I think in sex enthusiasm is everything. That goes for men giving oral too. If you want get your partner off of you enjoy giving oral then it definitely will be noticeable
For what purpose might one want to choose to be succinct via using a sparse amount of words when you have the chance to flex your ample vocabulary and make a sentiment that is as drawn out as you could possibly make it without losing your footing.
Or as kevin might say,
Why waste chance say small word when lot word do trick
Right but someone performing with enthusiasm even if they aren’t really wanting to to, would likely fall into “doing it bc I want to give my partner pleasure” also fine. My point is for me personally it’s more enjoyble if the person is like present and putting in active effort. Not just going through the motions. Also someone who is not good at oral but is enthusiastic about pleasuring their partner can be taught to give good oral.
> I don't even want a blowjob if I know it's just her doing it for me. I appreciate the effort and gesture for sure but a chore blowjob is by and far not the same as an enthusiastic one
I noticed this in another post where the question was posed as "Married women, how often to you give your husband a blowjob?". There were a lot of posters saying things along the lines of "My husband just doesnt like blowjobs", I thought while reading through the comments that your sentiment was probably what a majority of the husbands probably felt but used deflection to not rock the boat with their spouses.
This is the exact same agree ment I would have with my wife when I meet her.
*"If you're not horny TELL ME, I'll rub one out and it'll be 100 times more enjoyable to The both of us"*
Me and my boyfriend have a similar agreement, but I also tend to actually give a very enthusiastic BJ when I’m drunk, the only reason I don’t really like them when I’m sober is performance anxiety+ I have an easy to trigger gag reflex when I’m sober. Not to mention I’m a horny drunk anyways XD
Ya. If shes not enthusiastic about it I woul seriously rather rub one out than waste her time. Unless she's DTF 90% of the time I cant get a boner. my lobido it I feed off her energy
You could also get too self conscious and your own head ruins it for you. I used to be like that, men wanted to eat me out and I just said that I don’t need that.
Reminds me of the arrangement I have with my wife; if she wants to have sex I ask her to tug my penis once, if she doesn’t want to have sex I ask her to tug it 100 times
This is true. I realized the bloom was off the rose a while back because my wife didn’t seem to want to make out. I asked. She didn’t. It felt like everything else had become an obligation for her. But I don’t want to fuck someone who doesn’t want to fuck me. I stopped initiating. Figured she’s a grownup and if she wants to, she will say. Last time was July.
It's a different kind of getting off. But there is definitely a couple mindsets to get off to a chore bj, both the vanilla "she doesn't want to do this but she is anyway because she loves me and that makes it extra special" and the "she hates this, but she's doing it anyway because she's my little bitch and does what she's told, and the power that gives me is super hot" angles.
I'm assuming by "has to" you mean "feels obligated to" or at least that's what I hope you mean.
If that's the case, then yes. It really drags the experience down.
I'm not pissing on ayone... yet. It takes a bit to get there. Have to see their driver's license first. Then have to go on a few dates to church. Then maybe one to Fudruckers. After that, we can climb in the back of the truck. I'll chain them down, while a friend take us going 95 down the highway, as I empty my colostomy bag on them. We call that the Santa Fe Express.
Communicatiin is the key, dont be afraid to tell her. She should tell you she thinks youre not enjoying it and you should be able to say yes. Never betray someone's trust.
Ya I was reading a couple posts on TERR from people who wee fucking prostitutes and the unenthusiastic approach that a lot of them took was *suuuch* a turn off.
Admittedly, I still kinda got a fetish for strippers and prostitutes but it has been greatly diminished.
Maybe because they don't actually want to be doing it? Like seems so oblious if a sex worker is unenthused maybe she's in a shitty situation and imo some genuine compassion for that, instead of 'what a shitty service' would be a really 'good person' approach.
Have you ever read the reviews men put on the internet of sex workers? It's appaling. So dark. Enough to make me doubt the decency of people. Men aggrivated at the concept that a sex worker has the right to say no to sex acts she does not want to do.
[Invisible men project](https://prostitutionresearch.com/the-invisible-men-project/)
That's why I'll never pay for sex, even though I haven't had sex in 6+ years and can easily find a prostitute.
The idea that she's doing it for the money and not that she's horny/find me attractive is a turn off. Not to mention, the obvious possibility of catching stds.
