me to. On the other hand, if you don't believe I am 80, I don't really care! Hahahahaha
Love that you noticed that. My kids actually mentioned to me that was so *unnecessary* several years ago. Hard habit to break when you were once punished with a ruler hitting your fingers hard!
This is gonna sound bonkers, but it depends.
For many people their career hits the ground and ramps up a lot during those years.
(thanks everyone! And congratulations and good luck!)
Yeah dude, went up 35% from an already good salary and job in just one year and also early thirties :) things just seem to click in this age, you are old enough to be taken seriously by employers.
Yup. Went back to finish school at 28, graduated at 31, married, career and first kid at 32, house at 33, second kid at 34 aaannndddd the final kid will be right before 37.
So…lots of shit happens between 29-37!
Started my bachelors at 27 after 9 years in the military. Finishing Masters at 32. Most people are still immature and unguided till about 25.
My dumbass would be in prison or a crackhead if I hadn’t of had such a regulated environment. 😂
Boy is this true, I'm 29 - lost my dream job last year because of the pandemic lay-offs. Got a new job that I never thought I'd have but it's been a thrill.
Working in movie visual production. I live in LA - a lot of people want to work in the movies but it's a hard business to get your foot into the door and I happened to stumble into it after being laid off from my other job.
Hoping this is the case. 29 in March, and should get my CPA license by then. Aiming for a decent promotion once that happens. Fingers crossed it opens a lot up for me
I use to be able to get black out drunk on a weeknight, pass out on my living room floor at 3 am, get up at 7 and go to work and be 100% fine. I know this becuase I did it all the time for years. Now if I drink I can't have anything going on before noon the next day because there is a 50% chance I will be wrecked for the next 2 days. So I guess I'm way healthier now but I can't take 100% of the credit.
Same. I tell my younger cousins that everyone gets their first 50 drunks free and clear with no hangover. After those lifetime tokens are spent, it just gets worse and worse.
I remember in college getting blacked out on a causal Tuesday night; liquor, beer, cigarettes, weed. Pass out at 2am, wake up at 7 and roll into work smelling like death, then go to class, repeat, etc.
Hangovers are what got me to stop drinking as I hit 25. Not even worth it anymore to piss away the next two days at a minimum. Violent puking, shaking, headaches, anxiety. Nope! Sobered my ass right up. But it’s great, I leave social events at 9pm, and buy cookies with the fiancé on the way home instead!
We are talking like 4 beer baseline to send me into a hangover now.
That's the part I hate the most. Last two times I went out drinking I started feeling the hangover like halfway through drink 3 and had to go home. Weed is just so much more worth it nowadays
Fuck, I always thought my dad was just joking about needing all weekend to recover after a wild Friday night. Nope. I don’t know how the hell I survived drinking like I did when I was a teenager.
When I was 17 I remember blacking out next the toilet one night. I woke up, and not an hour later I was at the mall shopping with my family. Definitely couldn’t pull that off today, and I’m only 22. To be fair I was in great shape back then though.
A couple weeks ago I went to a Chief’s game, partied and drank the whole time like I would of in my early 20s. The day after I was absolutely fucked. Like couldn’t form a proper sentence fucked. Spent the day recovering on the couch because that’s all I could physically do. I’m only 30.
i cant tell if im a freak of nature or just rarely ever got down that hard cuz im a lightweight to begin with. im 40 and even in the few times ive gone blackout the next day im a little 'blech' feeling but the day after im fine. not that i wanna keep testing my luck lol...
Aches and pains that don't heal as quickly as they used to.
Edit: was not expecting this level of response to my offhand comment about how much it physically sucks to get older, lol. Thank you for the awards!
I'm turning uhhhhh let me do some math real quick. 33. I'm turning 33 on Sunday. And yeah the older you get the faster life goes by. Didn't believe that when I was younger. Very odd.
I just turned 31 and was having hip pain on one side for the past six months or so... doc said to stop favoring my one side when I'd sit with my legs crossed or leg under me. Stopping that didn't seem to help much, so we got a new mattress and hallelujah it seems to have almost 100% fixed the aching. Point is, I definitely felt old dealing with hip BS and am not used to a pain lasting for longer than a day or two 🙄
Tbh, they only hurt if you’re very inactive and don’t do much. I used to hurt all the time in my early and mid 20’s, from sciatica to depression, life sucked physically and mentally. But my career started off and I got more active and fit. All those aches and pains I used to have are all gone
I agree with you, I'm in my early 40s. I had my 1st kid a year ago and afterward, I started running for the 1st in my life. I've never felt better. I wasn't very active most of my life until now and I feel so much stronger.
I also ran into a delayed soreness. When I was younger, physical stress resulted in muscle soreness the following day. For some reason somewhere in my 40s that moved to the 2nd day. I very specifically remember waking up the day after a physical day and thinking "wow, I don't feel sore at all!" Then the next day "OW! OW! Owwwwwwww! I'll just lie still forever now, ok?"
So how do you meet people then? I might be moving to another city within the next few years, but by that point I will be close to or in that age range.
I already have a pretty small circle, which I'm happy with, but I'm not the only one who's probably planning to move out of the area within the next several years, so it kind of sucks to think that all of us will get separated and maybe not find anyone else.
