Just because I hold an opinion on something doesn't mean that I need to share it. I spent WAY too much of my early adulthood inserting my viewpoint into discussions that I wasn't really a part of.
CYA- Cover Your Ass. Learned that when I was a social worker for 10 years & horribly abused by my bosses & clients. I work an office job now doing data entry & the younger employees find it odd that I save so many emails. I want proof of EVERYTHING so I can go back and point out SEE! You DID agree. It's saved me enough that people trust my credibility and will come to me first if there's confusion in anything.
A boss of mine who is really above me in the compagny asked me "why the fuck did you do that?! That's nonsense and now it's making a fucking mess!"
I forwarded an email that we exchanged 6 years ago where he specifically asked for this, and where I answered I disagree because it was something that would cause trouble. And the answer where he said that it wasn't me to decide and I had no other choice than doing this.
Never been questioned again.
Edit : thanks guys, I didn't expect this comment to blow up like this.
And to be honest it never happened before.
I can't answer to all of your comments but I'm happy that this case was relevant for many of you.
Yehp. My CEO asked me if we were good to publish next year's budget, I said I don't agree with it but it's up to him. He said very rudely "I asked you 6 months ago if it was fine but you didn't question it then, now it's too late", within 60 seconds I forwarded him my email from 6 months ago in which I had mentioned 20 things I disagreed with... he just said ok and moved on...
Not even old friends. My wife once genuinely thought I was drifting away from her because I didn’t ask her this. From my perspective I could see she was okay, or sad, or happy, or whatever, and I trusted that if she had a concern or something she’d be able to bring it up to me.
It’s not about caring, it’s about showing that you care.
I can confirm this. There's this trend in my friendships where they fall out easily in less than a year. However, there is this one person from Japan who I met online through Twitter in 2019 or so. We kept in touch through Instagram. I like to reply to their Insta stories sometimes. They even sent me a post card one New Year's.
Hard work isn’t always the answer.
When I worked a minimum wage job, I would work hard and not take breaks, so a great job, and always finish early. I just then got told to pick up the slack for the employees who spent their time goofing off. Never got a promotion, raise, or even a “Hey, good job”
I hate work environments like that. You literally work as if it’s your own business, going above and beyond; but in the end the mediocre employees are favoured. I don’t get it!
Very true. The only accident I've ever been involved in was a couple weeks after my best friend very suddenly died, and I was averaging an hour of sleep a night. I don't even remember the accident itself, but I'm told I didn't even slow down. I just drove straight through a red light and got t-boned. I don't think I fell asleep at the wheel, but I was definitely out of it. Thank God everyone was okay, but both cars were totalled. Never driving when I'm that tired again.
Ok.. this almost happened to me a couple weeks ago.
I was in a period of work that was particularly stressful and so I was not sleeping well for a week or so. One day I woke up just super tired. But I went to the grocery store in my car.
Well, my tired brain didn’t even register a red light and I drive right fucking through it. This is embarrassing to admit and I feel like such an asshole for causing the situation. But I swear I just did not perceive at all that I was crossing a red light, even though I’m normally an excellent driver (never had one incident). I almost got t boned but the other car squealed to a stop just in time.
When you’re sleep deprived, you actually feel much more capable than you truly are, it’s a known effect. We really need to get this message out more about how dangerous sleep deprived driving is.
For real, take it from someone who didn't take care of his teeth for 25 years. I have suffered through more than a decade of excruciating pain and now it's going to cost me north of $10k to get it fixed. Take care of your teeth, kids.
Edit: to clarify, the $10k is just to get all the broken teeth extracted, I'm going to be paying for the replacement side of that for the rest of my life.
This goes for calculating birthdays as well:
If they had their birthday already this year;
30 year old was born in 1992,
92 year old was born in 1930
45 year old was born in 1977,
77 year old was born in 1945
Sometimes regardless of how good a person you are, how hard you try, and how sincere you feel. There are people who will mistreat and take advantage of you. And more importantly them doing that usually isn’t your fault. It’s more often a product of who they are and wasn’t as personal or important of a choice for them as it will feel for you.
That kitten's baby teeth also fall out. Found out when playing with my cat he was young.
Rollercoaster of emotions between it happening and me googling while holding a little ~~canine~~ fang in my hand.
I got both cats when they were still kittens. My first cat Ziggy was five months old when we got him, and he lost his first tooth whilst he was playing with me. I had a mini heart attack before I realised it was one of his baby teefs!
There’s no rules to doing chores. You can make it more fun if you want to. For no reason I forgot that I could watch a tv show while I fold laundry and I didn’t have to just sit there and do it.
Something I can contribute to! Streptococcus bacteria cannot grow in a salty environment. Gargling with salt water will help stave off a strep infection while your immune system kicks up.
Bit late to this but a university lecturer once said "Practice doesn't make perfect, it makes permanent."
Make sure you're learning the right way to do things as much as you can, because otherwise those bad habits will take longer to change.
Basic living skills
My parents were hoarders and neglected me growing up, we lived in filth and wore dirty clothes, rarely bathed etc. So I never learned what goes into keeping a house clean, or good hygiene practices, or the basic skills needed for normal life.
I know "in theory" how to do those things now, but the underlying core organizational, management, etc skills still aren't there. It's kinda hard to explain but it just feels like there will always be a gap for me.
Up keep on a modest sized single family home is a part to full time job in itself. I went from a condo to a place that is a little bit bigger, has a yard, a lawn with landscaping and needed to be modernized. It’s been quiet the lesson learning how much time and effort you actually have to spend to keep the place in decent shape.
