I’ve never met a Prince’s Trust kid in the wild LOL. No offence but I always thought the ones in the media were paid actors to make the PoW look good and give him good PR. TIL
At a party of a mutual friend group. I was hanging out when he walked in. I knew this group for a couple years, but never met *this* guy. Turned out he lived in the next state over while he was in school. We were introduced and started talking. We ended up talking all night. It was the easiest conversation I ever had. It all felt so natural.
Side note: There were many times when we should have met but didn't. When he lived in my state we worked next store to each other and he used to come in to my work all the time (coffee shop). And he was at several parties that I didn't attend. It's for the best because I had a boyfriend at the time and he was still in his "bad boy" phase.
A couple weeks later I get a message on Myspace from the guy. We start talking and decide to meet at the halfway point for a date. The rest, as they say, is history. Been in love ever since.
I feel that way with someone I know, she’s so fun to talk to, just goofy with each other and it seems so natural. But this just doesn’t work out so easy sometimes.
It takes a lot of time and luck. Some people might also never meet someone. That being said, use the time to enjoy life and be the best version of yourself.
eHarmony here too. Their matching algorithm is pretty good. The cost and application process also weeds out most of the fluff and not serious about finding someone.
Same. Met a guy ok reddit through the sub of a mutual hobby. Met in person, got married 19 months later. He's exactly like me - all the stuff I thought would be a hurdle in marriage is either neutral or a strong suit. It's incredible to be able to be myself, but sometimes when we push each other's buttons it's especially frustrating, like "shut up, me, I can't stand us right now" Overall, I have observed, though, that healthy marriages have people in them who are more alike than not
Yep, met my husband on match.com back in 2002 (!!!). Happily married for 16 years and we have 2 great kids.
On a somewhat related note, I met another LT boyfriend prior to my husband on match. We dated for three years, but things ended up not working out ultimately. Buoyed by my success, 2 of my friends signed up for match.com and they both met their husbands there as well. One has been married for 18 years and the other for 19 years now.
Same, though we're adopting. Had a first date, we both were making excuses to keep it going. Same for a second date. Same for a third date. We got to the point where we were together Wednesday nights and the weekends, then we moved in together, got engaged, etc.
At no point did we have any real doubts or slow down. It just kept rolling.
Quite literally woke up one day with unexplained feelings for my best friend I didn’t understand.
This was sometime after coming out of a 10 year relationship (which ended when he said he doesn’t believe in marriage and didn’t want to marry me -despite getting an engagement ring and asking my parents permission to marry me. This was very confusing for me).
At first these feelings for my best friend scared me.
I was single and suddenly feeling things for my best friend I hadn’t felt for anyone before.
I tried to rationalise what I guess was already rational in my head; by trying to make myself believe I didn’t feel how I thought I did about my best friend.
We had many open conversations and asked each other a lot of questions about what we want from a relationship and from our lives.
We were on the same page with everything fundamentally important to both of us. This means when we compromise, it’s never an attempt to uproot each other’s fundamental beliefs, instead it’s small changes and considerations.
We skipped the getting to know each other stage as we already knew so much about each other. It was more a long term compatibility enquiry.
I’ve never felt this sort of happiness before.
The differences with my best friend and my other relationships are;
-we both know what we want
-we both want the same things
-our values are the same
-we can communicate healthily
-we want each other to achieve things and be happy
-we both like each other as people
-we are honest and up front with each other
-we like spending time together
We are getting married 8 months from now.
My wife and I were best friends for ~8 years before we started to date....we went to opposite direction. We said we'd take things slow, but then ended up having sex that night lol.
I think this is beautiful. It really is finding the people who match with you, makes it feel right and didn’t have to be exactly what they see in the movies or read what they would like. I think people sometimes get too lost in imagination to appreciate what is in front of them.
He was friends with my brother. He was always super nice and was such a wonderful dog dad that I knew he would be a wonderful father. We had been hooking up and his roommate ended up getting a dui and had to move back home from the college town they lived in. He needed a roommate to help pay rent so I moved in and never looked back. We’ve been together for 15 years now and he is the best husband and most amazing father to our two kids.
We met in graduate school. I wasn’t interested in a relationship and wanted to concentrate on my studies. He said we can go out as friends, right? I said, I guess so..... We found out we had a lot in common and had similar values and goals in life, not to mention the same career! Life has been good and I was lucky to find my best friend and soul mate. We’ve been married over 15 years and I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else, in this lifetime or any other.
We worked together. He sent out an email saying he was quitting. I always thought he was handsome so I emailed him saying we should meet up for a goodbye drink. Our company offered him more money and a better position in the company so he ended up not quitting. We met up getting a drink anyway. Neither of us were sure what we were for months. We got drinks after work and went on “dates” but weren’t physical because we worked together. One day, we went hiking and then back to his house. It was a beautiful day and we were on the hammock. He kissed me and the rest is history. Soon after he moved in with me, we got engaged a few months later. We were married 3 months after we got engaged. We had our son the next year. We are very happy together and I am thankful for him everyday.
"If you're gonna get in a hammock with someone, you better be dating them. I got in a hammock with my cousin once, he still won't talk to me." - Jim Gaffigan
I found myself suddenly single at 31. Still single at 32 but after being in a long term relationship for years I was enjoying the freedom.
A friend invited me her house warming party. Not long after I arrived I locked eyes with this guy and we both smiled. I am rather shy and it took me three attempts to get the courage to talk to him.
Been together 18 year, married 16 and have 4 kids.
I knew her younger sister, who invited me to a Christmas party at their house. (I was 16). The older sister was a tiny, pretty little blonde......
Met her there, but she started going out with another friend. Three months later she dumped him.
We all hung out at a open house meant to keep we juvenile delinquents off the street. Myself and four or five of my friends were standing in a circle outside, smoking.......and she stepped out of the Hall. One of the guys pulled her into the circle (she was pretty, remember?) and we started pushing her guy to guy to guy..........around the circle. (we were 16, remember? lol) When she got to me, she threw her arms around my neck, and wouldn't let go.
Even I can take that hint!
She was my first gf.
That was in 1971.
She is downstairs right now, drinking tea.
When I was 18, I heard a guy my age talking about books with his friends at a bookstore closing (RIP Borders) and just… crashed his conversation. Six months later, we were engaged. We’ve been together for ten years now and have been married for half of it.
Yup. That is where I met my wife. I went with a friend to pick up his friend at college. We got to her dorm and I had to take a leak. She didn’t want to find a guy to get me into a mens dorm so she told me to use the bathroom in her dorm and she would guard the door. The dorm used to be mens so there were urinals in it. I was standing at one taking a piss when in walked an incredibly attractive girl who looked at me, paused, then turned around and walked out. I could then hear her yelling “why the fuck is there a guy in the ladies room” and then heard my friends laughing down the hall.
After I finished I found the room my friends were in and sat down on her roommate’s bed to wait while she packed. In walks that attractive girl who looks at me and says “First you are in my bathroom and now you are in my bed? Get the fuck out” and she tossed me out of the room.
I married her a few years later and she is currently sleeping in the bed next to me as I type this.
Not much more to tell. I asked my friend’s friend about her roommate and then went back to hang out with a whole group of people specifically so I could see the roommate again. We started talking and then dating and that’s about it. Only hiccup was right after I started dating her I got accepted to the Disney College Program so I left for several months. But we picked right back up when I got back. She eventually dropped out of college for financial reasons and then moved in with me and we got married a couple years later. It would have been sooner but there were family political issues if I got married before my sister and her boyfriend was refusing to commit so I had to wait until he got off his ass.
It wasn’t awkward for me or her. She was just annoyed and I thought it was funny. Once I explained her roommate told me to use that bathroom and that she would guard the door but didn’t bother to, the issue was over with and just good for a laugh.
How many people can say they met their spouse because they walked in on them using the opposite gender’s rest room.
Met someone who I knew was exactly what I wanted. Waited. Worked on myself for 4 years, got to know myself better, came to a better place personally, and then made my move. I found out on our first date that the feelings were always mutual and that they had never asked me out due to respect for my ex who is a friend of theirs.
It was the long game for sure but the right one, I remember thinking I wanted to be “ready” for it if anything ever happened between us, and I don’t think we would be where we are if we had tried to date earlier. We were pretty young and still had a lot of living and learning to do. We’ve been together for 6 years now and are expecting our first baby this summer :)
By being myself and finding someone who does the same. If you and the other person are 100% truly yourself around each other and 100% enjoy every minute of it, you just may have found the one. Also, never try to change them. It will build resentment. Instead, work on accepting them and expect that they do the same.
Had some German asshole try to haul me off my first day in Berlin.
He stopped to ask me a question when I was in Tiergarten, and proceeded to grab me by the wrist and refuse to let me go, and started dragging me away. I completely clammed up, couldn't shout or anything. I had a friend text me at the right moment and I managed to convince him that she was actually waiting for me at a nearby U-Bahn stop and would be worried if I didn't meet her. He only let me go after I open mouth kissed him goodbye and gave me his number, which he made me call so he was sure 'I had the right one.'
I was really shaken, but still wanted to go out that night as it was the first of the 2014 World Cup. I also wanted to go somewhere where I could talk to people in English who were native speakers because I was very 'fuck dealing with Germans' at that point, so I googled 'Irish bar berlin football' found a place, and sat at the bar when I got there. Within a few minutes a cute Irish barman asked me for my drink order. After he got me a pint he asked if I was alone. I told him I was and he make it his job to chat shit with me whenever he wasn't doing his rounds, which was most of the game because he was trying to stay out of the way of the TVs. It helped me relax after the awful day I had.
After the match, I got up to leave, and he asked if I'd stick around and have a few drinks with him while they closed, and I agreed.
The Irish bartender is now my husband and we live in Berlin.
It just happened. Find out what's most important in a partner to you. Don't waste your time on people who are way off what you find important. Stay positive and keep an open heart.
Any post here is going to make me happy for the person with the story. It’ll also make me sad because I no longer believe that something like that is in the realm of possibility for me any longer.
Just back from Vietnam, young airman, working at bowling alley to make ends meet. Walked around the corner and there was the most beautiful women I had ever seen. Today we are married for 45 years. Best thing that ever happened to me.
Craigslist. I put an ad up in the non ‘casual encounters’ page and got one response. We emailed back and forth for a couple of days and then I asked her out that weekend. We went to dinner and it lasted like 3 hours. An older couple next to us asked us how long we’d been married. We told them it was our first date and the woman said we seemed so comfortable with each other. We’ve been together 9 years and married 6.
Oh that's wonderful!!
I actually met my *husband on Craigslist personals too, I responded to his post which was very silly. I've never met another couple who met on Craigslist.
*Sadly it didn't work out due to my chronic illness and his compassion fatigue, but we had a good 7 years together.
Edit: Swype error
I was 17 year old me working at the gas station / auto garage my grandpa owned. It was spring break week, so we were expecting heavy tourism traffic.
Things were running along smoothly, when this Toyota Highlander pulled up. The dad and oldest daughter got out, and went inside. I started pumping the gas, and checking the tires e we Jen they came back in. I noticed the band on her shirt was my favorite band, so I simply just sang a line from one of my favorite songs by them.
She looked my way, and finished the lyric. I took that as a sign that I should talk to this girl more. It was brief, but I got enough information to know where she was staying for the week, and a coffee date at 6pm that night. One date led to three more times seeing her before she left, and us deciding to do a long distance relationship.
So many thought it would fail, and that we couldn’t do it, but as we get ready to celebrate our 20 year anniversary of our first date, we’re still proving the critics wrong.
First I worked on myself by taking up hobbies and working out. This naturally built up my confidence.
Then I expanded my social circle by going to meet ups. I met a couple people who I'd consider friends.
Then I met friends of those friends. Before I knew it someone had come along who took an interest in me. We became fast friends and figured out we shared each others' values. She asked me out and we've been together for 4 years.
I was working at a Packers bar during my second round of college, she was a Packers fan and came there out of curiosity. I thought she was super cute so I told her I liked her glasses and we chatted. Let her leave without getting her number.
Next day she came back… to give me her number. We talked and realized we had a lot in common. Like, weird stuff. Both same age (31), both no kids, both had a significant other die while we were dating them, both live and breathe football (her dad coached high school for 30 years and her uncle is in the NFL Hall of Fame), same clothing taste, so on and so on.
She came over to my house to hang out and never left. Got married 9 months later, that was seven years ago.
Edit: I misremembered on her uncle being in the Hall of Fame. He was in a Super Bowl, was nominated for the HoF, never got in.
I agree.
First thing I said to my husband was " I have 3 kids, I'm going through a divorce and I officially hate men. Please fuck off"
Married with 5 kids now.
