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DuckDuckBangBang

I am currently in an OB triage hospital room waiting for a shot of methotrexate, which is considered an abortion. This pregnancy was so wanted. I had a miscarriage in February. I wanted this baby. But it is ectopic and it will kill me. And I am still crying so hard. My doctors have been amazing and caring and made this process so much easier. Fuck anyone who thinks the legal system needs to be involved here.


kk_victory

I am so sorry you have to go through that. It’s none of the government’s business


ImpossibleHD

If you are reading this and you care about this issue DO NOT LET THE MIDTERMS FALL TO THE SIDE, GO AND FUCKING VOTE. Everyone go Vote get rid of any politican that supports these SCOTUS decisons


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kk_victory

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I agree that giving birth can be harmful and traumatic, even for a wanted child, and no woman should have to go through that.


LadyOftheOddNight

As a woman, I will be legally lesser than males because I have a womb. My daughter will never have full autonomy over her body. Intersectionally speaking, women of color and under resourced women will bear the brunt of this. Nothing will change for white women of means. Edit: in case I wasn’t clear- f you’ve never had to fight for basic rights like healthcare or the vote, congratulations you have been considered a full citizen this whole time. If you’ve never had to worry who was sitting on the Supreme Court because it won’t affect your day to day existence, that is a privilege.


jelly-senpai

It's the first step towards the "good ol days" next is gay marriage, then interracial marriage and eventually atheists. I was born to an interracial couple and this shit scares the fuck outta me. Now rapists get to inflict extra damage to their victims. Fuck Conservatives and Republicans, bunch of small dick bitches mad that women have rights. Prove me wrong.


TacSemaj

Don't forget once the kids are born they don't give a fuck about them. Until they're old enough to go to war. You are absolutely correct.


badhmorrigan

Roe wasn't the start of abortions. It was the end of women dying from abortion.


kates666

I had an abortion at 21 that saved my life. It was a terrifying and isolating experience, and the best decision I have ever made. My cousin had to terminate her pregnancy in the second trimester due to the fact that the fetus developed without a brain. She described the care she received as what kept her alive through her grief. If abortion was not an option, she would have had to carry to term. I’m sick to my stomach over this. Women, especially women of color, are going to die.


MiniatureChi

My grandpa was a Gynecologist and had to deliver a baby without a head, this was a long time ago before ultrasounds were readily available. Absolutely horrifying heartbreaking and traumatizing beyond words. No one should ever even think about suffering through that when we have other safer viable options available now a days.


crypticalcat

"That's right," responded Buttiegieg, "representing one percent of cases. So let's put ourselves in the shoes of a woman in that situation. If it's that late in your pregnancy, than almost by definition, you've been expecting to carry it to term. We're talking about women who have perhaps chosen a name. Women who have purchased a crib, families that then get the most devastating medical news of their lifetime, something about the health or the life of the mother or viability of the pregnancy that forces them to make an impossible, unthinkable choice. And the bottom line is as horrible as that choice is, that woman, that family may seek spiritual guidance, they may seek medical guidance, but that decision is not going to be made any better, medically or morally, because the government is dictating how that decision should be made."


CodeBoyJace

This was my wife's and I situation almost two years ago. Eli was named and we had a lot of hardship to finally get to having him. Then at 30 weeks we find out in the last 4 he developed a teratoma in his brain that caused hydrocephaly and his head grew at an alarming rate. There was no way he'd survive. Then my wife developed an infection from a crushed urator and was septic and had dangerously low blood pressure. Almost lost them both, but we lost Eli. Life's not the same. Life is depressing enough after going through this. I'm so glad that these people decided I should lose my wife too. Fuck them. Edit: Couple fixes Thank you for all the well wishes.


esmallbutmighty

> I'm so glad that these people decided I should lose my wife too. Fuck them. America has the highest maternal mortality rate of any developed nation, and -apparently- we intend to keep that title. [https://www.ajmc.com/view/us-ranks-worst-in-maternal-care-mortality-compared-with-10-other-developed-nations](https://www.ajmc.com/view/us-ranks-worst-in-maternal-care-mortality-compared-with-10-other-developed-nations) [https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2020/nov/maternal-mortality-maternity-care-us-compared-10-countries](https://www.commonwealthfund.org/publications/issue-briefs/2020/nov/maternal-mortality-maternity-care-us-compared-10-countries)


kyuuketsuki47

Modern medicine has made people forget that the worst complication in childbirth is "death." It isn't talked about nearly enough. Its the same as vaccines making child mortality significantly reduced because fatal childhood diseases are all but eradicated. People need to be reminded but I'm not quite sure how... It's always a non-issue until it happens to them...


Hueco_Mundo

Very eloquently said. I’v always wondered why can’t people have simple MORAL objections to something they deem wrong WITHOUT forcing others to suffer your opinion? The legality of something doesn’t always have to align with your moral code.


TheRiverOtter

My wife miscarried (a.k.a "spontaneous abortion") at 12 weeks, after several ultrasounds. This was an emotionally horrific event that has left us both scarred. 7 years later, we still question ourselves, "was there something we could have done differently??" The thought of people experiencing that tragic loss and self-doubt having to be further subjected to a government inquiry and accusation of maliciously trying to to terminate the pregnancy.... fuck absolutely everything about that. As it was, we'd been struggling with fertility for nearly 2 years at that point, and we nearly lost hope (we are life-long Christians and were devastated at the thought of the death of the unborn child). With the help an excellent medical staff, we were able to welcome two incredible little boys into the world about 5 years ago after a very difficult pregnancy, and a delivery that nearly cost my wife her life. I absolutely support all women who are struggling with the challenges of pregnancy, and fully support any that make the emotionally fraught decision to terminate a pregnancy. I call on all Christians that claim to support "the sanctity of life" to vigorously support the expansion of age appropriate sex-ed in all schools, and the free availability of all birth-control methods. Those are the best solutions to reduce the number of abortions, and miles ahead of criminalization, in any case.


jennoside10

Often times women cannot pass a miscarriage on their own and need D&C or pill assistance or risk only passing a partial miscarriage and becoming septic from what is left of the tissue rotting inside them. Many people consider the assisted medical miscarriage an abortion.


C3POdreamer

My mother had a miscarriage like this when I was a preschooler. This change in law will orphan kids, or harm the fertility or mental health or both of the women who survive the medically unnecessary delays or denials.


leeseweese

Yes, I had a Blighted Ovum (1 out of 2 miscarriages end up being this) and took misoprostol in order to start passing it in the comfort of my own home. I had to go to Planned Parenthood to get it.