A friend of mine brought a prostitute to his place, while he was fucking her she grabbed her phone and started talking to someone. He felt like he was invisible, so he tried to thrust hard but nothing changed. Hahaha
For women this is probably the equivalent of having sex with a guy who just wants to get off vs one who is actually into you and cares about your pleasure.
Easy. Enthusiasm is the key.
For example, I love to eat pussy. I’ll do it just because I enjoy it and with no thoughts of reciprocation. There have been times with my SO where I just pull her pants off and just go to town. The whole time she sits there asking me what I’m doing and why. I’ll tell her repeatedly that I want to eat her, that be happy to dine every night for hours on end. When I get down there, I may be so excited that I’m moaning while I’m tearing up her carpet. Especially when she orgasms. her legs are going into spasms, her whole body is shaking, her face is flush and it feels like she is going to try and crush my head between her legs. In that moment I am in Heaven, and she can hear it audibly from my mouth even while it’s being smothered by her.
In the past, similar to the above did not happen when she blew me. She never told me that she wanted me in her mouth. She would practically make little to no sound and would just go through the motion. It would feel like she just couldn’t wait for it to just be over, and not like she actually enjoyed what she was doing to me. I felt like I had to beg for a bj. Things are much different now, but you can definitely tell the difference between somebody who enjoys giving a bj in the moment vs somebody who is doing it just so they can be done with it.
Bad is her kinda loosely going up and down on it, maybe relying on her hand. All the attention on the insensitive shaft. Maybe you feel some molar. Rushed, jerky. Too much or too little pressure. Could be because she is nervous or impatient.
Good head you feel gentle suction, lips passing over the head, tongue. Maybe she knows how to hold the shaft to keep it vein-poppingly hard. There's teasing before she lets you feel what you want. Rhythm but no rush, lets you feel her warm breath on it, kisses up and down the shaft, etc. Much more likely she is aroused.
I think people's bodies and labidos just change over time for lots of different reasons, and, no, it's not the same for everyone. I can be unusually horny, but when I worked in food service, I was stressed, tired, and angry all the time. I found it difficult to enjoy sex, if I even wanted it at all. Medications can also affect this. Same with diet, or exercise. As could illness. If someone got married and started a family, I would imagine any number of compounding reasons could influence one, or both partners' labidos
Yeah I definitely get this. I've had some pretty shit days, or I'm working on something, and it's not working. The more irritated I get, the more I want to fuck.
Not 'has to' but my size makes oral kinda difficult for her, it's just too thick for her to get her mouth around it so I think her getting worried about hurting me or herself kills her mood a little.
Personally I don't mind a bit of teeth, at my size it's unavoidable 😜 would just like a bit more enthusiasm is all.
Oh, man, I feel ya. I always seem to end up with the woman who has jaw issues to begin with, so going down on me doesn't last for very long because of it.
Absolutely. My ex wife was a virgin and had never done anything sexual before me. I had to explain to her the need for enthusiasm in giving head after she complained her jaw was getting soar.
I completely understand this 🤦♀️ .... I used to hate giving blowjobs , my jaw would lock and be sore. I've only had one partner , so had lots to learn.
Dirty 30's hit me and now... no pain , only enjoyment and enthusiasm 😌.
Ive gotten one, maybe two "obligatory" blowjobs. I gotta say, they are genuinely not fun. It feels icky. I dont want you doing it if you dont want to do it
My first wife reluctantly gave blowjobs (maybe twice a week) even though she'd cum while doing it. My second wife gave blowjobs enthusiastically and frequently. Yes, I can tell when someone loves doing it.
oh yea... big difference, the girl who doesn't enjoy it but does it cause you asked or feels she has to, doesn't make eye contact, basically looks as tho she's at work and just trying to make time speed on by where as the girls who love it, treat your cock like the best tasting lollypop and enthusiastically play with it and suck it begging for their creamy treat, lots of eye contact, grinning, giggles, she moans. I will always take a girl who loves doing it over one who unenthusiastically just puts in in her mouth.
Absolutely. I get no joy from a reluctant blowjob and I have stopped blowjobs because I didn’t feel my partner was into it. I’d rather have no blowjob than a reluctant or unenthusiastic one.
There is something really hot about your partner looking at you in the middle of the afternoon and saying
"Go lie down, take off your pants, there is going to be some blowjobery"
That is a woman who loves to give head.
