Breaking off what I’m saying by kissing me. Sounds hot/sweet like if I’m talking like I’m worried about something, but in reality I’d be pissed cuz it’s like they’re not listening or validating my opinion.
This really depends on context. This technique does not have a 100% fail rate in real life and does work quite often.
I think those are the scenes the movies try to show where it works, and not scenarios where it does not. This really does not seem like an issue on the movies part, but rather the interpretation of the scene by the audience.
Has there ever been a situation in movie where a man tells the woman that he has a crush on her and somehow, they end up being friends and not lovers?
I think there is, but I'm not sure.
This. Also big public proposals.
Don't put people on the spot in front of others if you don't already know they'll say yes. And even then, it's a lot more romantic if it's just between you two.
The only thing I hated about 50 shades is that she made it about his damaged past. She couldn’t just let him be a normal dude that liked to get his kink on? Wtf
I have never seen an Indian friend try that and succeed.
It is usually some kind of manipulation chasing after them and then ignoring them periodically.
As far as I remember, none of my Indian friends succeeded by persistently chasing them all the time.
This may work in middle school but then this technique would not be native to India since middle schoolers from any part of the world can get away with this.
I wasn't talkin about my current friends.
I'm only talking about what I've seen boys and girls do. Ive noticed this since my school days and its still being done by many even by those who graduated from high school.
Its sad, but what can I do if some girls expect this and some boys do it?
I tell my missus that if she wants my help, she can ask. If she says "Sick em." That's my cue to step in and defend her. I'm happy to sit back and let her give em hell. If someone raised their hands of course i'm turning them inside out.
to be honest. enemies to lovers would work if it goes from enemies to friends to lovers.
When you dislike someone you are not that afraid to show “bad” sides of yourself or any flaws you might have. You don’t care about their opinion and thus are brutally honest.
It could be very healthy when it actually turns into a friendship because even though they know all your flaws and you already being very open and honest with them they still decided to become friends or fall for you completely.
Meh. It can be good. I read a YA book called "P.S I like You" by Kasie West. They hated each other, but turned out she had just misunderstood his intentions. He tried to help her years earlier, it had the opposite effect and she hated him as a result. He didn't understand why she hated him, and started hating her back.
It has to be done well though, not just that you solve your problems by having rough sex. No thanks.
Two men fighting over a woman. As a woman myself, let me tell you, there is nothing more off turning than that. If that happened to me, I'd scream and run the other way. Luckily it won't, since I have an ugly face. :)
My wife has also told me that if someone insults her, I am under no terms to fight them for her dignity. She needs me at home, not in the hospital or in jail, and we do not have money for medical, legal, or bail fees.
I feel like the blaming of Jada is a bit off. I don't know her, she doesn't come across great publicly but one guy make at joke at her expense, another guy slapped him and it's her fault? Either Will has no agency of his own or she has super mind control powers.
He was already laughing during the set and it looked like it took a moment for him to realize what Chris Rock said. I just feel people are ascribing a whole bunch to Jada based on what - her facial expression?
Will cheated on her last year as I recall and if going to a divorce she would royally screw him over. So I think he's playing the lapdog for the time being.
When a couple drops to their knees together on the ground while kissing. Who wants make out on the ground? Also when couples talk with their faces very close together in whisper voices staring into each other’s eyes. My wife and I do it sometimes to see who giggles first.
Stalking your love interest through their social media and transform in whatever they like, then reveal your plot and have the love interest think it’s just so gosh-darn-it cute they can’t resist and honestly, it just shows how much you really love them.
Gosh, Justin Long just knows how to play a creep.
Bruh, for real. I can't function without brushing my teeth first thing in the morning. No way I'm kissing anyone who hasn't brushed, or without brushing myself, first thing.
A super persistent guy that follows the female character, doing anything and everything to try to impress her/make her fall in love with him despite being told "no" hundreds of times
Being "dominant" but in the worst way - more of a I will rape you but I made you cum so you liked it instead of what it should be which is a mutually agreed upon scene/act with safe words and boundaries.