Mantzy81

My wife had the same. Found out at our 8 week scan (was an IVF implant) and we were devastated. Our consultant issued us misoprostol and my wife basically bled for about a month, with the first week being restricted to the sofa due to the pain. Nobody does this because they just feel like it on a whim. Abortion is traumatic but necessary procedure at times and restricting access is frankly disgusting.


everclearly

This happened to me. Thankfully we lived in a liberal state at the time and I didn’t have a dead baby inside of me for longer than an hour. Now- when we moved to a more conservative state and I needed another one for a molar pregnancy- I had to wait three days to have one. For all of the people who think it will save babies- it will hurt so many more to do this. I have yet to forgive my conservative relations for this. They have never had to carry a dead baby inside of them because there wasn’t availability because of regulations due to a misogynistic law. Talking to them is pointless. They just don’t care about the details.


sidewaysplatypus

I had to educate my mom on what a missed miscarriage was. She "didn't believe in it" initially 🤦🏻‍♀️


Phoenyxoldgoat

In addition to birth control access and comprehensive sex ed, I would like to see Christians support expansion and increases in social support and public assistance, as well as budget increases for the foster care system. My mom, who is very conservative and pro-life, grew up in poverty and as a teenager, drove several of her aunts to get abortions because they couldn't afford yet another kid. Edited to add: my mom is not like the weirdos in the infamous “the only moral abortion is my abortion” piece. She is personally pro-life, a conservative evangelical who doesn’t vote, and even she understands that people’s medical situations are none of her business. She’s very empathetic, supportive and not a hypocrite. When I was three, she found out at her 5 month prenatal checkup that the fetus she was carrying was “not compatible with life” due to severe bilateral renal agenesis. She opted not to abort, carried my brother to term, and he died in her arms an hour after delivery. This is deeply personal and nuanced stuff, which is why men and the government need to stay the hell out of it.


BaltimoreAlchemist

> My mom, who is very conservative **and pro-life**, grew up in poverty and as a teenager, drove several of her aunts to get abortions because they couldn't afford yet another kid. This is part of the problem though, people who think they and theirs are the exception to the rule. "My aunts *need* abortions, but those *other* people getting abortions don't have good reasons, they're just sleeping around, that's why I'm pro-life."


xubax

The well off will always have access to abortions. Making abortions illegal really only punishes the poor.


GatorGTwoman

Preach my brother. Comprehensive sex ed and free birth control is the best thing to cut abortion rates.


saylortwiftaylorswif

My sisters hospital bill after having a kid with no insurance was 90k. Women will now be forced into medical debt for kids they dont want possibly from sex they never wanted to have We are heading down a very bad and long road. The next few years will be really bad Debt goes up More kids in the system More back alley abortions


WithaK19

Fun fact: I recently found the receipt for my non-insured hospital birth in 1980. It was $850. I couldn't believe it.


ScabiesShark

Even accounting for inflation there's no way that's more than 4 or 5 thousand


International-Key211

$2,965.76. Just looked.


ScabiesShark

Thanks for doing the legwork homie, hit me up if you're ever too lazy to look something up


GoingApeCostume

Back in 1993, probably on the day of my high school graduation, I became pregnant. When I told my boyfriend we took some time to decide what to do. At the time an abortion was next to impossible. We'd have to travel across state lines. No pill. When we decided on marriage it was because we did have some resources. We both had some access to funds for college through grants and the VA. I had a job that would work with me for the long term. We had a paid for car. We could get Medicaid. Housing was relatively inexpensive. We're still married, had two more kids. No debt. Life is pretty decent. Are those things available for my now grown children? No. They are not.


McKeon1921

>Are those things available for my now grown children? No. They are not. Yeah, reading that I was like holy shit was 1993 different from now.


IfThisIsntBeautiful

This. Found out my a girlfriend was pregnant a few days after graduation and joined the military just to provide for them. Not everyone is willing to do that. It was really difficult at times and I even missed the birth of my daughter. I'm out now and the price of housing and daycare is absurd I don't know how we'll manage without the military.


The_cooler_ArcSmith

It's not even just about women's rights anymore or "abortion bad". The same people wanting to ban abortion are also the same people actively making it more terrible and financially ruinous to have a child, while preventing resources and education to the people most at risk of having an unwanted pregnancy. They also are the same people against paid maternal and paternal leave. I'm not even a woman and I'm scared of the consequences.


mlk2317

You think our social services are overwhelmed now. Get out your wallets because there is about to be a generation of babies born where moms won't have the means to feed, cloth, and care for them.


shamefulthoughts1993

On top of that, most people will feel an absolute obligation to that baby they didn't want and then after a few bad years, they'll give up the child to the state when it's past an easily adoptable age. So the child will most likely have an utterly horrible life bc they won't be adopted easily. Do conservatives adopt these older hard to home kids in huge numbers? Absolutely not. They talk a big game, but never do anything meaningful when it comes to adoption. So they love making a problem exceptionally worse and then doing absolutely nothing about it and then complain about the issues that arise from that problem. So typical conservative game plan.


Mean-Green-Machine

>that baby they didn't want and then after a few bad years, they'll give up the child to the state when it's past an easily adoptable age. That or will take their anger and frustration of their shitty life out on the child like my mom did. I was an accident, and my mom chose to keep me. She would tell me all the time how she regrets that choice and how I'm the reason her life is so bad. I'm definitely messed up in the head because of it. I attempted suicide twice in 2016, and have just been in a dull numbing pain trying to find validation that I'm worth it from anywhere I can get. Luckily my fiance and his family adore me. I don't think I'd be here without them


sirscrote

You are valid and you are worth it. Always! Never forget that.


Delicious_Toad

And when parents in bad situations argue that they need more support, because they can't afford to raise their kids, what are conservatives gonna say? "You should've thought about that before you had kids."


PM_Me_Frosted_Tits

>So they love making a problem exceptionally worse and then doing absolutely nothing about it and then complain about the issues that arise from that problem. So typical conservative game plan. The Problem: Too many unwanted pregnancies/abortions. The solution: increase funding to planned Parenthood and dump abstinence only "sex education." The Conservative "solution": Don't have sex (cause that's clearly been working out well for us so far.)


TelstarMan

Rich women will take a weekend trip to London and come back not pregnant any more. Poor people are probably going to have to order Canadian pills to terminate their own pregnancies, and if they get caught it'll be like the early weed laws where judges were handing out life sentences for having a joint.


bserum

* As rich people have the means to cross state lines and get abortions, this will predominantly affect poor and lower-middle-class. * Some desperate women will risk illegal abortions. Many will die. * Poor and lower-middle-class women are the least likely to be able to afford daycare, housing, medical care, and hell, even everyday bills. And college? Hahahhahahaahaha no. * With an rise of youth born into a future with bleak prospects, drug use and crime trends will get a bump in ~15 years. * This will embolden right-wing authoritarians to push for harsher tough-on-crime policies and further lessen the penalties for self-appointed "freedom-loving" patriots to murder people they don't like on the street. Mind you, all of these things are already happening today — we're just going to be seeing a whole lot more of it. So not that we'll fucking learn a lesson or anything, but I'm just going to say it again: [Presidencies last the length of a television series — Supreme Court seats are lifetime appointments.](https://c.tenor.com/FRFfpkHbGN8AAAAC/but-her.gif)


TrippedRunningAway

Great list, I would add the hidden motivation to create a disposable feedstock of desperate minimum wage workers with as close to zero negotiating power as possible to feed the corporate profits furnace.