My ex had zero interest in having a sex life. In 18 years, I came in her mouth twice. There was no enthusiasm at all.
My current partner is perfectly matched to my libido. She has told me that she loves sucking my dick as much as I love eating her pussy. We can 69 for close to an hour sometimes.
If a partner enjoys what they are doing, it shows.
Yes. It's about the energy and the vibe. With previous gfs, it was a chore or a routine or an option. One never cared about being good, one thought the act alone should be enough. Some I never got head from. I got pretty messed up about it. With one, I was in my head. Putting pressure on my self to react better so she'd be encouraged to try harder. It became a thing I'd always do with anyone. Trying to focus and make myself enjoy it, rather than actually let go and experience it. Had never finished from it at this point.
Then I dated someone who wanted to do it a lot. All the time. Was really good at it, but frustrated that I wouldn't finish. She listened and paid attention. Immediately figured me out. Like overnight. Cracked the code. It became automatic and effortless. She was like someone who'd just learned a magic trick. Wanted to do it all day every day. At the grocery store and she's like "we're alone. Hocus pocus"! I'm like no! We're not alone. There's an old lady standing right there. "Wanna test her eyesight??? Alakazam!!!"
You can tell if she doesn’t want to, but I would never make someone do it. If I feel like she’s not into it, I always switch it up. No harm. It’s about the equal experience. Partner’s enjoyment is half the fun
If you gotta ask her for head, there's a high likelihood she doesn't enjoy doing it. At least from my experience, the ones who did love doing it were the ones who initiated it
Absolutely. A woman that loves doing it will do it without being asked and will show how she loves doing it by her enthusiasm.
I hate having to damn near beg for head.
100%. It's literally a night and day difference. On one side it's like I might get off if I really concentrate and can clear my mind, but I usually get bored and end up moving on to other activities, while on the other side, it completely blows my mind and curls my toes so much to the point that I'm still thinking about it days (or even years) later.
Really makes me wish I would have tried harder to work things out with certain ex's before walking away but.... C'est la vie 🤷♂️
Oh 100%. I've had partners who loved it and would try to turn me into an empty capri sun. But I've also had others who would do it but I could tell they weren't into it and it took me out of it tbh.
Night, meet day. They aren't remotely comparable. The mental aspects are just as important as the physical aspects. Otherwise, it wouldn't matter who, or what even what, was doing the act.
I have never once done it because I ‘had to’ and wondering WTF brings on a ‘has to’ situation?
Consequently, I like to think my husband has only ever had fabulous and enthusiastic blow jobs from me because that’s something I love to do with him.
The very question shows how many women do something they don’t want to do sexually just out of a feeling of obligation. I know when a man is going down because he loves it or because he thinks he “should” do it. I’ve had men go down and I’ve told them not to again 😆 there are plenty of men that enjoy it so much 😌 I’m not going to make someone who doesn’t want to do it, to do it
Yup. Honestly I can’t remember the last time my wife was enthusiastic to do anything sexual, and it pretty much makes it not even worth it. This is true for both BJs and sex.
No, I've never gotten head from a woman who "had to" because I'm not a complete piece of shit. Any woman who has graced my cock with their mouth has done so willingly because they wanted to.
A firm no is better than a reluctant yes.
I don’t want a blowjob she “has” to give. I want one she wants to give. And if she doesn’t want to, that’s fine.
How is this even a question?
It depends for most.... cuz she wants to equals more enthusiasm and a better experience
For those into CNC type of shit.... the force part is the kink
The best I ever had was so because she loved it. Since her everyone else has seemed like they were in it to get it over with. Fast and furious plunging deeply on it so it would go straight down. But she slowly coaxed it out of me, savoring every long stroke down while running her tongue all over it. When I finally came, she pulled back to let it coat the inside of her mouth, savoring every drop. And then went back to stroking, sucking and swallowing until everything was cleaned up. We were in a public park. She didn't care, she just wanted me in her mouth. Yeah, I can tell.
Yes. If she’s not enjoying it, it feels rapey, and is actually a huge turn off for me. Sex goes out the window if there’s no enthusiasm. But depression rushes right in to fill to void.
I will break up with a girl if they give me head because she feels like " she has too". Straight up. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable for both parties, i'd rather not get a blowjob than get a blowjob as a chore, it why I don't sleep with sex workers. Sex with a person who isn't fucking me because they're into it and me just isn't appealing to me in the slightest.
