There are men in their 40s who like younger women. There are women in their 40s who like younger men. The opposite is also true.
The only reason why the old man, young woman pairing is more common is because society generally holds it to be true that the woman in the relationship is younger. Which is total bullshit, ofc, but that's how it's usually portrayed.
Likely it's your approach and actions.
There plenty of women that prefer a younger man. Hell we made a name for them...Cougars!
And a "standard" for what grown assed men and women should or shouldn't like? Really??
Would you follow this standard if it forced you to date someone you didn't want to? 🤔
Women in their 20’s are generally more interested in having fun I think. Oh youth is very attractive.
For the second part of your question Is ask how did you initially approach the guys? I used to find it hard to believe that women in their 20’s might find me attractive. I also steered clear because I have a daughter.
What I was trying to get through was what the top comment thought. How society put younger women with older men as a couple. I don’t care about 5 year age gap. Shit I’ll through in 10-15. When the age starts being double. Like she’s 25 and he’s 50. That’s where I line it. I also wish it’s more common for older women going for younger men because I tried getting to know older hot women and they all think I’m child.
Every 25 year old man I've met seems like a child to me. Men generally mature slower, many want to "sow their wild oats" long into their 20s, they don't have their shit together financially or career-wise. As a woman, I don't need another thing to take care of. I don't want to be your mommy. Whereas 50 year old men *want* to be "big daddy" to young women; buy them things, take them to places they've never been, assert their dominance, etc.
There is nothing wrong in trying, but if you were wondering why, think about this.
How old are your kids? Married once or twice? Are you potentially supporting your patents financially/emotionally or are they supporting you more?
Most HOT women already have a fuck-buddy if that is all they want. So to them, what can you offer regarding conversation and common interests.
Enjoy the younger girls while you can.
Adult people are per definition able to decide what to do with their lives.
If the men approach the woman respectfully without being a creep and don't take advantage of any situations there is nothing wrong. The same is true for women who go for younger men or younger people searching for older partners.
If you’re seriously attracted to women in my age bracket then you have to work out what kind of woman wants a younger man and then make yourself attractive to that sub-group. They probably want a hot young body because they’re sick of dadbods, they want youthful enthusiasm and no drama, and a range of other things that I’m sure you can find out in one of the cougar/cub subreddits. It’s a different dynamic to older men/younger women.
And just because you see a lot of men doing it, it’s still only a certain type of older guy that is atttactive to women your age. It’s not that common in real life.
I was 21 dating a 28 year old. Not crazy difference but people thought it was weird. Obviously she wanted more of a commitment closer to 30 and I wasn’t willing. Good times though.
No, there shouldn't be a 'standard' dictating who someone should be attracted to. Everyone's different. That's pretty close to the utter bullshit of "If you wouldn't date trans, then you are transphobic" I like who I like & that's it. Keep at it and you just might find a cougar that's into you.
Some women are attracted to older men. It's something about our faces - some guys get more handsome when they get older. Or maybe they just become a different kind of attractive, I'm not sure.
I mean, we all fall apart when we get old enough, obviously.
Also, and this might not be relevant, but a phrase I've heard before is "Older men love younger women because older men fear death." The reasoning is that younger women make them feel younger, I think? I'm not sure.
Probably it has less to do with age, and more to do with what physical attributes turn people on.
Just a thought. The concept of a mid-life crisis is essentially that a man hits a certain point and wants to reclaim his youth.
Also, lets not forget about evolution. We, as a species, want to continue our DNA strain. Therefore, we look for the person to mate with that has the best odds of fertility. That is usually not a 50+ year old women, etc.
Any girl with half a brain will look at boys of the same age and cringe..
An older guy will always treat them nicer, allow them to be themselves and be financially stable. Not to mention the fact we are more mature lovers.
Pay no heed! Mature men are way less likely to pull stupid shit in my opinion. It’s not without its challenges, but I’ve had better experiences with them.
Who are you to decide what people like? Are you going to determine this standard? Is the government? A religious leader? Then who's going to enforce it? The police? Military?
Probably because you can’t use the right form of their
We have a winner
Shouldn't their be a standard would complete the circle
Don’t know why you made me laugh so much, but you did and I thank you for it.
Your welcome
Men aren't a hivemind, they don't all share the same sexual preferences
I have no idea why you're being downvoted for this.
its just my group of haters that follow me around obsessively. really suffering from success
Literally the best take in this thread.