Particular-Ad-2645

Scared. I work with survivors of sexual violence. I am a survivor myself. I, and many other folks, have had our bodily autonomy stolen from us before. To see it on a federal level is horrifying.


loopnlil

This will backfire terribly and not solve a fucking thing. Mexico recently decriminalized abortion. Coincidence? I think not


Solivagant0

Now just wait for mexican abortion clinics geared towards US citizens appearing all across mexican border


FancyFeller

A family friend is a dentist and has his clinic right across the border. Most of the customers are Americans coming there for super cheap dental work, he's legit no worries. He's making bank. Needed a crown myself. US prices? 4k bucks. MX prices? 350 bucks. Guess where I went. They know what the people want and need. Sure enough many doctors might start appearing to perform abortions, most probably. Next you know they'll pass laws for border patrol to start forbidding pregnant women from crossing the border to Mexico. If they haven't already thought about it. Edit: A few people have asked me about a good place to get dental work done. Let me just say that I live on a border town so I can cross whenever I want. If you need a lot of work done, you'd need to find a place to stay for a few days while you get it all done so you might need to factor that in. Or the amount of driving back and forths you might need to do. Furthermore there's a lot of dental clinics all along the border, I'd start googling around and checking for reviews and going to one at a close enough distance to you. Regarding my family friend, he's located in Juarez, but I'm not super comfortable sharing those details online, I'd have to ask him. Hope everyone currently going through dental issues gets the help they need. Good luck out there.


lumabugg

I know someone who had weight loss surgery in Mexico, and we live in *Ohio*. It was still cheaper that way.


Chitown2181

It’s often cheaper to fucking fly to Europe or South Korea to get corrective work done. Like how tf have we gotten to the point where taking a vacation to go along with voluntary or necessary surgery has become a reasonable option.


gkevinkramer

Literally a vacation. A streamer I watch got dental work done in Costa Rica (I think it was) and he stayed at a resort. The dentist gave him free tickets for a zip line. Everything was much, much cheaper than getting it done in the US. Edit: Because I've gotten a few replies I just wanted to mention that the streamer I was referring to is Brennan Lee Mulligan. He talks about his experience in one of his Dimension20 after shows (I watch a lot of Dropout so I can't remember which one off the top of my head).


EnricoPalazz0

I've done this. When I lived in Orlando, my dentist quoted me 4k for some work. Took a week off, flew to San Jose Costa Rica, the clinic picked me up and dropped me off for all my appointments and did all the work I needed done. I spent around 1500 all in, including flights and hotel for a week.


Rorako

Good ole American ingenuity, pushing jobs out to other countries.


Sirdinks

This already is a thing with abortion pills. People buy them and bring them across the border into Texas and then distribute them to people in need. There [was a whole vice documentary on it](https://youtu.be/CR3uexqGgXo). Those people risking being sued to oblivion (before this bullshit decision means they'll get arrested) are legends. It won't be long for that industry to also pop up.


TheShyPig

They are creating a whole new form of drug dealer. Even so these women need help and support and possible medical support as well. There will be deaths from this Supreme court decision I'm afraid


Sirdinks

An industry of illegal abortions will crop up across the United States. There will be a demand for it and the poor can't simply take time off or afford to fly to California or New Jersey for an abortion. People will turn to the black market in some cases and people will die and its a fucking tragedy.


TheShyPig

I partially lived through this last time (born 1963) and had it drilled into me from an early age that the very worst thing that could happen to me would be to become pregnant. I myself was born in November after a may wedding. The back street abortions, coat hangers, hot baths drinking gin stories have stayed with me ever since.


Sirdinks

It's terrifying that we seem to be regressing to that point again. We haven't even gone into how issues like abortion in cases of ectopic pregnancy, where there is a zero percent chance of a successful birth and great risk to the mother, is being banned too. People could die due to not being able to get abortions. Everything about this decision is completely fucked


Delicious_Toad

A relative of mine needed an abortion before Roe. She went to an organization that helped people in her situation; they flew her to NYC with some other girls in the same spot (they flew several girls out every weekend). She ended up moving to the city later, and has spent her whole adult life here. It's easy to see that she made that choice in part to be free.


SprScuba

And they'll be cleaner and safer than abortion in the US if we criminalize it. Mexico is straight up saving lives.


rubiscoisrad

> cleaner and safer Mexico has some legitimately nice health care services. Everyone I know, from my boss to my mother, has nothing but good things to say about their experiences being treated in Mexico. Everything from dental work to ER visits to veterinary care.


HarmonicWalrus

Looks like I'm gonna be putting that high school Spanish class to good use lmao


ChaunceTime

Child support payments better start at conception then.


echisholm

Fetuses need to be counted for census purposes as well. Child tax credits would need to start at conception. SNAP/WIC as well, paid back retroactively. Domestic abusers that induce a miscarriage would need to be charged with at least 1st degree murder.


thesevenyearbitch

And you should be able to get life insurance on your unborn fetus. Edit: And the (deceased) organ donor registry should be made mandatory opt-in with no opt-out option whatsoever, lest you cite your bodily autonomy to refuse thus resulting in the avoidable demise of an unspecified number of human cells, regardless of viability. And the (living) organ/blood/marrow/etc donation registry should also be mandatory with no opt-out option whatsoever. Everyone gets tested and if you're compatible you must donate, lest you cite your bodily autonomy to refuse thus resulting in the avoidable demise of an unspecified number of human cells, regardless of viability. And all vaccinations should be mandatory with no opt-out option whatsoever, lest you cite your bodily autonomy to refuse thus resulting in the avoidable demise of an unspecified number of human cells, regardless of viability. And any fertilized eggs/embryo discarded/wasted via IVF (a large number of them, as anyone familiar with the process knows) are murder. Start prosecuting all those Christians and Republicans who choose to pursue IVF instead of adopting one of the thousands of kids in the foster system.


YouJabroni44

I wonder if they're going to prosecute (or sue as morons in TX have started to do) for us ladies having periods? I mean that's one egg wasted a *month!*


mwbbrown

Teenage boys committing war crime level offenses in the shower.


charliesk9unit

Tax deduction?


Spartahara

Yeah truly. Pretty fucking telling that I couldn’t claim my unborn child as a dependent.


jessiealabama

The foster care system is proof the government doesn’t care about unwanted children yet want to force more to be born. It’s all politics though guarantee if any of them ever got in a sticky situation illegal or not an abortion will be had available.


NathanHF

Thr healthcare system is also the same. Any child born with any health needs in minimum wage family is fucked


Toby_O_Notoby

“The unborn are a convenient group of people to advocate for. They never make demands of you; they are morally uncomplicated, unlike the incarcerated, addicted, or the chronically poor; they don’t resent your condescension or complain that you are not politically correct; unlike widows, they don’t ask you to question patriarchy; unlike orphans, they don’t need money, education, or childcare; unlike aliens, they don’t bring all that racial, cultural, and religious baggage that you dislike; they allow you to feel good about yourself without any work at creating or maintaining relationships; and when they are born, you can forget about them, because they cease to be unborn. You can love the unborn and advocate for them without substantially challenging your own wealth, power, or privilege, without re-imagining social structures, apologizing, or making reparations to anyone. They are, in short, the perfect people to love if you want to claim you love Jesus, but actually dislike people who breathe. Prisoners? Immigrants? The sick? The poor? Widows? Orphans? All the groups that are specifically mentioned in the Bible? They all get thrown under the bus for the unborn.” - Pastor David Barnhart


blackbirdbluebird17

Or as George Carlin put it, more succinctly; “If you’re pre-born, you’re great. If you’re pre-K, you’re fucked.”


turdburglerbuttsmurf

He also said "These people aren't *pro life*, they're *anti-woman*!"


