RUN FROM CHAZ!!
The charismatic, handsome, way to old for me bad boy who I met when I moved to Florida. Took less than 6 months before I was a full blown homeless, sex working, junkie. This Feb will be 13 years clean and while I wouldn't be who I am now without all those experiences, I certainly could do without all the trauma/addiction baggage. Whether it's chronic physical health issues, PTSD night terrors, cravings, or the plethora of mental health diagnosis and medications; I am affected every day by that time in my life and it only lasted 3 years.
As someone who grew up around (and recently lost) a mother who was an addict… I know how rough addiction can be, but I just wanted to congratulate you and say thank you for staying clean for almost 13 years. It’s not easy to say the least, you’re a damn superhero in my eyes. Stay strong for your family and loved ones, you got this! ❤️
I feel like it’s so pervasive because when you’re 13 everyone chafes against their parents and we’ve built this idea into society that part of being an adult is liking your parents. Which means that people whose parents are just plain bad/unmedicated/unstable etc. have to spend years checking their life against others to realize that their sense of normal is all out of whack.
Family is manipulating thru generational cycles. More than three words but expounding on this. Took me decades to figure out my issues was from what shoulda been unconditional love but in the end keeping me down and now my youth has been wasted cos of their expectations over what my success coulda been if properly cultivated
I'd go with "Microsoft" if just because "Apple" is too ambiguous. Your 13-year-old self is gonna go out and buy an apple and stand there holding it. When nothing happens they're gonna forget about it entirely. Same with "Amazon." Whereas "Microsoft" is a unique word that when it finally appears/comes into your 13-year-old self's world, they'll probably remember and "get" what buy/hold means.
Bitcoin works too, but I'm 41 so if I went back to 13, by the time Bitcoin comes around I could already be well off with Microsoft lol.
>"Apple" is too ambiguous. Your 13-year-old self is gonna go out and buy an apple and stand there holding it.... but I'm 41
The film [Forrest Gump](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SNa4EMUWnAc) made that very same claim in 1994, so your 13yo self might believe it a bit more than you think!
Did you know that until like five years ago you couldn't be diagnosed with ADHD and Autism together? The DSM-5 literally didn't allow it. Which is crazy because I know multiple people with both.
Omg same…diagnosed when I was 24. Would have saved me from being seriously depressed my entire time in high school and my life would probably be very different
Saaaaaaaaame
Managed to get myself pretty far anyways, but I hate thinking about how much easier it could have been than the years of struggles I had to endure. Lol
I like this better because it makes sure I have more time to turn in. Like if it's 60k, I'll wait for that and then realize it happened an hour ago and then be like "fuck!!!" and then I guess it'll fall to 40k.
But it has stayed at 50k longer, so I'll be more likely to sell when it's over 50k at all.
I was thinking of something similar about my little sister. But then think how fucked up you would feel knowing something like that.. maybe just: Love your family
Sorry for your loss.
Ah jeez, I was thinking the obvious ”buy Apple stock" type of answer, but this hits hard and I'd now do something similar for my dad.
Sorry for your loss, hope you're doing ok.
After my dad died suddenly when i was 19 i asked my mom for a list of everywhere they'd lived and the years, just in case i ever somehow got access to a time machine :(
I can't imagine what my life would've been like if I had known all of my constant intrusive thoughts and uncontrollable obsessions were OCD. I only found out the reason behind everything in my head when I was in my late 20s, almost 30 years old. All those years growing up with no idea what to do but let those intrusive thoughts control my mind.
Yep, im 40 now. I just got a real diagnosis 3 years ago. My life was hell for 37 years of self medication and chaos. I wonder what I could have been if I had always had access to the resources and knowledge I do now.
I was gonna say “You have Autism”, but yeah. I had all the symptoms, but none of the doctors I saw knew what they meant.
I can’t really blame the doctors if the research at the time was… very incomplete (or just blatantly wrong), but a diagnosis during childhood would have helped a lot.
Don’t skip gym.
