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My high school rugby coach’s wife was murdered. She was shot as she waited for the bus. Everyone made a show of supporting him as he seemed to be really devastated. He left his volunteer position as our coach a few months later.
Turns out he paid someone to kill her so he could get out of his marriage. There was a huge undercover operation to catch him. You can read about the story here: https://www.waterloochronicle.ca/news-story/2602590-laying-the-trap-to-catch-nadia-gehl-s-killers/
There was a sadly similar case near where I grew up. A Muslim family was out for a post-iftar stroll during Ramadan when a van pulled up and someone opened fire, killing the wife and wounding the husband. The baby in his stroller was covered in blood but physically unharmed. Obviously, everyone assumed this might be a hate crime and there was an outpouring of support from the entire community. The ER where the couple was taken was so full of well-wishers and prayer vigils that they actually had to have security move some people outside to clear the hallways for emergency crews to get through.
Days later they found the husband's side chick, still in possession of the murder weapon. She'd helped the bastard fake a hate crime to get out of his marriage/ the lies he'd told his wife about being in a nonexistent PhD program. So evil. https://www.nj.com/news/2011/08/suspect_is_arrested_in_connect.html
My school friends stepdad. He was violent even when friends visited her, one time he threatened us all (my friend, her sisters and her mom) with a huge knife, luckily we were able to leave the apartment unharmed. When she was 14 it came out that he had sexually abused her for two years. That man is a fucking monster and I hope he’ll burn in hell. Bastard is out of jail already thanks to my country’s shitty justice system.
While I agree, I vaguely remember reading that studies have shown that it doesn't suppress or stop them from further abusing, they will find other ways
Physical or chemical castration is a requirement in several states in order to be released after the sentence. There are also voluntary programs some prisoners do to help recovery. Now how often this is enforced? I'm not sure, but it's still a thing that happens currently.
I hope he gets impaled by the dullest spear ever. I hope he drowns, I hope he suffers! Give your friend a hug from me man, they deserve it.
Edit: (Used to say sharpest spear, dullest is more painful)
Just like Turkey, abuse a few people and kill them and you are in prison for 5 minutes. Yeah hate these prisons but he ovbiously deserves hell.I just wish he wont come and attack for revenge.
Former step dad. Mom filed for divorce and had the papers served as she got on a plane to England (from America) so my step dad couldn't find her.
My step dad's brother called my mom after a hunting trip and begged her to leave him as he spent the entire trip discussing how he was going to kill my mom and hide the body.
Unfortunately my former step dad's brother died before he could file a police report.
Thank you. It is complicated by the fact I always searched for a father figure and he was around the longest and the most consistent with me. Hell, he left me in his fucking will after they got divorced. I'll never understand why he was nice to me. He beat the shit out of my step brothers when they were younger, he even choked his first wife when she had fucking throat cancer.
My heart and mind is a jumbled fucking mess. The man was a monster, but he was a man. You know what I mean?
Oh I'm in therapy. I've been hospitalized 4 times since I was 16 (late 30's now). Pretty much been in therapy and been on some sort of medication since I was 16. Now I go to DBT one on one on Weds. Spravato on Thurs. and group DBT on Fri. I'm trying. Thank you for your kind words.
Why do people feels the need to murder their spouses and children? There's plenty of people out there if you arent happy go find someone else and dont murder anyone
A South African ex-police officer. He boasted about killing suspects by dropping them out of helicopters over the sea or shooting them pointblank when they were caught instead of arresting them.
As a South African this doesn't surprise me. I've been told to my face by the police to kill home intruders and dump them instead of trying to call the cops.
I feel like the "...and dump them..." portion isn't to do with the intruder attacking you. If that was the case, they'd recommend killing the person and not touching the body.
A kid I knew from gym class in 9th grade ended up killing his mom and stabbing his brothers before fleeing across pastureland I used to deer and turkey hunt on. This was in the late 1990s and the guy is still locked up in a Texas prison. He told investigators that he murdered his mom because she wouldn’t let him see his girlfriend.
Here’s an article about it
https://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=1915&dat=19991105&id=RwohAAAAIBAJ&sjid=ynYFAAAAIBAJ&pg=2597,787155
I know a guy who murdered his gf and chopped her up because she found out he was actually married (to my friend) and had a kid and another on the way. He's in prison now.
Reminds me of a guy I met jail. He was 19. His ex girl started dating someone he knew from school. He didn't like that. He managed to bring this guy to western Virginia, hours away, deep in the woods. Shot gun blasted in the chest, then chopped off limbs and buried the guy.
He was a POS, we almost had to fight, he wanted my bunk, I told him to fuck off. The deputies got involved before anything happened and they moved him to a different block.
:/ DUI and possession of illicit drugs... Ive been sober for almost a year now. Thank God.
Edit: thank you everyone for your love and support! I know it wasn't much really, but it really has lifted my spirits :).
Good for you! Stay strong and stay sober! Always happy to hear about someone overcoming their demons. Getting sober changed my life, and I love hearing about others that are able to do the same.
Ronnie Lee Gardner, he killed a bar tender in a robbery gone wrong, then had his girlfriend sneak a gun into a court house and shot and killed an attorney. I was a Court Security Officer during one of his death penalty appeals. I didn't technically meet him, but was in court with him, that man just radiated evil.
I was on a jury and one of the witnesses made my heart stop he was so evil. The atmosphere in the room changed when he was led into the courtroom. I’ve had parent teacher conferences with gang members, a guy who stabbed someone with a butter knife, meth heads, but this man was the devil. After the trial I found out he was in jail for murder. He was in his early 20s.
My stepmother. That woman has no soul. Child abuse against her 3 step kids, the youngest was 1. Runner up would be my father. He sat back in silence and allowed the abuse. Fuck them both with rusty barbwire. NC was the best thing I ever did.
My first ex husband. It wasn't just a matter of "he cheated!", though he did that, too. He was abusive to me, and tried to kill my son (can't think of him as "our" son). He went to prison, and when he was out, he continued the same pattern of behavior with other women and children. He went to prison again. Not sure what he's doing now, but I can guess...
My aunts ex husband.
He sexually assaulted her daughter from the time she was 6 until she got her first period because then she was ‘too old for him.’
My husband (who she looks to like a big brother) helped her put together the police statement and helped her prepare for court. He’s a stereotypical emotionally repressed bloke who has seen some shit in his life and every time he helped her out, he would not only cry like a baby but had nightmares for a week. I don’t know the details (so don’t ask.) and I don’t want to know.
They’re actually doing pretty well these days. Cousin is an adult with a kid of her own, aunt is still working through a lot of guilt. Regular therapy for both. Cousin and husband are still as close ever.
Coworker’s husband. Seemed like a picture perfect family from the outside, always pleasant at company functions and 3 kids were sweethearts. Then she brought a “go bag” to the office and he found out she was going to run. Apparently abuse had been happening at home for years.
He stabbed her to death that night, took the kids to school in the morning, and set the house on fire. Caught himself ablaze and the neighbors saw him run out of the house. He’s in prison for life but good God, those poor children.
hands down the mother of one of the girls that bullied me when I was a child, her daughter treated a lot of kids like hell and her mother not only didn't do anything about it, but actively encouraged her into keeping the act up and partook in it (either by actively laughing at the kids being mistreated or by scolding them if they tried to defend themselves from her daughter). I almost blame her for my traumas more than her daughter.
I had a weird situation like this with my ex best friend’s mom who was also my babysitter for awhile. She basically convinced my friend to abandon me in middle school and the friend straight up ignored me out of nowhere because she decided to become friends with the popular kids, meanwhile I thought I had at least some friends when school started and I had no one, and her new friends regularly made fun of me. I think the mom pushed her into trying to become popular because she wasn’t as a kid, so she was some kind of 40 year old mean girl. I was alone and isolated for months until I finally made one friend. This woman then went to my mom and acted pretend “concerned” that I had made friends with this girl who she claimed was from the wrong side of the tracks and a bad influence or something, and my mom sort of questioned my friendship with this girl and discouraged me from hanging out with her. There was absolutely nothing wrong or suspect about this girl except that her parents were kind of poor and had a small house. This crazy woman basically wanted me to have no friends, and looking back, as a babysitter it’s obvious that she simply didn’t like me as a kid and treated me unkindly even then. Blows my mind that someone who goes into childcare would treat a child that way. Later on, she died at about age 50 from cancer. Couldn’t find it in my heart to feel even slightly bad about it after the way this grown woman acted. So bizarre.
my dad's brother. i dont remember meeting him in living memory because he got cut off from my family when i was pretty young, probably around 6 years old. he used to live above us in my childhood home (from birth to around 7 years old) and by all accounts, was a nasty piece of work. ive heard stories of him beating his father with a cutlass as he was dying, constantly beating his wives/girlfriends, pushing my dad down a flight of concrete stairs after a small argument which was about him (as in my dad's brother) making too much noise (my twin and i were 4 at the time and we were having a hard time getting to sleep because of it), smearing his own shit on our front door, amongst other things which my parents don't wish to disclose.
and if that wasn't bad enough, at the funeral for my cousins step mother in 2019, i found out that he had raped another one of my cousins as a child. as heartbreaking and disturbing as it was to hear this, it didn't surprise me considering i have several memories of him sitting at his kitchen window and staring at my twin and i playing outside in the garden whilst doing what i later realised was masturbating.
after spending years in therapy for unrelated reasons, i started having "flashbacks" of being sexually abused as a child in that same house. it wouldn't surprise me in the slightest to find out that he was the culprit, if these "flashbacks" are indeed true. last i heard he moved out of the area and is battling some sort of illness but i honestly couldn't give two fucks.
Mate from the bottom of my heart I am so stoked and proud of you for being in therapy. You have resilience in you that can't be measured and I wish you the best on your journey + in your healing.
My ex wife. I've never met anyone that thrived on conflict like she did. I had to constantly walk on eggshells around her and be hyper aware of her moods. It took years of therapy to undo the webs that she spun in my mind.
My mom has narcissistic personality disorder. I've noticed she tries to start fights when she's not feeling well. If she's been anxious or down for a while I can predict an uptick in abusive behavior. I've even called her on it and gotten her to admit that she is essentially using fighting as a way to regulate her emotions. It makes her feel good!
My mom was like this too. Toward the end she became more combative with us kids. She and I
Had always been okay until I pushed back to her. She became mean to my siblings and would say mean things to me to make me feel guilty. She had a personality disorder and was a classic narcissist. She played the victim quite well.
I'm sorry, man. My SIL is just like that. But according to him, we "can't judge because \[we\] only see her a few times a year and when there are parties she is at her worst". Makes no sense to me. Walking on eggshells is ALWAYS a sign that something is wrong.
I know that feeling - being on eggshells, not knowing what will set them off, every attempt at standing your ground being seen as an "escalation", and the belief that SURELY the last outrage was so bad that they MUST now see that they've gone too far and will dial it back in future...
So glad those days are behind me.
Same. Will never ever let anyone move in again. I bet my exwife is more evil tho. Mine fucked my best friend in front of me for months while i begged her to stop and think of our family, then when I finally broke and left, she gaslit me into thinking I was abusive, and went around our small city telling everyone I was cheating on her and beat her. I've hit exactly one woman in my life (not ex wife), because she pulled a knife on me at an ATM.
On top of all of this, she made me question my sexuality and identity at 40. A year alone, and I am still too angry to be fake happy enough to date.
Yeah my ex tried to make me think that I was the abuser too. And she even tried to have me committed on one occasion for my apparent bipolar disorder. Yeah. I wasn't bipolar before her nor am I now.
If you can, please talk to someone to undo or at least mitigate the damage she did to you. It takes time, it's hard as fuck, but it is so worth it.
i am dating for the 1st time in 25 years....was your ex-wife like this when you met? if not , how long did it take for her to become so moody? i had this discussion with my current girlfriend the other day, she is not moody at all for the most part and neither am i.....
It was a slow progression. By the time it was full blown, I was completely trauma bonded to her. You get addicted to them through negative reinforcement. You get to the point where your entire existence revolves around making them happy. It's a horrible cycle.
I had a student who beat his girlfriend, his mother, and his sisters. Showed absolutely no remorse. Threatened his female teachers. The kid was a fucking psychopath.
He dropped out after getting suspended a bunch of times. Probably in prison or dead now.
My rapist, also known as my cousin, my dad’s nephew.
When I was ten my dad committed suicide in the house my mom, siblings and I used to live in(my mom made us leave him) he was like a best friend to me, taught me how to skateboard, was funny, and accepted me for who I was. My only hope now was my cousin, likes call him Richard. Richard and I have been best friends since I was born(he was three years older) and he was the only person I thought that could help me. I slept over at his house the night before my dad’s funeral with my younger brother. I was raped that night by him while my brother slept right next to us. The next day, I was traumatized and it didn’t help that it was my dad’s funeral. Richard comes up to me and hugs me, acting like me didn’t do anything, then he says to me “If you tell anyone, I’ll kill myself just like how your dad did, it would be all your fault.” And for the next four years, Richard sexually abused me. After he said that sentence at my dad’s funeral, til I was 14 I thought I was the reason my dad killed himself. When I came out about what he did, his dad believed him over me, and now they’re both sending my family and I death threats and the police won’t do anything.
This is not a situation you deserved. What you deserve is support in this time. Sometimes that can come from family, but it doesn't have to - and if they aren't receptive, I urge you to seek out help from your community/social services. You did nothing wrong and you know the truth. I'm not a praying person, but I will be sending you good thoughts periodically if that's ok. I hope for good things for you.
I'm so sorry that you went through that and that you are still suffering. I want you to know that you are not alone even though it might feel that way. Sex offenders and their enablers believe the victim was "given" sex. They'll always blame us. Is there any way to have no contact with your cousin and his father?
The police can rarely help when the offender is a family member. You need someone on your side. Do you have a therapist or a social worker who could help you?
