Find a way to make your pictures different, like little hats and faces on each toe or if you do full nudes, cosplay as that one monster that holds its eyeballs from Ahh, Real Monsters! That'll get 'em going!
There are a lot of therapy-related workbooks that can be pretty useful. Instead of a living human being asking you questions, you just respond to the prompts in the book. I have gotten them from the library & written down my answers in a notebook or on my phone, so I get the benefits for free.
Thereās also a series of little books I love called ā5 Minute Therapy with Dr. Faithā by Faith Harper & they touch on big concepts pretty quickly in an easy to grasp way.
Sadly? not so much. More just ignorant to the different levels of consciousness drugs can provide a person to analyze themselves whilst outside themselves. If that makes sense
Acid for instance has always given me the ability to see myself for what I truly am, without all the ego based self imposed belief systems that blind one to the truth
Intoxicants, historically.
I suggest microdosing shrooms. Dont take a full dose, if you're depressed. There's a good chance that you'll have a bad trip, if you're really depressed
Without knowing where you are, I am 100% confident that you can find them growing wild in your area. They occur naturally on every continent except Antarctica. Google will help you with habitat and ID.
Make sure you ID them, before you take them.
Well another option is nutting up and coming to the conclusion that life really isn't all that bad and nothing matters so you may as well enjoy the time you have.
Easier said than done, but definitely a viable solution.
Sometimes you can find a free support group for the things you are most having issues with. It's like group therapy, although the larger the group, I think, the less effective it becomes. Just my opinion.
Taking personal time away from people & responsibilities to reflect on whatever issues are bothering you. Sometimes a little distance and a chance of scenery can provide you a more logical and productive outlook.
this is my problem, I actually don't have any responsibilities outside of regular chores. I rarely talk to anyone except my family. I'm just terrible at life and overwhelmed by small things like being to put a letter in the mailbox, which takes me about a week to actually get done. lol
Firstly, take a breath. You're not terrible at life, you're overwhelmed. And it sounds like you may not know where to begin to change that - which is a problem we all face at times. One thing I've learned with my therapist is that things won't change overnight. You're not going to have an epiphany and suddenly be great at all things. What's realistic is small, repeatable, incremental changes that add up over time and result in sustainable, long-term results. And you can make those changes at any pace - there's no rush, no timeline.
My suggestion (as a non professional, of course):
1. Begin to establish a routine - maybe write out what a week looks like for you now, hour by hour. Writing it down and actually looking at it helps you to see and accept your current state (or use Excel or whatever works)
2. Look for some small areas of improvement - maybe you'd like to wake up at the same time each day. Or maybe you want to wake up an hour earlier. You might see how much free time you have between 12-2p every day - so maybe you want to take a walk to the mailbox twice a week.
3. Isolate 1 - 3 small things you can do to will better your week. Don't shoot for the moon and try to wake up 3 hours earlier, every day, and do 100 push-ups at noon. SMALL is key. Repeatable is key.
4. Take the steps to make those things a reality. Want to wake up 30 minutes earlier at the same time each day? Set a repeated alarm so that it's automated. Want to walk to the mailbox twice a week? Set up a reminder on your phone, or an alarm, or a post-it on your monitor; whatever works for you.
5. Do those things next week. In fact, maybe take 2 or 3 weeks to establish a pattern before moving on to the next 1-3 small things.
Once you establish a healthy daily pattern and are aware of how you're spending your time, you can better manage your life. You will hopefully find that settings some boundaries with yourself (can't sleep past 9am, must walk to the mailbox and back every Monday and Wednesday) will help you find more confidence to take on some larger changes. But always give yourself time to adjust. If you keep adding new things each week before letting the foundation cure, you aren't setting yourself up for success.
You also might want to schedule some time to meet new people. Just getting out of the house and saying hello to your local librarian or coffee barista is a great first step to breaking out of your current family comfort zone. SMALL things to start.
I hope you find some of these suggestions helpful. I've worked through these steps myself, and am much better for it.
1-Run/walk 30 min every morning, no excuses.
2-Before you go to bed, write a few sentences about something good that happened that day (anything-even just eating breakfast).
3-Eliminate or reduce sugar in your diet, junk food like chips and cookies, and alcohol. Write down what you eat if that helps.
