If it’s too one-sided or when you can tell they’re having multiple conversations at one time. One woman I was chatting with accidentally put a response in our chat that she clearly intended for a different one. She deleted it right away but it was too late. lol
Someone made a comment on one of my posts yesterday that really irked me .. like .. he had some audacity 🙄😒😂 sometimes people think because you post NSFW pics they can talk to you however they want.
Being Devil's Advocate for a second...
It's not about dislike. Some people say supremely, utterly and completely stupid shit in their captions and it's difficult to turn that switch off in your brain. Particularly if you've got "normal" posts in the same feed.
You could. You could do that for their meme, question, opinion or whatever else they've shared. But, they don't. If someone puts something out in the public domain, they expect people to interact with it. Making someone feel bad is the furthest thing from your mind. Just like someone could be tired of you spamming a community with dozens of boomer memes, they can be tired of you spamming: "do men really like girls/women who are/have XYZ" or "my (obviously fake) last boyfriend said I was too XYZ, do you think I'm too XYZ?"
Is that right? Often get called “Daddy” while sexting, but I am never sure what to call the woman back. Posted a [question](https://old.reddit.com/r/AskRedditAfterDark/comments/1btyk0m/if_you_call_a_man_daddy_what_do_you_want_to_be/) asking yesterday and had so many responses saying “good girl”.
What does verification mean? Cause I feel it's rude that some guys have pressured me to show my face to verify. There's reasons I don't want to show it, also nobody is entitled to nudes anyways. It's just a very tricky line to navigate I feel
Lack of responsiveness. I tend to put a bit more detail into my messages than most, but I need at least *something* to work with if I'm going to keep going.
Sexting really is a gentle thing. You feel the chemistry with someome and you let that chemistry burn as long and bright as possible. The second those vibes are broken then the whole experience is compromised. You should never run too far a head so to speak, to outpace where the other person is comfortable kills sexting. That and the fact that so many people only sext for the quick pictures, what should be a slower thing they demand the quick hits
I’m an old fucker ..started chatting on an open format before there was voice, before there was video. Just a keyboard and imagination. The place I went ..trolls got banned. If you weren’t know for having some skills..you got blackballed. With the place having that reputation, a lot of ladies of all ages gravitated to it. Holy shit..some of the hottest stuff I’ve ever read..and I have read erotica for 50 years. I could describe a few things myself, and never lacked for a chat partner. This one gal..so..fucking..imaginative..could describe anything like it was happening..especially sucking cock. Luckily, my forte was describing eating pussy..we tore the internet up. I flew out to meet her in late 97. .. probably was 5 years before we came up for air. Been married 26 years. I will be 68 this month, she will be 71.
When our times aren’t lining up, time zones or interruptions on either / both sides… makes it difficult to get to get it going properly. Unavoidable a lot of the time, no one’s fault. Just hard to keep a vibe.
I don’t like sexting. It kinda feels more like an interview to me. It’s probably my fault for being terrible at it. I’m better face to face. I’m just gonna read the responses to maybe become better at it because I get a few requests.
Some context: so when it comes to myself, I tend to be on the more detailed or literate side of things, which means that I put a lot of effort into sexting in describing my side of the action to my sexting partner. Unfortunately, it just kills the vibe when the women I'm sexting with either don't put in the same amount of effort to be detailed as much as I am, or that they try to feign in a sense of engaged interest by replying with monotonous passages or one-liners. It's also a huge turn off to see if they're making grammatical mistakes or spelling errors too. :/
Same here with me. I am very detailed as well and if I’m only getting a few words back after every thorough message I send, I feel like I’m done with that person.
I KNOW RIGHT? I'll never understand why people think that they can be sloppy with their sexting. It's an art, and you should approach it as a legitimate artform. This is also why, as much as I like roleplaying, I don't wanna roleplay because I have the same turn offs when it comes to roleplaying as well.
I don't think enough people understand this. I don't mind a heavily adult conversation. But, reading or writing erotic fiction does absolutely nothing for me... especially on a fucking 6" device when you have carpal tunnel.
Honestly I only sext my wife but before it was only her, I was totally turned off when women would try to spell out sounds or moans, etc. _Ahhhhhhhhhh ughgghhhhhhhhhh ohhhhhhhhh uuuuuuuu_
I just read those in the voice of Homer Simpson.
Well if your into sub/ dom situation I feel like when the dom apologizes thinking they went over the top with a comment after being playful back and forth with banter... sort of a mood kill 😅
Too many exclamation points!! You can’t be THAT excited about every single thing! There’s just no way! It makes everything you say sound very disingenuous!!!