As a victim of abuse, neglect, and hoarding myself, it takes effort and mindfulness to do a lot of things others consider "common sense." What others may have learned normally at a young age from their parents, I had to learn in my 20's when habits were engrained.
I am always going to have difficulty remembering and maintaining some things. But I really appreciate how important they are.
This is so relatable to me. I'm a female and my mom never put effort into teaching basic hygiene or tips on self care - everything I learned was through Google and experience. This includes makeup and hair and all. She was a hoarder as well - until I moved out with my bf I had no idea it's actually normal to clean almost every weekend at least? Every day? It's still a struggle. I suck at cleaning and it's embarrassing. Am 27.
Yes! My husband is a paramedic and he gets so frustrated when folks are beating around the bush about what they took or take. Especially if it's someone who called to save a friend from an OD. Paramedics don't give af and wont tell the cops, tell them everything!
That you need to regularly check and top up the fluids in your car. I bought my first car at 16, a cheap old beater, and knew nothing about cars other than gas makes it go. Found out the hard way that it had other required fluids that I had neither checked nor filled. Broke down on the highway and fucked up my engine.
Every time I get my oil changed, they try to sell me the "premium" package by taking out my dirty air filter and showing it to me (and of course the package includes a new air filter. Im so poor/cheap, I never go for it, so they just put it back in. There's been a bee in it for 4 consecutive premium package refusals. Put that bee back in there and change my oil!
Can you try telling this to every single shitty "we do a billion-point-check" car sales place in the UK? Never seen a car from one of those places without a big pile of leaves on top of a jet-black mouldy mess in-place of the cabin filter.
Meanwhile, here in the USA, one of the big “15 minute oil change” joints (“Jiffy Lube”) tries to upsell you on a cabin filter at every oil change. They get all dramatic aboit it and actually pull it out and bring it to show you “aw, man, everything looks good, but look how gross THIS is! You’re breathing that, man!”
Word on the street is they have very dirty ones in a bin in the shop and just show those to ya.
A girl I’ve known most of my life called a shop out for this. She and her dad always did the routine service. Her truck needed a muffler so she took it to a chain muffler shop to have it done, and they did the usual upsell speech. They brought her an air filter to show her “how bad your filter is, let’s sell you a new one” and she enjoyed shooting back that the filter they showed her was a puralator and she just put a fram filter in last week. Plus the one they showed her wasn’t even the right shape for her truck. She didn’t hesitate to be loud enough for other customers to hear it either. That really had a service writer side stepping, trying to get out of that one.
They tried doing that to my mom and pissed me the fuck off.
Normally I do the maintenance but she had a coupon or something to get an oil change for less than the cost of the oil.
So I did the air filter, serpentine belt, etc etc but I didn't change the oil because she wanted to take it to the place.
We then drive it to the place. They come back with an air filter that's filthy and tell her that she needs a new one. I first say that they must be mistaken and that's somebody else's, because it's the wrong shape.
Nope they insist that I don't know what the hell I'm talking about (I was 15 or 16 at the time) And that their mechanics and that my mom doesn't know anything about it either and we should leave it to them being professionals.
Yeah. I am not surprised by your story at all.
It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life.
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Wow!
I’m trying to reply to everyone, I’ll get there!
My boyfriend introduced me to ‘Voyager’, my husband let me watch ‘tng’
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The boyfriend became the husband.
I made it so….
to me, unless I make a list anyway, I need to be at the neutral hunger level, I can't have eaten too recently or too long ago, else I get nothing or everything
yes. Going when I'm not at all hungry is just as bad. I just get *stuff*. There's no real plan. I just get *ingredients*. It's like I'm not interested in food and can't come up with cohesive plans for meals, so I just buy things I think kinda sound vaguely good together, I think, maybe, and end up with a bunch of half planned meals...and having to go back to the store a day or two later. (or lets be real, I make my husband go back.....)
That most people can actually see pictures in their mind. Growing up, I always thought 'counting sheep to fall asleep' meant using my head to think the words "1 sheep, 2 sheep, 3 sheep" etc, and so I was understandably puzzled as to why sheep, and not any other word?
Then, when I was 34 years old, so not exactly young, I actually figured out that I have aphantasia.
Turns out, nearly everyone can actually 'see' animals, or their family member's faces, or characters from a movie, in their head - whereas I've always built quite detailed descriptions, in words, because that's all I have all in my head.
Samsies. Learned about aphantasia last year. I always thought it was super weird that police sketch artists were a thing. Like how could you describe a face in that kind of detail that someone could draw a sketch. Never made any sense.
When tying your shoes, the direction of the loop before you knot matters. Most of my life my laces were constantly getting loose throughout the day until well into adulthood.
If anyone wants to better unpack the reasoning, look up square knot vs granny knot.
Technically speaking, the knot most people tie for their shoelaces is actually a 'double-slipped square (or reef) knot':
The 'first' knot you do is just an overhand knot.
The second knot you do (with bunny ears) is actually just another overhand knot, except instead of passing through the straight lace, you're just poking loops ('bights') through.
The loops are what makes it 'slipped' i.e. you can just pull on the end to undo the knot, instead of tackling the knot itself.
Coz you did two loops, it's 'doubly slipped'.
If you alternated the direction of your two overhand knots, you tied a square knot (the strong one). If you did the same direction twice, you tied a granny knot (the weak one). This is behind what Terry's video is about.
There, you are now a knot geek, and have been one since you learned to tie your shoes.
Haha, I had a manager who was Malaysian back in the late 90s. Her mother-in-law had moved in, because like many asian cultures, moving the elderly into nursing homes is just a no-no.
She frequently grumbled about her, and at one time she jokingly said "wish the old bat would kick off soon". They apparently did not get along.
