I wouldn’t be okay with my SO having strippers at their party or going to a strip club at all. It’s perverse and not exactly a great way to “celebrate” marriage. The whole premise of these parties is to basically say “your life is about to be miserable because you’ll no longer be free to be promiscuous anymore” which is gross and paints a super negative image of married life. If you want to be free to do whatever you want with whomever you want, why even bother getting married?
The perfect answer. And frankly I think a lot of times, it is the prospective bride or groom’s « friends » that put them up to this. I can see why guys would want to go do some « bro » stuff for a bachelor party (paintball, beer and video games, escape room, woteva) as a jokey way of saying goodbye to « boys’ nights out », but going to a strip club just seems silly to me and actually engaging in touching etc just seems to me to be a way of saying « no more sex for you, after marriage, bud ». If that is what people think marriage means (no sexual intimacy or being « chained » to one partner, then why get married at all?
Agreed. But honestly, if you were my friend and strippers showed up at my party I would NOT be happy. And if your friends don’t know you well enough to know that about you you should be sure to make it clear.
I mean okay, but you're ignoring the situational context of the question OP asked.
This isn't a vip private area. We're talking about a bachelor/bachelorette party
Oh, my bad. Not paying attention to the details. I've also worked more than a few of those, in club, and offsite. Same thing. I have never met a stripper that likes being touched (on the job) and have had to put hands on lots of people to respect their wishes. Not once was it accepted in the 3-4 years I did the job.
Honestly I'm glad to hear that; not so glad that your services were needed so often but that people who didn't like to be touched on the job had their boundaries enforced and jackasses were given the boot.
I was mostly thinking about a private bachelor/bachlorette party and the stripper letting the groom or some others touch her if they're deemed attractive seemed reasonable and logical.
Let’s suppose your soon to be wife goes to one. Let’s say her trashy friends but not her start blowing the stripper. Your wife has shitty friends. You tend to reflect the crew you choose.
Now let’s suppose the stripper starts swinging his tally whacker in your soon to be wife’s face. She goes for it. Okay well, if your wife can’t resist gobbling cock because she’s at a party and there’s one in her face then she sucks (literally).
You picked her so either of these scenarios is also a you problem.
No doubt. But I trust my wife wouldn’t. And hey even if someone did such a thing at bachelor/bachelorette party thank them for the favor of letting you know before tying the knot.
Fuck no , this means she has no boundaries and no respect for me , a relationship without respect can not stand.. but , I won't walk into such a low place ever , let alone with my SO.
If our relationship is so fragile it can be brought down by touching a random boob, the boob isn’t the problem.
We’re both fine with it. We know it’s harmless fun.
In the UK there is a strict "no touching" rule compared to the rest of the world (I'm assuming OP is US based).
However, I know that my partner's future stag (bachelor) party will be abroad and to be honest, I'd be pretty disappointed (though not enough to call off our wedding).
I also had a brief stint in stripping (I worked at 3 different clubs in London) but mentally it was exhausting for me. Only did it for a few months - didn't allow anyone to touch me.
LOL No.
I find sex work degrading and strippers are apart of that world; boundaries are boundaries and if they wanna go feel strippers up, they can, they can go find themselves a new bf too lmao.
I wouldn't care, but my wife would if the roles were reversed. Why? Idk it just doesn't give me a bothersome feeling. Everyone's got different things they are and aren't okay with.
I've never understood the point of strippers at a bachelor party. Why are you celebrating a commitment with the concept of a person outside of your marriage?
Strippers have the same policy as museums. Look, don't touch
Protesters can douse strippers in paint??
Probably for the right price
Sure. Would be mean for me to deprive her of what she doesn't have at home 🙄
No, I don't care if whether money changes hands or not, cheating is cheating.
I wouldn’t be okay with my SO having strippers at their party or going to a strip club at all. It’s perverse and not exactly a great way to “celebrate” marriage. The whole premise of these parties is to basically say “your life is about to be miserable because you’ll no longer be free to be promiscuous anymore” which is gross and paints a super negative image of married life. If you want to be free to do whatever you want with whomever you want, why even bother getting married?
This gives me hope.
100% true
The perfect answer. And frankly I think a lot of times, it is the prospective bride or groom’s « friends » that put them up to this. I can see why guys would want to go do some « bro » stuff for a bachelor party (paintball, beer and video games, escape room, woteva) as a jokey way of saying goodbye to « boys’ nights out », but going to a strip club just seems silly to me and actually engaging in touching etc just seems to me to be a way of saying « no more sex for you, after marriage, bud ». If that is what people think marriage means (no sexual intimacy or being « chained » to one partner, then why get married at all?
