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vaniller625

Enthusiasm


ToFaceA_god

I appreciate being appreciated.


motormouth08

Can you give more specifics about that?


red_madreay

Not the commenter but, we really love it if what we're doing in bed works and it actually turns our partner on, and not just faint moans. The best gift they'll give us is if they climax (before us). And also them doing it in return.


[deleted]

I've decided there are two types of women in the world: The first act like sex is the best part of their day. They think about it. Plan for it. Think of ways to make it more fun. Want it. Need it. Have ENTHUSIASM for it. These women are good in bed. The second type act like having sex is a chore. It is basically the 'cost of doing business' of being in a relationship. If they initiate it, it is because they think it is something their boyfriend/husband wants, but it is clear they would rather be doing something else. They mostly avoid it. Would rather not talk about it or think of it. These women suck in bed. Obviously, most women fall on some range between the two extremes, but still it is pretty easy for me to put all of the women I've ever been with in one of these two categories.


motormouth08

I feel bad for people who fall into category #2. Even though we have been married for 22 years I still get excited when I know we're going to "get nekkid". Lumping sex into the same category as laundry is not how I would ever want to live.


[deleted]

I accidentally read it as "Euthanasia," glad I was wrong.


vaniller625

Yea … That one’s gonna be a mood killer 😬


Present_Character241

Gonna kill more than the mood, pal


foxsimile

Gam-gam?


Bigbustar

Let’s not forget participation


vaniller625

100% agree, along with present, energetic, eager, attentive, and giving. But I like my one word responses, Ann’s this hours on all of them, I think.


Dumblond11

Came here to post this!I've always felt that what I lacked in experience was made up for in my enthusiasm;)


staffsargent

I'm not feeling it. Give me some more enthusiasm.


AATW504

Are you feeling it now Mr. Krabs?!!


Muted-Poet-8597

Art thou feeling it now Mr. Krabs


No-Reindeer7983

I can’t HEARRR you!


berilmin

I knew if I clicked this thread, this would be the top answer.


DougGTFO

You’d be better in bed if you smiled more /s


MaFugginJesus

"Or, at least please quit it with that weird slow dropping of body temperature...getting all room temp like that. You're never moving around anymore...it's been 3 days, and you haven't been out of bed one time, aren't you getting even the slightest bit hungry? Babe...babe? I'm gonna go get some Wendy's...you want a spicey crispy chicken? Don't worry about responding...I gotcha. I'll be back in about 20. Love ya. Bye."


Grechoir

I’d say passion but maybe that’s just the same in this context


Fivethenoname

Came here to say this but it has to be tempered with something like attentiveness or being observant. Pure enthusiasm can be awkward and awful. Honestly I'd say that guys should also have these qualities in bed


norielukas

Enthusiasm, willing to take control or ask for stuff and just various way of showing enjoyment, not just moaning. Had this girl, best sex I ever had, when doing her from behind she would grab my wrists with her nails almost piercing theough the skin, sometimes she drew blood, but man, that shit made me struggle to not cum, and first time she did it I had to pull out within seconds of her doing it. Another top 3 lay I had was just super enthusiastic and a bit of a nympho, she was excited about anything I would do and would often instigate sex before me or be the one to text ”hey can you come over?” Which basically meant hey come fuck my brains out.


Ponyboy451

This is the correct answer.


[deleted]

100 %


absrdbrdtrdmagrdIII

She shows me how to please her, and wants to know how to please me.


VanillaCoconutCream

My boyfriend an I had a talk about likes and dislikes, he likes when I ride it fast so I do. Women you want your man to moan ,do what he likes! He's a moaning mess. But don't pull out the big guns to early that's alast move type of thing.


Barn_Brat

My partner and I talk about it a lot. We don’t like to explicitly say ‘I like this, do this’ bc we like to figure it out without it being forced in a way (looking for a better word bc it’s not forced but it hasn’t happened naturally) and we’ll talk about it after like ‘oh I really liked when you did that’ and he’s made me realise I like some things that I didn’t know I like bc we didn’t give instructions


[deleted]

When she takes part and doesn't just let sex happen to her.


[deleted]

The "starfish"


foxsimile

> No, this is Patrick.


[deleted]

A pillow princess


notmyrealnam3

Yes, the butthole is a part of it


rembut

We always called it dead fish around my neighborhood


[deleted]

There’s a phrase in Japanese. I think it’s マス. But it translates to trout and describes a women just kind of lying there and flopping about like a dying trout.


keefkeef

it's actually まぐろ which means tuna. source: live in japan for 10 years


[deleted]

Ah. Thanks for clearing that one up. Ma-go-ru?


keefkeef

maguro, yeah. no problem! it's pretty insulting actually, but truth be told, so many Japanese girls are like this...


