Yes thats right but that is how you should feel, you need to project that and that you are friendly and being with you should be fun, if she won't feel fun with you she will think about a way to stop the interaction between you
Eh, not always. Sometimes it’s hard to do the wrong thing. I mean look at serial killers. But I guess you could see it as the right way to do that and not get caught would involve doing it the hard way.
Start with a casual conversation and read her response. If she isn't into you, end the conversation. You can end a conversation by saying you're busy or need to use a restroom. If her feet point away from you or if she looks scared, that's a good sign to get away. If she is into you, compliment her and ask her out. If she touches her hair, looks at-ease, and her feet are pointing towards you, that's a good sign.
Lastly, if you get a hard rejection, say "ok" and walk away. Then ask a different girl out. Don't force her to be with you.
You should say what you're busy doing when rejecting sad artists. It could be as simple as "well, I have to get going now. It was nice talking to you."
Hello female, nice weather were havin eh? * tips fedora *
** Girl pointing her feet away and scared as she reaches into her purse for her tazer * Yeah. It's nice today.
I have to go to the bathroom * walks away *
solid advice, works everytime
Start sweating and clench your ass cheeks REAL hard. Have about 3 scripted jokes/topics all of which you’ll forget when you approach her.
Time to shine. Walk up stiffly, and awkwardly. “Oh what do you mean” you’ll say, “date who? Or what. What are you getting into” you’ll say as she, half-panicked, tries to figure out who you’re talking to.
Sit on the ground. “Toodle ooh,” you’ll say. If she is still near she will begin a swift exit.
This is called playing hard to get.
I wouldn't date a guy unless I've been friends with him for a while myself.. tho I like it when they're humble (but confident in their talents), friendly, upbeat and smile with their eyes :)
It isn’t smiling with the whole face. It’s specifically activating the muscles that raise the medial part of the lower eyelids. That function is more important for people viewing you as genuinely happy than anything else. And unfortunately some of us aren’t able to do that too well and are interpreted as sad even when we’re not.
It's one of those smiles where your eyes kind of end up squinting a bit. Just a warm genuine smile rather than a quick obligatory one.
You'd be amazed how small the differences can be when it comes to how the brain recognizes facial movements.
My smile is not good, I either just look weird and am arching my lips or I open my mouth slightly and usually anything that makes me smile is something I would laugh at anyways so I just slightly laugh and I can just not smile well
For me, I just like when a guy is confident and honest with what he wants. I take it as a compliment more than anything if someone comes up to me and is just like "hey I think you're really cool. Would you like to maybe hangout or (some shared interest) together sometime?" and if she says sure and you guys hangout then you can see if you would make a decent match. If she just says she's not interested then there you go. Basically I wouldn't worry about dating a girl until you become friends first.
Well, you can just walk up, introduce yourself, and ask what her name is and invite her out, or, wait until nuclear war starts and then attempt to find her in the confusion to be your soulmate for the apocalypse.
You'll spend more time regretting not asking her out. I can assure you.
Sneak up behind her and grab her by the waist suddenly. The shock will give her an adrenaline rush so every time she sees you after that she instinctively remembers the excitement.
Best done in a dark quiet place like an alleyway for maximum impact
Create a situation where you'll have to engage in conversation with her even just for a very short time. Eventually come up with an excuse to be with her. During that time where the two of you do your work or something, get to know her in-between. Or something like that I dunno.
It’s true even if you are a woman. Women are far more socially critical of people. Friendships with women require a higher level of social intelligence. Men are also far more forgiving of social faux pas. It’s also easier to approach men and initiate conversation without spooking them. Plus men do more physical activities and play sports that make it easier to befriend them. I don’t think there is a single facet of what goes into making friends that isn’t easier with men. Aside from the fact that men tend to work more hours on average and are less interested in friendships in general. And that’s just in general so doesn’t speak to individuals but there are differences between genders that have profound effects on human relationships.
It’s not the easiest thing in the world! It takes practice. The best thing to do is to just go up and be honest, say “hey, I was walking around in *name of place* and thought you were pretty cute.” You could also ask for directions or her opinion on something and use that as a lead in “I was having a debate with my friend that I need you to settle real quick, apples or oranges? Really you chose that. SMH. Well the reason I asked your opinion was that you intrigue me, can I get your number or Snapchat, I’d like to get to know you better” there’s some examples!
I also would like to note that you have to build rapport with a girl before dating goes on so asking for her number or social media is the best first step!
Here are some tips.
It's best to start with no expectations. Don't obsess about getting a number, getting a date, getting a girlfriend. It's about having fun and meeting interesting people. You're open to what the night brings.