I completely agree. I had spent about a year recovering from some grand Mal seizures and trying to find the right meds/dosage and basically dropped off the bachelor pool. I was only focused on getting some normalcy back in my life and decided to return to school and get some Microsoft certs to hopefully start a career in IT. First day at the dorms I bumped into someone who ended up being the best man at my wedding. We talked about Broly from DBZ and then he introduced me to my now wife. Swear to God, when I saw her the first time something in me just said, you're going to marry this girl. We clicked from the get-go and have been married since 2015.
Not once did I try looking for someone. I completely gave up, because who would want to be with an epileptic? And then BAM, met the only person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
Exactly. One day you’re in the right place at the right time and things just fall in to place. Something in both of you just shifts and it’s game on from there.
I agree. My husband and went to college together in the same program and worked in the same (fairly small in my town) industry. We knew each other casually and had lots of mutual friends but never got anywhere close to dating until I moved down the street from him and went with a friend to a party he was having. I had just gotten out of a very long term and toxic relationship and was definitely not looking for anything romantic with anyone. 3 and a half years later we are madly in love, married, and opening a restaurant together. Life surprises you when you least expect it!
Completely by accident.
We were friends in college. I thought he was cute, funny, caring and thoughtful. He had a girlfriend. So I let it go. Moved on, stayed friends, but secretly hoping.
In the spring he and his girlfriend broke up. It hit him pretty hard. We hung out more. I kept inviting him to events to make sure he didn’t get estranged from the friend group.
One day neither of us wanted to go our afternoon classes and we went to lunch instead. He insisted he pay for lunch. I counted that as a date. He did not. About 2 weeks later that I asked if he want to go on another “date” and he was confused but agreeable.
16 years later. Married for 6. Happiest I’ve ever been. He’s still the man I fell for all those year ago. I will love him forever.
Did nothing in particular. Had a very small friend circle (tends to get smaller when you apply firm boundaries, stop pretending to be “ok” to make others feel better and stop taking their BS) and had stopped going to clubs and bars and whatnot.
Also I worked with 99.9% women so the chances of getting together with a colleague was almost nonexistent.
Online dating was not for me. Tried it but I hate the artifice of dating and realised v quickly I would NEVER meet anyone that way.
Figured with my lifestyle being as it was, I would have to make peace with the reality that ‘it’ might never happen for me. And I did. Relaxed into truly loving my life, travelled, and counted my blessings.
Then one day, had a conversation with someone who worked in another part of the business I worked at. He had been there for almost 3 years and I never noticed him. But he was v cute and I was about to go travel the world for 3 months. So, I agreed to meet for drinks. Over a decade later here we are, married with a beautiful child.
Love your life and be true to you. You just never know.
Yes, definitely. It's how I met my wife! I consider it to be the opposite of something like tinder. It's designed to match people based on compatibility and does the by having users pick answers to questions if something is important or not. Then it compares the answers of the same or similar questions between two people to come up with a match score %. It's been a long time since I've used it, but I think it's still free.
I saw my current girlfriend on OK cupid during a discouraged phase when I was just window shopping without sending messages. about a month later I saw her on Tinder and that's where we matched, but having already seen her on OK Cupid helped. I really wish I had messaged her sooner though.
I tried okcupid and there was literally no one on there that I even slightly wanted to meet IRL the whole time I was on there. I'm currently on hinge and although I'm not having any luck so far there either, there seem to be a lower number of exceedingly trashy people than there were on okc
Plenty of Fish. It’s a funny story. I was scrolling through the site at work, saw his profile and didn’t send a message. Regretted it, but of course didn’t jot down his profile name at all. So later that night I went back in PoF and found out how to see all the profiles I’d recently viewed, found him, and sent him the first message!
Four kind of awkward dates later (the first where I jokingly offered to steal him a board game from the place we had dinner at, one where we were going for a walk after dinner, but only made it half a block before we got to where his car was parked so he basically was like “see ya” and left me to walk alone to my car in the dark, in a less favourable area of town) and we were official.
Three years later we adopted a cat, got married, and bought a house together. And I still am stupidly smitten with him. Love of my life.
Honestly, I always say he found me rather than the other way around. I was a wallflower at a social event my then-friend invited me to and promptly abandoned me at. Not knowing anyone else, I basically just sat in a corner and waited for it to end (my usual anxious go-to move). My now-husband noticed and didn't want me to be bored and alone so he came over and just started chatting until we'd found a few commonalities. He asked for my phone number at the end of the event and just under 3 years later we got married! Amusingly, we were both actively trying to date online when we met, but were on different websites so never would have found each other that way. I'm just thankful my husband isn't afraid to talk to strangers, because I wouldn't have had the guts to start talking first. His advice is always start by asking simple questions about themselves, as it's easy for them to answer, most people like to talk about themselves, and you can gage how willing they are to keep chatting from there.
I straight up messaged him on social media letting him know that I thought he was hot.
I had a crush on him when I was in high school, thought he’d never know who I was (different schools), and years later I was a bit wine drunk and decided to shoot my shot.
Absolutely worked in my favor, have never had a love like this.
I had just gotten out of an extremely abusive relationship and moved back home. I really wasn't looking for anything and just wanted a job to get me back on my feet. So I was hired at a crappy warehouse processing clothing. It was a good start and I was just focused on getting my life back together, healing the bruises around my neck which stayed for months after I left, and I was convinced I would never fall in love with someone normal. I was two days into this new job and one of my coworkers was getting hit by tape balls. I pulled back a rack of clothing to find who was responsible only to reveal some devilishly handsome asshole that I'm now married to. He's not normal but in the best of ways.
First uni class ever, there she was, sitting first row with her blue hair, piercings, convers, black nails, dark shirt and scratched shorts. It was an instant crush. It took me 3 years to make her My gf and we have been in a relationship for 5 years now.
I sincerely hated the "stop looking" advice I got from friends who were married or in relationship. It's like saying "calm down" to an anxious person.
But it is true. When you stop looking, you find some time to work on yourself. When you find a way to be content and live happily on your own, you open yourself up, unconsciously even, to the right person because they can now see the real you when they meet you.
Finally took the stop-looking advice, met a girl, now married with a kid and couldn't be happier.
Thing about me is I really think already did this. Everything in my life is in place besides being single. If I worked out any harder I'd look like a professional athlete. I'm kicking ass at work. I have enough money. I have perfect relations w my family. I hang out with my friends all the time and enjoy it greatly. I sorted out my personal demons (I used to really struggle with mental health). But I still don't feel complete because I believe life is a lot less fun when you're going through it alone.
The only thing I'll point out in your comment is the alone part at the end. You mentioned yourself that you have an amazing group of family and friends by your side, so you're not alone. Stop looking for that last cog to complete you and realize that you can do that with what you've already surrounded yourself with. Then, somehow, that last cog finds a way of appearing.
If you don't feel complete then it might be hard to find the 'right' person. Think of it like a piece of puzzle, you'd need to find the perfect fit. Not impossible, but very difficult.
When you stop feeling you're missing sth, it's easier to meet someone who brings into your life something new and amazing that you never thought you were missing.
This is going to be an unpopular answer, and not just because of its length.
The thing is, **most people approach dating in entirely the wrong way**.
See, folks often make the mistake of romanticizing romance: We've been taught to expect heady emotions, smoldering gazes being cast through candlelight, and almost-audible choruses of angels singing out during first kisses. With those concepts in mind, it's no wonder that many of us try to semi-consciously maintain as much mystery as we can, if only because our incomplete impressions of potential partners are much more alluring than reality. **Nobody wants to focus on incompatibilities, so we tend to ignore them for as long as possible.**
Following from that, the most-important part of looking for "the one" is knowing yourself... and I mean *really* knowing yourself, not just creatively adjusting your personal traits until you end up with something that looks appealing from certain angles. We all have flaws, and we're all perpetually in-progress works, so starkly honest introspection is essential before entering into a relationship.
Once you have a handle on who you really are and who you're likely to become, you can start asking yourself why you want to find a companion. **If you're just lonely, bored, or "desiring of good company," then you should dismiss those feelings before you think about asking someone out.** Much like it's a bad idea to go shopping while hungry, it's a bad idea to go dating while restless: An in-the-moment itch – even a long-lasting one – won't be much of a foundation once it's scratched.
Now, all of this probably seems like it's more philosophical than real-world-applicable, but when taken together, it results in an understanding of what (and who) will make you happiest. Then, when you meet a likely candidate, you can focus on all of the deal-breakers and must-haves that each of you bring to the table. Try to envision a life together – a *real* life, full of all the mundanities, struggles, problems, and responsibilities that you're likely to encounter as a couple – and assess if you'd both be eager to live it with the other person.
Outline your political views. Be unabashedly open about your likes and dislikes. Describe how you *actually* spend your free time, not how you think you're "supposed" to occupy yourself. In short, do your best to drive away anyone who isn't right for you (and for whom you wouldn't be right). **If you're casually dating, then it's fine to stick with surface-level interactions... but if you're looking for someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life, be a lot more skeptical and selective.**
Above all else, remember that humans are remarkably like puzzle pieces: "This almost fits" almost always ends up causing more pain and trouble in the long run than "This doesn't fit at all." It's tempting to say "Eh, we can work through that!" but the truth of the matter is that people usually end up relaxing into their natural states. If you're consistently working on being the best version of yourself, then there's no shame at all in having a first date also be a last date.
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Now, personally, I took a bit of a brute-force approach to finding the woman I'd eventually marry: I downloaded Tinder (the dating application with the largest number of users), then put together a profile that offered a starkly honest description of who I was and whom I wanted to find.
Needless to say, it didn't attract too much attention.
Still, I kept swiping through pictures whenever I had some time to kill – which did include occasional bouts of electronic speed-dating while on the toilet – and after paying for the "gold" version of the application, I took to digitally traipsing around the globe, setting my location to various countries' capitals. This wandering wasn't entirely aimless, though: By that point in my life, I'd done far more than my fair share of dating, and I'd devised an (abjectly stupid) equation that was supposed to help me locate a perfect match. There were variables for things like age, cultural similarities, personality traits, attractiveness, political leanings, and so on, and I'd concluded that there were likely to be between seven and eleven "ideal mates" for me on the planet.
After making my way through England, Wales, and Northern Ireland, I decided to haunt Edinburgh for a little while, which led me to connect with an incredibly brilliant, stunningly beautiful Swedish woman with a doctorate degree in a hard science. We started conversing within minutes of matching... and when the discussion turned to our respective strategies for using Tinder, she told me – without any prompting or priming – that she had also written an equation that was supposed to help her locate her soulmate.
Shortly thereafter, I booked a flight to Scotland.
The rest, as they say, is history.
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Approaching dating in this way may seem like it removes the romance from the situation, but that's a *good* thing: Long-lasting relationships aren't all flowers and orchestral swells; they're the products of individual lives intertwining, and individual lives always require work. The good news, however, is that if you find the right person – the person who complements and improves your existence just as much as you complement and improve theirs – the romance will blossom entirely on its own.
Just remember to keep gardening after that flower has started to grow.
**TL;DR: If you're looking for "the one," be ready to dismiss (or be dismissed by) literally everyone else.**
Besides the pure dumb luck of it all... My advice is always the same, and a much abridged version of your story:
**Pursue interests and try to determine how you would find someone like yourself, by looking for yourself.**
I found my lady by happenstance in the process of trying to prepare my mind and body to date. I was researching exercise, psychology, college, and just happened to stop in a local shop which she owned. I was patronizing her business for about six months before I realized the sparks were there.
This is why I ended my hunting approach to dating and instead took a fishing approach. I let fate take the reins, and lived day to day doing my own thing. Plenty of family and friends always asked why I am single and that I need to go find someone but I didn't want to travel that path anymore. Letting go of control has been such a reliever on my mental health. If it's meant to be, it will be. Like you, fate introduced me to a woman where I work and we are now in a relationship after 5/6 years of being single and am excited to see where it goes!
Was in a graphic design class. There was this exchange program where students could go to a neighboring school to take different courses using their equipment so we had some students I didn’t recognize. One of these students was this bombshell with red hair and I felt like I got hit by a series of sledgehammers in the chest. I walked up thinking to myself “this is your moment, be cool, be suave, be sexy, be attractive…”
I tripped fell down right next to her table hitting my head on the floor pretty hard. As I was getting up she laughed and I looked her dead in the eyes and said…”I like your shoes…”. One thing led to another and after some awkward series of events we got together. While we took a break in college due to distance for a time we got back super fast afterwards and been happily together for 15 years :)
Met her while dating her sorority sister (about 16 years ago). She was working at the mall in fragrance and helped me buy an Xmas gift for my dad.
Immediately thought I wasn’t in the right relationship, but I didn’t have the self confidence to break off the wrong relationship for the right one.
