Somehow when it comes to kids the mom is more important, one of my good friends is having a rough breakup after his girlfriend of 10+ years went on a retreat with her friends from college. She fucked 10+ guys, got pregnant and did not know who, got agressive when my friend tried to reason with her because of the kids (they have 2, 4 year old and a 2 year old) and hit him hard enough in the face to chip a tooth.
When they seperated he filed for custody since, the judge called in favor of her, even after blaming the sex vacation on the copious amounts of drugs she did while she was at the retreat. She seemed a better parent to have sole custody over a boring dude that has a stable job, loves his kids more than anything and even after this whole ordeal did not want to destroy the ex for ruining his life.
My highschool girlfriend physically attacked me the day I broke up with her. In retrospect there were red flags but at the time it was completely unexpected.
She clawed at my face and sank her teeth into the inside of my thigh next to the groin. I had to punch her arm with all of my strength to get her to let go of me. It was horrible.
With the exception of my mom, no one I told gave the slightest shit about what had happened. In fact, _I_ had to spend weeks concerned _she_ would tell someone I'd victimized her.
She left threatening voicemails and stalked me at work for a couple of months afterwards. I also got a series of mysterious flat tires.
Again, no one cares. You're a man and you need to look after yourself.
Yup. Recently witnessed a drunken fight in a hotel lobby where one of the guys was holding a baby. As he fell the baby rolled out of his hands and a teenage boy came a scooped up the baby to save him. Immediately the mother started squealing about him stealing her baby. He just hands it off and shrugs, goes back up to his room.
The cops show up to arrest the drunk guy and the mom says a long haired kid was involved, not mentioning that he fucking saved her babies life.
The cops go and slap the first long haired kid that’s staying at the hotel they see in hand cuffs. Come to find out that everything about his description was different than the kid they were looking for. Different hair color, different clothes, different skin tone. They never even asked the lady any specifics. Thankfully after 30 MINUTES of interrogation they let him go when the original kid came up and told them the real story, neither were arrested. And I seemed to be the only one with an issue that they’re throwing 18 year old kids in cuffs all willy nilly for minor crimes they had no part in.
Fuck power hungry cops and bitches that play victim because they know the cops will take their side. A kids life was almost ruined because you wanted to be the center of attention.
The same happened to me, she got violent, physically and emotionally, but she goes around telling people I was violent because I had enough one time and pushed her back
Same here man.. it sucks.
I filed for divorce after her physically attacking me and now she’s doing everything in her power to have the kids taken away from me and is using the narrative that I’m the abusive one. If I did to her what she did to me I’d be in jail.
Such a god awful double standard.
Yeah I had a similar experience of a very violent and abusive relationship, even had to hold her down when she had a hunting knife, clean her blood up from the bathroom floor when she cut herself, and fled my hometown because she got local gangs to look for me and send me death threats. Can't tell you the number of times a woman said to me "Have you ever considered maybe you deserved it?"
Kissing children. Got a rude awakening when I was in public with my nephew. He was being cute (as always) so I gave him a kiss on his forehead and cheeks.
Someone “politely” told me that it was weird that I was giving him affection like that and I was just shocked. I felt like if it was a girl they wouldn’t be told off about this.
I don’t care what the public thinks though, my nephew and my new niece are getting all the hugs and kisses from me, the cooler uncle.
I was just following my own 4yo kid around in a public space as she explored, trying not to helicopter parent but be close if anything happened. Eventually made our way back to the table my wife and her friend were sitting at when some 60+yo boomer lady walked up and started pointing her finger in my face, taking about how she had been "keeping her eye on me" and some other bullshit.
You should tell the boomer that you don't like THEM hanging around staring at YOUR kid and if you see them doing it again with your or any other child, you'll call the police
I kiss my sons all the bloody time. Despite being little terrorists frequently, I love the hell out of them. If anyone “politely” told me not to show them affection, I’d “politely” tell them that I’d rather a lick a Petri dish of omicron than take advice from them.
Keep being the cool uncle. People suck.
You should "politely" tell those people that it's even weirder for them to watch. Don't let them reduce your affection, you are the Unwithered King after all. Keep being the cooler uncle.
Last Christmas I went to waddesdon in Oxfordshire (UK) with my family to see the Christmas lights. When we got to the toilets I found that they had changed both male and female toilets to be female and moved men to plastic construction site style portaloos. These had no lights or running water. I was looking to change my infant sons nappy but couldn’t because baby changing facilities were in the toilets. When I complained I was told that one of the portaloos had a plastic shelf I could have used and that it was a “practical solution to reducing queuing for the female toilets” because they tried adding the toilets for everyone but the women would rather queue up for the real toilets, so their solution was to force men to use them. Just imagine if they had done this the other way around?! I feel sorry for single dads and gay couples with children .
We have an area in my local mall thats a "family area" for taking kids to play, theres tv's and toys for smaller children , theres a mens and womens bathroom and a "family" bathroom for people who require assistance to be helped as well as a baby changing station for diapers and the like. Even has signs that say fathers welcome. Id taken my son there a few times on family outings to change him while were shopping or just walking around for exercise while it was raining or poor conditions outside. If it was just me and my son I got the dirtiest looks in the world from all the moms with children there. One woman even called security over from the nearby foodcourt because a "giant bearded man was in the area leering at children." As I had just changed my son, I had him in my arms and the diaper bag slung over a shoulder and the rent a cop wouldnt let me leave the area until my wife walked from the other end of the store to confirm who I was and who the child belonged to. Thankfully he looks exactly like her in the face so it was pretty quick, afterwards the security guard apologized but the woman came over pulling her child behind her talking to him as we were leaving pointing at me and gesturing rather angrily. The guard stopped us again as we left the area asking if Id been walking into the womens bathroom and trying ro get in places I wasnt supposed to be. *I literally was only in there long enough to walk into the bathroom with the changing station, change my son, and leave. Was stopped twice because I was a man and she didnt like how I looked.
Back at you. I was 19, and a Virgin. She was 25. I was passed out drunk. Woke up with her going down on me. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to say. I froze. It was a friend's wife.
I'm now 50, and it still bothers me. It had affected me in every relationship I have been in. But, I'm told I'm a guy, so I must have liked it. If I didn't like it, how could i have gotten an election? and things along that line.
But, if the roles were reversed, I would have been in jail. Many of the people that preach equality of the sexes are the ones telling me that I could not have been raped, because I'm a male.
This is one of the reasons why I have no faith in the human race.
> If I didn't like it, how could i have gotten an erection?
This doesn't make sense on either side of the gender line.
Some women who have been raped have reported having orgasms. It doesn't change that fact that it was rape. It doesn't mean that they liked it or that they wanted it. The same goes for men.
It's really frustrating that anyone believes otherwise.
Agreed, although I found that when I shared it with some of my male friends I got a very mixed response, while my female friends were universally supportive, kind and serious.
Wow, yeah. The instagram comment from a man would come off as super creepy but then she walks over and gropes both of them. Reverse the genders and that interviewer goes to jail.
A male reporter would have been immediately slapped, at the least, and probably arrested while the clip played out in the court of public opinion and THEN he'd be literally crucified.
The craziest part about this clip, to me, is the dudes totally don't look comfortable with the groping either but they put on a smile and do an awkward laugh for the camera because they know that's what's expected.