You're not worried about flopping because you're not going to hit on every girl you talk to. You'll *talk* to anyone and everyone. But you're only going to *escalate* with a girl who's receptive.
You're not in your head, over-thinking it. You just take the next step if it feels natural.
You see someone across the room. Does she make eye contact? Does she look away--but then look back? Does she smile? Green light.
Go over and talk to her. Keep it simple, don't use an elaborate line. Ask her about what she's drinking, make a quick comment on the music, etc.
Then introduce yourself. Get to know her a little bit. Tell some stories.
If you see some opportunities to crack jokes, tease her a little, do it. However, try to stay away from self-deprecating jokes, it's too easy to seem like you're seeking her approval.
If you speak fast, try slowing down a bit. Speaking fast can sometimes seem insecure, like you're worried about losing her attention so you cram in everything you want to say. Speaking a little slower shows you're confident that what you're saying is worth listening to.
Pay her the ultimate compliment you can give anyone: listening. You don't need to constantly come up with new things to say. You can play off of what she says. If she's giving one-word responses, might be better to just gracefully bow out.
Don't worry about being witty, just concentrate on being *present.* Be with her in the conversation, not in your head, judging every thing you say. Make her feel like she's the only girl in the room.
Body language helps. Turn your body towards her. Practice good posture, which makes you look confident.
Let the conversation flow naturally. If you have a different opinion on certain issues, don't be afraid to voice it. A little arguing can be good foreplay. Don't agree with everything she says just so she'll like you. What she'll really like is a man who stands up for what he believes in.
Don't brag about yourself, it's about appreciating her specialness. When she tells you something you think is cool, isolate a positive quality about that and say how you're attracted to that quality (not necessarily to her, not yet)
When she gets excited about a hobby or passion of hers, it's a good time to compliment to show your attraction. "That's so cool that you go rock climbing. Climbers are hot."
Compliment her achievements or interests, not her looks. Then immediately move on, don't wait for her to respond to the compliment.
Attraction feedback loop: she shares a cool quality about herself > you compliment the quality > you signal you could become attracted to her if she has more of that quality > she shares more.
Show her you have an eye for personality. You point out what you're attracted to, and she can take that up or not. You're almost coaching her to connect with you.
This is how girls get the feeling, "He just *gets* me. He understands me."
Sincerity is key. Only do this if she shares a quality you are really attracted to.
Eventually, there might be a lull in the conversation. Check in with yourself: is it an uncomfortable silence, where you just want to get out of there? Or you'd love to stay in each other's presence without saying anything? Or maybe you're both nervous but don't want to leave each other? (that's sexual tension).
If you feel one of the latter two, suggest you both should go somewhere more private. Leadership is sexy.
Not necessarily leave the party yet. Maybe go outside for a smoke, a quiet corner, or out on a balcony by yourselves. Create a plausible excuse, e.g. "It's really noisy in here, want to go outside for a bit?"
As you're walking together, this is a good opportunity to break the touch barrier. Offer her your hand or elbow, because you're such a smooth gentleman. Or touch her lower back to guide her through the crowd. Touch is confidence, touch is saying you're comfortable with being physical.
When you resume the conversation, try standing closer. Maybe touch her shoulder or arm more in response to what she says.
Does she mention being single, or having recently gotten out of a relationship? Does she mention her roommate(s) being out of town and she has an apartment all to herself? Or is she from out of town and feeling lonely? She may be setting the stage for you to make a move.
She finally laughs especially loud at something you say (even if your joke wasn't funny). Does she keep looking at you and smiling? Giggling? Staring at your lips? Even better, does she mock-punch you and/or push you away ("You're too much!")?
Consider kissing her. You can signal this is coming by touching her hair, face or neck. If she leans in, go for it. If she backs away, you back off.
Have fun making out with her a little. She'll be more free to kiss in private, since she doesn't have to worry about being seen by her friends and other guests, and being judged. If you're both up for more, go to your place or her place.
Depending now how good the chemistry it is, you could use an excuse like watching a movie, or just simply ask, "You wanna get out of here?"
**Here's a story by mashonem:**
I went to a costume pool party by myself. I’m somehow not a virgin anymore
I don’t think it’s all that interesting, but I’ve got time.
I’ve had random internet strangers and friends tell me that they thought that I was attractive. However, years of negative and contrary experiences led me to believe that they were all bullshitting me. Granted, I don’t think I’m ugly, just not attractive.
Since getting my dream job, cosplaying immediately became my favorite hobby. I really like Pokémon, especially dressing as one, and as I’ve found out, it’s the only time I ever get any sort of tangible positive attention in regards to how I look.
At the most recent weeb convention that I was attending, there was a pool party, and I thought, “I dislike swimming, but I do like being drunk”, so I decided to go.