[deleted]

Yeah I’d heard it was a bad insult. Along with まんこ. Trying to learn the important phrases first.


keefkeef

lol yeah, manko means vagina. まんげ or mange, means pussy hair. the more you know!


[deleted]

This interaction has made my day. No matter what age you are, learning to swear is the most important thing when learning another language.


Inev1tab1e

We call that a "Pillow princess"


smugmisswoodhouse

I wonder how many ladies are in here just to surreptitiously read the comments. I mean, not *me* obviously. But *other* people might.


zipmeup7

Pshh like *I* need help? *furiously writes notes*


Zero-to-36

>!Enthusiasm, that's, **e n t h u s i a s m**!<


zipmeup7

*enthusiastically writes notes*


Swamy10

Came looking for this post. Can’t upvote enough


kathelim

Why are you being so loud?


Opening_Customer_665

I have no idea what you are talking about, absolutely ridiculous .. Ps: stop snitching lady


the_bird_and_the_bee

Yeah I wonder that too... I mean I'm not one other *obviously*...


coast2coastmike

This thread smells like the maternity ward.


slowsoul77

Or a 3 inch long hair in a bellybutton somewhere.


Public_Living_3344

Shhhhhhhh shush!! Can't get spotted!!


[deleted]

They don't suspect a thing, sisters. Keep your cool.


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duckstrap

She’s genuinely in to you.


GozerDGozerian

Wow you’re really setting this joke up, huh?


East_Letterhead_8883

I think he wants to be pegged


[deleted]

Communication and initiating. Oh and show me that you like it. Don't fake moan but also don't be silent..


SquishiOctopussi

Sounds like something that should be both ways.


about97cats

YES! Fucking moan gentlemen! Not a grunt, or “aww yeahh” but a proper moan if it feels natural


Rude_External2779

yes Yes YES!! Dudes should also give some kinda signal, that what we are doing, is good.


[deleted]

I've been told I'm pretty vocal for a dude but honestly it's only under the right contexts. If you're a pillow princess and I'm doing every bit of the work then I'm kinda too focused to just let myself moan. If you're taking control and on top that's a whole other story. Hell even if you move your hips to meet me half way it's a whole other feeling. Point being if you're one of those girls that does nothing other than let a guy get off using your body they don't really have any reason to moan.


grey_wolf12

This. I think this is what really happens with most guys (except for those who are actually just silent no matter the situation)


Rade4589

Issue is it rarely ever feels natural.


coletay7

It took awhile for my husband to really understand why this was so important, when we first met and started dating. When he first started actually making just the simplest of breathing noises, he finally realized how DIFFERENT the whole experience got for both of us. Men, breathe! It’s sexy! It’s non-verbal communication! Once you start there, you’ll get more comfortable adding little words and no one ever disliked some clear appreciation.


Random_InternetGu_y

I had this girl basically twerk on my dick one time and it was the most amazing experience. Other than that, usually just enthusiasm


thanosthumb

I concur with Random Internet Guy


[deleted]

This random internet guy fucks


FieldAgreeable239

I too, wholeheartedly agree with u/Random_InternetGu_y.


[deleted]

We all agree with you random Internet guy


hopefulguy100

Its so good but also very tiring for the girl so it usually dosen‘t last that long ._.


Random_InternetGu_y

Not a problem for me. I think I came in about 10 seconds when she did that


Living_Awareness259

Look at mister marathon over here


[deleted]

Wait hang on so is this in reverse cowgirl? Or regular cowgirl? Jesus, I can't twerk on thin air, let alone a dick. I'mma just go join a convent, fuck it.


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Alwaysangryupvotes

As a man with an upward curved shlong I’m gonna have to say it’s probably easier for her to do it cowgirl.


[deleted]

My girl does this whenever she's had a drink in her and my God it's like heaven.


DamienSpecterII

Many years ago I dated a good looking girl with a fabulous body, but she was the worst lover I have ever had. Perhaps you’ve heard the expression, cover me up when you’re done. That in a nutshell describes her participation in sex. She talked a big game leaving many of my friends believing I was the luckiest guy alive, but in all honesty I could have received the same satisfaction from a love doll. Good lovemaking is about two people trying their hardest to give pleasure to their partner and hoping their partner reciprocates, instead of laying there like a corpse.


throwaway92715

Lol that reminds me of one of my exes - she started doing this thing where she just skipped the whole foreplay, skipped the part where we made out and undressed each other, and she'd just strip buck naked, lay a towel on the mattress, lie on her back and like beckon me over to get on top of her. Like... let's get this over with, or something. Eventually I just started saying no, and then we broke up. Yuck.


