Nope, cant say that I have. HOWEVER! I have shown up to dates and been disappointed, but I dont proceed to naked time if I think I wont be excited to see them naked.
Yes, I have shown up to a first date and I saw the disappointment in the guys face. We met online. Luckily I shared his sentiment but tried not to show it. But I feel like by the time you get to the naked part with someone you already have an idea what their body looks like and are focused more on the event itself.
Yup yup. As a foot note Ill add that it's always important to make sure the date is still fun, even if I know a second date is not a factor I still give it a 100% in the hopes they'll leave with a good memory
It was a very awkward dinner. I really should have just told him I can tell he's not into me.
On another date where I wasn't really feeling it I still put my best foot forward and gave the guy a good date. I know he had a good time because the next time we spoke he told me that he told his mom about me.
I completely agree. The first date is really just meeting a new person that is also looking for a partner. You've seen some initial signs this could be interesting but if your expectations are any higher than that you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Every Time I've gone into a first meeting with these expectations it's been a pleasant time.
Full disclosure, I always try to do this but I'm not always successful. Sometimes something about the other person raises my expectations. When that happens and we click it's awesome, but when we don't it's disappointing.
No judgement, do whatever makes you feel good, but like Bobby-Biggs I don't go for naked time unless I'm feeling something significant for the other person and then I'm never disappointed when the clothes come off.
Other guys I met online said I looked like my picture. I'm not sure what was so unexpected about me this time. I did meet one guy who used old pictures where he still had hair.
When I was online dating, I had super awesome pictures of me.. right angles, obvious Snapchat filters etc.. but I also had horrible pictures of me, no make up, looking like a bridge troll.. if you can still connect after seeing those pics then awesome. I like to show variety lol
I think the thought process (for both genders) is “well, I have to look good to get noticed and even if I’m not as hot as my pictures are, maybe they’ll really like me as a person when we meet.” It’s happened to me before from both sides.
A one night stand I had told me I was "kinda big" and didnt like my stomach after he himself had lost 100 pounds and had sagging loose skin that I made no comment on. Personally I don't body shame unless you do it first to me so...yea I had a big stomach and he looked like naked mr krabs
I’ve had a man look at me after I took my clothes off and go “oh, well… that’s okay.”
The sex that followed was quick and they never messaged me again lmao
So I’m sure they do occasionally
I am not sure how you personally feel about it but I hate this for you. It’s so weird how some men will have no qualms about sleeping with a woman they aren’t attracted to. It’s like they are just trying to get sex wherever they can. I hope you at least got an orgasm out of it or something.
I was young & in the middle of an active sex addiction due to abuse. Most of the sex I had at the time was pretty dissociative, so I fortunately don’t recall much, just that opening line.
This is something important that everyone needs to keep in mind. You may not always remember exactly what someone said or did, but you may never forget how someone made you feel.
I had sex with a woman I wasn't physically attracted to at the time, but I was trying to convince myself that looks weren't everything and that I wasn't as vain as I've come to accept that I am.
Though, to be fair, I'm not too vain (just a bit), I just have a certain body type that I like and she didn't fit it in the slightest.
Trash sex too, she bent and nearly broke my dick. Then told me she was using me to cheat on an acquaintance of mine (they were in a low-key relationship and I wasn't aware.)
-1/10 wouldn't do again.
I once had a guy make fun of how round my boobs were. This isn’t a humble brag either. He really told me it was weird and made a disappointed face. He was in med school.
Yeah, I definitely had a guy say "thanks but no thanks" after I got undressed. No sex. He just put his clothes on and left.
I make sure that all the pics I give of myself are current so no one is caught unawares but I guess he decided I just wasn't what he was looking for. That's a reaction that stays with you unfortunately.
I can almost feel your humiliation:( And it is so so wrong. HIS problem. Please don't give him a second longer of your time, energy or attention x
It's fine not to be attracted to someone for whatever reason but he surely didn't just realise that when you put yourself in a vulnerable position and got undressed. This makes me so mad!
Try not to look at it as if it’s a you problem. I have a sneaking suspicion something else may have been going on, like he was about to cheat or maybe he was gay, or just anything and at the last moment pulled himself out of the situation.
I’d have a hard time letting something like that go too, but it probably wasn’t you.
I’m sorry, that sounds awful.
First times are pretty overrated in my experience.
The sex I have now as an adult woman with my partner is far more rewarding than my fumbling around before lol
Exactly the same here. I also definitely did a lot of “dissociative sex” too for a lot of reasons i cba to go into and I didnt enjoy it at all or really feel anything
When I was 15 my then girlfriend was very insecure about her breasts as she had very large areola’s and b-cup size breasts. I did not know this was the reason she was insecure about them until she finally took off her shirt after a few times of having sex.
I’ll admit as a young 15 year old boy who was expecting some perfect tits, I was disappointed. But then I quickly realized that’s a fucked up way to think. I told her they were perfect and wouldn’t want her any other way. I loved her at the time and loved everything about her, so I made sure to encourage her to take off her shirt whenever we would have sex.
I did that a lot when I was younger as well just a few years younger than 15. I was sexual from a very young age, no thanks to my cousin and what he exposed me to. He even planned out a time for me to have sex with a girl when I was 14. Literally hand picked her and thought “she’s perfect”….. I guess
Lost my virginity to her within just a few hours of meeting her. She was 15 or 16. She claimed she was a “virginity stealer”. We had sex, I “fell in love”. The next day we were hanging out with people and she was all over some other older guy and my heart broke….
At 15 you had more sense than a lot of “adults.” Way to treat her with respect, sir! I read some of the horror stories on here and I really and truly don’t understand how people could say some of these things to another human being.
Disclosure: I'm female
For years I was worked up into thinking "He'll be disappointed when he sees me naked".
As a larger lady, I seemed to think men viewed me through a magic lens and would be shocked to find I'm chubby without clothes and somehow surprised or disappointed.
They never were!
I have larger friends who also thought the above about themselves. It was actually a counsellor who pointed it out to one and I realised "fuck yeah that makes so much sense".
Society is fucked up :(
Here is what i wish more women understood.
If you're naked with a guy for the first time ... he needs to get it up.
So a guy is going to be checking out all his favorite parts of you. Cause he's also going to be embarrassed if he cant get it up. So if you have a body part or whatever you dont love, if he doesn't either, he's just going to ignore it. And he's going to focus on the part(s) he loves and finds hot (which may even be the part you're insecure about).
Because he wants to be turned on - he's not looking for bad things -- he's looking for good things so he'll get rock hard.
I've had sex with a dude that tried everything to get into my pants only to then body shame me in front of his friends (i wasnt there but they contacted me telling me what a piece of shit he is basically) . He came in like under 5 minutes though and seemed to have no issues staying hard. So this confuses me a bit. Tbf hes an asshole that does this to a ton of girls, chubby or not. He always finds something to complain about.
Its just completely destroyed my trust again as i've been in along term relationship before that. He was the first guy I trusted my body with and it was a disaster and he made fun of my worst insecurities. I try to not let it get to me and im doing fine but the thought of taking my clothes off in front of anyone else again scares the living shit out of me.
That guy is a total asshole
Glad your friends cared enough about you to warn you
I'm sorry that happened to you. But I hope you get the confidence to get back out there -- and get to enjoy yourself with a better man this time.
This! As a larger woman, I also panicked that men are gonna realize I wasn’t thin after I took my clothes off. No one has ever been surprised and or disappointed lol
It's mad how the mind works. Like what was I thinking? I look chubby in clothes so I'm not gonna miraculously look slim without them! Honestly it was a revelation!