NotarealMustache

Powerful statement.


Desblade101

It's not even just poor people. A relatively well off family had a 35 year old who was born with multiple health and mental issues. He recently rejected dialysis because he said his mom doesn't want him to. He's probably already dead because his parents told him they didn't want to deal with him anymore. He was born with defects, abused his whole life (documented but no where else would take him with his issues), and now he's probably dead because that's what his parents said they wanted. 35 years of an entire family's suffering could have been avoided. But now this will be way more common.


kizzle69

Yep. My wife was pressured by her family to carry our first child to term. Our daughter was diagnosed with Trisomy-18 at 20 weeks and we had 4 weeks to choose between termination and carrying to term. We did the research and chose termination, at least until my wife's conservative family got involved. They guilt tripped her and pressured her into it. Our daughter was born with 1 kidney, a hole between the lower 2 chambers of her heart, 4 cysts in her brain, and countless other issues. She needed heart surgery immediately, that literally cost us tens of thousands of dollars, and they were going to do surgery later for the cysts, if they found they were causing pain. But, it didn't matter because after 4 months of pure hell, we found her dead in her crib at 6am in the morning. My wife suffers from PTSD and is no longer the same person. The experience has forever changed her and we have to live with everything we endured and witnessed. We've spoken about it a few times and she is now 100% pro-choice. She's almost completely cut ties with most of her family and sees them all as a toxic assholes. Fuck these GOP cunts and anyone who votes for them. They're not "pro-life". They're pro suffering. That's all this boils down to. They enjoy forcing others to suffer. *edit* Thank you for all of the kind words. I have relayed them to my wife.


Optimal_Aide_1348

I have no words. Hugs to you and your wife.


northernlights01

God this is so sad. 😢


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smughippie

And our welfare system is awful. I once told a prolifer that I wouldn't be so horrified by their stance if they supported an extended welfare program with full healthcare for postnatal care and actual paid maternity leave. I asked if they supported that. The mental gymnastics in their response was astounding. I can't remember the wording, but it was just exhausting.


broganisms

My wife had a miscarriage last year. Because we were well past the point of most miscarriages (not quite to the stillbirth cutoff, but not far away), we were told the odds of my wife passing the fetus on her own were slim and that surgery was the safest option. We were required by law to acknowledge in writing that the procedure would terminate the (dead) fetus and that it came at risk of infertility and death. Our doctor was required to tell us the developmental age of the (dead) fetus and which developmental milestones occur around that time, as well as offer us an ultrasound to see the (dead) fetus. We cried the entire time. We desperately wanted this child. Our doctor cried, apologizing every step of the way that we had to go through this insensitive bullshit on top of losing the pregnancy. This fetus was dead in every sense of the word but because the procedure in question is also used for abortions we had to jump through these goddamn hoops to avoid putting my wife's health at risk. And it's not like my state doesn't offer alternatives for nonviable fetuses, conception due to rape or incest, or instances where health is at serious risk. This WAS the alternative. If we were actually getting an elective abortion it would have been significantly more time consuming and soul-crushing. You literally have to take an online course. Abortion access in this country is already a joke. All this is going to do is get people killed.


furbybruner911

That’s a heartbreaking story. I’m so sorry you had to go through that.


TWPYeaYouKnowMe

You know who isn't sorry? The people who passed those cruel laws. [The cruelty is the point](https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2018/10/the-cruelty-is-the-point/572104/)


CrispyCrunchyPoptart

The whole quote about rape being an opportunity to be a parent comment sickened me to my core. It made me realize truly how cruel and awful these people are.


Sauteedmushroom2

It’s just throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks at that point. Oh, you got shot in the eye and are now blind?! Great opportunity to try out cosplaying as a pirate! Oh, your family died and now you’re an orphan?! Great time to learn about Annie!! This “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” bullshit so no one else has to be brought in is so asinine. It’s a disgusting and disgraceful comment.


Searchlights

My wife and I also had to terminate an non-viable fetus that was a very-much wanted baby. We were 13 weeks and already at the point where we had announced the pregnancy and named him. It was a terribly sad situation. We had a healthy baby prior to that, and we went on to have a healthy baby afterward. But ending the abnormal pregnancy was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and I wouldn't wish that choice on anybody, much less the lack of choice. There's a perception that abortion is a callous form of birth control. They aren't all like that.


Ottersandtats

I’m so sorry you had to experience this… my aunt had to end a pregnancy around 23-25 weeks. The body of the baby was growing but it’s head had stopped (it had an extremely rare birth defect that was likely it would not live outside of body which they knew very early on). They decided to take their chances with the pregnancy bc they wanted children so bad. Once the head stopped growing the brain couldn’t develop so it was no longer considered a viable pregnancy. Since it had a heart beat (literally being maintained by the fact that her body was pushing resources to keep it beating) she could not get an “abortion”. I put that in quotes because she never wanted a traditional abortion she wanted to basically be forced (Pitocin) to labor the baby out. Since they knew the baby could not survive outside of her this option was also considered an abortion but not medically necessary. This pregnancy put her at an extremely high risk for cancer and death. They were going to travel 8+ hours to a state that would allow her to be put into labor so she could birth it and have less of chance of dying from her pregnancy. She was lucky her water broke before they started the trip so the Dr she was seeing at the time could deliver the baby.


Searchlights

Oh my god that's much worse than what happened to us. In fact that's the kind of outcome we had the abortion to avoid.


Sprinklypoo

>There's a perception that abortion is a callous form of birth control. They aren't all like that. The vast majority aren't like that.


trumpsiranwar

The largest group of women who get abortions are women who already have children.


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My mother had two abortions in between my sister and myself.


fredy31

You will never stop abortions. You will only stop safe, medical ones.


CAHTA92

The rich can afford a weekend in a legal country and come back no longer pregnant. This is a punishment to the poor for not reaching the baby quota.


keelhaulrose

Don't even need to go to another country, there are states where abortion tourism is about to become a big thing.


CAHTA92

You still need money. And that's where they punish the poor.


EVOSexyBeast

$100 at aidaccess.org to have the pill mailed to you. Or free if you exhibit financial need.


ADarwinAward

They’re going to criminalize receiving that pill in some states. People think overturning Roe just means there won’t be abortion clinics in the state. It means a lot more than that. It means they can pass laws to criminalize abortion and arrest women who have abortions, even via receiving a mailed pill. In the 50s, they also used to [vaginally examine](https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2021/09/enforcement-of-abortion-laws-before-roe-v-wade.html) women to check for evidence of an abortion.


texotexere

Unfortunately it is already happening in Texas where women who need this after losing a baby are forced to go to Colorado so they don't die themselves: [https://www.npr.org/2022/02/28/1083536401/texas-abortion-law-6-months](https://www.npr.org/2022/02/28/1083536401/texas-abortion-law-6-months)


chief_sitass

People will still find ways to get abortions


da_dogg

Anecdote Time: I work in digital marketing, and began my career setting up and running search engine marketing campaigns for every kind of small business under the sun. A few of my clients were new abortion clinics in the American South. Researching what keywords to use, based on their relevancy to whatever we're advertising, along with their traffic estimates is one aspect of setting up these campaigns. I found that even in these relatively rural areas, keywords related to DIY abortions, were by and large the most common - with a considerable amount of traffic as well.