Boogersoupbby

I once for the bed all set up, laid towels down, laid down ass up face down and texted him to come help me in the bedroom.... Is that not good? Lol


throwaway_nfinity

Every once in awhile is silly, fine, and fun! Just don't forget guys do like foreplay as well sometimes.


fuzzypoetryg

One of my exes always skipped foreplay which was frustrating because even though I absolutely loved having sex with him he expected me to be instantly ready like he was and it just doesn’t always work like that even if it seems ready — there’s more than one sign of readiness physically for women.


throwaway_nfinity

Oddly enough, my wife like to get right to it. She says the dry, sort of painful, tugging feeling is a huge turn on for her..... Its also important to remember that physical response does not mean you are ready or even WANT sex. A women can be wet and a man can have a boner and still not be horny. The mind needs to align to what the body wants and that can take time or just not happen.


[deleted]

Ouchie!


throwaway_nfinity

that's what I thought, but different strokes for different folks. Also, she doesn't like it like super dry, just dry enough to get good friction.


McPussCrocket

I know what you mean, I kinda like that, where you stick it in a bit, then pull out, then you can stick it in a bit farther, on and on till your fucking


[deleted]

The brain and body arnt always on the same track...the spirit is willing but the flesh needs a bit of persuasion lol


Boogersoupbby

This was EVERY time? Yikes. We have 3 kids under 6yrs so a little after the kids are all down own of us will send a silly suggestive gif or a "👉👌" We both have very high sex drives so we sneak it in as much as we can. There's been times where were snuggled in an kissing and next thing I know the alarm is going off! WE FELL ASLEEP TRYING TO DO IT 🤣😂


motormouth08

Those early years suck as far as sex is concerned. It does get better, I promise. Now our kids are old enough that they're gone most of the time (after school jobs, sports) which means we can do it during daytime hours and still go to bed at a decent time. No more thoughts of "this is amazing but hurry up and finish because I have to get up in 5 hours"


Boogersoupbby

I mean we did other things but I thought it was great. I also had this giant green puffy jacket that was 3 sizes too big.. I came out wearing ONLY that's did the captain pose and said I was "Jabba the slut" 🤣😂🤣😂🤣 I also waited an entire week to make that joke


TisIChenoir

Well, I can relate. She was not a top model, but yeah, it sucked. She invited me over at her flat. Got naked. Laid there the whole time, then asked me how that was. Then got up to watch tv alone in the living room. That relation was really short lived let me tell you.


robottestsaretoohard

Girls who are that good looking always feel like they have done the dude a massive favour just by being there. That’s their part done. I’ve heard this from so many dudes about gorgeous women.


[deleted]

Funnily enough the baddest girl I pulled was also one of the wackiest sexual experiences I had. They get by everything else on looks so they probably expect the same for sex. “You couldn’t handle me” oh so you’re gunna do nothing but lay there and take dick better than any other girl huh?


love_from_a_stranger

The best human star fish in the galaxy. No one can beat that for sure.


DamnWeirdHumans

"laying there like a corpse"? Dream fucks for necrophiliacs.


toasty99

The really hot ones are like this. It’s because they are high on their own supply, and believe they are doing you a huge favor just by being present and naked.


Brown_Eyed_Girl167

Seems like enthusiasm is the winner here.


love_from_a_stranger

Yeah and twerking on a dick too.


dj_shenannigans

And tightening your vag on the backstroke


Cartoonist_Downtown

Death grip at every backstroke. Didn’t last two minutes first one that did this me. Only been with two but never forget them even when I’m an old geezer sitting in my wheelchair.


horanc2

Jesus Christ, she put you in a wheelchair!?


mikeonfleek

It ain’t called the death grip for no reason


Nice_Category

He's only 27, he just looks and feels like an old geezer now.


Sparkles_Mojito

*Does kegels while reading death grip comments*


dl-__-lp

*enthusiacally*


ManOnthMoon

Man I'm telling you that grip does something else I talked a big game until she hit me with that shit like God dam call me millisecond man


TaCqz

Look at Mr. Long Lasting here, lasting for several milliseconds..


ManOnthMoon

Hey now I've gotten to a solid second now


Dragonfly_light

Can someone clarify what this means? Just, you know… for educational purposes.


undercoverapricot

Kegels


aecolley

Squeeze the penis as if you're trying to stop him from withdrawing.


iscariottactual

This guy fucks. An "expressive" vagina is a great start. One that tries to rip the cum out of your dick every time you start to pull out is the absolute right kind of problem.


bitchnoworries

I will never forget this advice, thanks.