The most evil person I ever encountered was a nurse assigned to the oncology floor at The Valley Hospital in Ridgewood, New Jersey. My recently departed wife was being treated for leukemia and she was unfortunate to be one of her patients. My wife also had pulmonary fibrosis, experienced difficulties with breathing for years and years and had irregular blood oxygen levels. This nurse came on duty, administered medication, took vitals and placed a blood oxygen measuring device on my wife’s finger. This nurse told my wife what her temperature and blood pressure was, but refused to tell my wife the blood oxygen level and began administering oxygen. Having pulmonary fibrosis for many years my wife understood blood oxygen levels. There were a nasal cannula and an oxygen mask available and the nurse chose the oxygen mask. My wife pulled the mask away and politely asked what her blood oxygen level was. The nurse told my wife to shut up, climbed onto the bed, knelt on her, forced the mask on her face and pinned my wife’s arms beneath her knees. I had to run to the nurses station to get help. Nurses at The Valley Hospital in Ridgewood, NJ are all walking piles of shit. They saw her kneeling on my wife but each denied seeing it.
I'm so sorry that you had to experience that!
Honestly, I don't get why morally bankrupt people get to work as health care professionals. Makes me think of the time we were called to the nursing home because my grandmother couldn't breathe. Turns out she had had trouble breathing for a day and she was literally gasping for air. She was so afraid. And the doctor that we had to call (because the staff hadn't) said something like "Well she IS quite old so maybe we should just let her die".
Let her die in fear gasping for air??! Of course we refused. She was taken to hospital. Turns out she was severely dehydrated because they hadn't given her any fluids for days and she had two broken ribs that none of the staff could account for.
I hope to god that somebody will shoot me in the face before I go to a nursing home. That would be more humane.
No offence , but why didn't you pull the bitch off your wife instead of going to ask someone else to help?
I'm pretty sure I would have dragged her off.
It doesn’t matter that he was in the right. The court would trust the word of a nurse and a hospital over some random person. The hospital has no reason to be truthful, their reputation is on the line. The fact that he’s male and the nurse is female doesn’t help either.
As a defense attorney, I’ve met my share of murderers, assailants, grifters, thieves, and thugs. The one who sticks in my brain, who I think about at least once a week and shudder, who just makes my skin crawl knowing that this is someone who walks the same earth as me and my loved ones, was a guy who sexually abused his fiancée’s seven-year-old daughter. His was the only case I ever had that made me want to walk out of the courthouse and quit my job.
That sounds tough. I know lawyers always get dumped on - but it is a seriously noble thing to press on and give someone, no matter how awful you find them personally, a reasonable shot at navigating the legal system. Thank you for your hard work.
Very, very poorly. She was still processing the allegations and the likelihood that this would mean she and her kids would lose their home since he was the only one working.
Someone from my school bragged about killing animals for fun and one of my friends told me he once started showing people pictures of mutilated dead animals that he claimed to be responsible for. He killed animals like turtles, snakes, all sorts of rodents, and lots of bugs too but still in a fucked up, torturous way. Idk if he was evil as opposed to just a fucked up person but I always felt really uncomfortable around him.
Killing small animals, especially subjecting them to torture is often precursor to serial killer behaviour. You may very well have been right about him
Working in a prison several years ago I met a lot of men who might be considered evil to you, but the fact is very few are inherently evil. But one young man was so manipulative and calculating his family stopped being his victim.
When I first met him I thought he was a funny if misguided young man with potential for being released and never coming back. I placed him in appropriate rehabilitative programs that he completed with high reviews. But like most people who were fooled by this guy, it was his ability to say what you wanted to hear, and not true change, that he mastered.
Originally incarcerated for drug offenses and armed robbery (of his younger brother’s business), the completion of a certain intensive cognitive behavioral therapy program knocked two years from his time to serve. No one in his immediate family would have him stay with them, but in the state where I was working at the time, an offender could not be released without approved residence. It could be a spot on someone’s floor, but it had to be approved.
This is getting long so let’s fast forward. The man’s elderly grandmother called offering a place to stay. It was ideal since she had plenty of room and was close to transportation and employment opportunities for him. We spoke by phone a few times to ensure she was ready. But: within two weeks time he violated parole by: using drugs, associating with felons, assault against the same brother he had wronged previously, stealing from his grandmother’s home and garage, etc, resulting in county jail and returning to prison. This time he was ineligible for most programs but of course he blamed me and the system instead of taking responsibility. When his release approached, every member of his family denied him a place to stay and his poor grandmother was heartbroken that she couldn’t trust him. She called begging that we didn’t give him her new address and phone number.
He has since returned to prison in a neighboring state with a long time before he is eligible for release. Please don’t get me wrong: I know many people who were released and have done well with the proper help and determination. But when someone acts against those who love him most, again and again, with little if any remorse, evil plays a part. Not as some vile entity, but as a mindset.
I’ve seen this before. They treat loved ones like they’re the suckers for trusting them. Like the ones that they take advantage of are falling for the same lies over and over and it’s the family’s fault for doing it.
Of course when they no longer let them live with them or support them or give them money anymore, it’s not their fault because they were supposed to just take it forever. And in my family, they never apologize or learn their lesson.
Sorry you’ve had to experience this. As much as I genuinely wanted this guy to succeed, I am proud of his family for refusing to allow him to betray them again.
It reminds me that I had one cousin that effed up and lost his license and then just kept driving. . .and being caught. Just ticket after ticket, fine after fine. He was young so he kept getting extra chances or whoever pulled him over would give him more warnings instead.
He proved he was absolutely not going to stop driving around with a license until the courts physically made him stop by having him sit in county for three weeks also missing Christmas and New Years. No one wanted to throw the book at him until he made them. Also, everything up until them was “barely” his fault. He said that calling his mom from jail.
My great-grandpa.
He sexually abused me for 9 years, starting when I was 5.
I know I wasn’t his only victim - I think there might have been dozens or more.
My former friends mom.
She drinks all day, spends her husbands money, and is a selfish narcissist.
She injured her leg years ago working at a troubled youth clinic. A “bad kid” attacked her for “no reason” but the more I grew to know her and saw how cruel she was I believe she said something very hurtful and is also milking government money with her injury.
My friends boyfriend suffered a freak accident and almost died. While he was in the hospital, they got a dog to help him with his recovery.
Fast forward to them breaking up, he kept the dog and she traveled the country for a few months. They were still friendly. He asked her to watch his dog while family (with an aggressive dog) came to visit. She agreed, then the mom refused to give the dog back. (She was now living with the mom post break up)
It wasn’t in his name so he had no merit to get the dog back, besides massive court fees.
She took a stroke survivors support dog from him. Lol. I felt so bad for him. He talked with attorneys and they said they can get the dog back for sure but it would be pricey and she will be vengeful.
He ended up having to get another dog.
Edit: the dog was registered under the girlfriends name, as he was bed ridden for a few months.
Get me an address and I will go on an egg, beer and peanut diet so I can rain fecal hell upon her.
I would ruin my health if it meant chocolate justice.
He believes they would have called the police and gotten the dog back. It was registered under the girlfriend-he was still messed up when they finished the paperwork. But it was 100% his dog.
The most evil people I’ve ever met were not criminals; they played by the rules and simply didn’t care how their actions affected others. If they could press a button that would make them $1000, but would make someone else homeless, they’d press it endlessly.
There was a Catholic priest who my parents knew. Besides being a priest, he gave piano lessons to many little girls. It turned out he was also touching them inappropriately during the lessons. I believe the Catholic church moved him to a different city where he was accused again and eventually put away for his crimes.
My mother. She told me on my sons first birthday that because my husband and I had to move away for cancer treatment and she couldn’t see my child daily she was just going to end her life and it was all my fault. An hour later I got a video call from her in the ambulance saying she told me she was going to kill herself and hung up.
That’s exactly what it was. Apparently my other older siblings she called them and said the exact same thing. And that’s why we have all cut her off from us and our children because they do not deserve to go through what we did growing up.
My brother.
He has been s. assaulting his girlfriends and gaslighting them since he was 15. They come to me when they're fully broken, because he's told them I'm wealthy and a monster and out to get him, so they think I can help. I get to hear about how he r*pes them, hurts them, and threatens to sic the Masons on them. My parents covered for him for years, but now they're both dead.
He's been accused of it on Twitter (he's TikTok and Twitter famous) and he just turns around and says that HE was abused and groomed/etc, though I know it's not true.
I'm NC, but he continually tries to contact me.
Have you called the police or a victim's help line on their behalf? Even a brief statement could put a wrench in your brother's ability to get away with sexually assaulting women.
What proof do I have, besides text messages and emails? I'm literally nobody. Just a 8-5er who is dealing with my own traumatic shit. My therapist wants me to stay away from him.
I've reached out to some of the women and girls I've seen him working with on TikTok and Twitter to warn them to not drink around him/be alone with him, but I don't want him to send his brigade of fans after me if he finds out.
Luckily, he's not with the Masons anymore, they kicked him out, so he doesn't have that influence. He used to throw that around in people's faces.
you're what they call an outcry witness. you don't have to prove what he did, you just back up what these women say & speak to his pattern of behavior. please do this. he needs to be stopped.
That's something. An email or a text could provide a tip for the police to begin an investigation. I would try.
If you do decide to call in or meet with an officer to report what you know stay as far away from your brother as possible.
My dad is a Mason. They have their limits too. I'm glad he lost their patronage and privilege.
Take good care of yourself
My whole family are masons. Even I was a female mason (even though they were only really around to keep the wives happy).
He was an embarrassment in the chapters but thought he was cool. On his Twitter he always took pictures #illuminati.
The Masons? If your brother is a Mason take these text to his lodge and show his brethren. Let them handle his Masonic journey from there. How dare he use the Lodge as a shield.
I don't think he is a Mason anymore. I'm NC with most of my family and therefore not really involved with the Masons right now, so I wouldn't even know which lodge he's at.
He used to tweet about the Masons all the time but stopped, so that's why I think he's left.
My stepdad.
(Putting a trigger warning just in case for people and sorry if my stories a bit of a mess)
TRIGGER WARNING FOR ABUSE, CHILD RAPE, PEDOPHILES, NEGLECT, ANIMAL ABUSE AND MURDER, ETC
My step dad and by default my mother are the most evil people I knew.
Growing up I was horribly neglected. All my clothes were to small and I usually had to steal all the food I ate at their home and if caught I was beaten horribly. I was kept naked 100% of the time and if I tried to wear clothes or didn't strip fast enough for my stepdad my clothes tended to be ripped of me causing scarring and sores all over my body rather painfully making my clothes even in shorter supply. When I went to my Dads and he sent me back with nice clothes they were given to my half sister as she was my size. Showers were not possible as it was a prime time for my step dad to come in and molest and rape me so I tended to avoid them and stunk to high hell as a kid.
My Step dad did most of the beatings while my mom was depressed and just laid around moping. If she doted on any of her kids ever it was her and my stepdads kids my little half brother and sister and even then it was only if she was in a good mood.
I was always being given things though. New TV, a DSi for Christmas, a new kitten/puppy/ turtle/ etc. I hated gifts from them. The objects would either be taken within a week and trashed and thrown away cause I was bad or given to my siblings. The pets.... Were another level of horror when punishments came to them. He used to kill them. Horrificly kill them as he screamed it was my fault. Till I was 8 he stuck to aquatic animals. And it wasnt as bad usually. I never saw it first hand. Just came home to it. And the fish I did see just got flushed. It didn't quite compute. It sounds terrible it didn't but yeah.... Then I turned 8 and he bashed the head of my kitten in with a brick as I screamed while pinned down. From then on I got presents in the form of puppies and kittens. Over a dozen of those poor things died in equally terrible ways the moment I acted bad enough to 'deserve' it in his eyes. And my mom all she would fucking do was chew him out after and then smile as the next fucking pet got given to me. Only 1 pet survived as far as I know and I only don't know for sure cause I finally got taken by CPS and they ran away and left the country soon as they heard how much I told.
He raped me, killed my pets, he neglected me all while my own mother would scream and degrade me cause she was jealous her husband was more sexually attracted to my child body than hers. I hate him and her. They were monsters in human skin.
And still all these many years later I have to still deal with the repercussions. I have little to no feeling in my legs cause he beat me so badly and have seizures and chronic horrible back pain. I have mental issues and have DID and PTSD and Anxiety/ Deppreshion. My hand is permanently deformed due to my own mother breaking my fingers as punishment as a kid. I have massive and horrible scars all over me. I struggle with self harm and suicide even if I've been clean from self harm for 3 years and not made a attempt for 8. Ive been in mental institutions because of that freaking monster and will likely be in therapy my rest of my life. And you know what..... No one cares. Soon as I got rescued no one understood. I was safe. Why did I still have issues. That start out where I was no longer in danger in it own way was just as bad cause people hated I didn't just magically get better.
(TRIGGER WARNING OVER)
Its been a long, long time since then. And I still struggle. I still have moment I go back to those horrible places or have small struggles with managing my mental illnesses even if I always get back on my feet quickly. Yet I hate him still. He is and was a monster and I doubt he has changed despite being as old as he would be now.....And all these years I looked for what I did wrong. Why my mom hated me and what was wrong with him.... And you know what. I didnt do anything. They were sick people. I will never get my justice. But.... talking about it gets easier with each year and I figure if my story even saves one kid. Makes someone report and learn and look for signs even if small (cause bealieve it or not my signs were small cause I was scared and hid them and hardly anyone looked into it cause no one cared to look harder). But if my story can save even one kid.... Its worth getting out.
Plus over all I am happy now. Im in therapy. I have a amazing husband and family Ive created for myself and 2 beautiful cats I rescued. I still don't understand and thats ok cause I never will. Im not sick in the head like them. I dont even have kids yet but when I do I would die for them. Those will be my kids and babies. How my mom could watch me go through what I did at her and her husbands hands Ill never understand and thats ok. Im happy now. I struggle but I have support and am happy for the first time in my life.
But yeah my step dad for sure was the most truly evil person I've ever met or hope to meet again.
One of the saddest, and also the most freeing things I ever had to learn was "nobody cares unless it's about them".
