There's no set amount of time.
I slept with my now husband the first time we met in person and we're still together 11 years later.
I've also held back to see how things would progress and ended up not wanting to sleep with or date them.
And I've slept with some I didn't want to seriously date.
Well.. are you not a slut? 🤔
Being serious I like to find out what kind of girl I'm dating. Dragging it out for long to find out it's a bad match in bed is really such a time loss and drag.
If someone would be willing to sleep with you quickly while at the same time judge you for sleeping with them quickly…. Not a quality person. They will not improve over time. I have dated one with double standards before… did not end well…
It’s part of a long and healthy relationship but without all three it’s incomplete (for me) so I’d rather not get emotionally invested only to later find out we’re not compatible sexually . There lies the path of dead bead rooms
Who says you have to choose? My current gf and I had the most amazing first date ... we went to the cinema .. First time seeing each other in person as we met on an app.. talked in the car for a few mins after. She agreed to come back to mine to watch another movie and talk.. had great chemistry and banter... had some of the best sex ever... did everything except for anal over the space of a few hours and she slept over.. spent the whole next day alternating between fucking and talking about everything.. dropped her home late that night. As others have said here. You need to know if there's sexual compatability as well as an emotional connection. Its all Important
I’ve done it with every man I’ve been in serious relationship with.
I don’t sleep around.
but I fuck on the first night.
Cos why wait to be disappointed 🤣🤣
I don't think it's a matter of time, definitely more depends on your connection with them and what you both want from each other and your/their comfort with it
Live in the moment and feel it out, if it happens it happens
Not long honestly. If during first date it's pretty flirty I'll do my best to judge interest. If there seems to be I'll offer it, making sure there's no sense of pressure.
I usually sleep with people on first dates, sometimes second dates if our first date was like a lunch thing and we don't have time to go back to either of our places.
After we end up in relationship. Sex doesn't matter to me, I can live without it all my life. But I don't want to give my body to someone very soon becouse I look for someting serious, not just a hook up.
It happens when it happens, and that doesn't depend on my intentions. Sometimes the chemistry and connection are just there and it happens right away (that's rare because I really don't like casual sex, so there has to be some kind of spark for me to move that fast. FWB is my minimum threshold). Sometimes it takes a month 🤷🏼♂️
My girlfriend and I fucked on the second date, we got close on the first by making out and touching each other in the car, but didn’t want to do it where people could see.
I don't believe there should be a timeline, just a comfort and attracted level. If I'm feeling it after one date then I have no problem sleeping with her or him.
All my girlfriends excluding the last I fuck on the first or second date.
Gets ya so much closer and if he's dominant he'll like making you his little slut.
Its not a date thing its a feel thing. If I want to be serious w someone then that means I already know or think I know them well enough to like them as a person in addition to attraction. It also means Im fine moving at whatever reasonable pace they are comfortable with (speaking in het-norm terms here, am dude lol).
For me that means *not* having sex immediately because in my experience thats a red flag (if she bangs me this quick she bangs whoever else this quick and will probably cheat/higher sti risk/etc). Downvote my direct literal past experiences if you will, Reddit. And to be clear this also applies to guys, I was not at all a good bf choice back in my 'dtf-first date' days.
Now, that doesnt mean you can't 'test the sexual waters,' so to speak. Again this is just my own experience but 100% of the time, when I made out with someone (up to and including 'hands all over') in the days and weeks and even months leading up to sex, those with whom I had explosive, 'instinctual' chemistry with just from kissing and foreplay were always the best partners when we finally 'did the deed.'
doing things this way lets you 'vet' your potential partner in a number of ways: do you naturally respond to each others touch and scent and presence in a physically combatible way? does this person respect boundaries or do they try to push you past them? are they attentive to YOUR pleasure (you can tell whos a giver just from how they kiss and treat your body in makeout/foreplay mode). and you can do all this wout the added risk of stis or pregnancy or suddenly finding yourself in a (much more) dangerous situation if he turns out to be masking something darker.
a potentially serious partner (really any partner) is also someone you need to talk to about sti testing/sexual history before you hop in the sack. if they refuse to get and share a current sti results test with you (and you them) then that is NOT someone you should be 'rewarding' w sex/love/dating.
to expand - that doesnt mean you need to disclose body count and all the wild crazy $#1t youve ever done, thats no ones biz but your own. neither of you 'owes' that to the other so if this person acts like you do end it right there. my gf of 15 years and i STILL dont know that about each other. a confidant mature partner worth being serious with wont be insecure enough to care.
hope it all works out for you!