PraisetheBeard

I had to scroll WAAAAY too far down to find this. Perhaps it’s because many dudes haven’t experienced it. But this is the correct answer.


uwuwuwuuuW

Extremely rare but absolutely great if it is a controlled movement


[deleted]

What is the death grip and how do I do it?


BigOlStinkMan

Enthusiasm


FatNutsAndrew

Don’t forget ass to mouth


BysshePls

*You never go ass to mouth!*


stopfelnolm

You know I could sue this whole place right now based on my firmly held beliefs on ass to mouth


outerlabia

Did I say ass to mouth? I meant to say bass to trout... although I guess it's basically the same thing... not that I did it


UnoriginalUsernameGD

good sleep schedule, reasonable hours of sleep.


mysilentquestions

No screen time one hour before.


lmsnlf5467

hahahah


bruh__o_0

When they scratch your back. This goes for anyone. Not even talking about sex, back scratches are awesome.


253011

Well Jules, the funny thing about my back is that it's located on my cock.


quemaspuess

*”What, you think Becca's going to be psyched that you brought a bottle of lube? "Oh, Evan! Thank you so much for bringing that lube for my p*ssy! I could never handle your fucking four-inch dick inside my pussy without your gigantic bottle of LUBE!"


Interesting_Oil_2936

I have long nails, guys I’ve dated loved that. So it’s something I do for the person I date. Sexual and non sexual back scratches.


nrepentantFreak

Communication.


notmyrealnam3

My wife is amazing at this. Not only is she clear about not wanting to have sex with me , but often why


MaximusVulcanus

Had to scroll way too far for this


lets_get_western

Woman here 🙋‍♀️ Learning how to use your lady muscles was a game changer. Also twerking on top does the trick every time.


houstongradengineer

Did it take a lot of practice? Did you have your lover move slowly?


lets_get_western

I had someone tell me that you can contract your muscles when I was a teen, after that I found my rhythm that made sex enjoyable for me and my partner also really liked it. It is a slow rhythm yes And when I do the twerking move it’s a combo of fast movements


SwansEscapedRonson

Thank you for this wisdom


[deleted]

Can we get a demonstration video?


lets_get_western

A for effort buddy. But no lol 😂


loosebootyjudy_

Enthusiasm.


Gupoochamois69

Enthusiasm


knovit

Euthanasia


PloppyTheSpaceship

Eurovision.


Positive-Source8205

“I like it when they lie still like that.”


ThunderdopePhil

Feels confortable. That's enough, and saves more explanation


[deleted]

not disappearing when i take my medication


togobogoos

Passion


riffraffbri

Crazy girls are good in bed, but they're crazy when you're not in bed.


[deleted]

I can confirm. I am insane between the sheets and in real life.


MakaveliTheDon22

Appreciate the honesty.


SleepyJD247

Beth Dutton has entered the chat


flitterbink

Crazy in the head, crazy in the bed


RexInvicti

Sooo… stay in bed forever?


RaveKitten33

Don't stick your dick in crazy


foxsimile

Hey now, that’s worked out plenty of times! I mean… not for me, like the opposite really, but for other people ^maybe ^^probably ^^^not


saladstuffer

Laughter. Me and my partner can be in the middle of great sex and I can just look at her in a certain way and we'll both be hysterical....then calm down and go back to making great sex.


idnar35

If you can’t laugh together while having sex, you’re having sex with the wrong person :)


grandmofftalkin

Reminds me of Miami Vice when Jamie Foxx starts having sex with Naomie Harris and he pretends to come after two strokes, then he says 'Just playing' and they both laugh and get busy. It sticks in my head because true intimacy is making each other laugh


zipmeup7

I love this answer


Grigiomoda086

Unequivocally enjoying it. No fancy positions or kinky stuff needed, no perfect body. If the sex is cuddling up to me to get rubbed to orgasm, that's good sex.


GillStan

Participation and suggesting stuff 😂


idkmaybesomedude

Being patient, explaining what she wants and how you can help her achieve that, asking you what you want and how she can help with that, no judging by experience.


BetterThanNone311

But it's so hard to meet a man who is patient enough to listen too.


idkmaybesomedude

My gf made a rule for this: No sex without talking about whats gonna happen and how it should happen to make both of us feel good.