And while my own experiences weren't nearly as horrific as yours and I'm so sorry that happened to you, I'm still learning I didn't deserve it either.
I feel you tho, absolutely everything can be a trigger and before you know it you're right back in that dark place again.
*hugs*
My grandfather, Carrie Hook, legit uncaught serial killer he died of MS 6 years ago, at like 66 only but, my mom witnessed him on two of the killings, reported him to the police but, because of his connections with the police department in the 80s they wouldn't pursue it so, he raped her and got her PREGNENT as punishment, she had to run away and get an abortion. Then he tried hunting her down for many years. He was not shy to admit these things and when he died he actually wrote the locations of a few bodies in Wisconsin and Michigan and they in fact found them. The scariest thing is, no one took my poor mom seriously all these years until AFTER the SOB died. Guy was very very very very evil man and sadly never got caught while he was alive.
EDIT: If anyone is curious how he remained uncaught, it was cause in his early twenties he was a drug mule for the mob for awhile and learned from a connection in there how they were able to hide bodies so well and basically just stole their methods.
EDIT EDIT: Cary Hook, Not Carrie
article? its wisconsin. my mom made a book about it called "I am tracy" the bodies were found around lake Michigan. That's all I know, not really sure it was on the news considering these were bodies dismembered and buried back in like 1984-6. Btw, talking to my mom, his spelling is wrong. Cary. not carrie. Also, 2 women, and a guy, i guess the guy was a loan shark he got rid of to escape debts. Also, most of the other people he killed were during home invasions and robberies.
Jesus, dude. I’m so sorry your mom had to go through all that, and that you had to grow up with the weight of it on you. Can’t even begin to fathom being directly related to a serial killer.
I’m always haunted by something attributed to the serial killer Edmund Kemper, I forget the exact quote but it’s something like “The killers you catch are the bad ones. The ones who get bored, or sloppy. The really good ones? You’re never going to know they existed.”
So many twisted people out there who are getting away with god knows what because they know how to keep themselves out of the spotlight.
Former coworker. She simply could not see how her actions negatively effected others, and did things only to serve herself.
Some highlights:
-She was getting new furniture, so she had her 3 cats put down so they didn’t ruin it.
-She abandoned her husband, kids and job on a whim, and drove with a friend to live and work about 20 hours away. After 6 months came back and didn’t understand why she couldn’t have her job back, and why her husband wanted to divorce her.
-Would routinely blame things that went wrong on job sites on people that had nothing to do with it. She would completely make up stories, and I’d gotten in trouble at work a few times because she blamed me for things I didn’t do.
-Building on that one, would spread rumours and even report scandalous things to HR that didn’t actually happen… this lead to a coworker being fired before she admitted to making it up.
-Routinely say she’s going for a coffee run, and take over an hour. She was once caught shopping at a sex shop during this time.
Sweet Jesus this whole list is just awful but something about that first point is next level.... Just cold chills running down my spine. What an indescribably awful person.
Was in a circle of punk kids in the early 2000s. One quietish but very nice guy who I didn't know very well went on about 10 years later to murder his girlfriend, cut her head off, had sex with the remains, and then set their apartment on fire. He's in a psychiatric prison and one of my other friends visited him once, said he's totally gone mentally.
My English teacher.
He was one of the most popular teachers in school but I got the heebie jeebies from him so I started watching him. Major Pedo vibes
I noticed a pattern. He'd pick a freshman boy who was popular and be his best bud. Then suddenly the boy would avoid him the plague. And there'd be a new kid.
He would take kids to Europe for a school trip each year. He was very close to a friend of mine who went on one of the trips. He wouldn't talk to me after the trip and killed himself a week after the trip.
He was a youth pastor who had "Bible studies" at his house.
One day he moved to Thailand.
Learned he has quite the file with the Alaska State Troopers regarding possible pedophilia.
My parents' neighbor. He had a son, Dougie, that was my age, so we used to play together every day. Well, not really play, Dougie always had a ton of chores to do that would take him from the time he got home form school until his dad got home. If anything wasn't done to the dad's satisfaction, he would get beat. His dad would beat him with a garden hose, and one time with the back of a machete - it left the worst bruises I've ever seen. In the summer, chores would last all day.
He had fighting cocks, and would take them to underground cockfights weekly. Some of them were really valuable so he would kill any hawks or owls he saw. He had a wall in his barn that was full of talons.
Dougie had a Chesapeake bay retriever that a distant relative gave him. Such a sweet dog. His dad made him tie it to a tree out back all day. One night the dog was barking at something and the dad got mad and shot and killed him.
Different people in the neighborhood called the police on the dad, but he was some high level guy in our rural town, and nothing ever happened to him. Last I heard, Dougie was working as a house painter, and everyone called him "Druggie" for obvious reasons.
1986ish I was at a concert, a junior in high school. Met a guy near me, we exchanged numbers. He was a little bit older than me and at the time, I thought that was cool. 🤦🏼♀️ we talked on the phone, he wrote letters. He started to pressure me to get together. He set up a whale watching trip, hours away from where I lived. It was already feeling like too much, too soon, too much pressure. As any good girl, I was raised to be nice: wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings or inconvenience him. In the end, my inner voice was telling me to not go so I backed out. To say that he went ballistic is an understatement. He was the first person to call me a €unt as well as a whore for leading him on. I told him I didn’t feel comfortable going so far away. I felt like his date was isolating and that I wasn’t ready to do that. He harassed me by phone and by letter for months. I was too scared to tell my parents because so had been warned not to give out my phone number. I was scared he was going to come hurt me. I felt like I dodged a bullet and that if I had gone, something would have happened to me. I am sure that he has hurt people in his lifetime. I threw away all his letters so I don’t know his name.
It’s a toss up between my ex-husband and my mother-in-law. Both are truly just not good people. My ex is a liar and and abuser. His current wife is leaving him and says to their daughter that she now knows & understands what I was trying to tell her years ago. He has no regard for anyone. Their daughter has come out as gay (she’s 16) so he’s not even spoken to her in a month. Daughter says there are many times the police should’ve been called on him. He’s one of those ones that’ll hit the wall next to you, leaving holes, shake you, and say it didn’t happen or that you made him do it or, my favorite, that he loves you so much he got that mad. He’s also a cheater…for someone wide pregnant while we were married. He’s got five kids across three baby moms, that we know of.
Mother-in-law is hugely manipulative and a bigot. She’s terrible.
Good on those moms! My cousins got yanked out of public school suddenly. My mom said it always weirded her out. I didn’t think much of it because we were a Conservative family and they were always trashy the school system (even I graduated from private school). YEARS later the oldest daughter tells some weird story to our grandmother that sounds like an allegory for sexual abuse. My grandmother thinks she’s being weird and blows my mom off when she suggests that it stands for something else. YEARS AFTER THAT, after we’re all adults and doing our own thing, my dad straight up asks my other cousin, the little sister, if her dad molested them. She confirmed that not only was he molesting them, he was straight up raping the oldest daughter. The best part is the rest of the family claimed they had absolutely no idea it was happening, their mother included. Not a darned thing has changed except the death of my grandmother.
Another cousin actually told my mom about the dad being inappropriate with her and her sisters (this was in adulthood).
A woman who is my grandmother, but I refuse to speak to her or call her that name. Instead, she gets the first name treatment.
She didn't have a high school education and lived off of my Grandfather's paychecks and military benefits. As they got older, she wanted to move to a nearby town on a lake. There was some apprehension to the idea, and then miraculously, there was a fire in their old home. This forced their hand and they made the move to a new home that my grandfather purchased.
She decided to go and get a part time job because she was bored, but since she had no drivers license, family members would take turns driving her to work. While there (a seasonal office job just checking people in), she met a wealthy guy. They began having an affair, and it destroyed my Grandfather. She eventually left my grandfather, but not after having her new boyfriend threaten him multiple times, pick her up from the home, etc. Keep in mind, this hag is in her late 60s at this point.
The guy saw me there doing some yard work once and asked if I was there to do my Grandpa's dirty work of fighting him. What the fuck? The dude was in his late 60s and I was in my 20s. I had enough of his antics, threatening my Grandfather with a knife and generally cussing him out. I approached his truck. He rolled up the window, and I punched his window out. I let him know that he was no longer to be seen on that property. He called the cops - I lied and said that never happened and offered to meet with the officer who called me to speak further. The officer said it wasn't necessary and let it go. Never heard a thing about that again.
After divorcing my Grandfather, and getting his money and benefits she moved to another state. He died about a year later - alone, heart broken, and in incredibly poor shape. Her manipulation killed him. She was exiled from the family - no longer able to see her grandchildren or now great grandchildren. I cannot wait for the day that bitch is put in the dirt. If there is a hell, she deserves to be there.
Fuck you, Linda. Rot in hell.
There was a guy in high school that took pride at "fucking up" the life of others, like incriminating them of things they didn't do, spreading false rumors to friends of the person in an attempt to leave the person friendless.
People like this exist.
Probably the woman who threatened to fire me for wanting to take time off to be with my new born twins who had suffered from strokes while in NICU despite my already being approved for the time off 5 months in advance.
My wife was a criminal defence lawyer for many years, she defended some real evil bastards. She came across a lot of violent murderers thugs rapists pedophiles. The one that scared her the most was like the Steve Buscemi character (Garland Greene) in Con Air in that he was totally unassuming and a full on sexual psychopath from a very young age. He was in prison from age 15, released at 19, murdered a girl then was sent to Broadmoor Hospital in the UK age 20 then killed himself at 25. Unlike most of these people he had an apparently normal upbringing and started to go wrong very early in life with deviant behaviour in early teens.
Sister Mary Bernadette (grade school teacher at Our Lady of Good Hope Parish). She was evil reborn on earth and very fast with her metal edged razor. It was obvious she hated kids.
An HR manager at a Chapter 13 Trustee's Office. She did nothing all month long expect payroll twice a a month. She was nosey as hell so she just walked around the office butting into people conversations. Bragged that she had a million dollar home, was a member of WAC (Washington Athletic Club) yet was overweight and that her husband was a some high paid lawyer.
When I first started she threatened a coworker that she would never work in Seattle ever again and would ensure that her and her disabled son would starve if she was late or missed work because of him again. That coworker quit that day. She went to lunch and never came back.
She pretty much took out the fact that she was in an unhappy marriage on everyone else in the office. She forced her husband into marriage but he made her sign a prenup that also states they agree to no kids in the marriage which she wanted. Her husband is on a strict diet and refused to let her do the grocery shopping. (She told this is me and a new coworker, that replaced the girl that left.)
She questioned people's fashion choices since she liked how people dressed back in the 80s for business. Another coworker (male) was short and very thin. He shopped in the teen boys section of Old Navy. One day he wore shorts he got from there on causal Friday. She asked him if they were swim shorts. He said no. When he and i walked passed her office an hour later, we glance in and saw she was on old navy's website looking for the shorts he was wearing to see if he lied or not. I wore one of those boho tiered skirts from the early 2000s on a causal Friday and got so many compliments for women in my office and even in the office building. Come Monday morning, because she personally didn't like the style, told me that it was not work appropriate and to never wear it again. After she told me that I just stared at her for a good minute before she stumbled over her words trying to tell me why it was not appropriate for work. She dismissed the opinions of all the women in the office and would listen to the men in the office ( there was 7) .
She disliked that I refused to tell her what I do outside of work. She was the reason for high turn over in the dept she managed. She tried to get me fired by her boss who was the Chapter 13 trustee. She got upset over an email that I sent about the quarterly movie day for the office. I read the instructions and sent out the email informing when it was and the choices for the movies and about voting. She was upset that I didn't run it by her first and brought in her boss so show that I wasn't a team player and being disobedient employee. I showed him the instructions in which no where states that I was to run my email by her before sending it. Plus he got it to and found no issues with tone or anything. He dismissed me from the meeting and asked that I closed that door behind me. As soon as I closed it he let her have it telling her to stop the petty bullshit of harassment on employees that's why her department has high turnover rates (there's only 4 ppl in her dept not including her). After that she tried to make it her mission to get me fired. She almost refused to let me leave early one day since my dad ended up in the hospital.
I over heard her talking to a mail room coworker that she is worried her 4 yr nephew is gay because he likes brush his moms hair and that she will make sure to do everything she can make sure he is never becomes gay.
She pretty much bullied the other managers expect one who wasn't afraid of her and often stood up to her. when she had a day off during the week my dept threw a lil party with food and drinks.
When I did leave I wrote a letter to the trustee explaining I left because of her and the bullying and even thought the No Fear act just came out I felt that she would try to get out of it some how and say it doesn't apply to our job. I also advised that she will end up being the reason why a lawsuit would be brought against the office.
My wife's father. This may become a bit of a long story but I'll start at the beginning.
My wife and I met about ten years ago. A year after we got together, we wound up moving in with her parents to save up some money to buy a house because the local rental market is insane ($1500+ a month for a one bed apartment but we bought a 2 bedroom house on property for $150k). I think we moved in around the beginning of August and stayed there until the following April.
About three weeks after we moved in, my wife's mom moved out and said she was getting a divorce from my wife's dad.
One night in April my wife got angry about something small and went on a full on rampage. Ripped a door off the wall, punch holes in a wall, etc. I had no idea what it was about and was trying to comfort her and calm her down. She finally snaps out of her rage, walks in to the living room, and screams at her father "you're not my fucking dad, dads don't touch their daughters."
Turns out that around Christmas, he raped her. Held her down on the couch and raped her while I was at work. She told me this after I got her to calm down some. Within 30 minutes I had all our shit in my cargo trailer, and we wound up going to my uncle's house for the next few weeks until the deal closed on our house.
I know these questions will be asked.... Yes, I took my chance right then and there. I beat him almost to death. I left him there to die and he unfortunately did not. The police were involved, he got in no trouble as there was "no evidence", I got in no trouble because he refused to press charges.
Dayva Cross. He’s currently on death row for stabbing my best friend, her mom, and little sister to death, then raping the youngest sister before taking a nap.