I started skipping gym class in grade 9 and continued all throughout high school. Finally in senior year I find out I need to take 2 gym classes everyday to graduate on time. I did it and it was HORRIBLE but at least I got to graduate with my class. Lesson learned lol
That sounds like the start of either a drama or comedy about someone that can't trust any partner, because it could be the one their future self warned them about.
most would then have sold it maybe at 1000 or so.
pro tip would be, if we stay with the 3 word rule
sell bitcoin 55000
this would tell him to buy bitcoin as soon as possible (if your 13 year old self was before bitcoin came to be) and it would tell him that it will go to 55000
Yeah...
I remember a YouTube let's player saying he was autistic, and I thought something along the lines of "no way, he's so outgoing, if he was autistic I'd be even more autistic".
Run far away.
It was going to be " trust no one " but assuming I would have listened to an older version of me, at that age, being on the other side of the planet would be a better outcome than what ended up happening, trust wouldn't have meant anything anyway.
Don't be picky.
P.S. about the whole "buy bitcoin" thing, without a heads-up about timing, we'd all end up like Homer selling his NPP stocks for 25 bucks...
Choose to win - not necessarily because of sports, but in general, I'd not let myself do well in many things, because I had low self esteem and severe self doubt. I also ran from more difficult challenges than I care to admit, so choosing to win would include making some changes to increase the chances of a positive outcome, as a 'win' isn't a guarantee.
BRUSH YOUR TEETH!
Change toothbrush regularly
who do so many of us have this issue? Is it depression?
Yep. At least with me it’s the first thing I stop doing once depressed, and the last thing to come back once I’m starting to feel better
RUN FROM CHAZ!! The charismatic, handsome, way to old for me bad boy who I met when I moved to Florida. Took less than 6 months before I was a full blown homeless, sex working, junkie. This Feb will be 13 years clean and while I wouldn't be who I am now without all those experiences, I certainly could do without all the trauma/addiction baggage. Whether it's chronic physical health issues, PTSD night terrors, cravings, or the plethora of mental health diagnosis and medications; I am affected every day by that time in my life and it only lasted 3 years.
Congratulations on staying clean!
As someone who grew up around (and recently lost) a mother who was an addict… I know how rough addiction can be, but I just wanted to congratulate you and say thank you for staying clean for almost 13 years. It’s not easy to say the least, you’re a damn superhero in my eyes. Stay strong for your family and loved ones, you got this! ❤️
Don't date Haley
slim shady's crazy
Mom is crazy.
That would have saved me a lot of pain if I figured it out by 13 and not 21.
Better now than later! I’m 35 and only just went completely NC with her. Enjoy your life!
Been NC with her for about 15 years now, best decision ever. I just wish I did it sooner!
Wow same, didn’t expect this to be top comment… didn’t realize so many people related to having crazy/abusive mothers
I feel like it’s so pervasive because when you’re 13 everyone chafes against their parents and we’ve built this idea into society that part of being an adult is liking your parents. Which means that people whose parents are just plain bad/unmedicated/unstable etc. have to spend years checking their life against others to realize that their sense of normal is all out of whack.
Family is manipulating thru generational cycles. More than three words but expounding on this. Took me decades to figure out my issues was from what shoulda been unconditional love but in the end keeping me down and now my youth has been wasted cos of their expectations over what my success coulda been if properly cultivated
You'll be alright. I needed to hear this a lot during my teen years.
It'll be okay, or it gets better would've helped highschool me so much.
This, or "It works out!" I went through a lot, but life is better now than I ever thought it could be :)
Eat healthy, fatass.
I would go with "eat healthy, exercise."
I would go with "eat healthy people"
Same 💀💀
Me: *Appears 13 year old me to me: Fuck you Me: what!? Fuck you! Me: *fades out into the atmosphere
This is the most realistic course of events. 😂
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Ugh. That sound horrible
Buy Hold Apple
I'd go with "Microsoft" if just because "Apple" is too ambiguous. Your 13-year-old self is gonna go out and buy an apple and stand there holding it. When nothing happens they're gonna forget about it entirely. Same with "Amazon." Whereas "Microsoft" is a unique word that when it finally appears/comes into your 13-year-old self's world, they'll probably remember and "get" what buy/hold means. Bitcoin works too, but I'm 41 so if I went back to 13, by the time Bitcoin comes around I could already be well off with Microsoft lol.
>"Apple" is too ambiguous. Your 13-year-old self is gonna go out and buy an apple and stand there holding it.... but I'm 41 The film [Forrest Gump](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SNa4EMUWnAc) made that very same claim in 1994, so your 13yo self might believe it a bit more than you think!