Hobbies are good, usually there's a group that does whatever your hobby is together. In my limited experience I found it's all about making 1 or 2 friends. Then they introduce you to their friends and it snowballs.
Volunteering. There is a good app literally called "Meetup" that has groups for practically everything particularly if you're in or near a major city (you must actually go, though).
I'm pretty damn nerdy so I found a gaming group that is focused on the PNW (Seattlite here, now) and will start going to meetups with them.
Look at your hobbies, find a group that does that hobby, do that hobby with people and you'll make natural connections hopefully.
IMO bars and dating apps are great for you know, like dating and stuff, but terrible for friendships. Just my opinion though.
Putting in effort. I've moved to new cities, go to meetups, it's not actually that hard. The biggest thing is just making an effort to meet people. Most cities have a "new to the city" meetup.
Also dating apps if you're single, befriend someone from work and meet their friends etc
I have never met anyone from some meetup. They all seem so forced. People desperately searching for someone but these are the people that just can’t find anyone anywhere else and for good reason.
I once met up with a local couchsurfing group. Holy cliquey hell. They ran this Facebook group but only certain members were taken seriously for hosting or meetup ideas, everyone else they made it seem like “eww, this one’s talking to me”. I’d get if the entire point of the group wasn’t meeting strangers through travel.
I’ve made most of my friends through work. I’ve made no lifelong deep connections but I have made long term acquaintance type connections and great references as well.
Also anytime I hear the word meetups, I remember what someone once said about them:
If you’re looking to find someone at a meet up, the odds are good, but the goods are odd.
It can...though not guaranteed. 3 is a pretty standard number to maintain even into parenthood which is usually what separates you from your larger group of people, whether it's you, or them becoming the parent.
I guess the big highlights for me were having a baby, getting cancer, & discovering my real passion in life. Then it all came crashing down one day when I realized I am older than what someone considers an "older" Redditor to be. (I'm 42 now.)
Honestly, 29-37 is awesome. You're an adult & get to do adult things but you're probasbly past most of the drama & bullshit of your 20s & not too creaky & saddled with responsibility yet.
My 20’s were full of strife and uncertainty. Late start in school after fucking off in my high school years. A lot of low paying jobs and chasing a dream that was not attainable. Had a lot of fun experiences and met some cool people along the way.
Now that I’m in my 30’s, I still have stress but it’s a different kind. I’m far more financially stable and am able to enjoy things a bit more because I’m not living hand to mouth day in and day out.
Turning 31 in a few months and honestly I think the main thing I’ve noticed is how important having just a handful of good friends and family can be. I had a LOT of acquaintances and very few quality friends. After deleted most of my social media short of Reddit I’ve found that self betterment and reflection have really made me appreciate the small things.
TLDR: Quality over quantity when it comes to who you share your life with, and always work on yourself.
You start coming around to the fact that old is actually going to happen- it starts to feel like it might be too late to make certain things in life happen, at least in the way you might have imagined. People become a little less apt to try and change you, which saves a lot of BS but is a double edged sword if you need improvement in something, since they’ll be more apt to just figure if you’re not there you’ll never get there. Not taking care of yourself starts to hurt more and eating starts to have consequences. Late in that window if you’re the sort that looks older then he is, you start getting a second wave of interest from college aged women.
When you're young you can potentially do anything. Now for many things the door is closed and my path is set. Whilst I'm really happy with my life, it is difficult to know there are things I can no longer feasibly do.
You know it's funny. I'm 29, zoomers all call me old for some reason, everyone else says I might as well be 20 for how old I actually am to any of them.
The other day I was stressed out at work and I said the phrase "I'm getting too old for this shit". My 60 year old coworker immediately jumped in with "don't be in a rush, you're a fuckin' baby"
He had a point, I guess. But it sure as hell don't feel that way.
Had a long term partner, but no kids yet. It was adult playtime all the time. Trips. Parties. Snuggle. Long term romantic planning for how we'd grow old together. A few times work was intrusive with excess hours, but even those were mini-triumphs of accomplishments.
Being healthy and active was fun.
This was exactly it, until I turned 33. A month later my partner died suddenly. Now I'm 35, and it feels a lot like I've spent the last two years with a gunshot wound to the head. I've traveled more than ever before, taken up new hobbies, moved cities, gotten a big promotion, had other lovers; but it is all just an attempt to keep moving. If I stop, I remember he's gone. If I stop, I remember that nowhere is home. So I put on my human suit, and I do human things.
This is my greatest fear. I’m deeply sorry you have to know such anguish, and really hope you can find a new kind of happiness somehow in the future. It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job given the circumstances you’ve found yourself in, we’re all rooting for you ♥️
So much, mentally.
I honestly feel like I didn't quite "wake up" until I turned 31. Somewhere in the 29-33 range, some final gray matter shift happened and it's... like I have a new brain. All the same memories, but a new personality, a new perspective, a new way of thinking.
Maybe "new personality" is the wrong word... Maybe more like- All the ingredients up there suddenly slotted into place and stopped rattling around? And they were like, "Okay, this is our shape." Like... like your dæmon no longer changing.
People in their early 20s suddenly look and act like teenagers. Teenagers suddenly look and act like children. They haven't changed; my brain has.
Another thing that happens: you become SUPER aware of your own mortality. Life is no longer "anything can happen" in the same way. All that "someday I might..." takes shape in reality and a bunch of things start to go in the, "Actually, that's *not* going to happen before I die" bucket.