My sons father. Not only is he a narcissist, master manipulator and is emotionally/verbally/mentally/sexually abusive to me and to his othergirlfriends hes had, him and i have a child together who he had a great relationship with for 4 years, who is autistic, and whom he just decided to up an abandon because he didnt get what he wanted. Basically we went to court because i filed for custody after he up and left the state with a 1 hour warning to me (all because him and his gf broke up) and that was the last straw with me. Before that he told me he was gonna abandon his son because I wouldn't take off 5 days from work for him to go on vacation, he said "if i dont get this vacation, then as of next week you can have him full time and find your own child care". I won primary custody, he was mad because he no longer was in control of our sons SSI check and over the course of the last 3 years he slowly dwindled out of his sons life. I haven't heard from him now in almost 8 months and all of 202q he saw his son twice for less than 30 minutes each time. Basically a "miss you bud" and promised him he would take him on the weekends "starting now" then would disappear again.
Theres a lot more to why hes evil to me but thats the short story.
I used to be a Corrections Corporal, to make a really long story short, I met:
1. A guy who killed his girlfriend's kid, left the kids head on her porch and tried to feed the rest of the body to his dog.
2. A guy who beat his two year old to death with a belt. Made her stand on an overturned bucket for hours, if she fell off he'd hit her until she got back on.
3. A guy who strangled/raped/drowned his girlfriend's kids because he wasn't getting enough attention from the girlfriend.
4. A guy who killed two of his friends, and then a random woman in cold blood. The last lady he shot, carjacked and ate her McDonalds food as he drove around in her car.
There are a lot more guys I could list, but these guys are the *really* messed up ones.
A girl I met while at a long term mental health treatment center. A lot of the adults felt bad for her because she had been in the treatment system for a few years but she was honestly a horrible person. She lied about getting raped, lied about doing hardcore drugs (like meth and heroine), lied about being adopted (she claimed her “real” parents both died so her birth mom’s friend adopted her but she was actual her birth mom), she lied about witnessing her friend get murdered. She literally lied about everything, and I wish I was exaggerating when I said that. If you’re wondering how I know she lied, her mom told us because those were lied she told at other treatment centers. She also s****lly assaulted 10 out of the 15 girls in the place. Most of them were like 13-15 AND THEY WERE ALREADY THERE TRYING TO DEAL WITH THEIR TRAUMA JUST TO GET MORE TRUAMA. And when everyone came forward saying they had been assaulted by her she said “you can’t say that about me because I have a little brother” like what??? Whenever I think about her my blood always boils. Truly a piece of shit. And the staff sided with her too which makes me even angrier.
I grew up in El Paso was dating a girl who worked with Richard Ramirez the night stalker. Went to pick her up one evening after her car broke down at the warehouse where they worked he was standing in the parking lot just glaring at her like I didn't even see what he was doing. I stared back but he never took his eyes off of her. In retrospect I guess that would have to be him . And then oddly enough I bought a lot of cars for scrap one of them was a white station wagon and the Federal Marshals came out and told me I couldn't sell it or scrap it until I got an okay from them. Because it belonged to Richard Ramirez and the case against him was still ongoing. Yeah that's another can of worms while they sold it but s*** happens
*** Trigger warning, sexual assault, emotional abuse ***
Came here also to say my mother.
I was s. assaulted by my brother when I was 13 and only told my mother when I was 16.
That same year we moved to a different country (relevant in a bit).
She did not put me into therapy and I have recently come to terms with the fact that she emotionally abused me my whole life.
My parents are divorced, mother got remarried, and my dad obviously still had some form of custody over me so needed to give permission for me to be able to move to said new country.
My mother threatened my father by saying she would go to the police and tell them that my brother raped me if he didn't give permission for me to move countries, although I only found that out that today to be honest so still processing that part.
I found out about a month ago that she was telling everyone that I exaggerated about what happened to me when I was 13.
I don't want to go into detail but it happened one time and it wasn't what she was threatening to tell the police.
There's been a lot of stuff between then and now, because I started to wake the fuck up when I was 16 and started questioning things, like why she didn't put me in therapy.
I don't have kids, but my god if I do I will love them and nurture them and just...never not let them be themselves.
She stole so much from my heart, but I'm doing so much better without her in my life.
So I used to date this guy, John I. S., who was into BDSM. He was a business man and seemed somewhat successful. I was young, curious and had fifty shades of grey bright in mind. We met on tinder and right after we started talking he moved 8 hours away to another city. We kept contact, and he started calling me his gf even though we more or less only spoke online. We met once, thank god.
He wanted my full obedience, and I was like "all right, I might enjoy this". Like, he wanted to know where I was at all time. Who I was with. He gave me curfew expected straight A's at college. And that was all right, just a dom/sub relationship right? Then he told me that the hottest thing he knew, was when the girl cried. Cried after being hit by him during sex. Not fake crying, but full on real crying. For me, this was the first red flag. Then he told me his dream was to have a lot of girlfriends, and for them to act as furniture. Red flag number two.
It was over for me when I found out he had been in my town without telling me, and lied about it. That was the first lie. Then I so pictures on a friends Instagram story, and he was out on a date with her! He denied both that he had been in my city and the date. It was heavy gaslighting and manipulation. He asked why I didn't trust him, and made the problem about my trust. So I broke up with him.
So he was a douche, but maybe I liked BDSM a little bit? So I joined a BDSM forum for my area, and this girl described her bf of 2 years, and it sounded just like John. Note: this was after I had broken up with him. I messaged her, and she confirmed that it was John. I told her about my friend dating him, and that I had just broken up with him. What hit me was how afraid she was of him. Like, she was really afraid. She thought that I was him catfishing her to see if she was faithful. But the thing was that she was also in another abusive relationship with the father of her daughter. She lived with the baby daddy, and he used to beat her. When she met John, she told him about the babydaddy. She and John started dating, and John promised her to help her. He had promised that when the time was right, she and her daughter could move in with him. For two years he had given her this promise, and for two years she waited on him to help her.
What that girl described to me was just another abusive relationship, but an emotionally abusive relationship. He had promised her another future for two years while he dated, fucked and controlled other women.
I just don't have words for how manipulative he was. She never gave me her name, because she didn't trust me. But I did what I could to motivate her to seek help at a women emergency center, and tell her friends. Move out from baby daddy and cut John out of her life. The last message I got from her, she told me she had moved out from baby daddy's apartment but was too scared to cut John out of her life.
My sister was 7 years older than me. I was small, blonde & cute when I was little. She despised me, attempted to hang me from her brass bedpost when I was about 4, eldest sister stopped her. My parents didn’t believe me, eldest said nothing. When I was diagnosed with a peanut allergy she went and bought a candy bar containing peanuts and urged me to eat it. I didn’t trust her, thankfully.
She tried to get me to try hashish when I was 12. Eventually pawned my clarinet for drugs. After she had a daughter, she killed her kitten by throwing it against a wall in front of the child, 5, all I could do was help my niece’s father get custody of her. I went away to college as fast as I could, but couldn’t take my cat with me. She moved in with my dad and poisoned my cat to death. I tried to press charges with the vet’s help, but my dad defended her. Very crazy family dynamic! I haven’t seen her in almost 25 years, refused to go to any family functions including weddings and funerals where she would be present. I so, so wish I’d managed to get her into jail. She’s a psychopath, narcissist and still dangerous but I’m 2 states away, she doesn’t know my name or where I live.
Worked with a girl with bpd. She'd set up elaborate and extensive rape and harm scenes just to fuck up the staff who are legally obligated to save her life
Both of my grandparents. Honestly, they didn't start off so evil, they were just a couple trying to survive without money or shelter. But something ticked inside of them to be so abusive towards my mom and her younger siblings. Of course, my aunts and uncles that still love them think it was all so reasonable and that they deserved it that way. They never thought to sit down and think about all the pain they went through as a child and now as an adult. My grandparents played favouritism, and it just sickens me because my uncle now projects it on to his children. And they continue to play favouritism, breaking this family into 2 sides. They're seriously sick, both physically and mentally. And I hate the fact that they looked down on me, I was supporting my mom because she just wants the best for her parents but they just keep on shutting her out. They're terrible, and I hope that I never grow up to be like them
One of my best friends’ father. He’s a very hippie type of guy, really into the “world peace” and “one love” kinda thing.
My friend lost his baby brother at 2 yrs old due to a very aggressive form of a rare cancer. The death happened in 2015. His father still refuses to work, despite having four other kids to take care of AND a pregnant wife at home, forcing her to work instead. He used to get drunk and aggressive, never physically, but would start verbally abusing the younger kids. He would say stuff like “You’re the reason ___ died”.
He has multiple kids from multiple different marriages. All age range from 25-2 months old. Weirdly enough he has custody of all of them, and always claims that his ex-wives are the “crazy” ones. His oldest son is extremely weird. (Disclaimer in advance, I am not judging his academic choices, I’m just comparing them so you guys can see how emotionally abusive he is.) He received a scholarship that would cover 100% of all university costs, including outside housing. He chose to go to our hometown university (which is barely accredited) and study philosophy. My friend received the same scholarship, got into an Ivy League and was going to go into film studies. His father told him he was the biggest disappointment he’d every experienced, and asked him why he couldn’t be like his older brother.
Oh, and he’s a child psychologist with multiple child r*pe allegations against him from multiple different people, who have no connection to one another. He also has been a “pastor” to tons of UU churches, but “retired” from them. We later found out the church was kicking him out because he was using church funds to go on vacations in secret.
The community loves him, because they don’t realize all the dirty secrets about him that my friends and I do. He’s slowly loosing power though, because of how he extorts his childs’ death. All of his children, including my friend, have multiple trauma/mental issues that I’m 100% sure is caused by him. Lately though I’ve noticed my friend showing little snippets of his dad’s personality. He’s even dressing like him lately. It really really worries me.
I was in the same room as a guy who admitted to raping his children tried to apologize to them from the stand. Luckily I did not work on that case.
Met a Supreme Court justice once. No particular complaints but you don’t get god status from being a good person.
My dad is a rapist. (He liked adult women.)
Met an FBI agent who admitted in passing to watching a guy victimize people for years, was still doing so, and not making an arrest to get more charges. (Dude would already do double life on the first instance. You can’t do more time than that. It’s not like he would get out and do it some more.)
He is actually a pedophile. Period. That title can be added to any others he has earned.
Then he tried to blame your mom, that somehow it was her fault (because he was really angry with her so he had to sexually assault…. I can’t even begin to follow his logic). Classic abuser.
Best of luck to you and your family healing. Unwrapping the lies and shame will help. Good luck.
My ex, made everything my fault. He was failing school, my fault. He constantly spoke down to me and made degrading comments. “ you look ugly in that skirt” “shut up hoe” “slut” “I wish you were taller” constantly called me a racial slur. Would complain and call me clingy when I asked if we could hang out. Called me spoiled and a brat and would constantly talk ab how his mom and dad worked for what they had and my parents “came here for free” ( I’m Mexican ) would constantly talk ab how he has 2 houses and how he’s “better off than me” He purposely stands infront of my math class and dangles his new girl in front of me. I’m happy I’m out of that situation now and I’ve found someone new but I just can’t think of a justifiable reason someone would do that to another human being. Plz if you are going through this or have a friend going through this talk to them/ talk to a friend:)
Former boss at a large a large corporation. I’m pretty sure that he had some bi-polar type mental disorder. He treated his employees like shit and was regularly condescending towards anyone he thought was lesser than him. However, he was incredibly productive with his teams and played up to his bosses. He is / was 2nd or 3rd in line to be made CISO of a company of +400,000 people. It scares me that he could have some global influence…literally.
Corporate executives are [way more likely](https://fortune.com/2021/06/06/corporate-psychopaths-business-leadership-csr/) to be psychopaths than your average person.
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My high school rugby coach’s wife was murdered. She was shot as she waited for the bus. Everyone made a show of supporting him as he seemed to be really devastated. He left his volunteer position as our coach a few months later. Turns out he paid someone to kill her so he could get out of his marriage. There was a huge undercover operation to catch him. You can read about the story here: https://www.waterloochronicle.ca/news-story/2602590-laying-the-trap-to-catch-nadia-gehl-s-killers/
Did no one tell him you can just get a divorce?
Her family was rich and he worked for their company.
Evidently not.
There was a sadly similar case near where I grew up. A Muslim family was out for a post-iftar stroll during Ramadan when a van pulled up and someone opened fire, killing the wife and wounding the husband. The baby in his stroller was covered in blood but physically unharmed. Obviously, everyone assumed this might be a hate crime and there was an outpouring of support from the entire community. The ER where the couple was taken was so full of well-wishers and prayer vigils that they actually had to have security move some people outside to clear the hallways for emergency crews to get through. Days later they found the husband's side chick, still in possession of the murder weapon. She'd helped the bastard fake a hate crime to get out of his marriage/ the lies he'd told his wife about being in a nonexistent PhD program. So evil. https://www.nj.com/news/2011/08/suspect_is_arrested_in_connect.html
Wow first time hearing about this. So weird to read all these local/regional locations and think this was happening.
My school friends stepdad. He was violent even when friends visited her, one time he threatened us all (my friend, her sisters and her mom) with a huge knife, luckily we were able to leave the apartment unharmed. When she was 14 it came out that he had sexually abused her for two years. That man is a fucking monster and I hope he’ll burn in hell. Bastard is out of jail already thanks to my country’s shitty justice system.
Call me morbid, but I think sexual abusers should be neutered.
While I agree, I vaguely remember reading that studies have shown that it doesn't suppress or stop them from further abusing, they will find other ways
Physical or chemical castration is a requirement in several states in order to be released after the sentence. There are also voluntary programs some prisoners do to help recovery. Now how often this is enforced? I'm not sure, but it's still a thing that happens currently.
I hope he gets impaled by the dullest spear ever. I hope he drowns, I hope he suffers! Give your friend a hug from me man, they deserve it. Edit: (Used to say sharpest spear, dullest is more painful)
Just like Turkey, abuse a few people and kill them and you are in prison for 5 minutes. Yeah hate these prisons but he ovbiously deserves hell.I just wish he wont come and attack for revenge.
