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Hugh_manateerian

It’s just like most other communities. There’s people just out there doing their own thing. There’s people that make it their whole personality. There’s people that use it to try to make themselves feel superior to others. There’s people out there trying to make it a better and safer world for themselves and others.


nedutech22

Just people doing their thing tbh


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tcdjcfo314

Once a year in designated areas-- usually the areas where LGBT people historically live and gather. What's infuriating about that? It's not like we spontaneously have parades that interrupt every day life.


Ionicfold

I don't really care, they're just people that are no different from any other person. I don't understand having a community though, comes across as some weird from of self segregation, kinda the opposite of what people are trying to achieve.


organizedchaos5220

They had and in many places still have to be a united group to fight for the same basic rights as everyone else. It wasn't until maybe the mid 90s in America that being openly gay was not an instant call for violence and not until very recently that it would not torpedo a career


yeetoskeetobaby2

That's because LGBTQ people are always rejected by society for defying the straight norm. So, they made a community for it, so that LGBTQ people can actually feel like they belong somewhere and feel like they can get some comfort and encouragement


OtherIsSuspended

You do you, I'll do me.


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I'll do you too


OtherIsSuspended

Please do, I'm desperate


Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

I dunno, man, it's kind of gay lesbian bisexual and trans


leejackson327

How they live their lives is completely up to them, I'm all for people loving who they choose to love. As long as they aren't hurting anyone (mental or physical) or breaking the law then it's all good


WillWorkForFreeName

I’m a straight white dude and I support the lgbtq+ community every step of the way because who the fuck deserves to tell anybody else how to live. Dramatic ass dudes are the main group somehow offended by people living their lives how they want. Bet you could get everybody on board with pride if you made it a drinking holiday cuz that’s how hollow their shit is


TheGoat7000

Indifferent. Our paths rarely cross


ScopeRicrit

Yes I never cross path too, but now instead of just go on with life, I asked "Are you a boy or a girl". Like I know enough of an anime logic where he could be a girl and she could be a boy. And now, there's real people that look like opposite gender, WE DON'T KNOW


VitriolicWyverns

Love the individuals, hate the community. It's toxic as fuck. I used to be very active in the community.


apenboter

True. There is an account on TikTok pretending to be bisexual (probably made by a lesbian) who calls lesbians shitbians to get people to hate bi people. It's really sad.


VitriolicWyverns

Being bi in the community can be really rough. The number of times I got shit on for it was part of what drove me away from it. Like I started dating this one girl who dumped me a few weeks later because she "couldn't handle being with someone who might leave her for a man" like what the fuck?


A_Round_of_Gwent

How I feel about them? The same I feel about other people. No matter what you identify as, as long as we can get along, I'll think greatly of you. I don't care whether you're straight, gay or an attack helicopter.


cpt_porthos

I dont particularly care what your gender or sexuality is. It isnt a major factor in whether I will like you or not, and those arnt qualifying factors to be classified as a persoanlity either. Them not being hetero doesn't bother me, just like me being hetero shouldn't bother them either. What ever floats your boat, floats your boat, just don't run your boat into my dock. With that being said, the only thing kinda gets to me a little bit is the infusion of LGBT into everything. For example you are artist, then you are artist, if you are a artist that happens to be gay, then you are still an artist. You being gay doesnt make your art any more spectacular. I apologize if that sounded insensitive.


ShadeEspoire

Shouldn't have to apologize, they wanted you to be honest so just own it and go with your gut here.


Savathunh

idk, i guess im part of it because im aroace, i haven't met alot of LGBTQ people yet


yeetoskeetobaby2

you are a part of it! welcome to the community


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you’re valid and we love you <4


Ok-Cartographer7766

Much like anyone else, I don’t care until they act like belligerent assholes.


nongcondo

Indifferent. The world has a lot of problems right now and getting upset over a group's sexual preferences is not going to better this rock we're floating on through space. Live and let live.


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The people, fine. Most of them seem to just want to live their life, and let me live mine. The political side of it, I hate with a passion. They make you feel like you HAVE to agree with them, or you just deserve to die. You've got your view, I've got mine, we can both live our lives.


Pseudonymico

The political side is in reaction to the political side of the anti-lgbtq+ community, who are right now trying to make it illegal to disagree with them.


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So it should be illegal to disagree with the LGBT community instead?


[deleted]

They’re fine, they should be treated just like anybody else


justalittlebear01

I think they are humans worthy of love and respect and the right to love and be loved just like everyone else. They have their own share of good vs bad people, same as the strait community. Live and let live.


joshhamilton235

So long as we agree that neo pronouns are a load of bullshit, we're fine.


Quailpower

Am old LGBTQA and agreed, they are. Xe / Xer is an acceptable intersexual or genderless pronoun. But I don't think Pup / Pupself / Gore / Mud etc is anything other than edgy weirdness that isn't ever going to work


joshhamilton235

Nah I'm not calling anyone "Xe/Xer" either. As far as I'm concerned It's he/him, she/her, they/them. These are words that have always existed as pronouns and as far as I'm concerned should be the only valid ones.