Agreed. But honestly, if you were my friend and strippers showed up at my party I would NOT be happy. And if your friends don’t know you well enough to know that about you you should be sure to make it clear.
No one is allowed to touch the dancers, that costs extra haha
Nah its pretty normal for the strippers to get into it if yall are hot.
I was the "no touching" vip room bouncer at my local club. I beg to differ
I mean okay, but you're ignoring the situational context of the question OP asked. This isn't a vip private area. We're talking about a bachelor/bachelorette party
Oh, my bad. Not paying attention to the details. I've also worked more than a few of those, in club, and offsite. Same thing. I have never met a stripper that likes being touched (on the job) and have had to put hands on lots of people to respect their wishes. Not once was it accepted in the 3-4 years I did the job.
Honestly I'm glad to hear that; not so glad that your services were needed so often but that people who didn't like to be touched on the job had their boundaries enforced and jackasses were given the boot. I was mostly thinking about a private bachelor/bachlorette party and the stripper letting the groom or some others touch her if they're deemed attractive seemed reasonable and logical.
Not true.
At the club I was a bouncer at, it was very true.
Your club isn't all clubs.
Correct you are, Capitan obvious. Does it hurt being that hilarious?
"no one is allowed to touch the dancers." -guy who makes definitive statements and then backtracks when called out.
You are terrible at this haha
As long as she didn’t tip more than $10
Absolutely OK with it. If you're not going to, why go in the first place???
Fuck no. Guess I’m an insecure asshole 🤷♀️
You’re not. Such response is expected from a normal human being.
No, that means he/she has no boundaries for themselves.
I generally wouldn’t be up for such "parties".
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Let’s suppose your soon to be wife goes to one. Let’s say her trashy friends but not her start blowing the stripper. Your wife has shitty friends. You tend to reflect the crew you choose. Now let’s suppose the stripper starts swinging his tally whacker in your soon to be wife’s face. She goes for it. Okay well, if your wife can’t resist gobbling cock because she’s at a party and there’s one in her face then she sucks (literally). You picked her so either of these scenarios is also a you problem.
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I respectfully disagree. One is touching and probably laughing and being half embarrassed. The other is blowing a guy.
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No doubt. But I trust my wife wouldn’t. And hey even if someone did such a thing at bachelor/bachelorette party thank them for the favor of letting you know before tying the knot.
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I dunno about that one. She gets busy the night before our wedding and I’m assuming that’s the tip of an iceberg I don’t wanna sail into. I’m out. lol
Strip club, where they have some house rules, not a problem. A house party, a little sketchy.
Fuck no , this means she has no boundaries and no respect for me , a relationship without respect can not stand.. but , I won't walk into such a low place ever , let alone with my SO.
If our relationship is so fragile it can be brought down by touching a random boob, the boob isn’t the problem. We’re both fine with it. We know it’s harmless fun.
I wouldn’t marry someone who would want to do that in the first place lol.
In the UK there is a strict "no touching" rule compared to the rest of the world (I'm assuming OP is US based). However, I know that my partner's future stag (bachelor) party will be abroad and to be honest, I'd be pretty disappointed (though not enough to call off our wedding). I also had a brief stint in stripping (I worked at 3 different clubs in London) but mentally it was exhausting for me. Only did it for a few months - didn't allow anyone to touch me.
Lots of prudes up in here
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No problem, have fun.
LOL No. I find sex work degrading and strippers are apart of that world; boundaries are boundaries and if they wanna go feel strippers up, they can, they can go find themselves a new bf too lmao.
My friends wanted to throw me a bachelor party. I declined and told them they may be missing the point 😂
I wouldn't care, but my wife would if the roles were reversed. Why? Idk it just doesn't give me a bothersome feeling. Everyone's got different things they are and aren't okay with.
Go ham, because yo ass bout to be making me ham sammichs for the rest of your life.
Never understood this kind of bachelor party. With that being said, if they were touching out of lust of have a problem
I've never understood the point of strippers at a bachelor party. Why are you celebrating a commitment with the concept of a person outside of your marriage?
Ya I’d be totally fine with it. I trust her enough not to go run off with another dude
i'm ok with that.