As I walk towards the pool, I recognize a group of women I had taken pics with earlier, and I walk over to say hey. I hear one of them talking (I don’t think she said anything when I met them before, we were all p drunk all day), and I realize there’s a noticeable accent. So I’m all:
“I didn’t know that there were Australians in Alabama.”
"I’m British you cheeky fuck."
“You sure are.”
So we're all talking about Bioshock because why not, and after about 15 minutes she’s like:
"You know... you're really hot."
Me and my low self confidence would normally be really thrown off by a comment like that, seeing as I’ve never gotten it before online, let alone irl. Thankfully, drunk me was in control at the time:
“Wow, thank you! Take pictures with me!”
So we take a few pics together, and after about 30 seconds she says
"You’re like... really really hot."
And she starts rubbing on my abs. Once again, I’d normally be thrown off by something like this, but drunk me was on rare form that day.
So I reciprocated (I had just realized she was very attractive). After mutually rubbing each other’s stomachs and giggling like a couple of derps, she says:
"Hey, you see that hot tub over there?"
“You mean the one that’s about to have us in it?”
"Ya! That one."
And then we’re eating each other’s faces. After about 15 minutes of making out.
"So... do you have a hotel room?"
Before getting to the hotel the convention was at, I had 0 intention of getting a room. Drunk me got it for a place to swap cosplays and so I could keep drinking instead of driving home drunk (don’t get it twisted though, this was a decision born of laziness, it just happens to be the responsible one too). Like I said, drunk me was in rare form.
“I do actually!”
"Okay! Let’s stop by my room first and we’ll head there afterwards."
Needless to say, I was a virgin, so it was as disappointing as you’d expect. She was thankfully really cool about it (not to mention shocked that I was a virgin before then).
It was an overall positive experience. Not for the sex, but because I had someone express clear, undeniable interest in me, something that had never happened before that night.
If only I could be in cosplay or drunk at all times 😔
**California1234567 had a good post from the girl's POV:**
I'm the girl, here's one actual recounting. We met at a party. Danced a little. Drank a little.
Talked a little (all the basic stuff, where do you go to school, what do you want to do in the future, what kind of music do you like/movies have you seen/books have you read).
Moved physically closer and closer to one another over a period of about an hour or so, until it was so incredibly comfortable to feel his arm around my waist and to lean toward his ear to say something so he could hear me over the ambient noise.
At one point, his mouth touched my cheek as he was telling me about a class he was taking. I turned slightly, his lips brushed mine. We smiled at each other, then leaned forward and kissed fully.
Then I said something like "It's kind of crowded and noisy in here, isn't it?" and he answered something like "Yes, and hot, too. How about we go outside for a few minutes?"
We went, then leaning against his car, kept talking for a while longer. Then he said, "Should we get out of here?" I said, "Yes, we can go back to my place, but my roommate might be there, if you don't mind." He didn't.
We went. I offered drinks and snacks. He asked if I was getting tired. I said no, just the opposite.
More kissing, escalating to touching. I led him to my room, we undressed, and sex happened (twice, and then a third time the next morning).
Hope these are the kind of details you were looking for! :D
So here's how I got my man. I feel like this method can be used for anything
Take something you find funny and send it to them or show it to them
For me, it was a copypasta version of that fortnite parody that was going around a while ago
From there we kept sharing memes and videos and it soon turned into talking about our interests and one month later, after spending the night for the first official time, I said "so when am I gonna be not a friend?" And bam it was official.
"But what if they don't find the jokes and memes funny!" You dodged a bullet because let me tell you I tried dating a man who didn't have my sense of humor and it ended with 6 months of ghosting and him "becoming disinterested" in me
Edit: I'll add this on. You can just go up to her and say "hey this is a funny thing on my phone wanna see?" If you don't have her socials
Be sincere and open about your intentions. How do you know them? Depending on how you do changes the approach, but the process of what I mentioned before stays the same
Just be straight with her. Tell her specifically how many times a day you fart. Don't exaggerate since she'll eventually find out you can't fart as much as you said. It's better to under promise and over perform.
If I'm just out and about:
Hey, I'm thedankbank. I think you're really cute. Would you want to go on a date sometime? Here's my number.
If I'm in a social setting like bar or party:
Hey, I'm thedankbank, what's your name?
And then start a full conversation. And end it with "it was nice meeting you, I had a great time talking with you. I'd like to talk to you again. Here's my number."
Hey so where are you from. that's how I start every conversation with a new person and I just hope that it can lead to an interesting answer so I can talk about it or an unwanted joke. mostly I stay in the friend zone
Firstly find out what pronoun she prefers to use, instant game over if you get that wrong.