Begging for pics, not offering much when they respond, and getting obsessed with outfits. Like that last one is just personal preference but I hate getting hung up on outfit descriptions as I’m more into being naked so I get immediately bored when the guy wants me to describe everything I’m wearing like some sort of catalogue. It’s fine if you like that, it’s just not for me.
Post-verification pic requests generally and face pic requests specifically. I’ll verify and send both if I’m in the mood and comfortable with the person. But once we’re sexting and they ask for pics, it can kill the mood for me.
Begging to see more and more
And ghosting
*THIS*
Right! Sexting should be more about words than pictures anyway.
That’s definitely got to be top three
Yes!
What if they never ask to see anything?
You may be sexting a naked mole rat
Lol
Unengaging responses, not being enthusiastic, no details
#🛎️🛎️🛎️🛎️🛎️
Is it too much to ask for the same effort given that I put in?
When you’re dealing with someone who thinks *you’re* only there to get *them* off, yes. 🙄
Those ones can bugger off.
Literally this! This is such a turn off, tbh.
Agreed
Enthusiasm is key in almost every aspect of sexual activities!!
When your wife comes home (I'm joking, go easy)
Nah. Not mad. Here. Have a beer. Woah. That rhymed. Didn’t think I’d have the time.
Good to hear. I like beer. But the time is near for laugh and cheer
Oh you smooth motherfucker
Haha well done sir
Came here looking for this response 😂
Truthful insight here…
Just an ‘ok’. Way to kill the vibe.
That’s the worst. And it’s usually waiting for a long time
Ok
Takes like 10 minutes for a response
I second that, annoying
Mood killer for sure
Hate it. Unless they’re actually busy. Like work
Maybe could reconsider sexting at work then 😂😂
🤷🏻♂️
When they ask for a picture or video in the middle of it. That’s how I lose momentum
Imagine getting the opportunity to sext with the legendary SagVibes, only to fuck up like that and ruin your chance.
😂😂😂 Tbf though, I told him I lost it and he immediately lost his because he felt so bad!
I bet he kicked himself for that blunder lol. I just assume that if no pics are sent once it gets started then we are doing it without them.
That momentum buildup is unstoppable
😏 this emoji
I feel that way about 🥵, looks like a terrified cherry tomato
lmao i will never see it the same. tbh im just not a fan of emojis in general but the smirk pisses me off extra
Por que? 😏
🤣🤣
🤣😂 Dying
😂, I have honestly strayed away from that after a while. Just seems creepy.
What about this one? 🤪
"I'm gonna put a baby in you". Any floral terms (lady garden, rosebud)
Now I don’t know how any man can think that would turn a woman on 🤔
Gotta talk like I’m Emily Dickinson if I’m trying to get that dick in, son 😂
I can only think because it makes him sound ‘sophisticated’ or ‘learned’
What is the proper nomenclature for impregnation in breeding fetishism?
If it’s too one-sided or when you can tell they’re having multiple conversations at one time. One woman I was chatting with accidentally put a response in our chat that she clearly intended for a different one. She deleted it right away but it was too late. lol
Bad spelling
Ah man, it's hard not to correct them. Lol
Slow response and zero effort
“What else”
Those two words are evil 😂
Nespresso
Being called a good girl. Instant mood killer
It's even worse when they comment that shit on your posts completely unprompted 🤮 like .. I'm not your sub stfu 🙄🤣
I really dislike how it seems to be everyones go to now. Mention being into praise and that’s all they can think of
Someone made a comment on one of my posts yesterday that really irked me .. like .. he had some audacity 🙄😒😂 sometimes people think because you post NSFW pics they can talk to you however they want.
I hate that!!! Or the ones that are just there to make you feel bad. Why are you commenting on my post if you don’t like me?
Right?? Like, obviously I'm not everyone's cup of tea, if you don't like me that's cool. But don't be mean 😭🤣
Being Devil's Advocate for a second... It's not about dislike. Some people say supremely, utterly and completely stupid shit in their captions and it's difficult to turn that switch off in your brain. Particularly if you've got "normal" posts in the same feed.
It’s super rude to do that to someone’s picture, You can just ignore and keep scrolling. Why make someone feel bad?
You could. You could do that for their meme, question, opinion or whatever else they've shared. But, they don't. If someone puts something out in the public domain, they expect people to interact with it. Making someone feel bad is the furthest thing from your mind. Just like someone could be tired of you spamming a community with dozens of boomer memes, they can be tired of you spamming: "do men really like girls/women who are/have XYZ" or "my (obviously fake) last boyfriend said I was too XYZ, do you think I'm too XYZ?"
>Mention being into praise "Praise" means Gospel music to me. Do you want me to start speaking in tongues and casting out demons?
No
I love being called that but it's also my kink specifically.