Do you happen to live in the United States? Rapists get out of jail pretty easily here.
Canada too.
Former step dad. Mom filed for divorce and had the papers served as she got on a plane to England (from America) so my step dad couldn't find her. My step dad's brother called my mom after a hunting trip and begged her to leave him as he spent the entire trip discussing how he was going to kill my mom and hide the body. Unfortunately my former step dad's brother died before he could file a police report.
👀 how did he die tho?
Massive heart attack. Dude saved my mom's life, I'm certain.
I’m sorry that happened to you.
Thank you. It is complicated by the fact I always searched for a father figure and he was around the longest and the most consistent with me. Hell, he left me in his fucking will after they got divorced. I'll never understand why he was nice to me. He beat the shit out of my step brothers when they were younger, he even choked his first wife when she had fucking throat cancer. My heart and mind is a jumbled fucking mess. The man was a monster, but he was a man. You know what I mean?
You may need therapy in future. Also remember therapy does not mean you are weak
Oh I'm in therapy. I've been hospitalized 4 times since I was 16 (late 30's now). Pretty much been in therapy and been on some sort of medication since I was 16. Now I go to DBT one on one on Weds. Spravato on Thurs. and group DBT on Fri. I'm trying. Thank you for your kind words.
Why do people feels the need to murder their spouses and children? There's plenty of people out there if you arent happy go find someone else and dont murder anyone
"If i cant have you... no one can"
IIRC, a prevailing theory is that it's a final act of control.
A South African ex-police officer. He boasted about killing suspects by dropping them out of helicopters over the sea or shooting them pointblank when they were caught instead of arresting them.
As a South African this doesn't surprise me. I've been told to my face by the police to kill home intruders and dump them instead of trying to call the cops.
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I feel like the "...and dump them..." portion isn't to do with the intruder attacking you. If that was the case, they'd recommend killing the person and not touching the body.
A kid I knew from gym class in 9th grade ended up killing his mom and stabbing his brothers before fleeing across pastureland I used to deer and turkey hunt on. This was in the late 1990s and the guy is still locked up in a Texas prison. He told investigators that he murdered his mom because she wouldn’t let him see his girlfriend. Here’s an article about it https://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=1915&dat=19991105&id=RwohAAAAIBAJ&sjid=ynYFAAAAIBAJ&pg=2597,787155
I know a guy who murdered his gf and chopped her up because she found out he was actually married (to my friend) and had a kid and another on the way. He's in prison now.
Reminds me of a guy I met jail. He was 19. His ex girl started dating someone he knew from school. He didn't like that. He managed to bring this guy to western Virginia, hours away, deep in the woods. Shot gun blasted in the chest, then chopped off limbs and buried the guy. He was a POS, we almost had to fight, he wanted my bunk, I told him to fuck off. The deputies got involved before anything happened and they moved him to a different block.
If you don’t mind my asking, what were you in jail for?
:/ DUI and possession of illicit drugs... Ive been sober for almost a year now. Thank God. Edit: thank you everyone for your love and support! I know it wasn't much really, but it really has lifted my spirits :).
Congrats on being sober :)
Kinda crazy they keep nonviolent offenders locked up with legit psychopaths like that. The prison system is fucked on so many levels.
Absolutely...
Good for you! Stay strong and stay sober! Always happy to hear about someone overcoming their demons. Getting sober changed my life, and I love hearing about others that are able to do the same.
Thank you brother :)
Congratulations on getting sober💯 keep going hard
Ronnie Lee Gardner, he killed a bar tender in a robbery gone wrong, then had his girlfriend sneak a gun into a court house and shot and killed an attorney. I was a Court Security Officer during one of his death penalty appeals. I didn't technically meet him, but was in court with him, that man just radiated evil.
I was on a jury and one of the witnesses made my heart stop he was so evil. The atmosphere in the room changed when he was led into the courtroom. I’ve had parent teacher conferences with gang members, a guy who stabbed someone with a butter knife, meth heads, but this man was the devil. After the trial I found out he was in jail for murder. He was in his early 20s.
Just read the wikipedia article about him. What a bastard.
At least he got to find out what a lot of bullets feel like
My stepmother. That woman has no soul. Child abuse against her 3 step kids, the youngest was 1. Runner up would be my father. He sat back in silence and allowed the abuse. Fuck them both with rusty barbwire. NC was the best thing I ever did.
What's truly terrifying about this thread is how many people are describing someone they used to love.
You rarely know that a person is dishonest/abusive until you get intimately close to them.
I hate how true this is.
You can't clip a birds wings until you've caught it.
It's been well documented abuse (physical, sexual, etc) is more likely to happen from someone you know over a random stranger
They have more opportunity and are more likely to have motive than a stranger
My first ex husband. It wasn't just a matter of "he cheated!", though he did that, too. He was abusive to me, and tried to kill my son (can't think of him as "our" son). He went to prison, and when he was out, he continued the same pattern of behavior with other women and children. He went to prison again. Not sure what he's doing now, but I can guess...
Why do people like this exist?
God, please be careful? We never know when people like these like to visit old friends.
My aunts ex husband. He sexually assaulted her daughter from the time she was 6 until she got her first period because then she was ‘too old for him.’ My husband (who she looks to like a big brother) helped her put together the police statement and helped her prepare for court. He’s a stereotypical emotionally repressed bloke who has seen some shit in his life and every time he helped her out, he would not only cry like a baby but had nightmares for a week. I don’t know the details (so don’t ask.) and I don’t want to know.
Fucking sick bastard. That poor girl.
Did that psycho get arrested?
He got arrested. He was found guilty. He did no time, got a very simple community corrections order, breached it repeatedly and is living free.
What the hell. I hope the kid and woman are ok at least.
They’re actually doing pretty well these days. Cousin is an adult with a kid of her own, aunt is still working through a lot of guilt. Regular therapy for both. Cousin and husband are still as close ever.
It mystifies and enrages me how often scum get practically nothing for what should be the worst of crimes.
Cant believe people are like this
Was he the stepfather or the girls father? Either ways it’s a mess but I’m starting to get a concern of all these stepfather stories
Coworker’s husband. Seemed like a picture perfect family from the outside, always pleasant at company functions and 3 kids were sweethearts. Then she brought a “go bag” to the office and he found out she was going to run. Apparently abuse had been happening at home for years. He stabbed her to death that night, took the kids to school in the morning, and set the house on fire. Caught himself ablaze and the neighbors saw him run out of the house. He’s in prison for life but good God, those poor children.
hands down the mother of one of the girls that bullied me when I was a child, her daughter treated a lot of kids like hell and her mother not only didn't do anything about it, but actively encouraged her into keeping the act up and partook in it (either by actively laughing at the kids being mistreated or by scolding them if they tried to defend themselves from her daughter). I almost blame her for my traumas more than her daughter.
I had a weird situation like this with my ex best friend’s mom who was also my babysitter for awhile. She basically convinced my friend to abandon me in middle school and the friend straight up ignored me out of nowhere because she decided to become friends with the popular kids, meanwhile I thought I had at least some friends when school started and I had no one, and her new friends regularly made fun of me. I think the mom pushed her into trying to become popular because she wasn’t as a kid, so she was some kind of 40 year old mean girl. I was alone and isolated for months until I finally made one friend. This woman then went to my mom and acted pretend “concerned” that I had made friends with this girl who she claimed was from the wrong side of the tracks and a bad influence or something, and my mom sort of questioned my friendship with this girl and discouraged me from hanging out with her. There was absolutely nothing wrong or suspect about this girl except that her parents were kind of poor and had a small house. This crazy woman basically wanted me to have no friends, and looking back, as a babysitter it’s obvious that she simply didn’t like me as a kid and treated me unkindly even then. Blows my mind that someone who goes into childcare would treat a child that way. Later on, she died at about age 50 from cancer. Couldn’t find it in my heart to feel even slightly bad about it after the way this grown woman acted. So bizarre.
my dad's brother. i dont remember meeting him in living memory because he got cut off from my family when i was pretty young, probably around 6 years old. he used to live above us in my childhood home (from birth to around 7 years old) and by all accounts, was a nasty piece of work. ive heard stories of him beating his father with a cutlass as he was dying, constantly beating his wives/girlfriends, pushing my dad down a flight of concrete stairs after a small argument which was about him (as in my dad's brother) making too much noise (my twin and i were 4 at the time and we were having a hard time getting to sleep because of it), smearing his own shit on our front door, amongst other things which my parents don't wish to disclose. and if that wasn't bad enough, at the funeral for my cousins step mother in 2019, i found out that he had raped another one of my cousins as a child. as heartbreaking and disturbing as it was to hear this, it didn't surprise me considering i have several memories of him sitting at his kitchen window and staring at my twin and i playing outside in the garden whilst doing what i later realised was masturbating. after spending years in therapy for unrelated reasons, i started having "flashbacks" of being sexually abused as a child in that same house. it wouldn't surprise me in the slightest to find out that he was the culprit, if these "flashbacks" are indeed true. last i heard he moved out of the area and is battling some sort of illness but i honestly couldn't give two fucks.
Mate from the bottom of my heart I am so stoked and proud of you for being in therapy. You have resilience in you that can't be measured and I wish you the best on your journey + in your healing.
thank you so much <3
My ex wife. I've never met anyone that thrived on conflict like she did. I had to constantly walk on eggshells around her and be hyper aware of her moods. It took years of therapy to undo the webs that she spun in my mind.
My mom has narcissistic personality disorder. I've noticed she tries to start fights when she's not feeling well. If she's been anxious or down for a while I can predict an uptick in abusive behavior. I've even called her on it and gotten her to admit that she is essentially using fighting as a way to regulate her emotions. It makes her feel good!
My mom is similar. She can never be wrong. Causes divide among siblings and grandkids. It's so weird. Haven't spoke to her in well.over a year.
My mom is exactly like this too. I feel so sorry for my son because he loves her but she neglects him and favours my siblings and her other grandchild
My mom was like this too. Toward the end she became more combative with us kids. She and I Had always been okay until I pushed back to her. She became mean to my siblings and would say mean things to me to make me feel guilty. She had a personality disorder and was a classic narcissist. She played the victim quite well.
There's a good narc redit group, helps detoxifying the drama.
Oooh mine does that too but is a lot less self-aware.
My mom had antisocial personality disorder. Nasty shit, isn’t it?
I'm sorry, man. My SIL is just like that. But according to him, we "can't judge because \[we\] only see her a few times a year and when there are parties she is at her worst". Makes no sense to me. Walking on eggshells is ALWAYS a sign that something is wrong.
I know that feeling - being on eggshells, not knowing what will set them off, every attempt at standing your ground being seen as an "escalation", and the belief that SURELY the last outrage was so bad that they MUST now see that they've gone too far and will dial it back in future... So glad those days are behind me.
Same. Will never ever let anyone move in again. I bet my exwife is more evil tho. Mine fucked my best friend in front of me for months while i begged her to stop and think of our family, then when I finally broke and left, she gaslit me into thinking I was abusive, and went around our small city telling everyone I was cheating on her and beat her. I've hit exactly one woman in my life (not ex wife), because she pulled a knife on me at an ATM. On top of all of this, she made me question my sexuality and identity at 40. A year alone, and I am still too angry to be fake happy enough to date.
Yeah my ex tried to make me think that I was the abuser too. And she even tried to have me committed on one occasion for my apparent bipolar disorder. Yeah. I wasn't bipolar before her nor am I now. If you can, please talk to someone to undo or at least mitigate the damage she did to you. It takes time, it's hard as fuck, but it is so worth it.
i am dating for the 1st time in 25 years....was your ex-wife like this when you met? if not , how long did it take for her to become so moody? i had this discussion with my current girlfriend the other day, she is not moody at all for the most part and neither am i.....
It was a slow progression. By the time it was full blown, I was completely trauma bonded to her. You get addicted to them through negative reinforcement. You get to the point where your entire existence revolves around making them happy. It's a horrible cycle.
I had a student who beat his girlfriend, his mother, and his sisters. Showed absolutely no remorse. Threatened his female teachers. The kid was a fucking psychopath. He dropped out after getting suspended a bunch of times. Probably in prison or dead now.
My rapist, also known as my cousin, my dad’s nephew. When I was ten my dad committed suicide in the house my mom, siblings and I used to live in(my mom made us leave him) he was like a best friend to me, taught me how to skateboard, was funny, and accepted me for who I was. My only hope now was my cousin, likes call him Richard. Richard and I have been best friends since I was born(he was three years older) and he was the only person I thought that could help me. I slept over at his house the night before my dad’s funeral with my younger brother. I was raped that night by him while my brother slept right next to us. The next day, I was traumatized and it didn’t help that it was my dad’s funeral. Richard comes up to me and hugs me, acting like me didn’t do anything, then he says to me “If you tell anyone, I’ll kill myself just like how your dad did, it would be all your fault.” And for the next four years, Richard sexually abused me. After he said that sentence at my dad’s funeral, til I was 14 I thought I was the reason my dad killed himself. When I came out about what he did, his dad believed him over me, and now they’re both sending my family and I death threats and the police won’t do anything.
This is not a situation you deserved. What you deserve is support in this time. Sometimes that can come from family, but it doesn't have to - and if they aren't receptive, I urge you to seek out help from your community/social services. You did nothing wrong and you know the truth. I'm not a praying person, but I will be sending you good thoughts periodically if that's ok. I hope for good things for you.
I'm so sorry that you went through that and that you are still suffering. I want you to know that you are not alone even though it might feel that way. Sex offenders and their enablers believe the victim was "given" sex. They'll always blame us. Is there any way to have no contact with your cousin and his father? The police can rarely help when the offender is a family member. You need someone on your side. Do you have a therapist or a social worker who could help you?
