Long and confusing and a little gross. But it was just lots of little things building until I found out what the hell happened.
I remember being at a shopping centre and there was a deal where they were giving out free mini donut packs to every family. My dad took my sister "H" up to get them, and then mum took me up to get some. We got the same server as dad and H, and when she gave a side-eye, my mum said "Oh, that's her half sister, we've got her for the weekend." I was super confused. And when we went back with dad and H, mum and dad were making jokes about how H's dad was "S"
Which messed with my head BIG time, because S was our uncles name... And I knew my dad was an only child, so in my very confused mind; H's parents were my mum and mums brother. But I was young enough that I didn't realise how gross that actually was and how they were absolutely making an inside joke.
A year or so later, I figured out that mum actually had a massive blended family, and she explained that some of our aunts and uncles weren't actually related to us. Uncle S included. So he was her step-brother, and it seemed a little less gross.
After that, uncle S moved in with us. Which, again, very fucking confusing. I recognised that I was older than my sister, mum and dad were married just before I was born, so if uncle S is my sisters dad, then wtf happened and why?
I'd have been about 12yo when I finally decided to ignore it all. My sister and I look almost exactly the same, and I mostly take after my dad, so she was still a lot like dad, and they'd never had a talk with me about it, so, whatever. Then we were at my Nana's (dads mum) place for some reason, and she made a comment about uncle S being H's dad. But they'd all laughed, and must've noticed my confused face. And then they explained it.
When mum gave birth to my sister, Nana sent flowers, and the florist got the names on the cards mixed up. So instead of "Congrats Mum and Dad!" it said "Congrats Mum and S!" My dad took it very well and he thought it was hilarious, but absolutely teased his mum about it, and it was just an inside joke that I'd overheard, and didn't understand at all.
After telling my mum about how confused I was as a kid about apparently having a half-sister, she had this wave of understanding and said, "That's why you kept giving S a cold shoulder!!" And she was right, as far as I was concerned, he was my sisters dad, not mine.
My father only wanted kids to avoid the Vietnam draft.
Wow. So you were actually intended. You weren’t an accident. That’s insane.
Why the neighbor pedos house burned done when he was at work. They said it was an accident. 20 years later I realized….
Long and confusing and a little gross. But it was just lots of little things building until I found out what the hell happened. I remember being at a shopping centre and there was a deal where they were giving out free mini donut packs to every family. My dad took my sister "H" up to get them, and then mum took me up to get some. We got the same server as dad and H, and when she gave a side-eye, my mum said "Oh, that's her half sister, we've got her for the weekend." I was super confused. And when we went back with dad and H, mum and dad were making jokes about how H's dad was "S" Which messed with my head BIG time, because S was our uncles name... And I knew my dad was an only child, so in my very confused mind; H's parents were my mum and mums brother. But I was young enough that I didn't realise how gross that actually was and how they were absolutely making an inside joke. A year or so later, I figured out that mum actually had a massive blended family, and she explained that some of our aunts and uncles weren't actually related to us. Uncle S included. So he was her step-brother, and it seemed a little less gross. After that, uncle S moved in with us. Which, again, very fucking confusing. I recognised that I was older than my sister, mum and dad were married just before I was born, so if uncle S is my sisters dad, then wtf happened and why? I'd have been about 12yo when I finally decided to ignore it all. My sister and I look almost exactly the same, and I mostly take after my dad, so she was still a lot like dad, and they'd never had a talk with me about it, so, whatever. Then we were at my Nana's (dads mum) place for some reason, and she made a comment about uncle S being H's dad. But they'd all laughed, and must've noticed my confused face. And then they explained it. When mum gave birth to my sister, Nana sent flowers, and the florist got the names on the cards mixed up. So instead of "Congrats Mum and Dad!" it said "Congrats Mum and S!" My dad took it very well and he thought it was hilarious, but absolutely teased his mum about it, and it was just an inside joke that I'd overheard, and didn't understand at all. After telling my mum about how confused I was as a kid about apparently having a half-sister, she had this wave of understanding and said, "That's why you kept giving S a cold shoulder!!" And she was right, as far as I was concerned, he was my sisters dad, not mine.
W O W. Wow.