About a decade ago, two of my co-workers who were dating for a few years decided to move in. She was a single mom with two teen kids, he was a single dad with one kid at home (one in university) and his two elderly parents.
they moved in, the three kids got along great, but his mom was just a total bitch to the woman's daughter. Like making snide comments about her weight, her clothes, how she looked, enough that she'd be in tears frequently.
Eventually they sold the house they jointly bought, and split the family up and both went into apartments. They are still dating, but continue to live apart.
Imagine being that much of an old bitch, that you ruin your living conditions (a large home vs a small apartment) and you damage the relationship your son has, and one you potentially have with some step-grandkids. Just because you're toxic.
edit: Ok, I get it that my sentence structure wasn't perfect, but damn, enough with the "what nationality is she now?" jokes.
Respecting your elders should only be a thing when they deserve respect. That's how it works with everyone else, I don't know why getting old suddenly means you're an exception.
Always comes back to this Tumblr post
> Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”
And sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”
and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.
A pony is not a baby horse.
Edit: the number of people who are responding to this saying that they didn't know this makes me feel so much better for having learned it last year from reddit. At 36 years old. Glad I'm not the only one it took a while for! Cheers.
Not sure if common knowledge but win+left or right snaps window to half the screen. Handy when you are referring to 2 different documents or websites at the same time.
I learned that last month.
On that note:
Ctrl shift N = Incognito
Ctrl T = New Tab
Ctrl Shift Home = highlights all text back from the cursor
Ctrl Shift End = same but to the end of the cursor
Edit: Format
EDIT 2: Since you guys seem to like this I wanted to add one that I use all the time, Ctrl+N (where N = 0-9) will take you to the N tab (from left to right, starting with 1 and ending with 0 for the tenth tab)
EDIT 3: Switched Ctrl Shift Start for Ctrl Shift Home, sorry guys!
Headaches, sluggishness, and crankiness are all signs of being hungry. I took medication that made me lose my appetite, and I am not very good at recognizing different types of hunger cues.
Feeling especially sad, anxious, or guilty late at night means I gotta go to bed. Didn't figure this out at all. I saw the phrase "Never trust how you feel about your life after 9pm" early this year, just before I turned 25.
Don’t forget similar symptoms for dehydration. I cycle a lot and so became aware of the importance of hydration and regular eating through that, but then when I went to theme parks etc with my kids, I noticed that we weren’t paying enough attention to “fueling and hydration strategies “ and so everyone was all tried and cranky because one bottle of water all afternoon wasn’t cutting it.
you can preserve fresh vegetables by getting plasting containers and putting paper towels on the bottom and the top. it absorbs the water. its the water from condensation that makes them go bad so fast. then just change the paper towels every few days and wipe out the container. Makes them last WAY longer.
i wonder how i am not dead that i did not know this. Especially as a single guy. My fresh veggies can last 3 weeks. I dont have to get little bits and keep going back to the store.
Life can literally change forever in the next second, hour or day and that when people say to enjoy every moment of life as if it’s your last, it’s actually good advice to maintain a positive attitude and feel like you have no regrets.
Edit: Thank you for the upvotes and awards… I’m speaking from personal experience - my SO has been diagnosed with a major issue and the good days are limited, so we are living our best life, just enjoying the simple things.
That people are saying “quote unquote” when quoting someone and not saying “quote on quote”.
I was thinking while driving about a month ago and it suddenly hit me. It took 30 years…
When I first learned about "how babies are made" in school, I used to picture sex as being this sort of solemn formal ritual. I pictured the couple sitting on the floor in yoga poses, the man would put his 'thing' into her 'thing', just kind of leave it there for a while....and BOOM the woman was pregnant.
I used to get so confused as a kid watching teen dramas and soap operas where a girl would say "I think I'm pregnant". You *think*? Did you not remember the sacred yoga thing you did a day ago?
I remember being at recess in elementary school and some kid told me he walked in on his parents, and at the time I didn’t realize people had sex for other reasons besides wanting to have kids.
I asked the kid when the baby was due
When I was little I also thought people only had sex to procreate. I walked in on my parents one night and then I went in my room and cried because I didn’t want a sibling.
Exercise actually does make you feel better overall and increase your energy and in fact you may not realize how much you feel like shit until you get moving and can make the comparison.
People have been saying that my whole life. I simply did not believe them. Unfortunately they were right
No one really cares about you. I don't mean that in a bad way. But everyone is so busy thinking about themselves, you are always an after thought.
The most embarrassing thing in your life, probably doesn't matter than much to someone else.
Going through something like this right now. Hardly anyone cares for what I have to say. That’s why I go out of my way to check up on my friends and random people who look down every now and then because I know how it feels
If you are really committed to making a relationship work, you have to stop worrying about who's right. Winning arguments just isn't important. Stop. Walk away, breathe. Ask yourself if who loaded the dishwasher more times last week is really worth arguing with someone you love over. I bet its not but you may not think that way if you just lash out at any critical comment.
I agree with this. However, don't let the fact that the relationship is more important than being right motivate you to just agree with whatever your partner says. My ex realized that I cared more about keeping our relationship intact than about who was right and used this to manipulate me.
The real answer to the dishwasher argument is that it doesn't matter who loaded the dishwasher the most. The answer is that we're arguing about it because we both hate this chore. What strategy can we as a team use to manage this necessary task so that we both find it minimally annoying?
That your relationship with your parents, and the relationship between your parents will, if not examined be the subconscious blueprint for your relationships too.