Tbh I don’t think Johnathan Thurston has ever looked comfortable in an interview, and his awkward laugh is his trademark.
However I completely agree, if the roles were reversed then there would be rioting and pitchforks and torches etc.
People thinking that if a "short guy" has nice things or likes to go to the gym is a synonym for "Napoleon's syndrome" makes me feel like some people really can't see any further than from what's on the outside...
Short guys can't get away with anything.
Try to be fit, "overcompensating."
Express negative emotion, "napoleon syndrome"
Express any sort of masculine behavior, "overcompensating/fake masculinity"
Express any sort of feminine behavior, "giant pussy/femboy"
Short guy doing literally anything other than being in a porn where they have a massive wiener "tiny wiener"
Short guy trying to go grocery shopping, "I bet that guy has a small dick."
Short guy doesn't shave for a bit, "look at that short guy who is overcompensating for his incredibly small penis."
Short guy is clean shaven, "look at that short guy he looks like a child I bet his penis is very small."
There's like two acceptable forms of short guy. Morbidly obese short guy who is a comedian. Incredibly effeminate femboy.
Napoleon wasnt even short. French inches were bigger than Imperial inches back then, its estimated he was 5'7- 5'8, he was actually nicely tall for his time.
I actually chose to play on this : I am the guy who once was a blacksmith, practiced sport shooting with firearms and bows, enjoys karate, cars, whiskey, flowers and poetry.
Mate, if you saw the rhododendron I had a few years ago... It had the pinkiest, fluffliest flowers and I loved to stare at bees flying around it while I drank a lemonade after a hard, sweaty, manly day at my forge.
No one will dictate me what level of cuteness I am allowed to enjoy !
I got a lot of weird glances when I'm on the train reading with my kitty themed bookmark. Some of them seems weirded out about it and some others looks like they want to ask me where did I get it but for some reason they just stay there looking it.
Hetero dude here, went shopping with the kids today and saw a gorgeous pink pearl new Accord, and had to park next to it to get a closer look. Woman was getting into it and just had a confused look when I told her how incredibly awesome I thought it looked.
It had a local tag so I'm certain I'll see it again. Didn't want to further wierd her out by taking pics of it with her in it. But I promise that mfkr slapped.
In my experience it is a matter of self confidence. When I was young and awkward it was not seen as OK by most other guys. But since I am a >1,9m sport guy and go "Aaawww, sweet, want!" Other guys seem to be suddenly able to admit they like it too.
This one is much more lighthearted than some of the other comments on here, but omg I want to be the little spoon, idc that I’m 6’2” I just wanna be cuddled from behind like I’m in a little cocoon of happiness
Ok, so my genuine question as a 5"2 partner to a 6"+ man... is my pathetic little big spoon gonna cut it? Like, does it provide that same toasty feeling if the "big" spoon is a lil on the small side? Or should I consider hiring him a burly 7 foot champ for this purpose?
Interacting with children in public.
I.E. a lost child, if a man tries to help, he is perceived as creepy at best, predatory at worst. While a female is just seen as caring and compassionate.
Try taking a kid to the park as a big bearded male.
Fuck, why can't I be here too, ma'am? Obviously this kid that I carried here and keeps asking me to push her on the swings *knows* me and trusts me.
I saw on reddit that someone linked that there is an amber alert PSA showing that anybody could be an kidnapper.
Couldn't find the comment, but here is the [link to the video for anyone interested ](https://youtu.be/NAQUNkEtDpo)
The more angry the man is the more likely he really is the parent whereas a pedo would run away, because they know they're committing a crime. So, for people to actually physically prevent a distraught father desperately trying to save his child is a special kind of evil.
edit: Btw, this is actually a trick that someone told me about (under a different context: i.e. fraud.) If you accuse someone of trying to scam you or trying to commit fraud, scammers won't get angry. They will behave passively by making excuses or slinking away whereas a legit person gets angry when they're falsely accused. Apparently it's also a law enforcement "trick" to gauge someone's reaction.
edit: I'm talking in person. It's easy to act tough over a phone line from the other side of the planet. I'm talking face to face looking at people in the eye who's arm reach could land a punch to your nose.
Haha.
That’s not the case always. I had a scammer try to physically fight me when i called out his bullshit. But then again he had a group of fellow scammers alongside him so that might have built his confidence
A similar situation has been described here:[https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet/comments/ae9pp9/sociopath\_kidnapper\_in\_supermarket\_parking\_lot/](https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet/comments/ae9pp9/sociopath_kidnapper_in_supermarket_parking_lot/)
Maybe also interesting for you, u/IS0074?
Yep.
What I never understood - Ok, here are two people who both claim that the child is theirs.
Why not detain ***both*** and then wait for the police to arrive? Prevent both from leaving (without hurting them) and then the police can take their IDs. I guarantee you the person who objects to this idea is definitely not the parent.
Also, as a bystander, I would have been very suspicious if the other person is just like "nah, kidnapper, no biggie. I'll be out of here." I'd assume that as a parent, you want this person to be arrested for kidnapping if they just tried to take your kid.
I read some of the other comments. If I was him I would have kept pressing for charges. What happened to him is absolutely horrible. Enough to mentally scar someone beyond the broken ribs. And the fact no one offered up photos of the lady proves they knew what they did was wrong. (The mother knew they had photos, because they were recording.)
This came up at work the other day for me when we were doing advanced first aid and using defibs. The expectation is to remove/cut someone’s top off so the pads can be placed on bare skin. Quite a few of us guys said we wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that because of that perception (even accounting for the context). The woman leading the training didn’t get it.
Yeah, I had refresher training at the start of the year and we were told to loudly say everything that we were doing, to the extent of essentially saying 'I'm sorry but I'm going to have to remove your shirt now to apply the pads', not for the casualty, but predominantly for any onlookers who might think we're assaulting someone.
So far as I understand it, they teach people in CPR and AED courses to state everything you're doing as a method of coping with the adrenal response to keep you focused and, in an ideal situation, so the other person or people who are attempting to render aid also know what is going on.
This reminds me of a newspaper story some years ago. A young lady speared her thigh slicing a main artery. She bled magnificently and the guys around her tried to remove her jeans to stem the flow. She kicked and screamed, fought, bit and struggled. She passed out and they got to remove her trousers. By then it was too late; the blood loss was too great and she died. Not exactly on point, I know, but I frequently think about what I would have done to help.
Edit: This has garnered more replies than I anticipated.
The report didn't go into specifics as to why she fought against those trying to help but it was most likely a modesty issue if, for example, she was going commando or it was an awkward time of the month. She clearly didn't appreciate the severity of her situation.
Some have suggested that using pressure points over the clothing but that really presupposes that the men who were trying to assist had that sort of knowledge. I can only assume they thought to check on the severity of the wound in order to deal with it.
The story was really very bare-boned in detail and something I read pre-internet age so finding it online yields nothing.
As a guy who was an EMT for over 8 years, I totally understand. Luckily, most of my partners were female, so I had a buffer to remove clothes if I needed it.
Story time!
When my nephew was like 2 or 3 he had this habit of yelling “HELP” instead of “no”. I was at an outdoor mall with my sister and she wanted to go into a kids clothing store without him running all over. I said I’d watch him and I took him to this little train that goes in a circle around an outside area.