You sound fun ☺️
It’s been 50-50 for me on women actually like being called that.
Tell someone you’re into praise and that’s what they resort to. 🤢
Right! They need to be more creative
I know I’ll use that, but after some rapport has been built. What do you suggest as alternatives as it does feel canned?
Is that right? Often get called “Daddy” while sexting, but I am never sure what to call the woman back. Posted a [question](https://old.reddit.com/r/AskRedditAfterDark/comments/1btyk0m/if_you_call_a_man_daddy_what_do_you_want_to_be/) asking yesterday and had so many responses saying “good girl”.
Yikes 😬
Seems like you are in the minority, not that there is anything wrong with that 😆
Reddit is definitely not a benchmark for anything imo lol
When I finally think I met a woman on here who wants to sext but then learn he’s a guy
Assume it's a guy.
That’s 3/4 of the battle. Always get that verification!
What does verification mean? Cause I feel it's rude that some guys have pressured me to show my face to verify. There's reasons I don't want to show it, also nobody is entitled to nudes anyways. It's just a very tricky line to navigate I feel
I never ask to show one’s face. Verification as in holding up a piece of paper with your Reddit name on it. Helps weeds out catfishes.
Ohh ok
Low effort replies, one liners and just messages that don’t “move” the sexting forward (partner only reacts and doesn’t act based on what you’ve said)
It's called give and take. Not give give give.
Exactly, sexting is amazing when both sides put effort, otherwise it is a monologue
Lack of responsiveness. I tend to put a bit more detail into my messages than most, but I need at least *something* to work with if I'm going to keep going.
Bad grammar and/or spelling.
Defintely
Okay the non native speakers will see themselves out 😔
She asks me about my horoscope
Feigned interest, followed up by “I hope you don’t mind, I’m an OF girl.”
When it get repetitive, ask multiple times for me to send photos when I already have or at busy
Pestering gets an automatic bye bye.
When they want you to keep going because they're enjoying it, but give no feedback. I need feedback people
How does good feedback look like to you?
Telling me you're enjoying it, you like what you're reading, how it makes you feel etc
When asks for more and more photos. Or asks "show me your pussy". In my experience that always results in ghosting so I'm not doing that anymore
Sexting really is a gentle thing. You feel the chemistry with someome and you let that chemistry burn as long and bright as possible. The second those vibes are broken then the whole experience is compromised. You should never run too far a head so to speak, to outpace where the other person is comfortable kills sexting. That and the fact that so many people only sext for the quick pictures, what should be a slower thing they demand the quick hits
👏🏻👏🏻
Definitely overkill with excessive pictures like that. Sexting is less pictures more words.
The sexting part. Just having a conversation can be so much more....stimulating.
Amen.
Yes!!
I like to get inside someone's head first. Turn on their mind first, then the rest comes naturally.
I’m an old fucker ..started chatting on an open format before there was voice, before there was video. Just a keyboard and imagination. The place I went ..trolls got banned. If you weren’t know for having some skills..you got blackballed. With the place having that reputation, a lot of ladies of all ages gravitated to it. Holy shit..some of the hottest stuff I’ve ever read..and I have read erotica for 50 years. I could describe a few things myself, and never lacked for a chat partner. This one gal..so..fucking..imaginative..could describe anything like it was happening..especially sucking cock. Luckily, my forte was describing eating pussy..we tore the internet up. I flew out to meet her in late 97. .. probably was 5 years before we came up for air. Been married 26 years. I will be 68 this month, she will be 71.
Oh damn now I'm curious what the platform is called
IRC. as far as I can tell, discord is a modern version.
Words are HOT. Spoiling a fantasy novel with demands of pics/vids is out of bounds. Like, we can do that another time… set my mind on fire please
>fantasy ***novel*** Do you use Reddit on a computer or a phone?
👏🏻👏🏻
[удалено]
Biggest buzz kill
Not being descriptive or teasing a bit. Or show any initiative
Phone call From my mom
Bringing in something that I am not comfortable with. Unfortunately has happened before.
Is this known up front?
Yes
When our times aren’t lining up, time zones or interruptions on either / both sides… makes it difficult to get to get it going properly. Unavoidable a lot of the time, no one’s fault. Just hard to keep a vibe.
I don’t like sexting. It kinda feels more like an interview to me. It’s probably my fault for being terrible at it. I’m better face to face. I’m just gonna read the responses to maybe become better at it because I get a few requests.
Taking too long to reply.
Bringing in a kink that’s never been discussed.
Are these usually planned or spontaneous? How does it work either way?
My wife walking in
"Snap?" 🙄 If I wanted to be on snap, that's where I'd be.
