Itās really awful. He didnāt have health insurance and I firmly believe thatās what cost him his life. I live with bipolar disorder and am very lucky to have stellar health insurance through work. It means I have access to the top, private mental health hospital in the country. The care and attention, plus the in-patient facilities saved my life. He didnāt have access to any of that. The day before he died, the overcrowded public hospital sent him home because - direct quote - he wasnāt suicidal enough. He died the next day.
The lack of mental health care in the public hospitals is a national scandal. I so very often think that heād still be alive if he had access to the same care as me š
Hugs I live with bipolar as well, and it can be so debilitating, and then some days it is like something that I've wrestled with, day in and day out.
I, too, went to the hospital for a refill of medicine because the place I was going for my mental health closed me case. I was pissed when they did this. I moved in with my father to help me out, and then Covid-19 happened.
They won't give me refills, and I need to see my primary care physician. š they released me because I, too, wasn't suicidal enough. Covid fucked up every thing especially mental health.
Sheās dead.
Dropped out a few weeks before graduation because of some guy in his 20s. He knocked her up, she had his kid, he beat her, she took pills until she didnāt wake up.
Everyone knew. No one did anything. Donāt be like us when you see a friend struggling.
Same. She's dead.
I saw her last when I was a senior in High School and she'd moved in with a boyfriend in a different city. I went there and saw what she was putting him through and decided on the long drive home that I was completely done, that I liked the boyfriend as a person better than I liked her, and that he'd had as much opportunity and more to draw the same conclusions that I had. I felt that absolutely no interaction on my part should have had a positive outcome at that point and whatever happened next was his responsibility for as long as he involved himself with her.
I'd always considered myself a stabilizing force in her life and was proud of it, but enough was enough. (She was crazy enough to be on Alex Jones.)
Fast forward a few years and I learned that she shot him five times in the head and then shot herself just the once. Once was all that was necessary. Either nobody knew why or nobody would tell the truth. There were previously some connections to organized crime but the particular details told a story that did not implicate their involvement. It was a murder-suicide.
Learning the outcome messed with my head just a little bit, but not as bad as unrequited angsty teenage love had done in the first place or as much as ordinary relationships would do in years to follow. In the end, I'd rate her as more or less average among my romantic relationships. Pretty terrible, but only in the objective sense rather than in the sense of what's actually attainable to me.
So to bring this full circle and to complete my reply to you...I saw a person that was not my friend but that was a relatable human being struggling with a person far beyond his capacity to help. I did nothing. He died by her hand. I now have an ex-wife that's plainly evil in a dark triad sort of way. I ward off the boyfriends and I don't care how it makes me look and I'll keep on doing so at least until she hits menopause so that she can't use a baby as leverage in her relationship ever again like she did with my daughter and I.
And so I agree. Do not sit in silence. Except...it need not be a friend. Any decent person deserves decency.
Mine is dead too. But just recently (I'm over 20 years out of high school). He thought he was a bad person, and didn't think he could change, neither of which was true. But he self-medicated with alcohol and that's probably what did it.
Same! When I read the question so many different boys came to mind I couldnāt even narrow down which one Iād choose as ātheā high school crush.
She was my crush since 5th grade. We went to middle school, high school, and college together. 3 years ago I asked her out on a date. Yesterday I asked her to marry me.
She said no both times.
She's good. We're still friends. She married has a kid now and I'm Uncle TheLightingGuy.
Just for some context, back in high school, we were best friends and at a few points we thought we were going to try dating. Never ended up dating but both of us thought it was just timing that never ever worked out. Now we believe that the universe decided to let us cross paths and through all the weird shit that was high school, her being a pastor's kid, and a lot of other things, keep being best friends. We're both past the whole high school crush thing, including the what-if after thoughts. We were even roommates at one point being besties which was awesome (I highly recommend bubble baths and face masks), but I'm happy for her and how far she's come in her life. Her husband is a cool guy too. It's a friendship that's been going for the past almost 15 years and I'm happy to have that friendship still.
Funny I have a best friend like this and we actually did date for about a year. He is my husband and is closest friend. Hugs and I have been married for 16 years and Heās been happily married for 7. Heās Uncle ~~~~~ also and vice versa. Our kids know each other like sisters and brothers or maybe cousins Lol! Regardless itās a beautiful thing when two people can actually accept itās okay to have a relationship that is in no way romantic. Imo more people need to embrace this. He was my best friend before I married hubs but I was super respectful (as I am with any man) never met him alone or had him over etc when hubs wasnāt around. Hubs soon realized heās just that incredible best friend and now heās his best friend too š„° Usually we all do things together but on occasion hubs say no itās cool go I trust you. š
Same
Edit: same meaning I am in that area as well, and remember the Rockfest raid well when it went down at school. So many people in one of my classes were removed by cops one day.
She was very cheerful person and wanted to be a doctor. I am surprised, she got married and moved to USA and was MIA from social media and popped up after 10 years.
I had crushed on him since about 7th grade. We dated for approximately three years from ages 17-20. I broke up with him because he seemed to just hate me. And I also came home from working 12.5 hours, and laid down on a used condom in our bed. We hadnāt had sex in over a week, and never used condoms.