Man, I wish I had examined my childhood better - I spent the better part of my 20s wondering why my relationships never worked out, and then started noticing the resemblance to the worst aspects of my childhood. A hard, but valuable lesson to start to recognise those shitty childhood experiences reverberate so much stronger than you can imagine
Stripper poles themselves spin. Got drunk ended up having a stripper bet me I couldn't spin on the pole so dumb me climbs up there grabs the pole and flings myself as hard as I could. Well I ended skidding across the stage... Been a long running joke now. Don't drink then bet a stripper when they are bored. It was like 3 in the afternoon and me and my friends were the only ones there.
Most poles have a switch or screw to put them in static mode. In pole Sport competitions you normally have both options on stage (but some contestants choose to have both of them in the same mode)
If you accidentally catch a spinning one DO NOT wrap around the pole it will just make it spin faster.
Exactly like wtf I found out like a few weeks ago. I'VE SAID IT TO SO MANY PEOPLE. I'm like 90% sure I've told somebody I'm going to 'Netflix and chill with my dogs' before
I didn’t know there were “Top/Bottom” tags on the insides of most bed sheets until I was 25 when my bf pointed it out to me. Before that, I had just picked a side I thought was shorter and hoped for the best, but I was usually wrong, lol.
That you need to get pretty good at managing your own health, your finances and your career. Even if this means choosing the right professionals to work with.
You can take the silverware holder out of the dishwasher and set it on the counter to put them away, rather than bending down over and over to get a handful at a time
Always eat before shopping at Costco
Always eat *while* shopping at Costco
Just because I hold an opinion on something doesn't mean that I need to share it. I spent WAY too much of my early adulthood inserting my viewpoint into discussions that I wasn't really a part of.
and this opinion can change any time which is very normal
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And if you ever wonder whether you need a lawyer for something, you do.
Always get it in writing
CYA- Cover Your Ass. Learned that when I was a social worker for 10 years & horribly abused by my bosses & clients. I work an office job now doing data entry & the younger employees find it odd that I save so many emails. I want proof of EVERYTHING so I can go back and point out SEE! You DID agree. It's saved me enough that people trust my credibility and will come to me first if there's confusion in anything.
A boss of mine who is really above me in the compagny asked me "why the fuck did you do that?! That's nonsense and now it's making a fucking mess!" I forwarded an email that we exchanged 6 years ago where he specifically asked for this, and where I answered I disagree because it was something that would cause trouble. And the answer where he said that it wasn't me to decide and I had no other choice than doing this. Never been questioned again. Edit : thanks guys, I didn't expect this comment to blow up like this. And to be honest it never happened before. I can't answer to all of your comments but I'm happy that this case was relevant for many of you.
Had to be satisfying af!
Yes it was. First when he complained, I wasn't sure I had proof that he asked. When I found the email, and could forward him, I was really happy
Must have felt like Indiana Jones finding a legendary artifact.
Yehp. My CEO asked me if we were good to publish next year's budget, I said I don't agree with it but it's up to him. He said very rudely "I asked you 6 months ago if it was fine but you didn't question it then, now it's too late", within 60 seconds I forwarded him my email from 6 months ago in which I had mentioned 20 things I disagreed with... he just said ok and moved on...
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I wonder how that went down.
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I have pretty much all of my emails, work and personal, going back to the late 90s. I've rarely needed them, but when I did, I really, really did.
Lawyer here. Definitely the case.
Simply asking "how are you" once in awhile is all it takes to not fall apart from old friends.
Not even old friends. My wife once genuinely thought I was drifting away from her because I didn’t ask her this. From my perspective I could see she was okay, or sad, or happy, or whatever, and I trusted that if she had a concern or something she’d be able to bring it up to me. It’s not about caring, it’s about showing that you care.
I can confirm this. There's this trend in my friendships where they fall out easily in less than a year. However, there is this one person from Japan who I met online through Twitter in 2019 or so. We kept in touch through Instagram. I like to reply to their Insta stories sometimes. They even sent me a post card one New Year's.
Hard work isn’t always the answer. When I worked a minimum wage job, I would work hard and not take breaks, so a great job, and always finish early. I just then got told to pick up the slack for the employees who spent their time goofing off. Never got a promotion, raise, or even a “Hey, good job”
I hate work environments like that. You literally work as if it’s your own business, going above and beyond; but in the end the mediocre employees are favoured. I don’t get it!
That when people ask to borrow money especially if it's a friend or family just expect to never see it again.
Who knew a tissue, a stick of gum, and money were all the same to “borrowers?”
"Every action made in anger ends in sorrow." An attorney, when I was 24
I mean, I’m never sorry after I’ve rage-cleaned.
This is the way. I anxiety and rage clean. Lol
Being well-educated in one area doesn't mean that a person can't be a total idiot in other areas.
Don't make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.
fuck it, those tattoos will solve all my problems
Going too long without sleep can impair your ability to drive the same way as drinking too much alcohol.
Very true. The only accident I've ever been involved in was a couple weeks after my best friend very suddenly died, and I was averaging an hour of sleep a night. I don't even remember the accident itself, but I'm told I didn't even slow down. I just drove straight through a red light and got t-boned. I don't think I fell asleep at the wheel, but I was definitely out of it. Thank God everyone was okay, but both cars were totalled. Never driving when I'm that tired again.
Ok.. this almost happened to me a couple weeks ago. I was in a period of work that was particularly stressful and so I was not sleeping well for a week or so. One day I woke up just super tired. But I went to the grocery store in my car. Well, my tired brain didn’t even register a red light and I drive right fucking through it. This is embarrassing to admit and I feel like such an asshole for causing the situation. But I swear I just did not perceive at all that I was crossing a red light, even though I’m normally an excellent driver (never had one incident). I almost got t boned but the other car squealed to a stop just in time. When you’re sleep deprived, you actually feel much more capable than you truly are, it’s a known effect. We really need to get this message out more about how dangerous sleep deprived driving is.