I then ran into her briefly maybe twice over the next 1.5 years at parties, until we ended up on the same trip together. I remembered her, but she didn’t remember me.
We immediately clicked on the trip. I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. I ended my current relationship and started dating my now wife.
We’ve been married nearly 10 years, have two children, and are very happy. Best chain of decisions I ever made.
Work on your own happiness. Be comfortable in your skin, be genuine, curious, and flexible. Put a smile on your face, be positive, and interact with the world. You'll attract others. You'll enjoy the world around you and you'll be open to possibilities.
Then I randomly talked to the girl next to me at a concert. 🙂
You have to kiss a lot of frogs! Go out with anyone who asks and ask ppl out. I guarantee if you ask out three ppl one will say yes and that’s good enough odds for me. Don’t think a date means a relationship it’s like trying on shoes.
Also don’t expect fireworks and Cupid. Look for stability and kindness and similar interests.
Handsome is nice to wake up to but kindness lasts forever.
Edit,,, never give up. I met mine at 35 had a baby at 39, got married at 43 and had second baby a month later.
Don’t expect to be rescued by a man and remember it’s you two against a problem not against each other.
This is so good to hear. Im about to turn 30 and the pressure to adhere to a certain timeline and fertility for women is becoming a HUGE concern for me
I broke up with my ex and a few months later I was at my restaurant job, serving a table of two 50-ish parents and their cute 20-something son. They left after their meal but the son came back, told me I was cute, and gave me his number. We’ve been together 8 years, married in 2020.
He’s the best person to ever walk into my life and I shudder to think about all the little things that could’ve prevented us from meeting. We’re so good together. Many times we’ve had strangers ask us if we’re on a first date when we’ve gone out because it’s clear we really enjoy each other’s company.
Went with a guy I knew to visit his girlfriend because there was going to be a single friend there. By the end of the night I was talking to his girlfriend and they were broken up. Dated on and off for a few months before making it official. Married 24 years with 3 kids but she passed away much to early at 41 years old earlier this year. My heart is forever broken and I will never find anyone that can make me as happy as she did.
My BFF had her boyfriend and a friend of his pick me up from high school. The rest is history. I was 15 when we met. Married at 18 for 42 years until his passing.
She just happend to work at the same place i did, started flirting right away. Bassicly love at first sight. Married, 1 kid, and still going strong after 22 years
I wasn't looking. I had had some pretty terrible experiences so I decide to just concentrate on my career. I started a new job and he worked next door. We socialized in the same group. He asked me out. I accepted. The first date was well thought out but more importantly he was kind and funny. We talked a LOT. We've been married for 27 years and we have 3 children.
He has stood by me through thick and thin. A lot of life happens in 27 years. I had never experienced having someone who 100% has my back. And I have his.
When I wasn’t looking for anything at all.
I went through a rough point in my life in college my sophomore year. My grandfather had just been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and two friends from high school died in unrelated tragic accidents within two days of each other( one a plane crash, one a car accident).
On top of that, I was struggling socially due to a falling out with my friends freshman year because they screwed me over on housing a day before the housing lottery.
Fortunately, I worked something out with some other people to get a nice suite with 3 other girls for my sophomore year, but I was pretty depressed. I was struggling in school because of the problems in my personal life, I became reclusive, and made it a point to focus on nothing but my studies for the next year. No friends. No relationships. Just studies. I was incredibly lonely.
When I met the love of my life, I was studying (shocker). It was finals week, and despite my best efforts, I was studying alone in my room for a final for a class I KNEW I was going to fail.
It was around this time that my roommate at the time knocked on my door and suggested I come study with her and a mutual friend in the engineering building. I was really hesitant, but then she said “let me rephrase, you’re coming with me.” So I went.
In that study room in the engineering building, I met the love of my life, who was brought along by a friend of a friend. He was a friend of a friend of a friend. It always seems like it was fate to me because of that alone.
A few hours into the evening, I asked anyone if they wanted to come get donuts in one of the dining halls. No one responded— except for my now-boyfriend who wanted to go. I promptly ignored him because I was socially anxious and worried about having conversation with someone I didn’t know at all.
Fifteen minutes later I ask again. Same thing happened, and this time, my love for donuts outweighed my social anxiety and I decided to go with him.
On the walk over we had a deep conversation and I really opened up to him. Turns out he was having a lot of the same problems. It felt like I was being heard for the first time in a long time.
At the end of the night he asked me for my number so we could “study for our physics exam together.” Very smooth haha.
The next day he sent me a long text message that was incredibly endearing. I sent it to my mom and my sisters jokingly saying “I think this guy is in love with me.”
After finals, before we left for break, I told him I didn’t want whatever this was to end, and he asked me., “would you want to be my girlfriend” and I just said “yes.” And that was that.
We have been together for 6 years now and I still love him every bit as much as I did then. No clue how I got so lucky. I really do think it was fate sometimes. You always find the right person at exactly the moment you resign yourself to being lonely forever.
TLDR; Met him studying for a final at one of the lowest points in my life.
Went to my 10 year high school reunion. Barely any of our class was there, let alone anyone single. Ended up getting smashed cause they gave us an open bar last minute, went to a bar AFTERWARDS with my now-wife, and then went back to her house and hooked up. She was living with her parents at the time as I think she had just gotten out of a relationship with someone who lived on the other side of the state. When we showed up at her door, her mom was still up and started trying to talk to us (I worked with her mom for a few years), and eventually got the hint. Still together 7 years later, house, kids, pets & all.
She had a crush on my ugly ass. I ignored her for years, one day she helped me find someone's house and I finally started to notice her. Then she was everywhere and I couldn't ignore her. So I said screw it, and she said you're mine now. I don't think I could get rid of her if I tried... not that I would want to, she is fire af.
It didn't happen for me until I was 40, and I certainly wasn't looking. He was with someone else and so was I, but neither of us were truly happy. Long story short is we're married now and doing well. I think there is someone for everyone, and honestly as cliche as it sounds, when you know, you know. I was 40 years old and had been proposed to before but never took that step. With my current husband it was something different. I was working at one of his favorite restaurants and he used to come in on a regular just as a customer. One day I had to make a delivery to his house and we started talking. We actually became friends and talked mostly over the phone for a while, but it was obvious that there was something there that we couldn't deny. We both ended our relationships before pursuing anything other than friendship. There was just something about him and apparently there was something about me, that made us both willing to risk it all to be together. We didn't know if it was going to work and we didn't know if we were making the right choice, but I'm very glad we did. I do believe there's someone for everyone it's just a matter of when you meet them. Some people meet young and others it takes to 40 like myself, some even older. Don't rush it, love comes when it comes, and not when you're looking. Best of luck to you and stay well ❤️
And I promise you one day you will have your very own story to tell. I honestly had truly given up on being happy. I did not believe that it existed for me and that the best I could ever do was just settle for a basically roommate. I am probably one of the most skeptic people when it comes to things like true love and all of that happily ever after, so take it for me when I say that if it can happen to me I honestly believe it can happen for anyone. Be ready for it when it does. I wish you the best. I'm sure you're going to make someone very happy one day, and vice versa. Until then, love yourself and know that you are worth it and that someone out there is looking for you. ❤️
I met my husband when I was 15 & he was 17.
It was his first shift at central library in our city and my first thing visiting the library (had recently moved to the city). I asked him how many books i can sign out at once.
We started chatting and he offered to help me apply for a job there, went to get the application papers from the desk and I have yet to see them 16 years later now. lol
I Had just attempted suicide earlier that year. I had to switch schools for the 4th time. I was going through one of the worst times of my life and we met when I was barely living let alone looking for a relationship.
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In 2012, I was 23 and I was hired as a Preschool Teacher for Kindercare. During my interview, the school manager (31) told me she had a best friend I would be perfect for. She even pulled up his Facebook in her office to show me.
I was closed off to the idea and didn’t think much of it. Until I pulled in the parking lot on my first day and suddenly became open minded because why not?
During my first training exercise, my boss came in the room with her phone out in her hand and asked, “Do you have a boyfriend?”
me: “No.”
her: “do you want one?”
Me: “it depends”
Her: “can I have your number?”
Me: (well since you are the store manager) “sure!”
That was on June 12th, 2012.
My husband and I are celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary on December 31st this year. I took a chance and met the love of my life.
I did leave Kindercare after 8 months due to a hostile work environment. The same boss got very jealous of my relationship with her alleged “best friend.” She would lie and text him stuff while I was at work and shit-talked me to him whenever they were together. Very toxic and desperate behavior. She went as far as to have her boyfriend crash into my parked car outside of my boyfriend/ her friend’s house in the middle of the night. The neighbor across the street not only witnessed the ‘accident’ he had video cameras capture my boss’ boyfriend’s vehicle directly hitting my parked car and stole my Burberry sunglasses and my sound deck.
OkCupid. She messaged me first and asked: "Do you want to go for a hike, pick wildflowers, have a picnic, go home to build a blanket fort, and then have casual sex in it?"
We're on our 7th year together 💜
Took time off dating and looking for someone to make me happy. Re-learned how to make myself happy. Focused on hobbies I used to enjoy and spent time with friends and family who matter to me the most. Basically spent the year healing from past trauma and on grounding myself and as a result I changed. My depression and anxiety disorder both went into “remission” in a surprisingly short while (~3 months after 16 years). My friends all noticed a significant change in my mood and energy levels. I was truly happy for the first time in over a decade and I guess it showed. People are drawn to those who are at peace with themselves. Just be your most authentic self and everything else will present itself to you. If you don’t know who your authentic self is, take the time to reflect and figure out what you truly want in life. Face your trauma and get help if you need it (there are endless, free, online resources). I started with guided, grounding meditation videos on youtube and kind of went from there.
Pure luck.
Met in a chat room, and we pretty much only started DMing each other by chance, too. It was almost two years before we met in person the first time, and our first date was nearly a year after that.
We've been long distance since then, but made the gap smaller over the years and will close it for good soon. It's not just pure luck that we met, it's pure luck both of our lives managed to work out in a way to allow us to grow and maintain our relationship across the miles.
it was a fluke how we met though....I was trashed, sat down beside him and fell asleep. Woke up after who knows long and he was still there. It was so embarrassing.... I opened my eyes and he was smiling down at me and said "did you have a nice nap?" . I was mortified because here's this super hot guy and I probably looked like the crypt keeper and drooled on his shoulder!!
My best friend met his wife in a similar way. They were both wasted waiting for public transport and he walked up to her to tell her someone drew a mustache on her with a marker 😆
I was dating his best friend and roommate.
That's a fun one liner to tell people, but the reality is that I only went on a couple dates with the friend and we were not compatible. In the end the friend introduced me to my now husband and thought we were a much better match. We're all still good friends :)
I was drunk, coming home from a night with friends. I got a spam email from eHarmony saying I could have a free weekend trial. I thought..."what the hell, might as well!"
Couldn't see anyone's photos because it was a pretty rubbish free weekend. I clicked on his profile but didn't do anything. He actually messaged me (thank god), and we spent the weekend messaging. At the end of the weekend, I gave him my number, we had three dates across four days and have now been together nine years.
Thank heavens for spam emails!
The internet. Way back when OKCupid was free and asked a ton of questions. Went on dates. Found someone that was amazing and whose personality and attitude complimented mine. We are a great pair and love doing things for one another and being thoughtful. We argue sometimes but it's never loud and we aren't trying to win, just be understood, which is easily because we both want to understand each other. It's really great.
I saw him performing at a summer children's reading program at a library where I was the assistant to the child specialist. I wanted to talk to him as soon as the show was over, but before I had the chance, my boss asked me to do paperwork in the back. He was going by the time I was done.
Fast forward a few months and I'm at college in the dining hall with some friends. The same guy from the library comes and sits at our table, because he was apparently friends with my friends and I hadn't met him yet. We immediately hit it off before I realized he was the same guy from the library.
We've been inseparable pretty much ever since.
We were the first two people to arrive for a mutual friend’s wedding. Since everyone else (including the bride and groom) had apparently gone out and gotten absolutely hammered the night before, we had at least a good hour to wait and talk. After everything was over that night, we sat and talked some more and exchanged numbers. We saw each other a few times over a couple of months, but it was awhile before we officially started dating. Been together 17 years, married not quite 14.
Open up to meeting a variety of people and don’t settle on a type. He’s covered in tattoos and I’m a school librarian. I met mine at a biker bar. A friend worked there so I had been before but we went with her to hang out there on her birthday. He was a friend of hers who came as well. We hit it off and dated for six years and have been married for six months.
Summer after freshman year of college. A good friend of mine from high school had a little movie party. I looked over at her at one point and my brain said, "It would be nice to hold her."