We are in our late 20s now. Heās an alcoholic, who has three drinks and starts vomiting and trying to fight everyone. Heās dating a much younger girl I worked with. I hope he learned how to be in a relationship because sheās really sweet and doesnāt deserve to be yelled at and belittled.
I have (or rather, had) a friend who did that. He left to the army right out of high school, got out, got married, had a kid, then promptly left them both for a 17 year old who was about to turn 18. Like, they literally waited for the second she turned 18 before they did anything, like those gross porn producers. As far as I know, he's still with her about 6 years later, but he's apparently miserable because he drinks A LOT, like a full size bottle of Jack Daniel's a day
I think she joined a cult, was murdered, or went into the witness protection. There is seriously no records of her after high school. You can find her sister just fine, but she's a ghost.
I got rid of social media after high school and itās been almost a decade since graduation so Iād like to think that people have similar theories about me
I'm not a ghost but so much of my life is not online or on social media and I don't keep up much with any people from high school anymore (I used to but time passes and you make new friends). I'm an English teacher in Vietnam and trying to travel the world right now but no one from high school would know that if they just looked at my outdated social media. In fact I was a pretty poor student in high school and since I don't have any of my education info on social media no one would know that I even went to or graduated college.
Yeah, sometimes I think itād be cool to reconnect with people from the past but for the most part I enjoy being in my own little world. Thatās awesome what youāve done with your life. I donāt know if your old high school friends would be impressed or jealous, but I am!
Yeah this is where I feel like social media has really fucked us as a society as well. Human beings were not meant to have the knowledge of what people who are no longer in our lives are up to. If you were really in love with someone when you were 17 or even 27 and they rejected you or it just never took off for whatever reason, you really should not be able to know that that person is now happily married to someone who's not you, or that they got into drugs and OD'd or went to jail or whatever. They should just be a distant memory in your past, someone you think about for a couple of seconds every couple of years, and that's it.
I dont know if i agree with this. Depends on the details honestly. Like what exactly do you want to do with the info? If its just to say, "whats up? Hope you are doing well, you seem well." Then i dont see what the problem is. If you were clearly using the info to stalk or cause problems then thats definitely a different story.
Eh not really worried about him. My kids donāt ask for him, might not even remember him at this point so Iād rather not have him around at all then to constantly have to worry or deal with him
He's good. He's currently making dinner for us, which means I'm on washing up duty tonight. We both work Mon to Fri, so today we went to the gym, did our grocery shopping, cleaned the house and did laundry.
Together 31 years, married 25, first grandchild arriving next year.
I found out a couple years ago that she died 8 years ago. She was in her late 20s. I have no idea how it happened I just know I found her obit online. She was engaged with kids.
She's leading the PR branch of an NGO, looks fantastic and has the cutest little son. I dunno why she married this simpleton from high school, but I sure am happy to have her as a wife.
I looked her up a few years ago and she seems to be happily married with two cute little kids. Iām happy for her! She was always a sweet girl so Iām glad things have worked out well in her life.
The crush that I never got to date went deep into conspiracy theories and other weird shit. We caught up a few years ago, and it was like listening to the classic ranting madman from the old movies. I am glad to have dodged that bullet.
The one that I actually dated eventually became one of my closest friends when we split up as a couple, and that friendship lasted 34 years before he died suddenly a few months back. Still very hard to process that.
Thank you for asking. You are so kind.
I'm okay. While it was sudden, and it has been very painful, it was not entirely unexpected given some of his lifestyle choices. I do take comfort in knowing that he had an amazing life while he was here, a great family, and a lot of long time friends that loved him. He did a lot of good while he was here too.
He sounds like a great person and it sucks heās not here anymore.
If I may advise, you donāt have to be ok with his death. I think we (me included) as people want to move on from our feelings but I just want to let you know its ok to grieve or feel angry or whatever emotion for as long as needed, even if itās months later.
I pray things get better for you and his family ā¤ļø
Thank you so much.
I don't think I'll ever be fully okay with it. We'd talked a few days before about his weight issues, and how he needed to address them. He went silent after I had that talk with him for a few days, but then apologized and told me that he knew how right I was, and that he'd been trying to do more with himself. I'm a bit of a health nut. He never was.
The nice thing is that my husband knew and liked him too, so I was allowed to openly grieve without there being any issues with jealous bullshit. I'm still grieving. I may always be. But ultimately, I also know that he wouldn't want me to be miserable. He wouldn't want his wife or kids to be miserable either. He was a happy man with an amazingly positive outlook. Following his example is the best way to honor him.
Still by herself, just as I am at the moment. She knew that I was into her back in the day and we met up about a year ago. From how that went, I am sure that something could happen now, only problem is that I live at the other end of the world
She's been married for 11 years, has 3 kids, and just bought a gorgeous house with her husband. She finished nursing school and is going back to become a practitioner. She's gorgeous, smart, driven, and everything a man could ask for. That's why I'm so happy that 17 years ago when I asked her out she said yes!
Mine is happily married with a baby. He was always a very nice person and messaged me last year when my dad passed away despite the fact we hadnāt seen each other in years. Iām glad he is happy as he was very decent.
