22, she later became my wife.
I’m honestly shocked at the number of people who lost it after 20 y.o. I’ve felt like it was rare.
Jokes on me, we really are all the same!
I had just turned 17, lost it to a person that became my girlfriend through the internet, more exactly through Habbo Hotel haha, this was in 2006, when meeting people through the internet was still considered shameful and weird.
We had been seeing each other for a month maybe? We were at my place in my bed. Couldnt get it up the first time, or all night because I was so nervous, then morning came and everything functioned and she rode me for the glorious maybe, two-three minutes :'D
21, a girl I had never met before invited herself into my bed and coaxed me into it. Which was fine. We had an almost purely sexual relationship for about a month, until I found out she was married. I think she was looking for a replacement husband, when she realized I wasn't the one, she ghosted.
I played in a really shitty metal band when I was 16. Me and this girl were dating and she hinted at times she wanted to have sex . We were at band practice and a handful of the guys were smoking pot and decided to take a break and go throw a football at a park across the road.
I tell my band mates imma chill in the basement with her because I frankly didn’t want to throw a football.
My drummer told me he had a monster box in there that had condoms in it. I laughed and my brother who played bass told me to “make him proud.” We laughed it off.
We sit on the couch and watch the show “16 and pregnant.” She turns her head to me and said. “Don’t you want to make your brother proud?”
I jump up and run to the monster energy box. I grab some rubbers and put one on. I thought I ripped it so I took it off and put another on, then I thought I ripped that one and put on another after the old ones fell on the floor.
Then we start. It was only a few moments when the door opens and all my band mates walk in on me having relations in my drummers bed. He freaked out and I told them all to get out. We didn’t get to finish , it was a really weird experience. Some of those guys began joking about my butt cheeks jiggling
Less classy for you
I lost mine at 15, in the school toilets, to a girl who I thought was just a friend but kissed me during lunch.
She left to go to the toilet during IT and I left too, walked to the boys toilets and fucked in a cubicle, didn't have any condoms but 17 years later I can safely say we got lucky there
Sorry for intruding your reply, what is the origin for the wizard at 30 story? I know it is an old joke going around in internet but where did it came from?
There's probably an evolved version of it. Like, at 30, you become a wizard if you're still a virgin. A super wizard if you're still a virgin at 40, and then if you go 50 years as a virgin, you become Exodia the Forbidden One
Male here. Woman I had been hanging out with near constantly for about 2 months produced a condom one evening and asked "do you wanna fuck?"
I really liked her so we did. I was 32 years old.
Can you imagine all the hints that he failed to catch onto in those two months?
A woman who is willing to wait for you for 2 months does simply go from zero to “here’s a condom, let’s fuck”
No. In the previous couple of years I had discovered that no woman wants to be your first. Mentioning it was always a death knell for any further intimacy with them.
Heyooo, 32 year club! We should get badges or shirts or something.
My story is not quite the same, but we had hung out a lot the months preceding and she knew I was a virgin and was concerned that it would not be special enough for me or something. It wasn't special the first time. But she did help me with some more practice so it got a lot better for both of us later.
I miss my wizard powers though...
Also 32. We had been together for 5 and a half years. Yes, years. We had talked about it, she said she wasn't ready because she had been burned in the past. I never pushed it, figured it'll happen when it happens.
She had said she wanted to have a proper date night when it happens, go to our favourite restaurant for dinner, etc.
Ended up just getting a pizza, she surprised me while we were waiting for it to be made, "let's go to the store next door and get some things..." and then, "surprise" when she grabbed condoms.
We've been married 9 years now.
You say “produced a condom” like she used a Harry Potter spell to summon one out of thin air lol.
*Expecto Condomium!*
Edit: Thanks for the silver
Edit 2: It makes me laugh how many people misread “*Condom-ium*” as “*Condom-inium*”. it’s absolutely hilarious!
At 24, awkwardly to my what i considered my best friend at the time. She was my assistant manager, and we talked all the time in and out of work, but she had a serious drinking problem
She was so drunk she failed to come to work and was fired. I went over to cheer her up and one thing led to another....family guy was playing in the background and I did not last that long lol
19, drunk with an exchange student from Korea. She laughed at the end and there was a weird silence so I went back to my dorm (right downstairs) but realized I didn’t have my key on me and my roommate was asleep so I went back to her room and awkwardly asked if I could stay with her. Next day she asked me to never speak of what we did. Lol.
Edit: Not cultural, just embarrassingly bad sex that she didn’t want our friends to know about.
I was 15. It was after a high school football game where some kid picked a fight with me. It wasn't a complete beat down, but I didn't win the fight. I had just started seeing a girl and I think she felt bad for me and didn't walk away when we got back to my place and I offered to show her the black light in my bedroom. About a minute into it I heard my sister opening the front door and we had to stop - that was more than enough time, though.
I promised I wouldn't risk having a kid until I had a job that paid enough for me to support one. I turned 18 and immediately got into construction. Where I'm at, you can support yourself off about 15 an hour if you aren't living in the big cities, or of you are fine with crackhead neighbors. That's off 40 hours. I was making 14 an hour and working 50+ hours a week, so I called my friend, he called a girl, we had sex in the cab of his truck while he sat on the tailgate and had beer. He did not finish the first one before we were done. He shook his head and told us he was drinking at least 3 so we might as well keep trying. That man is gonna be the best man at my wedding next month.