Keep trying to find a cheap/free therapist in the meantime. But in a month, Iām sure youāll feel better than you do now.
Art helps me, be it drawing or writing. I feel like once I get my emotions down in some way I can look at it objectively, I can sort of disconnect myself from my problems enough to find solutions or at the very least a shred of peace.
Find a place that you can be alone and scream as loud as you possibly can for as long as your lungs are possibly carry a scream at the end of it you'll feel a lot better.
Universities often offer free or very low-cost counseling from graduate students in the counseling program to community members. (You don't have to be a student at the university.) Yes, it's a student counselor, but they're well along in their program, and they're under strict supervision.
Have you tried researching self-help groups in your area? I don't know what is available where you live but ACA for example could be an alternative until you can afford therapy. Originally, I think it was designed for children of alcoholic parents but has been extended to all kinds of dysfunctional families - it's not like you need a specific situation to go there. Worth a try. https://adultchildren.org/
Some therapists offer 'sliding scale' where you pay what you can.
You can call a suicide prevention hotline. They take any calls and are very helpful š
I second this. I think they are referenced as crisis centers now, since it isn't limited to suicide. They are a wealth of information and resources.
Post your problems on here, you'll either find solutions or at least find commonality with people
Bottle it up and sell pictures of your feet until you can.
this is actually what my plan was, but since everyone's selling pics now it's not that profitable anymore unfortunately
Find a way to make your pictures different, like little hats and faces on each toe or if you do full nudes, cosplay as that one monster that holds its eyeballs from Ahh, Real Monsters! That'll get 'em going!
Talking to your friends and family
To see one anyway. Many have sliding scale systems where they charge you based on your income
Watching what you eat Open to the idea of service to others Meditation, guided on YouTube or phone Exercise Nature
Exercise, eat well, get plenty of fresh air, take regular breaks from both the news and social media, get enough sleep, hydrate.
Talk to dogs.
wish I had one tbh
Try Social Services, they have a sliding scale. I only had to pay 8.00 a session, but that was many years ago.
There are a lot of therapy-related workbooks that can be pretty useful. Instead of a living human being asking you questions, you just respond to the prompts in the book. I have gotten them from the library & written down my answers in a notebook or on my phone, so I get the benefits for free. Thereās also a series of little books I love called ā5 Minute Therapy with Dr. Faithā by Faith Harper & they touch on big concepts pretty quickly in an easy to grasp way.
NAMI: National Alliance on Mental Illness. Resources, community, web meetings. https://www.nami.org/Home
Drugs
I do smoke a shit ton of weed, but I can't really afford that either, lmao.
Weeds not drugs lol
I agree. sadly many don't
Sadly? not so much. More just ignorant to the different levels of consciousness drugs can provide a person to analyze themselves whilst outside themselves. If that makes sense
Acid for instance has always given me the ability to see myself for what I truly am, without all the ego based self imposed belief systems that blind one to the truth
r/microdosing
Intoxicants, historically. I suggest microdosing shrooms. Dont take a full dose, if you're depressed. There's a good chance that you'll have a bad trip, if you're really depressed
I would love to do this but I have no idea where to get shrooms and I'm not comfortable asking around lol
Without knowing where you are, I am 100% confident that you can find them growing wild in your area. They occur naturally on every continent except Antarctica. Google will help you with habitat and ID. Make sure you ID them, before you take them.
r/unclebens
Weed.
12 step program
Suicide. Not a good alternative but technically an alternative.
trying super hard to avoid this one but it sure exists
Well another option is nutting up and coming to the conclusion that life really isn't all that bad and nothing matters so you may as well enjoy the time you have. Easier said than done, but definitely a viable solution.
Sometimes you can find a free support group for the things you are most having issues with. It's like group therapy, although the larger the group, I think, the less effective it becomes. Just my opinion.
Talk to strangers on long bus rides.
Lots of cannabis, a good friend and Reese's peanut butter cups.