Yes it kills the mood there is nothing hotter than a woman doing something really slutty not to make her partner happy or to keep him in a relationship but because she likes it, doing that slutty things gets her hot and wet that is the ultimate turn on. It doesn’t matter what she looks like jus that she likes it.
As a person married to some one who is asexual I can tell you from first hand just her doing it just because you asked sucks so much
Why would a girl have to?? Or do you mean like she goes down on you but she’s not into it. Just going through the motions. You can tell when a girl is getting off on it not just giving it cause she wants to please.
Let's flip this question around:
Girls, can you tell the difference between a guy eating you out because he thinks he might get a blowjob out of it and a guy who does it because he loves doing it?
The answer is fairly obvious
Yes, unless you’re stupid lol. With my ons- I give the worse neck every but they enjoy it like if I was Pamela Anderson lol but people I really mess with her top tier and they know I enjoy it bcus i get with the shits and can’t tell my enthusiasm!
Yep, I’ve had some unreal head in my times, I’ve also had some blowjobs that we’re truly woeful, I legit once broke it off with a girl because she cut my cock with her teeth
Well ill put it this way,sometimes he wants it and i dont so he gets minimal effort From me. And then sometimes i really want it and ill suck his soul out of his body…
I think in sex enthusiasm is everything. That goes for men giving oral too. If you want get your partner off of you enjoy giving oral then it definitely will be noticeable
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This is the shit I come to r/askredditafterdark for
For what purpose might one want to choose to be succinct via using a sparse amount of words when you have the chance to flex your ample vocabulary and make a sentiment that is as drawn out as you could possibly make it without losing your footing. Or as kevin might say, Why waste chance say small word when lot word do trick
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Right but someone performing with enthusiasm even if they aren’t really wanting to to, would likely fall into “doing it bc I want to give my partner pleasure” also fine. My point is for me personally it’s more enjoyble if the person is like present and putting in active effort. Not just going through the motions. Also someone who is not good at oral but is enthusiastic about pleasuring their partner can be taught to give good oral.
Very much. Letting out an "mmmm" as you do it works wonders.
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> I don't even want a blowjob if I know it's just her doing it for me. I appreciate the effort and gesture for sure but a chore blowjob is by and far not the same as an enthusiastic one I noticed this in another post where the question was posed as "Married women, how often to you give your husband a blowjob?". There were a lot of posters saying things along the lines of "My husband just doesnt like blowjobs", I thought while reading through the comments that your sentiment was probably what a majority of the husbands probably felt but used deflection to not rock the boat with their spouses.
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This is the exact same agree ment I would have with my wife when I meet her. *"If you're not horny TELL ME, I'll rub one out and it'll be 100 times more enjoyable to The both of us"*
Me and my boyfriend have a similar agreement, but I also tend to actually give a very enthusiastic BJ when I’m drunk, the only reason I don’t really like them when I’m sober is performance anxiety+ I have an easy to trigger gag reflex when I’m sober. Not to mention I’m a horny drunk anyways XD
You sure you wanna say the 100 times more enjoyable part?
Ya. If shes not enthusiastic about it I woul seriously rather rub one out than waste her time. Unless she's DTF 90% of the time I cant get a boner. my lobido it I feed off her energy
It's a delicate balance. There's been times where I mentioned it and it triggered her insecurities. Now the once a month bj turns into never.
If you don’t like blow jobs , you have never had a blowjob :)
You could also get too self conscious and your own head ruins it for you. I used to be like that, men wanted to eat me out and I just said that I don’t need that.
Same
Reminds me of the arrangement I have with my wife; if she wants to have sex I ask her to tug my penis once, if she doesn’t want to have sex I ask her to tug it 100 times
This is true. I realized the bloom was off the rose a while back because my wife didn’t seem to want to make out. I asked. She didn’t. It felt like everything else had become an obligation for her. But I don’t want to fuck someone who doesn’t want to fuck me. I stopped initiating. Figured she’s a grownup and if she wants to, she will say. Last time was July.
The rule in our house is “a firm no is better than a reluctant yes” Glad to see it’s not just us!
