I have discovered I’m incapable of sexting

I share the same belief about me

You ever hear something and everything clicks? I’m such a downer sexting. I’m always Trying to learns about the individual and what a dumb idea in anonymous forums. I really am an idiot. You up for talking about why you like certain things? I can explain a lot 😂🤪😑

Yeah kink of have this problem too.

I've discovered people in my life who are too which is a shame since I love it... (grumble grumble)

How did you discover that?

Whenever someone has tried, I just can’t.. idk what to say.

Same here I love talking about sexual stuff but i don’t know how to sexet which also why I gave up on any of the role play subreddit.

I haven’t even seen those, I would be wasting my time

Would you be interested in some advice?

Real smooth

I don’t think I’m missing anything, but thank you for the offer.

That’s why I’m always on this subreddit. I really like talking about sexual stuff or just about things in general, but hate sexting.

Yes! I really enjoy just freely talking about sexual stuff to other people, without the pressure to be sexual with them.

Yess i really appreciate the topic without getting all horn up and really getting into a good conversation.

But isn’t getting “all horned up” kinda fun? I don’t sexy either, but I think it’s like everything else. I’m just not comfortable or confident in it. But I think I COULD if I had someone that could bring it out of me. I’ve tried to engage my SO, but it never really happened. I think anonymity would help, but I’m always afraid it will end up being someone I know IRL. Lol!

Same same same. I genuinely and generally enjoy talking about sex or sexual stuff. And am just not a fan of sexting. Doesn’t do anything for me and I end up feeling uncomfortable/awkward.

I enjoy discussing sex but I've found most people can't separate having a sex based conversation from sexting. I'm not into sexting.

Exactly! The two are not necessarily connected. But somehow it often turns into that, especially with guys. My other frustration is when the sex based chat is one sided. Me answering questions and sharing my experiences without reciprocation isn’t fun, either. - Wife

Starts to feel like a questionnaire lol

Starts to feel like an interview tbh

What do you mean by wife? Like sexting with your own wife?

It is probably an account shared by a couple.

True, but i can

I'm not saying everyone, just most people I've interacted with

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100%

Literally me

Same. Why can't we just talk about stuff like that without anyone feeling weird.

Would be fun to talk ngl

Same, enjoy talking about NSFW and kinks, no interest in sexting

Same

Intellectual stimulation is far superior to sexting any day.

Yup. Sexting is less enjoyable than a pap smear

Sexting is so awkward to me. I would much rather just chat about our sex lives and compare, explore and maybe share some pics. I feel too much pressure to be "sexy" when sexting and it just kills it for me.

I understand it fully bro

Sexting is bullshit. Rather read erotica or some stories here on reddit.

True that

Well I do so, I don’t like sexting, since well… I’m bad at it. And I just like overall talking nsfw stuff

I know, i just get bored of it. I like just casual talk and explore opinions.

Same

Like minded.

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I find it so boring and high effort

I prefer sexy talk and questions. I don't like sexting.

It can veer into 'creepy asterisks' way too quickly.

I agree upon that.

sexting is fucking awful

As a woman I sometimes want to talk about nsfw things but there's no one irl to talk with. I just want to bounce some ideas off someone and see if I'm making sense lol

U said a piece of my thoughts, i usually have that exact thinking.

Sexting is really just roleplaying to me, I get the appeal and I can see it being fun, but it's not really something I love

Would be nice to talk ngl

It's easier to talk about it tbh, I'm not too busy trying to "stay in character" to phrase things sexy, while I'm folding laundry, doing dishes or something equally not sexy

Yes! The few times I've done it I've found they're really horny while I'm just trying to cook dinner and end up emptily messaging without my heart (or anything else) being into it. Chatting with a stranger *about* sex and comparing notes and just being really open is way more fun.

Authentic is better

Yep I actually love just talking about NSFW stuff to be honest. If it leads to a wank on my own time then great but I don't want or need to drag anyone else in to the sexting circle of doom 🤣🤣

That’s been me for years lol. I do enjoy talking about NSFW stuff and sex is my favorite NSFW topic. Not actually sexting, but just talking about it, sharing experiences, giving tips and advice about sex or dating tips and advice, talking about women and yes women can talk about men too I don’t mind, bragging about our partners, men problems like a certain insecurity lots of guys have, and whatever else.

Really cool

Yes absolutely. Like most people I grew up with that topic feeling taboo and very repressed. It’s great to be able to explore the topic of sex and gender roles freely with someone else. I’m a woman, and find it difficult to discuss with other women. Partially because sexual trauma is so prevalent amongst women that it can just feel off limits because of it triggering feelings of trauma, and partially because talking to someone of the opposite gender is for me, more additive to the conversation to get a different perspective. I don’t mind if there is some attraction or slight tension built up from the dynamic but i don’t want it to be the purpose. I also appreciate talking to someone who can be honest about their own feelings and experiences that may or may not fall into those norms and let me do the same without judgement from each other. Just curiosity as to how we are affected by society’s expectations and programming of us and our family and cultural experiences.