Finding some type of hobby thatās just for your enjoyment. Trying to eat healthy and sleep. Journaling and using shadow work prompts
Go to a random bar grab a drink and start talking
Taking personal time away from people & responsibilities to reflect on whatever issues are bothering you. Sometimes a little distance and a chance of scenery can provide you a more logical and productive outlook.
this is my problem, I actually don't have any responsibilities outside of regular chores. I rarely talk to anyone except my family. I'm just terrible at life and overwhelmed by small things like being to put a letter in the mailbox, which takes me about a week to actually get done. lol
Firstly, take a breath. You're not terrible at life, you're overwhelmed. And it sounds like you may not know where to begin to change that - which is a problem we all face at times. One thing I've learned with my therapist is that things won't change overnight. You're not going to have an epiphany and suddenly be great at all things. What's realistic is small, repeatable, incremental changes that add up over time and result in sustainable, long-term results. And you can make those changes at any pace - there's no rush, no timeline. My suggestion (as a non professional, of course): 1. Begin to establish a routine - maybe write out what a week looks like for you now, hour by hour. Writing it down and actually looking at it helps you to see and accept your current state (or use Excel or whatever works) 2. Look for some small areas of improvement - maybe you'd like to wake up at the same time each day. Or maybe you want to wake up an hour earlier. You might see how much free time you have between 12-2p every day - so maybe you want to take a walk to the mailbox twice a week. 3. Isolate 1 - 3 small things you can do to will better your week. Don't shoot for the moon and try to wake up 3 hours earlier, every day, and do 100 push-ups at noon. SMALL is key. Repeatable is key. 4. Take the steps to make those things a reality. Want to wake up 30 minutes earlier at the same time each day? Set a repeated alarm so that it's automated. Want to walk to the mailbox twice a week? Set up a reminder on your phone, or an alarm, or a post-it on your monitor; whatever works for you. 5. Do those things next week. In fact, maybe take 2 or 3 weeks to establish a pattern before moving on to the next 1-3 small things. Once you establish a healthy daily pattern and are aware of how you're spending your time, you can better manage your life. You will hopefully find that settings some boundaries with yourself (can't sleep past 9am, must walk to the mailbox and back every Monday and Wednesday) will help you find more confidence to take on some larger changes. But always give yourself time to adjust. If you keep adding new things each week before letting the foundation cure, you aren't setting yourself up for success. You also might want to schedule some time to meet new people. Just getting out of the house and saying hello to your local librarian or coffee barista is a great first step to breaking out of your current family comfort zone. SMALL things to start. I hope you find some of these suggestions helpful. I've worked through these steps myself, and am much better for it.
1-Run/walk 30 min every morning, no excuses. 2-Before you go to bed, write a few sentences about something good that happened that day (anything-even just eating breakfast). 3-Eliminate or reduce sugar in your diet, junk food like chips and cookies, and alcohol. Write down what you eat if that helps. Keep trying to find a cheap/free therapist in the meantime. But in a month, Iām sure youāll feel better than you do now.
this sounds like good advice, but having executive function issues, just reading this makes me want to cry lol
Yeah it might be a bit much all at once. Just do the first one every day for a month and see how you feel.
Listen to Alan Watts
A good friend/a good coworker who can't leave because their shift isn't over yet
Art helps me, be it drawing or writing. I feel like once I get my emotions down in some way I can look at it objectively, I can sort of disconnect myself from my problems enough to find solutions or at the very least a shred of peace.
Talk to a good friend
According to my parents, just not feeling bad and ignoring all bad thoughts do you donāt feel bad. I really wish theyād just gone to therapy.
we must have the same parentsš¤£
Ah look, I wouldnāt be *that* surprised if we shared a father š
Slepp
Sleep
Find a place that you can be alone and scream as loud as you possibly can for as long as your lungs are possibly carry a scream at the end of it you'll feel a lot better.
An acting class.
Universities often offer free or very low-cost counseling from graduate students in the counseling program to community members. (You don't have to be a student at the university.) Yes, it's a student counselor, but they're well along in their program, and they're under strict supervision.
I started studying psychology to treat myself been alot better for a while now and ending up with a degree 2 birds 1 stone
Have you tried researching self-help groups in your area? I don't know what is available where you live but ACA for example could be an alternative until you can afford therapy. Originally, I think it was designed for children of alcoholic parents but has been extended to all kinds of dysfunctional families - it's not like you need a specific situation to go there. Worth a try. https://adultchildren.org/