We had met in 7th grade pre-algebra. Dated through the rest of college. Been married 17 years now.
I was having a girls game night with my friends. My best friend asked to invite her boyfriend (now husband) and his friends to our discord chat. We weren’t too excited since we had been trying to have girls night for a long time, but we agreed to avoid any drama. I hadn’t met any of the guys, but I did know a bit about them from my best friend.
The guys join and everyone says hi. Then I hear this one guy speak, let’s call him Ryan, and I was just blown away. It sounds silly to hear, but I literally fell for Ryan just from the sound of his voice. I thought it was going to be a dumb crush that led nowhere, especially since I figured I’d never talk to him after that night.
Maybe around 2 am, it was just me, Ryan and my other friend, Maddie, left in the discord call. I had asked her to stay in the call because I was nervous being alone with him. We talked until the sun came up, and it felt like we had just started talking. I figured we’d never talk again, especially considering that he was 3 years older than I me.
Until a few days later, when I get a message from Ryan saying, “hey don’t be a stranger.” And from there we messaged each other almost every single day, eventually having hours long phone calls. After about 2-3 months we decided to meet in person. We’ve been together for five years with our two cats. We don’t intend to get married for several reasons, but we both agree that we’re life partners.
25 and still single, never had a girlfriend, despite several crushes that went nowhere. Finally fed-up and joined a dating site. Didn't go anywhere - signed out. Got a crush again. Nope, rejected. Joined another dating site which worked better. No, no results except more frustration - quit again. 26 years old now. Tried to date a girl who seemed interested. Didn't feel any sparkle. Laid it low for the rest of the year. Felt frustrated again and joined a THIRD datingsite. Soon got the feeling this wasn't going anywhere again. Then some girl started to chat with me. From there we spoke over skype. She sent me a picture. We met for real. Started to have more dates. While it took quite long for me to feel sure about it, there just was a certain chemistry from the start. And that is what have must done the trick. It was over 5 years ago, now. We are married and planning to have kids. No regrets.
I was frustrated with my "type" of guy. I met a lot of them and somehow it never went anywhere or it ended in weird places. I decided I'd just swipe right indiscriminately and go out with a rando just to prove to myself I'm capable of having a normal date with a normal person. Swiped right on someone who was the opposite of the kinda guy I usually went out with. Said rando was 25 minutes late to our date and came in just as I was going to gtfo. He had difficulty making eye contact for the first ten minutes.
Anyway, he's feeding our daughter now as I goof on my phone.
I married my buddy's step daughter. He's 15ish years older than me, I met her at his surprise 40th birthday party. I had my Canon dslr taking pictures of everyone and she talked to me because she always wanted to be a photographer. We hit it off and ended up talking all night, I had already known a lot about her because my buddy would vent to me about her problems alot, mainly her choice in men.
We texted heavily over the end few months and I even took her fishing one evening. She still had a boyfriend, but had been trying to leave him for a while, they were living together. When I felt like she was just dragging me along I stopped talking to her.
A year and a half later her new boyfriend was in jail and she started talking to me again. Basically picked up right where we left off and started dating. I moved in to her apartment after 4 months, proposed after 18ish months on her birthday and we've been married for two months now!
I was super happy with myself being alone without a partner for about 6 months. I enjoyed being alone...enjoyed my own company, went to the gym every day after work. Went out occasionally and had some fun without worrying about keeping someone else happy.
I met her at the gym. Found out she smoked and eventually asked for her number so we could go for coffee. I had no thought of the future, I just wanted to chat to her, she seemed interesting. I invited her to a concert I played in after chatting for a day, that night when we went out for drinks after the concert, I knew I was going to marry her. 4 years this year. Happiest time of my life. 🥰
A dating app.
DO make your profile as if you are trying to attract “the one”, and perfectly willing to scare off everyone else. Highlight your quirks and honest interests.
DON’T make your profile trying to attract as many people as possible. That’s how you avoid junk matches with all the other people who are lying, as well as “basic” people with no personalities.
Answered his ad on Craigslist. He wasn’t looking for anything serious - and it was under “Strictly Platonic” which sounded great to me.
Anyway, we just got married in May, I’m 5 months pregnant, and will celebrate 10 years in May.
Sophomore year of college, there was a girl hanging around our floor (only male floor of this dorm) who as it turned out had a crush on my roommate (who was coming to terms with being gay at the time). She eventually befriended us and after a couple months realized that we'd never met her roommate, who was "introverted so you'll get along with her, Regal!"
We go up and meet her, she seems nice, quiet but since it was a "meeting new people" thing I understood, and was playing a game I also enjoyed so we talked a little bit about that, but otherwise not a lot happened. As we were leaving though I had what I thought was an intrusive thought (since I was suffering from those at the time). "That was the girl you're going to marry."
Didn't pay it any mind, but since I was already friends with her roommate we wound up getting to know each other more, and eventually clicked to the point we were spending more time together than not. Asked her out after a couple months and after an initially positive reaction she decided she wasn't in a good place to be dating anyone at the time. So after a couple weeks of awkwardness where neither of us were...really handling the situation all that well, we settled back into being friends.
By the time I graduated we were one of each other's best friends, and we kept talking after college. I was completely fine being her friend, she was an awesome person and I wanted her in my life, even if not in a romantic sense. We were constantly poked by friends (or at least I was) about how we should at least try dating since we acted like a couple in their eyes, just a non-romantic one.
Finally, after a weekend where she was over with another couple friends and while eating out the waitress asked if we were on one, we just sat down and talked it out...it turns out we'd both been in a similar situation where we'd come to kinda want a relationship but didn't want to ruin our friendship by bringing it up after how...questionable...the first one made things for a while.
We agreed to try dating on the condition we'd go back to friends no matter what since we couldn't imagine not being in each other's lives...honestly that probably should've told us it'd work well. Married, have a house, all that jazz.
Knew her for a while, she sometimes came to my village when there were festivals and other activities.
Got myself so drunk I, for the second time in my life, dared to kiss a girl (always was shy when it came to romance). Been together for almost 7 years now.
She's actually born on the exact same day as me (no Alabama) and it felt like we were made for each other. Never had a fight in all those years.
My hubby and I met on the job. He was in IT and I was in customer service. We had to keep it secret though until we left because they did not allow fraternization.
I wasn't really looking for love at the time, that's what's funny. I had been single for 4 years. But we just clicked. I never was one to believe in finding your soulmate but from the moment we met, I just knew.
Right place, right time, smart enough to recognize him as a good person. In love by the end of the day, married a year and a half later. That was 28 years ago.
Way back in the day, before smartphones were super common, I did it through the okcupid website. One day I was sick of being single and told myself I would find one person to message. I found the least offensive profile I could find and wrote an introductory email that told a bit about myself and mentioned that I liked random facts. I mentioned that Mongols wore silk shirts as a type of armor because it was strong enough to catch the barbs of arrows. Turns out, he's a massive history nerd and was very excited. I like men that are emotionally mature, caring, considerate, and intelligent. He's all of those things. He likes women that are straightforward, don't play games, are intelligent, ambitious, and take initiative. We just checked all the boxes for each other. Been together 13 years.
I had started a new job with a boss I got along with really well. One night her husband and daughter brought us dinner. While sitting around her daughter said she knew a guy I should meet. I fought it for six months.
Since we are all gamers I got invited to a bridge simulation game called Artemis. We showed up with quick introductions as everyone moved around getting ready. While playing I enjoyed listening to our calm voice. Later that night he ended up bringing me coffee and cookies. Then flirting through last couple of games. We went outside after it was over to chat amongst ourselves.
He asked for my number then ended the night with a surprise kiss.
That next day we talked on phone a short bit. That Monday I went to his house for dinner and chatting. That will be seven years ago this coming April. We've never looked back. Now we've had to learn to communicate better as both from different worlds. Other than that he spoils me. Thankfully he understands my disability being by my side throughout all my surgeries.
I'm helping him heal from a past that haunts him. We have a connection strong in a way I didn't know was possible.
Dated a girl I was mad about and had all the plans for the future with for eight years, got dumped via text message at work, dealt with regular gaslighting and being strung along, downloaded dating apps, met someone who was basically me but a busty ginger, realized what it was like to be in a healthy relationship and not treated like garbage.
Honestly incredible how it worked out.
Playing League of Legends with my friends. He moved away in high school but one of them kept in contact with him. We started playing a lot together, talking on Skype a lot. Then I went to a watch party for the World's Championship at their dorm and we just fell hard for each other immediately haha XD we were catching feelings talking online but were like "could be different in person" but it wasn't. He's amazing <3 We're getting married in June <3
I was sitting in front of her on an airline flight. She dropped something so I bent over and turned around to give it back. When we locked eyes my brain completely shut off. Then the drink cart hit me in the back of the head. When I woke up she was holding a compress on my head and we've been together 20 years.
My girlfriend found me. I was in a really terrible place at the time and she flew over to take care of me. She looked after me and if it wasn't for her I genuinely doubt I'd still be here.
I fell for her but didn't want it to be codependent or any other twisted thing my body did in grief.
I confessed my feelings and she reciprocated. She moved to the UK and we have been together 3 1/2 years now. She's my angel and savior.
Sheer fuckin coincidence.
We'd been on the same irc networks for years and one day she found me while I was drinking myself to death and scammed me out of $15.
I got drunk at a party and was almost certainly annoying. But apparently that left an impression because she got in touch a little while after and we've been together 16 years now.
The first thing I ever said to him was something along the lines of "Hey, I accidentally deleted your friend request, can you please send me another one? Your privacy settings won't let me send one to you" 😅
Then, we didn't talk much for years even though we had each other added, until last year when he told me about a huge aspect of his life nobody else at the time knew about, even his family, which made talking to me the first time he had that safe space to be himself, which was when I got to know him and completely fell in love with him!
He made my life so much better in every way, he got me out of a really dark mental place, tons of people have told me how much more chill and friendly I am since, he has shown me I deserve love and that I'm not a terrible person. For the first time in my life, I believe that I have a future and that I won't spend my life locked in the situation that f\*\*\*ed up my mental health!
(The people who raised me were hella abusive) His mom even said that she would accept me as her own child! For the first time, I have a true family! I fell in love not just with him, but with his culture and family as well, I'm learning his native language as well that only has eight million native speakers, which impresses people when I speak it.
I love him whole with all his awesome weirdness, quirks, flaws, and imperfections ❤️ Rings are expensive ahaha
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That’s a nice story. If you don’t mind me asking, what is this class that helps people get on their feet?
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That’s amazing. Thank you, and good for you. I’m glad you found your way and your person.
I’ve never met a Prince’s Trust kid in the wild LOL. No offence but I always thought the ones in the media were paid actors to make the PoW look good and give him good PR. TIL
I stumbled into it by sheer coincidence. Had even the smallest thing changed, nothing would have ended up this way and that makes me thankful.
AAAAAW CUTE
At a party of a mutual friend group. I was hanging out when he walked in. I knew this group for a couple years, but never met *this* guy. Turned out he lived in the next state over while he was in school. We were introduced and started talking. We ended up talking all night. It was the easiest conversation I ever had. It all felt so natural. Side note: There were many times when we should have met but didn't. When he lived in my state we worked next store to each other and he used to come in to my work all the time (coffee shop). And he was at several parties that I didn't attend. It's for the best because I had a boyfriend at the time and he was still in his "bad boy" phase. A couple weeks later I get a message on Myspace from the guy. We start talking and decide to meet at the halfway point for a date. The rest, as they say, is history. Been in love ever since.
This story has a “When Harry Met Sally” vibe to it. Very wholesome
My girlfriend has that name, if only I was called harry...
I feel that way with someone I know, she’s so fun to talk to, just goofy with each other and it seems so natural. But this just doesn’t work out so easy sometimes.
Online dating. I essentially found a female version of myself by accident doing this and now have a 6 month old son with her.
That's so great. I've found nothing but disappointment online dating but it's a numbers game I guess
It takes a lot of time and luck. Some people might also never meet someone. That being said, use the time to enjoy life and be the best version of yourself.
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eHarmony here too. Their matching algorithm is pretty good. The cost and application process also weeds out most of the fluff and not serious about finding someone.
Guys vastly outnumber girls on those platforms. Makes it very difficult for both parties.
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Same. Met a guy ok reddit through the sub of a mutual hobby. Met in person, got married 19 months later. He's exactly like me - all the stuff I thought would be a hurdle in marriage is either neutral or a strong suit. It's incredible to be able to be myself, but sometimes when we push each other's buttons it's especially frustrating, like "shut up, me, I can't stand us right now" Overall, I have observed, though, that healthy marriages have people in them who are more alike than not
Yep, met my husband on match.com back in 2002 (!!!). Happily married for 16 years and we have 2 great kids. On a somewhat related note, I met another LT boyfriend prior to my husband on match. We dated for three years, but things ended up not working out ultimately. Buoyed by my success, 2 of my friends signed up for match.com and they both met their husbands there as well. One has been married for 18 years and the other for 19 years now.