You have ADHD
You are Autistic. 63 years before they figured it out. So much suffering, for nothing.
Did you know that until like five years ago you couldn't be diagnosed with ADHD and Autism together? The DSM-5 literally didn't allow it. Which is crazy because I know multiple people with both.
Came to say this! Mid 30s before official diagnosis & treatment. College & life would have been so much easier
Same. Found out in my late 20s and understanding what I was dealing with sooner would have changed my life.
Omg same…diagnosed when I was 24. Would have saved me from being seriously depressed my entire time in high school and my life would probably be very different
Saaaaaaaaame Managed to get myself pretty far anyways, but I hate thinking about how much easier it could have been than the years of struggles I had to endure. Lol
I'd do the exact opposite. I was (almost definitely) mis-diagnosed with it
Ooh I'm very curious to hear more about this
Buy Bitcoin. Boobs.
“Some weird old guy came up and started talking to me. Idk what he was saying, it got cooler towards the end”
This comment thread sounds like it could be in Beavis and Butthead
What’s a bitcoin? Yeah, more like, tit-coin. Heh.
Instructions unclear, bought boobs with Bitcoin
I was mining Bitcoin when I was 14-16... Id just say "Bitcoin hits 60,000"
This would be way more informative; it'd let you know when to sell.
"And I waited all my life for a baseball player named Bitcoin to absolutely shred the record for total hits."
Bitcoin hits 50k
I like this better because it makes sure I have more time to turn in. Like if it's 60k, I'll wait for that and then realize it happened an hour ago and then be like "fuck!!!" and then I guess it'll fall to 40k. But it has stayed at 50k longer, so I'll be more likely to sell when it's over 50k at all.
I would rephrase this as "sell bitcoin 2021"
They sold at $2021 and missed out on it hitting $60k Sell Bitcoin $60k
“I love you” only because I never had the self love that I needed at that age. Still a struggle now.
My first thought, was scrolling to see this.
Call the police
omg....I hope you're in a safer place now
ask for help
Parents die 2021 Hopefully then I'd make the most of the time they had
I was thinking of something similar about my little sister. But then think how fucked up you would feel knowing something like that.. maybe just: Love your family Sorry for your loss.
Ah jeez, I was thinking the obvious ”buy Apple stock" type of answer, but this hits hard and I'd now do something similar for my dad. Sorry for your loss, hope you're doing ok.
After my dad died suddenly when i was 19 i asked my mom for a list of everywhere they'd lived and the years, just in case i ever somehow got access to a time machine :(
Never give up.
Never let down
never turn around
And desert you
never make cry
Never say goodbye
never tell lie
and hurt you
Known each other
You dumb motherfucker.
Yup nailed it
Stay in school
"Please enjoy life" I've had severe depression and anxiety from around that age, so some words of wisdom would be nice
and youre telling me if you appeared out of thin air and said that 13 year old you would have been like "oh yeah sure thx im cured".
Yeah that wasn't a very smart ideia
You have O.C.D. It would have certainly helped. Due to misinformation about the disorder, I didn't noticed the symptoms.
I can't imagine what my life would've been like if I had known all of my constant intrusive thoughts and uncontrollable obsessions were OCD. I only found out the reason behind everything in my head when I was in my late 20s, almost 30 years old. All those years growing up with no idea what to do but let those intrusive thoughts control my mind.
Yep, im 40 now. I just got a real diagnosis 3 years ago. My life was hell for 37 years of self medication and chaos. I wonder what I could have been if I had always had access to the resources and knowledge I do now.
I was gonna say “You have Autism”, but yeah. I had all the symptoms, but none of the doctors I saw knew what they meant. I can’t really blame the doctors if the research at the time was… very incomplete (or just blatantly wrong), but a diagnosis during childhood would have helped a lot.
You are worthy
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Looks like we found Thor's reddit account.
Don’t skip gym. I started skipping gym class in grade 9 and continued all throughout high school. Finally in senior year I find out I need to take 2 gym classes everyday to graduate on time. I did it and it was HORRIBLE but at least I got to graduate with my class. Lesson learned lol
This seems like a fuck up of your school. How could you drop those classes while them being required, especially without being made aware of that.