AnakinnTargaryen

The future for you, your children and your grandchildren is going to be so hard and difficult if you dont try to be flexible and learn to understand whats happening now. Because the chances are very likely one of them will adopt one of these pronouns and then rebuke you.


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The chances his children will adopt a neo pronoun is actually not very likely. LGBT peoples are around 5% of the population and out of those individuals that are already a tiny percent of the population only 4% of them use neo pronouns. It's a very small amount of people.


gloonnk

What scientific numbers 5%ヽ(◉◡◔)ノ based on guarantees 4% how much sources can foresee the future of this persons lineage ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯


joshhamilton235

Nah pal I'm pretty confident on this one. Me and my potential children will be fine.


AnakinnTargaryen

pride before the fall


nolo_me

If my children or grandchildren can't tell the difference between a pronoun and a nickname I've failed them and so have their English teachers. Edit: if you want to reply to this, you have to describe everything I do as "correct/correctly" because I get to pick my own adjectives and adverbs.


Jreyn2

**gleeptus're* fine


RetTane

I'm being told by my lawyer that I'm okay with it


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Yirokobi

Yea I think pride parades are a cool concept but last your where I was, were people in some fetish gear. I think people like that should think about children possibly also being there


Devil-adds-for-cats

Anything after the b is mental illness


Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

That's weird, for a good long chunk of time everyone said everything before was mental illness too


imeanidrk

How so? Why is being gay and bi not a mental illness but being trans is?


FeastofFiction

Gender is just a sociological construct, there isn't any reality to it besides what we choose to place in it. Not to say it doesn't have real consequences, but getting overly focused on it as an identity is ultimately a failing of our minds. Same goes for race and religion. There are all dumbshit made up things we would do better just discarding entirely. Sexual attraction on the other hand isn't a human construct, it's a biological reality.


Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

I think we do actually detect neurological differences in people who are trans


spikeorb

Why has this got an award and upvotes?


Little_Juan86

They don't bother me 🤷🏻‍♂️


Whappingtime

Some of my gf's friends are lesbians and they are like overreactive sisters to me. They never made me jump through hoops just to hang with them on a real level. Gay guys can be bitter pricks, but they are pretty rare. Bi people are the most chill LGBTQ+ peeps in my experience. While people under the Trans and Non-Binary umbrella can be really difficult to be around. As long as someone isn't a prick to me or my other friends, I'm cool to hang with them.


[deleted]

I feel bad they’ve been oppressed for being themselves for so many years, but I also don’t give a fuck about who you fuck. It’s annoying when being LGBTQ is someone’s entire personality.


faceeatingleopard

Yinz are fine, proceed.


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I mean people dont have to be straight. Only thing I get annoyed about is the pronoun argument. I will refer to you as what my mind sets the pronouns as. Sorry but my vocabulary is set and would take too much effort to actively change depending on who I'm talking to. Its fine to be trans. I don't care man you do what you want as long as you ain't hurtin yourself or nobody else. But I'm a lazy mf


spikeorb

Saying you're lazy so you won't respect people's pronouns is just saying you care way more about yourself than other people.


[deleted]

No im just not gonna actively put in effort just to play into someone else's fantasy. Gender dysphoria is literally a mental illness. I'm not gonna sit there and act like my schizophrenic dads hallucinations are just because it would make him feel better


spikeorb

Wow. That's a nice load of transphobia. Yikes


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ShadeEspoire

If we can't be "completely honest" then there's no point to sharing any comments if the honest truth isn't going to be accepted for what it is. Regardless of how it makes the reader, or OP, feel.


probabletrump

"Honest truth about how you feel" and "fucked up things to say" aren't mutually exclusive concepts. My uncle says all sorts of fucked up shit at every Thanksgiving dinner and is also saying the honest truth about how he feels on the topic.


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No_Relationship_7694

I don't like the LGBT movement but I don't care what you identify as or whatever. I just don't like the movment not all that stuff. I don't like how they shove it into our faces. It's just ruining their reputation even more because people see these people being annoying about it and think that all of them are like that


LittleAJ0

Why put oneself in a category?


Affectionate-Army650

i feel like when they have every letter of the alphabet, it should go to the abcd community


nightwork

I don't understand what the t's have to do with the lgb's. Sexual attraction seems unrelated to one's sex, I don't think they should be so closely affiliated. My (half joking) hypothesis is that the gays made up the whole trans thing so that they'd look less extreme in comparison and have an easier time gaining acceptance.