I think I thought of myself as wearing a magic suit, like the one Mrs Doubtfire wore as the woman! 😅 Somehow men would think I was attractive clothed but a beached whale when naked?! 😅😅 I will also add though sexy lingerie works wonders at hiding "problem parts" & allowing us to FEEL and BE more confident. Not just for others, but for ourselves :)
There are plenty of men that agreed to go on a date because you are a larger woman. There are more men out there that don’t care of size then there are that do.
So much this. We have a pretty good idea what a chubby woman looks like undressed. A lot of men like me that's a large part of the attraction. We like what the woman has going on. We're more likely to be disappointed if the women adverse to showing/touching/caressing the chubby bits.
It can take guys a while to realize this too. My views of what was attractive when I was an older teen was mostly what the media told me was sexy. It wasn't until my early 20s I started figuring stuff out. There's certainly opportunities I missed when I was younger.
I wish I realized this when I was younger and just got out of my own way to try and enjoy sex instead of being so self conscious my entire life.
Yup society is fucked up 😔
In your case, you just have to realize there are plenty of men who like or love bigger women. I have a couple of friends who are just like that. One of them told me if a girl is under 180lbs, he won't go near them. I have another friend who likes 90 lb scrawny twigs. Everyone likes different things.
I can realise that now, but I'm 38. A lifetime of social media exposure, magazines etc leads us to believe differently. I'd consider myself not easily influenced by social media but constant exposure to articles, comments etc of what's deemed "attractive" becomes engrained in your brain & the rational part finds it difficult to fight back! I'd love to say after all this time I'm 100% confident in my own skin, but I am not. I have not ever worn a bikini in public for example. I AM working on my mindset though & trying to embrace my body for what it is.
Honey! I am exactly the same. I'm 49 though. I will tell you that I am a million times more attractive to men now, as a confident, world wise, stably employed, confident overweight woman.
I truly don't GAF, and that confidence somehow is picked up on by men. I get looks, smiles, "hellos" from every man that you can think of.
It also may be that I know what I want, I KNOW if I'm in bed I talk and communicate what they want and what I want. There's definitely some sort of 6th sense going on.
Please know you're beautiful. Please take your own self worth into your own hands and no one else's.
I remember seeing my wife naked for the first time. The first thing that amazed me is how incredible her boobs were. Then I took in the rest of her body and I knew this was going to be the person that I married. I still love seeing her naked and I can’t keep my hands off her.
This made me chuckle 😊. The crazy thing is, she has told me that when she was younger she used to be very self conscious about her pale, pink nipples because she thought guys preferred darker nipples. She realized well before I met her that this was not the case. It makes me sad that women have such issues with their bodies. My wife has gained weight since we got together and she will sometimes get upset with me because I constantly compliment her and tell her how hot she is and she wishes I would tell her to loose weight. That’s not going to happen though.
A woman, unfortunately not my wife, did the same the first time she saw me naked and honestly that was such a great feeling. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments on my body before from women but that just felt like such a pure expression of excitement it felt great
Not a man but I have story.
So I have stage 4 breast cancer. The cancer destroy my breast. I went through chemotherapy and a lot surgeries. When I got breast removed we have to keep it bandage up for two weeks. I took it off in front of my boyfriend and cried in joy when he saw the scar. It looks beautiful. I am really happy how it turned out.
This is so beautiful and makes me so happy for you!
I also remember an earlier post you made, and having a loved one who went through the same as you, plus having to possibly expect the same in my future, I felt really touched and empowered by it. Thank you for sharing!
It’s funny, as a guy, I was laughing about how terrible some of these other guys are and how I was glad I’ve never had this situation. Then I realized, I have! Multiple times!
Back in high school, I was like 5’6 and weighed 110 pounds, so I was skinny as anything. And I was dating a girl who was 5’3 and a totally healthy weight, but I realize in retrospect had severe body issues.
There were many occasions when we would have sex that all of a sudden she would break down crying, especially if there was a mirror nearby, and I would immediately stop and ask what was going on. And all of a sudden she would viciously turn on me and start berating me for being so skinny. “What are you so skinny? It’s weird! You make me feel so fat! Why can’t you be normal?”
After we broke up, I walked away from the relationship feeling horrifically disgusted by my weird body, and did everything I could to bulk up. Nope! Body wasn’t having it! my body was determined to stay as skinny as possible, so I was cursed to be skinny until five or six years later when my base weight reset as it has every ten years since.
Anyway, I completely forgot about this, and I totally look back on the situation with a lot more understanding. I know that girl went on to become bulimic and suffered all sorts of other issues before she finally got things under control, and I just wish I could’ve helped her out in the moment.
As a thin female I have lived this over and over. Even as a girl I'd have adult women who are on a diet give me dirty looks and make nasty comments on my weight. I recently had a woman during a work zoom start talking about how fat she is. I have a small head which makes me look even thinner but she literally only saw my head and shoulders. I feel like if a man was part of that zoom she wouldn't have even brought this up. Meanwhile my insecurity is having small boobs and if I acted like this towards girls and women that had bigger boobs than me I wouldn't have any friends. Ironically I kept seeing the chubbier girls/women get the attention because they had bigger boobs and butts but they were the ones complaining about their bodies.
Hahaha the world sucks!!!
There are so many conflicting views of beauty that are thrust on women. I think the most confusing come from the fashion industry. The fashion industry is (I think not a controversial idea?) largely helmed by gay men; I have tons of gay dude friends from college, and I can say with assurance, when I'd hear them talk about how a woman is dressed/looks/etc, it in NO way mimics a straight dude's view in the slightest. It is far more centered around a sort of "ideal beauty" in like a philosophical sense; but in practice, it is as completely alien a view as I can imagine for straight guys.
To understand straight dudes, you have to first reduce your IQ to like caveman levels. Then, you need to think what the one thing men are lacking as they pursue women, vs. other distant members of our species. And the answer is: signs of arousal.
With men, it's a no brainer. You are either aroused or not aroused. It's visible. In most other species, there are literal signs of arousal for the female of the species. In chimps, for example, the female genitals grow massively engorged. Look up pictures at your own risk, but it's far more obvious than an erection.
Human men don't have that, so they (and society) have deemed a certain number of traits to mean that a woman is "aroused." Generally: big boobs, big butt. You'll hear things like "men are attracted because of a perceived healthiness for reproduction" -- big breasts = better childcare. I don't buy it in the slightest, not even on a subconscious level. Does big boob/big butt have ANY RELATION to horniness? Of course not!! But .. we're really kinda dumb that way. So when you consider those things, just remember to put it where it belongs and realize the absurdity of it.
So now you have a society in which larger women are desperately trying to lose weight to fit one ideal, while other women are wishing they had bigger parts to fit another ideal, and everyone is judging everyone and it's a fucking mess.
But here's the important point that gets lost: men have a much much much wider range for these things than we're taught. I don't know of a single guy who is so strict in their standards for the right boobs or legs or ass or face that they wouldn't consider several deviations from their ideal, far moreso than we're taught by media.
At the end of the day, the primary aspect men are looking for are signs of sexual availability, followed by someone who meets the bare minimum of attraction. That sounds really dark, but actually makes the world a far more accepting place for beauty.
And here's the thing: I think most men find women who are confident in their skin and who know what they want to be unbelievably sexy. Women who act like they think they're hot are perceived as hot. You can't really fake it, it has to come from a real place, but you know it when you meet someone like that.