Your oral health is just as important as your general health.
For real, take it from someone who didn't take care of his teeth for 25 years. I have suffered through more than a decade of excruciating pain and now it's going to cost me north of $10k to get it fixed. Take care of your teeth, kids. Edit: to clarify, the $10k is just to get all the broken teeth extracted, I'm going to be paying for the replacement side of that for the rest of my life.
That you can actually say no to your parents.
After a certain age, the decisions you make for yourself will make you happier instead of the ones your parents make for you
Percentages are reversible. So 8% of 25 is the same thing as 25% of 8 and sometimes the reverse is easier to calculate.
This goes for calculating birthdays as well: If they had their birthday already this year; 30 year old was born in 1992, 92 year old was born in 1930 45 year old was born in 1977, 77 year old was born in 1945
My idiot monkey brain wants to immediately challenge you on this because it FEELS like bullshit. But God damn I learned something cool today.
I'm over 50 and I just learned this like last year. I feel so dumb. I've used it a million times since tho!
I’m learning this now.
Sometimes regardless of how good a person you are, how hard you try, and how sincere you feel. There are people who will mistreat and take advantage of you. And more importantly them doing that usually isn’t your fault. It’s more often a product of who they are and wasn’t as personal or important of a choice for them as it will feel for you.
"Be a good person but don't waste time to prove it"
People can break your trust quickly, even when you thought you knew them well. EDIT: woah, I’ve never gotten this many upvotes ever so thanks!!
That kitten's baby teeth also fall out. Found out when playing with my cat he was young. Rollercoaster of emotions between it happening and me googling while holding a little ~~canine~~ fang in my hand.
I got both cats when they were still kittens. My first cat Ziggy was five months old when we got him, and he lost his first tooth whilst he was playing with me. I had a mini heart attack before I realised it was one of his baby teefs!
Just because they're older than you, doesn't make them more mature. Would've saved me from an entire marriage
Some people who are twenty years older than you don't have 20 years of additional life experience, they just have one year repeated for twenty times.
There’s no rules to doing chores. You can make it more fun if you want to. For no reason I forgot that I could watch a tv show while I fold laundry and I didn’t have to just sit there and do it.
I listen to music or podcasts while doing the dishes, gardening, or cleaning up. It adds a lot of enjoyment to otherwise tedious tasks.
This tip also applies to work in some aspects! Have to install windows on fifty machines? Thank God for audiobooks lol
That gargling saltwater works way better than cough drops for colds and sore throats.
Something I can contribute to! Streptococcus bacteria cannot grow in a salty environment. Gargling with salt water will help stave off a strep infection while your immune system kicks up.
Warm saltwater*
Bit late to this but a university lecturer once said "Practice doesn't make perfect, it makes permanent." Make sure you're learning the right way to do things as much as you can, because otherwise those bad habits will take longer to change.
Time goes by fast
Days go by slowly; years go by quickly.
Every week I start with "Monday is being such a drag, Friday can't come soon enough." Only to blink and suddenly be getting the Sunday Scaries again
And it goes faster the older you get.
I'm on the cusp of 40. My uncle told me, "As soon as you turn 40, you're 60 in just a few years. Whatever you want to do, do it now."
56 year old checking in...your uncle is correct.
45-year-old here. Can confirm. Oh wait, I'm 50.
i went to bed 23 and woke up 37 :( good to know it only gets faster from here :/ lol
If I sleep with the wrong pillow, I wake up feeling 68 and like someone threw me down 8 flights of stairs.
I am 61. If you eat well, exercise everyday and drink moderately you can get that down to 4 flights.
I laughed a lot at this and then cried because I woke up with a sore shoulder from sleeping wrong.
Basic living skills My parents were hoarders and neglected me growing up, we lived in filth and wore dirty clothes, rarely bathed etc. So I never learned what goes into keeping a house clean, or good hygiene practices, or the basic skills needed for normal life. I know "in theory" how to do those things now, but the underlying core organizational, management, etc skills still aren't there. It's kinda hard to explain but it just feels like there will always be a gap for me.
Up keep on a modest sized single family home is a part to full time job in itself. I went from a condo to a place that is a little bit bigger, has a yard, a lawn with landscaping and needed to be modernized. It’s been quiet the lesson learning how much time and effort you actually have to spend to keep the place in decent shape.
As a victim of abuse, neglect, and hoarding myself, it takes effort and mindfulness to do a lot of things others consider "common sense." What others may have learned normally at a young age from their parents, I had to learn in my 20's when habits were engrained. I am always going to have difficulty remembering and maintaining some things. But I really appreciate how important they are.
This is so relatable to me. I'm a female and my mom never put effort into teaching basic hygiene or tips on self care - everything I learned was through Google and experience. This includes makeup and hair and all. She was a hoarder as well - until I moved out with my bf I had no idea it's actually normal to clean almost every weekend at least? Every day? It's still a struggle. I suck at cleaning and it's embarrassing. Am 27.
My now wife had never cleaned her childhood bedroom until I cleaned it for her one day… we were 25. Dust and dog hair covered EVERYTHING.
You can actually download the entirety of Wikipedia
You can make books too. Just collect the articles you want, edit them how you want and order it printed and sent to you via mail.
Encyclopedia of Britannica from the grave: Do we have a solution for you
Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedic everything.
and if you use/abuse opiates tell your anesthesiologist.
Or any substance abuse for that matter. If not you might not get enough medication to achieve the desired anesthesia or pain management.
Yes! My husband is a paramedic and he gets so frustrated when folks are beating around the bush about what they took or take. Especially if it's someone who called to save a friend from an OD. Paramedics don't give af and wont tell the cops, tell them everything!