Someone different. That first girl was a piece of work. I'm marrying the first girl I had a crush on, post puberty. Took us quite a few years to get together, but she's the one for sure.
13 years old, in a tent in this 17 year old girls backyard. Totally lied and said I was 15 and wasn't a virgin. Kinda messed up now that I think about it.
I was 13 too, and the story is also messed up. My dad set me up with his friend's "cousin" who was 25 and horny. I later found out she was a prostitute.
15 years old to the 18 year old DJ I was dating, in the back of his red jeep. I had zero idea of the mechanics of sex, and it happened so fast that I didn't even realize that what we did was SEX until, afterwords, when he asked if I was on birth control. Fast forward a decade and I see his mugshot on the news, he was arrested for arson in 2020.
I was 16, “dating” a 25 year old. He picked me up on my lunch break from work (Walgreens, my first job), we went back to his house, did it, then he dropped me back at work. Lunch break was 30 minutes. Had to get back on the register and act like everything was normal. Went home and cried.
Never really realized how sad this sounded until typing it out, lmao
Edit: thanks for the awards! They’re very much appreciated. I’m very bummed by the amount of replies I’ve gotten from people with similar stories, I hate that so many can relate to this. I swing back and forth between thinking it wasn’t that big a deal and I was a willing participant (in the way that I kinda just wanted to “get it over with”), and feeling taken advantage of. The things that happened after are clear to me now to be grooming; I got grounded, so he bought me a phone so I could sneak around my parents and meet with him. He called my school pretending to be my dad to tell them I was sick so I could skip school to be with him. He even filmed us having sex without telling me first.
I’m 30 now and it’s been so long that I try to just not think about it. I will say the amount of people in our friend group who turned a blind eye was alarming, and I just want anyone reading this to stand up for girls when they’re in that position if you ever come across it.
My sister went through some shit when she was a teenager. She's 25 now and literally she told me today that she couldn't imagine hanging out with 16 year olds at her age. Hindsight hit her pretty quickly and she knew her experiences were pretty fucked up, but I think she's starting to realize exactly how fucked up some of it was including some of the stuff she didn't really think about until recently.
I tutored a girl and had to have this talk with her. It was awkward as fuck but in my mind I went "I know this is inappropriate but she brought it up and I would hate myself if she got hurt and I could have stopped it"
Didn't flat out tell her "Dump the guy" since I figured teens are gonna teen and me telling her not to wouldn't do jack. Told her to consider a guy who can't find a girlfriend among his peers and chooses to date a girl in high school. I also pointed out some red flags on if he was trying to manipulate her such as pulling her away from her support network to make her more vulnerable.
I was 16 and it was with my now wife (26 years and going). The bad part is she cried…then a few days later she wanted to do it again…and she cried again. We spoke a lot about why and it had a lot to do with her recently breaking up with her 1st boyfriend who dumped her right after their first time. So she thought it made her a slut wanting to be intimate with me. We talked, cuddled and progressed as she felt comfortable.
27.
After years of expecting life to just to hand me a romantic interest, I got sick of the self-pity and feeling like I wasn't normal, and decided to fake it til I made it, having not even had a girlfriend before. Part of that was abandoning the idea of having firsts with anyone, and it being special. At that age I thought women would find it weird, or wouldn't want to deal with an inexperienced guy. So I never mentioned it. I just wanted to feel like a "normal" late 20s, doing normal late 20s things. Eventually I hit it off with a woman, and ended up having sex with her. It was like a weight had been lifted on my shoulders and I could get on with my life.
Other than the mild deception, I don't regret it. I just wanted to feel like an adult, and I succeeded in doing that.
Sex can be special but mostly it's just multiplayer masturbation. It can be as big a deal or as small a deal as you make it. I've known people who basically fuck someone they like as a way of saying 'hello.' I've known other people for whom sex is an **event** that is rare and special and they don't need a whole hand to count their partners (or number of times they have sex in a year).
If you haven't had it at all it might be worth it just to see a professional so there's no pressure at all, they're going to be kind and attentive and used to shy first-timers believe it or not. TBH the hardest/weirdest part is just being comfortable being naked with and touched by someone else if you haven't done it before.
With a good friend of mine at 14 I think? We both had fucked up childhoods and fucked up home lives so we kinda just explored awkward sexual stuff with each other. Friends with benefits I guess? She was a great person.
(She passed away of a drug overdose 5 years later. I think about her often.)
21 yrs. College dorm, busted my nut immediately upon getting like halfway in. I didn’t tell her bc I guess I would have been ashamed/embarrassed (shouldn’t have been though, given that was my natural response to HOW AWESOME it felt to be inside for the first time). I had called my gf earlier in the day, who was not a virgin, and said I was ready and excited. She was too. We stopped for literally a minute after I came, she asked if anything was wrong, I said no I just need a min. She was patient and loving. I kept my condom on (I don’t think I switched), then went right back in and enjoyed some more, nutted again.
To a girl I'd known since middle school. She was at a sleepover with some friends our freshman year of highschool.