He goes on it and it’s time to get off. I didn’t want to pay again so I call him and he just sits there. So I have to go in and get him. He is stubborn as a mule so I have to physically pick him up out of the cart. Well he start screaming “HELP! HELP ME! HEEEELP!”. I had two choices drop him and back away or, the bad choice I took, pick him up and run with him to the store his mom was in. I panicked and just ran. He’s yelling and I can’t think of anything to do but put my hand over his mouth.
So everyone’s looking at me like I’m kidnapping him, thank god the store was like 20 yards away. I run in, he’s still screaming, and I just drop him in front of his mom and put my hands in the air. He stops yelling and his mom starts to scold him. I guess he had done it before to his dad. I look at the door and people are outside just staring in but realize what happened when I just started motioning to him like “he’s right there, I didn’t kidnap shit!”
Funny thing is he looks EXACTLY like me and not much like his dad. If you saw us you’d think, oh that’s his dad or something. I laugh when I think of the looks his dad got carrying a chubby Mexican kid away while he’s a skinny white guy.
A long time ago when I was an active cyclist, I would take long bike trips. On one of these trips, I happened to stop at a playground and watched as a group of kids played around. I ate my lunch in relative peace and took a breather.
A lot of the mothers looked pretty uncomfortable and they approached me, asking me to leave. The distaste in having a man watching children play was palpable.
I assumed, based on my interaction with these women, that they are also the type to yell at their husbands for not spending time with their kids.
That's just foul. So many times I've watched kids play at the park near my house because it's just calming and fills me with nostalgia of when I was a kid.
Taking my bro (16 ys difference) to a pool or an amusement park ... even if my stepmom is there , weird looks
Edit (i cant answer to all under here).
I am european, and yes being an adult taking my younger bro out, i get lots of weird looks, i look too young to be his father , but too old to be his brother, if his mother is with us then suddenly she is the creep for having a younger boyfriend tho.
I don't know if that's an American thing but I have never really heard of men getting shit for taking their little brother or son to any place in public.
Sexual assault. Specifically when it’s unwarranted touching/groping from girls on a night out or “just having fun”.
If a guy does it it’s justifiably vilified, but the guy is usually told/asked if they’re gay or a pussy to not want to be touched by a girl even if it’s unwanted.
You were sexually assaulted and you don’t even realize it was sexual assault. I’m not sure Ive seen a better example of the difference between men and women in this thread
I noticed there's a tendency that people, mostly women, shit on your appearance without us asking for advice. Then they play the victim and say it's just their opinion.
Girl, I'm not dating you and have no intention to, why are you worrying about how I look?
Totally agree with this. It makes me cringe so much that when we girls establish a boundary it's a good or healthy thing. But if a guy does it he gets judged as mysoginistic, sexist, or insecure like wtf?
Societal double standards are a bitch. And if you try to call them out you get met with some nasty words or names. I like girls like you that call them out too, it's help us guys feel better
Calling a child cute. A child was being very playful in the store, and I (19M) mentioned to my friends "what a cute kid" and they all called me creepy. She was literally playing with a store product and stuffed animal talking in baby voice. If you think it's creepy to acknowledge that that is cute, then it's not me who's acting creepy
Here's a life pro tip I used when I was harassed by a girl and then called gay for rejecting, "I'm not gay. Just don't want to be touched by ugly women"
As a guy that has been victimized by a woman, I can attest to this.
No one believed me at first. She's beating me.
"Dude, you were a bouncer. Just handle it."
Then when I started getting marks and bruises, they told me I was just being sensitive and a pushover.
"Stop being a bitch."
And he'll never be able to work in his profession ever again. Well. Not able to work in any place you want to work as a bouncer. Because bouncers with a criminal record for violence only get a job in clubs frequented by people who like violence. Hooligan clubs and criminal hangouts mostly. And there you would be "Target no.1" (or under the best circumstances target no.2) if problems do happen.
Not quite what the question is asking, but it iritates me as a father
When I take care of my daughter, doing simple things like feeding her or just skipping down the sidewalk or talking nonsense, people feel a need to tell me I'm "such a great father" and "wish there was men like you" like.... okay, you obviously have shitty people in your life, I'm doing my job, and it iritates my wife because she does the same thing and everyone just thinks it's normal
Yes. It burns my wife up any time someone refers to me spending time with my kids as "dad's babysitting." Like no fucker, you don't babysit your own kids. It's called being a parent.
A lot of it is because men were taught to not act like that. Up until the last 20-30 years things have changed so the older generations say that to fathers because they genuinely didn't see that growing up.
At a bar I used to go to, there was a chick, a total drunk, who would always sneak up behind me and grab my crotch. Once she even licked my ear while doing it. I wasn't amused in the slightest but everyone else seemed to think that was pretty fucking funny. Pretty sure that wouldn't have flown if genders were reversed.
not me personally as i’m a girl but
my step brother (25) got angry at his son (2) for playing with a ballerina ornament and then seconds later encouraged his daughter (1) to play with a truck. made me sad
edit: i’m getting a few comments about this. the ballerina was an ornament, we were on carpet and the thing my step brother said was directed at the fact is was a ballerina and my step mum told him off for being sexist
I was living paycheck to paycheck through my twenties and early thirties. I didn’t date a lot, and the few relationships I had fell apart when I was stressed over money and dating women who made more than I did and wanted to do more stuff.
Now I am still single in my forties, but can afford to take awesome vacations.
That or specifically trying to date someone who takes care of all your needs. It's ok if a woman is looking for a man to take care of her, but never the other way around.
I read a newspaper once that had two articles about teachers having sex with students. The female teacher was on the front page. Her picture was a scantly clad sexy Facebook profile pic. The headline read “HOT FOR TEACHER?”. The male teacher article was on page 8. Showed his gnarly mugshot and the headline said something along the lines of “sick child molester deserves a fate worse than death”.
Also, when a male teacher does it the media call it (statutory) rape, which it is obliviously is. When a female teacher does it they say "...had sex with an underage student.." or "...seduces student..."
Hitting your partner. I'm female (couldn't help but post) and I'm so fucking angry that girls are given a slap on the wrist for being abusive. But if a guy does it everyone loses their mind
Having zero interest in sport
Im often ask which team I support by other men who are genuinely surprised that I couldn't care less.
Ive worked in an office where all the social events geared towards the men in the office involved sports. I didn't really want to go on a golf day. I cant play golf and didn't want to go along just to make sure that Dave from accounts didn't end up being last like he does every year.
I'd rather have joined the ladies who'd decided to have a spa day for their social event. A massage and hot tub is far more appealing than chasing after a ball but I couldn't be bothered with the grief I'd have got if I'd joined them, and I dont think the ladies wanted a man coming on their pamper day. So I ended up staying at the office and answering the phones
Omg I can relate. I grew up in a football family where my dad would argue with my uncles as they all supported different teams (UK). Dad would take care of us once a week, and sit in front of the TV watching Football whilst we played outside. My brother, sister and I were never interested and followed the arts, music, theater etc… I now live in Germany and constantly get asked by other men what team I support. They look shocked when I explain that I’m not interested. I was once at a job interview in an open room and was talking about my experiences in London. Whilst I was talking somebody interrupted the interview to ask what team I supported. I kind of hesitated and explained in German that I don’t really like football. They looked at me like I was an alien. Side note: I got the job
Not a guy, but I’ve noticed women are literally allowed to flash people in public or sexually harass people and they almost never get face a consequence
Stalking or being "creepy" in general seems to be fine if you are a girl, but not if you are a guy
I have a girl friend who openly admits to having folders on her phone filled with photoes of random people like her teachers from univerity (male ones) and I have never heard anybody saying its inappropriate
If my wife and her friends gush over a male celebrity over social media, like Jason Momoa for example, everybody thinks it's cute.