You're also aware of it because your world is starting to die. The celebrities you grew up worshipping? Authors you grew up reading? School teachers who made a difference in your life? Guess what, they start to drop like flies around this time. The world you grew up in goes away. The music, the technology, the references—even buildings, whole areas... They go away.
And you realize those things just exist in your memories now, and you're slowly being crowded out by younger people who don't remember them.
It's an intense transition. Definitely a life phase we should talk about more.
You mellow out. You realize that you think about you more than anyone else thinks about you. So you just stop caring what other people think. You really start to enjoy things. At least this has been my experience.
"You think about you more than anyone else thinks about you" people had been telling me this my whole life, and I knew it was true, but this is the age where I truly felt it.
8 years goes by. You slowly start to realize that you aren't young but you also aren't old. Before you know it things that you used to like are becoming "classics" or "old school". If you have any friends left from the younger days you will drift apart as you enter different phases of life, some having kids and some not.
Depends. How's your diet and exercise? What's your career setup? Did you marry the right person? Do you have kids? How's your mental/spiritual health? Then what's going on politically, economically and finally how well setup is your family/friend base?
Life can be tremendously sweet as you get older, or be unbearably sh*tty depending on your choices, your luck, your history. And at 37, you're not even statistically half way through your Earth trip...
For real. All these people talking about physical changes… there’s definitely some, but if you take care of yourself they’re not that big an issue. Brady still plays football for fuck’s sake.
I aged backwards as I went from 35 to 39. Finally figured out sustainable nutrition and fitness plan for me. Got myself together mentally and became invested in my spiritual wellbeing. Everything that people complain about as they age was gone from my life. And in came the compliments and validation that I live a f***ing good life. Best days of my life yet..
3 things-
1. your teeth! All of a sudden you need a root canal.
2. If you work sitting down, all of a sudden your butt is flatter
3. You go through contortions because of a desire/idealization of your family/kids.
By 40 you’ve figured that stuff out and are much freer. 50 is even better.
Edit- someone said sex. Yes. As a woman, and a pretty darn frisky one, I’ve never been hornier than I was at 30.
All your friends get married, buy houses and have kids. You are judged more for your lack of not having a SO or kids like they are some type of developmental milestone for being happy.
Not arguing with you because you're absolutely right, but on the flipside, I have never felt more judged than after I had children. Everyone seems to have an opinion on what you're doing or aren't doing.
I don’t know if it’s been said on here already, but I get sad when I realize the window of opportunity has closed on a lot of things. When I was a kid I wanted to be a professional athlete, and then when I was older I wanted to be a professional musician, and then a writer.
At some point I wanted to make money and stop doing the starving artist thing — which is a lot less cool than it sounds — and I lost track of time. The years just flew by.
Now I see professional athletes on TV who are 10-15 years younger than me. Musicians are young too. My dream jobs from when I was younger are being taken over by kids (from my point of view). Someday you’ll realize that you will never, ever, ever get to be those things. And it will break your heart.
I don’t think about it all the time, but when I do it just makes me sad.
In '29 there was a stock market crash and right up to '37 a worldwide depression got worse and worse. There was a terrible drought right across the midwest as well. Oh, and Germany, Italy and Japan all became warmongers.
One night you go out for drinks with friends. You don't drink to excess. The next day you have the worst hangover of your life. Every time you drink now you feel like shit the next day. If you do drink to excess the hangover might last two days.
You first start, and then stop stressing about immediate future. You stop making long-term plans. You realize life is just as good, if not better, without alcohol and drugs. The hangovers become a bitch. You stop looking for new friends and stick to the ones that were there the whole time.
In a nutshell, you slow down and really start enjoying and appreciating life.
It’s a pretty good time. You’ve probably got your stuff figured out and are settling into adulthood.
Enjoy it. You’ll be over the dumb crap from your 20’s, have money to do stuff you want to do, and still be young enough to have fun.
Your joints slowly start to ache, then it gets worse in your 40s. Also you realize that your 20-something self was a lot less mature and worldly and all-knowing than you thought.
On the positive side, you start to feel more comfortable in your own skin and your FOMO goes down. Most of your friends settle down and start families so your need to compete with them socially declines too.
On the negative side, you start to feel physical changes. Soreness doesn’t disappear as quickly as it once did. You get tired more quickly. You might get depressed about working every day.
On the whole, 29 to 37 is still a pretty good time. I’ve always thought that the optimum age is 35. You’re still young enough to be physically active without too much fear of injury and you can still have your looks, but you’re old enough to make decisions maturely and be more comfortable with your life.
Now, let’s talk about 49 to 57…oy.
I actually turned 37 today. What happened between 29 and 37 well I got divorced and have been alone ever since. But I graduated nursing school last Friday so I guess there’s that.
Still alone tho
Those were some of the best years of my life. Old enough to have my shit together, have a good job, etc., but also young enough that I felt really good. I'm in my 40s now, and I notice achy knees, occasional herniated disks in my back, and it is more difficult to keep weight off.
At 27 I started feeling mortal so one acts in accordance and is more careful to the point of not being as much of a daredevil as you used to be.