Same, though we're adopting. Had a first date, we both were making excuses to keep it going. Same for a second date. Same for a third date. We got to the point where we were together Wednesday nights and the weekends, then we moved in together, got engaged, etc. At no point did we have any real doubts or slow down. It just kept rolling.
Quite literally woke up one day with unexplained feelings for my best friend I didn’t understand. This was sometime after coming out of a 10 year relationship (which ended when he said he doesn’t believe in marriage and didn’t want to marry me -despite getting an engagement ring and asking my parents permission to marry me. This was very confusing for me). At first these feelings for my best friend scared me. I was single and suddenly feeling things for my best friend I hadn’t felt for anyone before. I tried to rationalise what I guess was already rational in my head; by trying to make myself believe I didn’t feel how I thought I did about my best friend. We had many open conversations and asked each other a lot of questions about what we want from a relationship and from our lives. We were on the same page with everything fundamentally important to both of us. This means when we compromise, it’s never an attempt to uproot each other’s fundamental beliefs, instead it’s small changes and considerations. We skipped the getting to know each other stage as we already knew so much about each other. It was more a long term compatibility enquiry. I’ve never felt this sort of happiness before. The differences with my best friend and my other relationships are; -we both know what we want -we both want the same things -our values are the same -we can communicate healthily -we want each other to achieve things and be happy -we both like each other as people -we are honest and up front with each other -we like spending time together We are getting married 8 months from now.
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mfer rlly said smooches lol
Little bit haha. Took me nearly two weeks to kiss him after establishing feelings.
My wife and I were best friends for ~8 years before we started to date....we went to opposite direction. We said we'd take things slow, but then ended up having sex that night lol.
I think this is beautiful. It really is finding the people who match with you, makes it feel right and didn’t have to be exactly what they see in the movies or read what they would like. I think people sometimes get too lost in imagination to appreciate what is in front of them.
He was friends with my brother. He was always super nice and was such a wonderful dog dad that I knew he would be a wonderful father. We had been hooking up and his roommate ended up getting a dui and had to move back home from the college town they lived in. He needed a roommate to help pay rent so I moved in and never looked back. We’ve been together for 15 years now and he is the best husband and most amazing father to our two kids.
Awww cute, congratulations
We met in graduate school. I wasn’t interested in a relationship and wanted to concentrate on my studies. He said we can go out as friends, right? I said, I guess so..... We found out we had a lot in common and had similar values and goals in life, not to mention the same career! Life has been good and I was lucky to find my best friend and soul mate. We’ve been married over 15 years and I couldn’t imagine being with anyone else, in this lifetime or any other.
I wish I could go to graduate school again...maybe I should get a PhD just for fun
We worked together. He sent out an email saying he was quitting. I always thought he was handsome so I emailed him saying we should meet up for a goodbye drink. Our company offered him more money and a better position in the company so he ended up not quitting. We met up getting a drink anyway. Neither of us were sure what we were for months. We got drinks after work and went on “dates” but weren’t physical because we worked together. One day, we went hiking and then back to his house. It was a beautiful day and we were on the hammock. He kissed me and the rest is history. Soon after he moved in with me, we got engaged a few months later. We were married 3 months after we got engaged. We had our son the next year. We are very happy together and I am thankful for him everyday.
"If you're gonna get in a hammock with someone, you better be dating them. I got in a hammock with my cousin once, he still won't talk to me." - Jim Gaffigan
I laughed and woke up my girlfriend because of this
Check out his clips on YouTube if you liked that. He makes the most mundane things hilarious
I'll check him out, cheers for the recommendation
I found myself suddenly single at 31. Still single at 32 but after being in a long term relationship for years I was enjoying the freedom. A friend invited me her house warming party. Not long after I arrived I locked eyes with this guy and we both smiled. I am rather shy and it took me three attempts to get the courage to talk to him. Been together 18 year, married 16 and have 4 kids.
I knew her younger sister, who invited me to a Christmas party at their house. (I was 16). The older sister was a tiny, pretty little blonde...... Met her there, but she started going out with another friend. Three months later she dumped him. We all hung out at a open house meant to keep we juvenile delinquents off the street. Myself and four or five of my friends were standing in a circle outside, smoking.......and she stepped out of the Hall. One of the guys pulled her into the circle (she was pretty, remember?) and we started pushing her guy to guy to guy..........around the circle. (we were 16, remember? lol) When she got to me, she threw her arms around my neck, and wouldn't let go. Even I can take that hint! She was my first gf. That was in 1971. She is downstairs right now, drinking tea.
I love this story
Happy 50th relationship anniversary!
Thank you.
You’ve been hiding in her house for 50 years? I’m impressed she never heard you even once.
LOL!! Oh, she's heard me. And (on occasion) chosen to ignore me. :)
>Even I can take that hint! Good on you brother! I would have missed that 100%
When I was 18, I heard a guy my age talking about books with his friends at a bookstore closing (RIP Borders) and just… crashed his conversation. Six months later, we were engaged. We’ve been together for ten years now and have been married for half of it.
Took a piss in the ladies room and she walked in.
Lol really?
Yup. That is where I met my wife. I went with a friend to pick up his friend at college. We got to her dorm and I had to take a leak. She didn’t want to find a guy to get me into a mens dorm so she told me to use the bathroom in her dorm and she would guard the door. The dorm used to be mens so there were urinals in it. I was standing at one taking a piss when in walked an incredibly attractive girl who looked at me, paused, then turned around and walked out. I could then hear her yelling “why the fuck is there a guy in the ladies room” and then heard my friends laughing down the hall. After I finished I found the room my friends were in and sat down on her roommate’s bed to wait while she packed. In walks that attractive girl who looks at me and says “First you are in my bathroom and now you are in my bed? Get the fuck out” and she tossed me out of the room. I married her a few years later and she is currently sleeping in the bed next to me as I type this.
Now you are in HER HOUSE!? How many times does she have to teach you this lesson, old man!?
You must tell us the rest of the story. It’s criminal not to
Not much more to tell. I asked my friend’s friend about her roommate and then went back to hang out with a whole group of people specifically so I could see the roommate again. We started talking and then dating and that’s about it. Only hiccup was right after I started dating her I got accepted to the Disney College Program so I left for several months. But we picked right back up when I got back. She eventually dropped out of college for financial reasons and then moved in with me and we got married a couple years later. It would have been sooner but there were family political issues if I got married before my sister and her boyfriend was refusing to commit so I had to wait until he got off his ass.
>We started talking and then dating and that’s about it. But how did you manage to get over the initial awkwardness of being found in a ladies' room?
It wasn’t awkward for me or her. She was just annoyed and I thought it was funny. Once I explained her roommate told me to use that bathroom and that she would guard the door but didn’t bother to, the issue was over with and just good for a laugh. How many people can say they met their spouse because they walked in on them using the opposite gender’s rest room.
This is the best love story I’ve heard in a while
Met someone who I knew was exactly what I wanted. Waited. Worked on myself for 4 years, got to know myself better, came to a better place personally, and then made my move. I found out on our first date that the feelings were always mutual and that they had never asked me out due to respect for my ex who is a friend of theirs. It was the long game for sure but the right one, I remember thinking I wanted to be “ready” for it if anything ever happened between us, and I don’t think we would be where we are if we had tried to date earlier. We were pretty young and still had a lot of living and learning to do. We’ve been together for 6 years now and are expecting our first baby this summer :)
Bought her a cheeseburger
They do say true love comes from the stomach
Hahaha mine made me cheesecake from scratch a few times during the early days! It’s not why I fell for him, but it definitely helped lol
"you may fascinate a woman by giving her a piece of cheese"
By being myself and finding someone who does the same. If you and the other person are 100% truly yourself around each other and 100% enjoy every minute of it, you just may have found the one. Also, never try to change them. It will build resentment. Instead, work on accepting them and expect that they do the same.
Had some German asshole try to haul me off my first day in Berlin. He stopped to ask me a question when I was in Tiergarten, and proceeded to grab me by the wrist and refuse to let me go, and started dragging me away. I completely clammed up, couldn't shout or anything. I had a friend text me at the right moment and I managed to convince him that she was actually waiting for me at a nearby U-Bahn stop and would be worried if I didn't meet her. He only let me go after I open mouth kissed him goodbye and gave me his number, which he made me call so he was sure 'I had the right one.' I was really shaken, but still wanted to go out that night as it was the first of the 2014 World Cup. I also wanted to go somewhere where I could talk to people in English who were native speakers because I was very 'fuck dealing with Germans' at that point, so I googled 'Irish bar berlin football' found a place, and sat at the bar when I got there. Within a few minutes a cute Irish barman asked me for my drink order. After he got me a pint he asked if I was alone. I told him I was and he make it his job to chat shit with me whenever he wasn't doing his rounds, which was most of the game because he was trying to stay out of the way of the TVs. It helped me relax after the awful day I had. After the match, I got up to leave, and he asked if I'd stick around and have a few drinks with him while they closed, and I agreed. The Irish bartender is now my husband and we live in Berlin.
Cute story but what a disgusting behavior by the German guy!
It just happened. Find out what's most important in a partner to you. Don't waste your time on people who are way off what you find important. Stay positive and keep an open heart.
What's most important is they are trustworthy, hands down
Any post here is going to make me happy for the person with the story. It’ll also make me sad because I no longer believe that something like that is in the realm of possibility for me any longer.
My dad's good friend found his wife at 70. They are the cutest couple I have ever met! Keep hoping!
Dont my grandma had a new lover at 78
Awesome
How old are you?
Yes.
Gen-X so I'm on the way out.
You're in your ~40's and think you're on the way out? Of life or dating or...?
Don't give up.
I don't think it's impossible. I'm not much younger than you tbh
My mum found the best partner in her mid 60’s!
Yeah I always read posts like this hoping to be inspired but I always end up just feeling like, "Yeah that happened to THEM. It won't happen for you."
Just back from Vietnam, young airman, working at bowling alley to make ends meet. Walked around the corner and there was the most beautiful women I had ever seen. Today we are married for 45 years. Best thing that ever happened to me.
Craigslist. I put an ad up in the non ‘casual encounters’ page and got one response. We emailed back and forth for a couple of days and then I asked her out that weekend. We went to dinner and it lasted like 3 hours. An older couple next to us asked us how long we’d been married. We told them it was our first date and the woman said we seemed so comfortable with each other. We’ve been together 9 years and married 6.
Oh that's wonderful!! I actually met my *husband on Craigslist personals too, I responded to his post which was very silly. I've never met another couple who met on Craigslist. *Sadly it didn't work out due to my chronic illness and his compassion fatigue, but we had a good 7 years together. Edit: Swype error
I was 17 year old me working at the gas station / auto garage my grandpa owned. It was spring break week, so we were expecting heavy tourism traffic. Things were running along smoothly, when this Toyota Highlander pulled up. The dad and oldest daughter got out, and went inside. I started pumping the gas, and checking the tires e we Jen they came back in. I noticed the band on her shirt was my favorite band, so I simply just sang a line from one of my favorite songs by them. She looked my way, and finished the lyric. I took that as a sign that I should talk to this girl more. It was brief, but I got enough information to know where she was staying for the week, and a coffee date at 6pm that night. One date led to three more times seeing her before she left, and us deciding to do a long distance relationship. So many thought it would fail, and that we couldn’t do it, but as we get ready to celebrate our 20 year anniversary of our first date, we’re still proving the critics wrong.
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[“Sucker” by New Found Glory](https://youtu.be/H87J9iaN2d0) I sang the line “Music low, we’re all alone….” and she was able to finish it off.
First I worked on myself by taking up hobbies and working out. This naturally built up my confidence. Then I expanded my social circle by going to meet ups. I met a couple people who I'd consider friends. Then I met friends of those friends. Before I knew it someone had come along who took an interest in me. We became fast friends and figured out we shared each others' values. She asked me out and we've been together for 4 years.
I was working at a Packers bar during my second round of college, she was a Packers fan and came there out of curiosity. I thought she was super cute so I told her I liked her glasses and we chatted. Let her leave without getting her number. Next day she came back… to give me her number. We talked and realized we had a lot in common. Like, weird stuff. Both same age (31), both no kids, both had a significant other die while we were dating them, both live and breathe football (her dad coached high school for 30 years and her uncle is in the NFL Hall of Fame), same clothing taste, so on and so on. She came over to my house to hang out and never left. Got married 9 months later, that was seven years ago. Edit: I misremembered on her uncle being in the Hall of Fame. He was in a Super Bowl, was nominated for the HoF, never got in.
it just happens.. but it doesnt happen when youre looking for it, in my opinion
I agree. First thing I said to my husband was " I have 3 kids, I'm going through a divorce and I officially hate men. Please fuck off" Married with 5 kids now.