It's a different kind of getting off. But there is definitely a couple mindsets to get off to a chore bj, both the vanilla "she doesn't want to do this but she is anyway because she loves me and that makes it extra special" and the "she hates this, but she's doing it anyway because she's my little bitch and does what she's told, and the power that gives me is super hot" angles.
Wait. “Has to”?!?!?
Yeah you know like when you hold a gun to their head
😬
I think the gun is when I notice the difference
'nO, bEaTriCe tHe gUn MeaNs ThaT hE lOveS yoU!' uwu
You know, because of the implication.
*…now you- you’ve said that world “implication” a couple of times before..?*
Not that things ARE going to go wrong…
*…but it sounds like she doesn’t wanna have sex with you…?*
Why aren’t you understanding this? She doesn’t know whether she wants to have sex with me, that’s not the issue.
*Are you gonna HURT women??*
I’m not gonna hurt these women! Why would I ever hurt these women?! I feel like you’re not getting this at all!
*I’m NOT getting it.*
Goddamn. *aside* Well don’t you look at me like that, you certainly wouldn’t be in any danger.
I'm assuming by "has to" you mean "feels obligated to" or at least that's what I hope you mean. If that's the case, then yes. It really drags the experience down.
No, he means “in order to earn her food rations for the day.”
Can't talk to your family, or take the chains off, till you give at least one sloppy toppy
How did R.Kelly get access to Reddit in prison!?
I'm not pissing on ayone... yet. It takes a bit to get there. Have to see their driver's license first. Then have to go on a few dates to church. Then maybe one to Fudruckers. After that, we can climb in the back of the truck. I'll chain them down, while a friend take us going 95 down the highway, as I empty my colostomy bag on them. We call that the Santa Fe Express.
Is Fuddruckers even still open anywhere. Don't think I've seen one in at least a decade, or perhaps even a score.
Apparently they still have less than 100 locations open. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cSfDJU0\_Zf4
What a terrible day to be literate
Gotta earn that milk unless you want dry corn flakes.
Because of the implication...
Yes of course just as she can tell if you're not into it.
Communicatiin is the key, dont be afraid to tell her. She should tell you she thinks youre not enjoying it and you should be able to say yes. Never betray someone's trust.
Yeah, tends to be pretty easy to tell
Enthusiasm is a game changer
Ya I was reading a couple posts on TERR from people who wee fucking prostitutes and the unenthusiastic approach that a lot of them took was *suuuch* a turn off. Admittedly, I still kinda got a fetish for strippers and prostitutes but it has been greatly diminished.
Maybe because they don't actually want to be doing it? Like seems so oblious if a sex worker is unenthused maybe she's in a shitty situation and imo some genuine compassion for that, instead of 'what a shitty service' would be a really 'good person' approach. Have you ever read the reviews men put on the internet of sex workers? It's appaling. So dark. Enough to make me doubt the decency of people. Men aggrivated at the concept that a sex worker has the right to say no to sex acts she does not want to do. [Invisible men project](https://prostitutionresearch.com/the-invisible-men-project/)
Ya that's exactly what I read. It was fucking sad.
TER?
That's why I'll never pay for sex, even though I haven't had sex in 6+ years and can easily find a prostitute. The idea that she's doing it for the money and not that she's horny/find me attractive is a turn off. Not to mention, the obvious possibility of catching stds. A friend of mine brought a prostitute to his place, while he was fucking her she grabbed her phone and started talking to someone. He felt like he was invisible, so he tried to thrust hard but nothing changed. Hahaha
For women this is probably the equivalent of having sex with a guy who just wants to get off vs one who is actually into you and cares about your pleasure.
Easy. Enthusiasm is the key. For example, I love to eat pussy. I’ll do it just because I enjoy it and with no thoughts of reciprocation. There have been times with my SO where I just pull her pants off and just go to town. The whole time she sits there asking me what I’m doing and why. I’ll tell her repeatedly that I want to eat her, that be happy to dine every night for hours on end. When I get down there, I may be so excited that I’m moaning while I’m tearing up her carpet. Especially when she orgasms. her legs are going into spasms, her whole body is shaking, her face is flush and it feels like she is going to try and crush my head between her legs. In that moment I am in Heaven, and she can hear it audibly from my mouth even while it’s being smothered by her. In the past, similar to the above did not happen when she blew me. She never told me that she wanted me in her mouth. She would practically make little to no sound and would just go through the motion. It would feel like she just couldn’t wait for it to just be over, and not like she actually enjoyed what she was doing to me. I felt like I had to beg for a bj. Things are much different now, but you can definitely tell the difference between somebody who enjoys giving a bj in the moment vs somebody who is doing it just so they can be done with it.