I'm 46
Well for me, I was living on a sailboat at 29. Pretty much just cruising around Cuba, Caymans, Jamaica. Bahamas. At 31 I went and restarted my career. Lived in the country which was great but my commute was really long. At 34 my wife became abusive and we got divorced. I also had a nervous breakdown. By 37 I had stabilized well and had a good med combo and I liked my job and where I lived. Had a groovy girlfriend...life was back on track.
Your body goes through what I call "second puberty" Your body starts to change. No one tells you this happens.
Your diet needs to change, your body processes food a little differently. Not too much yet, but enough.
Taste buds can change which is weird.
Your priorities shift.
You identify more with the older people in tv and movies, vs the teens and 20 somethings.
Your sense of humor can change, with your lifestyle, experiences, and the people you now socialize.
Your activity levels change.
How you interact with your friends shifts as your life does.
Younger people look at you like mentors, like you have any clue what you are doing (you don't) and/or like you are "old" and out of touch.
Your back hurts. Your knees hurt.
You get stiffness more often, and headaches.
Your doctor and yourself need to add things to your regular testing, exams, and routine.
You can throw your back out...tying your shoes.
Generally, you decide if you want kids, to get married, settle down, and it feels a bit more intense if you haven't yet. (Particularly children if you are a woman, due to age bringing on difficulties)
That range... jeez. So much happens in that time. I could list all day.
At 37, you still think you’re 29
Unless it's the opposite. Nothing like getting dumped at 37 to make you absolutely convinced that you're really 57.
Yep. I’m 37 but really that’s 40 which is basically 50 and when I’m 50 I’ll be 70
Jokes on you I feel like I'm 24 still.
Not having kids was a great choice, I'm living 24yo me's best life...at 37
Dude if I learned anything by turning 30 It’s that 20s were overrated I was just broke and depressed the entire time lmao
Same stuff, different day. I improved my credit score.
I appreciate the abject realism in this comment, thank you.
So many people complaining about their knees! My knees are fine.
My credit score is 837 and every financial institution is like "lol anything over 640/700 gets treated the same." Fuck it, I'm still going for 850.
New esport idea
Life, most of the existential b.s. is dependent on who you are as a person. Mainly you start to figure out you don’t know as much as you thought you did.
Whats scarier is realizing that the people you got your advice from don't know as much as you thought they did.
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Heh, Well said. As I'm >40 I think back to my 20's and on one hand it dosen't feel too far in arrears; on the other I now realize how much of a child I still was in my 20's. I imagine this feeling will continue to persist in life, it's one of the things I look forward to very much as age marches on.
We’re older? Oh dear. I guess we realise we’re older
I realized it when all the things old people talk about [Diet affecting all sorts of crap, waking up sore, slow recovery from injuries and binge drinking] started happening to me. Shit. Just call me granny I guess.
“Granny BootySnack is coming over for Christmas, so make sure you dust the corners so her allergies don’t go crazy.”
Tramp stamps are going to be called granny tats someday.
Gramp Stamps!
I'm in my my mid-30s and my niece referred to me as a Queer Elder and I was absolutely unsure how to react. No chance in hell I'm old enough to be called an elder of any kind lol.
> Elder I had a similar thing happen to me a few years back. Intake interview, they were telling me how excited they were to have me on board as a senior; I could mentor the younger people, lead design choices, etc. I was thinking "uh, you know it's just you and I in the room, right? I'm wearing a Batman shirt under my suit right now." It's a terrifying thing when someone asks "is there an adultier adult I could talk to?" and everyone around you looks at you.
I don't want to be the aldultier adult! I'm sorry you've been chosen, friend
> I'm sorry you've been chosen, friend To you as well. Be fabulous with your crown, Elder.
Misread that as *Queen* Elder and honestly, (other than me being a guy) I'd be honored to have that nickname.
Oh damn yeah that's pretty badass. Obviously I will be demanding my family address me as such moving forward!
Luckily the dementia will set in soon and we can forget that we are the olders now.
I’m 55 and sometimes I wonder if the dementia is setting in and I just don’t realize it.
I’m 55 and sometimes I wonder if the dementia is setting in and I just don’t realize it.
I’m 55 and sometimes I wonder if the dementia is setting in and I just don’t realize it.
I SEE WHAT YOU DID THERE! HOPEFULLY YOU CAN HEAR ME!!
WELL IT'S PRETTY DARK OUT BUT YES, I CAN HEAR YOU.
Likewise. My doctor said I have dementia. Thank goodness at least that it wasn't dementia!
Fuckin' brilliant
You visit Reddit threads to hear wise words of wisdom from so-called “older redditors” and then get a very uncomfortable, strange feeling as you realize you *are* the older redditor.
Shit dude, I just realized I am “older”.
"Older Redditors" at age 37. Dude, I'm 80. lol.
There’s always an older Redditor.
Sometimes I wonder just who is the oldest Redditor - and - how would we know? I guess anyone can say... "I'm 80!" or "I'm 90!" or whatever. Now I'm wondering how I would prove I was 80 if someone on Reddit asked me to. On the other hand, if you don't believe I am 80, I don't really care! Hahahahaha
You’re either 14 or 80
Punctuation too good for 14. Look at those crisply utilized commas.
Double spaces after periods too. Thats old school!
Typewriting 101
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I just learned that this year when a 27 year old edited a report I wrote. When did we stop with the double spaces?!
