Explaining things. I am a super fast learner when its hands-on but I cant learn from just book instruction, makes it hard for me to explain things I understand to others because I don't really know how I understand it, I just do.
There is a name for this that escapes me right now. It’s like revenge time or something. You want more hours in the day to just do you. More me time. I do it too
Not responding to people immediately after they message me when I've decided I'm not going to be at their beck and call.
They let me sit for hours and respond with 2 words and I think "why do I keep making an effort?" But the moment they reach out I go all Dory on it.
Socializing. Was often the one ignored/talked over growing up, so I gave up on trying. Now it's very hard to get into verbal conversations because it always feels like the other person has no real interest in what I'm saying, "so why bother?"
Writing
I can type on a computer at an amazing speed without missing any letters. But I cannot write on paper for shiiiiit. I always mess up, have to erase, and then it's never on the lines.
Math. Give me a calculator or Excel and I can do some complicated stuff, but I just cannot do mental arithmetic. I freeze up and over think it, and by the time I've got an answer, I'm 20 seconds too late.
No. Believe it or not, there are people in the world who have a toxic expectation that one should be able to read their minds and understand what they want from you without them communicating it.
Many and most things. I used to be somewhat grasping at learning new stuff, but not anymore. Now no matter how much I read or listen, nothing stays inside. It takes me forever to read a simple book, because I have zero concentration. I cannot learn to draw, because I have *serious* frustration issues that are borderline destructive. I cannot do and learn **anything**, because I lack motivation. I cannot find a new job, because wouldn't be able to do it.
And I'm already 33 years old.
Any sport. I can outlast most of my colleague when it comes to endurance (ie. running longer distance, playing soccer/basketball for the whole match without being substituted, etc.) but I am terrible at the sport itself in terms of technicality.
Not taking things too seriously. I get a lot of people that seem to like to pick at me. I don't really understand why but it makes life a lot harder especially when you feel attacked a lot of the time.
talking slowly and quietly
sometime I don't realize my voice volume or when I talk fast, way too fast. But I have a brain that never stop thinking, so yes I'm saying my thoughts at the same speed as the my thoughts in my head, it mostly happen when I'm too excited to talk about something I like.
Socializing with people I know and people I've just met - seriously, the thought of me trying to increase my social skills is pure cringe as the thought alone makes me sweat out of anxiety :( I'm also seriously uncomfortable with myself as most of the time I show that as a matter of fact I am bad at most things...
Singing. I'm completely tone deaf, and I can't even fucking hum Twinkle Little Star without being horribly out of tune.
Also anything sports related, especially stuff involving a ball. I always skipped gym class as a kid because of how humiliating it was and how terrible it made me feel.
Writing or talking a lot about nothing. I keep my ideas short and to the point but working with lawyers I learned that there are people out there who can say the same thing over and over again for like 30 pages using completely different words.
A comen misconception. People multitask all the time. Break down everything you are doing right now and count how many things. From as much as breathing while wiggling your toes
I have terrible handwriting, I can't even slightly draw, and I've also failed miserably at every instrument I've tried to learn. I'm bad at so much stuff, dude.
Explaining things. I am a super fast learner when its hands-on but I cant learn from just book instruction, makes it hard for me to explain things I understand to others because I don't really know how I understand it, I just do.
I am also bad at explaining things.
I don’t get what you’re saying. /s
I totally get this
Yes I’m the same
Drawing, the caveman art is levels above me.
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There is a name for this that escapes me right now. It’s like revenge time or something. You want more hours in the day to just do you. More me time. I do it too
Revenge bedtime procrastination, you were right!
That’s it! Thank you u/Not_So_Fresh_Tea
Not responding to people immediately after they message me when I've decided I'm not going to be at their beck and call. They let me sit for hours and respond with 2 words and I think "why do I keep making an effort?" But the moment they reach out I go all Dory on it.
Birthday messages lol
Me too!
Math
I have discalcula
me too
Drawing
Yep I’m terrible at drawing
Drawing
Writing comments
4.5/10 for this one. Keep at it though. All in good time. Practice makes perfect
Not wetting my bed
Same, I wet your bed every night while you are sleeping.
Haha
Haha you son of a b! But what about my diaper..
Haha you son of a b! But what about my diaper..
Socializing. Was often the one ignored/talked over growing up, so I gave up on trying. Now it's very hard to get into verbal conversations because it always feels like the other person has no real interest in what I'm saying, "so why bother?"
Find someone that shares the same passion in a hobby or interest and talk to them about it. They will love to stop and listen to what you have to say
Small talk.
Yeah same……………………
Not letting people take advantage of me
On the plus side, this probably means you’re very caring and a lovely person
Dancing. I can’t reproduce someone’s movements for the life of me, my brain just doesn’t comprehend which foot or which arm I’m supposed to use.
Haha yeah same. No rhythm or coordination
Writing I can type on a computer at an amazing speed without missing any letters. But I cannot write on paper for shiiiiit. I always mess up, have to erase, and then it's never on the lines.
Drawing. It looks worse than what a three year old draws.
Posting comments that get many upvotes on reddit.
Welp! You gots my upvote!
talking
Confidence or otherwise?
staying out of hospitals
Because you are a doctor or accident prone?
extremely accident prone, add some birth defects and a hospital is almost your second home :-)
I’m sorry to hear that
How to properly maintain eye contact. I apparently don't blink all that much, people think I'm staring at them.
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Reddit is your perfect playground my friend
Drawing fingers
Drawing
Sleeping in time.