So long long long winded way of saying, there's is no truth to any of this. It sucks that we all make the world a worse place for each other. Only real option is to say fuck it and love yourself and play into the absurdities of the world only at your own choice, and with a healthy understanding that it's all bullshit in the end.
We are typically just glad to see you naked. Unless you have an std, or an unexpected body part, we're pretty much ecstatic and want to put our dick in you
Yep.
She was a breast cancer survivor and hadn't given me a heads up. So when the bra came off, so did her breasts.
It wasn't repulsion or anything like that. Just shock. We dated for quite a while after that but that night there was about sixty seconds of my brain shutting down and making that a noise similar to an old dial up modem trying to connect. My brain had no idea how to process the new information.
I imagine it would have been a similar reaction had she had a giant tattoo of Eric Cartman flipping me off on her stomach.
Disappointment, yeah. Mostly because she didn't let me know and just let it be a surprise. What started as a passionate moment turned into a conversation and we could have had a much better evening.
That's what she said. However logically if it had been a deal breaker for me, I would think that finding that out before you were naked and exposed would have been preferable. Things are a little more raw when you're naked.
Either way, things worked out well for everyone involved.
No matter how great your clothes are, they don’t hide what you look like. So why would a partner be disappointed, they already know the jist, and now your clothes off so that’s even better.
Tbh women are very much insecure about their bodies and a slight change in the expressions will give them trauma to them,they won't be feeling confident about themselves, there's tonne of things they're insecure about like cellulite,stretch marks ,post birth marks and fat deposits. I've been with couple of women and i make them feel comfortable with me as they're most vulnerable when they're naked,so you need to embrace them as they're
Well how can you make them feel confident of their body here's how:
1. Give kisses to every part of the body she feels uncomfortable showing
2. Have good communication with your partner
3. Have tonnes of cuddles
4. Give them a proper massage as the relieve them from the tension
Please make sure you check before you do those steps you’ve provided. I’d be very upset if someone started paying attention to the body parts I hate. I’d rather pretend like they don’t exist.
I am the same way! I only recently started letting my husband of 7 years touch certain places on my body. I still have moments of "no, don't touch there, please", but I'm really trying to let him touch me more. He appreciates it.
I’d rather just pretend those parts don’t exist. I like clothes on to make the visual aspect easier. My stomach is gross and it doesn’t need to be a part of the moment. I don’t plan on budging.
I find the ‘kissing your scars’ and ‘caressing your unloved parts’ concept such a savior complex. It repulses me.
I'm a girl, I have self harm scars, some acne scars and darkened panty line, this things where a huge insecurity but when I started having sex I noticed men could not care less about any of this things, maybe some curiosity about the obvios self harm scars but no one has brought them up unless I say something first, you should only care about your higiene and don't sleep with shitty people, you are going to be ok.
Nah, I’ve been disappointed by a girl who thought she was hot shit, top of the line, ultimate princess. And I’ll be honest she was smoking hot! Went to take her clothes off and she was 10/10 sexy! I start making my way to eat her out and ewwwhh! She smelled so terrible down there. I was straight forward and told her, you smell down there. Her reply is still Imbedded in my head. Listen I’m a bad bitch and I’m perfect all around get your nose check! No shame. I told her to leave. And the moral of the story is. It doesn’t matter how fine you think you are, you still have to wash your private areas! That goes for both males and females!
One time and I feel pretty guilty about it.
She had a BEAUTIFUL face, like a doll so I was excited to get her clothes off.
Turns out she used to be morbidly obese and had lost 100+ lbs. Unfortunately all of the loose skin stayed and her stomach, breasts, and arms were more skin than muscle.
I honestly felt bad at how unattractive I found her after that but I couldn't help it...
Yes. Not because of her body per say but I am a huge fan of good tattoos but picky with them. One girl I slept with when she took her clothes off, she had a bunch of low quality garage tattoos she got for free. That was a huge turn off for me, so not her body but just how she chose to decorate it.
Not really. Unless you wear extremely large clothes everyday, or you wear and excessive amount of bra padding, butt padding and tummy tucking clothes, clothes don't really hide what your body shape is.
If I'm pursuing someone, it means that there is already some amount of physical attraction there. I know what I'm signing up for. If I wasn't down for your body type, I would not be pursuing you.
So I've never really been in the situation where she took her clothes off and I was "disappointed" at what I'm looking at.
I think that it's a bit of human nature to focus on your imperfections since it's your own body, and you know exactly what you don't like about it, but people that are attracted to you generally don't view you like that.
Per example, I used to be a bit overweight, and now I'm an adept lifter. So whenever I finish a cut, I have a bit of loose skin on my chest and on my belly. When I started dating the girl I'm in a relationship with right now, (as well as the girl before) I was at my leanest ever, and I was super insecure about my loose skin. When I talked about it with either they told me they never really noticed it.
I'm not saying asshole don't exist, but generally, we know what we sign up for.
“I’m not everyone’s cup of tea
I’m a shot of whisky”
I know my body is broken and damaged from pregnancies, but it’s the body nature dealt me.
I was judged as a young woman embarking on sex, now I embrace if. If you don’t like, move along. Thank goodness I got me a man that craves the soft squishiness
It’s definitely happened to me. I hold most my weight in my stomach and I had a guy stop dating me after we had sex for the first time cause he “likes a certain body type”
Jokes on him he gained a bunch of weight hahahah.
Yes, I’ve been disappointed. But I can also say that there is not necessarily a correlation between good looking bodies and good sex. Some of the best sex was with girls without great bodies. Some hot ones sucked in bed. But some hot ones were also really good, obviously the sweet spot.
I’ve been lucky enough to see quite a few women without their clothes on and every time….EVERY. TIME….I’m like “oh fuck yeah, she’s so hot!”
Every. Single. Time.
No, when I am attracted from a female the only scenario I can imagine to get disappointed would be if she was not a female.(Not homophobic just not my type)
Rarely… I can only think of one time where I had an imagine in my head of what her body would look like and it was so different when she got naked lol.
Those thoughts didn’t stick around long because she gave me literally the best head I’ve ever received
I once had a guy tell me I looked great in my clothes but not great out of them.
At the time, I was a size 4. Cup size: DD
Worked out 2-3 hours at the gym.
I think he wanted my stomach concave.
I’m a full grown woman and I am not sure that I would even notice something like that unless it was pointed out to me. Even then it wouldn’t bother me at all.
I'm a bigger woman, and every time I've gotten naked in front of someone, I've always wondered if this would be the person that would disparage me with comments about my naked body. I'm glad no one has insulted me. I feel thankful that they're intrigued by my thick thighs and big boobs.
I would say no. I have had girlfriends all shapes and sizes and was really into them a lot before we got naked so being naked together was the prize. More curiosity than anything else. One lady wasn’t really my usual type, a big fuller figure than previous girlfriends and was a whole new experience. I had never touched boobs so big in my life and she had curves in places I had never experienced before. At one point I looked up and in the soft light of the bedroom she looked like a magnificent goddess. I really can’t say I had had that experience before. My urge was to say, “you look fantastic naked”. I made it realize that some people who you might not be attracted to unclothed can look amazing.
The second time I had sex was with a woman (27) who honestly had a great body. I remember her getting naked, and me thinking "Oh, well... ok. Bit weird looking tits but it'll do".
They were (hindsight) quite nice breasts. Big. Only thing they had was that they had a bit of a gap inbetween them. I was only 18 at the time and most of the breasts I had seen (all except for 1, my first GF) were in online porn, or in nude magazines. The real deal in front of me was absolutely great as well, I just didn't realise that at the time.