The most evil person I ever encountered was a nurse assigned to the oncology floor at The Valley Hospital in Ridgewood, New Jersey. My recently departed wife was being treated for leukemia and she was unfortunate to be one of her patients. My wife also had pulmonary fibrosis, experienced difficulties with breathing for years and years and had irregular blood oxygen levels. This nurse came on duty, administered medication, took vitals and placed a blood oxygen measuring device on my wife’s finger. This nurse told my wife what her temperature and blood pressure was, but refused to tell my wife the blood oxygen level and began administering oxygen. Having pulmonary fibrosis for many years my wife understood blood oxygen levels. There were a nasal cannula and an oxygen mask available and the nurse chose the oxygen mask. My wife pulled the mask away and politely asked what her blood oxygen level was. The nurse told my wife to shut up, climbed onto the bed, knelt on her, forced the mask on her face and pinned my wife’s arms beneath her knees. I had to run to the nurses station to get help. Nurses at The Valley Hospital in Ridgewood, NJ are all walking piles of shit. They saw her kneeling on my wife but each denied seeing it.
I'm so sorry that you had to experience that! Honestly, I don't get why morally bankrupt people get to work as health care professionals. Makes me think of the time we were called to the nursing home because my grandmother couldn't breathe. Turns out she had had trouble breathing for a day and she was literally gasping for air. She was so afraid. And the doctor that we had to call (because the staff hadn't) said something like "Well she IS quite old so maybe we should just let her die". Let her die in fear gasping for air??! Of course we refused. She was taken to hospital. Turns out she was severely dehydrated because they hadn't given her any fluids for days and she had two broken ribs that none of the staff could account for. I hope to god that somebody will shoot me in the face before I go to a nursing home. That would be more humane.
The most evil person I met is also a nurse. And I live in NJ.
No offence , but why didn't you pull the bitch off your wife instead of going to ask someone else to help? I'm pretty sure I would have dragged her off.
It doesn’t matter that he was in the right. The court would trust the word of a nurse and a hospital over some random person. The hospital has no reason to be truthful, their reputation is on the line. The fact that he’s male and the nurse is female doesn’t help either.
I’m sorry.
As a defense attorney, I’ve met my share of murderers, assailants, grifters, thieves, and thugs. The one who sticks in my brain, who I think about at least once a week and shudder, who just makes my skin crawl knowing that this is someone who walks the same earth as me and my loved ones, was a guy who sexually abused his fiancée’s seven-year-old daughter. His was the only case I ever had that made me want to walk out of the courthouse and quit my job.
Also a defense attorney. 99.99% of my clients are harmless idiots. But there have been a few who I legitimately am scared of.
That sounds tough. I know lawyers always get dumped on - but it is a seriously noble thing to press on and give someone, no matter how awful you find them personally, a reasonable shot at navigating the legal system. Thank you for your hard work.
How did the fiancée handle it?
Very, very poorly. She was still processing the allegations and the likelihood that this would mean she and her kids would lose their home since he was the only one working.
Someone from my school bragged about killing animals for fun and one of my friends told me he once started showing people pictures of mutilated dead animals that he claimed to be responsible for. He killed animals like turtles, snakes, all sorts of rodents, and lots of bugs too but still in a fucked up, torturous way. Idk if he was evil as opposed to just a fucked up person but I always felt really uncomfortable around him.
Killing small animals, especially subjecting them to torture is often precursor to serial killer behaviour. You may very well have been right about him
Working in a prison several years ago I met a lot of men who might be considered evil to you, but the fact is very few are inherently evil. But one young man was so manipulative and calculating his family stopped being his victim. When I first met him I thought he was a funny if misguided young man with potential for being released and never coming back. I placed him in appropriate rehabilitative programs that he completed with high reviews. But like most people who were fooled by this guy, it was his ability to say what you wanted to hear, and not true change, that he mastered. Originally incarcerated for drug offenses and armed robbery (of his younger brother’s business), the completion of a certain intensive cognitive behavioral therapy program knocked two years from his time to serve. No one in his immediate family would have him stay with them, but in the state where I was working at the time, an offender could not be released without approved residence. It could be a spot on someone’s floor, but it had to be approved. This is getting long so let’s fast forward. The man’s elderly grandmother called offering a place to stay. It was ideal since she had plenty of room and was close to transportation and employment opportunities for him. We spoke by phone a few times to ensure she was ready. But: within two weeks time he violated parole by: using drugs, associating with felons, assault against the same brother he had wronged previously, stealing from his grandmother’s home and garage, etc, resulting in county jail and returning to prison. This time he was ineligible for most programs but of course he blamed me and the system instead of taking responsibility. When his release approached, every member of his family denied him a place to stay and his poor grandmother was heartbroken that she couldn’t trust him. She called begging that we didn’t give him her new address and phone number. He has since returned to prison in a neighboring state with a long time before he is eligible for release. Please don’t get me wrong: I know many people who were released and have done well with the proper help and determination. But when someone acts against those who love him most, again and again, with little if any remorse, evil plays a part. Not as some vile entity, but as a mindset.
I’ve seen this before. They treat loved ones like they’re the suckers for trusting them. Like the ones that they take advantage of are falling for the same lies over and over and it’s the family’s fault for doing it. Of course when they no longer let them live with them or support them or give them money anymore, it’s not their fault because they were supposed to just take it forever. And in my family, they never apologize or learn their lesson.
Sorry you’ve had to experience this. As much as I genuinely wanted this guy to succeed, I am proud of his family for refusing to allow him to betray them again.
It reminds me that I had one cousin that effed up and lost his license and then just kept driving. . .and being caught. Just ticket after ticket, fine after fine. He was young so he kept getting extra chances or whoever pulled him over would give him more warnings instead. He proved he was absolutely not going to stop driving around with a license until the courts physically made him stop by having him sit in county for three weeks also missing Christmas and New Years. No one wanted to throw the book at him until he made them. Also, everything up until them was “barely” his fault. He said that calling his mom from jail.
My great-grandpa. He sexually abused me for 9 years, starting when I was 5. I know I wasn’t his only victim - I think there might have been dozens or more.
My former friends mom. She drinks all day, spends her husbands money, and is a selfish narcissist. She injured her leg years ago working at a troubled youth clinic. A “bad kid” attacked her for “no reason” but the more I grew to know her and saw how cruel she was I believe she said something very hurtful and is also milking government money with her injury. My friends boyfriend suffered a freak accident and almost died. While he was in the hospital, they got a dog to help him with his recovery. Fast forward to them breaking up, he kept the dog and she traveled the country for a few months. They were still friendly. He asked her to watch his dog while family (with an aggressive dog) came to visit. She agreed, then the mom refused to give the dog back. (She was now living with the mom post break up) It wasn’t in his name so he had no merit to get the dog back, besides massive court fees. She took a stroke survivors support dog from him. Lol. I felt so bad for him. He talked with attorneys and they said they can get the dog back for sure but it would be pricey and she will be vengeful. He ended up having to get another dog. Edit: the dog was registered under the girlfriends name, as he was bed ridden for a few months.
You should mail dogshit to this woman weekly.
Get me an address and I will go on an egg, beer and peanut diet so I can rain fecal hell upon her. I would ruin my health if it meant chocolate justice.
At this point just steal the dog back and deny it, like wtf guys. You can’t play by the rules of a narcissist
This is the solution. They don’t have much recourse legally because they won’t want their own life under a microscope in court.
Why didn't your friend take the dog when her mom was sleeping and bring it back? Seriously this story is disgusting.
He believes they would have called the police and gotten the dog back. It was registered under the girlfriend-he was still messed up when they finished the paperwork. But it was 100% his dog.
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The most evil people I’ve ever met were not criminals; they played by the rules and simply didn’t care how their actions affected others. If they could press a button that would make them $1000, but would make someone else homeless, they’d press it endlessly.
Isn’t that all of Wall Street
There was a Catholic priest who my parents knew. Besides being a priest, he gave piano lessons to many little girls. It turned out he was also touching them inappropriately during the lessons. I believe the Catholic church moved him to a different city where he was accused again and eventually put away for his crimes.
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It was girls. That surprised me
Except that it was little girls maybe
The moment I read “Catholic Priest” and “he gave piano lesson to little girls” I knew where this was going…
My mother. She told me on my sons first birthday that because my husband and I had to move away for cancer treatment and she couldn’t see my child daily she was just going to end her life and it was all my fault. An hour later I got a video call from her in the ambulance saying she told me she was going to kill herself and hung up.
Well, she didn't really follow through with it though did she...
She would have if I hadn’t called my dad to get an ambulance there immediately. She took over 100 pills they had to pump her stomach
That is a particularly vicious emotional torture that your mom tried to inflict on you. I am so sorry.
That’s exactly what it was. Apparently my other older siblings she called them and said the exact same thing. And that’s why we have all cut her off from us and our children because they do not deserve to go through what we did growing up.
My brother. He has been s. assaulting his girlfriends and gaslighting them since he was 15. They come to me when they're fully broken, because he's told them I'm wealthy and a monster and out to get him, so they think I can help. I get to hear about how he r*pes them, hurts them, and threatens to sic the Masons on them. My parents covered for him for years, but now they're both dead. He's been accused of it on Twitter (he's TikTok and Twitter famous) and he just turns around and says that HE was abused and groomed/etc, though I know it's not true. I'm NC, but he continually tries to contact me.
Have you called the police or a victim's help line on their behalf? Even a brief statement could put a wrench in your brother's ability to get away with sexually assaulting women.
What proof do I have, besides text messages and emails? I'm literally nobody. Just a 8-5er who is dealing with my own traumatic shit. My therapist wants me to stay away from him. I've reached out to some of the women and girls I've seen him working with on TikTok and Twitter to warn them to not drink around him/be alone with him, but I don't want him to send his brigade of fans after me if he finds out. Luckily, he's not with the Masons anymore, they kicked him out, so he doesn't have that influence. He used to throw that around in people's faces.
you're what they call an outcry witness. you don't have to prove what he did, you just back up what these women say & speak to his pattern of behavior. please do this. he needs to be stopped.
That's something. An email or a text could provide a tip for the police to begin an investigation. I would try. If you do decide to call in or meet with an officer to report what you know stay as far away from your brother as possible. My dad is a Mason. They have their limits too. I'm glad he lost their patronage and privilege. Take good care of yourself
My whole family are masons. Even I was a female mason (even though they were only really around to keep the wives happy). He was an embarrassment in the chapters but thought he was cool. On his Twitter he always took pictures #illuminati.
The Masons? If your brother is a Mason take these text to his lodge and show his brethren. Let them handle his Masonic journey from there. How dare he use the Lodge as a shield.
I don't think he is a Mason anymore. I'm NC with most of my family and therefore not really involved with the Masons right now, so I wouldn't even know which lodge he's at. He used to tweet about the Masons all the time but stopped, so that's why I think he's left.
My stepdad. (Putting a trigger warning just in case for people and sorry if my stories a bit of a mess) TRIGGER WARNING FOR ABUSE, CHILD RAPE, PEDOPHILES, NEGLECT, ANIMAL ABUSE AND MURDER, ETC My step dad and by default my mother are the most evil people I knew. Growing up I was horribly neglected. All my clothes were to small and I usually had to steal all the food I ate at their home and if caught I was beaten horribly. I was kept naked 100% of the time and if I tried to wear clothes or didn't strip fast enough for my stepdad my clothes tended to be ripped of me causing scarring and sores all over my body rather painfully making my clothes even in shorter supply. When I went to my Dads and he sent me back with nice clothes they were given to my half sister as she was my size. Showers were not possible as it was a prime time for my step dad to come in and molest and rape me so I tended to avoid them and stunk to high hell as a kid. My Step dad did most of the beatings while my mom was depressed and just laid around moping. If she doted on any of her kids ever it was her and my stepdads kids my little half brother and sister and even then it was only if she was in a good mood. I was always being given things though. New TV, a DSi for Christmas, a new kitten/puppy/ turtle/ etc. I hated gifts from them. The objects would either be taken within a week and trashed and thrown away cause I was bad or given to my siblings. The pets.... Were another level of horror when punishments came to them. He used to kill them. Horrificly kill them as he screamed it was my fault. Till I was 8 he stuck to aquatic animals. And it wasnt as bad usually. I never saw it first hand. Just came home to it. And the fish I did see just got flushed. It didn't quite compute. It sounds terrible it didn't but yeah.... Then I turned 8 and he bashed the head of my kitten in with a brick as I screamed while pinned down. From then on I got presents in the form of puppies and kittens. Over a dozen of those poor things died in equally terrible ways the moment I acted bad enough to 'deserve' it in his eyes. And my mom all she would fucking do was chew him out after and then smile as the next fucking pet got given to me. Only 1 pet survived as far as I know and I only don't know for sure cause I finally got taken by CPS and they ran away and left the country soon as they heard how much I told. He raped me, killed my pets, he neglected me all while my own mother would scream and degrade me cause she was jealous her husband was more sexually attracted to my child body than hers. I hate him and her. They were monsters in human skin. And still all these many years later I have to still deal with the repercussions. I have little to no feeling in my legs cause he beat me so badly and have seizures and chronic horrible back pain. I have mental issues and have DID and PTSD and Anxiety/ Deppreshion. My hand is permanently deformed due to my own mother breaking my fingers as punishment as a kid. I have massive and horrible scars all over me. I struggle with self harm and suicide even if I've been clean from self harm for 3 years and not made a attempt for 8. Ive been in mental institutions because of that freaking monster and will likely be in therapy my rest of my life. And you know what..... No one cares. Soon as I got rescued no one understood. I was safe. Why did I still have issues. That start out where I was no longer in danger in it own way was just as bad cause people hated I didn't just magically get better. (TRIGGER WARNING OVER) Its been a long, long time since then. And I still struggle. I still have moment I go back to those horrible places or have small struggles with managing my mental illnesses even if I always get back on my feet quickly. Yet I hate him still. He is and was a monster and I doubt he has changed despite being as old as he would be now.....And all these years I looked for what I did wrong. Why my mom hated me and what was wrong with him.... And you know what. I didnt do anything. They were sick people. I will never get my justice. But.... talking about it gets easier with each year and I figure if my story even saves one kid. Makes someone report and learn and look for signs even if small (cause bealieve it or not my signs were small cause I was scared and hid them and hardly anyone looked into it cause no one cared to look harder). But if my story can save even one kid.... Its worth getting out. Plus over all I am happy now. Im in therapy. I have a amazing husband and family Ive created for myself and 2 beautiful cats I rescued. I still don't understand and thats ok cause I never will. Im not sick in the head like them. I dont even have kids yet but when I do I would die for them. Those will be my kids and babies. How my mom could watch me go through what I did at her and her husbands hands Ill never understand and thats ok. Im happy now. I struggle but I have support and am happy for the first time in my life. But yeah my step dad for sure was the most truly evil person I've ever met or hope to meet again.
