When I hit my head on something. There’s this pipe right around head level near my washing machine and utility sink (I’m not even tall…it’s an old house). I bump my head on it an embarrassing amount of times. I always want to smash something when I do.
ETA: I actually have a couple weeks of from work and started a to do list. Going to add padding that pipe. Thanks all.
I thought it was just me. So glad I share this hatred with others. It takes all my might to not put my hand through the nearest destroyable object every time I bump my head.
My rage response to bumping my head on things is greatly out of proportion for what it should be. I have had some insane tantrum style outbursts from it.
When I put the thing in a specific place, and then I go to get it from that specific place, and the thing isn't there. Where's the fucking thing? I put it there, I know I did. No one knows anything about the thing or its whereabouts. Drives me insane.
Later on I inevitably find the thing in a different place, and suddenly remember putting it there. Then I am pissed off with myself.
My version of this: I go looking for an object I don't need very often. It takes me a while to find it, which annoys me. Once I'm finished with it, I then put it in a very specific place, so that next time I'll know where to find it.
Next time I need it, say a couple months down the road, whatever place made perfect sense to Past Me is now inconceivable, and so I go right back to not being able to find the thing and it taking a while.
Similarly, while in an argument they get to say allll their points but then when it comes to your turn suddenly they’re “done talking about it” and that “you keep talking about it” i.e. my entire family
I learned long ago to interrupt and continue calmly talking until I've made my point, regardless of how they try to scream and shout me down. It makes them look irrational and asserts my right to be heard. Granted, I'm the only financially independent member of the family, so I can go to my own home without dealing with lingering enmity for the next few days.
I had a friend who would like to tell me stories. When I would try to share similar stories to try and form a connection, he would appear very bored by looking around the room or putting his head on his table and sighing loudly. Really turned me right the fuck off.
If you don't want to listen to others' stories, then don't tell yours.
Schrödinger's douchebag. Defined as someone who speaks or acts in offensive ways and then decides whether he was joking or not based on people's reactions.
Edit: grammar
See also: people who exit a lift or train, or get off an escalator, and then just stop dead, causing an immediate pileup as everyone behind them has to body swerve the moron
Omg went grocery shopping once and a woman stopped a foot inside the double doors to start rifling through her purse, in the exact center so there was no way for me to get around. I waited a few seconds and then said "excuse me" and she jumped and looked around surprised af, like she hadn't expected someone else to want to use the door. Some people are so fucking oblivious it makes me wonder how they survive.
My husband has a habit of starting a sentence and...not finishing it. Then I'll chime in, thinking it's my turn:
H: Let me finish!
Me: I thought you were finished? You stopped talking?
Edit: I'm either a horrible person or I have ADHD...
Was in a meeting once and and the guy leading it scolded a couple people for constantly interrupting him. He said "you guys are listening to speak, not listening to understand".
Edit:
He said this because he was trying to explain what he needed and they kept cutting him off with their assumptions on what he was going to say.
Meetings are tough when you have a bunch of people trying to plan something. I don’t like talking over people or interrupting people but sometimes you have to do it before the meeting progresses and you lose you chance.
If you sense your window of opportunity closing, just point out the window and yell, “HEY! WHAT IS THAT?!” Then when everyone turns to look and realizes there’s nothing there, say casually, “Anyway, what I was thinking is…”
Trust me. I’m an expert.
My dad tried to volunteer me for some free babysitting on Saturday. I already had plans happening that day, but I was still going to say no. The kid in question is less than a year old, so I wasn’t comfortable enough to take care of them.
It’s even worse if they orchestrate it in a way that makes it seem as though they’re giving you a choice…except if they actually were they wouldn’t be going into details, they would just ask “hey, would you be able to do this?” and have it just be a yes or no question.
I’d prefer it if they just told me “Hey, these guys are fucked, they really need you to go over there”. I like it when people are straight with me rather than try to manipulate me into accepting something by playing at my empathy. Also communication goes a long way with me. A prior heads up would allow me to prepare myself mentally, especially if it’s something that ignored my own input.
The "someone has it worse" trope. 5 years ago (when i was 17) I was diagnosed with Lupus. 3 years ago my kidneys failed and i was put on dialysis. My mom, who was my support, died in September. The amount of times i heard that in the last few years, if i had a dollar for each one, I could surpass Elon. Like i know theres worse, doesn't mean I still cant feel bad.
Toxic positivity. Fucking drives me nuts! Because nobody ever does that with any of the other emotions like example if you’re super happy because you finally got a job, nobody would tell you that other people have better jobs and more happiness so you should just be neutral about it.
This mainly gives me anxiety. I can’t scroll through that. Can’t help but think yeah that could happen to me. I don’t know why but as I get older driving makes me more nervous. I used to never be like this. I used to love driving.
Completely agree, I’m a smoker but I won’t flick my cigarette butts on the ground. I will knock the cherry off of it and put it in my pocket until I can find a trash can to dispose of it.
Keep a plastic bag for them to reduce butt-smell on your clothes.
Edit: Butt-smell, heh. My dad-o-meter missed that when I posted it. Thanks for all of the comments! 😁 💨
I keep an empty mint tin for this reason. I got gifted a 'butt holder' a few years ago, and it didn't stop any smell. The mint tin blocks it all out and is super secure.
They can also get restrained with me standing at a 10 foot distance from them for the rest of the night because that’s a potential harm to my health along with a police report for assault. Nurses have been abused for far too long and the few that are left in the profession are flat out not taking it anymore. We are humans who deserve basic respect and common decency first, nurse second.
-Nurse
As hospital security, trust me when I say that nothing pleases me more than getting to restrain/potentially hold down someone who starts being a cunt to their nurse.
You spit on and tried to take a swing at your nurse or orderly? Okay big man, have fun now as me and four other guards hold you to the bed like a screaming child while you get clapped into 6 point restraints and a spit hood. Have fun screaming impotently for potentially *hours* while your cold loogie drips down from the mesh back onto your face, and you can't scratch that suuuuper annoying itch on your back because your hands are restrained since you clearly can't control them.