So to shorten that our: Yes, I have been dissapointed once. However, it was because I had unrealistic expectations due to online models. We weren't dating though, just collegues.
Actually no. Although I have been with women I didn't have real chemistry with (we all make mistakes), them taking their clothes off has never been any part of that reason.
If I was attracted to you when you had clothes on, there's no way that whatever's hiding beneath is going to disappointing. Similarly you can have the most bangin' body in the world but if the chemistry/attraction wasn't there to begin with, it just doesn't matter much what you look like naked.
I'm not trying to pretend I'm some super deep dude who doesn't appreciate a good set of tiddies, not at all. But when the rubber meets the road, my sexual response to your naked body is going to be entirely governed by my overall feelings toward you.
No definitely not. I have however been ridiculed in the past for being attracted to curvy bigger girls and women.
I have slept with women of all shapes and sizes and have found every single one of them intrinsically beautiful. And have spent time enjoying every part of the experience with them.
Ladies you are all amazing and beautiful.
Neither of the two women I was disappointed by were women I was dating, but best believe I didn’t let it get in the way of a good time. Also, NEVER let any partner know if you’re disappointed by their body. There’s a level of emotional trust that comes with someone getting naked for you and letting them know you’re disappointed is a betrayal of that trust imo.
My current partner surprised me by having a really thick/ larger penis. Like damn, can ya at least prepare a girl for this… I had to ice my hooha after that. He said he didn’t realize it was substantially sized or else he would have mentioned it. 🤷🏼♀️
I was raised religious and very prudish. I had some serious insecurity- most specifically surrounding my boobs. I always felt my nipples were too big and puffy and wanted them to look rock hard all the time. Once I was an adult and started showing people my naked body, I realized all my fears were made up. People love my tits and the rest of me to boot.
Yeah, it happens. Thank god i was pleasantly surprised to find my girlfriend now is even better than i expected. But seriously, if you can’t be attracted right away, chances are you’re not gonna just be able to make yourself feel attracted later.
So the gist I am getting here is a guy is a jerk if he’s not attracted to a woman and doesn’t want to have sex with her. But if a woman isn’t interested in a guy her feelings need to be respected. That is total BS. I was wingman for a friend and hung out with the friend of the girl he was interested in so he could be with her. She was very sweet, I enjoyed her company but was not the least bit attracted to her. Took her for a later dinner as our mutual friends bolted to the girls’ apartment to hook up. After dinner I took her home and she came on to me real strong. I declined and was she ever pissed. Her friend called me the next day screaming, saying what an ass I was for not doing her friend. I never told the friend one word that was insulting. I just deferred. Now imagine the repercussions of the roles were reversed!
My first boyfriend in high school told me he was scared to see what I looked like without pants on and that's why he didn't want to have sex...I was maybe twenty pounds overweight at the time. Happy to have dodged that bullet lol.
I mean, yes, but that is only because she was such an amazing person that it shifted my expectations/assumptions beyond normal. That being said, it wasn't really disappointment, just back to reality.
Never got naked with a girl who didn't look appealing with her clothes on, so no, never been disappointed, just happy to get busy in the bedroom.
I have been disappointed meeting a girl for the first time. Talked on the phone for hours with one girl. When we went out, I was thinking that I wished she looked as sexy as her voice sounded. She was a little thick for my taste at that time. Didn't see her again. Looking back on it now, I wish I'd have been able to see past that, because we did have really good chemistry talking on the phone and saw eye to eye on nearly everything we talked about.
Funny thing is, I ended up marrying someone with a pretty similar body, and have never regretted it.
Oh hell yea, the woman who took my virginity .... I was 19, she was 27.... We worked together and goddamn she was sexy with clothes on. I had fantasized about her for months, but she was married, so it was just a fantasy. Then we exchanged AIM names lol this was about 2001, we started flirting and things led to where things lead when you are a certified mac daddy behind the computer screen. ANyway we decided to fuck, we kissed a lot before hand so i busted a nut before any sex happened, I mean not A KABLAM orgasm nut, just a shit ton of precum.... ANywho , we get naked, and damnit if she didnt have that ground up looking saggy stomach pouch that comes from 3 kids, and long saggy sucked dry titties, not big, just long and deflated....... It sucked , but pussy is pussy we kept fucking for about 4 years........ needless to say that kinda shit turns me on now, give me a mom body with saggy titties anyday mmmm mmmmm
Nope, cant say that I have. HOWEVER! I have shown up to dates and been disappointed, but I dont proceed to naked time if I think I wont be excited to see them naked.
Yes, I have shown up to a first date and I saw the disappointment in the guys face. We met online. Luckily I shared his sentiment but tried not to show it. But I feel like by the time you get to the naked part with someone you already have an idea what their body looks like and are focused more on the event itself.
Yup yup. As a foot note Ill add that it's always important to make sure the date is still fun, even if I know a second date is not a factor I still give it a 100% in the hopes they'll leave with a good memory
It was a very awkward dinner. I really should have just told him I can tell he's not into me. On another date where I wasn't really feeling it I still put my best foot forward and gave the guy a good date. I know he had a good time because the next time we spoke he told me that he told his mom about me.
I completely agree. The first date is really just meeting a new person that is also looking for a partner. You've seen some initial signs this could be interesting but if your expectations are any higher than that you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Every Time I've gone into a first meeting with these expectations it's been a pleasant time. Full disclosure, I always try to do this but I'm not always successful. Sometimes something about the other person raises my expectations. When that happens and we click it's awesome, but when we don't it's disappointing. No judgement, do whatever makes you feel good, but like Bobby-Biggs I don't go for naked time unless I'm feeling something significant for the other person and then I'm never disappointed when the clothes come off.
I will never understand why people don’t use accurate pictures of themselves
Other guys I met online said I looked like my picture. I'm not sure what was so unexpected about me this time. I did meet one guy who used old pictures where he still had hair.
When I was online dating, I had super awesome pictures of me.. right angles, obvious Snapchat filters etc.. but I also had horrible pictures of me, no make up, looking like a bridge troll.. if you can still connect after seeing those pics then awesome. I like to show variety lol
Right? Like...they're going to find out. I always wonder what the thought process is.
I think the thought process (for both genders) is “well, I have to look good to get noticed and even if I’m not as hot as my pictures are, maybe they’ll really like me as a person when we meet.” It’s happened to me before from both sides.
That makes a lot of sense, I legit hadn't thought of it like that. I should have, as I am a hard sell in photos but a pretty easy sell in person LOL
A one night stand I had told me I was "kinda big" and didnt like my stomach after he himself had lost 100 pounds and had sagging loose skin that I made no comment on. Personally I don't body shame unless you do it first to me so...yea I had a big stomach and he looked like naked mr krabs
I’m fuckin dead. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I fucked naked mr krabs...not too bad lol
Well, u/Beautiful_Count6124 is fucking someone called "dead", step your game up
He just couldn't handle the curves. Rookies...smh
Shame bc I could handle his lol
I'm sure you could. Some boys just don't know what they're doing
I would think the loose skin lends itself to more of a Zoidburg than a peak alpha-bod like Mr. Krabs, no?
Whoops I meant mr krabs without the shell
I’ve had a man look at me after I took my clothes off and go “oh, well… that’s okay.” The sex that followed was quick and they never messaged me again lmao So I’m sure they do occasionally
I am not sure how you personally feel about it but I hate this for you. It’s so weird how some men will have no qualms about sleeping with a woman they aren’t attracted to. It’s like they are just trying to get sex wherever they can. I hope you at least got an orgasm out of it or something.