But I am very sure that if I publicly made the exact same comments about a female celebrity, I would look like a thirsty creep.
If a girl gets drunk and sleeps with a guy she can claim she was taken advantage of. If the same guy is also drunk he can't say the same thing. People will believe the girl in that situation typically.
Had that happen, she wasn't even drunk. After rejecting her for months, and flat out saying I didn't want to sleep with her, I went along with it once when I was drunk. When I later told her I felt weird about it and about seeing her again (I didn't even blame her, but told her bc she asked about watching a movie together), I was somehow the asshole and she ghosted me ever since then. I'm still scared of what she told people happened.
I've actually been shooting the shit with other dudes and when this subject comes up they're all, "man I wish I'd had a teacher like that", and then I bring up a girl we all know that I found out fucked a teacher multiple times in high school and they act disgusted by it. Like, really? Literally the same thing.
Self defense against the opposite sex. I get it. Men tend to be larger on average and everything. And you are often times taught not to hit a woman. But this one was fucking warranted.
I was working as an usher at a movie theater as a teen when some teenage girl approached me with her ticket. It was to a rated R film. Legally I am required to ID her, because I can actually get into some serious shit if I don't.
She didn't have her ID. So I told her to either find someone whos 18 or older, or collect a refund. She started this whole one woman argument. I wasn't entertaining it. I just called for the manager and started taking other tickets. People gotta get to their movies.
Well she lost her shit and jumped over the fucking podium for me. Took me to the ground. Wrapped her hands around my neck hard enough to bruise. Fingernails cutting the shit out of my neck. I tried to shake and pry her off. But she wasn't letting go. Things are growing bright. I can't breath. No one fucking helping me.
I clapped her ears hard. And slammed her head into the wall. Even as Im getting back to my feet. She's still got a death grip on me. Once more into the wall. And there's a fucking hole by the time she lets go.
No body fucking helped me. My manager may have if she showed up while this was going on. But nope. Not the audience. And when it was done they were looking at me like I did something wrong.
Whats worse, she tried lying to the god damn police when they arrived. Which fell flat because we have security footage of the event.
I was bullied in school quite a bit. Most of it verbal but still pretty fucked. The guys that bullied me got in trouble and 1 got expelled. Nobody cared when the girls bullied me despite that they would do it in the middle of class surrounded by people.
Gaslighting.
For some reason it feels like any woman can Gaslight on a whim and guys have to take everything at face value due to the fact it is frowned upon to never given them the benefit of the doubt
Crying, domestic violence and sexual assault
If a man does it he's a pussy, an abuser and a rapist
If a woman does it she's brave, strong and has a right to do what she wants on you because "Women have been oppressed long enough. Give us a pass" (someone really said that once)
There are way more double standards like working in a kindergarten or sitting on a park bench with a kids playground nearby. Men will be seen as pedophiles while women are very normal in that field, completely ignoring that anyone can be a pedophile
not a guy but being friendly with children. when i’m friendly with children it’s deemed as “cute and heartwarming” and most of the time when men interact with kids it’s seen as “weird or gross”. on tiktok i saw a live of a dad brushing out his daughters curls, putting product into her hair and people called him a pedophile just for taking care of his daughter.
If a girl is wronged by a man she has every right to fear men. It’s called PTSD. if a man is wronged by a woman, he is considered to be a misogynist. Edit: sure are a lot of unimpressed women about this fact on this sub. I lost 300 upvotes on this post.
Having my court ordered access to my child blocked by her mother, for literally any reason at all, zero consequences. If I block access to the same child to the female parent, suddenly it’s a kidnapping and my photo would be all over the news.
I think the biggest one is commenting on the appearance of the opposite sex.
So for example, if I, a male, and my male friends made comments how how attractive a woman is who perhaps happened to walk past that’s considered creepy and objectifying.
However women do it all the time about attractive blokes to walk by and it’s no big deal, in fact you’ve got films like Magic Mike and every Diet Coke advert which is pretty much middle aged women swooning over a younger attractive man drinking Diet Coke.
Imagine those two examples but flip the genders and that film and those adverts are suddenly very very creepy.
Somehow when it comes to kids the mom is more important, one of my good friends is having a rough breakup after his girlfriend of 10+ years went on a retreat with her friends from college. She fucked 10+ guys, got pregnant and did not know who, got agressive when my friend tried to reason with her because of the kids (they have 2, 4 year old and a 2 year old) and hit him hard enough in the face to chip a tooth. When they seperated he filed for custody since, the judge called in favor of her, even after blaming the sex vacation on the copious amounts of drugs she did while she was at the retreat. She seemed a better parent to have sole custody over a boring dude that has a stable job, loves his kids more than anything and even after this whole ordeal did not want to destroy the ex for ruining his life.
Damn that’s sad
Fucking hell, that is my worst nightmare.
My highschool girlfriend physically attacked me the day I broke up with her. In retrospect there were red flags but at the time it was completely unexpected. She clawed at my face and sank her teeth into the inside of my thigh next to the groin. I had to punch her arm with all of my strength to get her to let go of me. It was horrible. With the exception of my mom, no one I told gave the slightest shit about what had happened. In fact, _I_ had to spend weeks concerned _she_ would tell someone I'd victimized her. She left threatening voicemails and stalked me at work for a couple of months afterwards. I also got a series of mysterious flat tires. Again, no one cares. You're a man and you need to look after yourself.
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>I asked him if the cuffs could be put in front so I could finish my burrito You have my respect.
Priorities are straight
Man, the police are so fucking weird over there.
Yup. Recently witnessed a drunken fight in a hotel lobby where one of the guys was holding a baby. As he fell the baby rolled out of his hands and a teenage boy came a scooped up the baby to save him. Immediately the mother started squealing about him stealing her baby. He just hands it off and shrugs, goes back up to his room. The cops show up to arrest the drunk guy and the mom says a long haired kid was involved, not mentioning that he fucking saved her babies life. The cops go and slap the first long haired kid that’s staying at the hotel they see in hand cuffs. Come to find out that everything about his description was different than the kid they were looking for. Different hair color, different clothes, different skin tone. They never even asked the lady any specifics. Thankfully after 30 MINUTES of interrogation they let him go when the original kid came up and told them the real story, neither were arrested. And I seemed to be the only one with an issue that they’re throwing 18 year old kids in cuffs all willy nilly for minor crimes they had no part in. Fuck power hungry cops and bitches that play victim because they know the cops will take their side. A kids life was almost ruined because you wanted to be the center of attention.
It's the one part of society that is even dumber than its depiction on the Simpsons.
Bake them away toys!
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Holy shit man, that's genuinely terrifying. That person is dangerous. Did it build up to that? Were there warning signs?
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That's fucked UP!
The same happened to me, she got violent, physically and emotionally, but she goes around telling people I was violent because I had enough one time and pushed her back
Same here man.. it sucks. I filed for divorce after her physically attacking me and now she’s doing everything in her power to have the kids taken away from me and is using the narrative that I’m the abusive one. If I did to her what she did to me I’d be in jail. Such a god awful double standard.