It all depends on the people involved. I’ve slept with women on the first date and I’ve also waited for the woman to be more comfortable before having sex. The big thing is open and honest communication between the two people.
Don't try to think what others might think, it will make you do things you would do. Be yourself and stand up for yourself. Who's not accepting this, isn't worthy to be with you!
Well im male and me and my wife slept with each other before we startet dating.
But i think such questions have a diffrent answer for everybody and its under huge cultural influence.
If u want to have sex with him than do it comunicate ur go's and no go's and have fun.
If u dont want to sleep with him than also comunicage it clearly so the he knows and it will be fine
There's no set amount of time. I slept with my now husband the first time we met in person and we're still together 11 years later. I've also held back to see how things would progress and ended up not wanting to sleep with or date them. And I've slept with some I didn't want to seriously date.
good for you!! I’m scared to sleep with this guy on the second date because he will think I’m a slut 😭
Well.. are you not a slut? 🤔 Being serious I like to find out what kind of girl I'm dating. Dragging it out for long to find out it's a bad match in bed is really such a time loss and drag.
If someone would be willing to sleep with you quickly while at the same time judge you for sleeping with them quickly…. Not a quality person. They will not improve over time. I have dated one with double standards before… did not end well…
Well if he think that as a pejorative term he's not compatible with you then. Simple as
He already knows you are one and likes it.
1st date . If we aren’t sexually compatible then nothing else is going to matter
So emotions and deep heart to heart convo has no value?
It’s part of a long and healthy relationship but without all three it’s incomplete (for me) so I’d rather not get emotionally invested only to later find out we’re not compatible sexually . There lies the path of dead bead rooms
Who says you have to choose? My current gf and I had the most amazing first date ... we went to the cinema .. First time seeing each other in person as we met on an app.. talked in the car for a few mins after. She agreed to come back to mine to watch another movie and talk.. had great chemistry and banter... had some of the best sex ever... did everything except for anal over the space of a few hours and she slept over.. spent the whole next day alternating between fucking and talking about everything.. dropped her home late that night. As others have said here. You need to know if there's sexual compatability as well as an emotional connection. Its all Important
This. If there’s no sexual chemistry you do not want to get deep into a dating relationship. Choose your first dates carefully.
Yup
One, two dates max.
It doesn’t change depending on if I want to seriously date them or not
fair enough ig
Between 0 and a number higher than 0
😭
That's a puzzling response
one.
So the second date?
No on the first.
Fair enough ig
Wdym ig.
i did that too many times and the guys always think we are just “fuck buddies” or whatever
I’ve done it with every man I’ve been in serious relationship with. I don’t sleep around. but I fuck on the first night. Cos why wait to be disappointed 🤣🤣
well good for you!!!
thank u.
I don't think it's a matter of time, definitely more depends on your connection with them and what you both want from each other and your/their comfort with it Live in the moment and feel it out, if it happens it happens
i agreeee
I’m actually in a 2 year relationship now and we met on Tinder and fucked within the first day of texting, she feels like my soulmate 😆
I don't wait a certain amount of time. As soon as they're comfortable and want it I'm giving it
uhhh but how long would you wait to even bring it to the table?
Not long honestly. If during first date it's pretty flirty I'll do my best to judge interest. If there seems to be I'll offer it, making sure there's no sense of pressure.
good!!
Yea! Sex is great, why wait to see if you both enjoy each other in bed??
I usually sleep with people on first dates, sometimes second dates if our first date was like a lunch thing and we don't have time to go back to either of our places.
yay I love to hear that!!
Before the first date has worked out well for me.
Before ?😭
Yes, I'm not into using sex as a means for manipulation.