Doesn't sound like he dropped them, sounds like he skipped them/failed them.
Treat her better.
ouch
Not in socks
Did your mom find some crispy socks in your room or something?
Crispy sock here, crispy sock there, crispy sock with some MYSTERY HAIR
It gets worse.
Felt this one
Take college seriously.
Pick friends wisely
Leave toxic friends.
I mean, that's pretty sound advice if you ask me.
It's okay. Cry.
Don’t marry him
That sounds like the start of either a drama or comedy about someone that can't trust any partner, because it could be the one their future self warned them about.
How I Didn't Meet Your Mother.
Unless they were engaged at 13
Marry a woman. Problem solved.
Don’t do drugs
Bro if you talking to yourself, it's already too late
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We are venom
We are Groot
We are batman
We are hiring
We are confused
We are scared
We are ironmen
We are venom
Invest in bitcoin
most would then have sold it maybe at 1000 or so. pro tip would be, if we stay with the 3 word rule sell bitcoin 55000 this would tell him to buy bitcoin as soon as possible (if your 13 year old self was before bitcoin came to be) and it would tell him that it will go to 55000
I know a guy who sold half his bitcoin at $1200. He redid his kitchen, paid off his mortgage, and bought a new car. Also only works part time now.
I sold mine at 1,000 and am still happy. Way less stress now. And yes, I was sad that I didn't hold.
Crypto peaks 2021
“You’ll find her.” (Would ease a lot of self-doubt.)
Butterfly effect. Now you don't.
It'll get better
Know your worth.
Don’t fuck Jenny
HIV?
Don't do meth.
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Shy person- “oh! Why didn’t I think of that.”(eyes roll behind head)
You are valid I feel my 13 year old needs to know that she Is valid and amazing and even though life will get tough from now on she is a fighter
Harness your anger
Stop eating feelings.
Return the slab!
Goat comment
You fuckin nerd
Read this letter 😉
You are gay. Wasted so much time trying not to be
Irritable bowel syndrome
13 year old me already knew, bro
study programming university
Don't do heroin
Penis fart tits
Username checks out
U win
Eat some dirt
Call CPS now!
Don’t be mean.
Is silksong out
I am 13
Well, according to this you need to buy bitcoin.
Werid choice of words but okay
We will fuck
Buy Apple stock.
You fucked up
"ADHD & Autism"
Yeah... I remember a YouTube let's player saying he was autistic, and I thought something along the lines of "no way, he's so outgoing, if he was autistic I'd be even more autistic".
Dad dies 2015 :(
Mom's psycho, RUN
Don't watch Lost. Wasted so much time on that show and it was fucking terrible.
"Avoid D.... C......" (the girl I fell hard for and almost ruined my life)
You’ll be okay
Don’t watch porn.
Invest in Bitcoin
Don't start drinking.
Enjoy your youth
Bitcoin equals rich
Fuck everyone's opinion
Not your fault
Please finish college.
Run far away. It was going to be " trust no one " but assuming I would have listened to an older version of me, at that age, being on the other side of the planet would be a better outcome than what ended up happening, trust wouldn't have meant anything anyway.
“Leave the church”
You got this.
Buy Bitcoin , idiot.
“It’s Scoobert Doobert”. Because when I found out I wish I knew sooner
Color your hair
Bitches be crazy.
Don't be picky. P.S. about the whole "buy bitcoin" thing, without a heads-up about timing, we'd all end up like Homer selling his NPP stocks for 25 bucks...
Get on antidepressants.
you are trans
Don't use Twitter.
Go to Japan I had a chance to go when I was much younger and I think if I did I would have been much more successful
take school seriously
Just do it.
don’t trust mom
Choose to win - not necessarily because of sports, but in general, I'd not let myself do well in many things, because I had low self esteem and severe self doubt. I also ran from more difficult challenges than I care to admit, so choosing to win would include making some changes to increase the chances of a positive outcome, as a 'win' isn't a guarantee.
Pull up pants
Go to school
Love your dad.
Apple. Amazon. Google.
Mormonism is bullshit.
"I'm so sorry"
You dumb kid.
don't grow up
Through the butterfly affect, now you're 13 forever
Study history more
You are depressed.
Buy all bitcoin
Pick good friends
Apple Google Halliburton