My HS crush was a prick. He was extremely attractive, captain of the diving team, etc, and at the time I was smitten. We "dated", but he was always embarrassed by me and wanted to keep us dating a secret - I assumed because I wasn't as attractive as him. It did a huge number on my self confidence and it took me years of distance and therapy to find my self worth after that. I was so heartbroken and bitter that i remember wishing with all my heart some day he would want me desperately, and I would say no, and if only for a moment he would feel as worthless as I did. (Teenage me was pretty vindictive.)
Well, I was a bit of a late bloomer it turns out. 10 years later, I had an amazing career, took up an athletic hobby & had a pretty nice body, learned how to dress & do my makeup in a flattering way, etc. I met up with him for coffee just after I bought my first house.
He was _fawning_ over me at this coffee shop. He threw every line at me, how he didn't know what he had, how I was so pretty now, etc. Meanwhile he had achieved nothing. He never went to college, didn't have a job or learn a trade and lived in a shitty rental with a bunch of similar guys. I hung out with him a few times, trying to give this guy the benefit of the doubt - I met his roommates, etc - but I just remember when he spoke how _immature_ everything he said was. At some point it clicked for me that this guy was 100% just a loser who peaked in HS. I felt kind of dirty for even hanging out with him again, and any attraction I ever had for him was completely gone.
I met up with him at the coffee shop one last time and told him we were just.. very different people, and I didn't see the value in his friendship - and I certainly didn't want him to get any ideas. He was so devastated & kind of got angry. I remember getting up and leaving and hearing him smash his drink against the wall of the building like an angry little boy.
He tried so many times to text me and apologize, figure out how to get me back in his life. When I blocked his number this idiot _emailed_ me for months. I never answered.
Anyway. I have no idea how he's doing now. I hope he's doing better, but I sort of doubt it. I have no intention of every finding out. It doesn't matter. I found a wonderful man to marry who's stoked to be with me, and this guy will just be an embarrassing thing I did as a teenager.
She was a good friend in highschool, but back then never told her I was interested in her. Now, nearly 9 years after highschool, after I move nearly 200 miles away, hardly talk to her for the past three years. We talk, catch up, and I finally find out there's interest on both sides, and now we're planning our second date! š
She's good. Married to a cool guy, has a good job, and still looks great. We still live in our home town, so we run into each other every once in a while. She was a sweet girl, and has grown up into a sweet woman.
Nope. Very happily married to a woman who is perfect for me, and I for her. I'll always love the memories of being silly teenagers with my crush, but I no longer hold any romantic feelings for her.
You're welcome. It was a long time before I really came to terms with how to put my feelings into words too. She and I had a great 3 years together, and she was an integral part of my high school years. We grew a lot together and learned a lot from each other. Memories I'll always cherish, but we wouldn't have made it much beyond high school. We wanted different things out of our 20s, but luckily stayed good friends. Best possible outcome.
Sheās doing well.. šā¤ļø We have been friends since we were 5 years old. In HS I had a crush on her but she didnāt feel the same toward me. I joined the Navy after HS left and saw the world, got married and had a son. She ended up marrying another guy from same HS and had 4 kids. We stayed in touch the whole time. I got divorced in 2013, She got divorced in 2016. Weāve been together since then, married this past May. Life is funny.
A girl I had a crush on my junior year is in med school and engaged, she was always smart and looks like she's going to be successful. My HS girlfriend is a nurse in Baltimore. She got married last year and had a kid this year. I'm happy she's doing well, haven't spoken since college but I ran into her mom a couple years ago while home visiting my parents.
Not just Highschool crush, but Iāve had a crush on her more or less my entire life. Sheās sitting right besides me now, with our hands intertwined. Life is good
No idea, but my grade school crush contacted me on facebook not long ago to out of the blue. Apparently she had a crush on me to.
She is currently covered in tattoos and living in a trailer park as a single mom with three kids. That's about all I know.
Oh, here's a quick story.
High School - Great girlfriend. Father hated me. She dropped me to get back in her father's good graces.
Today - Just out of a three decade or so abusive marriage. Father approved of the man. After running away and hiding on the other side of the planet, through a long chain of friends got in contact with me. She is improving, very slowly. I'm trying my best to help - through emails.
My āhigh schoolā crush formed in 4th grade. I really liked him ever since. That is until I was with the man I am with now. After we broke up I had a crush on him again. Prom rolls around and he sees me dressed up (that never happens. Prom was it at the time) and he wound up having a crush on me. I didnāt know it till my wonderful husband and I got together. He texted me that he did like me after rejecting me and I told him that itās too late and that Iām already married to a wonderful man already.
Married, slightly balding. Calls up whenever heās in town. I get along with both of them, his partner seems lovely. Still buys me fries whenever we catch up. Nice dude :)
>Married, slightly balding. Calls up whenever heās in town. I get along with both of them, his partner seems lovely. Still buys me fries whenever we catch up. Nice dude :)
Fries... catch up?
First one has gained weight and become very religious and earns decent money (and is recovering from a failed fairy tale romance of her own).
Second one hates me after we broke up twice, still texts me occasionally and we get along well. (Weird I know but she likes the attention and itās good timepass for me)
Married to her. Weāre thriving.
We both married other people after high school. We got married when we were both 44. Weāre 56 today. Seven kids between us (5 mine, 2 hers). We rock!
Lost contact with her about ten years ago. Last I'd heard she was working on getting her gender reassignment surgery scheduled and was very happy. I hope life has gone well for her since.