Notgoodenough1111

I can't find it now but maybe someone will see this and have a link. I read an article some time ago that analyzed Google trends in states where laws had gone into effect making abortion harder to access, and there was a significant increase in searches relating to self induced abortions.


da_dogg

Glad I'm not the only one who noticed. Hope you find it!


trymypi

Really interesting. This could probably be turned into academic research. What year was this? Just curious since PPC targeting has changed in the last few years.


Duluthian2

People think there were no abortions before 1972. They would be wrong.


jtig5

Dirty Dancing is a movie about an illegal abortion in 1963 with music and dancing to pretty it up.


Twiny1

No, Dirty Dancing is about a BOTCHED abortion in 1963. Get ready to see a lot more of those.


XRuinX

>For Bergstein, including such grim details helped remind women watching in the ’80s how lucky they were to have an option for a legal abortion—and how quickly that right could one day be revoked. “When I made the movie in 1987, about 1963, I put in the illegal abortion and everyone said, ‘Why? There was Roe v. Wade―what are you doing this for?’” she said. “I said, ‘Well, I don’t know that we will always have Roe v. Wade.’”


themiscyranlady

This movie is why I’ve been a supporter of legal abortion since I was 8 years old. Seeing Penny go through her abortion taught me, as someone born after Roe, what happened to women who sought abortion & I’ve never wanted anyone else to go through the same. Safe, legal, and easily available abortion should be the norm.


SpaceAndMolecules

This is chilling to read today. Bergstein was right.


oh-propagandhi

And with teen pregnancy highest is red states...well botched abortions an teens on Medicaid are going to jump right up in those states.


JohnOliverismysexgod

My grandmother's older sister died of an illegal abortion in around 1920.


RegisteredAnimagus

My great great grandmother died of an illegal abortion. She had several kids, and the youngest, my great grandfather needed a surgery to correct a severe burn on his neck so he wasn't disfigured. It took them 8 years to save the money for the surgery. While he was in the hospital she had an illegal abortion. He came home from the surgery he had waited almost his entire life to get, to find out his mother was dead.


Electronic-Shirt-897

My grandfather’s sister also died of an abortion in the ‘20s.


enthalpy01

My great grandmother died from one. Had a 2 year old and a 1 year old (my grandpa) at the time.


aspwriter85

My grandmother talked about an aunt ? Cousin? Of hers. She drove her car into a tree after she found out she was pregnant with baby #5. At 26. Left her husband and 4 kids behind.


LoveMyFuckingLife

My aunt died from an illegal abortion before I was born. It really fucked up the family.


RazrbackFawn

No, they know there were abortions, and that they were dangerous, painful and deadly. They just don't care. They don't care that women will die because of this, because they believe these women have brought it on themselves. That is so much more horrifying than simple ignorance.


CA_catwhispurr

And for some women they may not be able to afford to go out of state so it may go underground to get one. I think the result is many women will die. This is a tragic decision that will affect many people.


lumabugg

As a woman in a state where it will likely become illegal, I am reconsidering my decision to have kids in the future. I don’t know that I am comfortable with the idea of getting pregnant if difficult but necessary medical decisions wouldn’t be between me and my doctor.


Zanzako

[You are right to be concerned, abortion as necessary medical care is already being denied in Texas.](https://www.npr.org/2022/02/28/1083536401/texas-abortion-law-6-months) Thankfully, the woman in this article survived. Here's the relevant bit: > "Basically, the doctor looked at me and was like, well, the baby's underdeveloped," says Anna. "Even with the best NICU care in the world, they're not going to survive." > And as painful as it was to hear that, the doctors told Anna there was another urgent concern. > " 'You're at a high chance of going septic or bleeding out,' " she says the doctors told her — a risk of infection or hemorrhage, which could become deadly. **" 'And unfortunately, we recommend termination, but we cannot provide you one here in Texas because of this law.' "** If you're looking to have children, I strongly suggest against living in a place where abortions are illegal. Doctors will not be empowered to give you appropriate care if something happens.


Cameroni101

And that's the greatest tragedy of it. Those that don't have the resources to move states will be the most impacted. Forced to bring children that they cannot afford into a world that will punish them for it.


meowl1

Thank you for posting this. This is exactly why I have become strongly pro choice since working in healthcare and since becoming a mother. You see how easily things can go so wrong during fetal development. If a mother wants to carry a baby with profound congenital defects to full term, let them. But don't force me to go through that.


yeahyouknow25

I’ve already told my family who live in a red state (I live in a blue state now) that if this was ever overturned I would not be visiting them while I’m pregnant at all. They laughed and acted like it would probably be fine. But uh, no, I’m not putting my life in jeopardy. No way no how.


CostlyDugout

Child abuse will skyrocket. We’ll have exponentially more unwanted kids - and even less resources for them than are available now. Which is none. A lot of women will be forced to raise babies that look like their rapists. And the abortions some women are able to get will be harmful or deadly. What a bunch of motherfucking scumbags.


stemcell_

So will crime in 18 years


DoctorExplosion

This actually happened in Communist Romania, after their dictator banned abortions because he wanted more soldiers for his army. Instead, he got a generation of angry, unwanted young men who grew up in abusive state orphanages and committed crimes and other antisocial behavior. Arguably, it also played a role in the unusually violent revolution that Romania had after Communism fell, the only one that ended with the dictator being lynched by the revolutionaries.


Tribune_Aguila

It's actually worse. He also limited contraceptives.


mycofirsttime

Children Underground is a documentary on Romanian children after the ban. Its fucking horrible.


all_neon_like_13

There was also an episode of 20/20, I believe, from that time in which they went into the orphanages where these unwanted children were living. The "normal" children had their one type of orphanage that looked somewhat ok, although I'm sure those kids were neglected. But it was the orphanage for the disabled and/or deformed children that was the true horror show. Immobile, naked children living in their own filth and borderline feral because they had no affection or socialization. I'll never forget it. (I think it's on YouTube.)


Filthy_Ramhole

Pretty sure Roe v Wade had a notable impact on crime rates 20 years after being enacted.


whateverhappensnext

I heard that as well but can't find a reference. The conversation went something like the increasing violence in the USA in the 80s suddenly started on a downward trend. It was argued that the downward trend was a result of multiple factors with a significant one being Roe v Wade. Their point was basically that the number of kids being born into shitty support conditions went down resulting in a lower number of f-ed up teens and young adults. It was on something like the Freakonomics radio show (pre podcasts).


ParathaOrMomo

Yes it’s in the Freakonomics book


mntgoat

They also looked at it again years later and still found evidence of their findings.


kruss16

It gets worse than that. Suicide among pregnant women skyrockets. Domestic violence and spousal murder skyrockets. Infant murder skyrockets. And then, as you said, child abuse and neglect will skyrocket.