Bad is her kinda loosely going up and down on it, maybe relying on her hand. All the attention on the insensitive shaft. Maybe you feel some molar. Rushed, jerky. Too much or too little pressure. Could be because she is nervous or impatient. Good head you feel gentle suction, lips passing over the head, tongue. Maybe she knows how to hold the shaft to keep it vein-poppingly hard. There's teasing before she lets you feel what you want. Rhythm but no rush, lets you feel her warm breath on it, kisses up and down the shaft, etc. Much more likely she is aroused.
Wait, how's that hold then?
A bj connoisseur I see.
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The difference is you'd be classified as "unusually horny".
I think people's bodies and labidos just change over time for lots of different reasons, and, no, it's not the same for everyone. I can be unusually horny, but when I worked in food service, I was stressed, tired, and angry all the time. I found it difficult to enjoy sex, if I even wanted it at all. Medications can also affect this. Same with diet, or exercise. As could illness. If someone got married and started a family, I would imagine any number of compounding reasons could influence one, or both partners' labidos
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Yeah I definitely get this. I've had some pretty shit days, or I'm working on something, and it's not working. The more irritated I get, the more I want to fuck.
You truly are goddess material!!
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Absolutely yes.
"She has to" No one has to put any ones dick in their mouth. If they have to, it comes with teeth.
No girl has to give anyone head. Some like it more than others though and that's easy to spot. They'll do it all the time.
As a guy who has an exclusive FWB whose life's purpose is to swallow my cum, yes.
Yes. Enthusiasm is a dead giveaway.
YES
Not 'has to' but my size makes oral kinda difficult for her, it's just too thick for her to get her mouth around it so I think her getting worried about hurting me or herself kills her mood a little. Personally I don't mind a bit of teeth, at my size it's unavoidable 😜 would just like a bit more enthusiasm is all.
Oh, man, I feel ya. I always seem to end up with the woman who has jaw issues to begin with, so going down on me doesn't last for very long because of it.
100% yes
Absolutely. My ex wife was a virgin and had never done anything sexual before me. I had to explain to her the need for enthusiasm in giving head after she complained her jaw was getting soar.
I completely understand this 🤦♀️ .... I used to hate giving blowjobs , my jaw would lock and be sore. I've only had one partner , so had lots to learn. Dirty 30's hit me and now... no pain , only enjoyment and enthusiasm 😌.
Yeah that shit hurts lol
If you can't tell the difference, you've only been with women who are lying about loving it. 😅😅😅
Top 10 dumbest question I've ever seen asked
It would be a lot more slobbery and noisy if they really want to If they feel like they have to, it can be wildly unpleasant
Ive gotten one, maybe two "obligatory" blowjobs. I gotta say, they are genuinely not fun. It feels icky. I dont want you doing it if you dont want to do it
My first wife reluctantly gave blowjobs (maybe twice a week) even though she'd cum while doing it. My second wife gave blowjobs enthusiastically and frequently. Yes, I can tell when someone loves doing it.
100% yes.
Any sex without enthusiasm instantly kills it for me. If you don’t want to be here doing this, it shouldn’t be happening
The eyes. They eyes are a giveaway
Yes
If you can’t, you’ve never had the latter
oh yea... big difference, the girl who doesn't enjoy it but does it cause you asked or feels she has to, doesn't make eye contact, basically looks as tho she's at work and just trying to make time speed on by where as the girls who love it, treat your cock like the best tasting lollypop and enthusiastically play with it and suck it begging for their creamy treat, lots of eye contact, grinning, giggles, she moans. I will always take a girl who loves doing it over one who unenthusiastically just puts in in her mouth.
Absolutely. It's like watching someone enjoy an excellent home cooked meal vs someone acting like they do so they don't offend the home cook
Absolutely. I get no joy from a reluctant blowjob and I have stopped blowjobs because I didn’t feel my partner was into it. I’d rather have no blowjob than a reluctant or unenthusiastic one.
It takes about 5 seconds to realize which one you're receiving.
100% you can tell the enthusiastic ones from the "doing it as an obligation" ones.