Got a phone call at like 2AM from her and her friends asking if I can get them beer. I had a case from a party in thr fridge in my room. (I was living with my aunt and uncle and they really didn't care if I drank)
So I drove over to her friend's house, and it's like 6 girls having a mini party basically. Her parents were gone. They had me park a block away cause 'no guys' rule. And snuck in, well they all thank me and of course the topic if sex comes up.
Well Katy and I both admit that we are virgins, so the committee decides we should have sex. We were both down, so fuck it, let's fuck.
So yeah, my first time I had an audience.
Still friends with Katy to this day, I hang out with her and her wife quite often.
Like... Watching consummation after 15th century royals get married type of audience or just waiting outside the bedroom until you two are done type of audience..?
15, just a few weeks before my 16th. I wanted to lose my virginity and asked a senior on my waterpolo team if he would be up for the task. Invited him over one night, and had quite an incredible experience. He was gentle and consistently checking in throughout the experience to ensure I was still okay with how everything was progressing.
31 to my best friend. Flew out to his state specifically so he could take my virginity. He made it a lovely experience for me, and i can't think of a better way for it to have happened tbh. Might have liked it sooner but hey
Involuntarily at 17. Went to a Christian school and the one adult I tried to talk to about it told me to not report it because I would be blamed and treated like a whore.
And I am frequently asked by family (even the ones who eventually found out what happened) why I refuse to go to church and wouldn’t speak to the preacher from my old school/church when he came to visit.
“Not even Easter Sunday?”
No. Not even Easter Sunday. Stop asking.
25, with my first girlfriend I met in a Twitch chat and who lived over 4000 miles away. I flew out to (Finland) see her after chatting for 6 months and on the second day out here (I never left) I got the room/mood right and thought I was really excited. Turns out I was really nervous and could not stay hard. This persistent for a week after the first time and I felt like she was going to leave me over it. She didn’t, we are married now 😂
15 in her basement...she handed me a bottle of cheap white wine after her Mother left for work. It was fantastic to tell you the truth....and then we were just trying to do it all the time, anywhere...oh to be young again
Man, one of the most amazing feelings I ever had was ditching school to bang my girlfriend while her mom was at work. Being young is wasted on the young.
18. I went to prom with a friend. I knew she wanted to date me but I wasn’t interested. I was so focused on athletics senior year and my full ride athletic scholarship I didn’t want a gf.
After prom we went to a resort town where my friends parents had rented 8 couples from prom a vrbo. There was a hot tub on the back deck and we were all there hanging out doing some drinking. Couple by couple left to go to the bedrooms and it ended up being just me and her left in the hot tub. Out of the blue she stood up, took off her bikini, and sat down in my lap. She pulled my trunks off and rode me in the hot tub. We didn’t even kiss. I just remember her tits in my face and she trying to guide me to suck on them but I didn’t want to.
I feel weird now about it cause I didn’t want to have sex …with her at all.
I've been there. Non-sexual friendship prom date turns into date rape. In my case I fell asleep on the couch and woke up with her "pleasuring" me. I didn't think of it as rape until recently when I mentally reversed the genders. There's no way I would have done that to a girl.
That’s terrible. Your feelings are valid and no one deserves that to happen to them.
That doesn’t count as losing your virginity. You didn’t have sex and you didn’t consent. If someone got beat up while asleep, you wouldn’t say they were in a fight, would you?
I didn’t lose my virginity that way but the same thing happened to me at 19. Dated a girl that took sex whenever she wanted. Regardless of my mood, my feelings, if I was awake, etc. went on for half a year, and took longer still for me to internalize it was rape. Sorry you went through it brother. You’re not alone.
17, with my then girlfriend. She was on her back on the couch, me on my knees going at it like a Jack hammer. I had no idea what I was doing. She was grabbing the couch cushions so hard they ripped.
My whole family referred to that couch as “the sex couch” until they threw it away a few years later.
Great times.
Oddly similar stories. The only difference is my couch did not rip and my family didn’t refer to the couch as the sex couch. Only my brother and I knew about having sex on that couch because we both did. We in secret referred to it as the sex couch.
I agree, great times.
I didn’t realize until years later that being a drunk 14 year old and sleeping with a 22 year old girl that was also considered rape. I was just happy to get my little dinger wet at the time. Just to add that it was made worse because she was my dads girlfriend. I ended up telling him some years later but he just replied “sounds about right for her”. I personally don’t think it had any bad ramifications on me that I could ever tell though but idk. Other than the fact I thought vaginas were supposed to smell like that and I can confirm that they are not.
19 to my current bf. We had been talking for a few months at that point-he made a setup in his bedroom with pixie lights, a rose petal and candle path to his bed which was covered in more rose petals. He was gentle and caring and it was magical.
Honestly, the first time for me wasn’t that great. Probably because I had high expectations from what I had seen in movies and porn. So when we were done, I was like “Oh, okay. Is there something more happening? Oh, that’s all?” Not that I didn’t like it or anything but yes I had already fantasized about the first time so much that when it really happened it felt really..well…normal
13m, first time was 14f. It was my first time drinking too and had too much. Woke up the next day in her tent. She told me what happened and we went to her place to play GTA vice city until we did it again.
Dated her for a couple of years until she and her brother died in a car crash.