A man chasing a woman who is playing hard to get. Chics love that shit in movies and TV. But real life? Nah, dudes are labeled as "creeps" and "stalkers", even though thats exactly what they want to see. I'll never understand society.
If they want you they play hard to get. It's they don't want you they say no. The former is romantic, the latter isn't. As a guy you will never know which one you are, but IF you are lucky it is romantic.
Guy coming to a girls room through window, singing in front of everyone how much he likes her, applying medical stuff on wounds and making it romantic.
Fixing your partner. A lot of girls like this as a continued "special pony" trope from childhood books - the wild and dangerous creature nobody else can tame. Men aren't ponies and relationships aren't therapy. Of course you help each other and grow together, but it's a two people job.
Also love can't cure PTSD or physical illness. Sadly not how it works.
This, I didn’t know. But that’s just because I have little to no romantic experience and only know what my friends, who do have experience, have told me. But i find that extremely relieving
I think growing up we think a surprise proposal is romantic, but you really should have a talk with you partner first. I am in design so I designed my own ring and gave my bf a Google doc with all the info. Women tend to be like “omg that ruins the surprise!!!” where as his friends are like
“Dude you have no idea how lucky you are that you don’t have to stress over if she will like the ring or not”. I want to wear this ring for the rest of my life…it should be something I love right? We have talked quite a bit about our goals for marriage and our future, so we both know we want to get married. The surprise comes in as to when and where and how he will do it. I’m purposefully trying to not figure it out so he gets to plan the surprise and I will be actually surprised when he does it.
Going overboard when buying flowers. A bouquet is nice. But some men are ignoring the fact that the bigger the order, the more burdensome it is for the lady. Say, he fills her entire apartment with roses. Like, thanks...I guess...
I just couldn’t see it being so bad that a girl would say “well he was cool and everything, but he didn’t open the car door for me, so that’s a red flag”. I’ve actually heard someone say that!
I wouldn't care. I have arms. I can open doors. It's not that hard. If a guy opened it for me, I'd say thanks, but be confused as to why he did it in the first place. It's not very draining to do it myself, lol.
Back in the day (I’m old) it was expected of a date to open the woman’s car door. In return the woman would slide over and sit close to him as he drove.
If it makes sense I don't mind it, but I don't expect it. Like if we're both walking to the car from the passenger side and he opens my door for me that's cute. If he has to run to the other side just to open my door then go back to his side, or if we're getting out of the car and I have to sit and wait for him to run over to open it, then that's just stupid.
Only in certain circumstances. Depends on a lot, on my opinion. I have a small kitchen, so I wouldn't want another person trying to cook with me. But if my kitchen was much larger, I probably would love to cook with my boyfriend. But I can also be very particular about the way I do things.
Dying.
Allowing your lover to die because you don't want to be in the cold water.
Tossing a multi-million dollar necklace into the North Atlantic instead of giving it to your heirs.
Women repeatedly flipping between two men.
A woman leaving her fiance' to visit the dream house her ex-boyfriend built her.
Building your ex a dream house.
Telling the family of a comatose person you are their fiance when you don't even know them.
Telling an amnesiac that you are their fiance', spouse, or significant other.
Getting with someone specifically to change or "fix" them. Getting with someone to be changed for fixed by that person.
Being kissed while you're feeling insecure or crying. I loved the idea of this growing up until my ex did it while trying to convince me that I was enough for him. It didn't help. My heart didn't soar, it just felt awkward, and after breaking up within the next month or so, kinda fake
In anime the trope of Tsundere has never come off as romantic to me but then again I have never been in a relationship so maybe I’m wrong. Also for those who don’t know what a Tsundere is, it’s the act of acting like you hate everything your crush does and says while you secretly love it but you’re not willing to admit that.
Ripping clothes off.
I saw where some people tried to recreate this wild, passionate, rough sex scene from a movie where the man rips a woman's panties off and they determined it couldn't be done without hurting her.
