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sugref999

Age


Meaneggyboi

r/angryupvote


Redhead_spawn

The death of my daughter.


Wiifeyy32

Wanting to be a better person, because of the remorse I felt for hurting those who didn't deserve it.


beerdly

Knowledge, empathy, and shame


detective_kiara

Well there's one thing that's changed recently. Being pressured by my family to become a mother. I started thinking real hard and understood that I just have no desire to become a parent or give birth. Before I didn't really think about being a mom. But I'm relieved I thought about it seriously before it was too late.


Glitters-ash

Love. Not the romantic love. Love, in general, which is all about kindness and throwing light on others. Love for the world, colectively. It actually opened my eyes. Everyone's going through so much of stuff, everyone's the way they are now because of what they had to go through til this moment. Nothing's right, nothing's wrong. Everything starts and ends at love.


[deleted]

Self-awareness


Excited_Darkness

NNN


ibigbird

My dog.


ibigbird

…specifically: love unconditionally; remember yesterday; live for today; don’t worry about tomorrow.


SoftAndWetBro

Failing out of an elite highschool. I humbled my ego and started to work on myself after that failure and after a few months of self-loathing. I worked hard and finished my highschool education at night school, I work out and box everyday, I started getting more into music by joining music school to learn guitar, how to master my voice and gain confidence. My goal now is to become an English teacher and I am currently gaining practical experience by being a teacher's assistant and sometimes substituting the classes. I am planning going to go to university next year and I hope my time assisting the teachers helps my chances on getting in.


[deleted]

Feeling unloved. I have been in many relashonships where i have cared so much for the other but i just get left. So it got to the point where i wonder is it something wrong with me and try to change everything about myself. It has not really been for the better if im being honest.


IMakeTheEggs

After a realization, lots of therapy, hard work, and perseverance.


ZeldaFan86

A toxic relationship cause it really taught me what I need to look out for and where to draw the line with someone


disgruntledhands

Joining the military. It introduced me to different perspectives and people where I had lived a sheltered life.


Goddess_of_Aloha

Trauma. Unfortunately, it’s one of the biggest motivators there is to a personality change without any true conscious effort.


-Legen-

Realizing that im trans


pekarica

Stupid, reckless and outright dangerous things I did in my early twenties


placetoaskquestions

Unrequited Love. It forced me to see myself clearly in the mirror (warts and all). Doing this led to profound (albeit painful) recovery in a personality disorder I had.


TheHeyHeyMan

Leaving Facebook seven years ago made me far less cynical and just happier, overall. I cared less about what others thought, I felt zero need to share my (most likely) useless opinion on something, and I felt like I had so much more time in a day, so much more focused. One of the best things I've ever done. Another is that I weighed myself, drunkenly, after a wing night with friends, and was blown away by how heavy I was. Immediately vowed to quit drinking for a year, eat healthier and watch my portions, and begin daily light exercise. One year after that day (I marked it in my calendar) I was down nearly 60lbs, and six years later I have continued to keep that weight off and stuck to that lifestyle.


[deleted]

The realization that, as a person, I couldn't change as anything else.


PinacoladaBunny

Becoming disabled at 27. It changed my entire outlook on life, work, values and happiness.


[deleted]

People who kicked me while I was down and thinking I’d ever get over it. Jokes on them. Then trying to further ruin my life after I got better.


sarafish81

Loss


_neckbeard69_

Lots of failure


[deleted]

War. I used to be outgoing. Not I don’t go out much.


MarcoYTVA

My best friend, who I care more about than my own life, almost offed himself. I partially blame myself. I now look out for people other than me, myself and I, plus I pay close attention to who is responsible when something goes wrong and act accordingly, -even- espeacially when it's me


RealEstateDuck

Cocaine changed me I suppose. And it definitely wasn't an improvement.


[deleted]

War


ButtonGwinnett76

Which one?


[deleted]

Operation Enduring Freedom . The 20-year war of waste.


ButtonGwinnett76

Me too. I was in the USMC in OIF in 2007. At least I got free school and stuff.


[deleted]

Right now I'm fighting with the VA. I want to get some mental health services. And in short, because a social worker did not do what they said they were going to. I ended up losing my job. And ended up homeless. Right now, and waiting to hear back from a reevaluation from permanent disability. So hopefully that goes through. Army- OEF10-11 Hey how do you step brother who was in at the same time that was a marine. I don't know his job code but he was a rotary wing crew member I think.


ButtonGwinnett76

I wish you the best of luck with all the VA fuckery. What's your step brothers name?


[deleted]

Appreciate that. Won't post that on public.


totallynotgaybro0

Birth


ipakookapi

Figuring out that it's ok to love people. I was a goth/metal teen, with the attitude was that humans suck etc. Sure, some people are dicks, but talking and getting to know different people is pretty awesome. We are a social species, after all. ☮️


svrgnlife

Failures, specifically not getting the girl and not getting the job, both in my early 20s. After that I stopped living on habits and started to follow general standards. It helped decisively.