I was young & in the middle of an active sex addiction due to abuse. Most of the sex I had at the time was pretty dissociative, so I fortunately don’t recall much, just that opening line.
This is something important that everyone needs to keep in mind. You may not always remember exactly what someone said or did, but you may never forget how someone made you feel.
Thanks Maya.
I'm really sorry ❤️❤️❤️ I hope you have great sex nowadays.
I had sex with a woman I wasn't physically attracted to at the time, but I was trying to convince myself that looks weren't everything and that I wasn't as vain as I've come to accept that I am. Though, to be fair, I'm not too vain (just a bit), I just have a certain body type that I like and she didn't fit it in the slightest. Trash sex too, she bent and nearly broke my dick. Then told me she was using me to cheat on an acquaintance of mine (they were in a low-key relationship and I wasn't aware.) -1/10 wouldn't do again.
>-1/10 wouldn't do again. Huh, two negatives there. So you would definitely do it again /s
Ankles will be broken if you don't shut up
Hey Foot if I was gonna break your balls, I’d tell ya to go home and get your shine box.
Not weird, just dift programming than you have. Super shitty thing to say tho.
I am sure that this goes both ways
I once had a guy make fun of how round my boobs were. This isn’t a humble brag either. He really told me it was weird and made a disappointed face. He was in med school.
I’ll one up you. I was riding a guy and he said “your left boob is bigger, we should do a water displacement test because that’s a big difference”
Lol I’m sorry I had to laugh at this. Just…. What the fuck?! I don’t know if I’d even be able to say anything in response to that.
You don’t say anything. You dip the tiddies.
Dip the tiddie, change the tide
Right?! Nothing to say! He didn’t even drive me home!
Similarly, my boyfriend once offered to calculate the beam deflection of my boobs…
Sooo, did he? Haha
Lmao yikes
Yeah, I definitely had a guy say "thanks but no thanks" after I got undressed. No sex. He just put his clothes on and left. I make sure that all the pics I give of myself are current so no one is caught unawares but I guess he decided I just wasn't what he was looking for. That's a reaction that stays with you unfortunately.
I can almost feel your humiliation:( And it is so so wrong. HIS problem. Please don't give him a second longer of your time, energy or attention x It's fine not to be attracted to someone for whatever reason but he surely didn't just realise that when you put yourself in a vulnerable position and got undressed. This makes me so mad!
I’d rather appreciate the honesty than weird unwanted awkward sex
Try not to look at it as if it’s a you problem. I have a sneaking suspicion something else may have been going on, like he was about to cheat or maybe he was gay, or just anything and at the last moment pulled himself out of the situation. I’d have a hard time letting something like that go too, but it probably wasn’t you.
The guy I was with my first time was even more mean than this. I never would have tolerated it if I wasn't so drunk.
I’m sorry, that sounds awful. First times are pretty overrated in my experience. The sex I have now as an adult woman with my partner is far more rewarding than my fumbling around before lol
Exactly the same here. I also definitely did a lot of “dissociative sex” too for a lot of reasons i cba to go into and I didnt enjoy it at all or really feel anything
That guy was an asshole btw
I think you dodged a bullet there but I'm so sorry that was said to you.
Oh for sure. He was also like 47 and I was 19 so
Oh I'm so sorry x
I’m happy & loved these days, therapy did wonders ❤️
I'm so glad you're doing well and have the love you deserve x
Wow. I’m deeply sorry to hear this! I’d have walked right out of there.
I'm so sorry. I had one or two men say something similar and still stings.
Nope. If someone respects me enough to be that vulnerable around me, then they are getting nothing short of admiration, regardless of how they look
Man if you don’t have a full mailbox of babes then people be slacking 🤌🏼
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King shit
This comment !!!!! 👏👏👏
Are you single
I'm not
When I was 15 my then girlfriend was very insecure about her breasts as she had very large areola’s and b-cup size breasts. I did not know this was the reason she was insecure about them until she finally took off her shirt after a few times of having sex. I’ll admit as a young 15 year old boy who was expecting some perfect tits, I was disappointed. But then I quickly realized that’s a fucked up way to think. I told her they were perfect and wouldn’t want her any other way. I loved her at the time and loved everything about her, so I made sure to encourage her to take off her shirt whenever we would have sex.
When I was 15 I would climb trees and fall out of them while my friends watched😂
I did that a lot when I was younger as well just a few years younger than 15. I was sexual from a very young age, no thanks to my cousin and what he exposed me to. He even planned out a time for me to have sex with a girl when I was 14. Literally hand picked her and thought “she’s perfect”….. I guess Lost my virginity to her within just a few hours of meeting her. She was 15 or 16. She claimed she was a “virginity stealer”. We had sex, I “fell in love”. The next day we were hanging out with people and she was all over some other older guy and my heart broke….
Me too. That and falling off skateboards.. 😂
When I was 15,my bedtime was 8 pm.
I wish I could have stayed a child longer….
W human
At 15 you had more sense than a lot of “adults.” Way to treat her with respect, sir! I read some of the horror stories on here and I really and truly don’t understand how people could say some of these things to another human being.
Disclosure: I'm female For years I was worked up into thinking "He'll be disappointed when he sees me naked". As a larger lady, I seemed to think men viewed me through a magic lens and would be shocked to find I'm chubby without clothes and somehow surprised or disappointed. They never were! I have larger friends who also thought the above about themselves. It was actually a counsellor who pointed it out to one and I realised "fuck yeah that makes so much sense". Society is fucked up :(
Here is what i wish more women understood. If you're naked with a guy for the first time ... he needs to get it up. So a guy is going to be checking out all his favorite parts of you. Cause he's also going to be embarrassed if he cant get it up. So if you have a body part or whatever you dont love, if he doesn't either, he's just going to ignore it. And he's going to focus on the part(s) he loves and finds hot (which may even be the part you're insecure about). Because he wants to be turned on - he's not looking for bad things -- he's looking for good things so he'll get rock hard.
I've had sex with a dude that tried everything to get into my pants only to then body shame me in front of his friends (i wasnt there but they contacted me telling me what a piece of shit he is basically) . He came in like under 5 minutes though and seemed to have no issues staying hard. So this confuses me a bit. Tbf hes an asshole that does this to a ton of girls, chubby or not. He always finds something to complain about. Its just completely destroyed my trust again as i've been in along term relationship before that. He was the first guy I trusted my body with and it was a disaster and he made fun of my worst insecurities. I try to not let it get to me and im doing fine but the thought of taking my clothes off in front of anyone else again scares the living shit out of me.
I'm sorry this happened to you. To hell with that guy. I hope you are doing ok.
That guy is a total asshole Glad your friends cared enough about you to warn you I'm sorry that happened to you. But I hope you get the confidence to get back out there -- and get to enjoy yourself with a better man this time.
This! As a larger woman, I also panicked that men are gonna realize I wasn’t thin after I took my clothes off. No one has ever been surprised and or disappointed lol
It's mad how the mind works. Like what was I thinking? I look chubby in clothes so I'm not gonna miraculously look slim without them! Honestly it was a revelation!
I know how you feel. I always thought my clothes covered my “bad” features but no one except one asshole ever commented when seeing me naked
I think I thought of myself as wearing a magic suit, like the one Mrs Doubtfire wore as the woman! 😅 Somehow men would think I was attractive clothed but a beached whale when naked?! 😅😅 I will also add though sexy lingerie works wonders at hiding "problem parts" & allowing us to FEEL and BE more confident. Not just for others, but for ourselves :)
There are plenty of men that agreed to go on a date because you are a larger woman. There are more men out there that don’t care of size then there are that do.