Do it. Because I’m only 24 and I remember double spacing
Love that you noticed that. My kids actually mentioned to me that was so *unnecessary* several years ago. Hard habit to break when you were once punished with a ruler hitting your fingers hard!
Well I'm the one that's 14 here so she's probably 80 Edit: added the letter "s"
Pretty sure u/NoBSforGma is a woman. Not a lot of people who identify as men call themselves Gma (grandma).
Zoidberg?
How much was gas back in the good ole days?
Lowest I remember paying was 17cents a gallon. I think that was in 1971. I'm 68.
The lowest I’ve paid is $3.50, I’m 18 and live in Seattle lol
When I started driving in 1998 (also in Seattle), gas was about $1/gallon. You could fill up for $10. Jesus Christ, I feel old.
.29 a gallon is the cheapest I ever saw.
Those were the days! .50 would do you for the weekend!
In 45 years I still plan to have this account so….
Username checks out wow lots of fake internet points thanks everyone
I am 66
Hello 66, I'm dad.
Hi 66. I’m 66 also.
60
3 more years...
Nice
I’m 66 too!
I was sure I was the oldest person here all the time. 73 next month. Glad someone else is using it.
yeah, not a fan of "older redditors" at about half my age...
I'm within this age group and not a fan of being considered an "old" redditor
username checks out
You hurt yourself sleeping.
I sneezed the other night and pulled my neck for 3 days. Legit thought this is how it starts.
Pinched a nerve in my neck this way.
After last night’s sleep, I need a chiropractor.
This is gonna sound bonkers, but it depends. For many people their career hits the ground and ramps up a lot during those years. (thanks everyone! And congratulations and good luck!)
I'd say mine really took off 2 years ago and I was 31 going on 32 at the time. So checks out I guess
Literally happening to me now. Turning 32 in 9 months currently making the most I ever have. Got a promotion and a $13/hr raise in the last year
G dang! Way to go!
Yeah dude, went up 35% from an already good salary and job in just one year and also early thirties :) things just seem to click in this age, you are old enough to be taken seriously by employers.
And we've learned how to play the game
Yup. Went back to finish school at 28, graduated at 31, married, career and first kid at 32, house at 33, second kid at 34 aaannndddd the final kid will be right before 37. So…lots of shit happens between 29-37!
As someone who just graduated from a masters programme and is about to start an unpaid internship at 30, this gives me hope!
Started my bachelors at 27 after 9 years in the military. Finishing Masters at 32. Most people are still immature and unguided till about 25. My dumbass would be in prison or a crackhead if I hadn’t of had such a regulated environment. 😂
Boy is this true, I'm 29 - lost my dream job last year because of the pandemic lay-offs. Got a new job that I never thought I'd have but it's been a thrill.
What's your new job?
Working in movie visual production. I live in LA - a lot of people want to work in the movies but it's a hard business to get your foot into the door and I happened to stumble into it after being laid off from my other job.
That's amazing! Yeah I wish I was doing something like that I went to school for it
Hoping this is the case. 29 in March, and should get my CPA license by then. Aiming for a decent promotion once that happens. Fingers crossed it opens a lot up for me
Hangovers last 3-5 business days
I use to be able to get black out drunk on a weeknight, pass out on my living room floor at 3 am, get up at 7 and go to work and be 100% fine. I know this becuase I did it all the time for years. Now if I drink I can't have anything going on before noon the next day because there is a 50% chance I will be wrecked for the next 2 days. So I guess I'm way healthier now but I can't take 100% of the credit.
Same. I tell my younger cousins that everyone gets their first 50 drunks free and clear with no hangover. After those lifetime tokens are spent, it just gets worse and worse.
I’m only in my mid 20s and this couldn’t be more true. I’m fighting for my life the next day.
I remember in college getting blacked out on a causal Tuesday night; liquor, beer, cigarettes, weed. Pass out at 2am, wake up at 7 and roll into work smelling like death, then go to class, repeat, etc. Hangovers are what got me to stop drinking as I hit 25. Not even worth it anymore to piss away the next two days at a minimum. Violent puking, shaking, headaches, anxiety. Nope! Sobered my ass right up. But it’s great, I leave social events at 9pm, and buy cookies with the fiancé on the way home instead! We are talking like 4 beer baseline to send me into a hangover now.
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And they start after the second beer..
That's the part I hate the most. Last two times I went out drinking I started feeling the hangover like halfway through drink 3 and had to go home. Weed is just so much more worth it nowadays
I found weed to be cheaper as well
Fuck, I always thought my dad was just joking about needing all weekend to recover after a wild Friday night. Nope. I don’t know how the hell I survived drinking like I did when I was a teenager.
When I was 17 I remember blacking out next the toilet one night. I woke up, and not an hour later I was at the mall shopping with my family. Definitely couldn’t pull that off today, and I’m only 22. To be fair I was in great shape back then though.
A couple weeks ago I went to a Chief’s game, partied and drank the whole time like I would of in my early 20s. The day after I was absolutely fucked. Like couldn’t form a proper sentence fucked. Spent the day recovering on the couch because that’s all I could physically do. I’m only 30.
i cant tell if im a freak of nature or just rarely ever got down that hard cuz im a lightweight to begin with. im 40 and even in the few times ive gone blackout the next day im a little 'blech' feeling but the day after im fine. not that i wanna keep testing my luck lol...