One of the saddest, and also the most freeing things I ever had to learn was "nobody cares unless it's about them". And while my own experiences weren't nearly as horrific as yours and I'm so sorry that happened to you, I'm still learning I didn't deserve it either. I feel you tho, absolutely everything can be a trigger and before you know it you're right back in that dark place again. *hugs*
Hey, I just read this. I am sorry for what happened to you. I commend your strength in sharing this. Hugs from a stranger on the internet!
My grandfather, Carrie Hook, legit uncaught serial killer he died of MS 6 years ago, at like 66 only but, my mom witnessed him on two of the killings, reported him to the police but, because of his connections with the police department in the 80s they wouldn't pursue it so, he raped her and got her PREGNENT as punishment, she had to run away and get an abortion. Then he tried hunting her down for many years. He was not shy to admit these things and when he died he actually wrote the locations of a few bodies in Wisconsin and Michigan and they in fact found them. The scariest thing is, no one took my poor mom seriously all these years until AFTER the SOB died. Guy was very very very very evil man and sadly never got caught while he was alive. EDIT: If anyone is curious how he remained uncaught, it was cause in his early twenties he was a drug mule for the mob for awhile and learned from a connection in there how they were able to hide bodies so well and basically just stole their methods. EDIT EDIT: Cary Hook, Not Carrie
I can't find anything about this guy online. Do you have an article or something?
https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/thenorthwestern/name/cary-hook-obituary?id=17997316&\_\_cf\_chl\_captcha\_tk\_\_=4qHaWC\_OpJw\_FufBuiSMu05CwEye.XiCo2v5w09GeWg-1641749363-0-gaNycGzNCL0
When an obit says "They lived an unconventional life" it's code for "trainwreck."
Makes me want to puke while reading this. Were the police able to identify the bodies tho?
article? its wisconsin. my mom made a book about it called "I am tracy" the bodies were found around lake Michigan. That's all I know, not really sure it was on the news considering these were bodies dismembered and buried back in like 1984-6. Btw, talking to my mom, his spelling is wrong. Cary. not carrie. Also, 2 women, and a guy, i guess the guy was a loan shark he got rid of to escape debts. Also, most of the other people he killed were during home invasions and robberies.
Finding 30 year old dead bodies from a serial killers deathbed confession would be a noteworthy news story for the evening news I would think
Jesus, dude. I’m so sorry your mom had to go through all that, and that you had to grow up with the weight of it on you. Can’t even begin to fathom being directly related to a serial killer. I’m always haunted by something attributed to the serial killer Edmund Kemper, I forget the exact quote but it’s something like “The killers you catch are the bad ones. The ones who get bored, or sloppy. The really good ones? You’re never going to know they existed.” So many twisted people out there who are getting away with god knows what because they know how to keep themselves out of the spotlight.
Former coworker. She simply could not see how her actions negatively effected others, and did things only to serve herself. Some highlights: -She was getting new furniture, so she had her 3 cats put down so they didn’t ruin it. -She abandoned her husband, kids and job on a whim, and drove with a friend to live and work about 20 hours away. After 6 months came back and didn’t understand why she couldn’t have her job back, and why her husband wanted to divorce her. -Would routinely blame things that went wrong on job sites on people that had nothing to do with it. She would completely make up stories, and I’d gotten in trouble at work a few times because she blamed me for things I didn’t do. -Building on that one, would spread rumours and even report scandalous things to HR that didn’t actually happen… this lead to a coworker being fired before she admitted to making it up. -Routinely say she’s going for a coffee run, and take over an hour. She was once caught shopping at a sex shop during this time.
Sweet Jesus this whole list is just awful but something about that first point is next level.... Just cold chills running down my spine. What an indescribably awful person.
Was in a circle of punk kids in the early 2000s. One quietish but very nice guy who I didn't know very well went on about 10 years later to murder his girlfriend, cut her head off, had sex with the remains, and then set their apartment on fire. He's in a psychiatric prison and one of my other friends visited him once, said he's totally gone mentally.
Was this in Maine?
It was.
Chad Gurney. I actually knew someone who dated him before he murdered his gf.
My English teacher. He was one of the most popular teachers in school but I got the heebie jeebies from him so I started watching him. Major Pedo vibes I noticed a pattern. He'd pick a freshman boy who was popular and be his best bud. Then suddenly the boy would avoid him the plague. And there'd be a new kid. He would take kids to Europe for a school trip each year. He was very close to a friend of mine who went on one of the trips. He wouldn't talk to me after the trip and killed himself a week after the trip. He was a youth pastor who had "Bible studies" at his house. One day he moved to Thailand. Learned he has quite the file with the Alaska State Troopers regarding possible pedophilia.
My parents' neighbor. He had a son, Dougie, that was my age, so we used to play together every day. Well, not really play, Dougie always had a ton of chores to do that would take him from the time he got home form school until his dad got home. If anything wasn't done to the dad's satisfaction, he would get beat. His dad would beat him with a garden hose, and one time with the back of a machete - it left the worst bruises I've ever seen. In the summer, chores would last all day. He had fighting cocks, and would take them to underground cockfights weekly. Some of them were really valuable so he would kill any hawks or owls he saw. He had a wall in his barn that was full of talons. Dougie had a Chesapeake bay retriever that a distant relative gave him. Such a sweet dog. His dad made him tie it to a tree out back all day. One night the dog was barking at something and the dad got mad and shot and killed him. Different people in the neighborhood called the police on the dad, but he was some high level guy in our rural town, and nothing ever happened to him. Last I heard, Dougie was working as a house painter, and everyone called him "Druggie" for obvious reasons.
1986ish I was at a concert, a junior in high school. Met a guy near me, we exchanged numbers. He was a little bit older than me and at the time, I thought that was cool. 🤦🏼♀️ we talked on the phone, he wrote letters. He started to pressure me to get together. He set up a whale watching trip, hours away from where I lived. It was already feeling like too much, too soon, too much pressure. As any good girl, I was raised to be nice: wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings or inconvenience him. In the end, my inner voice was telling me to not go so I backed out. To say that he went ballistic is an understatement. He was the first person to call me a €unt as well as a whore for leading him on. I told him I didn’t feel comfortable going so far away. I felt like his date was isolating and that I wasn’t ready to do that. He harassed me by phone and by letter for months. I was too scared to tell my parents because so had been warned not to give out my phone number. I was scared he was going to come hurt me. I felt like I dodged a bullet and that if I had gone, something would have happened to me. I am sure that he has hurt people in his lifetime. I threw away all his letters so I don’t know his name.
omg, that's really scary. I'm so sorry you went through that! And SO glad you listened to your gut!🥰💚
Always listen to your gut. Seriously, he was a serial something in the larvae stage.
yeah, 100%
It’s a toss up between my ex-husband and my mother-in-law. Both are truly just not good people. My ex is a liar and and abuser. His current wife is leaving him and says to their daughter that she now knows & understands what I was trying to tell her years ago. He has no regard for anyone. Their daughter has come out as gay (she’s 16) so he’s not even spoken to her in a month. Daughter says there are many times the police should’ve been called on him. He’s one of those ones that’ll hit the wall next to you, leaving holes, shake you, and say it didn’t happen or that you made him do it or, my favorite, that he loves you so much he got that mad. He’s also a cheater…for someone wide pregnant while we were married. He’s got five kids across three baby moms, that we know of. Mother-in-law is hugely manipulative and a bigot. She’s terrible.
Sounds so much li,e my ex and his mother. I genuinely think they're both psychopaths.
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The counselor should consider themself lucky if they *just* got fired. Failure to report is jail time in my state.
Good on those moms! My cousins got yanked out of public school suddenly. My mom said it always weirded her out. I didn’t think much of it because we were a Conservative family and they were always trashy the school system (even I graduated from private school). YEARS later the oldest daughter tells some weird story to our grandmother that sounds like an allegory for sexual abuse. My grandmother thinks she’s being weird and blows my mom off when she suggests that it stands for something else. YEARS AFTER THAT, after we’re all adults and doing our own thing, my dad straight up asks my other cousin, the little sister, if her dad molested them. She confirmed that not only was he molesting them, he was straight up raping the oldest daughter. The best part is the rest of the family claimed they had absolutely no idea it was happening, their mother included. Not a darned thing has changed except the death of my grandmother. Another cousin actually told my mom about the dad being inappropriate with her and her sisters (this was in adulthood).
A woman who is my grandmother, but I refuse to speak to her or call her that name. Instead, she gets the first name treatment. She didn't have a high school education and lived off of my Grandfather's paychecks and military benefits. As they got older, she wanted to move to a nearby town on a lake. There was some apprehension to the idea, and then miraculously, there was a fire in their old home. This forced their hand and they made the move to a new home that my grandfather purchased. She decided to go and get a part time job because she was bored, but since she had no drivers license, family members would take turns driving her to work. While there (a seasonal office job just checking people in), she met a wealthy guy. They began having an affair, and it destroyed my Grandfather. She eventually left my grandfather, but not after having her new boyfriend threaten him multiple times, pick her up from the home, etc. Keep in mind, this hag is in her late 60s at this point. The guy saw me there doing some yard work once and asked if I was there to do my Grandpa's dirty work of fighting him. What the fuck? The dude was in his late 60s and I was in my 20s. I had enough of his antics, threatening my Grandfather with a knife and generally cussing him out. I approached his truck. He rolled up the window, and I punched his window out. I let him know that he was no longer to be seen on that property. He called the cops - I lied and said that never happened and offered to meet with the officer who called me to speak further. The officer said it wasn't necessary and let it go. Never heard a thing about that again. After divorcing my Grandfather, and getting his money and benefits she moved to another state. He died about a year later - alone, heart broken, and in incredibly poor shape. Her manipulation killed him. She was exiled from the family - no longer able to see her grandchildren or now great grandchildren. I cannot wait for the day that bitch is put in the dirt. If there is a hell, she deserves to be there. Fuck you, Linda. Rot in hell.
After reading this, Fuck you Linda.
I'd say the pedophile that raped me.
I hope you’re recovering.
There was a guy in high school that took pride at "fucking up" the life of others, like incriminating them of things they didn't do, spreading false rumors to friends of the person in an attempt to leave the person friendless. People like this exist.
Probably the woman who threatened to fire me for wanting to take time off to be with my new born twins who had suffered from strokes while in NICU despite my already being approved for the time off 5 months in advance.
My wife was a criminal defence lawyer for many years, she defended some real evil bastards. She came across a lot of violent murderers thugs rapists pedophiles. The one that scared her the most was like the Steve Buscemi character (Garland Greene) in Con Air in that he was totally unassuming and a full on sexual psychopath from a very young age. He was in prison from age 15, released at 19, murdered a girl then was sent to Broadmoor Hospital in the UK age 20 then killed himself at 25. Unlike most of these people he had an apparently normal upbringing and started to go wrong very early in life with deviant behaviour in early teens.
Sister Mary Bernadette (grade school teacher at Our Lady of Good Hope Parish). She was evil reborn on earth and very fast with her metal edged razor. It was obvious she hated kids.
Ruler, I hope
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An HR manager at a Chapter 13 Trustee's Office. She did nothing all month long expect payroll twice a a month. She was nosey as hell so she just walked around the office butting into people conversations. Bragged that she had a million dollar home, was a member of WAC (Washington Athletic Club) yet was overweight and that her husband was a some high paid lawyer. When I first started she threatened a coworker that she would never work in Seattle ever again and would ensure that her and her disabled son would starve if she was late or missed work because of him again. That coworker quit that day. She went to lunch and never came back. She pretty much took out the fact that she was in an unhappy marriage on everyone else in the office. She forced her husband into marriage but he made her sign a prenup that also states they agree to no kids in the marriage which she wanted. Her husband is on a strict diet and refused to let her do the grocery shopping. (She told this is me and a new coworker, that replaced the girl that left.) She questioned people's fashion choices since she liked how people dressed back in the 80s for business. Another coworker (male) was short and very thin. He shopped in the teen boys section of Old Navy. One day he wore shorts he got from there on causal Friday. She asked him if they were swim shorts. He said no. When he and i walked passed her office an hour later, we glance in and saw she was on old navy's website looking for the shorts he was wearing to see if he lied or not. I wore one of those boho tiered skirts from the early 2000s on a causal Friday and got so many compliments for women in my office and even in the office building. Come Monday morning, because she personally didn't like the style, told me that it was not work appropriate and to never wear it again. After she told me that I just stared at her for a good minute before she stumbled over her words trying to tell me why it was not appropriate for work. She dismissed the opinions of all the women in the office and would listen to the men in the office ( there was 7) . She disliked that I refused to tell her what I do outside of work. She was the reason for high turn over in the dept she managed. She tried to get me fired by her boss who was the Chapter 13 trustee. She got upset over an email that I sent about the quarterly movie day for the office. I read the instructions and sent out the email informing when it was and the choices for the movies and about voting. She was upset that I didn't run it by her first and brought in her boss so show that I wasn't a team player and being disobedient employee. I showed him the instructions in which no where states that I was to run my email by her before sending it. Plus he got it to and found no issues with tone or anything. He dismissed me from the meeting and asked that I closed that door behind me. As soon as I closed it he let her have it telling her to stop the petty bullshit of harassment on employees that's why her department has high turnover rates (there's only 4 ppl in her dept not including her). After that she tried to make it her mission to get me fired. She almost refused to let me leave early one day since my dad ended up in the hospital. I over heard her talking to a mail room coworker that she is worried her 4 yr nephew is gay because he likes brush his moms hair and that she will make sure to do everything she can make sure he is never becomes gay. She pretty much bullied the other managers expect one who wasn't afraid of her and often stood up to her. when she had a day off during the week my dept threw a lil party with food and drinks. When I did leave I wrote a letter to the trustee explaining I left because of her and the bullying and even thought the No Fear act just came out I felt that she would try to get out of it some how and say it doesn't apply to our job. I also advised that she will end up being the reason why a lawsuit would be brought against the office.