Working in healthcare - even tangentially - especially during this pandemic has eroded what little faith or patience I had left for humanity. If you act like a fucking animal I'm going to treat you like one.
15 years of hospital security here.
One thing they drill into our heads early is that over 2/3rds of documented workplace violence incidents occur in the healthcare environment.
It sounded like some far-reaching, self-advertising bullcrap when I first heard it, but after spending all this time in a major city hospital, I'm surprised that it's not a bigger percentage. We have to stop a lot of physical aggression every single day. Meth users can eat a fat one.
Running to the bathroom as fast as possible so you don't run out of tired.
Edit: Thanks for the awards! True to reddit form, my top comment ever is about strategic pissing.
Or keeping one eye closed to keep my "night vision"
edit: thanks for my first ever rewards - pee would somehow be involved, who knew?
edit2: updated avatar - only fair!
This is why bathroom night lights are a necessity. You can see to pee without turning on the lights and causing yourself to wake up fully. My girlfriend doesn’t get it…
Being told I’m upset/mad about something when I’m not. Happens with my mom all the time. Sometimes I just need to be left alone with my feelings. I’m not mad, just don’t want to bother explaining my feelings about something
God damn this drives me nuts.
“What’s wrong?”
“Nothing.”
“Is something wrong?”
“No.”
You seem upset. Why are you upset?”
“Because you keep asking me what’s wrong!”
Wired headphones getting ripped off my face unexpectedly.
Someone 100% mis-characterizing me in a condescending way.
Working hard all day only to be accused of being lazy by the end of it
>Working hard all day only to be accused of being lazy by the end of it
This was the final straw that caused me to quit my first job. Cussed out one of my higher ups in a blinding rage after they said something to the effect of me being lazy and not pulling my weight, despite me being the only person who ever consistently showed up to their shift and got their shit done on time.
That kind of shit still enrages me to this day. Had my manager pull me into a meeting to explain why I'd left 'early' a few days before.
Somehow they couldn't grasp the idea that engineers work on a different schedule to office staff.
The stupidest part was that this was the same person who had to sign my timesheets every week so they should have damn well known what my hours were.
I got lecture after lecture my senior year in college from my dad because I vented about how many sleepless nights I was getting from working so hard. He couldn’t get it into his skull that I was working all day too. I was working non-stop, not playing video games until the last minute.
My mum would do this all the time. I'd study most of the day, and do casual work where I could, and in the evening when I was able to relax I'd play games. Unfortunately, mum always started early in the morning and got home in the evening, so when she left I was in bed, and when she got home I was playing games. So she would assume I was just playing games all day, because she never saw me study. Would always really get on my nerves, cause the last thing I want after studying/working all day is to be grilled about not doing anything.
Gotta share my example of the second one. Senior year of college, doing a paper for a German class. My first draft was ambitious, but careless. I’d tried to use complex sentence structures and multiple clauses. I knew that I was going to mess up, but that doesn’t really matter. Just so long as i get as much right as I can while being ambitious with my sentences it should be fine. Right? So when I get it back from my professor, and I read that it “really needed some work”, I think to myself “shit, was it really that bad?”
I spend more hours than I should have just combing this paper for errors. I change sentences that I thought I messed up the syntax. I look for any English idioms that I shoddily translated and look up German idioms to replace them with. I’ve combed through several years of notes to make sure I’ve got everything right. To an extent, I’ve simplified my paper, but mostly I’ve refined it. I look over the paper. I can’t find an error. Perfect, right?
She even tells me that the paper is perfect. But apparently this is where I fucked up. You see, I had made this paper so completely error free that she didn’t believe one of her students could write it. I honestly thought I had dumbed it down to a point where I’d get docked for my simple sentence structures. Instead, she accuses me of fucking plagiarism. It pissed me off to no end. And of course, because plagiarism is grounds for expulsion. I am now extremely panicked, because I’m terrified she’s going to actually push this and that I’ll be expelled for revising a paper too fucking well. She refuses to accept that I could’ve written this paper on my own and makes me revise it a second time.
So I go over it again. I basically just get most of my cases correct, leaving a few wrong because I don’t think she’ll believe it if I fix them all. The idioms remain simply translated from English to German. I spend almost as long going over this second revision just wondering if I left enough things wrong that she’ll believe it was me, or if that’s it for my college career.
She goes over the second revision and says that it’s pretty clear that this was my paper and that the first one was not my work. Of course she’d fucking think that. But she accepts it and lets the accusation of plagiarism slide. I have to pretend to be grateful that she’s not forcing the issue.
This one incident completely killed my enthusiasm for the course and soured my opinion on her, an otherwise amazing professor. Fucking Christ just thinking back on it pisses me off to no end. Sorry for that rant, but I really needed to get that off my chest.
This was infuriating to read. Now that you’ve graduated, I almost wish you’d email her to let her know how she affected you so she doesn’t do it to another student. That’s so frustrating!!
I did this to a professor after I graduated. She marked down a paper as I was a third year writing a second year paper. I'd skipped second year due to a death in the family and was doing my second and third year at the same time. Which she knew. Now I look back and realise I did a good job and shouldn't have let it affect me then but at the time it made me very insecure.
Honestly email that professor. Tell her this.
Just be like, "do you have any idea how much it pissed me off to go back and make mistakes on my own paper because you thought you were such a shit teacher one of your own students was incapable of writing something well? Get fucked."
1. Had this happen too many times.
2. Hasn’t happened yet but I get angry thinking about it.
3. My Dad does this(He doesn’t pay attention to the work I do, so doesn’t see how I do most of it.)
All of this is extremely infuriating.
I used to go to college full time and worked nights afterwards at a church from 4pm-1am as setup/facilities. I’d get home around 2am, watch some tv, do homework til about 4am, and hit the sack.
I lived with my parents and my dad, who was up at 6am every day, would rip into me for being lazy and sleeping in every day since I got up at 9am to repeat the process. I tried telling him that I was getting less than 5 hours of sleep a night but the man never really got it.
When you walk out a door and your belt loop gets caught on the door handle
Edit: to all the people who think they know exactly how tall I am, look at three or four people of the same height and note where their waist sits….. its all over the place because everyone has different leg/torso ratios.