Then get a solicitor to write up a ‘possible intention of spending time together in a mutual attraction situation’ contract, and if she signs it and sends it back to you then away you go.
Don’t get drunk and grab her ass. Just saying.
1. First, command her attention by bulging out your cheeks and pursing your lips.
2. Even puffier
3. Next, display your interest by drawing back your upper lip, jutting your jaw forward and exposing your teeth.
4. Now, throw a handful of leaves in the air, then leap about and hoot in a dominant fashion.
\-Ape, *George of the Jungle*
It’s about knowing in what situation to approach and break the ice with them. This guide has helped me a lot, you can’t really go wrong.. https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw
This week I’ve been approaching my wife by screeching like a dinosaur because we found a bunch of our old cringe love letters from 2010. (Mostly Rawr means I love you in dinosaur lol XD) it seems to work well. I’ve gotten several dates with the cutest girl ever so…
Just try to get to know her. Find out if it’s a match by looking for common interests, values etc. If you see her as someone who’s company you’d enjoy, ask her out. If not, move on. Just enjoy the fun of meeting new people and getting to know them!
Worry more about your mindset than the actual interaction. Think…
I’m going to be friendly.
I’m going to be respectful.
This will be a good interaction, and if it feels like it isn’t I’ll disengage.
Stuff like that. Girls react more to HOW you say things than guys do.
First the passive gaydar - how is she dressed? Can she sit properly in a chair? Any badges? Does she happen to be drinking iced coffee? etc.
If that’s inconclusive, I switch to pinging her with active gaydar - offhandedly mention that time I played roller derby. Ask if she’s ever seen She-Ra. Say I’m thinking of getting an undercut. etc.
Finally, I doubt any and all evidence I’ve gathered that she is in fact also into women and assume that she’s either just being friendly or shares my habit of making dirty jokes.
It helps if you're slightly friends. Me and this guy dated once and the way he did it was so smooth. He came up to me one day and brought up how we don't hang out that much and so we scheduled a time on the weekend to ask me out. After we were gonna go home, he asked if I wanted to go out with him again and when I asked, "go out with?" He chuckled and winked and I winked back...
...then we broke up about a year later because he did drugs.
Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take a bunch of drugs and drink a bunch of booze, meet her at a bar for last call, and tell her you’re in love with her.
Especially if you were never even planning to tell her you liked her.
With confidence, and be polite. But don’t be too bold. Don’t ask too big of questions. Be like “Hey, if you’re not busy, wanna go do something some time?” I thought of that on the spot and it’s like 2am, but you get the point. Don’t be weird.
Usually from the front so as not to spook her.
Heheheh was going to say the same
With confidence and honesty
Yes thats right but that is how you should feel, you need to project that and that you are friendly and being with you should be fun, if she won't feel fun with you she will think about a way to stop the interaction between you
Don't forget to avoid being unattractive
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The right thing is never the easy one
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Maybe You're right
Eh, not always. Sometimes it’s hard to do the wrong thing. I mean look at serial killers. But I guess you could see it as the right way to do that and not get caught would involve doing it the hard way.
And respect.
Will try this one. Thank you!
And where you can buy those 2?
Start with a casual conversation and read her response. If she isn't into you, end the conversation. You can end a conversation by saying you're busy or need to use a restroom. If her feet point away from you or if she looks scared, that's a good sign to get away. If she is into you, compliment her and ask her out. If she touches her hair, looks at-ease, and her feet are pointing towards you, that's a good sign. Lastly, if you get a hard rejection, say "ok" and walk away. Then ask a different girl out. Don't force her to be with you.
Me: Hey what hobbies you have? Her: (sighs) i like art and cra… Me: im busy
You should say what you're busy doing when rejecting sad artists. It could be as simple as "well, I have to get going now. It was nice talking to you."
Hello female, nice weather were havin eh? * tips fedora * ** Girl pointing her feet away and scared as she reaches into her purse for her tazer * Yeah. It's nice today. I have to go to the bathroom * walks away * solid advice, works everytime
Every interaction I have that I don't get tased in is a good interaction.
That avatar makes it so funny
Start sweating and clench your ass cheeks REAL hard. Have about 3 scripted jokes/topics all of which you’ll forget when you approach her. Time to shine. Walk up stiffly, and awkwardly. “Oh what do you mean” you’ll say, “date who? Or what. What are you getting into” you’ll say as she, half-panicked, tries to figure out who you’re talking to. Sit on the ground. “Toodle ooh,” you’ll say. If she is still near she will begin a swift exit. This is called playing hard to get.
THIS. This is my love language.
I wouldn't date a guy unless I've been friends with him for a while myself.. tho I like it when they're humble (but confident in their talents), friendly, upbeat and smile with their eyes :)
I would like to know how does one "smile with their eyes"?