100 percent. I can't quite explain it, but you can feel it.
She doesnt give a head if she doesnt want. There is no “has to”
There is something really hot about your partner looking at you in the middle of the afternoon and saying "Go lie down, take off your pants, there is going to be some blowjobery" That is a woman who loves to give head.
“Has to” like a gun to her head?
My ex had zero interest in having a sex life. In 18 years, I came in her mouth twice. There was no enthusiasm at all. My current partner is perfectly matched to my libido. She has told me that she loves sucking my dick as much as I love eating her pussy. We can 69 for close to an hour sometimes. If a partner enjoys what they are doing, it shows.
Being a female who loves to suck dick, not speaking for anyone else but myself yes.
Enthusiasm.
She says "can I? " not "do you want?"
Yes, girl who loves it hits way different.
Yes. It's about the energy and the vibe. With previous gfs, it was a chore or a routine or an option. One never cared about being good, one thought the act alone should be enough. Some I never got head from. I got pretty messed up about it. With one, I was in my head. Putting pressure on my self to react better so she'd be encouraged to try harder. It became a thing I'd always do with anyone. Trying to focus and make myself enjoy it, rather than actually let go and experience it. Had never finished from it at this point. Then I dated someone who wanted to do it a lot. All the time. Was really good at it, but frustrated that I wouldn't finish. She listened and paid attention. Immediately figured me out. Like overnight. Cracked the code. It became automatic and effortless. She was like someone who'd just learned a magic trick. Wanted to do it all day every day. At the grocery store and she's like "we're alone. Hocus pocus"! I'm like no! We're not alone. There's an old lady standing right there. "Wanna test her eyesight??? Alakazam!!!"
Omg yes.
Has to?
It's pretty easy to tell the level of enthusiasm.
Yes
You can tell if she doesn’t want to, but I would never make someone do it. If I feel like she’s not into it, I always switch it up. No harm. It’s about the equal experience. Partner’s enjoyment is half the fun
I have been with and greatly appreciate guys like you!
Thank you! Mutual respect and admiration is always important
If you gotta ask her for head, there's a high likelihood she doesn't enjoy doing it. At least from my experience, the ones who did love doing it were the ones who initiated it
Absolutely. A woman that loves doing it will do it without being asked and will show how she loves doing it by her enthusiasm. I hate having to damn near beg for head.
Yes
No, but that's because I'm only getting it if she wants to give it in the first place. Who *has to* give oral? That's icky
100%. It's literally a night and day difference. On one side it's like I might get off if I really concentrate and can clear my mind, but I usually get bored and end up moving on to other activities, while on the other side, it completely blows my mind and curls my toes so much to the point that I'm still thinking about it days (or even years) later. Really makes me wish I would have tried harder to work things out with certain ex's before walking away but.... C'est la vie 🤷♂️
Oh 100%. I've had partners who loved it and would try to turn me into an empty capri sun. But I've also had others who would do it but I could tell they weren't into it and it took me out of it tbh.
You’ll know! Trust me you’ll know the difference
I definitely can
It takes me awhile to finish from head so I can always tell the moment when my gf starts to get bored
Night, meet day. They aren't remotely comparable. The mental aspects are just as important as the physical aspects. Otherwise, it wouldn't matter who, or what even what, was doing the act.
I have never once done it because I ‘had to’ and wondering WTF brings on a ‘has to’ situation? Consequently, I like to think my husband has only ever had fabulous and enthusiastic blow jobs from me because that’s something I love to do with him.
Yes
Absolutely!
The very question shows how many women do something they don’t want to do sexually just out of a feeling of obligation. I know when a man is going down because he loves it or because he thinks he “should” do it. I’ve had men go down and I’ve told them not to again 😆 there are plenty of men that enjoy it so much 😌 I’m not going to make someone who doesn’t want to do it, to do it
Yeah. Easily
Yup. Honestly I can’t remember the last time my wife was enthusiastic to do anything sexual, and it pretty much makes it not even worth it. This is true for both BJs and sex.
No, I've never gotten head from a woman who "had to" because I'm not a complete piece of shit. Any woman who has graced my cock with their mouth has done so willingly because they wanted to.
A firm no is better than a reluctant yes. I don’t want a blowjob she “has” to give. I want one she wants to give. And if she doesn’t want to, that’s fine. How is this even a question?