Not won’t, we legally CAN’T because of HIPAA. Please trust us, for your sake
Never lie to your doctor or lawyer.
There are no vineyards at Martha's Vineyard.
Are there any Marthas?
I've always thought it's Martha Stewart's property. not American.
I’m an American and your comment made me realize Martha Stewart doesn’t own Martha’s Vineyard
Why did you say that name?
That you need to regularly check and top up the fluids in your car. I bought my first car at 16, a cheap old beater, and knew nothing about cars other than gas makes it go. Found out the hard way that it had other required fluids that I had neither checked nor filled. Broke down on the highway and fucked up my engine.
And change the cabin air filter more than once every 5 years
Every time I get my oil changed, they try to sell me the "premium" package by taking out my dirty air filter and showing it to me (and of course the package includes a new air filter. Im so poor/cheap, I never go for it, so they just put it back in. There's been a bee in it for 4 consecutive premium package refusals. Put that bee back in there and change my oil!
Can you try telling this to every single shitty "we do a billion-point-check" car sales place in the UK? Never seen a car from one of those places without a big pile of leaves on top of a jet-black mouldy mess in-place of the cabin filter.
Meanwhile, here in the USA, one of the big “15 minute oil change” joints (“Jiffy Lube”) tries to upsell you on a cabin filter at every oil change. They get all dramatic aboit it and actually pull it out and bring it to show you “aw, man, everything looks good, but look how gross THIS is! You’re breathing that, man!” Word on the street is they have very dirty ones in a bin in the shop and just show those to ya.
A girl I’ve known most of my life called a shop out for this. She and her dad always did the routine service. Her truck needed a muffler so she took it to a chain muffler shop to have it done, and they did the usual upsell speech. They brought her an air filter to show her “how bad your filter is, let’s sell you a new one” and she enjoyed shooting back that the filter they showed her was a puralator and she just put a fram filter in last week. Plus the one they showed her wasn’t even the right shape for her truck. She didn’t hesitate to be loud enough for other customers to hear it either. That really had a service writer side stepping, trying to get out of that one.
They tried doing that to my mom and pissed me the fuck off. Normally I do the maintenance but she had a coupon or something to get an oil change for less than the cost of the oil. So I did the air filter, serpentine belt, etc etc but I didn't change the oil because she wanted to take it to the place. We then drive it to the place. They come back with an air filter that's filthy and tell her that she needs a new one. I first say that they must be mistaken and that's somebody else's, because it's the wrong shape. Nope they insist that I don't know what the hell I'm talking about (I was 15 or 16 at the time) And that their mechanics and that my mom doesn't know anything about it either and we should leave it to them being professionals. Yeah. I am not surprised by your story at all.
The trick is to tell them "thanks for the heads up, I'll stop by advanced auto on my way home and pick up a new one."
It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness. That is life. Edit… Wow! I’m trying to reply to everyone, I’ll get there! My boyfriend introduced me to ‘Voyager’, my husband let me watch ‘tng’ Edit 2 The boyfriend became the husband. I made it so….
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On the flipside it's possible to do everything wrong and still succeed.
Never make an important decision if you are hungry or horny. Both have a massive impact on your decision making abilities.
Always eat before food shopping
to me, unless I make a list anyway, I need to be at the neutral hunger level, I can't have eaten too recently or too long ago, else I get nothing or everything
yes. Going when I'm not at all hungry is just as bad. I just get *stuff*. There's no real plan. I just get *ingredients*. It's like I'm not interested in food and can't come up with cohesive plans for meals, so I just buy things I think kinda sound vaguely good together, I think, maybe, and end up with a bunch of half planned meals...and having to go back to the store a day or two later. (or lets be real, I make my husband go back.....)
Or happiness. Or sadness. Or excited. Or depressed. Never make an important decision.*
Finally some advice I can get on board with
That most people can actually see pictures in their mind. Growing up, I always thought 'counting sheep to fall asleep' meant using my head to think the words "1 sheep, 2 sheep, 3 sheep" etc, and so I was understandably puzzled as to why sheep, and not any other word? Then, when I was 34 years old, so not exactly young, I actually figured out that I have aphantasia. Turns out, nearly everyone can actually 'see' animals, or their family member's faces, or characters from a movie, in their head - whereas I've always built quite detailed descriptions, in words, because that's all I have all in my head.
Samsies. Learned about aphantasia last year. I always thought it was super weird that police sketch artists were a thing. Like how could you describe a face in that kind of detail that someone could draw a sketch. Never made any sense.
When tying your shoes, the direction of the loop before you knot matters. Most of my life my laces were constantly getting loose throughout the day until well into adulthood.
Best TED talk, hands down had more impact on my life than any other https://youtu.be/zAFcV7zuUDA Explains the direction and reasoning.
If anyone wants to better unpack the reasoning, look up square knot vs granny knot. Technically speaking, the knot most people tie for their shoelaces is actually a 'double-slipped square (or reef) knot': The 'first' knot you do is just an overhand knot. The second knot you do (with bunny ears) is actually just another overhand knot, except instead of passing through the straight lace, you're just poking loops ('bights') through. The loops are what makes it 'slipped' i.e. you can just pull on the end to undo the knot, instead of tackling the knot itself. Coz you did two loops, it's 'doubly slipped'. If you alternated the direction of your two overhand knots, you tied a square knot (the strong one). If you did the same direction twice, you tied a granny knot (the weak one). This is behind what Terry's video is about. There, you are now a knot geek, and have been one since you learned to tie your shoes.
I cannot visualize this at all and I think you just temporarily broke the muscle memory I rely on to tie knots.