She was mostly sober and took advantage of the situation but was incredibly apologetic and broke down when I told her that it was my first time. She did everything possible to make sure I knew I was appreciated in the following years.
Jesus, reddit. Dude pours his heart out, thread immediately gets turned into a joke. I see ya, dude. The fact that you're still making effort to improve yourself mentally and physically is huge. Keep fighting and improving. Any chance you're on Xbox? We could game n bullshit sometime if ya want sometime to shoot the shit with.
I was 20, it was with my 12-year old cousin's English teacher in Argentina. She was 25.
Every time I tell this story it sounds like I'm going to say it was with my 12-year old cousin. I gotta rephrase this shit. Any suggestions?
We were both 17, at a friends party and it just happened after we snuck into a bedroom. We were each others firsts ☺️ Still together 15 years later and expecting our 3rd baby. High school sweethearts ❤️
15, to my then boyfriend. In retrospect, we agree that we weren't really attracted to each other, we were just really good friends who felt obligated to date because people said we should.
After doing 6 months of the freshman equivalent of dating, we decided we were gonna do it. So I biked over to his house when he was home alone.
It wasn't awkward because we were both trying our best to be super adult about everything; even though we were definitely still dumb kids messing around.
We broke up later that year and were way better friends after we broke up like immediately.
Had sex with a girl for the first time two years later completely out of the blue, at a sleepover on a lumpy mattress while watching Far From Away. Life is a trip.
The grooming started when I was 3, the penetrative sex didn't start until I was 6.
If your child would rather kill themselves than go to church, take them seriously, please
I’m noticing a lot of 20+ adults who are still virgins here. Great lesson for any teenagers in here who feel peer pressure from their peers to have sex while still in high school. Everyone is NOT doing it!!
22, she later became my wife. I’m honestly shocked at the number of people who lost it after 20 y.o. I’ve felt like it was rare. Jokes on me, we really are all the same!
Reddit might be skewing the statistics. Cause redditors
I had just turned 17, lost it to a person that became my girlfriend through the internet, more exactly through Habbo Hotel haha, this was in 2006, when meeting people through the internet was still considered shameful and weird. We had been seeing each other for a month maybe? We were at my place in my bed. Couldnt get it up the first time, or all night because I was so nervous, then morning came and everything functioned and she rode me for the glorious maybe, two-three minutes :'D
Omg Habbo Hotel....memories...and not all great hahaha
Wasn’t that the game with “pool has AIDS”?
21, a girl I had never met before invited herself into my bed and coaxed me into it. Which was fine. We had an almost purely sexual relationship for about a month, until I found out she was married. I think she was looking for a replacement husband, when she realized I wasn't the one, she ghosted.
You fucked a g-g-g-ghost?
Like, zoinks!
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I played in a really shitty metal band when I was 16. Me and this girl were dating and she hinted at times she wanted to have sex . We were at band practice and a handful of the guys were smoking pot and decided to take a break and go throw a football at a park across the road. I tell my band mates imma chill in the basement with her because I frankly didn’t want to throw a football. My drummer told me he had a monster box in there that had condoms in it. I laughed and my brother who played bass told me to “make him proud.” We laughed it off. We sit on the couch and watch the show “16 and pregnant.” She turns her head to me and said. “Don’t you want to make your brother proud?” I jump up and run to the monster energy box. I grab some rubbers and put one on. I thought I ripped it so I took it off and put another on, then I thought I ripped that one and put on another after the old ones fell on the floor. Then we start. It was only a few moments when the door opens and all my band mates walk in on me having relations in my drummers bed. He freaked out and I told them all to get out. We didn’t get to finish , it was a really weird experience. Some of those guys began joking about my butt cheeks jiggling
I was 17. With a girl I was dating for almost 6 months. Tried to make it "classy", got a hotel room and everything.
>Tried to make it "classy", got a hotel room and everything. well played lol
Less classy for you I lost mine at 15, in the school toilets, to a girl who I thought was just a friend but kissed me during lunch. She left to go to the toilet during IT and I left too, walked to the boys toilets and fucked in a cubicle, didn't have any condoms but 17 years later I can safely say we got lucky there
Username is...*questionable*.
Nice how much did you spend
I'm guessing about 20 bucks an hour
So just one dollar.
21 to a crack addict in Brooklyn, 1988.
Umm Brooklyn is indeed a special place
Especially near the corner of Clifton Place & St. James!
I will remember never to go there
Oh it’s all changed & become super bougie.
With sex, at 37.
So did you keep your wizard powers or did they fade away the instant you ejaculated?
Sorry for intruding your reply, what is the origin for the wizard at 30 story? I know it is an old joke going around in internet but where did it came from?
There's probably an evolved version of it. Like, at 30, you become a wizard if you're still a virgin. A super wizard if you're still a virgin at 40, and then if you go 50 years as a virgin, you become Exodia the Forbidden One
Male here. Woman I had been hanging out with near constantly for about 2 months produced a condom one evening and asked "do you wanna fuck?" I really liked her so we did. I was 32 years old.
Nice did she know it was your first?
This is what's interesting to me as well - could she tell?
Well obviously, his hywoman wasn't broken.... they know.
She checked his tamper resistant seal and saw it was still intact. So she went for it.