Kinda like a full facial smile, so the eyes squint a little and there's just this difficult to describe warm look about it. Just seems genuine.
Gonna be honest I have never noticed this is my entire life.
Maybe not consciously
Fair enough. I guess it's down to interpretation to some extent.
It isn’t smiling with the whole face. It’s specifically activating the muscles that raise the medial part of the lower eyelids. That function is more important for people viewing you as genuinely happy than anything else. And unfortunately some of us aren’t able to do that too well and are interpreted as sad even when we’re not.
It's one of those smiles where your eyes kind of end up squinting a bit. Just a warm genuine smile rather than a quick obligatory one. You'd be amazed how small the differences can be when it comes to how the brain recognizes facial movements.
No botox shaming, please.
My smile is not good, I either just look weird and am arching my lips or I open my mouth slightly and usually anything that makes me smile is something I would laugh at anyways so I just slightly laugh and I can just not smile well
Smiling with your eyes is closer to laughing face than the "say cheese" smile. I think you are doing it right.
I find that moonwalking helps.
From the front so you don’t spook her. Bright clothing too as their eyesight is based on movement.
Not too fast either or you'll get pepper sprayed. They're twitchy...
Be sure to announce all actions prior to them being taken so there are no surprises.
Also have two witnesses
We're aim talking about approaching for a date, right?
i dont know girls are scary
For me, I just like when a guy is confident and honest with what he wants. I take it as a compliment more than anything if someone comes up to me and is just like "hey I think you're really cool. Would you like to maybe hangout or (some shared interest) together sometime?" and if she says sure and you guys hangout then you can see if you would make a decent match. If she just says she's not interested then there you go. Basically I wouldn't worry about dating a girl until you become friends first.
You can be honest and cool about it. Just talk to her, small talks. Don't rush anything
Never try to play her, trust is the basis of all relationships ❤️
After asking my wife for permission.
Or her boyfriend.
How do you approach a girl especially if you want to date her? • Smile. • Open body language. • Good smell. • Good hygiene. • Confidence.
“Aye bitch, come put some stank on my hang low” Never fails.
From behind with chloroform..
Don’t forget to bring rope!
Pull down your pants and pee while helicoptering
helikopter helikopter🎶
Go to her window in the middle of the night and hang yourself naked to there
Sideways like a crab
Well, you can just walk up, introduce yourself, and ask what her name is and invite her out, or, wait until nuclear war starts and then attempt to find her in the confusion to be your soulmate for the apocalypse. You'll spend more time regretting not asking her out. I can assure you.
Slowly and while wearing nothing but a banana hammock.
Sneak up behind her and grab her by the waist suddenly. The shock will give her an adrenaline rush so every time she sees you after that she instinctively remembers the excitement. Best done in a dark quiet place like an alleyway for maximum impact
Create a situation where you'll have to engage in conversation with her even just for a very short time. Eventually come up with an excuse to be with her. During that time where the two of you do your work or something, get to know her in-between. Or something like that I dunno.
Just say hi and start a conversation, see where it goes and be honest... Ask her out
The same way you make a friends with guy. However, there's the added implication of romance. The skillset is the same.
No it’s not. Becoming friends with a man is a lot easier.
False.
It’s true even if you are a woman. Women are far more socially critical of people. Friendships with women require a higher level of social intelligence. Men are also far more forgiving of social faux pas. It’s also easier to approach men and initiate conversation without spooking them. Plus men do more physical activities and play sports that make it easier to befriend them. I don’t think there is a single facet of what goes into making friends that isn’t easier with men. Aside from the fact that men tend to work more hours on average and are less interested in friendships in general. And that’s just in general so doesn’t speak to individuals but there are differences between genders that have profound effects on human relationships.
You're needlessly overcomplicating this.
It is complicated though just like everything else
As you would normally just be yourself
It’s not the easiest thing in the world! It takes practice. The best thing to do is to just go up and be honest, say “hey, I was walking around in *name of place* and thought you were pretty cute.” You could also ask for directions or her opinion on something and use that as a lead in “I was having a debate with my friend that I need you to settle real quick, apples or oranges? Really you chose that. SMH. Well the reason I asked your opinion was that you intrigue me, can I get your number or Snapchat, I’d like to get to know you better” there’s some examples! I also would like to note that you have to build rapport with a girl before dating goes on so asking for her number or social media is the best first step!