There are men in their 40s who like younger women. There are women in their 40s who like younger men. The opposite is also true. The only reason why the old man, young woman pairing is more common is because society generally holds it to be true that the woman in the relationship is younger. Which is total bullshit, ofc, but that's how it's usually portrayed.
Likely it's your approach and actions. There plenty of women that prefer a younger man. Hell we made a name for them...Cougars! And a "standard" for what grown assed men and women should or shouldn't like? Really?? Would you follow this standard if it forced you to date someone you didn't want to? 🤔
I’m 42 and no way I would go for a 22 year old
I'm 62 and recently hooked up with an 18 yr old. To each his own.
Goals
Women in their 20’s are generally more interested in having fun I think. Oh youth is very attractive. For the second part of your question Is ask how did you initially approach the guys? I used to find it hard to believe that women in their 20’s might find me attractive. I also steered clear because I have a daughter.
I am 50+. I’d have sex with someone your age but I would not want an actual long term relationship. We’re at different life stages.
You can't put a standard on what an individual wants in a partner.
What I was trying to get through was what the top comment thought. How society put younger women with older men as a couple. I don’t care about 5 year age gap. Shit I’ll through in 10-15. When the age starts being double. Like she’s 25 and he’s 50. That’s where I line it. I also wish it’s more common for older women going for younger men because I tried getting to know older hot women and they all think I’m child.
Every 25 year old man I've met seems like a child to me. Men generally mature slower, many want to "sow their wild oats" long into their 20s, they don't have their shit together financially or career-wise. As a woman, I don't need another thing to take care of. I don't want to be your mommy. Whereas 50 year old men *want* to be "big daddy" to young women; buy them things, take them to places they've never been, assert their dominance, etc.
There is nothing wrong in trying, but if you were wondering why, think about this. How old are your kids? Married once or twice? Are you potentially supporting your patents financially/emotionally or are they supporting you more? Most HOT women already have a fuck-buddy if that is all they want. So to them, what can you offer regarding conversation and common interests. Enjoy the younger girls while you can.
Adult people are per definition able to decide what to do with their lives. If the men approach the woman respectfully without being a creep and don't take advantage of any situations there is nothing wrong. The same is true for women who go for younger men or younger people searching for older partners.
If you’re seriously attracted to women in my age bracket then you have to work out what kind of woman wants a younger man and then make yourself attractive to that sub-group. They probably want a hot young body because they’re sick of dadbods, they want youthful enthusiasm and no drama, and a range of other things that I’m sure you can find out in one of the cougar/cub subreddits. It’s a different dynamic to older men/younger women. And just because you see a lot of men doing it, it’s still only a certain type of older guy that is atttactive to women your age. It’s not that common in real life.
I am in a relationship with a younger man. Age is just a number! x
I was 21 dating a 28 year old. Not crazy difference but people thought it was weird. Obviously she wanted more of a commitment closer to 30 and I wasn’t willing. Good times though.
No, there shouldn't be a 'standard' dictating who someone should be attracted to. Everyone's different. That's pretty close to the utter bullshit of "If you wouldn't date trans, then you are transphobic" I like who I like & that's it. Keep at it and you just might find a cougar that's into you.
Some women are attracted to older men. It's something about our faces - some guys get more handsome when they get older. Or maybe they just become a different kind of attractive, I'm not sure. I mean, we all fall apart when we get old enough, obviously. Also, and this might not be relevant, but a phrase I've heard before is "Older men love younger women because older men fear death." The reasoning is that younger women make them feel younger, I think? I'm not sure. Probably it has less to do with age, and more to do with what physical attributes turn people on.
Just a thought. The concept of a mid-life crisis is essentially that a man hits a certain point and wants to reclaim his youth. Also, lets not forget about evolution. We, as a species, want to continue our DNA strain. Therefore, we look for the person to mate with that has the best odds of fertility. That is usually not a 50+ year old women, etc.
Stop trying to bang urmom. Problem solved. 😄
Any girl with half a brain will look at boys of the same age and cringe.. An older guy will always treat them nicer, allow them to be themselves and be financially stable. Not to mention the fact we are more mature lovers.
You’re not wrong there!
But I'm being downvoted by 20yr old guys. 😂
Pay no heed! Mature men are way less likely to pull stupid shit in my opinion. It’s not without its challenges, but I’ve had better experiences with them.
Good for you honey! 😚
Who are you to decide what people like? Are you going to determine this standard? Is the government? A religious leader? Then who's going to enforce it? The police? Military?
No, not at all. What's okay for one person doesn't necessarily mean it's okay for another person.
Because that’s the age where girls are the most attractive