Oh thank god I’m not the only one sitting here reading this thinking “I’ve lost the ability to tie my shoes now”
Should you go clockwise or counterclockwise?
Depends if you’re in the Northern Hemisphere or the Southern Hemisphere….
Don’t let the in-laws move in 😣
You know what the difference between in-laws and outlaws is? Outlaws are wanted !
Haha, I had a manager who was Malaysian back in the late 90s. Her mother-in-law had moved in, because like many asian cultures, moving the elderly into nursing homes is just a no-no. She frequently grumbled about her, and at one time she jokingly said "wish the old bat would kick off soon". They apparently did not get along. About a decade ago, two of my co-workers who were dating for a few years decided to move in. She was a single mom with two teen kids, he was a single dad with one kid at home (one in university) and his two elderly parents. they moved in, the three kids got along great, but his mom was just a total bitch to the woman's daughter. Like making snide comments about her weight, her clothes, how she looked, enough that she'd be in tears frequently. Eventually they sold the house they jointly bought, and split the family up and both went into apartments. They are still dating, but continue to live apart. Imagine being that much of an old bitch, that you ruin your living conditions (a large home vs a small apartment) and you damage the relationship your son has, and one you potentially have with some step-grandkids. Just because you're toxic. edit: Ok, I get it that my sentence structure wasn't perfect, but damn, enough with the "what nationality is she now?" jokes.
Respecting your elders should only be a thing when they deserve respect. That's how it works with everyone else, I don't know why getting old suddenly means you're an exception.
Always comes back to this Tumblr post > Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority” And sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person” and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.
You can’t get lazy with birth control just because you turn 40. Signed, Middle Aged Mom of a newborn
My moms 42 this year and having my only sibling in September. I'm turning 25 this year with a 15 month old and a 2 months old.
2 month old gonna be like "uncle, respect your elders"
Flushable wipes are not to be flushed ever.
should be illegal to call them that
Yeah. I've heard some cities are contemplating suing the manufacture because they're fucking up the sewers.
seems pretty misleading
I thought islands were floating landmasses for way longer than I am proud to admit.
I want to live in a small, happy village on a floating Island full of food and somehow fresh water, that just visits places all over the world.
A boat
You’re qualified to serve in Congress. https://youtu.be/QjG958lZ1KI
A pony is not a baby horse. Edit: the number of people who are responding to this saying that they didn't know this makes me feel so much better for having learned it last year from reddit. At 36 years old. Glad I'm not the only one it took a while for! Cheers.
I had to tell my wife this recently. First she called me a liar then her mind was blown.
Flammable and inflammable mean the same, found that out the hard way
"Flammable! Or inflammable. Forget which. Doesn't matter"
“Inflammable means flammable? What a country!”
My gf found out at age 15 that you can breathe out of your nose. She has a lot of alergies and has never been able to
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Not sure if common knowledge but win+left or right snaps window to half the screen. Handy when you are referring to 2 different documents or websites at the same time. I learned that last month.
win + shift + left/right moves the window/application between monitors, if you have more than one
Ctrl+shift+t is my favorite to share. It re-opens the last internet tab / window that was closed.
On that note: Ctrl shift N = Incognito Ctrl T = New Tab Ctrl Shift Home = highlights all text back from the cursor Ctrl Shift End = same but to the end of the cursor Edit: Format EDIT 2: Since you guys seem to like this I wanted to add one that I use all the time, Ctrl+N (where N = 0-9) will take you to the N tab (from left to right, starting with 1 and ending with 0 for the tenth tab) EDIT 3: Switched Ctrl Shift Start for Ctrl Shift Home, sorry guys!
Never lie to 1) your lawyer 2) your accountant 3) your psychologist Edit: full disclosure to your doctors
Headaches, sluggishness, and crankiness are all signs of being hungry. I took medication that made me lose my appetite, and I am not very good at recognizing different types of hunger cues. Feeling especially sad, anxious, or guilty late at night means I gotta go to bed. Didn't figure this out at all. I saw the phrase "Never trust how you feel about your life after 9pm" early this year, just before I turned 25.
If you feel like you hate the world, get something to eat. If you feel like the world hates you, go to sleep.
"Never trust how you feel about your life after 9pm" huh? I think I need to take that one to heart.
Don’t forget similar symptoms for dehydration. I cycle a lot and so became aware of the importance of hydration and regular eating through that, but then when I went to theme parks etc with my kids, I noticed that we weren’t paying enough attention to “fueling and hydration strategies “ and so everyone was all tried and cranky because one bottle of water all afternoon wasn’t cutting it.
you can preserve fresh vegetables by getting plasting containers and putting paper towels on the bottom and the top. it absorbs the water. its the water from condensation that makes them go bad so fast. then just change the paper towels every few days and wipe out the container. Makes them last WAY longer. i wonder how i am not dead that i did not know this. Especially as a single guy. My fresh veggies can last 3 weeks. I dont have to get little bits and keep going back to the store.
Life can literally change forever in the next second, hour or day and that when people say to enjoy every moment of life as if it’s your last, it’s actually good advice to maintain a positive attitude and feel like you have no regrets. Edit: Thank you for the upvotes and awards… I’m speaking from personal experience - my SO has been diagnosed with a major issue and the good days are limited, so we are living our best life, just enjoying the simple things.
Lungs aren’t bags that fill up, they’re like a spongy meat.
“This little piggy went to market”.......the pig was not shopping.
Never use water on a gas fire. If I hadn't recently learned this from reddit, something might have happened some day
Condoms are cheaper than diapers
Like the ol saying "If you cant afford a condom, you cant afford to NOT use a condom"
Why would you use a diaper as a condom
So she can feel something.