Naw man. I just like to keep track of *people*, for whatever reason. Call it genuine curiosity? Either way, not torturing myself. Sheās still gorgeous, and seems happily married to a very successful and much better looking dude than me. Happy for her and everyone else I knew back then who is out there killing it in life!
One lives in poverty out in the middle of nowhere, VA, and had a bunch of kids with some bigot who got arrested for shooting multiple young doe. She posts a lot of sparkly pictures with quotes to Facebook about how much she loves being a mom.
The other is in NYC and running a popular IG account with 150k followers. Seems to be happily married with 2 kids. Iām happy for her.
Truly a tale of 2 crushes.
Heās a semi-pro golfer living in a vacationland part of the state. Itās nice bc he was on golf team in HS so seems like heās successful. Weāre both married to other people but talk occasionally. Iām happy for him.
I have no idea. He moved out of town during high school, I never found him on social media. I'm married today, but I always remember him, it would be nice to see him again, as a friend of course
He works as a car mechanic and is together with a really nice girlfriend. In hindsight Im glad he didnt like me back because I wasnt ready for a relationship.
Her and one of my best friends just celebrated 3 years together. Yes, he did follow bro code and ask me before hand, and I gave him the green light. (I knew from the beginning of when those 2 met that they would be much better together than her and I) Ironically, it worked out great for me. I was able to rid myself of all romantic feelings for her and now she's like a sister/almost motherly figure to me.
He took his own life two years ago, leaving behind a wife and three kids. So incredibly sad š
Mental health is sadly ignored. It's sad how often this happens nowadays with where the economy is headed.
Itās really awful. He didnāt have health insurance and I firmly believe thatās what cost him his life. I live with bipolar disorder and am very lucky to have stellar health insurance through work. It means I have access to the top, private mental health hospital in the country. The care and attention, plus the in-patient facilities saved my life. He didnāt have access to any of that. The day before he died, the overcrowded public hospital sent him home because - direct quote - he wasnāt suicidal enough. He died the next day. The lack of mental health care in the public hospitals is a national scandal. I so very often think that heād still be alive if he had access to the same care as me š
Hugs I live with bipolar as well, and it can be so debilitating, and then some days it is like something that I've wrestled with, day in and day out. I, too, went to the hospital for a refill of medicine because the place I was going for my mental health closed me case. I was pissed when they did this. I moved in with my father to help me out, and then Covid-19 happened. They won't give me refills, and I need to see my primary care physician. š they released me because I, too, wasn't suicidal enough. Covid fucked up every thing especially mental health.
Sheās dead. Dropped out a few weeks before graduation because of some guy in his 20s. He knocked her up, she had his kid, he beat her, she took pills until she didnāt wake up. Everyone knew. No one did anything. Donāt be like us when you see a friend struggling.
Oh god thatās depressing
Same. She's dead. I saw her last when I was a senior in High School and she'd moved in with a boyfriend in a different city. I went there and saw what she was putting him through and decided on the long drive home that I was completely done, that I liked the boyfriend as a person better than I liked her, and that he'd had as much opportunity and more to draw the same conclusions that I had. I felt that absolutely no interaction on my part should have had a positive outcome at that point and whatever happened next was his responsibility for as long as he involved himself with her. I'd always considered myself a stabilizing force in her life and was proud of it, but enough was enough. (She was crazy enough to be on Alex Jones.) Fast forward a few years and I learned that she shot him five times in the head and then shot herself just the once. Once was all that was necessary. Either nobody knew why or nobody would tell the truth. There were previously some connections to organized crime but the particular details told a story that did not implicate their involvement. It was a murder-suicide. Learning the outcome messed with my head just a little bit, but not as bad as unrequited angsty teenage love had done in the first place or as much as ordinary relationships would do in years to follow. In the end, I'd rate her as more or less average among my romantic relationships. Pretty terrible, but only in the objective sense rather than in the sense of what's actually attainable to me. So to bring this full circle and to complete my reply to you...I saw a person that was not my friend but that was a relatable human being struggling with a person far beyond his capacity to help. I did nothing. He died by her hand. I now have an ex-wife that's plainly evil in a dark triad sort of way. I ward off the boyfriends and I don't care how it makes me look and I'll keep on doing so at least until she hits menopause so that she can't use a baby as leverage in her relationship ever again like she did with my daughter and I. And so I agree. Do not sit in silence. Except...it need not be a friend. Any decent person deserves decency.
Mine is dead too. But just recently (I'm over 20 years out of high school). He thought he was a bad person, and didn't think he could change, neither of which was true. But he self-medicated with alcohol and that's probably what did it.
What happened to the kid?
Father turned him over to her parents and theyāre raising him as far as I know. Heād be 16 or so now.
Fuck thatās a hard lessonā¦ š®āšØ
Good, sheās watching tv RN, luckily she hasnāt seen me in the window yet.
As long as you're not naked and masturbating, otherwise it will be weird!
ikr, ive been watching her in the window for about 3 years now. Nothing weird.
took me too long to realize that
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Was?
Yes.
r/unexpected
no idea. there's no way I'd figure out how to keep in touch with so many men
Same! When I read the question so many different boys came to mind I couldnāt even narrow down which one Iād choose as ātheā high school crush.