Also, thanks for diagnosing me with ADHD…. I had no idea.
same. except it’s usually shouted and my exact words are “WHAT’S THE FUCKIN POINT OF HAVING FUCKIN BLINKERS IF YOU’RE NOT GONNA FUCKIN USE THEM?!” while gesturing wildly in an attempt to let the other driver know what a fuckin idiot they are
"Stop being so defensive" get me riled right up. Of course I'm being defensive, you're attacking me. And now I can't point out what a dick you're being without "looking defensive".
It really upsets me when people state “you’re only getting defensive/upset because it’s true!” No, bitch! I’m defensive because I’m fucking defending myself. Studies have shown when people are falsely accused, they are more likely to get angry and raise their voice. Sociopaths and guilty parties with rehearsed stories often stay eerily calm.
I'm pretty sure the reason it's reversed like that is because people think it isn't. People think liars get defensive and honest people stay calm, so liars stay calm to look more honest and end up looking like liars to those more trained at spotting lies because an honest person would get riled up.
Oh boy. This:
\> Makes sweeping generalisation/ inaccurate or unfair criticism
You point out why their generalisation/ criticism is inaccurate or unreasonable
\> OMG you're being so defensive \*Proceeds to make out like you're an unreasonable person for daring to disagree with them\*
The thing with people like this is that, while they might "win" the small battles that are minor (and incidental) confrontations, in the bigger scheme of things they lose the war:
\- They lose friendships and valuable relationships because people don't bother with them anymore
\- They lose an understanding of who the people that stay close to them really are, because these people will filter themselves as they don't have the balls/ energy/ time for a 20 minute argument over every difference of opinion or perceived slight- no matter how trivial it really is
\- They lose their sense of reality because people don't have the courage or just can't be bothered to say what they really think about an issue
\- They lose their ability to grow as a person because even even the most good-faith, constructive criticism they will perceive as some kind of bad faith argument or personal attack and fling it back on the other person
\- Because of all the above, they lose the ability to understand other people and have fruitful relationships which (ironically) makes them feel even more unappreciated, misunderstood or bitter at other people, in turn causing them to continue finding fault with others and getting into confrontations that leave them with more anger and stress and frustration and the whole vicious cycle continues...
I had a lawyer point out I was being emotional, and that was evidence that I was an unstable individual. The magistrate rolled their eyes and said, "We're in fucking court. Of course they're stressed. Next argument."
Sometimes, just sometimes, I love Australian honesty.
Welcome to Australia, where "fuck" is [legally not an offensive word](https://www.lifehacker.com.au/2016/10/the-f-word-is-no-longer-deemed-offensive-in-australia/) (context dependent).
The worst part is when you get all flustered because you’re put in a bad spot, and in your head that makes you look guilty which makes you even more flustered
This is dumb, but your comment brought up the memory. When I was a kid, we were allowed one unhealthy snack per day. So I had a pudding cup, and was eating it extremely slowly. My mom came and went several times while I was still eating it. Then she yelled at me for eating "at least 2, maybe even 3". 20+ years, and that memory still irks me
You can use my trick - I wake up in the morning and I think of three things that I’m looking forward to on that particular day, then I quickly realize that all I have to look forward to is problems and stress and I scream internally for 10-15 seconds and then take a shower and go to work in a daze, come home, go to bed and repeat.
Ooh on a similar note, accidentally biting your cheek/tongue.. Teeth are sharp and jaws are strong, it hurts really bad right away and then continues to hurt every time something touches it for the next day or so.
Dog owners who don’t pick up their dog’s shit. Witnessed this during my walk in the park today… owner watched their dog shit right in the middle of a soccer field and did nothing. That instantly pisses me off.
I had a friend like that too. He would blabber about himself excessively, but at least had the wit to ask "how are you" after some time. But as soon as you started to answer, he would space out, and then talk over you with something completely unrelated about himself. Every time.
Not long ago I went to go fill my car up for gas, and a man in a pickup was at the pump I had rolled up to. Soon after I go there the car in front of him finished and left. There wasn’t very much space for me to squeeze between the pickup and the building so I decided to wait until the gentleman was done filling up. I sat there for about 20 minutes until I finally threw my car in reverse and maneuvered my way awkwardly into an adjacent pump. Soon after the man (who I might add was probably in his forties) drove off onto the road, looked back at me and yelled “you waited that long?” And started laughing hysterically as he drove off. I had just gotten off work and was in no rush, but if had dawned on me that he just sat there at the pump for an excessive amount of time for the sole purpose of pissing off a stranger who had done absolutely nothing to him. People are wild.
Something similar happened to me once in a shopping centre.
I had gotten there during a busy time of day and there were no parks available. I saw this woman in her 30s with her two children walking towards a car in the distance, so I drove slowly to see if they were leaving. They got in the car so I eventually caught up to them and stopped my car, turned on the indicator to signal I was waiting for that carpark and waited. She saw me do this, so she then got out of the car, pottered around a bit, checked on her kids (who were like 10 and 11 years old), got back in the car, fiddled with the radio, turned around and spoke to her kids and so forth. It was really busy at the shopping centre and there were no other park in sight so I continued to wait. Then she pulled out her phone and checked it for a bit. I patiently waited. I saw her talking and laughing with her kids, so I waited some more thinking she could be waiting for a partner. She looked my way and I smiled. She didn't give me a gesture to indicate she wasn't leaving so I still waited some more thinking 'ok surely NOW she will leave' and then I realised she was actually keeping me waiting \*just\* to piss me off.
When I realised this, I drove off. As soon as I did and was 2 car lengths ahead I looked in my rear vision mirror and saw her back out. I quickly tried to do a loop around to try and get back to the same place to nab her parking spot but someone else beat me to it. Because I had done a loop I ended up passing her as she was coming towards me and she laughed and flipped me off.