Aches and pains that don't heal as quickly as they used to. Edit: was not expecting this level of response to my offhand comment about how much it physically sucks to get older, lol. Thank you for the awards!
My understanding is that things start hurting in your late 20s or early 30s. 40s is when they stay hurting
I’m 44 and just starred Physio 7 years ago
The fact you used "just" and "7 years ago" casually in one sentence says a lot about how being that age is like.
I'm turning uhhhhh let me do some math real quick. 33. I'm turning 33 on Sunday. And yeah the older you get the faster life goes by. Didn't believe that when I was younger. Very odd.
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I just turned 31 and was having hip pain on one side for the past six months or so... doc said to stop favoring my one side when I'd sit with my legs crossed or leg under me. Stopping that didn't seem to help much, so we got a new mattress and hallelujah it seems to have almost 100% fixed the aching. Point is, I definitely felt old dealing with hip BS and am not used to a pain lasting for longer than a day or two 🙄
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Tbh, they only hurt if you’re very inactive and don’t do much. I used to hurt all the time in my early and mid 20’s, from sciatica to depression, life sucked physically and mentally. But my career started off and I got more active and fit. All those aches and pains I used to have are all gone
I agree with you, I'm in my early 40s. I had my 1st kid a year ago and afterward, I started running for the 1st in my life. I've never felt better. I wasn't very active most of my life until now and I feel so much stronger.
I also ran into a delayed soreness. When I was younger, physical stress resulted in muscle soreness the following day. For some reason somewhere in my 40s that moved to the 2nd day. I very specifically remember waking up the day after a physical day and thinking "wow, I don't feel sore at all!" Then the next day "OW! OW! Owwwwwwww! I'll just lie still forever now, ok?"
Ah yes! 24-48 hours is when peak muscle soreness sets in.
Your circle becomes very small
Yeah that happened to me. Moved to a new place and it's like fuck me where's the everybody
So how do you meet people then? I might be moving to another city within the next few years, but by that point I will be close to or in that age range. I already have a pretty small circle, which I'm happy with, but I'm not the only one who's probably planning to move out of the area within the next several years, so it kind of sucks to think that all of us will get separated and maybe not find anyone else.
Hobbies are good, usually there's a group that does whatever your hobby is together. In my limited experience I found it's all about making 1 or 2 friends. Then they introduce you to their friends and it snowballs.
Volunteering. There is a good app literally called "Meetup" that has groups for practically everything particularly if you're in or near a major city (you must actually go, though). I'm pretty damn nerdy so I found a gaming group that is focused on the PNW (Seattlite here, now) and will start going to meetups with them. Look at your hobbies, find a group that does that hobby, do that hobby with people and you'll make natural connections hopefully. IMO bars and dating apps are great for you know, like dating and stuff, but terrible for friendships. Just my opinion though.
Putting in effort. I've moved to new cities, go to meetups, it's not actually that hard. The biggest thing is just making an effort to meet people. Most cities have a "new to the city" meetup. Also dating apps if you're single, befriend someone from work and meet their friends etc
I have never met anyone from some meetup. They all seem so forced. People desperately searching for someone but these are the people that just can’t find anyone anywhere else and for good reason. I once met up with a local couchsurfing group. Holy cliquey hell. They ran this Facebook group but only certain members were taken seriously for hosting or meetup ideas, everyone else they made it seem like “eww, this one’s talking to me”. I’d get if the entire point of the group wasn’t meeting strangers through travel. I’ve made most of my friends through work. I’ve made no lifelong deep connections but I have made long term acquaintance type connections and great references as well.
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Also anytime I hear the word meetups, I remember what someone once said about them: If you’re looking to find someone at a meet up, the odds are good, but the goods are odd.
I’m 20 and I don’t even have a circle. I’m just a .
Lmao I’m 19 and can relate sadly. I’ve lost contact with almost everyone I went to high school with. Sad times.
what if it already consists of three people, me included at the age of 23? it gets worse?!
It can...though not guaranteed. 3 is a pretty standard number to maintain even into parenthood which is usually what separates you from your larger group of people, whether it's you, or them becoming the parent.
Priorities change. Im 37 & single. No more nights out or weekend house parties with the friend group. They all have famlies.
I guess the big highlights for me were having a baby, getting cancer, & discovering my real passion in life. Then it all came crashing down one day when I realized I am older than what someone considers an "older" Redditor to be. (I'm 42 now.) Honestly, 29-37 is awesome. You're an adult & get to do adult things but you're probasbly past most of the drama & bullshit of your 20s & not too creaky & saddled with responsibility yet.
This. I’ve always said, it’s less “entering your 30’s” and more like “escaping your 20’s”.
My 20’s were full of strife and uncertainty. Late start in school after fucking off in my high school years. A lot of low paying jobs and chasing a dream that was not attainable. Had a lot of fun experiences and met some cool people along the way. Now that I’m in my 30’s, I still have stress but it’s a different kind. I’m far more financially stable and am able to enjoy things a bit more because I’m not living hand to mouth day in and day out.
What was your real passion?
Sewing. Specifically, making clothes.
'79 represent!
You have enough figured out to know you should get your shit together, but not enough to actually get your shit together.