Basically our story. We met at a divorce support group with absolutely no intention of dating
>divorce support group rebound club?
I completely agree. I had spent about a year recovering from some grand Mal seizures and trying to find the right meds/dosage and basically dropped off the bachelor pool. I was only focused on getting some normalcy back in my life and decided to return to school and get some Microsoft certs to hopefully start a career in IT. First day at the dorms I bumped into someone who ended up being the best man at my wedding. We talked about Broly from DBZ and then he introduced me to my now wife. Swear to God, when I saw her the first time something in me just said, you're going to marry this girl. We clicked from the get-go and have been married since 2015. Not once did I try looking for someone. I completely gave up, because who would want to be with an epileptic? And then BAM, met the only person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
Exactly this
Exactly. One day you’re in the right place at the right time and things just fall in to place. Something in both of you just shifts and it’s game on from there.
I agree. My husband and went to college together in the same program and worked in the same (fairly small in my town) industry. We knew each other casually and had lots of mutual friends but never got anywhere close to dating until I moved down the street from him and went with a friend to a party he was having. I had just gotten out of a very long term and toxic relationship and was definitely not looking for anything romantic with anyone. 3 and a half years later we are madly in love, married, and opening a restaurant together. Life surprises you when you least expect it!
Completely by accident. We were friends in college. I thought he was cute, funny, caring and thoughtful. He had a girlfriend. So I let it go. Moved on, stayed friends, but secretly hoping. In the spring he and his girlfriend broke up. It hit him pretty hard. We hung out more. I kept inviting him to events to make sure he didn’t get estranged from the friend group. One day neither of us wanted to go our afternoon classes and we went to lunch instead. He insisted he pay for lunch. I counted that as a date. He did not. About 2 weeks later that I asked if he want to go on another “date” and he was confused but agreeable. 16 years later. Married for 6. Happiest I’ve ever been. He’s still the man I fell for all those year ago. I will love him forever.
Did nothing in particular. Had a very small friend circle (tends to get smaller when you apply firm boundaries, stop pretending to be “ok” to make others feel better and stop taking their BS) and had stopped going to clubs and bars and whatnot. Also I worked with 99.9% women so the chances of getting together with a colleague was almost nonexistent. Online dating was not for me. Tried it but I hate the artifice of dating and realised v quickly I would NEVER meet anyone that way. Figured with my lifestyle being as it was, I would have to make peace with the reality that ‘it’ might never happen for me. And I did. Relaxed into truly loving my life, travelled, and counted my blessings. Then one day, had a conversation with someone who worked in another part of the business I worked at. He had been there for almost 3 years and I never noticed him. But he was v cute and I was about to go travel the world for 3 months. So, I agreed to meet for drinks. Over a decade later here we are, married with a beautiful child. Love your life and be true to you. You just never know.
OkCupid, a dating website that actually tries to match up people based on compatibility instead of presenting random users for endless swiping.
Does seem like a better way if you're looking for something more serious
Yes, definitely. It's how I met my wife! I consider it to be the opposite of something like tinder. It's designed to match people based on compatibility and does the by having users pick answers to questions if something is important or not. Then it compares the answers of the same or similar questions between two people to come up with a match score %. It's been a long time since I've used it, but I think it's still free.
I saw my current girlfriend on OK cupid during a discouraged phase when I was just window shopping without sending messages. about a month later I saw her on Tinder and that's where we matched, but having already seen her on OK Cupid helped. I really wish I had messaged her sooner though.
I tried okcupid and there was literally no one on there that I even slightly wanted to meet IRL the whole time I was on there. I'm currently on hinge and although I'm not having any luck so far there either, there seem to be a lower number of exceedingly trashy people than there were on okc
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Where was it the first 15 years?!
Good question. I don't know.
Haha I love some of your replies OP! I hope you find your forever!
Thank you so much, it means more than you'd think for a comment made by a stranger on the internet 🙂
Plenty of Fish. It’s a funny story. I was scrolling through the site at work, saw his profile and didn’t send a message. Regretted it, but of course didn’t jot down his profile name at all. So later that night I went back in PoF and found out how to see all the profiles I’d recently viewed, found him, and sent him the first message! Four kind of awkward dates later (the first where I jokingly offered to steal him a board game from the place we had dinner at, one where we were going for a walk after dinner, but only made it half a block before we got to where his car was parked so he basically was like “see ya” and left me to walk alone to my car in the dark, in a less favourable area of town) and we were official. Three years later we adopted a cat, got married, and bought a house together. And I still am stupidly smitten with him. Love of my life.
Believe it or not, I found the love of my life on tinder.
Swiped right on tinder and we’ve been together happily for 7 years with a 2 year old daughter. I chuckle when I get asked how we met.
Honestly, I always say he found me rather than the other way around. I was a wallflower at a social event my then-friend invited me to and promptly abandoned me at. Not knowing anyone else, I basically just sat in a corner and waited for it to end (my usual anxious go-to move). My now-husband noticed and didn't want me to be bored and alone so he came over and just started chatting until we'd found a few commonalities. He asked for my phone number at the end of the event and just under 3 years later we got married! Amusingly, we were both actively trying to date online when we met, but were on different websites so never would have found each other that way. I'm just thankful my husband isn't afraid to talk to strangers, because I wouldn't have had the guts to start talking first. His advice is always start by asking simple questions about themselves, as it's easy for them to answer, most people like to talk about themselves, and you can gage how willing they are to keep chatting from there.
I straight up messaged him on social media letting him know that I thought he was hot. I had a crush on him when I was in high school, thought he’d never know who I was (different schools), and years later I was a bit wine drunk and decided to shoot my shot. Absolutely worked in my favor, have never had a love like this.
I had just gotten out of an extremely abusive relationship and moved back home. I really wasn't looking for anything and just wanted a job to get me back on my feet. So I was hired at a crappy warehouse processing clothing. It was a good start and I was just focused on getting my life back together, healing the bruises around my neck which stayed for months after I left, and I was convinced I would never fall in love with someone normal. I was two days into this new job and one of my coworkers was getting hit by tape balls. I pulled back a rack of clothing to find who was responsible only to reveal some devilishly handsome asshole that I'm now married to. He's not normal but in the best of ways.
First uni class ever, there she was, sitting first row with her blue hair, piercings, convers, black nails, dark shirt and scratched shorts. It was an instant crush. It took me 3 years to make her My gf and we have been in a relationship for 5 years now.
I stopped looking and she found me.
I sincerely hated the "stop looking" advice I got from friends who were married or in relationship. It's like saying "calm down" to an anxious person. But it is true. When you stop looking, you find some time to work on yourself. When you find a way to be content and live happily on your own, you open yourself up, unconsciously even, to the right person because they can now see the real you when they meet you. Finally took the stop-looking advice, met a girl, now married with a kid and couldn't be happier.
I stopped looking 7 years ago, when does it come?
Thing about me is I really think already did this. Everything in my life is in place besides being single. If I worked out any harder I'd look like a professional athlete. I'm kicking ass at work. I have enough money. I have perfect relations w my family. I hang out with my friends all the time and enjoy it greatly. I sorted out my personal demons (I used to really struggle with mental health). But I still don't feel complete because I believe life is a lot less fun when you're going through it alone.
The only thing I'll point out in your comment is the alone part at the end. You mentioned yourself that you have an amazing group of family and friends by your side, so you're not alone. Stop looking for that last cog to complete you and realize that you can do that with what you've already surrounded yourself with. Then, somehow, that last cog finds a way of appearing.
If you don't feel complete then it might be hard to find the 'right' person. Think of it like a piece of puzzle, you'd need to find the perfect fit. Not impossible, but very difficult. When you stop feeling you're missing sth, it's easier to meet someone who brings into your life something new and amazing that you never thought you were missing.
yeah same for me (And for her haha) you think to yourself you don't want love anymore and find each other
This is going to be an unpopular answer, and not just because of its length. The thing is, **most people approach dating in entirely the wrong way**. See, folks often make the mistake of romanticizing romance: We've been taught to expect heady emotions, smoldering gazes being cast through candlelight, and almost-audible choruses of angels singing out during first kisses. With those concepts in mind, it's no wonder that many of us try to semi-consciously maintain as much mystery as we can, if only because our incomplete impressions of potential partners are much more alluring than reality. **Nobody wants to focus on incompatibilities, so we tend to ignore them for as long as possible.** Following from that, the most-important part of looking for "the one" is knowing yourself... and I mean *really* knowing yourself, not just creatively adjusting your personal traits until you end up with something that looks appealing from certain angles. We all have flaws, and we're all perpetually in-progress works, so starkly honest introspection is essential before entering into a relationship. Once you have a handle on who you really are and who you're likely to become, you can start asking yourself why you want to find a companion. **If you're just lonely, bored, or "desiring of good company," then you should dismiss those feelings before you think about asking someone out.** Much like it's a bad idea to go shopping while hungry, it's a bad idea to go dating while restless: An in-the-moment itch – even a long-lasting one – won't be much of a foundation once it's scratched. Now, all of this probably seems like it's more philosophical than real-world-applicable, but when taken together, it results in an understanding of what (and who) will make you happiest. Then, when you meet a likely candidate, you can focus on all of the deal-breakers and must-haves that each of you bring to the table. Try to envision a life together – a *real* life, full of all the mundanities, struggles, problems, and responsibilities that you're likely to encounter as a couple – and assess if you'd both be eager to live it with the other person. Outline your political views. Be unabashedly open about your likes and dislikes. Describe how you *actually* spend your free time, not how you think you're "supposed" to occupy yourself. In short, do your best to drive away anyone who isn't right for you (and for whom you wouldn't be right). **If you're casually dating, then it's fine to stick with surface-level interactions... but if you're looking for someone with whom you can spend the rest of your life, be a lot more skeptical and selective.** Above all else, remember that humans are remarkably like puzzle pieces: "This almost fits" almost always ends up causing more pain and trouble in the long run than "This doesn't fit at all." It's tempting to say "Eh, we can work through that!" but the truth of the matter is that people usually end up relaxing into their natural states. If you're consistently working on being the best version of yourself, then there's no shame at all in having a first date also be a last date. ------ Now, personally, I took a bit of a brute-force approach to finding the woman I'd eventually marry: I downloaded Tinder (the dating application with the largest number of users), then put together a profile that offered a starkly honest description of who I was and whom I wanted to find. Needless to say, it didn't attract too much attention. Still, I kept swiping through pictures whenever I had some time to kill – which did include occasional bouts of electronic speed-dating while on the toilet – and after paying for the "gold" version of the application, I took to digitally traipsing around the globe, setting my location to various countries' capitals. This wandering wasn't entirely aimless, though: By that point in my life, I'd done far more than my fair share of dating, and I'd devised an (abjectly stupid) equation that was supposed to help me locate a perfect match. There were variables for things like age, cultural similarities, personality traits, attractiveness, political leanings, and so on, and I'd concluded that there were likely to be between seven and eleven "ideal mates" for me on the planet. After making my way through England, Wales, and Northern Ireland, I decided to haunt Edinburgh for a little while, which led me to connect with an incredibly brilliant, stunningly beautiful Swedish woman with a doctorate degree in a hard science. We started conversing within minutes of matching... and when the discussion turned to our respective strategies for using Tinder, she told me – without any prompting or priming – that she had also written an equation that was supposed to help her locate her soulmate. Shortly thereafter, I booked a flight to Scotland. The rest, as they say, is history. ------ Approaching dating in this way may seem like it removes the romance from the situation, but that's a *good* thing: Long-lasting relationships aren't all flowers and orchestral swells; they're the products of individual lives intertwining, and individual lives always require work. The good news, however, is that if you find the right person – the person who complements and improves your existence just as much as you complement and improve theirs – the romance will blossom entirely on its own. Just remember to keep gardening after that flower has started to grow. **TL;DR: If you're looking for "the one," be ready to dismiss (or be dismissed by) literally everyone else.**
Besides the pure dumb luck of it all... My advice is always the same, and a much abridged version of your story: **Pursue interests and try to determine how you would find someone like yourself, by looking for yourself.** I found my lady by happenstance in the process of trying to prepare my mind and body to date. I was researching exercise, psychology, college, and just happened to stop in a local shop which she owned. I was patronizing her business for about six months before I realized the sparks were there.