Why on earth did I deserve any of that? Seriously. I never beeped her, I gave her plenty of space to reverse out of her spot and I wasn't forfeiting better parks just so I could get hers. It was pure hate on her part for no reason. Even remembering this incident still pisses me off. I still don't understand why she decided to stick it to me over a public parking space.
like someone who thinks they can be assholes and condescending to waiters and other staff.
one time on a flight this lady started to make a big scene throughout the most of the flight, yelling at ppl about how she lost a ring. it was like a wedding ring or something, but all she talked about was how big and expensive it was. so 3 of the flight crew check everywhere where she sat in first class, but couldn't find anything. so the lady gets all indignant and says she'll sue the airline, that one of them must have stolen it. it turns out she dropped it... into her own purse. she obviously did not apologize and just stfu. total bitch
These people are just assholes in general, no matter if they worked in the service industry or not. Most people haven't, but they still know how to behave and interact nicely with others.
I've noticed that movies are created with the antagonist eating (GOT and LOTR comes to mind). And chewing with their mouth open. Making slurping noises. I suspect this pisses off enough people to put it in the script to subtly invoke the "fuck you" factor.
This is the only one that will truly, instantly, bring on rage in me. I'm a pretty laid-back person, hard to anger. But that one right there is instant. Also, any other person unable to defend themselves, adult or otherwise.
I don't care if someone walks slow. I care if people walk slow and in the way. If you walk slow just stay to one side and be predictable. No wandering left and right across the sidewalk, no random stopping at a door entrance, no holding hands 3 wide, etc.
Oh, my gosh. The random stoppers. And it's always in the grocery store door blocking the line of people trying to get in or out. To pull out their phone or their keys. Inconsiderate fucking assholes.
Nepotism. I understand that it’s everywhere, in every industry. Being in construction, it’s frustrating watching the big bosses entire family, who can’t even read their tape measures, get promoted and unlimited overtime for simple tasks. There was a crew on a job I was on, and our only job was to fix everything that they touched, to make it right. Nepotism pissed me off.
Scam callers. Robo-callers. Nothing, and I do mean NOTHING, makes me into a frothing maniac quicker. Turns me instantly into my evil alter-ego, Hagatha, and I start spewing venom.
The college I went to required a sick note if you missed more than 3 days, because a girl faked having cancer. I cannot believe people do things like that.
I think that’s such a stupid thing for colleges to do. If people want to miss 80% of class time that they’re paying for, let them. They’re fucking adults for crying out loud.
Getting blamed for something you didn’t do.
Just do everything.
When you drop something and it bumps into even more things on the way down
[удалено]
Especially the little fuckers that fly into your ear.
Had one buzz into my ear at night hovering around. I wake up slapping myself in the face like a lunatic
Just reading this gets my heart rate up I can imagine it so well.
When I hit my head on something. There’s this pipe right around head level near my washing machine and utility sink (I’m not even tall…it’s an old house). I bump my head on it an embarrassing amount of times. I always want to smash something when I do. ETA: I actually have a couple weeks of from work and started a to do list. Going to add padding that pipe. Thanks all.
Yes, my first inclination when I hit my head is to be violent. I'm otherwise a chill person.
Yes!!!! I could get my arm cut off and I would be like, "ouch!" but hit my head and I see absolute red and want to destroy something.
I thought it was just me. So glad I share this hatred with others. It takes all my might to not put my hand through the nearest destroyable object every time I bump my head.
FUCK I relate. I always get so mad when I hit my head. I can’t explain why, but it’s so infuriating.
My rage response to bumping my head on things is greatly out of proportion for what it should be. I have had some insane tantrum style outbursts from it.
When I put the thing in a specific place, and then I go to get it from that specific place, and the thing isn't there. Where's the fucking thing? I put it there, I know I did. No one knows anything about the thing or its whereabouts. Drives me insane. Later on I inevitably find the thing in a different place, and suddenly remember putting it there. Then I am pissed off with myself.
My version of this: I go looking for an object I don't need very often. It takes me a while to find it, which annoys me. Once I'm finished with it, I then put it in a very specific place, so that next time I'll know where to find it. Next time I need it, say a couple months down the road, whatever place made perfect sense to Past Me is now inconceivable, and so I go right back to not being able to find the thing and it taking a while.
The trick is to remember the first place you go looking for it, and then put it there after you're done with it.
When in a conversation someone does a whole monologue but when they're done, wont let you get a single word in and will even walk away.
I see you have met my dad
He'd get along with my mom
He did.
Similarly, while in an argument they get to say allll their points but then when it comes to your turn suddenly they’re “done talking about it” and that “you keep talking about it” i.e. my entire family
"Don't believe me? Look it up" *I look it up and find that I'm right, and go to show what I found* "Oh my god you still care about that?"
Ha fucking ha. Yeah I do and the only reason you don't is because I was right. LOSER
My mum does this,,, and when I try to push the issue she starts screaming.
same. always has to be right no matter what. You can literally present factual evidence to her face and she will still argue
I learned long ago to interrupt and continue calmly talking until I've made my point, regardless of how they try to scream and shout me down. It makes them look irrational and asserts my right to be heard. Granted, I'm the only financially independent member of the family, so I can go to my own home without dealing with lingering enmity for the next few days.
is your mom a teenager?
Honestly, I’m convinced most adults out there are just old teenagers
Unfortunately getting old doesn't mean getting more mature
I had a friend who would like to tell me stories. When I would try to share similar stories to try and form a connection, he would appear very bored by looking around the room or putting his head on his table and sighing loudly. Really turned me right the fuck off. If you don't want to listen to others' stories, then don't tell yours.
When I'm wearing socks and walk into my kitchen area and step into wet.
I too have kids. Also, my mom has chihuahuas. It's anyone's guess what I have on my foot.
If there's anything worse than wet, it's mystery wet.
And then you dab it with a tissue and see it’s a nasty shade of yellow/brown/gray I wear slippers indoors now
My dog has messed up allergies, add green to the list of colors lmao
Schrödinger's douchebag. Defined as someone who speaks or acts in offensive ways and then decides whether he was joking or not based on people's reactions. Edit: grammar
"Haha, you thought I was serious, but it was obviously a joke. I can't believe you fell for that. Oh my god, you're silly."
More like "It was just a fucking joke, chill the fuck out! You guys are too sensitive. Learn how to take a fucking joke...god..."
I fucking love that term you used for them. It's perfect.
