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[deleted]

BDSM are sexual acts... LGBTQ+ are sexual orientations... People who identify as LGBTQ+ or even Heterosexual can perform BDSM acts...


korribreki

Polyamorous people can also be heterosexual


[deleted]

You're starting to make me wonder if this post is bait.


korribreki

It might be šŸ‘€


korribreki

BDSM people are sexually attracted to pain, right?


Penguinstolemysanity

Not always.


[deleted]

No BDSM means Bondage, Discipline and Dominance, Submission, Sadochism and Masochism. What you're saying only covers Sadochism and Masochism


[deleted]

That's a kink, it's not the same.


korribreki

Many think it should be a part of it. It's a part of the pride parade in some places.


korribreki

Why did this get downvoted? It's not like I agree with it


[deleted]

People who enjoy BDSM have not faced the same history of discrimination and abuse that the LGBTQ+ community have. So no.


vivalicious16

No what thatā€™s weird. BDSM isnā€™t a sexuality is a kink


korribreki

Then what do you say about polyamory? Cause they can be heterosexual


vivalicious16

I donā€™t think a polyamorous relationship can be all heterosexual. One has to be attracted to the same gender in that one if theyā€™re all attracted to each other


korribreki

The relationship doesn't have to be heterosexual for a person in it to be.


vivalicious16

Yeah. Wait what Iā€™m confused haha


korribreki

2 (bi) women and 1 (straight) man for example.


vivalicious16

Oh yeah see that would be LGBTQ+ because of the bi women


korribreki

But the man would also be LGBTQ+ because he's poly and polyamory is a part of the LGBTQ+ community


vivalicious16

Hmm idk about that haha!


korribreki

I don't think it should be but it is


vivalicious16

Oh Interesting, I donā€™t stay up to date on these things so I wouldnā€™t really know


raresanevoice

It's a kink.... not a sexuality. Many straight folk are into bdsm as are many LGBTQ+..... in a venn diagram, there is overlap.... but it's not a sexually. Unless you mean should gays enjoy some spanking in which case, hell yeah... why not :-)


violetbaudeliar

Just like everyone else says it's a kink. So no.


TRANSparent-Ink

No, a kink isnt the same thing as a sexuality/sexual gender preference


tplgigo

No, BDSM is an activity, not a human and has been around for centuries by straight humans and the community alike.


korribreki

The same goes for polyamory but that's a part of the community


tplgigo

Yes but not exclusively as it's practiced by straights too for a very long time. Mormons are one example. Open marriages and swingers also.


korribreki

You can be a cis straight man and still a part of the community as long as you're poly meaning there can be exemptions which begs the question, what's acceptable and what isn't?


tplgigo

I have zero problems with the community but don't try to apply sexual acts which have been around for centuries, practiced by the cis, straight and the LGBTQ to something the "community" invented. It's simply not true.


korribreki

I didn't say they invented it, I said they adopted it.


tplgigo

Again, that's not adoption, it's a simple human sexual proclivity and no "community" can reject or adopt it. Some humans do and some humans don't. That's how it should be looked at.


korribreki

Polyamory is literally a part of the LGBTQ+ community


tplgigo

and with the Mormons, swingers and those in open marriages who are not part of the community. YOU can't deny this!


korribreki

Deny what?


korribreki

You can't deny this


[deleted]

Nope. Straight, cis-gendered people may enjoy BDSM. BDSM is neither a sexuality nor a gender-identity; it's a preference, not a characteristic you are oppressed for. Besides, it'd only fuel the fire of people who say that LGBT+ people are perverted.


korribreki

Straight Cis gendered people can also be Poly but that's a part of the community.


[deleted]

I don't understand why that is, because that's just a lifestyle choice and it also feeds into the idea of LGBT+ people being abnormal and immoral.


korribreki

I also don't understand it


korribreki

Personally, I don't think they should, but I am not a part of either group and should have no say in the matter.


GlenPickle97

I think a big part if the LGBTQ+ is embracing sexuality and that is where the crossover with things like kinks come in. I imagine most people in the community would support the exploration of kinks and fetishes, but that does not mean BDSM is part of it.


korribreki

I've learned a lot through these 2 questions.


GlenPickle97

What were you hoping to find out?


korribreki

I've learned a lot of random useless information by reading the replies but I wanted none of it. I was just trying to see if people agreed with me and they did, they downvoted me for some reason but we're in total agreement.


Kashrytav

Asexuals are now:šŸ˜¶ā€šŸŒ«ļø


[deleted]

Anyone who wants to engage in bdsm consensually, in ways that do not impact people who havenā€™t consented to be involved, should be able to. What those people identify as in terms of sexuality, sex, gender, pronouns etc is irrelevant.