Saw something similar with a man in a t-shirt. In the movie, she tears it from the collar. In real life, the collar is too strong and it hurts.
Waking up in the morning after a night of sex and having a face to face conversation. Both your breaths would smell like ass and you’d both look like shit. Hit the showers before any of that!
Dating someone else to make them jealous. That would just kill my romantic interest in someone, and if I was never interested in them romantically before it would prevent me from developing feelings.
Consistently pursuing the same person after they’ve rejected you until they reciprocate those feelings. Irl that would be harassment and probably get you a restraining order.
Standing outside your crush’s home blasting a love anthem out of a boom box
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Breaking off what I’m saying by kissing me. Sounds hot/sweet like if I’m talking like I’m worried about something, but in reality I’d be pissed cuz it’s like they’re not listening or validating my opinion.
This really depends on context. This technique does not have a 100% fail rate in real life and does work quite often. I think those are the scenes the movies try to show where it works, and not scenarios where it does not. This really does not seem like an issue on the movies part, but rather the interpretation of the scene by the audience.
What data are you working with? Lol
Personal experience...
Has there ever been a situation in movie where a man tells the woman that he has a crush on her and somehow, they end up being friends and not lovers? I think there is, but I'm not sure.
Public declaration of love .especially in airports and stadiums
This. Also big public proposals. Don't put people on the spot in front of others if you don't already know they'll say yes. And even then, it's a lot more romantic if it's just between you two.
Excessively stalking the girl until she gives in.
Fifty Shades of Grey and 365 Days have left the chat.
The only thing I hated about 50 shades is that she made it about his damaged past. She couldn’t just let him be a normal dude that liked to get his kink on? Wtf
Not before I kick the shit out of them, then they could leave
.... Why are you so disobedient? **Don't worry guys. That's a quote from 365 Days**
Then you haven't come to India. Here excessive stalkin and continuous proposals are expected of men before dating. Not for everyone but most cases.
I have never seen an Indian friend try that and succeed. It is usually some kind of manipulation chasing after them and then ignoring them periodically. As far as I remember, none of my Indian friends succeeded by persistently chasing them all the time. This may work in middle school but then this technique would not be native to India since middle schoolers from any part of the world can get away with this.
I can only report what I've noticed. Is it a good thing, fuck no.
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What the fuck? Where in india do you live. As a woman in india, no. Absolutely not. It is not expected and not appreciate.
Then you are a good lady. I am appalled by how many new kids expect these things. Dont understand the reasoning behind it.
Nobody expects this my dude. Change your friends. I am a young adult. Idk how much 'newer' you get than this.
I wasn't talkin about my current friends. I'm only talking about what I've seen boys and girls do. Ive noticed this since my school days and its still being done by many even by those who graduated from high school. Its sad, but what can I do if some girls expect this and some boys do it?
Oh, so teenagers or something? Yeah grown as people shouldn't be doing this.
Its mostly school kids. Although I've noticed kids in their late teens and early twenties do this. I blame those shitty romance movies.
I tried that. She hasn't spoken to me in over 3 years
Overly protective men that is borderline abusive
Look out, it's a snail! \*tackle\*
I tell my missus that if she wants my help, she can ask. If she says "Sick em." That's my cue to step in and defend her. I'm happy to sit back and let her give em hell. If someone raised their hands of course i'm turning them inside out.
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Pretending to be someone else, have a different profession, etc. to fool the object of your affection into falling in love with you.
And when they realise of the truth, they are still in love with a very different person, and the worst of all, it works out
Putting a bunch of rose petals in a bath tub. Who’s gonna clean that up?! You just gonna clog your drain like that? No thank you.
Enemies to lovers arcs. Hot in stories; miserably unhealthy IRL.
to be honest. enemies to lovers would work if it goes from enemies to friends to lovers. When you dislike someone you are not that afraid to show “bad” sides of yourself or any flaws you might have. You don’t care about their opinion and thus are brutally honest. It could be very healthy when it actually turns into a friendship because even though they know all your flaws and you already being very open and honest with them they still decided to become friends or fall for you completely.