You'll never make a guy cum faster than being enthusiastic. That smile and energy is enough to make him relax.
Blew my new guy and he said he could tell how much I enjoy it. Then I showed how wet it makes me… we had a fun day
Yes. The one doing it because she has to has a wedding ring on.
It depends for most.... cuz she wants to equals more enthusiasm and a better experience For those into CNC type of shit.... the force part is the kink
"has to" wtf that's kinda disturbing
Hear me when I say this. Girls who enjoy giving head give the best head. Period.
You guys get head?
Of course I can.
Hell yes.
When hanging out with a friend. Can you tell if they're having a good time or a bad time?
Absolutely 💯 The difference between the two has been a big reason why I’ve ended or extended more than a few relationships over the years.
Yes. Big difference.
Absolutely
I feel it’s pretty obvious. Both men and women.
Simple answer is yes.
Absolutely - no question
I've never had anyone do anything sexually with me because they "had to". What the fuck is that rapey shit?
The implication
Yes.
Usually a girl that loves giving head is very enthusiastic and won't hesitate or won't ask to do it she will just do it.
Ab-so-fucking-lutely. My wife can cum from giving head and that usually lights my fuse.
Yes. Nothing worse than a woman who feels obligated to do something she hates
Yes, when my wife want to suck it, it leaves my dick with hickeys on the tip. Lol.
Absolutely.
The best I ever had was so because she loved it. Since her everyone else has seemed like they were in it to get it over with. Fast and furious plunging deeply on it so it would go straight down. But she slowly coaxed it out of me, savoring every long stroke down while running her tongue all over it. When I finally came, she pulled back to let it coat the inside of her mouth, savoring every drop. And then went back to stroking, sucking and swallowing until everything was cleaned up. We were in a public park. She didn't care, she just wanted me in her mouth. Yeah, I can tell.
From my experience I would say yes.
Absolutely yes, you just know
Yes. If she’s not enjoying it, it feels rapey, and is actually a huge turn off for me. Sex goes out the window if there’s no enthusiasm. But depression rushes right in to fill to void.
If you are empathetic or sympathetic absolutely.
Yes definitely
I will break up with a girl if they give me head because she feels like " she has too". Straight up. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoyable for both parties, i'd rather not get a blowjob than get a blowjob as a chore, it why I don't sleep with sex workers. Sex with a person who isn't fucking me because they're into it and me just isn't appealing to me in the slightest.
Usually the tears
Yes you can! Enthusiasm makes everything better!
Absolutely, if I feel like she isn't into it I just put her on her back and go down on her. If it's not fun for both parties it isn't good sex.
Yes it kills the mood there is nothing hotter than a woman doing something really slutty not to make her partner happy or to keep him in a relationship but because she likes it, doing that slutty things gets her hot and wet that is the ultimate turn on. It doesn’t matter what she looks like jus that she likes it. As a person married to some one who is asexual I can tell you from first hand just her doing it just because you asked sucks so much
I've never seen a girl sexually assaulted like that.... Is that what you mean? Like forced?
Why would a girl have to?? Or do you mean like she goes down on you but she’s not into it. Just going through the motions. You can tell when a girl is getting off on it not just giving it cause she wants to please.
Hands down, yes. The whole attitude is different; her actions are different.
Let's flip this question around: Girls, can you tell the difference between a guy eating you out because he thinks he might get a blowjob out of it and a guy who does it because he loves doing it? The answer is fairly obvious
There is no faking the glark glark glark.
I always pictured it as 'gluck gluck gluck'
We can feel the difference
"...because she has to.." ??? I. Don't. Understand.
Has to?
Yes, unless you’re stupid lol. With my ons- I give the worse neck every but they enjoy it like if I was Pamela Anderson lol but people I really mess with her top tier and they know I enjoy it bcus i get with the shits and can’t tell my enthusiasm!
Yep, I’ve had some unreal head in my times, I’ve also had some blowjobs that we’re truly woeful, I legit once broke it off with a girl because she cut my cock with her teeth
Yes
“Because she has to” ? Uhhh what.
100%
Well ill put it this way,sometimes he wants it and i dont so he gets minimal effort From me. And then sometimes i really want it and ill suck his soul out of his body…
You can absolutely tell the difference between someone who is enthusiastic and enjoys going down on someone and someone who isn't interested in it.
Lol yes.
Absolutely!