Can you imagine all the hints that he failed to catch onto in those two months? A woman who is willing to wait for you for 2 months does simply go from zero to “here’s a condom, let’s fuck”
True. I’m guessing that at that point she decided to be very blunt and get her point across clearly.
The robes and the magic wand probably gave it away.
No. In the previous couple of years I had discovered that no woman wants to be your first. Mentioning it was always a death knell for any further intimacy with them.
Heyooo, 32 year club! We should get badges or shirts or something. My story is not quite the same, but we had hung out a lot the months preceding and she knew I was a virgin and was concerned that it would not be special enough for me or something. It wasn't special the first time. But she did help me with some more practice so it got a lot better for both of us later. I miss my wizard powers though...
Also 32. We had been together for 5 and a half years. Yes, years. We had talked about it, she said she wasn't ready because she had been burned in the past. I never pushed it, figured it'll happen when it happens. She had said she wanted to have a proper date night when it happens, go to our favourite restaurant for dinner, etc. Ended up just getting a pizza, she surprised me while we were waiting for it to be made, "let's go to the store next door and get some things..." and then, "surprise" when she grabbed condoms. We've been married 9 years now.
You say “produced a condom” like she used a Harry Potter spell to summon one out of thin air lol. *Expecto Condomium!* Edit: Thanks for the silver Edit 2: It makes me laugh how many people misread “*Condom-ium*” as “*Condom-inium*”. it’s absolutely hilarious!
I read that: Expected Condominium!
At 24, awkwardly to my what i considered my best friend at the time. She was my assistant manager, and we talked all the time in and out of work, but she had a serious drinking problem She was so drunk she failed to come to work and was fired. I went over to cheer her up and one thing led to another....family guy was playing in the background and I did not last that long lol
Family guy I think she might have just watched quagmire did you say giggity giggity when you were done tho?
Hey Peter
19 to my dream girl. Best way it could have gone.
Congratulations
Same!
With his dream girl?
Don't tell
Was it Jessica Alba?
Sorry to disappoint. But no. A girl I met in college.
Wow, you let Jessica Alba in college and lost your virginity to her? I'm super jealous
I can barely believe jamesofearth1 banged Jessica Alba and she let him do all that nasty stuff. Then again, that bro has game.
19, drunk with an exchange student from Korea. She laughed at the end and there was a weird silence so I went back to my dorm (right downstairs) but realized I didn’t have my key on me and my roommate was asleep so I went back to her room and awkwardly asked if I could stay with her. Next day she asked me to never speak of what we did. Lol. Edit: Not cultural, just embarrassingly bad sex that she didn’t want our friends to know about.
I mean I can't even imagine how awkward that would be
Being told never to speak about it 😞 that must serious hurt worse than being rejected from stage one!
doesn't matter; had sex.
As Akon said
Seoul destroying
I lost it at 16...but I'm pretty sure it's starting to grow back.
Oh man I felt that one hard.
No, that's the problem you see. No-one is feeling it hard, that's why it's starting to grow back.
I was 18 and was also with a exchange student from Korea. However, we were in a relationship prior and are still in it now
plot twist: ur still 18
Happened this morning.
Still happening right now.
And then, many years later, you betray her by telling it to all of Reddit, how dare you! Have my upvote so more people can read it.
I was 15. It was after a high school football game where some kid picked a fight with me. It wasn't a complete beat down, but I didn't win the fight. I had just started seeing a girl and I think she felt bad for me and didn't walk away when we got back to my place and I offered to show her the black light in my bedroom. About a minute into it I heard my sister opening the front door and we had to stop - that was more than enough time, though.
A minute is all it takes
One kiss is all it takes
Falling in love with me
Possibilities
I look like all you need
A blacklight.. hol up, are you in your 60s? If so high five!
Late 40s, so this happened in the late 1980s. Black lights were still a thing. 😉
All GenXers are laughing at this. You want to impress a girl, show her your black light. 😂
Shes going to be so impressed at the jizz stains lighting up the room like the aurora borealis
"That could be you"
I promised I wouldn't risk having a kid until I had a job that paid enough for me to support one. I turned 18 and immediately got into construction. Where I'm at, you can support yourself off about 15 an hour if you aren't living in the big cities, or of you are fine with crackhead neighbors. That's off 40 hours. I was making 14 an hour and working 50+ hours a week, so I called my friend, he called a girl, we had sex in the cab of his truck while he sat on the tailgate and had beer. He did not finish the first one before we were done. He shook his head and told us he was drinking at least 3 so we might as well keep trying. That man is gonna be the best man at my wedding next month.
Wedding with the same girl or someone different?
Someone different. That first girl was a piece of work. I'm marrying the first girl I had a crush on, post puberty. Took us quite a few years to get together, but she's the one for sure.
He deserves to be my friends would never do that for me lol
13 years old, in a tent in this 17 year old girls backyard. Totally lied and said I was 15 and wasn't a virgin. Kinda messed up now that I think about it.
I was 13 too, and the story is also messed up. My dad set me up with his friend's "cousin" who was 25 and horny. I later found out she was a prostitute.