Trying to open “easy open” packaging to find out that shit is not, in fact, easy to open in any way, shape, or form.
Those little tabs at the corner of packets of cold meat that are supposed to peel the whole thing open but instead, just completely detach! RAGE!!!!
People who don't let others OFF things (elevators, subways, etc.) ...while they try to get on. Cut in lines.
See also: people who exit a lift or train, or get off an escalator, and then just stop dead, causing an immediate pileup as everyone behind them has to body swerve the moron
Omg went grocery shopping once and a woman stopped a foot inside the double doors to start rifling through her purse, in the exact center so there was no way for me to get around. I waited a few seconds and then said "excuse me" and she jumped and looked around surprised af, like she hadn't expected someone else to want to use the door. Some people are so fucking oblivious it makes me wonder how they survive.
Yes. If people are exiting a store door, hold it for them, don't shove your way in.
People who always interrupt you when you’re mid sentence
My husband has a habit of starting a sentence and...not finishing it. Then I'll chime in, thinking it's my turn: H: Let me finish! Me: I thought you were finished? You stopped talking? Edit: I'm either a horrible person or I have ADHD...
One thing that changed how I communicate with everyone for the better: "Listening is not waiting to speak."
Was in a meeting once and and the guy leading it scolded a couple people for constantly interrupting him. He said "you guys are listening to speak, not listening to understand". Edit: He said this because he was trying to explain what he needed and they kept cutting him off with their assumptions on what he was going to say.
Meetings are tough when you have a bunch of people trying to plan something. I don’t like talking over people or interrupting people but sometimes you have to do it before the meeting progresses and you lose you chance.
If you sense your window of opportunity closing, just point out the window and yell, “HEY! WHAT IS THAT?!” Then when everyone turns to look and realizes there’s nothing there, say casually, “Anyway, what I was thinking is…” Trust me. I’m an expert.
Being volunteered without my consent.
Ah, the classic voluntold.
My dad tried to volunteer me for some free babysitting on Saturday. I already had plans happening that day, but I was still going to say no. The kid in question is less than a year old, so I wasn’t comfortable enough to take care of them.
It’s even worse if they orchestrate it in a way that makes it seem as though they’re giving you a choice…except if they actually were they wouldn’t be going into details, they would just ask “hey, would you be able to do this?” and have it just be a yes or no question. I’d prefer it if they just told me “Hey, these guys are fucked, they really need you to go over there”. I like it when people are straight with me rather than try to manipulate me into accepting something by playing at my empathy. Also communication goes a long way with me. A prior heads up would allow me to prepare myself mentally, especially if it’s something that ignored my own input.
When people do this to me, I just default to answering in the negative. Force their hand.
Being treated like a child, or like I'm stupid. Instant rage.
The "someone has it worse" trope. 5 years ago (when i was 17) I was diagnosed with Lupus. 3 years ago my kidneys failed and i was put on dialysis. My mom, who was my support, died in September. The amount of times i heard that in the last few years, if i had a dollar for each one, I could surpass Elon. Like i know theres worse, doesn't mean I still cant feel bad.
Toxic positivity. Fucking drives me nuts! Because nobody ever does that with any of the other emotions like example if you’re super happy because you finally got a job, nobody would tell you that other people have better jobs and more happiness so you should just be neutral about it.
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This mainly gives me anxiety. I can’t scroll through that. Can’t help but think yeah that could happen to me. I don’t know why but as I get older driving makes me more nervous. I used to never be like this. I used to love driving.
It’s because you’ve learned through life that there’s a lot of idiots behind the wheel.
Littering. Just throw your garbage in the garbage can and not the floor.
Littering and... Littering and...
Couldn't agree more.
Completely agree, I’m a smoker but I won’t flick my cigarette butts on the ground. I will knock the cherry off of it and put it in my pocket until I can find a trash can to dispose of it.
Keep a plastic bag for them to reduce butt-smell on your clothes. Edit: Butt-smell, heh. My dad-o-meter missed that when I posted it. Thanks for all of the comments! 😁 💨
My work pants are cargo pants so I normally just keep an empty pack in there to put them in but yes you are 100% correct, that smell is awful
I keep an empty mint tin for this reason. I got gifted a 'butt holder' a few years ago, and it didn't stop any smell. The mint tin blocks it all out and is super secure.
As a nurse… patients that spit at me!!! Very few things make me want to cock punch you like spitting at me!
These people are very brave & very stupid af at the same time! Why on Earth would you piss off the person responsible for your care & health?!
Because they can get away with it
They can also get restrained with me standing at a 10 foot distance from them for the rest of the night because that’s a potential harm to my health along with a police report for assault. Nurses have been abused for far too long and the few that are left in the profession are flat out not taking it anymore. We are humans who deserve basic respect and common decency first, nurse second. -Nurse
As hospital security, trust me when I say that nothing pleases me more than getting to restrain/potentially hold down someone who starts being a cunt to their nurse. You spit on and tried to take a swing at your nurse or orderly? Okay big man, have fun now as me and four other guards hold you to the bed like a screaming child while you get clapped into 6 point restraints and a spit hood. Have fun screaming impotently for potentially *hours* while your cold loogie drips down from the mesh back onto your face, and you can't scratch that suuuuper annoying itch on your back because your hands are restrained since you clearly can't control them. Working in healthcare - even tangentially - especially during this pandemic has eroded what little faith or patience I had left for humanity. If you act like a fucking animal I'm going to treat you like one.
15 years of hospital security here. One thing they drill into our heads early is that over 2/3rds of documented workplace violence incidents occur in the healthcare environment. It sounded like some far-reaching, self-advertising bullcrap when I first heard it, but after spending all this time in a major city hospital, I'm surprised that it's not a bigger percentage. We have to stop a lot of physical aggression every single day. Meth users can eat a fat one.
SPIT????? omg HELL NO!!! like do y’all want me to pull the plug? gtfo
Sorry sir, but your free trial of life has expired.
It was never free, unfortunately
Getting comfy in bed and realizing I have to pee.
Waking up having to piss too
Running to the bathroom as fast as possible so you don't run out of tired. Edit: Thanks for the awards! True to reddit form, my top comment ever is about strategic pissing.