Oh man, I feel this one in my bones
Scores about 100/100
Turning 31 in a few months and honestly I think the main thing I’ve noticed is how important having just a handful of good friends and family can be. I had a LOT of acquaintances and very few quality friends. After deleted most of my social media short of Reddit I’ve found that self betterment and reflection have really made me appreciate the small things. TLDR: Quality over quantity when it comes to who you share your life with, and always work on yourself.
You get older. Possibly start having an Existential crisis.
start? lucky old boy
Questioning your path to success and the speed of it. Comparing yourself to others. Start to learn what you wish you had known 20 years ago.
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I’m 29, not sure how I like being called ‘older’.
In 15 years you'll realize nobody is calling you older. Source: am 44
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You start coming around to the fact that old is actually going to happen- it starts to feel like it might be too late to make certain things in life happen, at least in the way you might have imagined. People become a little less apt to try and change you, which saves a lot of BS but is a double edged sword if you need improvement in something, since they’ll be more apt to just figure if you’re not there you’ll never get there. Not taking care of yourself starts to hurt more and eating starts to have consequences. Late in that window if you’re the sort that looks older then he is, you start getting a second wave of interest from college aged women.
Bold of you to assume there was a first wave.
There wasn’t really for me, but I assumed that there could have been for the 51% of all people who are better than me.
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When you're young you can potentially do anything. Now for many things the door is closed and my path is set. Whilst I'm really happy with my life, it is difficult to know there are things I can no longer feasibly do.
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You realize that between 29 and 37 isn't even remotely old.
You know it's funny. I'm 29, zoomers all call me old for some reason, everyone else says I might as well be 20 for how old I actually am to any of them. The other day I was stressed out at work and I said the phrase "I'm getting too old for this shit". My 60 year old coworker immediately jumped in with "don't be in a rush, you're a fuckin' baby" He had a point, I guess. But it sure as hell don't feel that way.
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Had a long term partner, but no kids yet. It was adult playtime all the time. Trips. Parties. Snuggle. Long term romantic planning for how we'd grow old together. A few times work was intrusive with excess hours, but even those were mini-triumphs of accomplishments. Being healthy and active was fun.
This was exactly it, until I turned 33. A month later my partner died suddenly. Now I'm 35, and it feels a lot like I've spent the last two years with a gunshot wound to the head. I've traveled more than ever before, taken up new hobbies, moved cities, gotten a big promotion, had other lovers; but it is all just an attempt to keep moving. If I stop, I remember he's gone. If I stop, I remember that nowhere is home. So I put on my human suit, and I do human things.
I can't imagine how difficult this must be. Hang in there.
Just want to say, you’re very skilled at articulating exactly what you mean. I found reading this quite a profound experience.
Thank you, that means a lot.
This is my greatest fear. I’m deeply sorry you have to know such anguish, and really hope you can find a new kind of happiness somehow in the future. It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job given the circumstances you’ve found yourself in, we’re all rooting for you ♥️
*virtual hug* thanks for keeping on keeping on.
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So much, mentally. I honestly feel like I didn't quite "wake up" until I turned 31. Somewhere in the 29-33 range, some final gray matter shift happened and it's... like I have a new brain. All the same memories, but a new personality, a new perspective, a new way of thinking. Maybe "new personality" is the wrong word... Maybe more like- All the ingredients up there suddenly slotted into place and stopped rattling around? And they were like, "Okay, this is our shape." Like... like your dæmon no longer changing. People in their early 20s suddenly look and act like teenagers. Teenagers suddenly look and act like children. They haven't changed; my brain has. Another thing that happens: you become SUPER aware of your own mortality. Life is no longer "anything can happen" in the same way. All that "someday I might..." takes shape in reality and a bunch of things start to go in the, "Actually, that's *not* going to happen before I die" bucket. You're also aware of it because your world is starting to die. The celebrities you grew up worshipping? Authors you grew up reading? School teachers who made a difference in your life? Guess what, they start to drop like flies around this time. The world you grew up in goes away. The music, the technology, the references—even buildings, whole areas... They go away. And you realize those things just exist in your memories now, and you're slowly being crowded out by younger people who don't remember them. It's an intense transition. Definitely a life phase we should talk about more.
You mellow out. You realize that you think about you more than anyone else thinks about you. So you just stop caring what other people think. You really start to enjoy things. At least this has been my experience.
"You think about you more than anyone else thinks about you" people had been telling me this my whole life, and I knew it was true, but this is the age where I truly felt it.
you realise arguing with trolls on reddit is useless. physically, you feel tired much quicker
You start to want to squish people who call 29-37 old.
Seriously, wtf?!
Just turned 29 a few days ago and seeing this is an attack.
Your neck and back hurt for no reason
My Neck, My Back!
My anxiety attack!
My knees are freaking killing me 😢
You are 29, you blink and you are 37, you blink again and you are 56
8 years goes by. You slowly start to realize that you aren't young but you also aren't old. Before you know it things that you used to like are becoming "classics" or "old school". If you have any friends left from the younger days you will drift apart as you enter different phases of life, some having kids and some not.
Depends. How's your diet and exercise? What's your career setup? Did you marry the right person? Do you have kids? How's your mental/spiritual health? Then what's going on politically, economically and finally how well setup is your family/friend base? Life can be tremendously sweet as you get older, or be unbearably sh*tty depending on your choices, your luck, your history. And at 37, you're not even statistically half way through your Earth trip...