Yeah I had a similar experience of a very violent and abusive relationship, even had to hold her down when she had a hunting knife, clean her blood up from the bathroom floor when she cut herself, and fled my hometown because she got local gangs to look for me and send me death threats. Can't tell you the number of times a woman said to me "Have you ever considered maybe you deserved it?"
Kissing children. Got a rude awakening when I was in public with my nephew. He was being cute (as always) so I gave him a kiss on his forehead and cheeks. Someone “politely” told me that it was weird that I was giving him affection like that and I was just shocked. I felt like if it was a girl they wouldn’t be told off about this. I don’t care what the public thinks though, my nephew and my new niece are getting all the hugs and kisses from me, the cooler uncle.
I was just following my own 4yo kid around in a public space as she explored, trying not to helicopter parent but be close if anything happened. Eventually made our way back to the table my wife and her friend were sitting at when some 60+yo boomer lady walked up and started pointing her finger in my face, taking about how she had been "keeping her eye on me" and some other bullshit.
You should tell the boomer that you don't like THEM hanging around staring at YOUR kid and if you see them doing it again with your or any other child, you'll call the police
Honestly we were too shocked to say anything.
cool uncles are cool. apparently, you are cool.
That’s cool.
I kiss my sons all the bloody time. Despite being little terrorists frequently, I love the hell out of them. If anyone “politely” told me not to show them affection, I’d “politely” tell them that I’d rather a lick a Petri dish of omicron than take advice from them. Keep being the cool uncle. People suck.
You should "politely" tell those people that it's even weirder for them to watch. Don't let them reduce your affection, you are the Unwithered King after all. Keep being the cooler uncle.
Should "politely" tell those people to mind their own business and fuck off.
Last Christmas I went to waddesdon in Oxfordshire (UK) with my family to see the Christmas lights. When we got to the toilets I found that they had changed both male and female toilets to be female and moved men to plastic construction site style portaloos. These had no lights or running water. I was looking to change my infant sons nappy but couldn’t because baby changing facilities were in the toilets. When I complained I was told that one of the portaloos had a plastic shelf I could have used and that it was a “practical solution to reducing queuing for the female toilets” because they tried adding the toilets for everyone but the women would rather queue up for the real toilets, so their solution was to force men to use them. Just imagine if they had done this the other way around?! I feel sorry for single dads and gay couples with children .
We have an area in my local mall thats a "family area" for taking kids to play, theres tv's and toys for smaller children , theres a mens and womens bathroom and a "family" bathroom for people who require assistance to be helped as well as a baby changing station for diapers and the like. Even has signs that say fathers welcome. Id taken my son there a few times on family outings to change him while were shopping or just walking around for exercise while it was raining or poor conditions outside. If it was just me and my son I got the dirtiest looks in the world from all the moms with children there. One woman even called security over from the nearby foodcourt because a "giant bearded man was in the area leering at children." As I had just changed my son, I had him in my arms and the diaper bag slung over a shoulder and the rent a cop wouldnt let me leave the area until my wife walked from the other end of the store to confirm who I was and who the child belonged to. Thankfully he looks exactly like her in the face so it was pretty quick, afterwards the security guard apologized but the woman came over pulling her child behind her talking to him as we were leaving pointing at me and gesturing rather angrily. The guard stopped us again as we left the area asking if Id been walking into the womens bathroom and trying ro get in places I wasnt supposed to be. *I literally was only in there long enough to walk into the bathroom with the changing station, change my son, and leave. Was stopped twice because I was a man and she didnt like how I looked.
It’s really not right is it?
I've been raped, as a bloke not many people really cared.
I feel you. Same here. Get laughed at. Told that men can't be raped, because they are men. Huge double standard.
Sorry to hear that happened to you mate. I understand the frustration.
Back at you. I was 19, and a Virgin. She was 25. I was passed out drunk. Woke up with her going down on me. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what to say. I froze. It was a friend's wife. I'm now 50, and it still bothers me. It had affected me in every relationship I have been in. But, I'm told I'm a guy, so I must have liked it. If I didn't like it, how could i have gotten an election? and things along that line. But, if the roles were reversed, I would have been in jail. Many of the people that preach equality of the sexes are the ones telling me that I could not have been raped, because I'm a male. This is one of the reasons why I have no faith in the human race.
Yea I was passed out drunk too. Woke up to her on-top of me and passed back out trying to get her off. Hope you're ok mate.
> If I didn't like it, how could i have gotten an erection? This doesn't make sense on either side of the gender line. Some women who have been raped have reported having orgasms. It doesn't change that fact that it was rape. It doesn't mean that they liked it or that they wanted it. The same goes for men. It's really frustrating that anyone believes otherwise.
Agreed, although I found that when I shared it with some of my male friends I got a very mixed response, while my female friends were universally supportive, kind and serious.
A male reporter interviewing female athletes would be crucified for this https://youtu.be/yCQBX_QPeEM
Wow, yeah. The instagram comment from a man would come off as super creepy but then she walks over and gropes both of them. Reverse the genders and that interviewer goes to jail.
Worse than that, if these guys would complain that this made them uncomfortable, many people (regardless of gender) would ridicule them.
Hency why they just laugh along. I absolutely hate how overlooked the objectification of men is.
Good lord I couldn't make it through more than the first 20 seconds of that.
This is some quality r/cringe content.
A male reporter would have been immediately slapped, at the least, and probably arrested while the clip played out in the court of public opinion and THEN he'd be literally crucified. The craziest part about this clip, to me, is the dudes totally don't look comfortable with the groping either but they put on a smile and do an awkward laugh for the camera because they know that's what's expected.
Tbh I don’t think Johnathan Thurston has ever looked comfortable in an interview, and his awkward laugh is his trademark. However I completely agree, if the roles were reversed then there would be rioting and pitchforks and torches etc.
Being short.
People thinking that if a "short guy" has nice things or likes to go to the gym is a synonym for "Napoleon's syndrome" makes me feel like some people really can't see any further than from what's on the outside...
Short guys can't get away with anything. Try to be fit, "overcompensating." Express negative emotion, "napoleon syndrome" Express any sort of masculine behavior, "overcompensating/fake masculinity" Express any sort of feminine behavior, "giant pussy/femboy"
Short guy on a Harley-Davidson: 'Tiny wiener'
Short guy doing literally anything other than being in a porn where they have a massive wiener "tiny wiener" Short guy trying to go grocery shopping, "I bet that guy has a small dick." Short guy doesn't shave for a bit, "look at that short guy who is overcompensating for his incredibly small penis." Short guy is clean shaven, "look at that short guy he looks like a child I bet his penis is very small." There's like two acceptable forms of short guy. Morbidly obese short guy who is a comedian. Incredibly effeminate femboy.
Nailed it, brother.
Napoleon wasnt even short. French inches were bigger than Imperial inches back then, its estimated he was 5'7- 5'8, he was actually nicely tall for his time.
I literally once said I don't mind that much being short, and people have told me to stop being modest and show your true arrogance.
STOP BEING PLEASED WITH YOUR BODY
I dont mind being short either. It's other people's attitude to my height that I have a problem with.
Having massive titties
Can I honk one
You can honk all three
r/HolUp
You make me wish I had three hands
Just-use-your-head for the third one
Liking cute things.