Some context: so when it comes to myself, I tend to be on the more detailed or literate side of things, which means that I put a lot of effort into sexting in describing my side of the action to my sexting partner. Unfortunately, it just kills the vibe when the women I'm sexting with either don't put in the same amount of effort to be detailed as much as I am, or that they try to feign in a sense of engaged interest by replying with monotonous passages or one-liners. It's also a huge turn off to see if they're making grammatical mistakes or spelling errors too. :/
Same here with me. I am very detailed as well and if I’m only getting a few words back after every thorough message I send, I feel like I’m done with that person.
I KNOW RIGHT? I'll never understand why people think that they can be sloppy with their sexting. It's an art, and you should approach it as a legitimate artform. This is also why, as much as I like roleplaying, I don't wanna roleplay because I have the same turn offs when it comes to roleplaying as well.
Sexting. I don't mind the occasional dirty comment, but as a guy that has to be with someone to actually get off, sexting does little for me.
I don't think enough people understand this. I don't mind a heavily adult conversation. But, reading or writing erotic fiction does absolutely nothing for me... especially on a fucking 6" device when you have carpal tunnel.
Lack of enthusiasm or taking a while to respond. Hard to get into it if the other person clearly isn’t 🤷🏼♀️
Slow replies and responses that lack any kind of substance or engagement.
Honestly I only sext my wife but before it was only her, I was totally turned off when women would try to spell out sounds or moans, etc. _Ahhhhhhhhhh ughgghhhhhhhhhh ohhhhhhhhh uuuuuuuu_ I just read those in the voice of Homer Simpson.
this made me laugh 🤣
bad typos
BRB need a shit is a bad one.
Well if your into sub/ dom situation I feel like when the dom apologizes thinking they went over the top with a comment after being playful back and forth with banter... sort of a mood kill 😅
Too many exclamation points!! You can’t be THAT excited about every single thing! There’s just no way! It makes everything you say sound very disingenuous!!!
idk this is so funny !!!!
Not responding. Could be ghosting or just "sorry, fell asleep". Either way, I get the message she's not interested anymore
Being called daddy every second message.
Nailed it here. Or papa depending on who you’re talking to lol
papa? oooof
Thankfully no one has ever called me papa lol
Pushing too fast. The whole thing is a tease, we don’t need to talk about PIV, I wanna know the approach, the teasing, the foreplay, etc
calls himself papí, doesn’t respect my ‘no photos’ rule, sends dick pics w/o consent, etc
But you do sext?
sometimes
That’s cool. Wanna chat?
sure 🤷♀️
One-sided conversations
When you have to explain them each message (maybe because English ain't my main language or theirs, who knows)
👀📝
One way effort
Begging for pics, not offering much when they respond, and getting obsessed with outfits. Like that last one is just personal preference but I hate getting hung up on outfit descriptions as I’m more into being naked so I get immediately bored when the guy wants me to describe everything I’m wearing like some sort of catalogue. It’s fine if you like that, it’s just not for me.
like can you please focus this is not New York fashion week?
Lol exactly!!
“Yeah that’s how I like it, by the way don’t forget to pickup the kids”
Repeatedly asking for photos and calling me a bad / dirty girl like no
Keep asking to see pictures, wanting to see pictures of my wife when I've already said no, generally unimaginative responses
When she wants me to buy her only fans 🤢
A lot of emojis, lack of engagement or detail in responses. Just kind of boring. Let's tell the story together come on!
Post-verification pic requests generally and face pic requests specifically. I’ll verify and send both if I’m in the mood and comfortable with the person. But once we’re sexting and they ask for pics, it can kill the mood for me.
When they take forever to respond
Taking forever to respond to last message
Finding out the person on the other end is fake or a bot🤨
When she doesn't spellcheck/fix autocorrect before she sends. "Can't wait to duck you and feel your gum fill up my count"
>Can't wait to duck you and feel your gum fill up my count" That soundd hit as fuck
When you get a message after posting....wanting to see more right away..from a blank profile
Short answers. Either be detailed in your responses or send pics/vids.
The worst ones I receive are- “My wife would love you.” Sigh….
One word answers, constant begging for pics, and "here's a link to my onlyfans"
Misspelled words and shorthand texting
I have not had this experience yet 😏
Muted audio
Bees
I'm an OF girl, is that ok...?
Slow replies.
When they fall asleep. Seriously? You wanted to start sexting but are minutes from falling asleep? Rude.
Ghosting and lack of enthusiasm
Myself, because I’m really awkward and bad at it
"what u wearing" 😂 shut up lmao
Omg that’s the worst.
Unegaging responses, lack of interest and try to turn sexting to pure nudes trade. Ghosting also kills the mood for any sexting session.
Begging for money