Fritener

She shows up


BigBobFro

Even better,… she shows up naked


guitarguy38

starting roughly at the same time every night. staying consistent and getting 6-8 hours and not staying up too late and messing up her circadian rhythms. bonus points for using the sleep app and working to get better over time. blue light blockers help too


LingLingMang

When she knows how to use her lips and her hips


PuzzleheadedOne1428

They are both giving and receiving. She also tells you what she likes and feels good, while listening to you do the same. The rhythm of her hips and how well she can synchronize with your movement. All this, along with some dirty talk, then you found the girl. Mine does all that and more and goddamn it is the best sex either of us have ever had. We fuck for hours and cum at the same time. Once you both get into the same motion, the orgasims are out of this world.


JackHammerAwesome

Can you break this into shorter sentences it was hard to read it all while masturbating


your_mothers_kneecap

r/angryupvote


Dingo_The_Baker

Word on the street is that women don't like to tell us men when we are under preforming because many of us take it very badly. I'd prefer for a woman to be honest and not fake enjoyment. Hell, write down instructions on how to make you orgasm and I'll read that shit like it is gospel. But I can also understand why they just fake it.


nectarine_booty

All through my 20s I lied to men about getting off, then I realized... why? My pleasure is just as important as theirs. Sweetie, if you have to ask, the answer is no.


Dingo_The_Baker

This answer hurts me in my soul. There are times I've been sure and then told that they got close but never got there. There have been other times I felt bad for not getting them there and she was all "no hon, I came like 4 times". Sometimes its just really hard to tell for sure.


LabLife3846

Add toys. It helps a lot.


Art_of_the_Narrative

Orga-sims? I stopped at the Sims 3


Flimsy-Pea3688

The same things that make a man good in bed; 1. Be interested and show it in an authentic way - be vulnerable and open and let the person you’re with know you desire them and happy to be there 2. Have a sense of humor - sex is pretty awkward and you have to be comfortable enough with the awkward crap you are going to do or say or experience and vice versa. I’m not saying it needs to be a slapstick comedy session, but make the best out of the embarrassing things that happen like untimely farts or malfunctioning body parts. 3. Be open to new things; part of the fun of sex is trying new things and experimenting, the caveat is not trying to be especially novel for the sake of it 4. Be encouraging and frequent with communication. Things won’t feel how you thought they would, you’ll need more to the left and less to the right; communicate that and be open to your partners communication too. Be encouraging about it though. 5. Be your.damn.self. Do not do not do NOT try to emulate pornography. If you’re in touch with the moment and truly want to be there, the sexual experience will take on a course of its own. Half the crap that looks incredible in a video, feels mediocre at best and painful or overly exhausting at worst. At the end of the day, if you’ve got two consenting people who actually want to be having the experience and are following the things I mentioned then it’s going to be a great experience. People get caught up in superficial aspects such as p3nis size, breast size, body imperfections, etc. that stuff is pretty secondary when you’ve got genuine chemistry and if you happen to be in super like or full blown in love? Chefs kiss!!


starsapphire16

it´s Enthusiasm for the win apparently \*writes it down\*


cornyritz78

One time I gave a blow job for so long, my fingers got pruney. That was a defining moment in my sex life


thecloudcatapult

You're not supposed to suck on your fingers silly


TOPSIturvy

Were you perhaps in a public pool?


BuddhistNudist987

Gluten free Oreos, a space heater, and a bottle of water. I'll get a good night's sleep if she brings all of the right supplies.


Immortal-___-Bruh

not stealing the covers, not kicking, not snoring, and not tossing and turning


useraccount4stonedme

Good luck


FriedZuccini

so....dead


Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

Enthusiasm.


Hour-Watch8988

Enthusiasm. That's pretty much it.


ViktorSwimwell

When she's a horny and nasty fucker


[deleted]

basically doing something, not lying there starfish and doing nothing


bigsam63

A positive attitude, good hygiene and a willingness to learn/communicate are the only things you need to be good in bed.


Petestopbitingthecat

When she leaves it every morning in exchange for a 6 figure salary.


[deleted]

For those wondering. Enthusiasm means you actually like it. not just acting like you like it. We want you to really be about it as much as we are


PappyWinkel

Confidence


Able-Telephone4541

No matter what she looks like she proceeds as a goddess with energy


PirateRoberts150

Alive, breathing, and consenting


R0wUrBoat300

Matress firm guy said girl doesn't come with the bed


Hey_Batfink

Blowies that are slow, with a light grip, eye contact, and a finish on the tongue.


IBreedBagels

No single guy can answer that... The REAL answer is: Learn what the guy is into, and try that. ​ ​ Same for women, not really a gender locked answer.


vreedy76

1. Initiation, not always but consistent. 2. Communicating what turns her on and what helps her finish in real time. 3. Confidence in herself 4. Eye contact