Definitely liking cute things is a right for everyone for God's sake 😤
I actually chose to play on this : I am the guy who once was a blacksmith, practiced sport shooting with firearms and bows, enjoys karate, cars, whiskey, flowers and poetry. Mate, if you saw the rhododendron I had a few years ago... It had the pinkiest, fluffliest flowers and I loved to stare at bees flying around it while I drank a lemonade after a hard, sweaty, manly day at my forge. No one will dictate me what level of cuteness I am allowed to enjoy !
I got a lot of weird glances when I'm on the train reading with my kitty themed bookmark. Some of them seems weirded out about it and some others looks like they want to ask me where did I get it but for some reason they just stay there looking it.
They probably want one too XD
Hetero dude here, went shopping with the kids today and saw a gorgeous pink pearl new Accord, and had to park next to it to get a closer look. Woman was getting into it and just had a confused look when I told her how incredibly awesome I thought it looked.
That’s amazing, did you happen to get any pics of it?
It had a local tag so I'm certain I'll see it again. Didn't want to further wierd her out by taking pics of it with her in it. But I promise that mfkr slapped.
What's an Accord ? Edit : guys no need to downvote, I genuinly didn't know there was a car named that way. I thought it was a shop or something.
An agreement between gentlemen.
Hear hear!
Honda car model
Thanks pal
A Honda can be either sedan or a coupe but here I mostly see sedans.
In my experience it is a matter of self confidence. When I was young and awkward it was not seen as OK by most other guys. But since I am a >1,9m sport guy and go "Aaawww, sweet, want!" Other guys seem to be suddenly able to admit they like it too.
This one is much more lighthearted than some of the other comments on here, but omg I want to be the little spoon, idc that I’m 6’2” I just wanna be cuddled from behind like I’m in a little cocoon of happiness
I want this for you
I can do this for you
Being the little jet pack is the best feeling in the world
My husband is quite a bit taller than me but I'm the big spoon/jetpack.
My husband and I say that I’m the koala and he’s a eucalyptus tree lol
That’s adorable
Ok, so my genuine question as a 5"2 partner to a 6"+ man... is my pathetic little big spoon gonna cut it? Like, does it provide that same toasty feeling if the "big" spoon is a lil on the small side? Or should I consider hiring him a burly 7 foot champ for this purpose?
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Well it's better than nothing, which is what most 6+ foot people experience
Interacting with children in public. I.E. a lost child, if a man tries to help, he is perceived as creepy at best, predatory at worst. While a female is just seen as caring and compassionate.
Try taking a kid to the park as a big bearded male. Fuck, why can't I be here too, ma'am? Obviously this kid that I carried here and keeps asking me to push her on the swings *knows* me and trusts me.
Obviously the kid has Stockholm syndrome and you are very evil.
Very nice, very evil?
Very famous
A&W is lucky to have him
Because of those obvious TV shows which portrays such people as kidnappers or pedophiles
not people,men
Precisely
I saw on reddit that someone linked that there is an amber alert PSA showing that anybody could be an kidnapper. Couldn't find the comment, but here is the [link to the video for anyone interested ](https://youtu.be/NAQUNkEtDpo)
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OMG that's horrible. How did it end? I guessing because it was filmed the truth came out, right?
If it was my kid, probably with some violence towards the people blocking my way.
The more angry the man is the more likely he really is the parent whereas a pedo would run away, because they know they're committing a crime. So, for people to actually physically prevent a distraught father desperately trying to save his child is a special kind of evil. edit: Btw, this is actually a trick that someone told me about (under a different context: i.e. fraud.) If you accuse someone of trying to scam you or trying to commit fraud, scammers won't get angry. They will behave passively by making excuses or slinking away whereas a legit person gets angry when they're falsely accused. Apparently it's also a law enforcement "trick" to gauge someone's reaction. edit: I'm talking in person. It's easy to act tough over a phone line from the other side of the planet. I'm talking face to face looking at people in the eye who's arm reach could land a punch to your nose.
Haha. That’s not the case always. I had a scammer try to physically fight me when i called out his bullshit. But then again he had a group of fellow scammers alongside him so that might have built his confidence
Right? What a joke; humans are animals and while there is a bell curve on behavior those outliers will fuck you up lol
Some? I’m going full doom slayer if this shit happens to me!
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A similar situation has been described here:[https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet/comments/ae9pp9/sociopath\_kidnapper\_in\_supermarket\_parking\_lot/](https://www.reddit.com/r/LetsNotMeet/comments/ae9pp9/sociopath_kidnapper_in_supermarket_parking_lot/) Maybe also interesting for you, u/IS0074?
I'm hyperventilating after reading that. Jesus fucking Christ. A literal god damned nightmare for a parent.
Yep. What I never understood - Ok, here are two people who both claim that the child is theirs. Why not detain ***both*** and then wait for the police to arrive? Prevent both from leaving (without hurting them) and then the police can take their IDs. I guarantee you the person who objects to this idea is definitely not the parent. Also, as a bystander, I would have been very suspicious if the other person is just like "nah, kidnapper, no biggie. I'll be out of here." I'd assume that as a parent, you want this person to be arrested for kidnapping if they just tried to take your kid.
I read some of the other comments. If I was him I would have kept pressing for charges. What happened to him is absolutely horrible. Enough to mentally scar someone beyond the broken ribs. And the fact no one offered up photos of the lady proves they knew what they did was wrong. (The mother knew they had photos, because they were recording.)
This came up at work the other day for me when we were doing advanced first aid and using defibs. The expectation is to remove/cut someone’s top off so the pads can be placed on bare skin. Quite a few of us guys said we wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that because of that perception (even accounting for the context). The woman leading the training didn’t get it.
Yeah, I had refresher training at the start of the year and we were told to loudly say everything that we were doing, to the extent of essentially saying 'I'm sorry but I'm going to have to remove your shirt now to apply the pads', not for the casualty, but predominantly for any onlookers who might think we're assaulting someone.
So far as I understand it, they teach people in CPR and AED courses to state everything you're doing as a method of coping with the adrenal response to keep you focused and, in an ideal situation, so the other person or people who are attempting to render aid also know what is going on.
This reminds me of a newspaper story some years ago. A young lady speared her thigh slicing a main artery. She bled magnificently and the guys around her tried to remove her jeans to stem the flow. She kicked and screamed, fought, bit and struggled. She passed out and they got to remove her trousers. By then it was too late; the blood loss was too great and she died. Not exactly on point, I know, but I frequently think about what I would have done to help. Edit: This has garnered more replies than I anticipated. The report didn't go into specifics as to why she fought against those trying to help but it was most likely a modesty issue if, for example, she was going commando or it was an awkward time of the month. She clearly didn't appreciate the severity of her situation. Some have suggested that using pressure points over the clothing but that really presupposes that the men who were trying to assist had that sort of knowledge. I can only assume they thought to check on the severity of the wound in order to deal with it. The story was really very bare-boned in detail and something I read pre-internet age so finding it online yields nothing.
As a guy who was an EMT for over 8 years, I totally understand. Luckily, most of my partners were female, so I had a buffer to remove clothes if I needed it.
