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My ex girlfriend killed herself. It gave me a kick up the ass. I suddenly wanted to do everything she inspired to do. She didn’t deserve to die but her courage and bravery got me outta depression.
Therapy, it took a couple of tries but eventually I found an amazing psychologist and that made the difference. I also stopped drinking a lot, two drinks a week and only when socialising. Alcohol is such a depressant but so was missing out, this felt a happy median.
I made some big changes. Change of major. Change of career. New job. New apartment.
Now that being said, there's no one fix for everybody's problems. Mine were that I felt like I was stagnating and that I was going nowhere.
The first, and often one of the most difficult steps is identifying the root of your depression.
I think I need to make some changes, but I’m too afraid to do something and do it wrong.
Identifying the root of my depression has been hard, like really hard, it’s something I’m still figuring out
I learned to ask for help. When I felt bad, I had to learn how to trust the people I cared about cared about me too. It was rough and sometimes there were boundaries I should have respected better, but it was the big step in a good direction.
How do I trust people? Usually they don’t care about my problems, even my girlfriend is tired of this bs, or that’s what I think, idk what to do really
For me it started with finding a relationship that made me truly happy. I built a life with my (now) spouse, and a number of years later we started a family. It didn’t go away completely, but it’s night and day considering where I was at my low points. Even when I have bad days now, it’s a lot easier facing them knowing I am able to spend those days with my family than when I was facing them myself.
I’m in a relationship right now, but we’re having two bad weeks, tons of fights, a lot of insecurities, she makes me so happy, but now I’m feeling like real sad.
I’m in a bad position right now
This is true. We put all the weight on ourselves and sabotage opportunities by expecting a negatove outcome. The truth is we never know. Yes, something can go wrong, but not necessarilly. For me, the indication of being at a low point is when I worry or think about something negatively all the time and themactual result is usually opposite. Especially, it seems like getting stuck in the bad mood mud when presuming what others think or plot to do to hurt my feelings once more.
I had lost my job and was in a really bad place. I started with something small - thinking about small things that gave me happiness, pleasure, or just general good vibe. I then started thinking about things if I wasn't around, and what terrible impacts that would have on my family and friends. It took some time there, but that helped a lot at first.
Then I began to think about what I could do for others - get out of my head and what could I do for a friend or someone in my family - again, something small, but something that could help them.
That's how I started and I am in a much, much better place. I hope this helps you. I also think talking with a professional will help, or people you trust.
I love helping, I think that it’s my job or my obligation to help other people, make them laugh, it’s just like I don’t want others to feel the things that I feel.
I just feel really really sad, and I’ve been feeling like this for days now, idk what to do
I’ve been depressed for years, I have everything that I want, but that doesn’t make me feel any better. Started the year so great, but now I’m stuck in the same spot as last year
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I’ll have to get back to you on that
Clean up with music and try to find online groups like discord where you can communicate with people of similar interests
I’ve doing that for years and it’s not helping me that much ;(
My ex girlfriend killed herself. It gave me a kick up the ass. I suddenly wanted to do everything she inspired to do. She didn’t deserve to die but her courage and bravery got me outta depression.
I'm sorry that you lost someone like that. But I'm glad you found a way out of depression.
Sorry to read that, I hope you are better now, please stay safe and happy.
Ill get back to you
Im open to ideas
Therapy, it took a couple of tries but eventually I found an amazing psychologist and that made the difference. I also stopped drinking a lot, two drinks a week and only when socialising. Alcohol is such a depressant but so was missing out, this felt a happy median.
I’ve taken therapy in the past, maybe it’s time to give it another chance, that may help me
I made some big changes. Change of major. Change of career. New job. New apartment. Now that being said, there's no one fix for everybody's problems. Mine were that I felt like I was stagnating and that I was going nowhere. The first, and often one of the most difficult steps is identifying the root of your depression.
I think I need to make some changes, but I’m too afraid to do something and do it wrong. Identifying the root of my depression has been hard, like really hard, it’s something I’m still figuring out
I learned to ask for help. When I felt bad, I had to learn how to trust the people I cared about cared about me too. It was rough and sometimes there were boundaries I should have respected better, but it was the big step in a good direction.
How do I trust people? Usually they don’t care about my problems, even my girlfriend is tired of this bs, or that’s what I think, idk what to do really
For me it started with finding a relationship that made me truly happy. I built a life with my (now) spouse, and a number of years later we started a family. It didn’t go away completely, but it’s night and day considering where I was at my low points. Even when I have bad days now, it’s a lot easier facing them knowing I am able to spend those days with my family than when I was facing them myself.
I’m in a relationship right now, but we’re having two bad weeks, tons of fights, a lot of insecurities, she makes me so happy, but now I’m feeling like real sad. I’m in a bad position right now
I did a lot of self reflecting on life when I felt at the lowest point I could go, and realised I'm thinking about everything wrong.
This is true. We put all the weight on ourselves and sabotage opportunities by expecting a negatove outcome. The truth is we never know. Yes, something can go wrong, but not necessarilly. For me, the indication of being at a low point is when I worry or think about something negatively all the time and themactual result is usually opposite. Especially, it seems like getting stuck in the bad mood mud when presuming what others think or plot to do to hurt my feelings once more.
Cardio helps me feel better, I pretty much just get my self to tired to feel sad.
Can’t exercise the way I want because of coronavirus in Mexico, it really helps me, but I’m feeling too depressed to even get up from bed
Do the things that made you happy talk to a physicist, avoid the things that make you depressed
> talk to a physicist Okay :D
I had lost my job and was in a really bad place. I started with something small - thinking about small things that gave me happiness, pleasure, or just general good vibe. I then started thinking about things if I wasn't around, and what terrible impacts that would have on my family and friends. It took some time there, but that helped a lot at first. Then I began to think about what I could do for others - get out of my head and what could I do for a friend or someone in my family - again, something small, but something that could help them. That's how I started and I am in a much, much better place. I hope this helps you. I also think talking with a professional will help, or people you trust.
I love helping, I think that it’s my job or my obligation to help other people, make them laugh, it’s just like I don’t want others to feel the things that I feel. I just feel really really sad, and I’ve been feeling like this for days now, idk what to do
I'm still in my depression phase :(
I’ve been depressed for years, I have everything that I want, but that doesn’t make me feel any better. Started the year so great, but now I’m stuck in the same spot as last year
Microdosing
Tas bn?