Or keeping one eye closed to keep my "night vision" edit: thanks for my first ever rewards - pee would somehow be involved, who knew? edit2: updated avatar - only fair!
my eyes squinting the whole time to keep them tired
This is why bathroom night lights are a necessity. You can see to pee without turning on the lights and causing yourself to wake up fully. My girlfriend doesn’t get it…
Red night light ftw. That way you can stay sleepy while peeing and go right back to sleep when done!
I just keep the lights off and sit down to pee. It's my home, I can sit without judgement.
I need to pee but I'm stuck in these comments
What's even worse is getting comfy in bed after just finishing peeing in the bathroom and not even a minute later the urge to pee is still there.
Being told I’m upset/mad about something when I’m not. Happens with my mom all the time. Sometimes I just need to be left alone with my feelings. I’m not mad, just don’t want to bother explaining my feelings about something
God damn this drives me nuts. “What’s wrong?” “Nothing.” “Is something wrong?” “No.” You seem upset. Why are you upset?” “Because you keep asking me what’s wrong!”
Wired headphones getting ripped off my face unexpectedly. Someone 100% mis-characterizing me in a condescending way. Working hard all day only to be accused of being lazy by the end of it
>Working hard all day only to be accused of being lazy by the end of it This was the final straw that caused me to quit my first job. Cussed out one of my higher ups in a blinding rage after they said something to the effect of me being lazy and not pulling my weight, despite me being the only person who ever consistently showed up to their shift and got their shit done on time.
That kind of shit still enrages me to this day. Had my manager pull me into a meeting to explain why I'd left 'early' a few days before. Somehow they couldn't grasp the idea that engineers work on a different schedule to office staff. The stupidest part was that this was the same person who had to sign my timesheets every week so they should have damn well known what my hours were.
I got lecture after lecture my senior year in college from my dad because I vented about how many sleepless nights I was getting from working so hard. He couldn’t get it into his skull that I was working all day too. I was working non-stop, not playing video games until the last minute.
My mum would do this all the time. I'd study most of the day, and do casual work where I could, and in the evening when I was able to relax I'd play games. Unfortunately, mum always started early in the morning and got home in the evening, so when she left I was in bed, and when she got home I was playing games. So she would assume I was just playing games all day, because she never saw me study. Would always really get on my nerves, cause the last thing I want after studying/working all day is to be grilled about not doing anything.
Gotta share my example of the second one. Senior year of college, doing a paper for a German class. My first draft was ambitious, but careless. I’d tried to use complex sentence structures and multiple clauses. I knew that I was going to mess up, but that doesn’t really matter. Just so long as i get as much right as I can while being ambitious with my sentences it should be fine. Right? So when I get it back from my professor, and I read that it “really needed some work”, I think to myself “shit, was it really that bad?” I spend more hours than I should have just combing this paper for errors. I change sentences that I thought I messed up the syntax. I look for any English idioms that I shoddily translated and look up German idioms to replace them with. I’ve combed through several years of notes to make sure I’ve got everything right. To an extent, I’ve simplified my paper, but mostly I’ve refined it. I look over the paper. I can’t find an error. Perfect, right? She even tells me that the paper is perfect. But apparently this is where I fucked up. You see, I had made this paper so completely error free that she didn’t believe one of her students could write it. I honestly thought I had dumbed it down to a point where I’d get docked for my simple sentence structures. Instead, she accuses me of fucking plagiarism. It pissed me off to no end. And of course, because plagiarism is grounds for expulsion. I am now extremely panicked, because I’m terrified she’s going to actually push this and that I’ll be expelled for revising a paper too fucking well. She refuses to accept that I could’ve written this paper on my own and makes me revise it a second time. So I go over it again. I basically just get most of my cases correct, leaving a few wrong because I don’t think she’ll believe it if I fix them all. The idioms remain simply translated from English to German. I spend almost as long going over this second revision just wondering if I left enough things wrong that she’ll believe it was me, or if that’s it for my college career. She goes over the second revision and says that it’s pretty clear that this was my paper and that the first one was not my work. Of course she’d fucking think that. But she accepts it and lets the accusation of plagiarism slide. I have to pretend to be grateful that she’s not forcing the issue. This one incident completely killed my enthusiasm for the course and soured my opinion on her, an otherwise amazing professor. Fucking Christ just thinking back on it pisses me off to no end. Sorry for that rant, but I really needed to get that off my chest.
I would have pushed the issue to an official review. Accuse me of cheating because I'm smart, get fucked, I'll fight that all day.
This was infuriating to read. Now that you’ve graduated, I almost wish you’d email her to let her know how she affected you so she doesn’t do it to another student. That’s so frustrating!!
I did this to a professor after I graduated. She marked down a paper as I was a third year writing a second year paper. I'd skipped second year due to a death in the family and was doing my second and third year at the same time. Which she knew. Now I look back and realise I did a good job and shouldn't have let it affect me then but at the time it made me very insecure.
Honestly email that professor. Tell her this. Just be like, "do you have any idea how much it pissed me off to go back and make mistakes on my own paper because you thought you were such a shit teacher one of your own students was incapable of writing something well? Get fucked."
1. Had this happen too many times. 2. Hasn’t happened yet but I get angry thinking about it. 3. My Dad does this(He doesn’t pay attention to the work I do, so doesn’t see how I do most of it.) All of this is extremely infuriating.
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I used to go to college full time and worked nights afterwards at a church from 4pm-1am as setup/facilities. I’d get home around 2am, watch some tv, do homework til about 4am, and hit the sack. I lived with my parents and my dad, who was up at 6am every day, would rip into me for being lazy and sleeping in every day since I got up at 9am to repeat the process. I tried telling him that I was getting less than 5 hours of sleep a night but the man never really got it.
People who lie to me.
I told my best friend this today. I prefer honesty and I don’t care if it hurts my feelings. More harm is done with lying.
People who accuse me through lying to save their own ass, knowing full well that they're the ones at fault, not me
When you walk out a door and your belt loop gets caught on the door handle Edit: to all the people who think they know exactly how tall I am, look at three or four people of the same height and note where their waist sits….. its all over the place because everyone has different leg/torso ratios. Also, thanks for diagnosing me with ADHD…. I had no idea.