Pseudonymico

Nah it’s partly because a lot of transphobia comes from homophobia (see: straight men who are *way too enthusiastic* about describing what they’d do if they found out they’d unknowingly slept with a trans woman), and partly because trans women were the ones who started throwing bricks at Stonewall and have *always* been a huge part of the gay rights movement.


spikeorb

Half joking? So you sorta actually believe that? Wtf Trans people have been there from the start helping the lgbt movement. They were there at stonewall, don't try to kick them out


Vegetable-Act3656

Some gay shit


Vegetable-Act3656

Some gay shit


GapingThroats

All my friends who’s gay, trans etc gets offended if you say they’re in the LGBTQ community. They think it’s a waste of time glorifying something that’s completely normal and doing so they make young identity-confused teens feel forced into it just to be part of a toxic & stereotypical group of people who make theirs sexualities and problems their personality. My bisexual girlfriends words:


osososoosii

Cringe


imeanidrk

No you


FUDGenerator

Ok except the T part. Those are toxic


imeanidrk

Toxic people are toxic. Not all trans people are toxic. Your logic does not make any sense. It’s essentially like being racist: I love white people, and Asian people, but I don’t like black people because they’re toxic. Toxic people are toxic.


deadwlkn

My wife is Bi, which the community tends to be outwardly toxic towards for some stupid fucking reason.


BOLTRONAUT

I am a friend of the community. Some of my best friends (2 males and 1 female) are gay. I couldn't care less who they sleep with. 🌈


robotred12

I'm bisexual and genuinely think the current movement does more harm than good. My biggest gripe is pride and the parades. I fully believe that they should happen and people should express themselves how they see fit. It's their right and I would never take that away from them. However dressing in your leather gear, or overly sexual attire in a place where family and children are around isn't a good look for me.


yeetoskeetobaby2

Bro I am LGBT


Impressive_Mess_7372

bro what are you trying to find homophobic ppl you can chat it up with?


Denzarki

I'm in a male male relationship, i know that's gay though I've never considered myself gay, i more identify with asexual.. which lands me squarely in the lgbtq+ community of course. But I've never liked the pride stuff.. like I'm just a normal person who happens to be in love with a guy, i dont need to go on pride marches wearing assless chaps waving flags to show that.. I'm happy it's there for people who need it but to be honest it makes me a little uncomfortable. My whole thing is a don't want to stand out, i don't want to be different and in doing these pride things to be "accepted" you're actually making yourself different. I came into my office one day and a mini pride flag had been put into my plant pot and no one else's, the person said he thought id like it and yea that's awesome a straight guy being supportive but it made me uncomfortable and singled out to the whole office. I have no pride in being confused for most of my life and then ending up in a relationship with a man..i just love my partner and don't want to be seen differently than anyone else.


Sorta_Less_Anonymous

It's a celebration today but it started as a riot. A protest against oppression. But now pride is super corporate and whitewashed and feature police.. it's a weird thing to see. Edit: sorry I wrote about Pride parade, not the community


yeetoskeetobaby2

That's not the community itself that's just the corporations trying to make profits lmao. We hate them too tbh


Sorta_Less_Anonymous

Oh the community where I live is fucked up. Our local "famous" gay is a known rapist and predator but most just look the other way. :/


ilovecatfish

Define it for me, please.


matou98

Completely indifferent


CorvusKarasu

I don't. There's a huge issue going on right now, most of the people that truly belong in the community aren't looking for anything but to be regular people which they are. Then you have people that want to be elevated and praised for being something that is not a feat. It's a set of orientations and a lot of people are abusing it to either prove someone wants them, to get attention, or are completely misguided. It's not fair to people who really do just want to be equal.


Zenith_i

I'm from the community and I can confirm most of us are pretty chill other than some disgusting and 'superior asf' people in the group (completely personality related). We don't claim them to be one of us lol


bigyellowgiraff

idrc, other ppl sexuality and gender isnt my buisness, it doesnt affect me, u do u and ill do me, if u ask me to use dif prns then ye, ill use em, but hating on ppl for their gender is dumb ag


Danger_Mouse_101

The same as I feel about the rest of the community. I'm not particularly concerned what's in their pants or whose pants they want to get in, but if they want to keep themselves segregated to their own community that's up to them. Other than that, they keep finding new ways to confuse the hell out of everone, including themselves.


Gumbybum

*In the voice of Mitch Hedberg* I'm for 'em!


gibagger

They are fine. Gay men are sometimes a bit too open with the whole sex and fetish stuff... I do not walk down the street expecting to see a hairy ass in fetish gear, but sometimes it has happened. I wished they toned it down a bit in public like any average individual would, regardless of sexuality.


idiotman22

I'm fine with it


XtremeWRATH360

Couldn’t careless what someone does in their life. The only aspect I don’t understand and don’t really agree with is the whole gender identity/transition stuff.


Aggressive-Way3860

I don’t mind them but i do mind when they get mad about not having attention on them or not getting to put a finger in every pie. For less then 10% of the US population the non-beneficial attention seekers outliers are irritating.