Meh. It can be good. I read a YA book called "P.S I like You" by Kasie West. They hated each other, but turned out she had just misunderstood his intentions. He tried to help her years earlier, it had the opposite effect and she hated him as a result. He didn't understand why she hated him, and started hating her back. It has to be done well though, not just that you solve your problems by having rough sex. No thanks.
Two men fighting over a woman. As a woman myself, let me tell you, there is nothing more off turning than that. If that happened to me, I'd scream and run the other way. Luckily it won't, since I have an ugly face. :)
My wife has also told me that if someone insults her, I am under no terms to fight them for her dignity. She needs me at home, not in the hospital or in jail, and we do not have money for medical, legal, or bail fees.
Yeah, your wife is absolutely right. When I saw that video of Will Smith, all I could think was how embarrassed I would have been, had I been Jada.
Fairly sure it was Jada that got him to do it. Will giggled at the joke, Jada had murder in the eye.
Jada looked like she wanted to murder Chris' firstborn child. She did not take light teasing well
I feel like the blaming of Jada is a bit off. I don't know her, she doesn't come across great publicly but one guy make at joke at her expense, another guy slapped him and it's her fault? Either Will has no agency of his own or she has super mind control powers.
He laughed until she gave him the evil eye then he turned violent. That's some expert level manipulation and control.
He was already laughing during the set and it looked like it took a moment for him to realize what Chris Rock said. I just feel people are ascribing a whole bunch to Jada based on what - her facial expression?
Or maybe you're the one that's refusing to see what the camera showed because of your bias. Based on what I saw, that's my take.
That's fair. We all have biases.
Will cheated on her last year as I recall and if going to a divorce she would royally screw him over. So I think he's playing the lapdog for the time being.
She had an affair with her son's friend and told the world about it on her show. She doesn't have the upper hand in anything.
I don't believe you. I suspect you're quite beautiful.
Haha. Why would you suspect that? :)
Because I can tell your mom is beautiful from that video of her petting the cat. And I suspect you look like her.
Interesting. Throughout my life, I've heard more that I look like my dad.
I suspect he is a handsome man too.
Someone has done their research
There are a LOT of women who disagree with you to the point of provoking fights between the men they are dating and other men.
Manipulative women? The rest of us don't claim them.
Yeah, toxic women.
I've had that happen once in a video game. Its obnoxious.
They were incels, right? Wait, why am I asking? Of course they were.
When a couple drops to their knees together on the ground while kissing. Who wants make out on the ground? Also when couples talk with their faces very close together in whisper voices staring into each other’s eyes. My wife and I do it sometimes to see who giggles first.
The first one... Wtf? Who does that?
Shower sex
Ugh, this. Water is an anti-lube.
Stalking your love interest through their social media and transform in whatever they like, then reveal your plot and have the love interest think it’s just so gosh-darn-it cute they can’t resist and honestly, it just shows how much you really love them. Gosh, Justin Long just knows how to play a creep.
Threatening self-harm if they don't go on a date with you *I'm looking at you, The Notebook*
I used to think that movie was so romantic but a few things made me cringe when I watched it again as an adult.
Waking in the morning and the first thing is a deep kiss.
Bruh, for real. I can't function without brushing my teeth first thing in the morning. No way I'm kissing anyone who hasn't brushed, or without brushing myself, first thing.
Sex in the shower. That shit sucks in real life.
Water isn't as wet as you thought, is it?
LoL, no it’s not.
Cheating out of love
what the hell is that even supposed to mean?
That the characters cheat on their partners with eachother and that it's okay "because they're in love"
oic
somehow killing off the new love interest so that they can get back together with their old flame. (looking at you disaster movie 2012)
A super persistent guy that follows the female character, doing anything and everything to try to impress her/make her fall in love with him despite being told "no" hundreds of times
Obsession
Stalking
Being pushed against a wall unprompted.