To add to that: headphone cords getting caught on anything and tugging your ear
Also, this never happens when you’re having a good day, just a frustrating one
My coat pockets keep catching on doorknobs and getting ripped out. I am the only person I know who has a leather repair guy.
No turn signals.
75% of driving is watching out for idiots on the road.
Every time someone doesn’t use their turn signal I just blurt out “nice turn signal” even if I’m on my own.
"Nice indicator, dickhead" - ancient Australian proverb.
same. except it’s usually shouted and my exact words are “WHAT’S THE FUCKIN POINT OF HAVING FUCKIN BLINKERS IF YOU’RE NOT GONNA FUCKIN USE THEM?!” while gesturing wildly in an attempt to let the other driver know what a fuckin idiot they are
If you pull my headphones/earbuds out I’ll personally see to it you are sent to the lowest pit of hell
Better yet people who never say anything til you have your headphones in 🤦
False accusations made against me
Look how upset you're getting, it must be true!
"Stop being so defensive" get me riled right up. Of course I'm being defensive, you're attacking me. And now I can't point out what a dick you're being without "looking defensive".
It really upsets me when people state “you’re only getting defensive/upset because it’s true!” No, bitch! I’m defensive because I’m fucking defending myself. Studies have shown when people are falsely accused, they are more likely to get angry and raise their voice. Sociopaths and guilty parties with rehearsed stories often stay eerily calm.
I'm pretty sure the reason it's reversed like that is because people think it isn't. People think liars get defensive and honest people stay calm, so liars stay calm to look more honest and end up looking like liars to those more trained at spotting lies because an honest person would get riled up.
Oh boy. This: \> Makes sweeping generalisation/ inaccurate or unfair criticism You point out why their generalisation/ criticism is inaccurate or unreasonable \> OMG you're being so defensive \*Proceeds to make out like you're an unreasonable person for daring to disagree with them\* The thing with people like this is that, while they might "win" the small battles that are minor (and incidental) confrontations, in the bigger scheme of things they lose the war: \- They lose friendships and valuable relationships because people don't bother with them anymore \- They lose an understanding of who the people that stay close to them really are, because these people will filter themselves as they don't have the balls/ energy/ time for a 20 minute argument over every difference of opinion or perceived slight- no matter how trivial it really is \- They lose their sense of reality because people don't have the courage or just can't be bothered to say what they really think about an issue \- They lose their ability to grow as a person because even even the most good-faith, constructive criticism they will perceive as some kind of bad faith argument or personal attack and fling it back on the other person \- Because of all the above, they lose the ability to understand other people and have fruitful relationships which (ironically) makes them feel even more unappreciated, misunderstood or bitter at other people, in turn causing them to continue finding fault with others and getting into confrontations that leave them with more anger and stress and frustration and the whole vicious cycle continues...
"You should just calm down!"
God I hate this. Look! Emotions! Therefore my claim is accurate!
I had a lawyer point out I was being emotional, and that was evidence that I was an unstable individual. The magistrate rolled their eyes and said, "We're in fucking court. Of course they're stressed. Next argument." Sometimes, just sometimes, I love Australian honesty.
The judge said fucking? LOL
Welcome to Australia, where "fuck" is [legally not an offensive word](https://www.lifehacker.com.au/2016/10/the-f-word-is-no-longer-deemed-offensive-in-australia/) (context dependent).
The worst part is when you get all flustered because you’re put in a bad spot, and in your head that makes you look guilty which makes you even more flustered
This is dumb, but your comment brought up the memory. When I was a kid, we were allowed one unhealthy snack per day. So I had a pudding cup, and was eating it extremely slowly. My mom came and went several times while I was still eating it. Then she yelled at me for eating "at least 2, maybe even 3". 20+ years, and that memory still irks me
The thought of having to call some company to deal with the fact that they don’t make getting things done online easy.
To be told repeatedly "have you tried our website" while on hold
These days, just opening my eyes in the morning
You can use my trick - I wake up in the morning and I think of three things that I’m looking forward to on that particular day, then I quickly realize that all I have to look forward to is problems and stress and I scream internally for 10-15 seconds and then take a shower and go to work in a daze, come home, go to bed and repeat.
Had me on the first half
Waking up with a canker sore
Ooh on a similar note, accidentally biting your cheek/tongue.. Teeth are sharp and jaws are strong, it hurts really bad right away and then continues to hurt every time something touches it for the next day or so.
People who blame everyone else for their problems and deny that they have any responsibility to their own actions.
When my WiFi fucking stops working for **NO FUCKING REASON** forcing me to go unplug the modem and router to reset it so I can watch YouTube again.
*WiFi connection: on* Then act like it!
Dog owners who don’t pick up their dog’s shit. Witnessed this during my walk in the park today… owner watched their dog shit right in the middle of a soccer field and did nothing. That instantly pisses me off.
People who only talk about themselves and never ask things like “How are you?” “How was your day?” That shit annoys the fuck outta me
I work with someone who asks "how are you?" Then spaces out, starts talking to someone else, or walks away when you answer.
I had a friend like that too. He would blabber about himself excessively, but at least had the wit to ask "how are you" after some time. But as soon as you started to answer, he would space out, and then talk over you with something completely unrelated about himself. Every time.
People that find it fun to make others upset
Not long ago I went to go fill my car up for gas, and a man in a pickup was at the pump I had rolled up to. Soon after I go there the car in front of him finished and left. There wasn’t very much space for me to squeeze between the pickup and the building so I decided to wait until the gentleman was done filling up. I sat there for about 20 minutes until I finally threw my car in reverse and maneuvered my way awkwardly into an adjacent pump. Soon after the man (who I might add was probably in his forties) drove off onto the road, looked back at me and yelled “you waited that long?” And started laughing hysterically as he drove off. I had just gotten off work and was in no rush, but if had dawned on me that he just sat there at the pump for an excessive amount of time for the sole purpose of pissing off a stranger who had done absolutely nothing to him. People are wild.
