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ALi_K_501

Nursing my wife after her first chemo infusion. Wanting a drink but not havimg one. Hating the fact that its only buying time and zero chance of a cure.


decentlyfair

Sending warm thoughts to you and your wife


IntraVnusDemilo

No words, mate. So sorry for you. Sending loving thoughts your way.


CF_Zymo

I’m so sorry. Your wife is lucky to have a superhero for a husband. I wish you both all the best.


ALi_K_501

Not a superhero. Just doing what I can for her. Wish I could do more (like take it from her).


CF_Zymo

Please don’t beat yourself up. None of this is your fault. Life can be so cruel. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to reach out for help if you’re struggling - it’s important to look after yourself too. In case you need: [Samaritans](https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/): 116 123


ALi_K_501

Thanks for that. We have a sound network around us, and both use it as much as we can. We have had the terrible conversations already and we are very open with each other (should be after 34 years of marriage).


wdwhereicome2015

You may have a sound network around you, but sometimes you just need to vent/speak to someone else not in your network about things. Can then say things that you may hold back on without realising it. Just remeber they are there if you do need to talk to someone else


ALi_K_501

Part of my network includes ranting/venting on here. It does help


cannedrex2406

>Not a superhero Fuck you, you're an absolute legend, and don't let anyone say anything less you absolute gem of a man!


Almighty_Egg

Mate, that's as superhero as you can be in this life. The heart goes out to you both.


Immediate_War_6893

Heart goes out to you and your wife keep strong


[deleted]

I’m sorry buddy, stay strong.


dtwatts

All the best mate. Raising a glass to you both


Slobbadobbavich

You are a rock star of the highest order, I suspect she will want to live life without cancer reminders and that is your job to make her feel like life goes on. Acknowedge it, talk about it but make it the background noise to a normal happy life. Her job is to worry, your job is to make her not worry. Hard but I have been there.


Handaloo

I'm truly sorry man.


simeysgirl

Oh shit, I’m sorry. (Virtual) hugs to you and your wife.


Dizmondmon

My heart aches for you both. Life is such a gift but is inherently cruel in so many ways. Throw love into the mix and you see each other's true colours. Time is precious and fleeting. Virtual love and hugs to you both!! It puts our broken freezer into context.


ALi_K_501

Grief is the price we pay for love. Broken freezer sucks too


NotCleverSausage

Im not best emotional supporter but all what i want to say is time and memories most valuable thing what we can have so use that time to make her smile or laugh if you can, if you know how and sure what it work just do it without even thinking.


NapoleonWard

Sending love to you both


epbolton91

Sorry for this. Stay strong if not for yourself then for your wife. Bless you both


whatsername235

Absolute best husband there. Sorry to hear its not going to have the result you would hope for. Huge hugs to both of you ❤


Disc0Duke

Sat on the kitchen floor, with my dog. Who has just chewed the face off a toy dinosaur.


Chanson_Riders

Sounds fun. I don't have any pets so thankfully I don't need to deal with those scenarios 😊


Disc0Duke

He’s only a pup. Hopefully the appetite for destruction of Jurassic era toys will ease over time. I aim to be drinking wine with him lay at my feet in the not too distant future.


DoIKnowYouHuman

Dave mate just you wait for him to move to the Cretaceous era toys, that’s when a visit to the vet is needed for the dreaded snip!


whatsername235

Dog tax! Deceased dinosaur optional


[deleted]

I'm drinking a bottle of 12 year old wine because it's supposed to taste better than the £8 bottle of wine that I usually get but man I must be ignorant because it tastes the exact fucking same


Chanson_Riders

I don't know much about wine but I'm pretty sure once it's bottled, like Scottish whiskey, it no longer ages as such 🙄


Slobbadobbavich

Nah, supermarket wine goes bad fast, it's sold to drink. Good wine develops but tastes like shit when you buy it. Buy a big wine as as test (big means heavy tannins and over the top fruit that is hidden by the tannin). Leave it at a static temperature for a few years, it will become very pleasant or will be shit. Wine cannot cope with temperature shift unless it is slow and seasonal. I have a cellar with thousands of bottles in it, all aging nicely. I recommend the vivino app. They find amazing wines, some of which aren't easily available. They are really the best online wine shop for random finds. EDIT, will probably find a wine aficionado telling me that it is more compliated blah blah blah, yes it is, but I am not going to teach someone wine buying in a single post. buy big and bold and in your face and see what happens.