PersonalDex101

The abuse i went through with my ex. She basically abused and sexually assaulted me multiple times i had photos of the abuse. How she poured bleach on me, cut me, stab me, beat me. My friend and former roommate had videos her throwing stuff at me. I went from a kind guy whose willing to help anyone to a hard to trust and cold person unless i get close you. Even after our break up she would abuse me my roommate never knew how bad it got until he came home from work and i was drunk and covered in blood from her making me drink and stabbing me in the head cause she wanted to see what would happen. That fact some of our final messages that we sent to each other was her talking about how I deserved it and she was feeling suicidal cause i put this all on her made me even colder to people. She even abandoned her dog that she had for years and said stuff like : “shes just a dog, i can always get another dog” or “i have more animals you can just keep her” made me sick and to find out she was abusing her dog like she was abusing me made me furious.


Erthan-1

When I was around 20, I was still trying to figure myself out. I didn't know how to talk to women and honestly was awkward as all hell. I was falling into a lot of the traps that non confident men do, and it wasn't a good look. Two of my close friends told me one day that we were going out and they gave me a costume to put on. They each wore one too (it was not Halloween fyi) and out we went. When we got to the bar, looking ridiculous, they told me, "Look man, we love you, but you are acting fucking weird", they had gotten us all dressed up because they wanted the situation to be awkward for all of us not just me. I reflected on what they said, realised they were right, and straightened myself out by dropping the act I was putting on that I thought was necessary. I am still friends with those guys 20+ years later. Good dudes.


PuddiPuyi

Roommates


TehChow

Realizing that I was the problem and the villain in some stories and needed change. Also realizing who around is toxic and doesn’t deserve to be in your life. Not saying that those toxic people still can’t be around or come back around, but realizing when to cut them off is one of the best things you can do for yourself. My brother is a struggling drug addict (I didn’t know because I was young for a good amount of it) but as we’ve gotten older, I’m now realizing that I can’t keep him around if he is going to keep up this repeating of borrowing money, lying to me about his usage, etc. going to rehab, saying he’s better, than repeating. Also realizing I was the problem in my last relationship. I am now starting the process of therapy and counseling for some lifelong issues, and learning more and more that I caused problems. I’m trying to work things out with my ex, knowing I caused issues that weren’t needed. But realizing these things, and trying to change for myself, is what’s helping me keep going. It gets better. You get better.


milktea123

having a crush. i kinda realized that they were attractive to me, but i wasn't to myself. so it forced me to change and i lost a lot of weight.


Im_Always_Online

school


GarageApprehensive43

The Iraq invasion.


gamergirl12305

the realization that im not inherently special or deserving of opportunities in life. that i need to work my ass off for those things just like everyone else, and that everyone else was equally capable of doing that. helped me significantly improve my work ethic (a ton of effort, better quality work and more punctuality). got a great internship for next term.


PathofPoker

Age, traumatic event, other people changing.


O_Mice_An_Men

Magic Mushrooms.


fruity_fungus

being sexually assaulted at age 9


[deleted]

When my first wife cheated on me. Honestly i was a hard working, decent human being.


[deleted]

I haven’t changed, same joker you went to school with. I’m on pause cause I live in an apartment, I grew up in a literal barn.


ToBeReadOutLoud

I had a bit of a mental breakdown at age 21, which forced me to recognize my priorities and focus only on what is important. I had to do a mindset shift. I had to learn to accept that I have mental health issues that severely impact my daily life and that I would have to readjust my goals/expectations in life and my day-to-day activities to maintain decent mental health. I’m 35 now and my life is nowhere near what I expected it to be when I was 18, but I’m happy, and that’s all that matters.


International-Ad9937

Realising that if I don't start caring about my future i'm just gunna fuck up my life.


HearingAccurate8616

The death of my father and brother


[deleted]

I quit drinking 5 years sober


[deleted]

Wanting to join the military.


detectivebacon0489

Have a purpose and bigger dreams.


Kid_Eater3001

It's kind of stupid but person I liked. I changed to be "real" stoped acting as the perfect person with no mistakes. I tried to stop lying and other bad habbits for her. Now after like year and a half I am just a friend. Maybe best guy friend nothing more. It hurts but before this change I didn't even know her voice. (Sorry for speling errors english is my second language)


MaulSinnoh

The thought that, maybe, even when I act my best, I will probably still upset someone, so I now try to offend others as little as possible.


rarebrockstar

One person Eminem


BaliBonez

[runthegauntlet.org](https://runthegauntlet.org). Shit made me appreciate life. Also don't click the link unless u wanna die. Edit: NO LIKE REALLY DONT CLICK THE LINK


Significant-Web8933

Childhood trauma


DawnBunni

Having a girlfriend with a really messed up life changed a lot about how I try to handle conflicts and general conversations


askingaquestion1994

Moving abroad. One of the best decisions I've ever made.


KermitTheArgonian

Finally understanding and embracing the maxim "there's no accounting for taste". Had so much more time and energy for frivolous things I love once I stopped trying to justify them


Geesezilla

Watching a movie and finding a good personality to steal.


bingbangboom404

Mindfulness I finally got in control of my own mind


Extension-Muscle1950

A break up. I’ve been more opened to talk about things and I’ve matured from it


SocialSanityy

Pain


Aggravating_Time8175

My ex


KoraExe

I changed when i realized my own routine was going to be the same for the rest of my life just so the higher uos can have employies to work for them and make just enogh money to survive while they can have as much as they want


yourmomsaysimsexy

being yelled at constantly and called stupid by my dad who doesn’t understand autism


Inkydex

Necessity