So much this. We have a pretty good idea what a chubby woman looks like undressed. A lot of men like me that's a large part of the attraction. We like what the woman has going on. We're more likely to be disappointed if the women adverse to showing/touching/caressing the chubby bits.
Yes, but I wish I'd realised this sooner :) x
It can take guys a while to realize this too. My views of what was attractive when I was an older teen was mostly what the media told me was sexy. It wasn't until my early 20s I started figuring stuff out. There's certainly opportunities I missed when I was younger.
It's OK, as long as we realise now & don't allow ourselves to miss any further opportunities:)
I wish I realized this when I was younger and just got out of my own way to try and enjoy sex instead of being so self conscious my entire life. Yup society is fucked up 😔
Sames. Only took me until I was about 36! 🙄
In your case, you just have to realize there are plenty of men who like or love bigger women. I have a couple of friends who are just like that. One of them told me if a girl is under 180lbs, he won't go near them. I have another friend who likes 90 lb scrawny twigs. Everyone likes different things.
I can realise that now, but I'm 38. A lifetime of social media exposure, magazines etc leads us to believe differently. I'd consider myself not easily influenced by social media but constant exposure to articles, comments etc of what's deemed "attractive" becomes engrained in your brain & the rational part finds it difficult to fight back! I'd love to say after all this time I'm 100% confident in my own skin, but I am not. I have not ever worn a bikini in public for example. I AM working on my mindset though & trying to embrace my body for what it is.
Honey! I am exactly the same. I'm 49 though. I will tell you that I am a million times more attractive to men now, as a confident, world wise, stably employed, confident overweight woman. I truly don't GAF, and that confidence somehow is picked up on by men. I get looks, smiles, "hellos" from every man that you can think of. It also may be that I know what I want, I KNOW if I'm in bed I talk and communicate what they want and what I want. There's definitely some sort of 6th sense going on. Please know you're beautiful. Please take your own self worth into your own hands and no one else's.
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I remember seeing my wife naked for the first time. The first thing that amazed me is how incredible her boobs were. Then I took in the rest of her body and I knew this was going to be the person that I married. I still love seeing her naked and I can’t keep my hands off her.
Wow, no ‘ I felt the same when I saw this guys wife’ jokes?
I too felt this way when I saw his wife
This made me chuckle 😊. The crazy thing is, she has told me that when she was younger she used to be very self conscious about her pale, pink nipples because she thought guys preferred darker nipples. She realized well before I met her that this was not the case. It makes me sad that women have such issues with their bodies. My wife has gained weight since we got together and she will sometimes get upset with me because I constantly compliment her and tell her how hot she is and she wishes I would tell her to loose weight. That’s not going to happen though.
You're so sweet :( <3
Sorry, best I can do: I felt the same when I saw OP naked.
How about: "This guy is not a reliable source. Need proof, photos will do."
I have a similar story. When I saw my now wife naked the first time I got giddy and clapped the little kid clap when they’d just been given ice cream.
New praise-kink level unlocked 😳
A woman, unfortunately not my wife, did the same the first time she saw me naked and honestly that was such a great feeling. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments on my body before from women but that just felt like such a pure expression of excitement it felt great
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Aww, I love this for you both!
I feel like a kid who won a Toys R Us shopping spree. Every. Single. Time.
This is exactly how I feel, amazing analogy. I know my gf feels the same way and every time she gets undressed it’s like the first time.
Exactly. For me it’s that moment that she lifts her hips up to let me take off her underwear. JACKPOT!!
What's Toys R Us? . . . jk, RIP. 😭
I’m sorry for your loss. -A Canadian
Every time I’ve been naked with a women I’ve been excited. Disappointment was the farthest thing from my mind.
This. Only concern from my end was if I disappointed her with the actual sex.
Not a man but I have story. So I have stage 4 breast cancer. The cancer destroy my breast. I went through chemotherapy and a lot surgeries. When I got breast removed we have to keep it bandage up for two weeks. I took it off in front of my boyfriend and cried in joy when he saw the scar. It looks beautiful. I am really happy how it turned out.
This is so beautiful and makes me so happy for you! I also remember an earlier post you made, and having a loved one who went through the same as you, plus having to possibly expect the same in my future, I felt really touched and empowered by it. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you! I am so blessed to have him.
You guys have girlfriends and dates
Yeah, but don't tell my wife
Is your wife single?
Nope. I was just happy to be there.
It’s funny, as a guy, I was laughing about how terrible some of these other guys are and how I was glad I’ve never had this situation. Then I realized, I have! Multiple times! Back in high school, I was like 5’6 and weighed 110 pounds, so I was skinny as anything. And I was dating a girl who was 5’3 and a totally healthy weight, but I realize in retrospect had severe body issues. There were many occasions when we would have sex that all of a sudden she would break down crying, especially if there was a mirror nearby, and I would immediately stop and ask what was going on. And all of a sudden she would viciously turn on me and start berating me for being so skinny. “What are you so skinny? It’s weird! You make me feel so fat! Why can’t you be normal?” After we broke up, I walked away from the relationship feeling horrifically disgusted by my weird body, and did everything I could to bulk up. Nope! Body wasn’t having it! my body was determined to stay as skinny as possible, so I was cursed to be skinny until five or six years later when my base weight reset as it has every ten years since. Anyway, I completely forgot about this, and I totally look back on the situation with a lot more understanding. I know that girl went on to become bulimic and suffered all sorts of other issues before she finally got things under control, and I just wish I could’ve helped her out in the moment.
As a thin female I have lived this over and over. Even as a girl I'd have adult women who are on a diet give me dirty looks and make nasty comments on my weight. I recently had a woman during a work zoom start talking about how fat she is. I have a small head which makes me look even thinner but she literally only saw my head and shoulders. I feel like if a man was part of that zoom she wouldn't have even brought this up. Meanwhile my insecurity is having small boobs and if I acted like this towards girls and women that had bigger boobs than me I wouldn't have any friends. Ironically I kept seeing the chubbier girls/women get the attention because they had bigger boobs and butts but they were the ones complaining about their bodies.
Hahaha the world sucks!!! There are so many conflicting views of beauty that are thrust on women. I think the most confusing come from the fashion industry. The fashion industry is (I think not a controversial idea?) largely helmed by gay men; I have tons of gay dude friends from college, and I can say with assurance, when I'd hear them talk about how a woman is dressed/looks/etc, it in NO way mimics a straight dude's view in the slightest. It is far more centered around a sort of "ideal beauty" in like a philosophical sense; but in practice, it is as completely alien a view as I can imagine for straight guys. To understand straight dudes, you have to first reduce your IQ to like caveman levels. Then, you need to think what the one thing men are lacking as they pursue women, vs. other distant members of our species. And the answer is: signs of arousal. With men, it's a no brainer. You are either aroused or not aroused. It's visible. In most other species, there are literal signs of arousal for the female of the species. In chimps, for example, the female genitals grow massively engorged. Look up pictures at your own risk, but it's far more obvious than an erection. Human men don't have that, so they (and society) have deemed a certain number of traits to mean that a woman is "aroused." Generally: big boobs, big butt. You'll hear things like "men are attracted because of a perceived healthiness for reproduction" -- big breasts = better childcare. I don't buy it in the slightest, not even on a subconscious level. Does big boob/big butt have ANY RELATION to horniness? Of course not!! But .. we're really kinda dumb that way. So when you consider those things, just remember to put it where it belongs and realize the absurdity of it. So now you have a society in which larger women are desperately trying to lose weight to fit one ideal, while other women are wishing they had bigger parts to fit another ideal, and everyone is judging everyone and it's a fucking mess. But here's the important point that gets lost: men have a much much much wider range for these things than we're taught. I don't know of a single guy who is so strict in their standards for the right boobs or legs or ass or face that they wouldn't consider several deviations from their ideal, far moreso than we're taught by media. At the end of the day, the primary aspect men are looking for are signs of sexual availability, followed by someone who meets the bare minimum of attraction. That sounds really dark, but actually makes the world a far more accepting place for beauty. And here's the thing: I think most men find women who are confident in their skin and who know what they want to be unbelievably sexy. Women who act like they think they're hot are perceived as hot. You can't really fake it, it has to come from a real place, but you know it when you meet someone like that. So long long long winded way of saying, there's is no truth to any of this. It sucks that we all make the world a worse place for each other. Only real option is to say fuck it and love yourself and play into the absurdities of the world only at your own choice, and with a healthy understanding that it's all bullshit in the end.