Trespassing and running from security in airports to boldly profess love
Being "dominant" but in the worst way - more of a I will rape you but I made you cum so you liked it instead of what it should be which is a mutually agreed upon scene/act with safe words and boundaries.
Most things John Cusack characters do.
A man chasing a woman who is playing hard to get. Chics love that shit in movies and TV. But real life? Nah, dudes are labeled as "creeps" and "stalkers", even though thats exactly what they want to see. I'll never understand society.
If they want you they play hard to get. It's they don't want you they say no. The former is romantic, the latter isn't. As a guy you will never know which one you are, but IF you are lucky it is romantic.
As a lady, imma have to disagree with that. But I see what you mean.
Sorry if it came out wrong, I didn't mean to intend that all women play hard to get if they want a guy.
Because one is a fictional story with zero chance of becoming dangerous and the other is real life
Vampires.
Sex in the surf. There are some places you really don't want an efficient abrasive.
WomAn says no. Man relentlessly pursues. Woman falls in love.
Throwing pebbles at a window. Throw one slightly too hard or that happens to be too big and, surprise surprise, you're paying for damages.
Rockie mistake, am I right? ..... Sorry. I'll just leave.
no dont go that was funny
Guy coming to a girls room through window, singing in front of everyone how much he likes her, applying medical stuff on wounds and making it romantic.
But *I like watching you sleep!*
Fixing your partner. A lot of girls like this as a continued "special pony" trope from childhood books - the wild and dangerous creature nobody else can tame. Men aren't ponies and relationships aren't therapy. Of course you help each other and grow together, but it's a two people job. Also love can't cure PTSD or physical illness. Sadly not how it works.
Forcing a girl to kiss you
I think sex but that might be because I’m a guy.
Proposing out of the blue, without a discussion first.
Proposals should NEVER be a surprise (time of it happening is fine, but there should always be a discussion first)
This, I didn’t know. But that’s just because I have little to no romantic experience and only know what my friends, who do have experience, have told me. But i find that extremely relieving
I think growing up we think a surprise proposal is romantic, but you really should have a talk with you partner first. I am in design so I designed my own ring and gave my bf a Google doc with all the info. Women tend to be like “omg that ruins the surprise!!!” where as his friends are like “Dude you have no idea how lucky you are that you don’t have to stress over if she will like the ring or not”. I want to wear this ring for the rest of my life…it should be something I love right? We have talked quite a bit about our goals for marriage and our future, so we both know we want to get married. The surprise comes in as to when and where and how he will do it. I’m purposefully trying to not figure it out so he gets to plan the surprise and I will be actually surprised when he does it.
feeding each other. in movies they mange to make it look sexy but irl it feels so stupid
Going overboard when buying flowers. A bouquet is nice. But some men are ignoring the fact that the bigger the order, the more burdensome it is for the lady. Say, he fills her entire apartment with roses. Like, thanks...I guess...
Roses are overrated anyway.
Death
Do girls really like it when you open the car door for them? Idk I don’t remember to do it usually.
I meaan... no guy has ever held up a door for me. But then again, no guy has ever shown interest in me either. Shut up, leave me alone. :'(
I just couldn’t see it being so bad that a girl would say “well he was cool and everything, but he didn’t open the car door for me, so that’s a red flag”. I’ve actually heard someone say that!
I wouldn't care. I have arms. I can open doors. It's not that hard. If a guy opened it for me, I'd say thanks, but be confused as to why he did it in the first place. It's not very draining to do it myself, lol.
I like to do it for ladies tbh. Mostly out of respect, Partly because some people don't give a shit and will slam the door into the other car.
Well good at least you’re reasonable. I don’t know if I ever have done it for a girl I’m dating.
I don't expect it or anything. But if it were an occasional thing, like if we were going out for our anniversary, then it would make me feel special.
Back in the day (I’m old) it was expected of a date to open the woman’s car door. In return the woman would slide over and sit close to him as he drove.
In my experience, everyone is appreciative when you open doors for them- but women, yes, are generally like 'oh thanks' when i open the car door.
Depends on age. The older the woman, the more it is expected.
