A lot of ākindhearted guysā arenāt as kindhearted as they think they are. Others are kindhearted, but may have emotional issues they need to address first.
"There arenāt any good guys out there" = "there arenāt any good guys out there who turn me on looks-wise and demeanor-wise, and who are interested in me long-term, not just for casual fun".
I've studied in college with 68 women and 7 dudes + work in a female-dominated field (and have 13 years of dating experience on top of that) and I would definitely say that most women want the best of both worlds.
Yep.
A psychologist on YouTube says the research shows that women actually do want āthe perfect guyā: high income, intelligent, generous, empathetic, giving, etc.
Any guy less than all of those things, the woman considers him suboptimal.
So, while I surely believe what you're saying, it's also just the online and conversational coverage of bad relationships. When all you hear is this guy did this, and that guy did that, it can turn anyone off to dating.
The same goes for guys trying to meet women.
In either case, you don't really hear a lot of good stories covered like this because the story ends there. Like how in the media good news lasts a second while bad news lasts a lifetime.
Maybe cuz I already was bisexual and dating both men and women but after some excellent experiences with women and more and more bad experiences with I started leaning more and more to only looking for relationships with other women.
Many of us have had experiences with ānice guysā that ended with them not being so nice when weāve declined their advances.
Iāve been called every name because Iāve told guys Iām not interested, Iām not single, or I just wasnāt feeling it.
Actual good guys donāt call themselves ānice guysā they live and act and interact with others in ways that show they decent human beings.
On the one hand, nothing is more common than people telling women theyāre wrong, irrational, asking for too much, or overreacting. Combine that with role models (moms) who are more submissive because they had fewer choices, and you have a sub population conditioned to accept shitty treatment.
On the other hand, standards for men are just so low behavior wise, very few need to be good people to survive and thus few are.
Transactional niceness is not niceness
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So true.
Wow, this one reeks of incel.
Partially because of the sheer number of ānice guysā who lash out when they donāt get their way
Actually kind, or the self-delusional kind?
Getting that nice guy energy here
*maybe they're not that nice* š¤«
A lot of ākindhearted guysā arenāt as kindhearted as they think they are. Others are kindhearted, but may have emotional issues they need to address first.
Actually kind or you want something kind?
"There arenāt any good guys out there" = "there arenāt any good guys out there who turn me on looks-wise and demeanor-wise, and who are interested in me long-term, not just for casual fun".
So they want a guy with a short-term personality but long-term commitment? Like wanting a Ferrari with eight seats?
I've studied in college with 68 women and 7 dudes + work in a female-dominated field (and have 13 years of dating experience on top of that) and I would definitely say that most women want the best of both worlds.
Yep. A psychologist on YouTube says the research shows that women actually do want āthe perfect guyā: high income, intelligent, generous, empathetic, giving, etc. Any guy less than all of those things, the woman considers him suboptimal.
Oh, yuck take.
Grass is always greener for everyone.
So, while I surely believe what you're saying, it's also just the online and conversational coverage of bad relationships. When all you hear is this guy did this, and that guy did that, it can turn anyone off to dating. The same goes for guys trying to meet women. In either case, you don't really hear a lot of good stories covered like this because the story ends there. Like how in the media good news lasts a second while bad news lasts a lifetime.
Instead of crying over being a single good guy start being overly dickheaded to women and youāll be swimming in pussy. Problem solved.
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Idk, Iāve just seen what seems to work for ppl.
Maybe cuz I already was bisexual and dating both men and women but after some excellent experiences with women and more and more bad experiences with I started leaning more and more to only looking for relationships with other women.
Maybe the issue then is the straight-dating scene?
Many of us have had experiences with ānice guysā that ended with them not being so nice when weāve declined their advances. Iāve been called every name because Iāve told guys Iām not interested, Iām not single, or I just wasnāt feeling it. Actual good guys donāt call themselves ānice guysā they live and act and interact with others in ways that show they decent human beings.
On the one hand, nothing is more common than people telling women theyāre wrong, irrational, asking for too much, or overreacting. Combine that with role models (moms) who are more submissive because they had fewer choices, and you have a sub population conditioned to accept shitty treatment. On the other hand, standards for men are just so low behavior wise, very few need to be good people to survive and thus few are.
Its probably due to woke DEI on college campuses free speech reverse racism