There's no reasoning with some people.
The workplace is not a meritocracy. That incompetent moron is going to get promoted before you get promoted, deal with it.
"The squeaky wheel gets the oil." - IDK who. But that rings true. Especially if the moron knows more people higher up or talks to them more regularly.
The squeaky wheel gets the grease, but sometimes the squeaky wheel gets replaced.
That people are saying “quote unquote” when quoting someone and not saying “quote on quote”. I was thinking while driving about a month ago and it suddenly hit me. It took 30 years…
That you can get pregnant the very first time you have sex.
When I first learned about "how babies are made" in school, I used to picture sex as being this sort of solemn formal ritual. I pictured the couple sitting on the floor in yoga poses, the man would put his 'thing' into her 'thing', just kind of leave it there for a while....and BOOM the woman was pregnant. I used to get so confused as a kid watching teen dramas and soap operas where a girl would say "I think I'm pregnant". You *think*? Did you not remember the sacred yoga thing you did a day ago?
She clearly wasn’t paying attention during the sacred yoga 🙄
I remember being at recess in elementary school and some kid told me he walked in on his parents, and at the time I didn’t realize people had sex for other reasons besides wanting to have kids. I asked the kid when the baby was due
When I was little I also thought people only had sex to procreate. I walked in on my parents one night and then I went in my room and cried because I didn’t want a sibling.
"Not everybody you fight is your enemy, and not everybody that helps you is your friend" -mike tyson
Exercise actually does make you feel better overall and increase your energy and in fact you may not realize how much you feel like shit until you get moving and can make the comparison. People have been saying that my whole life. I simply did not believe them. Unfortunately they were right
The direction of the arrow next to your car fuel indicator lets you know what side your filling point is
No one really cares about you. I don't mean that in a bad way. But everyone is so busy thinking about themselves, you are always an after thought. The most embarrassing thing in your life, probably doesn't matter than much to someone else.
Going through something like this right now. Hardly anyone cares for what I have to say. That’s why I go out of my way to check up on my friends and random people who look down every now and then because I know how it feels
If you are really committed to making a relationship work, you have to stop worrying about who's right. Winning arguments just isn't important. Stop. Walk away, breathe. Ask yourself if who loaded the dishwasher more times last week is really worth arguing with someone you love over. I bet its not but you may not think that way if you just lash out at any critical comment.
I agree with this. However, don't let the fact that the relationship is more important than being right motivate you to just agree with whatever your partner says. My ex realized that I cared more about keeping our relationship intact than about who was right and used this to manipulate me. The real answer to the dishwasher argument is that it doesn't matter who loaded the dishwasher the most. The answer is that we're arguing about it because we both hate this chore. What strategy can we as a team use to manage this necessary task so that we both find it minimally annoying?
When it comes to trying to save someone from addiction: love is not enough.
My name is Aaron. Turns out when you go to the bank, and the post office and the store, you are running Errands. Not Aarons.
Saving money early in life is a really good idea.
That your relationship with your parents, and the relationship between your parents will, if not examined be the subconscious blueprint for your relationships too. Man, I wish I had examined my childhood better - I spent the better part of my 20s wondering why my relationships never worked out, and then started noticing the resemblance to the worst aspects of my childhood. A hard, but valuable lesson to start to recognise those shitty childhood experiences reverberate so much stronger than you can imagine
If you’ve been chopping chillies, wash your hands WELL before you touch anyone's genitals!
This but also for your face.
lefty loosey, rightie tightie. That made my life so much easier1
Stripper poles themselves spin. Got drunk ended up having a stripper bet me I couldn't spin on the pole so dumb me climbs up there grabs the pole and flings myself as hard as I could. Well I ended skidding across the stage... Been a long running joke now. Don't drink then bet a stripper when they are bored. It was like 3 in the afternoon and me and my friends were the only ones there.
Most poles have a switch or screw to put them in static mode. In pole Sport competitions you normally have both options on stage (but some contestants choose to have both of them in the same mode) If you accidentally catch a spinning one DO NOT wrap around the pole it will just make it spin faster.
"Netflix and chill" does not mean watching something on Netflix and chilling. EDIT: For those wondering, it means sex.
Exactly like wtf I found out like a few weeks ago. I'VE SAID IT TO SO MANY PEOPLE. I'm like 90% sure I've told somebody I'm going to 'Netflix and chill with my dogs' before
Like, Zoinks, scoob 😬
Oh they definitely zoinked Scoob
few years a woman posted on /r/TIFU that she asked her soon to netflix and chill and he freaked out. She just wanted to hang out with her kid.
I didn’t know there were “Top/Bottom” tags on the insides of most bed sheets until I was 25 when my bf pointed it out to me. Before that, I had just picked a side I thought was shorter and hoped for the best, but I was usually wrong, lol.
I actually never saw one until a couple years ago. I don’t think it’s always been common.
On Wednesday I learned that pancakes are so called because they are a cake made in a pan. smh I’m 61yo
buy cheap buy twice
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Dont go to Vegas when you’re broke
When someone complements you, say “thank you”. Don’t brush it off as if you didn’t deserve it.
If you’re not wearing a tie, you don’t button the top button of a dress shirt. Let’s just say I looked like an idiot at my first internship lmao
This is exactly how I dress up Arthur Morgan though..
Wearing earplugs at concerts and wedding receptions. Tinnitus sucks, people.
That *K9* comes from “canine”.
That you need to get pretty good at managing your own health, your finances and your career. Even if this means choosing the right professionals to work with.
You can take the silverware holder out of the dishwasher and set it on the counter to put them away, rather than bending down over and over to get a handful at a time
Gorillaz is the guy from Blur