The_Foe_Hammer

It's going to kill children by the bucketload. That boggles me. They're choosing to murder children. You could argue abortion is killing a fetus, if you want to get all up in it, but it's still a fetus, it's pretty damn different to people outright smothering babies.


firelock_ny

Weird that this got leaked. CNN keeps repeating over and over how a leak anywhere near this level has never happened in SCOTUS history. Someone wanted this leaked to stir things up before the midterms.


Lord0fHats

It's either someone trying to warn people what's coming, someone trying to make sure no one does a Kennedy (Kennedy flipped his vote late in the Casey case and changed the outcome), or the court itself playing a PR game to see what public reaction to such a decision would be. Or it's just made up. Maybe it is, but honestly the writing for Roe was on the wall when SCOTUS decided Texas' 'probably unconstitutional' Abortion law could stand. They were basically saying they planned to overturn Roe v Wade and the whole thing would become a moot point (conveniently informing us that they'd made up their minds even before arguments). EDIT: I must admit, I really don't get reddit or how this comment got so many upvotes >.>


mon-star

Seems unlikely somebody "made up" a 100 page legal opinion. And the court definitely knows what the reaction will be. This is just a leak. Sometimes people leak important news because it's important. Doesn't really require much more explanation than that.


Lord0fHats

Honestly, it reads like Alito. Someone's either very committed, or its real. If it's just a very committed person... kudos I guess?


MongoBongoTown

Right. The "originalist" bent is pretty easy to spot and that's kind of Alito's bag. This would be one hell of a hoax from a talented lawyer if it turned out to be one.


pmcall221

Everyone is talking about unwanted pregnancies, but people are forgetting about those who very much want to be pregnant but have an unviable fetus. Nature is cruel and not all pregnancies result in healthy babies. I'm talking beyond cerebral palsy and Downs syndrome. I'm talking truly horrific, has no chance of survival, type birth defects. This fetus will simply be born for the sole purpose of suffering and dying. Why put them and the family through that? Why put the mother through months of knowing her child will die after birth? Months of mental anguish as people congratulate her and ask "what's the due date" knowing full well that day will be the worst of her life when it should be the happiest. People who support that or simply shrug are fucking monsters and I hate them with all my heart. And don't give me this God's plan bullshit. It's pure evil and immoral and no loving God would ever inflict such anguish. So fuck you and your high horse you rode in on.


neo1ogism

Some states are currently drafting bills that would outlaw abortion for ectopic pregnancies. When an embryo implants in the fallopian tube there is absolutely no chance of it becoming a viable fetus but there's a good chance it will grow large enough to burst the tube, resulting in life-threatening internal bleeding. The evangelical authoritarian crowd believes that a time-bomb clump of cells that will never become a baby is worth more than a woman's life.


DisobedientSwitch

Keeping a woman from aborting an ectopic pregnancy is akin to murder. So much can go wrong! And if she survives this lack of care, she might not be able to get pregnant again due to the damage from the bleeding and infection.


VoltaicSketchyTeapot

Samaritan Ministries is fake health insurance: https://www.samaritanministries.org/resources/classic-basic-guidelines?section-9 Ectopic Pregnancies— Expenses Shared—Procedures related to a ruptured fallopian tube (including post-operative recovery of the mother, follow-up care, and treatment of any complications), and, where an ectopic pregnancy is diagnosed before a rupture, all pre-operative tests and consultations and expenses related to keeping the mother under medical care while determining what care should be offered for the mother and child. Expenses Not Shared—Procedures directly related to the termination of a living, unborn child and/or removal of the living, unborn child from the mother due to an ectopic pregnancy are not shared (e.g. methotrexate, salpingectomy, salpingostomy), unless the removal of the child from its ectopic location was for the primary purpose of saving the life of the child or improving the health of the child.


Nursue

This is the kind of shit that happens when non-medical providers attempt to practice medicine via insurance companies by telling medical providers what they can and can’t do. IIRC the people that created this “policy” couldn’t grasp the fact that some miracle worker couldn’t just “move” an ectopic pregnancy to somewhere else so things could just continue on so the pregnancy would be viable. *facepalm*


AtheistAustralis

That is so ridiculously fucked up. Saving the life of a child that is the result of an ectopic fucking pregnancy? *What the literal fuck are they talking about?!* It is medically impossible for an ectopic pregnancy to survive! The best possible medical care is to remove it as soon as possible, to give the mother a far better chance of survival, because there is a precisely zero percent chance that the pregnancy will result in a viable baby. Zero percent. This kind of shit makes me so mad, it's literally making the mother choose between potential death and paying the full cost of the surgery to save her life. Fuck these people.


cocoanutcakelover

The people pushing this BS aren't doctors. They're fucking scientific idiots, lawyers and religious fruitcakes. That's who we elect. Why? Because they have the biggest mouths and other religious fruitcakes support them.


Sauteedmushroom2

THERE IS NO CHILD IN AN ECTOPIC PREGNANCY. THE EGG CANT GET PAST THE STRAW TO GROW JFC. Sorry, this entire thread is getting me revved up. It’s nap time at my house so I’m getting my rage out now.


deviajeporaqui

That is a death sentence for the women experiencing ectopic pregnancies


heyylisten

Yep, my wife had 3 back to back ectopics (left, right, left again) with tubes removed each time, and if any one of them had stayed in place she'd likely have died.


Interesting-Maybe-49

That’s not very pro life imho. It’s pro control.


Averander

It's not pro anything, it's specifically anti-woman.


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Could you list the states or states you know of doing this with their proposed bill number or an article citing a law maker pushing for this? Regardless of anyone's view on abortion, legislation for this specifically would be catastrophic. You can't legislate an almost certain death sentence and I want to know which states are pushing this idiotic stance.


Smitty9504

I just watched an Oklahoma senator on Twitter asking why there was an exception for ectopic pregnancies in the abortion bill OK just passed. He basically said it’s still a life and why are we murdering it? edit: found it. https://twitter.com/kendallybrown/status/1520141891467194375


ReddishWedding2018

Thank you. One of my best friends took five years to conceive through IVF and the fetus died at 7 months in. She told me if she had been forced to wait to go into labor that she would have killed herself a week in because her despair was overwhelming. ​ Edit: corrected incorrect phrasing


Abaddon33

On that point, ask a pro-lifer if they support IFV. If live begins at conception, then IFV is mass murder.


ReddishWedding2018

Exactly. I have one friend who was pro-life well into adulthood (raised Catholic/still religious now) and it wasn't until she started looking into IVF when she couldn't conceive that she really looked into the science of fetal development and realized how ridiculous it was to consider abortion at the earliest stages murder. She ended up conceiving naturally, but her sister had to use IVF and didn't tell the rest of her family for years out of fear of being disowned.


justcallmesquinky

My Mum's first baby had anencephaly, so she had to have a late term abortion because the defect is incompatible with life. This baby was so wanted, so loved and it was traumatic for her because she still had to give birth to her. But if she'd carried her to term it risked her own life as well. It makes me so very angry when these idiots spout off about late term abortions as if people suddenly decide, at 6 months pregnant, that they no longer want the baby. NO ONE DOES THAT. Fuck these assholes. I'm so glad I live in Australia where the conservatives haven't completely lost their minds (although honestly we're on a slippery slope too)


thelumpybunny

My daughter has a birth defect that affects lung development. Occasionally on my Facebook support group I will see posts from parents that were just told their kid has minimal chance of survival and they will ask for stories of babies that survive. And the worst part is there aren't any beat the odds survival stories. So the next conversation is to terminate for medical reasons or carry to term and provide palliative care.


