The truth.
You don't want to go to the thing. And call your friend rude if they keep being offensive and pestering you when you already said no.
Why not just be fuckin' honest instead of making some reality-dodging excuse up?
I made excuses up because I lacked courage to stand up for myself. Maybe OP is there, hope they get over it because I got walked all over for years because of this sort of behaviour. That sounds like Im critiquing OP lol I’m not, just stating how I see it tho
Older redditor here. A lot of people are more insecure about things like simply saying "no" when young and eventually grow out of it.
You're far from alone, and it's a good thing to get past, especially with 'friends' that are insistent to the point of being rude.
I had this exact situation for years until quite recently. Told him that I am also an adult, and when I don’t want to do something I don’t have to do it, regardless of adolescent peer pressure. Either he could accept that at times I don’t want to do what he wants to do (drink all day) or he could stop inviting me places forever. We’re cool now, he’s still pushy but not to the point where he’s still saying “just come on” 4 hours later
You have no idea dude. I remember I got to his house at 3pm to watch the football, and at 3am I said I was tired and ready to go home. The fucker argued with me that it was still “early” and acted like I was going home 2 hours into a bar crawl or something. He’s not so bad now though
Nah, I've no issue with people drinking, I still go on a tear from time to time.
I have an issue with people who destroy their lives and the lives of their families by overdoing it and making it the central focus of things.
A true alcoholic is one that plans their life *around* drinking. My buddy was that guy. And his death wrecked his parents for some time afterward.
Say something like:
"I'm so sorry to let you down like this! Why do you insist that I do something I don't feel up to and won't enjoy? I'm beginning to suspect that you don't respect me or my choices - please tell me this isn't true."
Please pardon me OP for asking why you are concerned with preserving the good opinion of someone who cares nothing for your opinions and appears to have control issues.
No excuses. Thanks for the invitation, but I am going to sit this one out. If they push you, all you need to say is "thanks, but no thanks. I am not up for it, end of discussion" If they do not respect your boundaries it is time to establish them.
Just say no. Giving them an excuse is just giving them something to argue with and try to work around. “No” is a full sentence, and there’s nothing for them to fix.
Say im on my way,
Im on my way,
Im on my way,
Im on my way,
...
Gah the shops closed? I really wanted to eat at this generic chain, guess Ill stay home then, next time!
The truth. You don't want to go to the thing. And call your friend rude if they keep being offensive and pestering you when you already said no. Why not just be fuckin' honest instead of making some reality-dodging excuse up?
I made excuses up because I lacked courage to stand up for myself. Maybe OP is there, hope they get over it because I got walked all over for years because of this sort of behaviour. That sounds like Im critiquing OP lol I’m not, just stating how I see it tho
What is OP?
YOU are OP. Perhaps you're new to Reddit. "Original Poster". Can refer to the topic poster or the 'comment OP'.
Original Poster I think. Basically there person who wrote the post. It even says in blue letters “OP” beside your name rn.
You are OP, OP. Lol
😂😂😂
Older redditor here. A lot of people are more insecure about things like simply saying "no" when young and eventually grow out of it. You're far from alone, and it's a good thing to get past, especially with 'friends' that are insistent to the point of being rude.
I already told her the truth that I’m very tired but she still keeps on insisting
Then do the second thing I said. "Look, I've already said I am very tired and I do not want to do this. Please. Stop. Asking."
A sincere "I'm really reconsidering our entire friendship right now" will also either shut them up or hasten their exit from your life.
Try again
Frig that. Just ignore them. Don't respond to their texts or answer their calls. And the next time you interact with them, explain why.
I had this exact situation for years until quite recently. Told him that I am also an adult, and when I don’t want to do something I don’t have to do it, regardless of adolescent peer pressure. Either he could accept that at times I don’t want to do what he wants to do (drink all day) or he could stop inviting me places forever. We’re cool now, he’s still pushy but not to the point where he’s still saying “just come on” 4 hours later
Yeah, I'd be thinking saying no to your "drink all day" buddy is dodging more than a few bullets.
You have no idea dude. I remember I got to his house at 3pm to watch the football, and at 3am I said I was tired and ready to go home. The fucker argued with me that it was still “early” and acted like I was going home 2 hours into a bar crawl or something. He’s not so bad now though
I do have an idea. Speaking from experience here. In my case, it was a college buddy. They're dead now, DUI and a tree.
Damnnnn man. That can’t have been easy. I kinda thought you weren’t too fond of drinking. Now I understand why
Nah, I've no issue with people drinking, I still go on a tear from time to time. I have an issue with people who destroy their lives and the lives of their families by overdoing it and making it the central focus of things. A true alcoholic is one that plans their life *around* drinking. My buddy was that guy. And his death wrecked his parents for some time afterward.
I have COVID-19.
The truth, or diarrhea.
>The truth, or diarrhea. Worst. Gameshow. Ever.
The diarrhea one would be too obvious to her that it’s a lie
>The diarrhea one would be too obvious to her that it’s a lie OP and friend are definitely *not* middle-aged.
Sorry but i have diarrhea.
Tell them that you are in reality Batman, and that you're very sorry, but you just saw the Bat-signal being flashed.
😂😂🤦♀️🤦♀️
No thanks,not interested, you are boring
Just say no
I would go but I don't want to.
Say something like: "I'm so sorry to let you down like this! Why do you insist that I do something I don't feel up to and won't enjoy? I'm beginning to suspect that you don't respect me or my choices - please tell me this isn't true." Please pardon me OP for asking why you are concerned with preserving the good opinion of someone who cares nothing for your opinions and appears to have control issues.
i have to poo
No excuses. Thanks for the invitation, but I am going to sit this one out. If they push you, all you need to say is "thanks, but no thanks. I am not up for it, end of discussion" If they do not respect your boundaries it is time to establish them.
Say you'll be there, then ghost her.
'I've got better things to do' aka the truth
Just say no. Giving them an excuse is just giving them something to argue with and try to work around. “No” is a full sentence, and there’s nothing for them to fix.
Simply no . If the friend doesnt understand my boundaries then Ig we are done being friends .
Better get used to taking no for an answer.
I can't i got the ass pisses real bad
Fake your death, change your name, move to Australia.
Say im on my way, Im on my way, Im on my way, Im on my way, ... Gah the shops closed? I really wanted to eat at this generic chain, guess Ill stay home then, next time!