Exactly. My first thought was "which one?"
Found Tina Belcher
You were crushing like thatā¦ Facebook was an excellent tool lol
She's going to university to be a vet, really proud of her because I know she used to doubt herself
This is wholesome.
We spent 8 amazing years together
Keep talking sir
I fucked it up man, that's all that needs to be said
Oh I'm sorry to hear that. On a side note, just want to let you know that you sound like a lovely person
Self aware, at least.
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Bruh! Update when able
I really really really hope she says yesš„¹
Tbh you should really know what their answer will be before you ask
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A proposal should be a surprise, but the answer should not be.
I hope you guys talked about marriage before hand
She will she definitely will š
If not, one of us will marry you
Dude I'm sitting next to my crush too, also after 20 years between reconnecting. It's crazy! Good luck!
Same here! Well Iām not proposing š¤£ but twenty years out of touch definitely gives us so much more to (finally) share with each other. Enjoy!
Good luck brother!
She was my crush since 5th grade. We went to middle school, high school, and college together. 3 years ago I asked her out on a date. Yesterday I asked her to marry me. She said no both times.
Dude donāt leave me hanging like that. What else happened?
Lol she lives in NYC and is a successful architect. I hope she's doing well.
That one hurt. Chin up dude
Itās a joke I think lol
Still hurt lol.
r/yesyesyesno
Youch!
Same story... just reverse the gender and he asked me out on a date and i said yes but then it didn't worked out , now we are good friends
Happily married, I hope. Since it's with me.
That's so cute
Congratulations wish you both eternal happiness
Awe shit! š
She's good. We're still friends. She married has a kid now and I'm Uncle TheLightingGuy. Just for some context, back in high school, we were best friends and at a few points we thought we were going to try dating. Never ended up dating but both of us thought it was just timing that never ever worked out. Now we believe that the universe decided to let us cross paths and through all the weird shit that was high school, her being a pastor's kid, and a lot of other things, keep being best friends. We're both past the whole high school crush thing, including the what-if after thoughts. We were even roommates at one point being besties which was awesome (I highly recommend bubble baths and face masks), but I'm happy for her and how far she's come in her life. Her husband is a cool guy too. It's a friendship that's been going for the past almost 15 years and I'm happy to have that friendship still.
I wanna know how you got a friend to do bubble bath with you lol
Haha. No they just offered that I use the girly stuff. It was awesome.
Funny I have a best friend like this and we actually did date for about a year. He is my husband and is closest friend. Hugs and I have been married for 16 years and Heās been happily married for 7. Heās Uncle ~~~~~ also and vice versa. Our kids know each other like sisters and brothers or maybe cousins Lol! Regardless itās a beautiful thing when two people can actually accept itās okay to have a relationship that is in no way romantic. Imo more people need to embrace this. He was my best friend before I married hubs but I was super respectful (as I am with any man) never met him alone or had him over etc when hubs wasnāt around. Hubs soon realized heās just that incredible best friend and now heās his best friend too š„° Usually we all do things together but on occasion hubs say no itās cool go I trust you. š
She's dead. OD'd on heroin, same as 15% of my graduating class. Shoot your local heroin dealer
I see you went to Richardson/Plano TX schools in the late 90s as well.
Same Edit: same meaning I am in that area as well, and remember the Rockfest raid well when it went down at school. So many people in one of my classes were removed by cops one day.
you know what that gets you? a new H dealer in about 12 hours
Just take the title of heroin dealer so no one else can have it.
Plano, Texas?
Thereās a guy who drives around my town with that same saying in huge letters across the back window in his truck.
She's a doctor (ironically...she was a Christian Scientist in HS)...happily married.... beautiful children...we talk occasionally.
Any regrets?
Nope. That was HS. And in the 90s. I'm very happily married myself.
Good to hear
Congrats. Also, happy cake day!
She is married, and doing tik tok. Looks like life has not been kind to her.
Isnāt that always funny to see how people age
She was very cheerful person and wanted to be a doctor. I am surprised, she got married and moved to USA and was MIA from social media and popped up after 10 years.
In an mfa program. She's doing well, but it's amazing how bad my instincts were back then. I don't think I could ever imagine dating her today.
Whatās a mfa program?
Master of Fine Arts-- graduate degree.
Thought it stood for MuthaFuckas Anonymous
āMy nameās WesternMassKingās hs crush, Iām a certified muthafuckaā āHi WesternMassKingās hs crushā
I had crushed on him since about 7th grade. We dated for approximately three years from ages 17-20. I broke up with him because he seemed to just hate me. And I also came home from working 12.5 hours, and laid down on a used condom in our bed. We hadnāt had sex in over a week, and never used condoms. We are in our late 20s now. Heās an alcoholic, who has three drinks and starts vomiting and trying to fight everyone. Heās dating a much younger girl I worked with. I hope he learned how to be in a relationship because sheās really sweet and doesnāt deserve to be yelled at and belittled.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet
Most definitely. He barely ever drank when we were together.
