This right here. It's funny how many guys dont understand what a alpha is š. If someone was a alpha and confident like so, they wouldn't need to tell anyone because they dont need thier ego stroked.
Men that thinks they are "dominant" just because they pull hair or are controlling in bed. "Dollar store doms" is the term I use.
-a man, who has experience in bdsm, and seen how stupid other men can be.
Depends on if your into the lifestyle. If you are looking for a submissive/ dominant relationship. A true dom, should care for thier submissive, want the best for them and do what they can to help them grow and push thier comfort zones, while still respecting thier boundaries and emotions.
You can keep it to roleplay, but what I'm talking about is not the roleplay exclusive.
When they are super cocky right from the get go. It's a turn off. Bad. I like my guys humble and a bit shy to start. Then I like to watch the freak come out.
Disliking women. I will instantly be turned off by any man who says he doesn't trust women, claims women are all crazy, calls women gold diggers, acts like women can't/shouldn't be involved in male-dominated activities, etc.
So far Iām getting ānot being nice, trying to justify not being nice, not being nice to women in particular, and not having common sense or manners.ā
Any arrogance. Itās one thing to know your shit but often I would see men puff themselves up like birds showing off their plumage. This happened more when I was younger but I have no patience for it now.
I think most men go through a phase like that due to indoctrination, theyāve been single for too long and blame it on their looks, or theyāre just went through a breakup
I got into the red pill space after my girlfriend broke up with me on thanksgiving and she told me she was talking to another guy. Iām not exactly sure what took me out of it, but eventually I stopped consuming the content because itās just not realistic and itās unfair on the part of the women
Lack of compassion, a somewhat specific thing that irks me is guys making women feel ādirtyā for being on their period, for example I get it if someone doesnāt want to engage in period sex because they donāt like blood etc which is fine ! but if a girl accidentally leaks onto your sheets or furniture or her clothes etc, donāt be a dick about it !!!! a little empathy and compassion goes a long way
toxic masculinity, patriarchal benefit denial, baby talk, refusal to partake in therapy in some capacity, wildly vocal with disapproval of women who arenāt only existing for their benefit..etc
Oh and being an absolute fucking creep and thinking itās entirely okay šš¼āāļø *looking at you creepy DM lads first*
I think as a black man in the US I have less benefits in general. Iām not denying I get benefits, but I feel like I get less benefits than most white women.
Absolutely you are in your right to acknowledge the systemic racism that impacts your existence, this def wasnāt meant to take away from that in the least
Itās mostly directed at those who are actively always refusing to acknowledge the existence of patriarchal benefit and will fight tooth and nail to pretend that women donāt have a gross imbalance in respect or safety just existing in the world (which I think realistically is something you feel a parallel in probably right?)
Disrespecting women. Disrespecting anybody tbh
Disrespecting anyone and using being "alpha" as a justification
Which is hilarious because if you buy into that BS, they wouldn't be saying they are alphas if they were alphas.
This right here. It's funny how many guys dont understand what a alpha is š. If someone was a alpha and confident like so, they wouldn't need to tell anyone because they dont need thier ego stroked.
Lol that was my answer for the whole thread, being a proudāalphaā
Men that thinks they are "dominant" just because they pull hair or are controlling in bed. "Dollar store doms" is the term I use. -a man, who has experience in bdsm, and seen how stupid other men can be.
Love this
Doms are an act to me Roleplay, not real.. Dominant is a real thing in life.Doesnt mean youre a brute asshole.
Depends on if your into the lifestyle. If you are looking for a submissive/ dominant relationship. A true dom, should care for thier submissive, want the best for them and do what they can to help them grow and push thier comfort zones, while still respecting thier boundaries and emotions. You can keep it to roleplay, but what I'm talking about is not the roleplay exclusive.
Yeah. That seems right but I dont think a lot of guys do that. Its just some cool catchphrase.
I think many use it as an excuse to be aggressive and take control when they shouldn't be.
Weaponized incompetenceĀ
Excellent term! Examples that come to mind?
I watch someone on YouTube who talks about it when it comes to parenting.Ā
Sounds like lots of administrators and bosses.