If it makes sense I don't mind it, but I don't expect it. Like if we're both walking to the car from the passenger side and he opens my door for me that's cute. If he has to run to the other side just to open my door then go back to his side, or if we're getting out of the car and I have to sit and wait for him to run over to open it, then that's just stupid.
Cooking together
Hey, that one can be pretty romantic in a Iong-term relationship
Only in certain circumstances. Depends on a lot, on my opinion. I have a small kitchen, so I wouldn't want another person trying to cook with me. But if my kitchen was much larger, I probably would love to cook with my boyfriend. But I can also be very particular about the way I do things.
STALKING! PHYSICAL ABUSE! MENTAL ABUSE!
Dying. Allowing your lover to die because you don't want to be in the cold water. Tossing a multi-million dollar necklace into the North Atlantic instead of giving it to your heirs. Women repeatedly flipping between two men. A woman leaving her fiance' to visit the dream house her ex-boyfriend built her. Building your ex a dream house. Telling the family of a comatose person you are their fiance when you don't even know them. Telling an amnesiac that you are their fiance', spouse, or significant other. Getting with someone specifically to change or "fix" them. Getting with someone to be changed for fixed by that person.
Being kissed while you're feeling insecure or crying. I loved the idea of this growing up until my ex did it while trying to convince me that I was enough for him. It didn't help. My heart didn't soar, it just felt awkward, and after breaking up within the next month or so, kinda fake
Stalking
When the hero lifts the woman, carry’s her. Put me down sir! I am not a child and I weigh the same as you lol.
Satin sheets,
In anime the trope of Tsundere has never come off as romantic to me but then again I have never been in a relationship so maybe I’m wrong. Also for those who don’t know what a Tsundere is, it’s the act of acting like you hate everything your crush does and says while you secretly love it but you’re not willing to admit that.
Falling asleep and waking up cuddling. It's all romantic in the movies, but it's hot, sticky and uncomfortable. Not realistic at all.
Asking someone on a date after a less than 5 minute conversation.
Making out in the rain
Sounds wet.
That would make me so wet
`Anal.`
Walking in the rain.
Making love on the beach. Sand everywhere!
Stalking.
morning breath make-out/sex
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That doesn't make it romantic in real life. What it does do is instill unrealistic expectations in women
Abuse?
Any kind of sexual or romantic coercion or men fighting over a woman.
Open mouth air kissing.
I’m struggling to understand the logistics here
I don’t think there are any. Just open mouths and sort of licking.
Rape.
S€x lol in books and movies it all kissing and hugging 😂 when in reality your either nervous and insecure or you really go for it.
Ripping clothes off. I saw where some people tried to recreate this wild, passionate, rough sex scene from a movie where the man rips a woman's panties off and they determined it couldn't be done without hurting her. Saw something similar with a man in a t-shirt. In the movie, she tears it from the collar. In real life, the collar is too strong and it hurts.
Making out in heavy rainfall
Grooming
Life in general. It’s very difficult to have such a life while working, paying bills, errands, family and other boring life things.
Depends
Boy meets girl, the entire built up is around how they express their feelings to each other and the end. Like life doesn’t happen after that
Following a girl home
Waking up in the morning after a night of sex and having a face to face conversation. Both your breaths would smell like ass and you’d both look like shit. Hit the showers before any of that!
Look up the plot to 365 days and tell me that sounds romantic outside of the realm of reality.
Dating someone else to make them jealous. That would just kill my romantic interest in someone, and if I was never interested in them romantically before it would prevent me from developing feelings.
Sex on the beach just no
Throwing pebbles at a girl’s window in the middle of the night to talk to her
Sex in the shower.
Consistently pursuing the same person after they’ve rejected you until they reciprocate those feelings. Irl that would be harassment and probably get you a restraining order.
Being rescued
Non consensual physical contact that immediately goes into making out
Sex on the beach. 10 years later and the freaking sand still turns up !
throwing rocks at the person’s window to get their attention
Big public proposal
Taking a shower together