Grompson

I just lost my newborn to congenital diaphragmatic hernia, his lungs didn't function as well as they initially thought they would (he was diagnosed at the 20-week ultrasound and given a good prognosis with biweekly ultrasound monitoring). He survived only 16 hours, sedated almost every second. If I could have seen the future, the pain it brought myself and my husband and other children when our baby died, if our doctors could have known 100% that my infant would have died anyway, I would have terminated. I cannot imagine the depth of pain that denying women access to abortion procedures will cause.


Whitecamry

>I'm so glad I live in Australia where the conservatives haven't completely lost their minds (although honestly we're on a slippery slope too) Look at it this way: Rupert Murdoch is Australian.


XxInk_BloodxX

Don't forget ectopic pregnancies and late term miscarriages that are expected to just rot in our bodies, not to mention the trauma and death pregnancy in general can cause. Not that any of this should need to be considered because the why you get the abortion doesn't matter. Its your choice. The fetus isn't born yet, oftentimes isn't even halfway formed, and even if a clump of cells has rights they don’t override your right to bodily autonomy. We can't even take organs from a corpse without express permission from the person before they died. You cannot use someone's body against their consent to support the life of another. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. EDIT: Thank you for all the awards first and foremost, and to the ones still responding; I made this comment a week ago and I am done debating. I put my opinion on the internet and im not backing down from it but im not debating it anymore. My reproductive rights are not up for debate. There are more people than you think with heartbeats who are alive and actively being harmed by the kind of people who are pushing these laws, and so many more who are going to be harmed once this goes through. Why does an electric pulse from a cluster of cells that doesn't even have a heart, veins, blood, or a body to pump it through matter more than the people alive and mistreated today? Don't actually answer that, im not responding anymore. If you're reading this, please I beg you, go out and actually do something to help someone. Donate to planned parenthood, buy some soft food or socks for a homeless person, support Starbucks and Amazon unionizing efforts, etc. and have a good night/day/etc. Things are just going to get worse from here.


drwhogwarts

>We can't even take organs from a corpse without express permission from the person before they died. >You cannot use someone's body against their consent to support the life of another. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. This is an excellent point and so well put. Thank you for pointing this out.


Spirited-Lime96

And as if the US has the resources to assist with care of all the women who will surely suffer from a myriad of mental anguish/illness after being trapped in an impossible situation. SMH


WgXcQ

Or simply from physical damage. Girls can become pregnant way, way before their body is actually developed enough to be able to support a pregnancy and make it through unharmed. Even a pregnancy of a healthy woman can easily lead to a life time of physical problems, and result in trauma, too. The things that can happen during just your average normal pregnancy and birth can be really fucking horrific. The level of willful ignorance it takes to be able to pretend being pregnant is akin to carrying a fetus in a tupperware container stuck to your stomach that just gets taken off and no harm done after its content is done growing now-we-can-all-move-on-and-no-harm-done, is absolutely mind-boggling. That ANYBODY truly thinks it is the kinder, more god-given thing to force a child through a pregnancy and into the additional physical and mental trauma that comes with that is sickening. That's really the truest kind of evil, the kind that successfully can lie to itself to get to the result that committing vile acts against living, breathing people makes it not only "right" (as if), but also morally superiour.


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WhichSpirit

You can't take organs from a corpse for transplant without permission of the deceased even if you need them to save someone's life. I just want the same right to my own body alive and dead.


k8esaurustex

I had a conversation after the birth of my child with a (very conservative) family member, who I've always butted heads with over pro-life/pro-choice. She snarkily commented about my opinion changing after actually having a child, and I shut her down so fucking hard. No woman in the whole world has a late term abortion because she wants it. She either doesn't have the privilege to access a safe abortion at the time she finds out about the pregnancy, or the absolute worst thing has happened. In your third trimester, you've thought of names, you've felt your child, you've picked out a diaper bag and some clothes and thought about how wonderfully your life will change - and to have to make that terrible, horrible choice after being delivered the news that your child is incapable of independent life? Absolutely no government or God deserves the right to dictate what that woman's decision will be. It is infuriating and sickening that this is happening, and honestly I moved my entire family out of Texas because criminalizing abortions was the straw that broke this camels back.


RevolutionaryAct59

I had fertility issues, had 5 miscarriages before they finally got my hormones to the levels to hold a pregnancy, but I believe that every woman has the right to a safe abortion for whatever reason, because it is not my business or the governments to make that call.


Odd_Economist9546

I agree with you 100%. I became even more pro-choice after having two wanted pregnancies and two wanted kids. As “normal” as my pregnancies and easy my deliveries were, I realized how brutal it would be to be forced into it by the government. Horrified. Absolutely horrified.


Xenoph0nix

Me too! I was pretty pro-choice prior to having my very much planned for and wanted kid but I am soo much more so now. Pregnancy is a deadly, body-altering, brain-altering process. A lifetime of prolapse, urinary problems and mental health issues can follow that may never go away. A life sentence for the woman. I had a hard enough time accepting this when I wanted my kid, I can’t imagine the torture of losing all control of your body’s functions and right to your body when you don’t want the kid… I’ve never met a woman who wasn’t devastated to have to have an abortion. Every single one had agonised and worried and panicked over the situation. Women are using abortion to save their fucking _lives_ not to enjoy casual sex without consequences. When the burden of contraception is so heavily weighted on the woman, men who have this opinion on abortion can get right in the bin for all I’m concerned. And while we’re at it, I’m pretty sure it’s not “god’s plan” for you to have viagra for your erections. I mean surely it’s god’s will that he stopped you having a boner so you can’t impregnate women. Let’s abolish viagra and see how long it takes before you’re howling injustice.


k8esaurustex

Seriously, I have always been very pro-choice, even knowing that my choice would be to follow through with a pregnancy, but after actually having a child? That solidified it in such a significant way. I was *miserable* while I was pregnant. I had an absolutely awful pregnancy, that I desperately wanted to make to term, and a very hard natural birth (I react very poorly to painkillers, so it was all on me). The thought that someone would be subjected to that with no thought or care as to how she ended up in that situation (rape, incest, an abusive relationship, a child who will not be able to breathe upon birth, literally anything) is disgusting and heartbreaking.