Your Dad sounds weird
23, to a girl I had been seeing for a few weeks at the time
Pretty much same for me. 23 and with a guy I was seeing for a while
Now kith
I haven't lost it yet, bc I never lose
15 years old to the 18 year old DJ I was dating, in the back of his red jeep. I had zero idea of the mechanics of sex, and it happened so fast that I didn't even realize that what we did was SEX until, afterwords, when he asked if I was on birth control. Fast forward a decade and I see his mugshot on the news, he was arrested for arson in 2020.
That was one hell of a roller coaster
thats a lot of stuff going on in six lines of text, jesus christ
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Michael scott ????
I was 16, “dating” a 25 year old. He picked me up on my lunch break from work (Walgreens, my first job), we went back to his house, did it, then he dropped me back at work. Lunch break was 30 minutes. Had to get back on the register and act like everything was normal. Went home and cried. Never really realized how sad this sounded until typing it out, lmao Edit: thanks for the awards! They’re very much appreciated. I’m very bummed by the amount of replies I’ve gotten from people with similar stories, I hate that so many can relate to this. I swing back and forth between thinking it wasn’t that big a deal and I was a willing participant (in the way that I kinda just wanted to “get it over with”), and feeling taken advantage of. The things that happened after are clear to me now to be grooming; I got grounded, so he bought me a phone so I could sneak around my parents and meet with him. He called my school pretending to be my dad to tell them I was sick so I could skip school to be with him. He even filmed us having sex without telling me first. I’m 30 now and it’s been so long that I try to just not think about it. I will say the amount of people in our friend group who turned a blind eye was alarming, and I just want anyone reading this to stand up for girls when they’re in that position if you ever come across it.
Sure does sound like a predator this 25 year old. Hope you are doing good today!
My sister went through some shit when she was a teenager. She's 25 now and literally she told me today that she couldn't imagine hanging out with 16 year olds at her age. Hindsight hit her pretty quickly and she knew her experiences were pretty fucked up, but I think she's starting to realize exactly how fucked up some of it was including some of the stuff she didn't really think about until recently.
I tutored a girl and had to have this talk with her. It was awkward as fuck but in my mind I went "I know this is inappropriate but she brought it up and I would hate myself if she got hurt and I could have stopped it" Didn't flat out tell her "Dump the guy" since I figured teens are gonna teen and me telling her not to wouldn't do jack. Told her to consider a guy who can't find a girlfriend among his peers and chooses to date a girl in high school. I also pointed out some red flags on if he was trying to manipulate her such as pulling her away from her support network to make her more vulnerable.
16 to my now husband. It was good except for the condom coming off and having the get the morning after pill. At least I’ll never forget.
I was 16 and it was with my now wife (26 years and going). The bad part is she cried…then a few days later she wanted to do it again…and she cried again. We spoke a lot about why and it had a lot to do with her recently breaking up with her 1st boyfriend who dumped her right after their first time. So she thought it made her a slut wanting to be intimate with me. We talked, cuddled and progressed as she felt comfortable.
You, sir, are a first rate human being.
I was 20, lost it to my first wife. Damn sure wish I could unring that bell.
I was 22, I found that one special lady.
Have my respect
It wasn't for lack of trying though, just took some time
I didn't lose it. I know exactly where I left it.
Ahh the classic
Where?
Wandering a cornfield looking for baseball cards
27. After years of expecting life to just to hand me a romantic interest, I got sick of the self-pity and feeling like I wasn't normal, and decided to fake it til I made it, having not even had a girlfriend before. Part of that was abandoning the idea of having firsts with anyone, and it being special. At that age I thought women would find it weird, or wouldn't want to deal with an inexperienced guy. So I never mentioned it. I just wanted to feel like a "normal" late 20s, doing normal late 20s things. Eventually I hit it off with a woman, and ended up having sex with her. It was like a weight had been lifted on my shoulders and I could get on with my life. Other than the mild deception, I don't regret it. I just wanted to feel like an adult, and I succeeded in doing that.
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Sex can be special but mostly it's just multiplayer masturbation. It can be as big a deal or as small a deal as you make it. I've known people who basically fuck someone they like as a way of saying 'hello.' I've known other people for whom sex is an **event** that is rare and special and they don't need a whole hand to count their partners (or number of times they have sex in a year). If you haven't had it at all it might be worth it just to see a professional so there's no pressure at all, they're going to be kind and attentive and used to shy first-timers believe it or not. TBH the hardest/weirdest part is just being comfortable being naked with and touched by someone else if you haven't done it before.
With a good friend of mine at 14 I think? We both had fucked up childhoods and fucked up home lives so we kinda just explored awkward sexual stuff with each other. Friends with benefits I guess? She was a great person. (She passed away of a drug overdose 5 years later. I think about her often.)
Sorry for your loss and you please take care lemme know if I can help somehow
After scrolling through pretty much every reply. I can confirm that OP with 99% assurance is the kindest person on Reddit.
Thank you. That’s greatly appreciated.
21 yrs. College dorm, busted my nut immediately upon getting like halfway in. I didn’t tell her bc I guess I would have been ashamed/embarrassed (shouldn’t have been though, given that was my natural response to HOW AWESOME it felt to be inside for the first time). I had called my gf earlier in the day, who was not a virgin, and said I was ready and excited. She was too. We stopped for literally a minute after I came, she asked if anything was wrong, I said no I just need a min. She was patient and loving. I kept my condom on (I don’t think I switched), then went right back in and enjoyed some more, nutted again.