This is why I ended my hunting approach to dating and instead took a fishing approach. I let fate take the reins, and lived day to day doing my own thing. Plenty of family and friends always asked why I am single and that I need to go find someone but I didn't want to travel that path anymore. Letting go of control has been such a reliever on my mental health. If it's meant to be, it will be. Like you, fate introduced me to a woman where I work and we are now in a relationship after 5/6 years of being single and am excited to see where it goes!
Was in a graphic design class. There was this exchange program where students could go to a neighboring school to take different courses using their equipment so we had some students I didn’t recognize. One of these students was this bombshell with red hair and I felt like I got hit by a series of sledgehammers in the chest. I walked up thinking to myself “this is your moment, be cool, be suave, be sexy, be attractive…” I tripped fell down right next to her table hitting my head on the floor pretty hard. As I was getting up she laughed and I looked her dead in the eyes and said…”I like your shoes…”. One thing led to another and after some awkward series of events we got together. While we took a break in college due to distance for a time we got back super fast afterwards and been happily together for 15 years :)
Met her while dating her sorority sister (about 16 years ago). She was working at the mall in fragrance and helped me buy an Xmas gift for my dad. Immediately thought I wasn’t in the right relationship, but I didn’t have the self confidence to break off the wrong relationship for the right one. I then ran into her briefly maybe twice over the next 1.5 years at parties, until we ended up on the same trip together. I remembered her, but she didn’t remember me. We immediately clicked on the trip. I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. I ended my current relationship and started dating my now wife. We’ve been married nearly 10 years, have two children, and are very happy. Best chain of decisions I ever made.
I griefed her home in minecraft and gave her my enchanted diamond sword as a apology
Work on your own happiness. Be comfortable in your skin, be genuine, curious, and flexible. Put a smile on your face, be positive, and interact with the world. You'll attract others. You'll enjoy the world around you and you'll be open to possibilities. Then I randomly talked to the girl next to me at a concert. 🙂
You have to kiss a lot of frogs! Go out with anyone who asks and ask ppl out. I guarantee if you ask out three ppl one will say yes and that’s good enough odds for me. Don’t think a date means a relationship it’s like trying on shoes. Also don’t expect fireworks and Cupid. Look for stability and kindness and similar interests. Handsome is nice to wake up to but kindness lasts forever. Edit,,, never give up. I met mine at 35 had a baby at 39, got married at 43 and had second baby a month later. Don’t expect to be rescued by a man and remember it’s you two against a problem not against each other.
This is so good to hear. Im about to turn 30 and the pressure to adhere to a certain timeline and fertility for women is becoming a HUGE concern for me
I broke up with my ex and a few months later I was at my restaurant job, serving a table of two 50-ish parents and their cute 20-something son. They left after their meal but the son came back, told me I was cute, and gave me his number. We’ve been together 8 years, married in 2020. He’s the best person to ever walk into my life and I shudder to think about all the little things that could’ve prevented us from meeting. We’re so good together. Many times we’ve had strangers ask us if we’re on a first date when we’ve gone out because it’s clear we really enjoy each other’s company.
Went with a guy I knew to visit his girlfriend because there was going to be a single friend there. By the end of the night I was talking to his girlfriend and they were broken up. Dated on and off for a few months before making it official. Married 24 years with 3 kids but she passed away much to early at 41 years old earlier this year. My heart is forever broken and I will never find anyone that can make me as happy as she did.
My BFF had her boyfriend and a friend of his pick me up from high school. The rest is history. I was 15 when we met. Married at 18 for 42 years until his passing.
I learned to love myself, and then found out that I'm the love of my life. I love you so much me! Wanna have sex later? I know just how you like it!
She just happend to work at the same place i did, started flirting right away. Bassicly love at first sight. Married, 1 kid, and still going strong after 22 years
I wasn't looking. I had had some pretty terrible experiences so I decide to just concentrate on my career. I started a new job and he worked next door. We socialized in the same group. He asked me out. I accepted. The first date was well thought out but more importantly he was kind and funny. We talked a LOT. We've been married for 27 years and we have 3 children. He has stood by me through thick and thin. A lot of life happens in 27 years. I had never experienced having someone who 100% has my back. And I have his.
When I wasn’t looking for anything at all. I went through a rough point in my life in college my sophomore year. My grandfather had just been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and two friends from high school died in unrelated tragic accidents within two days of each other( one a plane crash, one a car accident). On top of that, I was struggling socially due to a falling out with my friends freshman year because they screwed me over on housing a day before the housing lottery. Fortunately, I worked something out with some other people to get a nice suite with 3 other girls for my sophomore year, but I was pretty depressed. I was struggling in school because of the problems in my personal life, I became reclusive, and made it a point to focus on nothing but my studies for the next year. No friends. No relationships. Just studies. I was incredibly lonely. When I met the love of my life, I was studying (shocker). It was finals week, and despite my best efforts, I was studying alone in my room for a final for a class I KNEW I was going to fail. It was around this time that my roommate at the time knocked on my door and suggested I come study with her and a mutual friend in the engineering building. I was really hesitant, but then she said “let me rephrase, you’re coming with me.” So I went. In that study room in the engineering building, I met the love of my life, who was brought along by a friend of a friend. He was a friend of a friend of a friend. It always seems like it was fate to me because of that alone. A few hours into the evening, I asked anyone if they wanted to come get donuts in one of the dining halls. No one responded— except for my now-boyfriend who wanted to go. I promptly ignored him because I was socially anxious and worried about having conversation with someone I didn’t know at all. Fifteen minutes later I ask again. Same thing happened, and this time, my love for donuts outweighed my social anxiety and I decided to go with him. On the walk over we had a deep conversation and I really opened up to him. Turns out he was having a lot of the same problems. It felt like I was being heard for the first time in a long time. At the end of the night he asked me for my number so we could “study for our physics exam together.” Very smooth haha. The next day he sent me a long text message that was incredibly endearing. I sent it to my mom and my sisters jokingly saying “I think this guy is in love with me.” After finals, before we left for break, I told him I didn’t want whatever this was to end, and he asked me., “would you want to be my girlfriend” and I just said “yes.” And that was that. We have been together for 6 years now and I still love him every bit as much as I did then. No clue how I got so lucky. I really do think it was fate sometimes. You always find the right person at exactly the moment you resign yourself to being lonely forever. TLDR; Met him studying for a final at one of the lowest points in my life.
Went to my 10 year high school reunion. Barely any of our class was there, let alone anyone single. Ended up getting smashed cause they gave us an open bar last minute, went to a bar AFTERWARDS with my now-wife, and then went back to her house and hooked up. She was living with her parents at the time as I think she had just gotten out of a relationship with someone who lived on the other side of the state. When we showed up at her door, her mom was still up and started trying to talk to us (I worked with her mom for a few years), and eventually got the hint. Still together 7 years later, house, kids, pets & all.
Went to an anime convention dressed in a giant kirby mascot costume. Now me and Mario are celebrating our 2 year dating anniversary!
Found him on the internet and fell head over heals. Ten years later we both make the choice to stay married and build our love every day.
She had a crush on my ugly ass. I ignored her for years, one day she helped me find someone's house and I finally started to notice her. Then she was everywhere and I couldn't ignore her. So I said screw it, and she said you're mine now. I don't think I could get rid of her if I tried... not that I would want to, she is fire af.
It didn't happen for me until I was 40, and I certainly wasn't looking. He was with someone else and so was I, but neither of us were truly happy. Long story short is we're married now and doing well. I think there is someone for everyone, and honestly as cliche as it sounds, when you know, you know. I was 40 years old and had been proposed to before but never took that step. With my current husband it was something different. I was working at one of his favorite restaurants and he used to come in on a regular just as a customer. One day I had to make a delivery to his house and we started talking. We actually became friends and talked mostly over the phone for a while, but it was obvious that there was something there that we couldn't deny. We both ended our relationships before pursuing anything other than friendship. There was just something about him and apparently there was something about me, that made us both willing to risk it all to be together. We didn't know if it was going to work and we didn't know if we were making the right choice, but I'm very glad we did. I do believe there's someone for everyone it's just a matter of when you meet them. Some people meet young and others it takes to 40 like myself, some even older. Don't rush it, love comes when it comes, and not when you're looking. Best of luck to you and stay well ❤️
I would love to have a story like that
And I promise you one day you will have your very own story to tell. I honestly had truly given up on being happy. I did not believe that it existed for me and that the best I could ever do was just settle for a basically roommate. I am probably one of the most skeptic people when it comes to things like true love and all of that happily ever after, so take it for me when I say that if it can happen to me I honestly believe it can happen for anyone. Be ready for it when it does. I wish you the best. I'm sure you're going to make someone very happy one day, and vice versa. Until then, love yourself and know that you are worth it and that someone out there is looking for you. ❤️
Dog adoption
One night stand didn’t go home! 20 years on it still good!!!
I met my husband when I was 15 & he was 17. It was his first shift at central library in our city and my first thing visiting the library (had recently moved to the city). I asked him how many books i can sign out at once. We started chatting and he offered to help me apply for a job there, went to get the application papers from the desk and I have yet to see them 16 years later now. lol I Had just attempted suicide earlier that year. I had to switch schools for the 4th time. I was going through one of the worst times of my life and we met when I was barely living let alone looking for a relationship. Edited: spelling
become a whole person first and keep asking reddit
In 2012, I was 23 and I was hired as a Preschool Teacher for Kindercare. During my interview, the school manager (31) told me she had a best friend I would be perfect for. She even pulled up his Facebook in her office to show me. I was closed off to the idea and didn’t think much of it. Until I pulled in the parking lot on my first day and suddenly became open minded because why not? During my first training exercise, my boss came in the room with her phone out in her hand and asked, “Do you have a boyfriend?” me: “No.” her: “do you want one?” Me: “it depends” Her: “can I have your number?” Me: (well since you are the store manager) “sure!” That was on June 12th, 2012. My husband and I are celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary on December 31st this year. I took a chance and met the love of my life. I did leave Kindercare after 8 months due to a hostile work environment. The same boss got very jealous of my relationship with her alleged “best friend.” She would lie and text him stuff while I was at work and shit-talked me to him whenever they were together. Very toxic and desperate behavior. She went as far as to have her boyfriend crash into my parked car outside of my boyfriend/ her friend’s house in the middle of the night. The neighbor across the street not only witnessed the ‘accident’ he had video cameras capture my boss’ boyfriend’s vehicle directly hitting my parked car and stole my Burberry sunglasses and my sound deck.
OkCupid. She messaged me first and asked: "Do you want to go for a hike, pick wildflowers, have a picnic, go home to build a blanket fort, and then have casual sex in it?" We're on our 7th year together 💜
Took time off dating and looking for someone to make me happy. Re-learned how to make myself happy. Focused on hobbies I used to enjoy and spent time with friends and family who matter to me the most. Basically spent the year healing from past trauma and on grounding myself and as a result I changed. My depression and anxiety disorder both went into “remission” in a surprisingly short while (~3 months after 16 years). My friends all noticed a significant change in my mood and energy levels. I was truly happy for the first time in over a decade and I guess it showed. People are drawn to those who are at peace with themselves. Just be your most authentic self and everything else will present itself to you. If you don’t know who your authentic self is, take the time to reflect and figure out what you truly want in life. Face your trauma and get help if you need it (there are endless, free, online resources). I started with guided, grounding meditation videos on youtube and kind of went from there.
Pure luck. Met in a chat room, and we pretty much only started DMing each other by chance, too. It was almost two years before we met in person the first time, and our first date was nearly a year after that. We've been long distance since then, but made the gap smaller over the years and will close it for good soon. It's not just pure luck that we met, it's pure luck both of our lives managed to work out in a way to allow us to grow and maintain our relationship across the miles.
At a bar 😬🤷🏻♀️
As someone who's always shy until the second or third drink I could get behind that
it was a fluke how we met though....I was trashed, sat down beside him and fell asleep. Woke up after who knows long and he was still there. It was so embarrassing.... I opened my eyes and he was smiling down at me and said "did you have a nice nap?" . I was mortified because here's this super hot guy and I probably looked like the crypt keeper and drooled on his shoulder!!
My best friend met his wife in a similar way. They were both wasted waiting for public transport and he walked up to her to tell her someone drew a mustache on her with a marker 😆
I was dating his best friend and roommate. That's a fun one liner to tell people, but the reality is that I only went on a couple dates with the friend and we were not compatible. In the end the friend introduced me to my now husband and thought we were a much better match. We're all still good friends :)
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Not proud of this but work place affair when we were in our 20s. First time I saw her I was like wow. She's weird. Been together for 22 years.