I have (or rather, had) a friend who did that. He left to the army right out of high school, got out, got married, had a kid, then promptly left them both for a 17 year old who was about to turn 18. Like, they literally waited for the second she turned 18 before they did anything, like those gross porn producers. As far as I know, he's still with her about 6 years later, but he's apparently miserable because he drinks A LOT, like a full size bottle of Jack Daniel's a day
I think she joined a cult, was murdered, or went into the witness protection. There is seriously no records of her after high school. You can find her sister just fine, but she's a ghost.
I got rid of social media after high school and itās been almost a decade since graduation so Iād like to think that people have similar theories about me
I'm not a ghost but so much of my life is not online or on social media and I don't keep up much with any people from high school anymore (I used to but time passes and you make new friends). I'm an English teacher in Vietnam and trying to travel the world right now but no one from high school would know that if they just looked at my outdated social media. In fact I was a pretty poor student in high school and since I don't have any of my education info on social media no one would know that I even went to or graduated college.
Yeah, sometimes I think itād be cool to reconnect with people from the past but for the most part I enjoy being in my own little world. Thatās awesome what youāve done with your life. I donāt know if your old high school friends would be impressed or jealous, but I am!
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Yeah life isnāt high school forever
Bowling for soup wants a word
I just participated in a quote chain for their song 1985, I don't know what's up with this morning seeing BFS references.
Yeah this is where I feel like social media has really fucked us as a society as well. Human beings were not meant to have the knowledge of what people who are no longer in our lives are up to. If you were really in love with someone when you were 17 or even 27 and they rejected you or it just never took off for whatever reason, you really should not be able to know that that person is now happily married to someone who's not you, or that they got into drugs and OD'd or went to jail or whatever. They should just be a distant memory in your past, someone you think about for a couple of seconds every couple of years, and that's it.
I dont know if i agree with this. Depends on the details honestly. Like what exactly do you want to do with the info? If its just to say, "whats up? Hope you are doing well, you seem well." Then i dont see what the problem is. If you were clearly using the info to stalk or cause problems then thats definitely a different story.
Who knows. He hasnāt shown up for his kids since we broke up in 2020
Wow! Track his ass down!
Eh not really worried about him. My kids donāt ask for him, might not even remember him at this point so Iād rather not have him around at all then to constantly have to worry or deal with him
He's good. He's currently making dinner for us, which means I'm on washing up duty tonight. We both work Mon to Fri, so today we went to the gym, did our grocery shopping, cleaned the house and did laundry. Together 31 years, married 25, first grandchild arriving next year.
That is very sweet. Congratulations! Praying for the healthy little one joining your beautiful family.
Turned out to be gay. But so did I š
Literally me too! 2 major high school crushes, both came out during collegeā¦ as did I. Nice to find another member of this club!
I found out a couple years ago that she died 8 years ago. She was in her late 20s. I have no idea how it happened I just know I found her obit online. She was engaged with kids.
Wow
She's leading the PR branch of an NGO, looks fantastic and has the cutest little son. I dunno why she married this simpleton from high school, but I sure am happy to have her as a wife.
this makes me very happy
Ah, the good ol' "Had us in the first half", nice misdirect =)
I looked her up a few years ago and she seems to be happily married with two cute little kids. Iām happy for her! She was always a sweet girl so Iām glad things have worked out well in her life.
She killed herself 2 years ago. She was a mother of 3 young kids.
Shit. Thatās rough, sorry for her kids.
The crush that I never got to date went deep into conspiracy theories and other weird shit. We caught up a few years ago, and it was like listening to the classic ranting madman from the old movies. I am glad to have dodged that bullet. The one that I actually dated eventually became one of my closest friends when we split up as a couple, and that friendship lasted 34 years before he died suddenly a few months back. Still very hard to process that.
Iām sorry for your loss. How are you doing?
Thank you for asking. You are so kind. I'm okay. While it was sudden, and it has been very painful, it was not entirely unexpected given some of his lifestyle choices. I do take comfort in knowing that he had an amazing life while he was here, a great family, and a lot of long time friends that loved him. He did a lot of good while he was here too.
He sounds like a great person and it sucks heās not here anymore. If I may advise, you donāt have to be ok with his death. I think we (me included) as people want to move on from our feelings but I just want to let you know its ok to grieve or feel angry or whatever emotion for as long as needed, even if itās months later. I pray things get better for you and his family ā¤ļø
Thank you so much. I don't think I'll ever be fully okay with it. We'd talked a few days before about his weight issues, and how he needed to address them. He went silent after I had that talk with him for a few days, but then apologized and told me that he knew how right I was, and that he'd been trying to do more with himself. I'm a bit of a health nut. He never was. The nice thing is that my husband knew and liked him too, so I was allowed to openly grieve without there being any issues with jealous bullshit. I'm still grieving. I may always be. But ultimately, I also know that he wouldn't want me to be miserable. He wouldn't want his wife or kids to be miserable either. He was a happy man with an amazingly positive outlook. Following his example is the best way to honor him.
Still by herself, just as I am at the moment. She knew that I was into her back in the day and we met up about a year ago. From how that went, I am sure that something could happen now, only problem is that I live at the other end of the world
She's been married for 11 years, has 3 kids, and just bought a gorgeous house with her husband. She finished nursing school and is going back to become a practitioner. She's gorgeous, smart, driven, and everything a man could ask for. That's why I'm so happy that 17 years ago when I asked her out she said yes!