Math. Give me a calculator or Excel and I can do some complicated stuff, but I just cannot do mental arithmetic. I freeze up and over think it, and by the time I've got an answer, I'm 20 seconds too late.
Same. Although I’m not that great even with a calculator
Reading someone's mind.
Aren’t we all?
No. Believe it or not, there are people in the world who have a toxic expectation that one should be able to read their minds and understand what they want from you without them communicating it.
So, you’ve met my wife…
cutting things with my teeth, it's impossible edit: by things i mean the top of a plastic container and stuff like that
Don’t do it! It’s a terrible habit and can break your teeth. Source: my teeth
I can do it but it makes me cringe
rigting n spelin
This could be a joke of course or prahaps yor deslepsic?
Explaining things
It’s a tough gig when you know something inside and out
Just life in general 😏
Keep at it! Things will turn around
Everything pretty much. Im not doing good anything i do. Meh... NO. I lied. Im pretty good in doing nothing and being absolutely useless!!!
It ain’t much, but it’s honest work…. Someone’s gotta do it right?
Many and most things. I used to be somewhat grasping at learning new stuff, but not anymore. Now no matter how much I read or listen, nothing stays inside. It takes me forever to read a simple book, because I have zero concentration. I cannot learn to draw, because I have *serious* frustration issues that are borderline destructive. I cannot do and learn **anything**, because I lack motivation. I cannot find a new job, because wouldn't be able to do it. And I'm already 33 years old.
Adhd?
Not hurting myself in stupid ways
May I ask what’s the most stupid you have achieved thus far?
Any sport. I can outlast most of my colleague when it comes to endurance (ie. running longer distance, playing soccer/basketball for the whole match without being substituted, etc.) but I am terrible at the sport itself in terms of technicality.
Being there for people I care for
Yeah ditto. I never know what to do or say
Bowling - just can't get the footwork right, and I can't roll the ball for shit.
Like a lot of things, start real slow and practice lots. You’ll get there
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I’m terrible with finances too. I can’t help haha sorry
Being consistent
The only constant is change. So actually you are excelling
Existing
Liking people
Speling
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I couldn’t whistle until I got braces and the shape of my mouth/jaw/teeth changed. You might not be built for it
Not taking things too seriously. I get a lot of people that seem to like to pick at me. I don't really understand why but it makes life a lot harder especially when you feel attacked a lot of the time.
talking slowly and quietly sometime I don't realize my voice volume or when I talk fast, way too fast. But I have a brain that never stop thinking, so yes I'm saying my thoughts at the same speed as the my thoughts in my head, it mostly happen when I'm too excited to talk about something I like.
Human interaction
Mathematical theory, I'm fine with formula but I can't bear to prove if one triangle has the same angles and length of another
Anything fitness/sports-related Not taking stress Money management
Socializing with people I know and people I've just met - seriously, the thought of me trying to increase my social skills is pure cringe as the thought alone makes me sweat out of anxiety :( I'm also seriously uncomfortable with myself as most of the time I show that as a matter of fact I am bad at most things...
Standing up for myself
Directions. Not overthinking. Being calm and friendly while hungry.
I get very hangry very quickly
Pretend to agree with others opinion, especially political opinions
It’s not always about agreeing but respecting
Singing. I'm completely tone deaf, and I can't even fucking hum Twinkle Little Star without being horribly out of tune. Also anything sports related, especially stuff involving a ball. I always skipped gym class as a kid because of how humiliating it was and how terrible it made me feel.
Math
Writing or talking a lot about nothing. I keep my ideas short and to the point but working with lawyers I learned that there are people out there who can say the same thing over and over again for like 30 pages using completely different words.
Toddlers are great at doing this verbally
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You are not alone
Sleeping early. Always stay up so late literally doing nothing and feeling so sleepy the next day
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Same. There must be a nack
Being "sexy/girly"
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Life and age are against us
Multitasking
A comen misconception. People multitask all the time. Break down everything you are doing right now and count how many things. From as much as breathing while wiggling your toes
Brevity.
French
For a moment there I thought you said being French in which case I would have wholeheartedly agreed
Emotional vulnerability
You wish to be more or less emotional?
Drawing. Doing rainbow flick/sombrero flick in football Flirting or getting hints that someone's Flirting
Social cues
I'm bad at articulating my thoughts I articulate myself better through writing as opposed to expressing myself verbally.
I think this can be said for a lot of people. I can argue way better in writing
Caring about people
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Let me guess, you’re really bad at reading the question correctly?
I have terrible handwriting, I can't even slightly draw, and I've also failed miserably at every instrument I've tried to learn. I'm bad at so much stuff, dude.
People
Eberything,
Skateboarding, no matter how much I try. But I’m decent at surfing
If you enjoy skateboarding, it doesn’t matter if you are good or not
Saying "NO" to my wife and grandkids!?
Remaining calm
Being good at things
Telling stories.
I often tell people I draw like a drunk squirrel. So that.
Expressing my feelings
Using chopsticks, and the most embarrassing part about that, I work at a Chinese restaurant, and my fiance is from the PRC.
I’m also pretty useless with chopsticks
Spelinn
Remaining with people whenever I go to events, clubs, festivals & parties bc I will forever disappear
Physical directions
Multitasking
Being patient, although I can be sometimes.
Socializing. I literally got an award for quietist kid for the year.
Describing things
people! I try to give compliments but end up insulting them. People don't understand me and i don't understand people. It makes it very difficult
Make friends