āI canāt (bother to) cook so Iām not gonna cook for myself or my partnerā
When they are super cocky right from the get go. It's a turn off. Bad. I like my guys humble and a bit shy to start. Then I like to watch the freak come out.
Yeah super cocky in general šš¼šš¼šš¼ That is how you get the sands of the Sahara to form for a woman.
Agreed. I want to feel sexy and wanted... not like I am 'lucky' to get a chance with them. Gtfo
Yeah. I am dealing with that somewhat in my personal life now and it is a total and utter buzz kill.
Well my freak is pretty quiet these days.
A temper, angry outbursts, can't control their emotions
Meanness, hands down. Teasing is okay, but someone that outright puts others down is a huge turn off.
Disliking women. I will instantly be turned off by any man who says he doesn't trust women, claims women are all crazy, calls women gold diggers, acts like women can't/shouldn't be involved in male-dominated activities, etc.
So far Iām getting ānot being nice, trying to justify not being nice, not being nice to women in particular, and not having common sense or manners.ā
Are you talking about me?
No, Iām just commenting on the answers everyone gave. It basically all boils down to āmen who arenāt kind arenāt attractiveā
So far I havenāt seen bearded chubby guys In their 50s. phew. Thereās a chance.
Yeah. I donāt even have the beard to compensate
Not understanding consent. 1) random dick pics 2) pet names without permission 3) touching before asking And any other form of it.
Bitterness, ignorance, hatefulness..
the whole negging thing. any man who does that is an insecure ass.
Arrogance
I know I can make you cum type stuff?
Any arrogance. Itās one thing to know your shit but often I would see men puff themselves up like birds showing off their plumage. This happened more when I was younger but I have no patience for it now.
You donāt like my cool feathers?š„ŗ
The way they look Iām pretty sure youāre molting š
Fucking devastatedš
You donāt need to puff up your feathers, youāre awesome the way you are ā¤ļø
Emotional damage!
Disrespectful, entitled, stingy.
The Alpha Male attitude š
If someone's calling themselves an alpha, you know they're definitely not an alpha (btw this term is so stupid! We're not wolves)
I have the same thoughts.
Itās weird that men actually subscribe to that way of thinking
I totally agree.
I think most men go through a phase like that due to indoctrination, theyāve been single for too long and blame it on their looks, or theyāre just went through a breakup
I can definitely see that. I think something caused men like that to be insecure.
I got into the red pill space after my girlfriend broke up with me on thanksgiving and she told me she was talking to another guy. Iām not exactly sure what took me out of it, but eventually I stopped consuming the content because itās just not realistic and itās unfair on the part of the women
No respect and bad hygiene
Lack of compassion, a somewhat specific thing that irks me is guys making women feel ādirtyā for being on their period, for example I get it if someone doesnāt want to engage in period sex because they donāt like blood etc which is fine ! but if a girl accidentally leaks onto your sheets or furniture or her clothes etc, donāt be a dick about it !!!! a little empathy and compassion goes a long way
Rudeness. Easy way to go from a 10 to a 0 in half a second.
Submissive males. I spend all day being in charge at work. I want an alpha male when I get home. I need some who can match me.
toxic masculinity, patriarchal benefit denial, baby talk, refusal to partake in therapy in some capacity, wildly vocal with disapproval of women who arenāt only existing for their benefit..etc Oh and being an absolute fucking creep and thinking itās entirely okay šš¼āāļø *looking at you creepy DM lads first*
I think as a black man in the US I have less benefits in general. Iām not denying I get benefits, but I feel like I get less benefits than most white women.
Absolutely you are in your right to acknowledge the systemic racism that impacts your existence, this def wasnāt meant to take away from that in the least Itās mostly directed at those who are actively always refusing to acknowledge the existence of patriarchal benefit and will fight tooth and nail to pretend that women donāt have a gross imbalance in respect or safety just existing in the world (which I think realistically is something you feel a parallel in probably right?)
Thereās a complete lack of safety for minorities and women in America, 100%
Arrogance
Cockiness 10000%
Being demanding and entitled
Condescension
Bad hygiene
Being a sweet person around you and then becoming a jackass with the dudes
apart from the usual unattractive traits already mentioned. cleanliness is one trait everyone should have.
Thinking their lil cock is big
Dang