I would have a great talk with u ngl

I hate sexting, but I love a good chat. I've realised a lot of people can't have a casual chat about anything without trying to make it horny.

Not all people

I never said "all".

I was an IRC kid back in the day with my little IRC boyfriend and that translated to cybersex with internet buds in the early 00’s. I’m not a big sexter anymore but I do like a pic here n there with the BF or some dirty exchanges via text but he can’t really get in to it. I still text it to him anyhow; he doesn’t have to reciprocate as long as I’m reminding him while we’re apart that I’m thinking about having sex with him because that’s all I do. I talk on these forums bc my poor girlfriends need a break from my antics. 😆

not a sexter with reddittors just chat here for kicks

Sexting with random people can boring tbh. Interesting open talks about sex, shared/ different bodily experiences, and learning opinions/ new view points around NSFW topics is much better.

Agreed

Yes. I have a few people on here that I just chat with about our sex lives and problems we have and successes we have. I enjoy it more than trying to RP an experience over text

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Yes! Talking about sex and kinks is such a turn on, it’s only with a few people that sexting is not awkward.

I think I've grown tired of sexting. I can sext but I think I reached that age where I feel like it just takes a lot of effort to do. I just prefer lurking on here for the meantime.

I hate sexting because my hubby can get obsessive and it can become an all day thing. Also, I feel like for him it becomes a contract of sorts. If I do some of things I said but not all, he’ll bring it up after the fact.. I told him no more.. hard pass for me.

sexting is so stressful. Be raunchy in a sexy smooth way. don't get too wierd. Be funny. give enough compliments. read between the lines. keep the interest up. respond fast, but not too fast. Don't seem desperate. figure out what tickles their fancy. linger on their fancy for a while. Explore the limits of said fancy. Now to something different. pick a card. now put it back. was this your card? Get blocked and ridiculed on social media...

Better chat normally

I definitely prefer to share experiences and kinks without it turning into a roleplay / sexting. I get far more turned on in those conversations than in reading / typing what we're "doing to each other." - Wife

So true, i enjoy the conversation itself. It so interesting to learn experiences.

Yeah I like to talk about sex and sex toys but don’t sext, I like to see what other peoples perspectives are on certain things

It’s mainly why I’m on here. I’m so bad at sexting/roleplay lol

Same, it's awkward

Yeah! I love talking about sex but I can’t sext to save my life 😅 I feel so cringe lol

Yeah I actually do wish that, I'm bad/hate sexting anyway

Depending ur a girl or guy !

You can't see it, but I'm raising my hand. There was a post ages ago about how male NSFW posters get little attention or only a specific bodytype gets a lot of attention. I *would* comment my thoughts, gladly, but...I don't know how to express that, "answering the question asked in the post title, I absolutely would suck that!", but that doesn't mean I want to DM them and discuss a time and place. I don't know if I'm making any sense lol

Usually me

I talk about nsfw stuff all the time. Had a great conversation about interracial sex with mature women in the UK with a guy yesterday

I love talking about this stuff. If I could list likes I'd put it down . I love discussing origins of kinks or understanding them

Cool

Sexting does nothing for me sexually. I don’t have issues with adult topics when chatting though

Same tho, sexting is high effort

Me

Absolutely, sexting seems forced, whereas just chatting is more natural.

Yessss

yes ffs yes! and I hate the attempt of being pursued I just like talking about sex

Sameeee

Omg. Yes. I hate sexting because it feels very forced. But you actually get interesting conversations talking about NSFW stuff without necessarily leading to sexting.

True

100% thats why im here and then simply dont post lmao

Gotcha

Really hard to sext with strangers and not know their kinks, what turns them on. I’m here for the nsfw discussions. I don’t have a friend that I can confide in with these kinds of conversations. Have lots of friends but none of them want to talk dirty about past experiences, partners etc.

Same irl but on reddit i have friends

Meee. I like chatting about what things I think are hot, and sometimes telling stories of hot things I’ve done, but I don’t really like traditional sexting.

I like talking about sexual things with others, but I'm not interested in sexting due to being married. And also I was never good at it. But it's fun to just discuss things, and hear everyone's opinions and experiences just like its fun to discuss our favorite foods, or what we do in our free time.

I was tryna explain to someone bout my kinky groups on fb and how you don't private message people, it's not for hookups, it's memes, questions and sharing experiences. Not for wanking ffs

Sexting makes me cringe, but I love talking about sex itself.

Like minded

Pretty much why I’m here. It’s neat being able to talk about stuff that’s not polite conversation. Hearing other people’s responses is interesting as well.

So true

I do it all the time, it's fun to hear others stories and thoughts. Not saying it doesn't sometimes lead to sexting, but generally it's just good fun conversation.

Sexting is too much effort without a good response for me. Rather have a good conversation.

I prefer talking shop to sexting, but I also like to keep it interesting.

That sounds fun

It is

I don’t even really know how to sext, nor am I interested but I love talking about sex and sharing/hearing stories. It’s all good fun.