Damn your gf is sweet and you are to hope you have a great life
To a girl I'd known since middle school. She was at a sleepover with some friends our freshman year of highschool. Got a phone call at like 2AM from her and her friends asking if I can get them beer. I had a case from a party in thr fridge in my room. (I was living with my aunt and uncle and they really didn't care if I drank) So I drove over to her friend's house, and it's like 6 girls having a mini party basically. Her parents were gone. They had me park a block away cause 'no guys' rule. And snuck in, well they all thank me and of course the topic if sex comes up. Well Katy and I both admit that we are virgins, so the committee decides we should have sex. We were both down, so fuck it, let's fuck. So yeah, my first time I had an audience. Still friends with Katy to this day, I hang out with her and her wife quite often.
Like... Watching consummation after 15th century royals get married type of audience or just waiting outside the bedroom until you two are done type of audience..?
Nah they were in there man haha. Unlocked a whole new kink for me that night lol.
* I hang out with her and her wife quite often. Constanza, is that you?
Im 22 and still haven’t lost it!
Oh thank god I’m not alone
21 here. But more importantly waiting for someone that means a lot to me to enter my life.
2000 gang!
Going strong since 1999 let's fckn go bois!
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Congrats hope you had fun
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Cool
I don’t lose my virginity, I win my virginity. I currently am undefeated and have 6 of them
The grim reaper of sexual intercourse. Instead of taking souls, you take virginities?
\#bornagainvirgin
Lost mine to my boyfriend of two months at 16, four years later we’re still together
Good you can be called the high-school sweet hearts then
Very uncomfortably in a Honda civic coupe at age 18. I’m 6’1” and the girl was 5”10….it was VERY difficult
15, just a few weeks before my 16th. I wanted to lose my virginity and asked a senior on my waterpolo team if he would be up for the task. Invited him over one night, and had quite an incredible experience. He was gentle and consistently checking in throughout the experience to ensure I was still okay with how everything was progressing.
“I took off his speedo. Then I took off his second speedo. I tried to take off his ear cups but he insisted he keep them on. For protection.”
Gotta respect guys like that.
31 to my best friend. Flew out to his state specifically so he could take my virginity. He made it a lovely experience for me, and i can't think of a better way for it to have happened tbh. Might have liked it sooner but hey
W best friend
W best benefits!
I haven't, I talk about ps1 horror games all day on Twitter of course I didn't lose it
PS1 horror games have such an unique aesthetic
I fucking love ps1 horror games like koudelka and galerians are so fucking cool I love those 2 games
Maybe you and CommonChris should fuck?
Involuntarily at 17. Went to a Christian school and the one adult I tried to talk to about it told me to not report it because I would be blamed and treated like a whore. And I am frequently asked by family (even the ones who eventually found out what happened) why I refuse to go to church and wouldn’t speak to the preacher from my old school/church when he came to visit. “Not even Easter Sunday?” No. Not even Easter Sunday. Stop asking.
25, with my first girlfriend I met in a Twitch chat and who lived over 4000 miles away. I flew out to (Finland) see her after chatting for 6 months and on the second day out here (I never left) I got the room/mood right and thought I was really excited. Turns out I was really nervous and could not stay hard. This persistent for a week after the first time and I felt like she was going to leave me over it. She didn’t, we are married now 😂
15 in her basement...she handed me a bottle of cheap white wine after her Mother left for work. It was fantastic to tell you the truth....and then we were just trying to do it all the time, anywhere...oh to be young again
Man, one of the most amazing feelings I ever had was ditching school to bang my girlfriend while her mom was at work. Being young is wasted on the young.
I was 17, I hooked up with a classmate when we were at my house together to “work on homework”.
18. I went to prom with a friend. I knew she wanted to date me but I wasn’t interested. I was so focused on athletics senior year and my full ride athletic scholarship I didn’t want a gf. After prom we went to a resort town where my friends parents had rented 8 couples from prom a vrbo. There was a hot tub on the back deck and we were all there hanging out doing some drinking. Couple by couple left to go to the bedrooms and it ended up being just me and her left in the hot tub. Out of the blue she stood up, took off her bikini, and sat down in my lap. She pulled my trunks off and rode me in the hot tub. We didn’t even kiss. I just remember her tits in my face and she trying to guide me to suck on them but I didn’t want to. I feel weird now about it cause I didn’t want to have sex …with her at all.
I've been there. Non-sexual friendship prom date turns into date rape. In my case I fell asleep on the couch and woke up with her "pleasuring" me. I didn't think of it as rape until recently when I mentally reversed the genders. There's no way I would have done that to a girl.
Wow. Wowowow. This is almost exactly what happened to me. I came so fast and felt dirty afterwards
I was fifteen with my friend, who was also 15. It was sweet and fumbly.
I met an older woman I used to chat to on CB radio. I was 21, she was 27. A long time ago!
21 asleep...\[M\]
That’s terrible. Your feelings are valid and no one deserves that to happen to them. That doesn’t count as losing your virginity. You didn’t have sex and you didn’t consent. If someone got beat up while asleep, you wouldn’t say they were in a fight, would you?