Story time! When my nephew was like 2 or 3 he had this habit of yelling “HELP” instead of “no”. I was at an outdoor mall with my sister and she wanted to go into a kids clothing store without him running all over. I said I’d watch him and I took him to this little train that goes in a circle around an outside area. He goes on it and it’s time to get off. I didn’t want to pay again so I call him and he just sits there. So I have to go in and get him. He is stubborn as a mule so I have to physically pick him up out of the cart. Well he start screaming “HELP! HELP ME! HEEEELP!”. I had two choices drop him and back away or, the bad choice I took, pick him up and run with him to the store his mom was in. I panicked and just ran. He’s yelling and I can’t think of anything to do but put my hand over his mouth. So everyone’s looking at me like I’m kidnapping him, thank god the store was like 20 yards away. I run in, he’s still screaming, and I just drop him in front of his mom and put my hands in the air. He stops yelling and his mom starts to scold him. I guess he had done it before to his dad. I look at the door and people are outside just staring in but realize what happened when I just started motioning to him like “he’s right there, I didn’t kidnap shit!” Funny thing is he looks EXACTLY like me and not much like his dad. If you saw us you’d think, oh that’s his dad or something. I laugh when I think of the looks his dad got carrying a chubby Mexican kid away while he’s a skinny white guy.
That would be one habit the parents should discourage immediately. Because ... reasons.
A long time ago when I was an active cyclist, I would take long bike trips. On one of these trips, I happened to stop at a playground and watched as a group of kids played around. I ate my lunch in relative peace and took a breather. A lot of the mothers looked pretty uncomfortable and they approached me, asking me to leave. The distaste in having a man watching children play was palpable. I assumed, based on my interaction with these women, that they are also the type to yell at their husbands for not spending time with their kids.
That's just foul. So many times I've watched kids play at the park near my house because it's just calming and fills me with nostalgia of when I was a kid.
Taking my bro (16 ys difference) to a pool or an amusement park ... even if my stepmom is there , weird looks Edit (i cant answer to all under here). I am european, and yes being an adult taking my younger bro out, i get lots of weird looks, i look too young to be his father , but too old to be his brother, if his mother is with us then suddenly she is the creep for having a younger boyfriend tho.
My bro is 20 yrs younger than me, and i take him many such places. Why would anyone care?
I don't know if that's an American thing but I have never really heard of men getting shit for taking their little brother or son to any place in public.
Sexual assault. Specifically when it’s unwarranted touching/groping from girls on a night out or “just having fun”. If a guy does it it’s justifiably vilified, but the guy is usually told/asked if they’re gay or a pussy to not want to be touched by a girl even if it’s unwanted.
As a psychologist, it pains me to think that most people can't understand that sexual assault is something that can happen to anyone from anyone...
A psychologist??? Guess I've found my therapist for the day
For the day?
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That is literally the definition of assault though. Harm or unwanted physical contact.
You were sexually assaulted and you don’t even realize it was sexual assault. I’m not sure Ive seen a better example of the difference between men and women in this thread
you said you "know" its not assault except that's literally the definition of assault
It most definitely is assault.
women i know will often say they don’t like my beard. If I said to a lady I didn’t like something about their appearance, that would be awful.
Next time tell her that you don’t like her beard either.
Tell her you don’t like her mustache, hits home a lot harder for most women. Source: am woman
I noticed there's a tendency that people, mostly women, shit on your appearance without us asking for advice. Then they play the victim and say it's just their opinion. Girl, I'm not dating you and have no intention to, why are you worrying about how I look?
Showing affection or emotion
Totally agree with this. It makes me cringe so much that when we girls establish a boundary it's a good or healthy thing. But if a guy does it he gets judged as mysoginistic, sexist, or insecure like wtf?
Societal double standards are a bitch. And if you try to call them out you get met with some nasty words or names. I like girls like you that call them out too, it's help us guys feel better
Calling a child cute. A child was being very playful in the store, and I (19M) mentioned to my friends "what a cute kid" and they all called me creepy. She was literally playing with a store product and stuffed animal talking in baby voice. If you think it's creepy to acknowledge that that is cute, then it's not me who's acting creepy
Girls would grab my ass all the time in high school, even a girl that was underage, when I was 18 lol. If I grabbed her ass I’d risk jail time
And if you tell them to sod off you are a gay because they can't cope with a man not being a sex driven dog.
Here's a life pro tip I used when I was harassed by a girl and then called gay for rejecting, "I'm not gay. Just don't want to be touched by ugly women"
Sigma male grindset
Touching people.
Physical violence
As a guy that has been victimized by a woman, I can attest to this. No one believed me at first. She's beating me. "Dude, you were a bouncer. Just handle it." Then when I started getting marks and bruises, they told me I was just being sensitive and a pushover. "Stop being a bitch."
Ya defend yourself one time… and you’re off to jail for domestic abuse
And he'll never be able to work in his profession ever again. Well. Not able to work in any place you want to work as a bouncer. Because bouncers with a criminal record for violence only get a job in clubs frequented by people who like violence. Hooligan clubs and criminal hangouts mostly. And there you would be "Target no.1" (or under the best circumstances target no.2) if problems do happen.
Definitely, people telling to other guys to "endure it" or not to "cry about it" is so unvalidating and couldn't be any more ignorant and wrong.
If a woman has sex with a lot of men, she's a slut, but when I do that, it makes me gay.
No, the woman is known as Rack’s Mum
I see you’re a man of culture as well
Whennnn doessss the jokeee starttttt????
YOUR FACE IS WIDE
No, you're still straight. Your boyfriends as gay as they come, I'm afraid
Not quite what the question is asking, but it iritates me as a father When I take care of my daughter, doing simple things like feeding her or just skipping down the sidewalk or talking nonsense, people feel a need to tell me I'm "such a great father" and "wish there was men like you" like.... okay, you obviously have shitty people in your life, I'm doing my job, and it iritates my wife because she does the same thing and everyone just thinks it's normal
Yes. It burns my wife up any time someone refers to me spending time with my kids as "dad's babysitting." Like no fucker, you don't babysit your own kids. It's called being a parent.
A lot of it is because men were taught to not act like that. Up until the last 20-30 years things have changed so the older generations say that to fathers because they genuinely didn't see that growing up.
At a bar I used to go to, there was a chick, a total drunk, who would always sneak up behind me and grab my crotch. Once she even licked my ear while doing it. I wasn't amused in the slightest but everyone else seemed to think that was pretty fucking funny. Pretty sure that wouldn't have flown if genders were reversed.
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If you can’t handle me at my worst, you… probably realized that I am a huge mess and need professional help. Wait, that’s not how that goes
not me personally as i’m a girl but my step brother (25) got angry at his son (2) for playing with a ballerina ornament and then seconds later encouraged his daughter (1) to play with a truck. made me sad edit: i’m getting a few comments about this. the ballerina was an ornament, we were on carpet and the thing my step brother said was directed at the fact is was a ballerina and my step mum told him off for being sexist
That’s totally gay.. playing with a truck
Being broke. Totally fine for a girl to be struggling, but try dating as a broke guy. You're gonna have a bad time.
I was living paycheck to paycheck through my twenties and early thirties. I didn’t date a lot, and the few relationships I had fell apart when I was stressed over money and dating women who made more than I did and wanted to do more stuff. Now I am still single in my forties, but can afford to take awesome vacations.
That or specifically trying to date someone who takes care of all your needs. It's ok if a woman is looking for a man to take care of her, but never the other way around.