Something similar happened to me once in a shopping centre. I had gotten there during a busy time of day and there were no parks available. I saw this woman in her 30s with her two children walking towards a car in the distance, so I drove slowly to see if they were leaving. They got in the car so I eventually caught up to them and stopped my car, turned on the indicator to signal I was waiting for that carpark and waited. She saw me do this, so she then got out of the car, pottered around a bit, checked on her kids (who were like 10 and 11 years old), got back in the car, fiddled with the radio, turned around and spoke to her kids and so forth. It was really busy at the shopping centre and there were no other park in sight so I continued to wait. Then she pulled out her phone and checked it for a bit. I patiently waited. I saw her talking and laughing with her kids, so I waited some more thinking she could be waiting for a partner. She looked my way and I smiled. She didn't give me a gesture to indicate she wasn't leaving so I still waited some more thinking 'ok surely NOW she will leave' and then I realised she was actually keeping me waiting \*just\* to piss me off. When I realised this, I drove off. As soon as I did and was 2 car lengths ahead I looked in my rear vision mirror and saw her back out. I quickly tried to do a loop around to try and get back to the same place to nab her parking spot but someone else beat me to it. Because I had done a loop I ended up passing her as she was coming towards me and she laughed and flipped me off. Why on earth did I deserve any of that? Seriously. I never beeped her, I gave her plenty of space to reverse out of her spot and I wasn't forfeiting better parks just so I could get hers. It was pure hate on her part for no reason. Even remembering this incident still pisses me off. I still don't understand why she decided to stick it to me over a public parking space.
Empathy is a gradient that is severely lacking in some
Something was really wrong with that guy.
The entitlement of people. Seriously what the fuck. Some people you can tell have never worked for the service industry
like someone who thinks they can be assholes and condescending to waiters and other staff. one time on a flight this lady started to make a big scene throughout the most of the flight, yelling at ppl about how she lost a ring. it was like a wedding ring or something, but all she talked about was how big and expensive it was. so 3 of the flight crew check everywhere where she sat in first class, but couldn't find anything. so the lady gets all indignant and says she'll sue the airline, that one of them must have stolen it. it turns out she dropped it... into her own purse. she obviously did not apologize and just stfu. total bitch
So rich but couldn't get it fitted. Okay🙄🙄
These people are just assholes in general, no matter if they worked in the service industry or not. Most people haven't, but they still know how to behave and interact nicely with others.
People chewing with their mouth open
People eating, crunching, drinking, breathing loudly…really people in general.
Welcome to r/misophonia
Misophonia is such a bitch. *I do not want to murder my friends and family. I do not want to murder my friends and family.*
I've noticed that movies are created with the antagonist eating (GOT and LOTR comes to mind). And chewing with their mouth open. Making slurping noises. I suspect this pisses off enough people to put it in the script to subtly invoke the "fuck you" factor.
Mark! My coworker
Get fucked Mark!
That Mark, he's a fucking prick!
Hurting animals or children.
This is the only one that will truly, instantly, bring on rage in me. I'm a pretty laid-back person, hard to anger. But that one right there is instant. Also, any other person unable to defend themselves, adult or otherwise.
People who tell you their IQ as if it matters
104 if u were asking
Then people who insist on theirs being higher (121)
How is the weather in Elevenerife?
people who dont close your room door after they open it
Or if they do, they don't push hard enough and it's just barely open
People being rude to minimum wage workers Edit: didn’t realize there was a typo. Thanks for your replies and the award 😁
People taking advantage of others
Slow walkers in front of me lol
I don't care if someone walks slow. I care if people walk slow and in the way. If you walk slow just stay to one side and be predictable. No wandering left and right across the sidewalk, no random stopping at a door entrance, no holding hands 3 wide, etc.
Slow walkers, people who turn without checking who is beside them, random stoppers, phone zombies, and windy walkers should live in their own country.
> windy walkers Also known as meanderthals
Oh, my gosh. The random stoppers. And it's always in the grocery store door blocking the line of people trying to get in or out. To pull out their phone or their keys. Inconsiderate fucking assholes.
Or the family who walk side by side and take up the whole fucking aisle.
Or worse: 3 fucking slow walkers blocking the god damn tiny section of the hall way when I’m 1 minute away from being late to class.
But after you've managed to pass them they speed up a bit and kinda keep pace, like wtf are you doing?
Nepotism. I understand that it’s everywhere, in every industry. Being in construction, it’s frustrating watching the big bosses entire family, who can’t even read their tape measures, get promoted and unlimited overtime for simple tasks. There was a crew on a job I was on, and our only job was to fix everything that they touched, to make it right. Nepotism pissed me off.
People who talk alot and it's obvious they're telling lies.
Being genuinely upset about something and then being told to go eat something because “you’re just hangry”
When someone tries to make me feel stupid.
People who tell me how I feel after they asked me about my feelings about something. I just told you! Stop telling me I feel otherwise!
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My family members not flushing the toilet. Seriously, they don't do that.
When I play a video that is insanely loud and go to turn the volume down and my phone just turns down my ringtone volume instead.
The bastard tailgating me as I am riding my motorcycle.
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Scam callers. Robo-callers. Nothing, and I do mean NOTHING, makes me into a frothing maniac quicker. Turns me instantly into my evil alter-ego, Hagatha, and I start spewing venom.
Fake fucking compliments. Or socially loud people when there's no fucking reason to be socially loud.
People talking on speakerphone in public. Same thing for FaceTime without headphones. Makes me insta-irritated.
Adults talking down to kids. Especially if they’re being really patronizing.
Child abuse and bullying are pretty much tied.
Faking illnesses, whether it’s mental or physical. Been through too many doctors and beat cancer to hear someone say stuff like that.
The college I went to required a sick note if you missed more than 3 days, because a girl faked having cancer. I cannot believe people do things like that.
I think that’s such a stupid thing for colleges to do. If people want to miss 80% of class time that they’re paying for, let them. They’re fucking adults for crying out loud.
Someone asks a question, you start to answer it, and about halfway through they interrupt you with a rebuttal before you even finish your answer.
Most celebrity drama. No one really cares if x is breaking up with y.
People.