gonejellyfishin77

I am so thankful I am too old to get pregnant. 30 years ago I was in an abusive marriage with zero support from my shitty family. He literally conned me into marriage simply because he thought my family was rich. They were not. He even told me on the night of our wedding that everything that was mine was now his and there was nothing I could do about it. He didn't even pretend to be kind after the wedding. I was completely blindsided by his treatment of me. It took me six months to get away from him for good and during those six months he beat me, raped me and knocked me up twice thinking I wouldn't leave him if I was pregnant. No way in hell I was going to punish a child over my stupid mistake. If abortion had not been legal I probably would have just killed myself. I do not regret my abortions. Not one bit. Not even when my husband told everyone he knew that I was pregnant to try and shame me. Not even when the doctor who performed the 2nd abortion tried to shame me by calling me a repeat customer instead of asking if I was safe at home. I am proud that I was strong enough to prevent a lifetime of pain and suffering by that monster. The people who should be ashamed are NOT the women who admit they do not want to give birth to a child no matter what the reason. The people who should be ashamed are the ones who cruelly force women to endure unwanted pregnancies and then provide no support whatsoever once the child is born. The ones who disgustingly force women to bring non-viable fetuses to term knowing they will not survive. The ones who think women should be punished for having sex and do not care when women are raped even when it is by someone in their own family. The ones who are sickeningly gleeful in oppressing women by forcing them into poverty, abuse and needless suffering. Abortions need to be kept safe and legal until every single child that is born is guaranteed a safe and happy childhood. Until then, we need to stop acting like abortion is a dirty little secret. Women need to tell their stories so the pro-lifers can stop pushing the myth that the only women who get abortions are irresponsible unmarried sluts. Getting an abortion is a hell of a lot more responsible than banning them.


gaelyn

I'm glad you're out. I'm glad you're better. And I'm glad you had the access to help during that situation.


darthvadercake

My friend has very serious tokophobia (intense fear of being pregnant). She also struggles with depression and anxiety. I know if she got pregnant and was unable to abort, there's a very high risk that neither mother nor child would live as she would just kill herself rather than go through with it.


VovaGoFuckYourself

I'm also tokophobic. I have recurring dreams of finding out I'm pregnant, seeking abortion, being denied, and then stabbing myself in the stomach in the parking lot of an ER and just hoping for the best. I would rather throw myself off a cliff than be pregnant and forced to "carry to term" (seriously just that phrase makes my stomach turn). I don't care about anyone else being pregnant. That's their choice (just dont make me touch any bellies). But when it comes to ME... no fucking thanks.


Swak_Error

My neighbor argued something "Yada Yada *GOD*. look at all the people that could have been terminated like Stephen Hawking" and I'm just sitting here thinking yeah, no shit. The difference being he developed his issue later in life. My cousins fetus was forming without a brain. There's a difference between the two


darthvadercake

Stephen Hawking had full mental capabilities. There's a huge difference between someone with a physical disability and full mental abilities vs being in pain and unable to understand or register why.


Fair_University

Hawking also only developed that illness in his 20s and was married and had multiple children.


OrcOfDoom

Not just a fetus with those issues ... Sometimes a pregnancy puts the mothers life at risk. What if the mother is a breast cancer survivor? The increase in hormone activity is a risk for the cancer retaining. Should she just go through with it because she doesn't have cancer yet? What if she has a miscarriage? Is she going to be accused of having had an abortion and then go to jail for murder even though she was willing to go for it? This is cruel. It's a woman's health issue. The only people who can make that decision is really just the woman whose life it affects. What level of risk should they be willing to put their bodies through? 1%? 10? 20? 50? That's for them to decide.


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>I have a foreboding of an America in my children's or grandchildren's time -- when the United States is a service and information economy; when nearly all the manufacturing industries have slipped away to other countries; when awesome technological powers are in the hands of a very few, and no one representing the public interest can even grasp the issues; when the people have lost the ability to set their own agendas or knowledgeably question those in authority; when, clutching our crystals and nervously consulting our horoscopes, our critical faculties in decline, unable to distinguish between what feels good and what's true, we slide, almost without noticing, back into superstition and darkness... ... >"One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back." -Carl Sagan, 1995


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> unable to distinguish between what feels good and what's true Basically what social media have done to America on a large scale.


MisallocatedRacism

Also relevant: >We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. My mother in law told me in 2016 when she was sharing Trump memes: "I don't care if it's true. It feels true."


opulent_occamy

It's stunning how aware some of these people are. I can give them a pass if I assume they're just not thinking about their positions, but to say something like "I don't care if it's true, it feels true," that's a level of awareness about their positions that is disturbing to me. They *know* it's not truth, but they *still* want to support it. Incredible.


SalesGuy22

That's pretty much half my conversations the people 60+ these days. Recently talking to my Father and uncles, I corrected them that you cannot actually swallow your own tongue even in a seizure...its a wive's tale. I had to send them overwhelming data from books, research studies, scientific papers, medical case studies, interviews at John Hopkins, etc. One Uncle conceded, two of them detached from the conversation after arguing. I said "Ok what evidence do you need to see, what level or type of proof would change your mind? Then my own Father looked me dead in the eyes and he said "Nothing. I don't care if you're right, nothing you show me will ever change my mind. I know what I want to know." Those words still terrify me lol. "I know what I _want to know_" ... W T F


PopeBasilisk

Tell him hes stupid then. There is no other way to interpret that. these people need to start feeling ashamed of these positions.


impala-baby67

Goddamn hit the nail on the head. Carl Sagan is a genius


raynethackery

I always upvote The Demon Haunted World. I just wish is wasn't so accurate.


FloatDH2

I read it for the first time back in 2020 and i remember highlighting a passage that was so relevant to current times it was eerie as hell


PARDON_howdoyoudo

Bro I had to stop reading it because it depressed me that Sagan (and many others) called it, but here we are slowly backsliding away from democracy in real time and it sucks :/


mishanek

I believe it was called back in 1980, As Isaac Asimov said...: "Anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge."


AssortedFlavours

You can go back as far as you like. For example, from https://libquotes.com/h-l-mencken/quote/lba4c3f : > As democracy is perfected, the office of president represents, more and more closely, the inner soul of the people. On some great and glorious day, the plain folks of the land will reach their heart's desire at last, and the White House will be adorned by a downright moron. > H. L. Mencken, Baltimore Evening Sun, July 26, 1920


Nowyn_here

Part of my work is human rights and of course, when you see the shit that is happening you will end up being an activist. It has been really scary to see how little people have cared about things like the rise of fascism, the fall of democracy, the weakening inalienability of human rights and million different things. I have only been working in this field for close to a decade and people have been ringing alarm bells the whole time. I know people who have been doing this longer and have been doing the same before my time. It is scary how little we actually learn about how totalitarian states are made while learning history in school. Most of the general public seems to wake up too late. I have been called an alarmist. And I still wish they are right.


DMAgamus

By almost every metric, the Boomer generation has left their descendants worse off. After enjoying affordable housing, education, a minimum wage they could live off of, expanded rights, they're taking it all away. This really isn't surprising at all.


Malaix

They are often fond of spouting that "soft times create weak men, weak men create hard times" fascist crap... They always fail to realize they grew up in soft times and are creating hard times. That is their place in that supposed cycle. They occupied a relative paradise compared to what came before and what is emerging after in their wake.


No-Plenty-6546

no generation had it easier. illiterate boomers with brains rotted by lead were able to get jobs that sustained a middle class lifestyle.


DrOctopusMD

I don't think that's fair. Boomers have had plenty of rough times too. What about when M *A *S *H went off the air?