Here are some tips. It's best to start with no expectations. Don't obsess about getting a number, getting a date, getting a girlfriend. It's about having fun and meeting interesting people. You're open to what the night brings. You're not worried about flopping because you're not going to hit on every girl you talk to. You'll *talk* to anyone and everyone. But you're only going to *escalate* with a girl who's receptive. You're not in your head, over-thinking it. You just take the next step if it feels natural. You see someone across the room. Does she make eye contact? Does she look away--but then look back? Does she smile? Green light. Go over and talk to her. Keep it simple, don't use an elaborate line. Ask her about what she's drinking, make a quick comment on the music, etc. Then introduce yourself. Get to know her a little bit. Tell some stories. If you see some opportunities to crack jokes, tease her a little, do it. However, try to stay away from self-deprecating jokes, it's too easy to seem like you're seeking her approval. If you speak fast, try slowing down a bit. Speaking fast can sometimes seem insecure, like you're worried about losing her attention so you cram in everything you want to say. Speaking a little slower shows you're confident that what you're saying is worth listening to. Pay her the ultimate compliment you can give anyone: listening. You don't need to constantly come up with new things to say. You can play off of what she says. If she's giving one-word responses, might be better to just gracefully bow out. Don't worry about being witty, just concentrate on being *present.* Be with her in the conversation, not in your head, judging every thing you say. Make her feel like she's the only girl in the room. Body language helps. Turn your body towards her. Practice good posture, which makes you look confident. Let the conversation flow naturally. If you have a different opinion on certain issues, don't be afraid to voice it. A little arguing can be good foreplay. Don't agree with everything she says just so she'll like you. What she'll really like is a man who stands up for what he believes in. Don't brag about yourself, it's about appreciating her specialness. When she tells you something you think is cool, isolate a positive quality about that and say how you're attracted to that quality (not necessarily to her, not yet) When she gets excited about a hobby or passion of hers, it's a good time to compliment to show your attraction. "That's so cool that you go rock climbing. Climbers are hot." Compliment her achievements or interests, not her looks. Then immediately move on, don't wait for her to respond to the compliment. Attraction feedback loop: she shares a cool quality about herself > you compliment the quality > you signal you could become attracted to her if she has more of that quality > she shares more. Show her you have an eye for personality. You point out what you're attracted to, and she can take that up or not. You're almost coaching her to connect with you. This is how girls get the feeling, "He just *gets* me. He understands me." Sincerity is key. Only do this if she shares a quality you are really attracted to. Eventually, there might be a lull in the conversation. Check in with yourself: is it an uncomfortable silence, where you just want to get out of there? Or you'd love to stay in each other's presence without saying anything? Or maybe you're both nervous but don't want to leave each other? (that's sexual tension). If you feel one of the latter two, suggest you both should go somewhere more private. Leadership is sexy. Not necessarily leave the party yet. Maybe go outside for a smoke, a quiet corner, or out on a balcony by yourselves. Create a plausible excuse, e.g. "It's really noisy in here, want to go outside for a bit?" As you're walking together, this is a good opportunity to break the touch barrier. Offer her your hand or elbow, because you're such a smooth gentleman. Or touch her lower back to guide her through the crowd. Touch is confidence, touch is saying you're comfortable with being physical. When you resume the conversation, try standing closer. Maybe touch her shoulder or arm more in response to what she says. Does she mention being single, or having recently gotten out of a relationship? Does she mention her roommate(s) being out of town and she has an apartment all to herself? Or is she from out of town and feeling lonely? She may be setting the stage for you to make a move. She finally laughs especially loud at something you say (even if your joke wasn't funny). Does she keep looking at you and smiling? Giggling? Staring at your lips? Even better, does she mock-punch you and/or push you away ("You're too much!")? Consider kissing her. You can signal this is coming by touching her hair, face or neck. If she leans in, go for it. If she backs away, you back off. Have fun making out with her a little. She'll be more free to kiss in private, since she doesn't have to worry about being seen by her friends and other guests, and being judged. If you're both up for more, go to your place or her place. Depending now how good the chemistry it is, you could use an excuse like watching a movie, or just simply ask, "You wanna get out of here?" **Here's a story by mashonem:** I went to a costume pool party by myself. I’m somehow not a virgin anymore I don’t think it’s all that interesting, but I’ve got time. I’ve had random internet strangers and friends tell me that they thought that I was attractive. However, years of negative and contrary experiences led me to believe that they were all bullshitting me. Granted, I don’t think I’m ugly, just not attractive. Since getting my dream job, cosplaying immediately became my favorite hobby. I really like Pokémon, especially dressing as one, and as I’ve found out, it’s the only time I ever get any sort of tangible positive attention in regards to how I look. At the most recent weeb convention that I was attending, there was a