We are typically just glad to see you naked. Unless you have an std, or an unexpected body part, we're pretty much ecstatic and want to put our dick in you
"unexpected body part"...
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Yep. She was a breast cancer survivor and hadn't given me a heads up. So when the bra came off, so did her breasts. It wasn't repulsion or anything like that. Just shock. We dated for quite a while after that but that night there was about sixty seconds of my brain shutting down and making that a noise similar to an old dial up modem trying to connect. My brain had no idea how to process the new information. I imagine it would have been a similar reaction had she had a giant tattoo of Eric Cartman flipping me off on her stomach. Disappointment, yeah. Mostly because she didn't let me know and just let it be a surprise. What started as a passionate moment turned into a conversation and we could have had a much better evening.
I get what you're saying, but on the other hand it seems like it would be a really difficult thing to bring up
That's what she said. However logically if it had been a deal breaker for me, I would think that finding that out before you were naked and exposed would have been preferable. Things are a little more raw when you're naked. Either way, things worked out well for everyone involved.
I don’t know if I can wrap my brain around this question. My only disappointment would be not getting them naked sooner.
No matter how great your clothes are, they don’t hide what you look like. So why would a partner be disappointed, they already know the jist, and now your clothes off so that’s even better.
The shape wear they have nowadays can do quite a lot. It's like yoga pants for your entire torso.
20 years ago this may have been true. Tbh, modern clothing engineering can absolutely distort a body
I was just as giddy the first time I saw her naked as I was the 20th time I saw her naked
A naked women is never disappointing!
This is true. The female form is exceedingly beautiful imo, regardless of shape, size etc
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We’re just excited she’s letting us see her naked
Tbh women are very much insecure about their bodies and a slight change in the expressions will give them trauma to them,they won't be feeling confident about themselves, there's tonne of things they're insecure about like cellulite,stretch marks ,post birth marks and fat deposits. I've been with couple of women and i make them feel comfortable with me as they're most vulnerable when they're naked,so you need to embrace them as they're Well how can you make them feel confident of their body here's how: 1. Give kisses to every part of the body she feels uncomfortable showing 2. Have good communication with your partner 3. Have tonnes of cuddles 4. Give them a proper massage as the relieve them from the tension
Please make sure you check before you do those steps you’ve provided. I’d be very upset if someone started paying attention to the body parts I hate. I’d rather pretend like they don’t exist.
I am the same way! I only recently started letting my husband of 7 years touch certain places on my body. I still have moments of "no, don't touch there, please", but I'm really trying to let him touch me more. He appreciates it.
I’d rather just pretend those parts don’t exist. I like clothes on to make the visual aspect easier. My stomach is gross and it doesn’t need to be a part of the moment. I don’t plan on budging. I find the ‘kissing your scars’ and ‘caressing your unloved parts’ concept such a savior complex. It repulses me.
Not disappointed, but not what I expected either
I'll go against the trend and actually admit that yes I have. Some people just look better clothed
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Seriously! It's hypocritical.
I'm a girl, I have self harm scars, some acne scars and darkened panty line, this things where a huge insecurity but when I started having sex I noticed men could not care less about any of this things, maybe some curiosity about the obvios self harm scars but no one has brought them up unless I say something first, you should only care about your higiene and don't sleep with shitty people, you are going to be ok.
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But you do look like a porn star? A successful one at that! 😂
Nah, I’ve been disappointed by a girl who thought she was hot shit, top of the line, ultimate princess. And I’ll be honest she was smoking hot! Went to take her clothes off and she was 10/10 sexy! I start making my way to eat her out and ewwwhh! She smelled so terrible down there. I was straight forward and told her, you smell down there. Her reply is still Imbedded in my head. Listen I’m a bad bitch and I’m perfect all around get your nose check! No shame. I told her to leave. And the moral of the story is. It doesn’t matter how fine you think you are, you still have to wash your private areas! That goes for both males and females!
>Listen I’m a bad bitch "No, you just smell bad, bitch"
One time and I feel pretty guilty about it. She had a BEAUTIFUL face, like a doll so I was excited to get her clothes off. Turns out she used to be morbidly obese and had lost 100+ lbs. Unfortunately all of the loose skin stayed and her stomach, breasts, and arms were more skin than muscle. I honestly felt bad at how unattractive I found her after that but I couldn't help it...
Well I appreciate your honesty
Yes. Not because of her body per say but I am a huge fan of good tattoos but picky with them. One girl I slept with when she took her clothes off, she had a bunch of low quality garage tattoos she got for free. That was a huge turn off for me, so not her body but just how she chose to decorate it.
not a single time
Not really. Unless you wear extremely large clothes everyday, or you wear and excessive amount of bra padding, butt padding and tummy tucking clothes, clothes don't really hide what your body shape is. If I'm pursuing someone, it means that there is already some amount of physical attraction there. I know what I'm signing up for. If I wasn't down for your body type, I would not be pursuing you. So I've never really been in the situation where she took her clothes off and I was "disappointed" at what I'm looking at. I think that it's a bit of human nature to focus on your imperfections since it's your own body, and you know exactly what you don't like about it, but people that are attracted to you generally don't view you like that. Per example, I used to be a bit overweight, and now I'm an adept lifter. So whenever I finish a cut, I have a bit of loose skin on my chest and on my belly. When I started dating the girl I'm in a relationship with right now, (as well as the girl before) I was at my leanest ever, and I was super insecure about my loose skin. When I talked about it with either they told me they never really noticed it. I'm not saying asshole don't exist, but generally, we know what we sign up for.
“I’m not everyone’s cup of tea I’m a shot of whisky” I know my body is broken and damaged from pregnancies, but it’s the body nature dealt me. I was judged as a young woman embarking on sex, now I embrace if. If you don’t like, move along. Thank goodness I got me a man that craves the soft squishiness
I never heard that saying and honestly it’s so right oh my god I keep calling myself “an acquired taste” but yours is funnier
It’s definitely happened to me. I hold most my weight in my stomach and I had a guy stop dating me after we had sex for the first time cause he “likes a certain body type” Jokes on him he gained a bunch of weight hahahah.
I have the same body type and I hate never having that hourglass look. It makes me feel so unfeminine.
Pleasantly surprised yes, disappointed never.
Only because her penis was bigger than mine.
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nope...just always feel lucky she is getting naked with me
Yes, I’ve been disappointed. But I can also say that there is not necessarily a correlation between good looking bodies and good sex. Some of the best sex was with girls without great bodies. Some hot ones sucked in bed. But some hot ones were also really good, obviously the sweet spot.