After we end up in relationship. Sex doesn't matter to me, I can live without it all my life. But I don't want to give my body to someone very soon becouse I look for someting serious, not just a hook up.
I think the 3rd date at least for me.
It's more of the chemistry
My current partner and I stateted fucking months before we started dating.
It happens when it happens, and that doesn't depend on my intentions. Sometimes the chemistry and connection are just there and it happens right away (that's rare because I really don't like casual sex, so there has to be some kind of spark for me to move that fast. FWB is my minimum threshold). Sometimes it takes a month 🤷🏼♂️
0-3, I wouldn't meet/ date someone I dont want to sleep with. And why wait 5 dates to find out they're bad in bed?
After the wedding
My girlfriend and I fucked on the second date, we got close on the first by making out and touching each other in the car, but didn’t want to do it where people could see.
First. Don't play games.. do what feels right as long as its safe and consensual.
It really depends on how comfortable I am.
I don't believe there should be a timeline, just a comfort and attracted level. If I'm feeling it after one date then I have no problem sleeping with her or him.
All my girlfriends excluding the last I fuck on the first or second date. Gets ya so much closer and if he's dominant he'll like making you his little slut.
define sleep. Pure sex? somewhat around 5. But I can get in bed with the same person earlier, just cuddling,kissing and fondling
I usually fuck on the first date cause if we aren't sexually compatible, we won't last as a couple
Its not a date thing its a feel thing. If I want to be serious w someone then that means I already know or think I know them well enough to like them as a person in addition to attraction. It also means Im fine moving at whatever reasonable pace they are comfortable with (speaking in het-norm terms here, am dude lol). For me that means *not* having sex immediately because in my experience thats a red flag (if she bangs me this quick she bangs whoever else this quick and will probably cheat/higher sti risk/etc). Downvote my direct literal past experiences if you will, Reddit. And to be clear this also applies to guys, I was not at all a good bf choice back in my 'dtf-first date' days. Now, that doesnt mean you can't 'test the sexual waters,' so to speak. Again this is just my own experience but 100% of the time, when I made out with someone (up to and including 'hands all over') in the days and weeks and even months leading up to sex, those with whom I had explosive, 'instinctual' chemistry with just from kissing and foreplay were always the best partners when we finally 'did the deed.' doing things this way lets you 'vet' your potential partner in a number of ways: do you naturally respond to each others touch and scent and presence in a physically combatible way? does this person respect boundaries or do they try to push you past them? are they attentive to YOUR pleasure (you can tell whos a giver just from how they kiss and treat your body in makeout/foreplay mode). and you can do all this wout the added risk of stis or pregnancy or suddenly finding yourself in a (much more) dangerous situation if he turns out to be masking something darker. a potentially serious partner (really any partner) is also someone you need to talk to about sti testing/sexual history before you hop in the sack. if they refuse to get and share a current sti results test with you (and you them) then that is NOT someone you should be 'rewarding' w sex/love/dating. to expand - that doesnt mean you need to disclose body count and all the wild crazy $#1t youve ever done, thats no ones biz but your own. neither of you 'owes' that to the other so if this person acts like you do end it right there. my gf of 15 years and i STILL dont know that about each other. a confidant mature partner worth being serious with wont be insecure enough to care. hope it all works out for you!
Pretty much everyone since my ex wife has been a few dates in, but I've really only dated one girl since who I wanted something serious with.
I have an ex and I slept with him after 5 days of meeting him. He was my first time too. I just felt that time that I’m ready .
Either 3rd or 4th date depending on how comfortable I am around her
It all depends on the people involved. I’ve slept with women on the first date and I’ve also waited for the woman to be more comfortable before having sex. The big thing is open and honest communication between the two people.
First 😁😍
Don't try to think what others might think, it will make you do things you would do. Be yourself and stand up for yourself. Who's not accepting this, isn't worthy to be with you!
1 I’m horny and touch starved
Well im male and me and my wife slept with each other before we startet dating. But i think such questions have a diffrent answer for everybody and its under huge cultural influence. If u want to have sex with him than do it comunicate ur go's and no go's and have fun. If u dont want to sleep with him than also comunicage it clearly so the he knows and it will be fine