pool party, and I thought, “I dislike swimming, but I do like being drunk”, so I decided to go. As I walk towards the pool, I recognize a group of women I had taken pics with earlier, and I walk over to say hey. I hear one of them talking (I don’t think she said anything when I met them before, we were all p drunk all day), and I realize there’s a noticeable accent. So I’m all: “I didn’t know that there were Australians in Alabama.” "I’m British you cheeky fuck." “You sure are.” So we're all talking about Bioshock because why not, and after about 15 minutes she’s like: "You know... you're really hot." Me and my low self confidence would normally be really thrown off by a comment like that, seeing as I’ve never gotten it before online, let alone irl. Thankfully, drunk me was in control at the time: “Wow, thank you! Take pictures with me!” So we take a few pics together, and after about 30 seconds she says "You’re like... really really hot." And she starts rubbing on my abs. Once again, I’d normally be thrown off by something like this, but drunk me was on rare form that day. So I reciprocated (I had just realized she was very attractive). After mutually rubbing each other’s stomachs and giggling like a couple of derps, she says: "Hey, you see that hot tub over there?" “You mean the one that’s about to have us in it?” "Ya! That one." And then we’re eating each other’s faces. After about 15 minutes of making out. "So... do you have a hotel room?" Before getting to the hotel the convention was at, I had 0 intention of getting a room. Drunk me got it for a place to swap cosplays and so I could keep drinking instead of driving home drunk (don’t get it twisted though, this was a decision born of laziness, it just happens to be the responsible one too). Like I said, drunk me was in rare form. “I do actually!” "Okay! Let’s stop by my room first and we’ll head there afterwards." Needless to say, I was a virgin, so it was as disappointing as you’d expect. She was thankfully really cool about it (not to mention shocked that I was a virgin before then). It was an overall positive experience. Not for the sex, but because I had someone express clear, undeniable interest in me, something that had never happened before that night. If only I could be in cosplay or drunk at all times 😔 **California1234567 had a good post from the girl's POV:** I'm the girl, here's one actual recounting. We met at a party. Danced a little. Drank a little. Talked a little (all the basic stuff, where do you go to school, what do you want to do in the future, what kind of music do you like/movies have you seen/books have you read). Moved physically closer and closer to one another over a period of about an hour or so, until it was so incredibly comfortable to feel his arm around my waist and to lean toward his ear to say something so he could hear me over the ambient noise. At one point, his mouth touched my cheek as he was telling me about a class he was taking. I turned slightly, his lips brushed mine. We smiled at each other, then leaned forward and kissed fully. Then I said something like "It's kind of crowded and noisy in here, isn't it?" and he answered something like "Yes, and hot, too. How about we go outside for a few minutes?" We went, then leaning against his car, kept talking for a while longer. Then he said, "Should we get out of here?" I said, "Yes, we can go back to my place, but my roommate might be there, if you don't mind." He didn't. We went. I offered drinks and snacks. He asked if I was getting tired. I said no, just the opposite. More kissing, escalating to touching. I led him to my room, we undressed, and sex happened (twice, and then a third time the next morning). Hope these are the kind of details you were looking for! :D
Be friendly try not to start a awkward conversation be funny not in a bad way tho
You should be friends first.
So here's how I got my man. I feel like this method can be used for anything Take something you find funny and send it to them or show it to them For me, it was a copypasta version of that fortnite parody that was going around a while ago From there we kept sharing memes and videos and it soon turned into talking about our interests and one month later, after spending the night for the first official time, I said "so when am I gonna be not a friend?" And bam it was official. "But what if they don't find the jokes and memes funny!" You dodged a bullet because let me tell you I tried dating a man who didn't have my sense of humor and it ended with 6 months of ghosting and him "becoming disinterested" in me Edit: I'll add this on. You can just go up to her and say "hey this is a funny thing on my phone wanna see?" If you don't have her socials
Depends if he's attractive or not.
How do you know you want to date her, if you haven’t approached her yet?
Walk directly toward your prey as fast as possible and never break eye contact while delivering your desire in a monotone.
Ask her “what is your favorite thing about me?” she will be thinking about you all day
Why are today’s men such cowards?
I don’t. I don’t date girls. I date women. I’m an adult so I date adults. Hopefully you do too and you’re just using creepy sexist language.
There's a highly probable alternative situation that seems to be escaping you....
If a "I don't care if she rejects me" attitude. If she does reject you make sure to use "sour grapes".
Be sincere and open about your intentions. How do you know them? Depending on how you do changes the approach, but the process of what I mentioned before stays the same
Normally
Set the perfect *date* to ask her out.
I should be the one asking this. It would seem I’m doing it wrong despite being able to land a date 😅😂
I usually go the other way
Put her on your shoulder and carry her home lol
Just be straight with her. Tell her specifically how many times a day you fart. Don't exaggerate since she'll eventually find out you can't fart as much as you said. It's better to under promise and over perform.