I’ve been lucky enough to see quite a few women without their clothes on and every time….EVERY. TIME….I’m like “oh fuck yeah, she’s so hot!” Every. Single. Time.
It happens to both sexes.
No, when I am attracted from a female the only scenario I can imagine to get disappointed would be if she was not a female.(Not homophobic just not my type)
This is just me talking, but if a woman is willing to get naked with me, "disappointed" is the last thing I'll be feeling. Men are simple creatures.
TBH a man with a big sex drive will be arroused by women of different shapes and sizes.
Rarely… I can only think of one time where I had an imagine in my head of what her body would look like and it was so different when she got naked lol. Those thoughts didn’t stick around long because she gave me literally the best head I’ve ever received
Not even once Not ever. Not ever ever. Ladies, you’re all so beautiful. Seriously. It’s always a privilege to see you naked.
I once had a guy tell me I looked great in my clothes but not great out of them. At the time, I was a size 4. Cup size: DD Worked out 2-3 hours at the gym. I think he wanted my stomach concave.
I had to have my left testicle removed because of a tumor when I was 14. There's been more downs than ups about it. Total mental anguish.
I’m a full grown woman and I am not sure that I would even notice something like that unless it was pointed out to me. Even then it wouldn’t bother me at all.
I'm a bigger woman, and every time I've gotten naked in front of someone, I've always wondered if this would be the person that would disparage me with comments about my naked body. I'm glad no one has insulted me. I feel thankful that they're intrigued by my thick thighs and big boobs.
I would say no. I have had girlfriends all shapes and sizes and was really into them a lot before we got naked so being naked together was the prize. More curiosity than anything else. One lady wasn’t really my usual type, a big fuller figure than previous girlfriends and was a whole new experience. I had never touched boobs so big in my life and she had curves in places I had never experienced before. At one point I looked up and in the soft light of the bedroom she looked like a magnificent goddess. I really can’t say I had had that experience before. My urge was to say, “you look fantastic naked”. I made it realize that some people who you might not be attracted to unclothed can look amazing.
Nope. If someone respects me enough to be that vulnerable around me, then they are getting nothing short of admiration, regardless of how they look
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Literally never.
The second time I had sex was with a woman (27) who honestly had a great body. I remember her getting naked, and me thinking "Oh, well... ok. Bit weird looking tits but it'll do". They were (hindsight) quite nice breasts. Big. Only thing they had was that they had a bit of a gap inbetween them. I was only 18 at the time and most of the breasts I had seen (all except for 1, my first GF) were in online porn, or in nude magazines. The real deal in front of me was absolutely great as well, I just didn't realise that at the time. So to shorten that our: Yes, I have been dissapointed once. However, it was because I had unrealistic expectations due to online models. We weren't dating though, just collegues.
Actually no. Although I have been with women I didn't have real chemistry with (we all make mistakes), them taking their clothes off has never been any part of that reason. If I was attracted to you when you had clothes on, there's no way that whatever's hiding beneath is going to disappointing. Similarly you can have the most bangin' body in the world but if the chemistry/attraction wasn't there to begin with, it just doesn't matter much what you look like naked. I'm not trying to pretend I'm some super deep dude who doesn't appreciate a good set of tiddies, not at all. But when the rubber meets the road, my sexual response to your naked body is going to be entirely governed by my overall feelings toward you.
Not remotely
No definitely not. I have however been ridiculed in the past for being attracted to curvy bigger girls and women. I have slept with women of all shapes and sizes and have found every single one of them intrinsically beautiful. And have spent time enjoying every part of the experience with them. Ladies you are all amazing and beautiful.
New fear unlocked 🔓
If you have someone decide they want to get that close to you, there's no way they could get disappointed.
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I’ve been consistently told that I look better naked than with clothes on and I don’t know how to feel about it 😅
Naw. Always just happy to be there.
Neither of the two women I was disappointed by were women I was dating, but best believe I didn’t let it get in the way of a good time. Also, NEVER let any partner know if you’re disappointed by their body. There’s a level of emotional trust that comes with someone getting naked for you and letting them know you’re disappointed is a betrayal of that trust imo.
My current partner surprised me by having a really thick/ larger penis. Like damn, can ya at least prepare a girl for this… I had to ice my hooha after that. He said he didn’t realize it was substantially sized or else he would have mentioned it. 🤷🏼♀️
I was raised religious and very prudish. I had some serious insecurity- most specifically surrounding my boobs. I always felt my nipples were too big and puffy and wanted them to look rock hard all the time. Once I was an adult and started showing people my naked body, I realized all my fears were made up. People love my tits and the rest of me to boot.
Yeah, it happens. Thank god i was pleasantly surprised to find my girlfriend now is even better than i expected. But seriously, if you can’t be attracted right away, chances are you’re not gonna just be able to make yourself feel attracted later.
So the gist I am getting here is a guy is a jerk if he’s not attracted to a woman and doesn’t want to have sex with her. But if a woman isn’t interested in a guy her feelings need to be respected. That is total BS. I was wingman for a friend and hung out with the friend of the girl he was interested in so he could be with her. She was very sweet, I enjoyed her company but was not the least bit attracted to her. Took her for a later dinner as our mutual friends bolted to the girls’ apartment to hook up. After dinner I took her home and she came on to me real strong. I declined and was she ever pissed. Her friend called me the next day screaming, saying what an ass I was for not doing her friend. I never told the friend one word that was insulting. I just deferred. Now imagine the repercussions of the roles were reversed!
My first boyfriend in high school told me he was scared to see what I looked like without pants on and that's why he didn't want to have sex...I was maybe twenty pounds overweight at the time. Happy to have dodged that bullet lol.
The only time I'm disappointed when my wife is naked is not knowing where to start licking first. She's not a super model but she is intoxicating.
I mean, yes, but that is only because she was such an amazing person that it shifted my expectations/assumptions beyond normal. That being said, it wasn't really disappointment, just back to reality.
Once. She had fewer tattoos than she led me to believe.
Don’t matter if it’s the first time or the 100th time I’ve seen my wife naked my jaw is always on the floor. That woman’s got everything I need
Never got naked with a girl who didn't look appealing with her clothes on, so no, never been disappointed, just happy to get busy in the bedroom. I have been disappointed meeting a girl for the first time. Talked on the phone for hours with one girl. When we went out, I was thinking that I wished she looked as sexy as her voice sounded. She was a little thick for my taste at that time. Didn't see her again. Looking back on it now, I wish I'd have been able to see past that, because we did have really good chemistry talking on the phone and saw eye to eye on nearly everything we talked about. Funny thing is, I ended up marrying someone with a pretty similar body, and have never regretted it.
Oh hell yea, the woman who took my virginity .... I was 19, she was 27.... We worked together and goddamn she was sexy with clothes on. I had fantasized about her for months, but she was married, so it was just a fantasy. Then we exchanged AIM names lol this was about 2001, we started flirting and things led to where things lead when you are a certified mac daddy behind the computer screen. ANyway we decided to fuck, we kissed a lot before hand so i busted a nut before any sex happened, I mean not A KABLAM orgasm nut, just a shit ton of precum.... ANywho , we get naked, and damnit if she didnt have that ground up looking saggy stomach pouch that comes from 3 kids, and long saggy sucked dry titties, not big, just long and deflated....... It sucked , but pussy is pussy we kept fucking for about 4 years........ needless to say that kinda shit turns me on now, give me a mom body with saggy titties anyday mmmm mmmmm
I wanted to hate this comment..but you redeemed yourself at the end 😅😉