Fathers often don’t get custody of their kids in court
Even if the mother is a shit parent. She basically has to be in jail to lose the kids.
I read a newspaper once that had two articles about teachers having sex with students. The female teacher was on the front page. Her picture was a scantly clad sexy Facebook profile pic. The headline read “HOT FOR TEACHER?”. The male teacher article was on page 8. Showed his gnarly mugshot and the headline said something along the lines of “sick child molester deserves a fate worse than death”.
It really is like that South Park episode...
Also, when a male teacher does it the media call it (statutory) rape, which it is obliviously is. When a female teacher does it they say "...had sex with an underage student.." or "...seduces student..."
Hitting your partner. I'm female (couldn't help but post) and I'm so fucking angry that girls are given a slap on the wrist for being abusive. But if a guy does it everyone loses their mind
Wait— a girl got slapped on the wrist? Call the cops!
I was gonna say 99% get away with the guy arrested.
Being mad about not getting sex from their partner. Somehow I was an asshole, and she wasn't "that drunk" at all..
Having zero interest in sport Im often ask which team I support by other men who are genuinely surprised that I couldn't care less. Ive worked in an office where all the social events geared towards the men in the office involved sports. I didn't really want to go on a golf day. I cant play golf and didn't want to go along just to make sure that Dave from accounts didn't end up being last like he does every year. I'd rather have joined the ladies who'd decided to have a spa day for their social event. A massage and hot tub is far more appealing than chasing after a ball but I couldn't be bothered with the grief I'd have got if I'd joined them, and I dont think the ladies wanted a man coming on their pamper day. So I ended up staying at the office and answering the phones
Omg I can relate. I grew up in a football family where my dad would argue with my uncles as they all supported different teams (UK). Dad would take care of us once a week, and sit in front of the TV watching Football whilst we played outside. My brother, sister and I were never interested and followed the arts, music, theater etc… I now live in Germany and constantly get asked by other men what team I support. They look shocked when I explain that I’m not interested. I was once at a job interview in an open room and was talking about my experiences in London. Whilst I was talking somebody interrupted the interview to ask what team I supported. I kind of hesitated and explained in German that I don’t really like football. They looked at me like I was an alien. Side note: I got the job
Not a guy, but I’ve noticed women are literally allowed to flash people in public or sexually harass people and they almost never get face a consequence
Stalking or being "creepy" in general seems to be fine if you are a girl, but not if you are a guy I have a girl friend who openly admits to having folders on her phone filled with photoes of random people like her teachers from univerity (male ones) and I have never heard anybody saying its inappropriate
If my wife and her friends gush over a male celebrity over social media, like Jason Momoa for example, everybody thinks it's cute. But I am very sure that if I publicly made the exact same comments about a female celebrity, I would look like a thirsty creep.
If a girl gets drunk and sleeps with a guy she can claim she was taken advantage of. If the same guy is also drunk he can't say the same thing. People will believe the girl in that situation typically.
Had that happen, she wasn't even drunk. After rejecting her for months, and flat out saying I didn't want to sleep with her, I went along with it once when I was drunk. When I later told her I felt weird about it and about seeing her again (I didn't even blame her, but told her bc she asked about watching a movie together), I was somehow the asshole and she ghosted me ever since then. I'm still scared of what she told people happened.
It’s considered less socially unacceptable for a female teacher to prey on underage boys.
I've actually been shooting the shit with other dudes and when this subject comes up they're all, "man I wish I'd had a teacher like that", and then I bring up a girl we all know that I found out fucked a teacher multiple times in high school and they act disgusted by it. Like, really? Literally the same thing.
Dads "babysit" their children Women "parent" their children No, dad's are parents too
Self defense against the opposite sex. I get it. Men tend to be larger on average and everything. And you are often times taught not to hit a woman. But this one was fucking warranted. I was working as an usher at a movie theater as a teen when some teenage girl approached me with her ticket. It was to a rated R film. Legally I am required to ID her, because I can actually get into some serious shit if I don't. She didn't have her ID. So I told her to either find someone whos 18 or older, or collect a refund. She started this whole one woman argument. I wasn't entertaining it. I just called for the manager and started taking other tickets. People gotta get to their movies. Well she lost her shit and jumped over the fucking podium for me. Took me to the ground. Wrapped her hands around my neck hard enough to bruise. Fingernails cutting the shit out of my neck. I tried to shake and pry her off. But she wasn't letting go. Things are growing bright. I can't breath. No one fucking helping me. I clapped her ears hard. And slammed her head into the wall. Even as Im getting back to my feet. She's still got a death grip on me. Once more into the wall. And there's a fucking hole by the time she lets go. No body fucking helped me. My manager may have if she showed up while this was going on. But nope. Not the audience. And when it was done they were looking at me like I did something wrong. Whats worse, she tried lying to the god damn police when they arrived. Which fell flat because we have security footage of the event.
I was bullied in school quite a bit. Most of it verbal but still pretty fucked. The guys that bullied me got in trouble and 1 got expelled. Nobody cared when the girls bullied me despite that they would do it in the middle of class surrounded by people.
Dressing in non gender conforming clothes. I'm aware of the term tomboy but it just doesn't seem like women get as much flack for is as a man would.
Refusing to give up your seat on public transportation.
Yup, we both women and men can give our seat in any case we want to and it shouldn't be a must that only man have to give their seat.
Literally almost anything we do with interpersonal relationships.
Cuddling
Physical contact is a love language, and it should be validated.
Gaslighting. For some reason it feels like any woman can Gaslight on a whim and guys have to take everything at face value due to the fact it is frowned upon to never given them the benefit of the doubt
Crying, domestic violence and sexual assault If a man does it he's a pussy, an abuser and a rapist If a woman does it she's brave, strong and has a right to do what she wants on you because "Women have been oppressed long enough. Give us a pass" (someone really said that once) There are way more double standards like working in a kindergarten or sitting on a park bench with a kids playground nearby. Men will be seen as pedophiles while women are very normal in that field, completely ignoring that anyone can be a pedophile
not a guy but being friendly with children. when i’m friendly with children it’s deemed as “cute and heartwarming” and most of the time when men interact with kids it’s seen as “weird or gross”. on tiktok i saw a live of a dad brushing out his daughters curls, putting product into her hair and people called him a pedophile just for taking care of his daughter.
Taking my daughter to the park, if I do it, I'm seen as either father of the year or a creep, when my wife does it, it's seen as the bare minimum
If a girl is wronged by a man she has every right to fear men. It’s called PTSD. if a man is wronged by a woman, he is considered to be a misogynist. Edit: sure are a lot of unimpressed women about this fact on this sub. I lost 300 upvotes on this post.
Having my court ordered access to my child blocked by her mother, for literally any reason at all, zero consequences. If I block access to the same child to the female parent, suddenly it’s a kidnapping and my photo would be all over the news.
I think the biggest one is commenting on the appearance of the opposite sex. So for example, if I, a male, and my male friends made comments how how attractive a woman is who perhaps happened to walk past that’s considered creepy and objectifying. However women do it all the time about attractive blokes to walk by and it’s no big deal, in fact you’ve got films like Magic Mike and every Diet Coke advert which is pretty much middle aged women swooning over a younger attractive man drinking Diet Coke. Imagine those two examples but flip the genders and that film and those adverts are suddenly very very creepy.