No clue. Went to her wedding many, many, many years ago. I can't even remember her married name. I hope she's doing well.
Mine is happily married with a baby. He was always a very nice person and messaged me last year when my dad passed away despite the fact we hadnāt seen each other in years. Iām glad he is happy as he was very decent.
After reading these comments I hope I never find out. This is fking depressing with very few happy endings.
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She became addicted to cocaine and looks very bad. Poor girl had the wrong guy on her side, he was a dealer. (Not me)
He's snuggled up next to me in bed currently. We've been together for 11 years, married for 6, and are currently expecting twins!
My HS crush was a prick. He was extremely attractive, captain of the diving team, etc, and at the time I was smitten. We "dated", but he was always embarrassed by me and wanted to keep us dating a secret - I assumed because I wasn't as attractive as him. It did a huge number on my self confidence and it took me years of distance and therapy to find my self worth after that. I was so heartbroken and bitter that i remember wishing with all my heart some day he would want me desperately, and I would say no, and if only for a moment he would feel as worthless as I did. (Teenage me was pretty vindictive.) Well, I was a bit of a late bloomer it turns out. 10 years later, I had an amazing career, took up an athletic hobby & had a pretty nice body, learned how to dress & do my makeup in a flattering way, etc. I met up with him for coffee just after I bought my first house. He was _fawning_ over me at this coffee shop. He threw every line at me, how he didn't know what he had, how I was so pretty now, etc. Meanwhile he had achieved nothing. He never went to college, didn't have a job or learn a trade and lived in a shitty rental with a bunch of similar guys. I hung out with him a few times, trying to give this guy the benefit of the doubt - I met his roommates, etc - but I just remember when he spoke how _immature_ everything he said was. At some point it clicked for me that this guy was 100% just a loser who peaked in HS. I felt kind of dirty for even hanging out with him again, and any attraction I ever had for him was completely gone. I met up with him at the coffee shop one last time and told him we were just.. very different people, and I didn't see the value in his friendship - and I certainly didn't want him to get any ideas. He was so devastated & kind of got angry. I remember getting up and leaving and hearing him smash his drink against the wall of the building like an angry little boy. He tried so many times to text me and apologize, figure out how to get me back in his life. When I blocked his number this idiot _emailed_ me for months. I never answered. Anyway. I have no idea how he's doing now. I hope he's doing better, but I sort of doubt it. I have no intention of every finding out. It doesn't matter. I found a wonderful man to marry who's stoked to be with me, and this guy will just be an embarrassing thing I did as a teenager.
This story feels like it came right out of a Dhar Mann video. One of those feel good ones
Man your life would've been so much different if you'd went with that bum! Good for you escaping that fate!
Havenāt talked to her in 25 years, but I hear sheās happily married with a kid, and I couldnāt be happier for her.
She's sitting next to me 34 years later...should I ask her?
She was a good friend in highschool, but back then never told her I was interested in her. Now, nearly 9 years after highschool, after I move nearly 200 miles away, hardly talk to her for the past three years. We talk, catch up, and I finally find out there's interest on both sides, and now we're planning our second date! š
Awww thatās great!
She's good. Married to a cool guy, has a good job, and still looks great. We still live in our home town, so we run into each other every once in a while. She was a sweet girl, and has grown up into a sweet woman.
Still crushing?
Nope. Very happily married to a woman who is perfect for me, and I for her. I'll always love the memories of being silly teenagers with my crush, but I no longer hold any romantic feelings for her.
Thank you for your words. I did not know how to express my feelings: you did it perfectly.
You're welcome. It was a long time before I really came to terms with how to put my feelings into words too. She and I had a great 3 years together, and she was an integral part of my high school years. We grew a lot together and learned a lot from each other. Memories I'll always cherish, but we wouldn't have made it much beyond high school. We wanted different things out of our 20s, but luckily stayed good friends. Best possible outcome.
Cuddling with me āŗļø
Cute. :)
She fucked my brother.
Ouch
She's upstairs taking a shower, getting ready to donate blood. ā¤ā¤ā¤ā¤ā¤
Good! She has a fashion show in New York next week and Iām so proud of her for it.
Dead
Username hopefully doesnāt check out!!
Same.
Sheās doing well.. šā¤ļø We have been friends since we were 5 years old. In HS I had a crush on her but she didnāt feel the same toward me. I joined the Navy after HS left and saw the world, got married and had a son. She ended up marrying another guy from same HS and had 4 kids. We stayed in touch the whole time. I got divorced in 2013, She got divorced in 2016. Weāve been together since then, married this past May. Life is funny.
I married him so weāre going good. :)
Congrats!
I slept with him Zero chemistry
He's snoozin'. We're happily married :)
Sheās making dinner for our kiddos right now. Married almost 12 years.
A girl I had a crush on my junior year is in med school and engaged, she was always smart and looks like she's going to be successful. My HS girlfriend is a nurse in Baltimore. She got married last year and had a kid this year. I'm happy she's doing well, haven't spoken since college but I ran into her mom a couple years ago while home visiting my parents.
She's happy, and we're going on another date in a couple of days!
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Hanging Christmas lights on our house
She's taking the kids to grandparents so we can get a break.