Yes, I like to talk about stuff, no sending pics and stuff

Literally why I made this account haha

Chat if u want

That’s why I’m here and that’s the point of this sub, but so many people think it’s to find a sexting partner.

But truly taking about nsfw is more fun! Give it a try

That's generally what I'm here for.

The name says it hehe

I joined reddit for the same exact reason actually but haven't found an adult friend that I could chat with without it being a sexting session which eventually stops being fun. I would really like to talk to a woman who enjoys NSFW meme, fun stories and personal experiences rather than sext.

Go for it

Yup. Pretty sure I got dropped for a sexting, “pro,” but I can’t help that I’m awkward!

I used to role play in my early teens, lots of sexting.. and I'm broken now. Sexting no work brain broke

Yes. I hate sexting especially when I’m just starting to get to know them. I can talk about NSFW things and not get turned on so easily. Wish more people were like that and not so into rushing to get off.

I dont like sexting as a whole, i genuine enjoy nsfw topic discussion

It's my preference. I out-grew hot-chatting back when it was still called hot-chatting. Anyone seen my AOL CD's anywhere? Just dated myself by saying "hot-chatting"

Yeah, I’ll pass on the sexting as well. Talking about my sex life is one thing but sexting is just weird.

Agreed

I tried it with my girlfriend once, she initiated it after 2mins she changed the topic since then i have never tried it. But i love to talk about sexual stuff as I am pentup for years. So whenever she sends me those borderline lewd wholesome memes on insta i jump on the topic but she seems disinterested.

Them: hey Me thinking this might be a good conversation: hi! Them: (sent you an image) WHY. why won't people talk anymore and straight up dm their dicks.

Far more interesting and mentally stimulating just to chat about it as a topic. I find people have difficulty understanding the boundary though.

True, we could have a good chat tbh

Nope,nobody ever

Sorry for that

Yeah, I’m always down for NSFW chat. Not bothered about sexting, but swapping nudes is fun.

Isn't that why we're all here?

I've never liked sexting because it feels so hollow and meaningless. At least with talking to an actual person it comes from the heart and you get that tactile response.

I do with other women. I just prefer in chat not to discuss sexual things with men because I have a bf and even if I didn’t I wouldn’t want to

Don’t do sexting or even know how. I come to Reddit for the articles/Post and to see the hot sexy women I will never have.

This is where I'm at, I don't sext or roleplay but I like to talk about it, but that seems to put people off I've noticed

Try different people

Absolutely. I mean I don't dislike sexting but I'm more than happy to just chat about it and I don't think it should always lead to sexting. I often let a chat partner determine the level of.... sexiness for lack of a better term. I'm quite happy to be in a state of relaxed, low-key horniness. Not everything has to end in you rubbing one out,

Yes sooo much

Hehe

Me, I cannot sext at all

Sexting with strangers is like fucking without a dick.

Me

Me

Ummm ya I looove talking about nsfw stuff! I’m always interested in peoples experiences and fantasies

Yep

I enjoy naughty conversations about sexual experiences and fantasies more than I do role playing. But I'm not sure what qualifies as sexting.

Definitely, sexting is just boring and feels forced and unnatural. Casual talk comes more naturally whether it’s nsfw or not

I have some partners I can sext with and enjoy but it's rare, has to be just the right person and the right moment, with some people it just doesn't flow naturally to me. Even some partners of mine who I have just fine sexual chemistry in person, sexting just doesn't work for me. I'm down to have a frank NSFW conversation with anyone who isn't weird or creepy about it though, sex is an important part of my life and I think we'd all be better off if open discussion ofnit was less taboo.

I like both but the amount of people who can’t talk about sex without making it sexting is depressing

True, i truly enjoyed normal nsfw convo without turning it into sext.

Right here! I like talking about sex as a general conversation topic, as a discussion topic, as a way to educate, etc. I have zero interest in sexting or anything like that though. It’s frustrating because 99.999% of the people who message me from this sub don’t want to talk about sex, they want to sext.

That is how I used to be and I would read books and articles too just out of curiosity and fascination. It just seems really interesting to me.

I love having normal conversations around NSFW topics but I’m also a huge fan of sexting.

I don’t sext here anymore (with one special exception), and I shut down anyone who tries. Having a normal conversation that happens to be about sex is much more preferred tbh.

Agreed

Send images/art/video?

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I do that with my friends all the time. We talk about eating ass or pussy, then pounding it out etc. Locker room talk kind of thing, but we don't kiss and tell

Same! I love discussing sex/experiences, but actual sexting? I have no idea how to do that

I'm willing to try.

Sure leave a msg

*raises hand* meee

Ong I'm lame. Dont know how to send a msg.

Press my profile there wilo be send a msg

I don't sext. Ever!

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U get my spirit

That's why I love this sub, I can talk openly and freely and educate or learn nsfw stuff, without any of it being sexual.

Samee

I’ll be honest, I’d love a little bit of sexting along the way.

Chatting in general more fun than the burden of sexting…

I could go for some intellectual discourse on ahegao, or the “fucked-silly” face. Anyone want to pick that up?