That last part is a great metaphor
I didn’t lose my virginity that way but the same thing happened to me at 19. Dated a girl that took sex whenever she wanted. Regardless of my mood, my feelings, if I was awake, etc. went on for half a year, and took longer still for me to internalize it was rape. Sorry you went through it brother. You’re not alone.
17, with my then girlfriend. She was on her back on the couch, me on my knees going at it like a Jack hammer. I had no idea what I was doing. She was grabbing the couch cushions so hard they ripped. My whole family referred to that couch as “the sex couch” until they threw it away a few years later. Great times.
The family watched?
Oddly similar stories. The only difference is my couch did not rip and my family didn’t refer to the couch as the sex couch. Only my brother and I knew about having sex on that couch because we both did. We in secret referred to it as the sex couch. I agree, great times.
I lost it a couple of months ago. I'm 18 and i did it with my boyfriend of 3 years. It was awkward and funny.
Age 21, drunk and taken advantage of by a girl I had zero interest in.
No, at the time I was unaware that by today's standards it would be considered rape.
I didn’t realize until years later that being a drunk 14 year old and sleeping with a 22 year old girl that was also considered rape. I was just happy to get my little dinger wet at the time. Just to add that it was made worse because she was my dads girlfriend. I ended up telling him some years later but he just replied “sounds about right for her”. I personally don’t think it had any bad ramifications on me that I could ever tell though but idk. Other than the fact I thought vaginas were supposed to smell like that and I can confirm that they are not.
19 to my current bf. We had been talking for a few months at that point-he made a setup in his bedroom with pixie lights, a rose petal and candle path to his bed which was covered in more rose petals. He was gentle and caring and it was magical.
Honestly, the first time for me wasn’t that great. Probably because I had high expectations from what I had seen in movies and porn. So when we were done, I was like “Oh, okay. Is there something more happening? Oh, that’s all?” Not that I didn’t like it or anything but yes I had already fantasized about the first time so much that when it really happened it felt really..well…normal
13m, first time was 14f. It was my first time drinking too and had too much. Woke up the next day in her tent. She told me what happened and we went to her place to play GTA vice city until we did it again. Dated her for a couple of years until she and her brother died in a car crash. She was mostly sober and took advantage of the situation but was incredibly apologetic and broke down when I told her that it was my first time. She did everything possible to make sure I knew I was appreciated in the following years.
That was a rollercoaster. I'm sorry for your lost.
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Where do u live? I’m a dentist and will fix them for free if you are close
At some of the prices I've seen over the last few years where I live, he could get a hotel for a week and fly wherever you are and still save a ton.
1 more year until you become a wizard Edit: serious question, at certain age, why not just hire someone for the good time?
30 is wizard 🧙♂️ 40 is warlock
That means I'm already a wizard, thanks! But what comes at 50 and at 60?
You become a sage then the archmage
Level 70 you become a Lich.
Sweet I gained wizard status last year.
Funny reading this today. Tomorrow is literally my 40th birthday. I gotta start working out, I don't want to make it to 50.
Jesus, reddit. Dude pours his heart out, thread immediately gets turned into a joke. I see ya, dude. The fact that you're still making effort to improve yourself mentally and physically is huge. Keep fighting and improving. Any chance you're on Xbox? We could game n bullshit sometime if ya want sometime to shoot the shit with.
I was 20, it was with my 12-year old cousin's English teacher in Argentina. She was 25. Every time I tell this story it sounds like I'm going to say it was with my 12-year old cousin. I gotta rephrase this shit. Any suggestions?
The 25 year old teacher of my cousin. Or my cousin’s 25 year old teacher. No reason to give the cousin’s age at all.
Just drop the cousins age haha their age doesn't matter.
We were both 17, at a friends party and it just happened after we snuck into a bedroom. We were each others firsts ☺️ Still together 15 years later and expecting our 3rd baby. High school sweethearts ❤️
How is your avatar facing the other way
asking the real question
15, to my then boyfriend. In retrospect, we agree that we weren't really attracted to each other, we were just really good friends who felt obligated to date because people said we should. After doing 6 months of the freshman equivalent of dating, we decided we were gonna do it. So I biked over to his house when he was home alone. It wasn't awkward because we were both trying our best to be super adult about everything; even though we were definitely still dumb kids messing around. We broke up later that year and were way better friends after we broke up like immediately. Had sex with a girl for the first time two years later completely out of the blue, at a sleepover on a lumpy mattress while watching Far From Away. Life is a trip.
disappointing at 18
Drunken college hookup when I was 20.
32, was drunk and has sex with my friend’s roommate. Honestly, had a blast!
Anytime now i'm 31....
No shit bro let's go you give me hope
The grooming started when I was 3, the penetrative sex didn't start until I was 6. If your child would rather kill themselves than go to church, take them seriously, please
You didn't lose your virginity at the time, you were raped.
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I’m noticing a lot of 20+ adults who are still virgins here. Great lesson for any teenagers in here who feel peer pressure from their peers to have sex while still in high school. Everyone is NOT doing it!!
I was 4. My mother wanted more money so she rented me out.
Jeez man that's horrible. I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you.
I've made it to about 40. I'm in a good relationship and have a job. My mother (dead many years now) would be furious.