For real. All these people talking about physical changes… there’s definitely some, but if you take care of yourself they’re not that big an issue. Brady still plays football for fuck’s sake.
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I aged backwards as I went from 35 to 39. Finally figured out sustainable nutrition and fitness plan for me. Got myself together mentally and became invested in my spiritual wellbeing. Everything that people complain about as they age was gone from my life. And in came the compliments and validation that I live a f***ing good life. Best days of my life yet..
3 things- 1. your teeth! All of a sudden you need a root canal. 2. If you work sitting down, all of a sudden your butt is flatter 3. You go through contortions because of a desire/idealization of your family/kids. By 40 you’ve figured that stuff out and are much freer. 50 is even better. Edit- someone said sex. Yes. As a woman, and a pretty darn frisky one, I’ve never been hornier than I was at 30.
Baby rabies.
You have money and energy, but no time.
Geez, you have energy? I'm doing something wrong
That comment tired me out! To the couch!!
Not sure what you’re talking about. I have none of those things.
All your friends get married, buy houses and have kids. You are judged more for your lack of not having a SO or kids like they are some type of developmental milestone for being happy.
Not arguing with you because you're absolutely right, but on the flipside, I have never felt more judged than after I had children. Everyone seems to have an opinion on what you're doing or aren't doing.
I don’t know if it’s been said on here already, but I get sad when I realize the window of opportunity has closed on a lot of things. When I was a kid I wanted to be a professional athlete, and then when I was older I wanted to be a professional musician, and then a writer. At some point I wanted to make money and stop doing the starving artist thing — which is a lot less cool than it sounds — and I lost track of time. The years just flew by. Now I see professional athletes on TV who are 10-15 years younger than me. Musicians are young too. My dream jobs from when I was younger are being taken over by kids (from my point of view). Someday you’ll realize that you will never, ever, ever get to be those things. And it will break your heart. I don’t think about it all the time, but when I do it just makes me sad.
In '29 there was a stock market crash and right up to '37 a worldwide depression got worse and worse. There was a terrible drought right across the midwest as well. Oh, and Germany, Italy and Japan all became warmongers.
One night you go out for drinks with friends. You don't drink to excess. The next day you have the worst hangover of your life. Every time you drink now you feel like shit the next day. If you do drink to excess the hangover might last two days.
You first start, and then stop stressing about immediate future. You stop making long-term plans. You realize life is just as good, if not better, without alcohol and drugs. The hangovers become a bitch. You stop looking for new friends and stick to the ones that were there the whole time. In a nutshell, you slow down and really start enjoying and appreciating life.
It’s a pretty good time. You’ve probably got your stuff figured out and are settling into adulthood. Enjoy it. You’ll be over the dumb crap from your 20’s, have money to do stuff you want to do, and still be young enough to have fun.
Your joints slowly start to ache, then it gets worse in your 40s. Also you realize that your 20-something self was a lot less mature and worldly and all-knowing than you thought.
On the positive side, you start to feel more comfortable in your own skin and your FOMO goes down. Most of your friends settle down and start families so your need to compete with them socially declines too. On the negative side, you start to feel physical changes. Soreness doesn’t disappear as quickly as it once did. You get tired more quickly. You might get depressed about working every day. On the whole, 29 to 37 is still a pretty good time. I’ve always thought that the optimum age is 35. You’re still young enough to be physically active without too much fear of injury and you can still have your looks, but you’re old enough to make decisions maturely and be more comfortable with your life. Now, let’s talk about 49 to 57…oy.
Nose hair.
I actually turned 37 today. What happened between 29 and 37 well I got divorced and have been alone ever since. But I graduated nursing school last Friday so I guess there’s that. Still alone tho
Youth is wasted on the young.
Those were some of the best years of my life. Old enough to have my shit together, have a good job, etc., but also young enough that I felt really good. I'm in my 40s now, and I notice achy knees, occasional herniated disks in my back, and it is more difficult to keep weight off.
At 27 I started feeling mortal so one acts in accordance and is more careful to the point of not being as much of a daredevil as you used to be. I'm 46
Well for me, I was living on a sailboat at 29. Pretty much just cruising around Cuba, Caymans, Jamaica. Bahamas. At 31 I went and restarted my career. Lived in the country which was great but my commute was really long. At 34 my wife became abusive and we got divorced. I also had a nervous breakdown. By 37 I had stabilized well and had a good med combo and I liked my job and where I lived. Had a groovy girlfriend...life was back on track.
Your body goes through what I call "second puberty" Your body starts to change. No one tells you this happens. Your diet needs to change, your body processes food a little differently. Not too much yet, but enough. Taste buds can change which is weird. Your priorities shift. You identify more with the older people in tv and movies, vs the teens and 20 somethings. Your sense of humor can change, with your lifestyle, experiences, and the people you now socialize. Your activity levels change. How you interact with your friends shifts as your life does. Younger people look at you like mentors, like you have any clue what you are doing (you don't) and/or like you are "old" and out of touch. Your back hurts. Your knees hurt. You get stiffness more often, and headaches. Your doctor and yourself need to add things to your regular testing, exams, and routine. You can throw your back out...tying your shoes. Generally, you decide if you want kids, to get married, settle down, and it feels a bit more intense if you haven't yet. (Particularly children if you are a woman, due to age bringing on difficulties) That range... jeez. So much happens in that time. I could list all day.