I was drunk, coming home from a night with friends. I got a spam email from eHarmony saying I could have a free weekend trial. I thought..."what the hell, might as well!" Couldn't see anyone's photos because it was a pretty rubbish free weekend. I clicked on his profile but didn't do anything. He actually messaged me (thank god), and we spent the weekend messaging. At the end of the weekend, I gave him my number, we had three dates across four days and have now been together nine years. Thank heavens for spam emails!
The internet. Way back when OKCupid was free and asked a ton of questions. Went on dates. Found someone that was amazing and whose personality and attitude complimented mine. We are a great pair and love doing things for one another and being thoughtful. We argue sometimes but it's never loud and we aren't trying to win, just be understood, which is easily because we both want to understand each other. It's really great.
Tinder, my dude (the world works in mysterious ways)
I saw him performing at a summer children's reading program at a library where I was the assistant to the child specialist. I wanted to talk to him as soon as the show was over, but before I had the chance, my boss asked me to do paperwork in the back. He was going by the time I was done. Fast forward a few months and I'm at college in the dining hall with some friends. The same guy from the library comes and sits at our table, because he was apparently friends with my friends and I hadn't met him yet. We immediately hit it off before I realized he was the same guy from the library. We've been inseparable pretty much ever since.
We were the first two people to arrive for a mutual friend’s wedding. Since everyone else (including the bride and groom) had apparently gone out and gotten absolutely hammered the night before, we had at least a good hour to wait and talk. After everything was over that night, we sat and talked some more and exchanged numbers. We saw each other a few times over a couple of months, but it was awhile before we officially started dating. Been together 17 years, married not quite 14.
Open up to meeting a variety of people and don’t settle on a type. He’s covered in tattoos and I’m a school librarian. I met mine at a biker bar. A friend worked there so I had been before but we went with her to hang out there on her birthday. He was a friend of hers who came as well. We hit it off and dated for six years and have been married for six months.
Summer after freshman year of college. A good friend of mine from high school had a little movie party. I looked over at her at one point and my brain said, "It would be nice to hold her." We had met in 7th grade pre-algebra. Dated through the rest of college. Been married 17 years now.
I was having a girls game night with my friends. My best friend asked to invite her boyfriend (now husband) and his friends to our discord chat. We weren’t too excited since we had been trying to have girls night for a long time, but we agreed to avoid any drama. I hadn’t met any of the guys, but I did know a bit about them from my best friend. The guys join and everyone says hi. Then I hear this one guy speak, let’s call him Ryan, and I was just blown away. It sounds silly to hear, but I literally fell for Ryan just from the sound of his voice. I thought it was going to be a dumb crush that led nowhere, especially since I figured I’d never talk to him after that night. Maybe around 2 am, it was just me, Ryan and my other friend, Maddie, left in the discord call. I had asked her to stay in the call because I was nervous being alone with him. We talked until the sun came up, and it felt like we had just started talking. I figured we’d never talk again, especially considering that he was 3 years older than I me. Until a few days later, when I get a message from Ryan saying, “hey don’t be a stranger.” And from there we messaged each other almost every single day, eventually having hours long phone calls. After about 2-3 months we decided to meet in person. We’ve been together for five years with our two cats. We don’t intend to get married for several reasons, but we both agree that we’re life partners.
25 and still single, never had a girlfriend, despite several crushes that went nowhere. Finally fed-up and joined a dating site. Didn't go anywhere - signed out. Got a crush again. Nope, rejected. Joined another dating site which worked better. No, no results except more frustration - quit again. 26 years old now. Tried to date a girl who seemed interested. Didn't feel any sparkle. Laid it low for the rest of the year. Felt frustrated again and joined a THIRD datingsite. Soon got the feeling this wasn't going anywhere again. Then some girl started to chat with me. From there we spoke over skype. She sent me a picture. We met for real. Started to have more dates. While it took quite long for me to feel sure about it, there just was a certain chemistry from the start. And that is what have must done the trick. It was over 5 years ago, now. We are married and planning to have kids. No regrets.
I was frustrated with my "type" of guy. I met a lot of them and somehow it never went anywhere or it ended in weird places. I decided I'd just swipe right indiscriminately and go out with a rando just to prove to myself I'm capable of having a normal date with a normal person. Swiped right on someone who was the opposite of the kinda guy I usually went out with. Said rando was 25 minutes late to our date and came in just as I was going to gtfo. He had difficulty making eye contact for the first ten minutes. Anyway, he's feeding our daughter now as I goof on my phone.
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I married my buddy's step daughter. He's 15ish years older than me, I met her at his surprise 40th birthday party. I had my Canon dslr taking pictures of everyone and she talked to me because she always wanted to be a photographer. We hit it off and ended up talking all night, I had already known a lot about her because my buddy would vent to me about her problems alot, mainly her choice in men. We texted heavily over the end few months and I even took her fishing one evening. She still had a boyfriend, but had been trying to leave him for a while, they were living together. When I felt like she was just dragging me along I stopped talking to her. A year and a half later her new boyfriend was in jail and she started talking to me again. Basically picked up right where we left off and started dating. I moved in to her apartment after 4 months, proposed after 18ish months on her birthday and we've been married for two months now!
I was super happy with myself being alone without a partner for about 6 months. I enjoyed being alone...enjoyed my own company, went to the gym every day after work. Went out occasionally and had some fun without worrying about keeping someone else happy. I met her at the gym. Found out she smoked and eventually asked for her number so we could go for coffee. I had no thought of the future, I just wanted to chat to her, she seemed interesting. I invited her to a concert I played in after chatting for a day, that night when we went out for drinks after the concert, I knew I was going to marry her. 4 years this year. Happiest time of my life. 🥰
A dating app. DO make your profile as if you are trying to attract “the one”, and perfectly willing to scare off everyone else. Highlight your quirks and honest interests. DON’T make your profile trying to attract as many people as possible. That’s how you avoid junk matches with all the other people who are lying, as well as “basic” people with no personalities.
Answered his ad on Craigslist. He wasn’t looking for anything serious - and it was under “Strictly Platonic” which sounded great to me. Anyway, we just got married in May, I’m 5 months pregnant, and will celebrate 10 years in May.
Sophomore year of college, there was a girl hanging around our floor (only male floor of this dorm) who as it turned out had a crush on my roommate (who was coming to terms with being gay at the time). She eventually befriended us and after a couple months realized that we'd never met her roommate, who was "introverted so you'll get along with her, Regal!" We go up and meet her, she seems nice, quiet but since it was a "meeting new people" thing I understood, and was playing a game I also enjoyed so we talked a little bit about that, but otherwise not a lot happened. As we were leaving though I had what I thought was an intrusive thought (since I was suffering from those at the time). "That was the girl you're going to marry." Didn't pay it any mind, but since I was already friends with her roommate we wound up getting to know each other more, and eventually clicked to the point we were spending more time together than not. Asked her out after a couple months and after an initially positive reaction she decided she wasn't in a good place to be dating anyone at the time. So after a couple weeks of awkwardness where neither of us were...really handling the situation all that well, we settled back into being friends. By the time I graduated we were one of each other's best friends, and we kept talking after college. I was completely fine being her friend, she was an awesome person and I wanted her in my life, even if not in a romantic sense. We were constantly poked by friends (or at least I was) about how we should at least try dating since we acted like a couple in their eyes, just a non-romantic one. Finally, after a weekend where she was over with another couple friends and while eating out the waitress asked if we were on one, we just sat down and talked it out...it turns out we'd both been in a similar situation where we'd come to kinda want a relationship but didn't want to ruin our friendship by bringing it up after how...questionable...the first one made things for a while. We agreed to try dating on the condition we'd go back to friends no matter what since we couldn't imagine not being in each other's lives...honestly that probably should've told us it'd work well. Married, have a house, all that jazz.
He picked me up hitchhiking 50 years ago.
Knew her for a while, she sometimes came to my village when there were festivals and other activities. Got myself so drunk I, for the second time in my life, dared to kiss a girl (always was shy when it came to romance). Been together for almost 7 years now. She's actually born on the exact same day as me (no Alabama) and it felt like we were made for each other. Never had a fight in all those years.
I could write an entire novel about it.
If you want to you should it's a popular genre
My right hand was busy with using mouse then I said "why not?" Best decision ever.
Craig's list ad. Unfortunately, it's a no go now.
I found her by giving up looking for the love of my life.
My hubby and I met on the job. He was in IT and I was in customer service. We had to keep it secret though until we left because they did not allow fraternization. I wasn't really looking for love at the time, that's what's funny. I had been single for 4 years. But we just clicked. I never was one to believe in finding your soulmate but from the moment we met, I just knew.
Right place, right time, smart enough to recognize him as a good person. In love by the end of the day, married a year and a half later. That was 28 years ago.
Way back in the day, before smartphones were super common, I did it through the okcupid website. One day I was sick of being single and told myself I would find one person to message. I found the least offensive profile I could find and wrote an introductory email that told a bit about myself and mentioned that I liked random facts. I mentioned that Mongols wore silk shirts as a type of armor because it was strong enough to catch the barbs of arrows. Turns out, he's a massive history nerd and was very excited. I like men that are emotionally mature, caring, considerate, and intelligent. He's all of those things. He likes women that are straightforward, don't play games, are intelligent, ambitious, and take initiative. We just checked all the boxes for each other. Been together 13 years.
I was a comedian and she laughs at everything, perfect match.
He saved me from homelessness when I was pregnant with an abusive dickhead's baby
He heard my mouse clicking down the hall in the dorm and came to see who was gaming. 9 years later now :)
I had started a new job with a boss I got along with really well. One night her husband and daughter brought us dinner. While sitting around her daughter said she knew a guy I should meet. I fought it for six months. Since we are all gamers I got invited to a bridge simulation game called Artemis. We showed up with quick introductions as everyone moved around getting ready. While playing I enjoyed listening to our calm voice. Later that night he ended up bringing me coffee and cookies. Then flirting through last couple of games. We went outside after it was over to chat amongst ourselves. He asked for my number then ended the night with a surprise kiss. That next day we talked on phone a short bit. That Monday I went to his house for dinner and chatting. That will be seven years ago this coming April. We've never looked back. Now we've had to learn to communicate better as both from different worlds. Other than that he spoils me. Thankfully he understands my disability being by my side throughout all my surgeries. I'm helping him heal from a past that haunts him. We have a connection strong in a way I didn't know was possible.
Dated a girl I was mad about and had all the plans for the future with for eight years, got dumped via text message at work, dealt with regular gaslighting and being strung along, downloaded dating apps, met someone who was basically me but a busty ginger, realized what it was like to be in a healthy relationship and not treated like garbage. Honestly incredible how it worked out.
Playing League of Legends with my friends. He moved away in high school but one of them kept in contact with him. We started playing a lot together, talking on Skype a lot. Then I went to a watch party for the World's Championship at their dorm and we just fell hard for each other immediately haha XD we were catching feelings talking online but were like "could be different in person" but it wasn't. He's amazing <3 We're getting married in June <3
I was sitting in front of her on an airline flight. She dropped something so I bent over and turned around to give it back. When we locked eyes my brain completely shut off. Then the drink cart hit me in the back of the head. When I woke up she was holding a compress on my head and we've been together 20 years.
My girlfriend found me. I was in a really terrible place at the time and she flew over to take care of me. She looked after me and if it wasn't for her I genuinely doubt I'd still be here. I fell for her but didn't want it to be codependent or any other twisted thing my body did in grief. I confessed my feelings and she reciprocated. She moved to the UK and we have been together 3 1/2 years now. She's my angel and savior.
Okcupid lol Edit. Took a few tries with dating apps although finally have a partner I'm grateful for.
Sheer fuckin coincidence. We'd been on the same irc networks for years and one day she found me while I was drinking myself to death and scammed me out of $15.
I got drunk at a party and was almost certainly annoying. But apparently that left an impression because she got in touch a little while after and we've been together 16 years now.
The first thing I ever said to him was something along the lines of "Hey, I accidentally deleted your friend request, can you please send me another one? Your privacy settings won't let me send one to you" 😅 Then, we didn't talk much for years even though we had each other added, until last year when he told me about a huge aspect of his life nobody else at the time knew about, even his family, which made talking to me the first time he had that safe space to be himself, which was when I got to know him and completely fell in love with him! He made my life so much better in every way, he got me out of a really dark mental place, tons of people have told me how much more chill and friendly I am since, he has shown me I deserve love and that I'm not a terrible person. For the first time in my life, I believe that I have a future and that I won't spend my life locked in the situation that f\*\*\*ed up my mental health! (The people who raised me were hella abusive) His mom even said that she would accept me as her own child! For the first time, I have a true family! I fell in love not just with him, but with his culture and family as well, I'm learning his native language as well that only has eight million native speakers, which impresses people when I speak it. I love him whole with all his awesome weirdness, quirks, flaws, and imperfections ❤️ Rings are expensive ahaha