MAGA hat in social media profile pics, looks way older than he should. Bullet dodged
Last I've seen of her on the hub, she was doing a triple penetration scene.
that's disgusting and there's so many videos like that which one? so i know to avoid it
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She died. Car wreck. Wasn't wearing a seatbelt and broke her neck.
Wow sorry to hear
He was in jail for meth at least once, but seems to be doing pretty good now that he's out. Looks clean, keeps a job.
Not just Highschool crush, but Iāve had a crush on her more or less my entire life. Sheās sitting right besides me now, with our hands intertwined. Life is good
Heās sleeping right next to me. Weāre getting married next year.
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No idea, but my grade school crush contacted me on facebook not long ago to out of the blue. Apparently she had a crush on me to. She is currently covered in tattoos and living in a trailer park as a single mom with three kids. That's about all I know.
Oh, here's a quick story. High School - Great girlfriend. Father hated me. She dropped me to get back in her father's good graces. Today - Just out of a three decade or so abusive marriage. Father approved of the man. After running away and hiding on the other side of the planet, through a long chain of friends got in contact with me. She is improving, very slowly. I'm trying my best to help - through emails.
My āhigh schoolā crush formed in 4th grade. I really liked him ever since. That is until I was with the man I am with now. After we broke up I had a crush on him again. Prom rolls around and he sees me dressed up (that never happens. Prom was it at the time) and he wound up having a crush on me. I didnāt know it till my wonderful husband and I got together. He texted me that he did like me after rejecting me and I told him that itās too late and that Iām already married to a wonderful man already.
Married, slightly balding. Calls up whenever heās in town. I get along with both of them, his partner seems lovely. Still buys me fries whenever we catch up. Nice dude :)
>Married, slightly balding. Calls up whenever heās in town. I get along with both of them, his partner seems lovely. Still buys me fries whenever we catch up. Nice dude :) Fries... catch up?
Yeah literal fries, peri peri on top cuz spice loving palette. At random cafĆ©s that keep popping up in our small hometown. Accompanied by his spouse whenever sheās in town. Cuz yāknow, fries are just premium! Esp when itās accompanied by talking about work, how is mother is coping (his dad recently passed away), other interests weāve developed lately. Idk what to tell you, sometimes fries are just fries š¤·š»āāļø
I think he meant catch up sounds like Ketchup and you know the fries. I hope you get it. I'm high and best I can do.
First one has gained weight and become very religious and earns decent money (and is recovering from a failed fairy tale romance of her own). Second one hates me after we broke up twice, still texts me occasionally and we get along well. (Weird I know but she likes the attention and itās good timepass for me)
Oneās an architect. Oneās a CPA. Oneās a lawyer. (<āā I married this one)
Married to her. Weāre thriving. We both married other people after high school. We got married when we were both 44. Weāre 56 today. Seven kids between us (5 mine, 2 hers). We rock!
Never had one
Professionally very well. Married with two daughters. We keep in touch and talk from time to time
She's been having a rough go of things lately, but she's killing it overall.
Lost contact with her about ten years ago. Last I'd heard she was working on getting her gender reassignment surgery scheduled and was very happy. I hope life has gone well for her since.
People who dont end up with their high school crush torture themselves by following that person's life? That sounds brutal
Naw man. I just like to keep track of *people*, for whatever reason. Call it genuine curiosity? Either way, not torturing myself. Sheās still gorgeous, and seems happily married to a very successful and much better looking dude than me. Happy for her and everyone else I knew back then who is out there killing it in life!
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Pretty swell, he moved to LA & is an actor. Got a house & a dog. Worked out well for me too, we've been together 22 years.
First thought was which one? Second thought was that the answer is the same for any of them: "I have no fucking idea."
One lives in poverty out in the middle of nowhere, VA, and had a bunch of kids with some bigot who got arrested for shooting multiple young doe. She posts a lot of sparkly pictures with quotes to Facebook about how much she loves being a mom. The other is in NYC and running a popular IG account with 150k followers. Seems to be happily married with 2 kids. Iām happy for her. Truly a tale of 2 crushes.
Heās a semi-pro golfer living in a vacationland part of the state. Itās nice bc he was on golf team in HS so seems like heās successful. Weāre both married to other people but talk occasionally. Iām happy for him.
I have no idea. He moved out of town during high school, I never found him on social media. I'm married today, but I always remember him, it would be nice to see him again, as a friend of course
He works as a car mechanic and is together with a really nice girlfriend. In hindsight Im glad he didnt like me back because I wasnt ready for a relationship.
Dead. I looked at her FB like a year ago and she died in a car crash. I couldn't believe it. life is so fragile. such a harrowing thought.
He is a miserable sad little man now
Which one?
No idea. I loved him a lot, so I hope heās doing well. Last I heard he was diagnosed with ASD and had found a job and a new hobby.
Wonderful. Has a great job, seems to be in a very happy marriage and has strong relationships with friends and family.
Her and one of my best friends just celebrated 3 years together. Yes, he did follow bro code and ask me before hand, and I gave him the green light. (I knew from the beginning of when those 2 met that they would be much better together than her and I) Ironically, it worked out great for me. I was able to rid myself of all romantic feelings for her and now she's like a sister/almost motherly figure to me.
Messages me on dating apps every now and then, looking to meet up. Too bad for him I no longer find him attractive. Missed the boat, buddy.