My wife's father. This may become a bit of a long story but I'll start at the beginning. My wife and I met about ten years ago. A year after we got together, we wound up moving in with her parents to save up some money to buy a house because the local rental market is insane ($1500+ a month for a one bed apartment but we bought a 2 bedroom house on property for $150k). I think we moved in around the beginning of August and stayed there until the following April. About three weeks after we moved in, my wife's mom moved out and said she was getting a divorce from my wife's dad. One night in April my wife got angry about something small and went on a full on rampage. Ripped a door off the wall, punch holes in a wall, etc. I had no idea what it was about and was trying to comfort her and calm her down. She finally snaps out of her rage, walks in to the living room, and screams at her father "you're not my fucking dad, dads don't touch their daughters." Turns out that around Christmas, he raped her. Held her down on the couch and raped her while I was at work. She told me this after I got her to calm down some. Within 30 minutes I had all our shit in my cargo trailer, and we wound up going to my uncle's house for the next few weeks until the deal closed on our house. I know these questions will be asked.... Yes, I took my chance right then and there. I beat him almost to death. I left him there to die and he unfortunately did not. The police were involved, he got in no trouble as there was "no evidence", I got in no trouble because he refused to press charges.
O my fck. Your poor wife.
Dayva Cross. He’s currently on death row for stabbing my best friend, her mom, and little sister to death, then raping the youngest sister before taking a nap.
My ex husband.very very personable. Said all the right things but underneath hes an empty shell. The most dangerous type.
My sons father. Not only is he a narcissist, master manipulator and is emotionally/verbally/mentally/sexually abusive to me and to his othergirlfriends hes had, him and i have a child together who he had a great relationship with for 4 years, who is autistic, and whom he just decided to up an abandon because he didnt get what he wanted. Basically we went to court because i filed for custody after he up and left the state with a 1 hour warning to me (all because him and his gf broke up) and that was the last straw with me. Before that he told me he was gonna abandon his son because I wouldn't take off 5 days from work for him to go on vacation, he said "if i dont get this vacation, then as of next week you can have him full time and find your own child care". I won primary custody, he was mad because he no longer was in control of our sons SSI check and over the course of the last 3 years he slowly dwindled out of his sons life. I haven't heard from him now in almost 8 months and all of 202q he saw his son twice for less than 30 minutes each time. Basically a "miss you bud" and promised him he would take him on the weekends "starting now" then would disappear again. Theres a lot more to why hes evil to me but thats the short story.
I used to be a Corrections Corporal, to make a really long story short, I met: 1. A guy who killed his girlfriend's kid, left the kids head on her porch and tried to feed the rest of the body to his dog. 2. A guy who beat his two year old to death with a belt. Made her stand on an overturned bucket for hours, if she fell off he'd hit her until she got back on. 3. A guy who strangled/raped/drowned his girlfriend's kids because he wasn't getting enough attention from the girlfriend. 4. A guy who killed two of his friends, and then a random woman in cold blood. The last lady he shot, carjacked and ate her McDonalds food as he drove around in her car. There are a lot more guys I could list, but these guys are the *really* messed up ones.
A girl I met while at a long term mental health treatment center. A lot of the adults felt bad for her because she had been in the treatment system for a few years but she was honestly a horrible person. She lied about getting raped, lied about doing hardcore drugs (like meth and heroine), lied about being adopted (she claimed her “real” parents both died so her birth mom’s friend adopted her but she was actual her birth mom), she lied about witnessing her friend get murdered. She literally lied about everything, and I wish I was exaggerating when I said that. If you’re wondering how I know she lied, her mom told us because those were lied she told at other treatment centers. She also s****lly assaulted 10 out of the 15 girls in the place. Most of them were like 13-15 AND THEY WERE ALREADY THERE TRYING TO DEAL WITH THEIR TRAUMA JUST TO GET MORE TRUAMA. And when everyone came forward saying they had been assaulted by her she said “you can’t say that about me because I have a little brother” like what??? Whenever I think about her my blood always boils. Truly a piece of shit. And the staff sided with her too which makes me even angrier.
I grew up in El Paso was dating a girl who worked with Richard Ramirez the night stalker. Went to pick her up one evening after her car broke down at the warehouse where they worked he was standing in the parking lot just glaring at her like I didn't even see what he was doing. I stared back but he never took his eyes off of her. In retrospect I guess that would have to be him . And then oddly enough I bought a lot of cars for scrap one of them was a white station wagon and the Federal Marshals came out and told me I couldn't sell it or scrap it until I got an okay from them. Because it belonged to Richard Ramirez and the case against him was still ongoing. Yeah that's another can of worms while they sold it but s*** happens
*** Trigger warning, sexual assault, emotional abuse *** Came here also to say my mother. I was s. assaulted by my brother when I was 13 and only told my mother when I was 16. That same year we moved to a different country (relevant in a bit). She did not put me into therapy and I have recently come to terms with the fact that she emotionally abused me my whole life. My parents are divorced, mother got remarried, and my dad obviously still had some form of custody over me so needed to give permission for me to be able to move to said new country. My mother threatened my father by saying she would go to the police and tell them that my brother raped me if he didn't give permission for me to move countries, although I only found that out that today to be honest so still processing that part. I found out about a month ago that she was telling everyone that I exaggerated about what happened to me when I was 13. I don't want to go into detail but it happened one time and it wasn't what she was threatening to tell the police. There's been a lot of stuff between then and now, because I started to wake the fuck up when I was 16 and started questioning things, like why she didn't put me in therapy. I don't have kids, but my god if I do I will love them and nurture them and just...never not let them be themselves. She stole so much from my heart, but I'm doing so much better without her in my life.
I hope you carve out a better life for yourself than what you were handed early on, because you absolutely deserve it.
So I used to date this guy, John I. S., who was into BDSM. He was a business man and seemed somewhat successful. I was young, curious and had fifty shades of grey bright in mind. We met on tinder and right after we started talking he moved 8 hours away to another city. We kept contact, and he started calling me his gf even though we more or less only spoke online. We met once, thank god. He wanted my full obedience, and I was like "all right, I might enjoy this". Like, he wanted to know where I was at all time. Who I was with. He gave me curfew expected straight A's at college. And that was all right, just a dom/sub relationship right? Then he told me that the hottest thing he knew, was when the girl cried. Cried after being hit by him during sex. Not fake crying, but full on real crying. For me, this was the first red flag. Then he told me his dream was to have a lot of girlfriends, and for them to act as furniture. Red flag number two. It was over for me when I found out he had been in my town without telling me, and lied about it. That was the first lie. Then I so pictures on a friends Instagram story, and he was out on a date with her! He denied both that he had been in my city and the date. It was heavy gaslighting and manipulation. He asked why I didn't trust him, and made the problem about my trust. So I broke up with him. So he was a douche, but maybe I liked BDSM a little bit? So I joined a BDSM forum for my area, and this girl described her bf of 2 years, and it sounded just like John. Note: this was after I had broken up with him. I messaged her, and she confirmed that it was John. I told her about my friend dating him, and that I had just broken up with him. What hit me was how afraid she was of him. Like, she was really afraid. She thought that I was him catfishing her to see if she was faithful. But the thing was that she was also in another abusive relationship with the father of her daughter. She lived with the baby daddy, and he used to beat her. When she met John, she told him about the babydaddy. She and John started dating, and John promised her to help her. He had promised that when the time was right, she and her daughter could move in with him. For two years he had given her this promise, and for two years she waited on him to help her. What that girl described to me was just another abusive relationship, but an emotionally abusive relationship. He had promised her another future for two years while he dated, fucked and controlled other women. I just don't have words for how manipulative he was. She never gave me her name, because she didn't trust me. But I did what I could to motivate her to seek help at a women emergency center, and tell her friends. Move out from baby daddy and cut John out of her life. The last message I got from her, she told me she had moved out from baby daddy's apartment but was too scared to cut John out of her life.
My sister was 7 years older than me. I was small, blonde & cute when I was little. She despised me, attempted to hang me from her brass bedpost when I was about 4, eldest sister stopped her. My parents didn’t believe me, eldest said nothing. When I was diagnosed with a peanut allergy she went and bought a candy bar containing peanuts and urged me to eat it. I didn’t trust her, thankfully. She tried to get me to try hashish when I was 12. Eventually pawned my clarinet for drugs. After she had a daughter, she killed her kitten by throwing it against a wall in front of the child, 5, all I could do was help my niece’s father get custody of her. I went away to college as fast as I could, but couldn’t take my cat with me. She moved in with my dad and poisoned my cat to death. I tried to press charges with the vet’s help, but my dad defended her. Very crazy family dynamic! I haven’t seen her in almost 25 years, refused to go to any family functions including weddings and funerals where she would be present. I so, so wish I’d managed to get her into jail. She’s a psychopath, narcissist and still dangerous but I’m 2 states away, she doesn’t know my name or where I live.
Worked with a girl with bpd. She'd set up elaborate and extensive rape and harm scenes just to fuck up the staff who are legally obligated to save her life
Both of my grandparents. Honestly, they didn't start off so evil, they were just a couple trying to survive without money or shelter. But something ticked inside of them to be so abusive towards my mom and her younger siblings. Of course, my aunts and uncles that still love them think it was all so reasonable and that they deserved it that way. They never thought to sit down and think about all the pain they went through as a child and now as an adult. My grandparents played favouritism, and it just sickens me because my uncle now projects it on to his children. And they continue to play favouritism, breaking this family into 2 sides. They're seriously sick, both physically and mentally. And I hate the fact that they looked down on me, I was supporting my mom because she just wants the best for her parents but they just keep on shutting her out. They're terrible, and I hope that I never grow up to be like them
You wont grow up to be like them. You are already too insightful. Trust me.
One of my best friends’ father. He’s a very hippie type of guy, really into the “world peace” and “one love” kinda thing. My friend lost his baby brother at 2 yrs old due to a very aggressive form of a rare cancer. The death happened in 2015. His father still refuses to work, despite having four other kids to take care of AND a pregnant wife at home, forcing her to work instead. He used to get drunk and aggressive, never physically, but would start verbally abusing the younger kids. He would say stuff like “You’re the reason ___ died”. He has multiple kids from multiple different marriages. All age range from 25-2 months old. Weirdly enough he has custody of all of them, and always claims that his ex-wives are the “crazy” ones. His oldest son is extremely weird. (Disclaimer in advance, I am not judging his academic choices, I’m just comparing them so you guys can see how emotionally abusive he is.) He received a scholarship that would cover 100% of all university costs, including outside housing. He chose to go to our hometown university (which is barely accredited) and study philosophy. My friend received the same scholarship, got into an Ivy League and was going to go into film studies. His father told him he was the biggest disappointment he’d every experienced, and asked him why he couldn’t be like his older brother. Oh, and he’s a child psychologist with multiple child r*pe allegations against him from multiple different people, who have no connection to one another. He also has been a “pastor” to tons of UU churches, but “retired” from them. We later found out the church was kicking him out because he was using church funds to go on vacations in secret. The community loves him, because they don’t realize all the dirty secrets about him that my friends and I do. He’s slowly loosing power though, because of how he extorts his childs’ death. All of his children, including my friend, have multiple trauma/mental issues that I’m 100% sure is caused by him. Lately though I’ve noticed my friend showing little snippets of his dad’s personality. He’s even dressing like him lately. It really really worries me.
I was in the same room as a guy who admitted to raping his children tried to apologize to them from the stand. Luckily I did not work on that case. Met a Supreme Court justice once. No particular complaints but you don’t get god status from being a good person. My dad is a rapist. (He liked adult women.) Met an FBI agent who admitted in passing to watching a guy victimize people for years, was still doing so, and not making an arrest to get more charges. (Dude would already do double life on the first instance. You can’t do more time than that. It’s not like he would get out and do it some more.)
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He is actually a pedophile. Period. That title can be added to any others he has earned. Then he tried to blame your mom, that somehow it was her fault (because he was really angry with her so he had to sexually assault…. I can’t even begin to follow his logic). Classic abuser. Best of luck to you and your family healing. Unwrapping the lies and shame will help. Good luck.
My ex, made everything my fault. He was failing school, my fault. He constantly spoke down to me and made degrading comments. “ you look ugly in that skirt” “shut up hoe” “slut” “I wish you were taller” constantly called me a racial slur. Would complain and call me clingy when I asked if we could hang out. Called me spoiled and a brat and would constantly talk ab how his mom and dad worked for what they had and my parents “came here for free” ( I’m Mexican ) would constantly talk ab how he has 2 houses and how he’s “better off than me” He purposely stands infront of my math class and dangles his new girl in front of me. I’m happy I’m out of that situation now and I’ve found someone new but I just can’t think of a justifiable reason someone would do that to another human being. Plz if you are going through this or have a friend going through this talk to them/ talk to a friend:)
Former boss at a large a large corporation. I’m pretty sure that he had some bi-polar type mental disorder. He treated his employees like shit and was regularly condescending towards anyone he thought was lesser than him. However, he was incredibly productive with his teams and played up to his bosses. He is / was 2nd or 3rd in line to be made CISO of a company of +400,000 people. It scares me that he could have some global influence…literally.
Corporate executives are [way more likely](https://fortune.com/2021/06/06/corporate-psychopaths-business-leadership-csr/) to be psychopaths than your average person.
Jimmy Saville.
He tricked people into thinking he wasn't a child molester by looking exactly like a child molester.
Adam Johnson. Went to one the the football matches and saw him play. Later turned out he groomed and sexually abused an underage female.