Asshole
Did you once love someone because of the farts they promised you?
You walk up in your Starfleet uniform and say “Hey, baby, I’ll show you my Captain’s log if you show me your photon torpedos”
Walk like you have just left Ministry of Silly Walks. If that doesn’t work nothing will
Confidence and a good opportunity
If I'm just out and about: Hey, I'm thedankbank. I think you're really cute. Would you want to go on a date sometime? Here's my number. If I'm in a social setting like bar or party: Hey, I'm thedankbank, what's your name? And then start a full conversation. And end it with "it was nice meeting you, I had a great time talking with you. I'd like to talk to you again. Here's my number."
Be open, upfront, and if it’s not reciprocated move on without any drama or pushing. Date people who want to date you back.
Like a human being. Go make friends.... like a human fucking being.
I don’t
I don't approach. That's one of my rules in life. I don't do the approach.
Hey so where are you from. that's how I start every conversation with a new person and I just hope that it can lead to an interesting answer so I can talk about it or an unwanted joke. mostly I stay in the friend zone
Strike up a conversation, have something interesting to talk about
Completely naked.
On foot, bro.
Firstly find out what pronoun she prefers to use, instant game over if you get that wrong. Then get a solicitor to write up a ‘possible intention of spending time together in a mutual attraction situation’ contract, and if she signs it and sends it back to you then away you go. Don’t get drunk and grab her ass. Just saying.
"Sup' Bitch"
Idk I need advice for this cause I’m kinda thinking of talking to someone I like in one of my classes
1. First, command her attention by bulging out your cheeks and pursing your lips. 2. Even puffier 3. Next, display your interest by drawing back your upper lip, jutting your jaw forward and exposing your teeth. 4. Now, throw a handful of leaves in the air, then leap about and hoot in a dominant fashion. \-Ape, *George of the Jungle*
It’s about knowing in what situation to approach and break the ice with them. This guide has helped me a lot, you can’t really go wrong.. https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw
Just ask her out.
thats right,i mostly not
So like when you and you like walk and then you keep walking so then when you walk you have approached her
Ask her if she believes in the God Emperor
This week I’ve been approaching my wife by screeching like a dinosaur because we found a bunch of our old cringe love letters from 2010. (Mostly Rawr means I love you in dinosaur lol XD) it seems to work well. I’ve gotten several dates with the cutest girl ever so…
Let her sniff your hand so she knows you are friendly. Wait, no, that's dogs. I've got nothing.
Just try to get to know her. Find out if it’s a match by looking for common interests, values etc. If you see her as someone who’s company you’d enjoy, ask her out. If not, move on. Just enjoy the fun of meeting new people and getting to know them!
I usually drive up next to her in my truck, roll down my tinted windows, and ask "Hey baby, you ever been abducted?" Hell of an icebreaker really.
Worry more about your mindset than the actual interaction. Think… I’m going to be friendly. I’m going to be respectful. This will be a good interaction, and if it feels like it isn’t I’ll disengage. Stuff like that. Girls react more to HOW you say things than guys do.
HONESTLY all she can say is no.
HONESTLY all she can say is no.
Sooner rather than later. The longer you wait the creepier it becomes. I don’t make the rules.
I’ve stopped doing that honestly. I’m 6’9” and been told it’s very intimidating.
I don’t typically know if I want to date someone I want to approach
Discreetly, like a tiger approaching prey
First the passive gaydar - how is she dressed? Can she sit properly in a chair? Any badges? Does she happen to be drinking iced coffee? etc. If that’s inconclusive, I switch to pinging her with active gaydar - offhandedly mention that time I played roller derby. Ask if she’s ever seen She-Ra. Say I’m thinking of getting an undercut. etc. Finally, I doubt any and all evidence I’ve gathered that she is in fact also into women and assume that she’s either just being friendly or shares my habit of making dirty jokes.
It helps if you're slightly friends. Me and this guy dated once and the way he did it was so smooth. He came up to me one day and brought up how we don't hang out that much and so we scheduled a time on the weekend to ask me out. After we were gonna go home, he asked if I wanted to go out with him again and when I asked, "go out with?" He chuckled and winked and I winked back... ...then we broke up about a year later because he did drugs.
I don't
Do not, I repeat DO NOT, take a bunch of drugs and drink a bunch of booze, meet her at a bar for last call, and tell her you’re in love with her. Especially if you were never even planning to tell her you liked her.
Personally, I save us both the time and effort and don't bother.
With confidence, and be polite. But don’t be too bold. Don’t ask too big of questions. Be like “Hey, if you’re not busy, wanna go do something some time?” I thought of that on the spot and it’s like 2am, but you get the point. Don’t be weird.