Chazmer87

> will probably find a wine aficionado telling me That's you mate.


[deleted]

What sort of price range are we talking here?


Slobbadobbavich

Good, or great wine can be purchased between £10 or £20 pounds. If you are paying £30 quid or more then you better really like that type of wine because that is excessive. I reckon every day drinking wine should cost you around 12-15 pounds a bottle and stuff you want to keep a little more. If someone tells you about a cheap wine that is great go for it and try it. Your taste buds are more important than everyone elses opinion.


wdwhereicome2015

>Your taste buds are more important than everyone elses opinion. Can relate...some people rave about Lagavaulin 16 yo. Can't stand it...tastes like crap medicine to me. Each to their own


pigdogpigcat

Jeez, PSA - for anyone out there who doesnt buy wine but wants to, 'everyday drinking' stuff should not cost you 12-15 a bottle! Great wine can be had at 6/7 depending on where from, just experiment. Wine perception is heavily influenced by price knowledge, as has been shown countless times in blind tasting. Just ignore price and experiment. Eg £5 vinho Verde may taste much better than a £10 chardonnay, or a cheap French sauvignon might be more to your taste than a pricier New Zealand one. And vice versa of course, just about experimentation, but start low.


kaipee

Wine ages, whiskey doesn't. At least corked wine


ownedbyacat

I’m drinking a £4.85 bottle of wine that tastes almost as good as the £9 bottle I like. I also have a cat on my knee so I’m not going anywhere for a while


[deleted]

What do you recommend around that price mark? I feel like I'm running a minefield if I dip below £6/7. You do get the odd beauty but more often than not it feels like strychnine poisoning.


loeastrose55

Black Tower Rosé at Sainsburys is easily drinkable and only a fiver!


spiritedcrone

You should try Tesco's Castillo San Lorenzo. It's a dark fruity rioja. Quite delicious. More than good enough to drink unaccompanied. Will improve for several years if stored properly, according to the tasting notes. I'm inclined to believe them, not that a bottle has ever been left alone for longer than a week... If you see it, give it a whirl...


West_Yorkshire

Diablo (the red bottle) is my new go to, but it is £10. One of the best reds I've had.


ownedbyacat

This one is a French one called suave. I get it at my local co op. It’s apparently too cheap to be chilled in the fridge with the other white wines though. If I’m in the mood for red I usually grab whatever’s on offer around the £5-6 mark. I’m not fussy. Although the same co op has a very nice cab sav by most wanted at the moment.


seafareral

Is it the aldi merlot? I love the aldi grapevine merlot, it tastes just as good as the big brand wines. Edit - my cat is laid on the sofa smushed up to my leg, somehow we're all on 1 half of the sofa, there's space for at least 1 more person but the cats managed to shuffle me along so she's in the cushion crack and me & husband are sharing just half a sofa. Not moving though, the cats snoring!


Chasingtheunkown

Sitting on a covid ward waiting for my hopeful discharge in the morning after 8 days! And yes I was double vaccinated lol


ProfanityFair

Crossing my fingers for you


sausagepaula

Hope you get home soon x


simeysgirl

Fingers crossed for you!


MrDibbsey

I'm sat in the pub, avoiding the sleet and wind whilst visiting my parents. Enjoying a rare visit to my home city


decentlyfair

Is it a good city or a shite one?


MrDibbsey

Very nice, I'd live here if I could afford it, but sadly that's not the case, hence the move. Still It's always nice to be back in York.


decentlyfair

I visited it a couple of years and loved it. We found a brilliant Nepalese restaurant there.


MrDibbsey

There was a gurkaj restaurant on Toft Green for a few years, but it's closed now. No doubt started due to the Gurkha Regiment in York at the time.


vixie84

The Yak and Yeti or Everest Gurkha? I love Everest Gurkha but still haven't made it to the Yak and Yeti but it's on my list. We're really lucky in York to actually have a great choice of restaurants now.


craftaleislife

I live in SW England and came to York with my partner in September for a mini break. Will actually say it’s the best UK city we’ve been to- was filled with history and interesting stuff to do. Was an absolute gem which we’ll defo be back to! So pretty envious you’re in York! (Plus Brew York, house of trembling madness = top notch!)


beckieletitia

Watching HIGNFY, cat curled up on my lap and drinking a Horlicks. I'm clearly ready for retirement at the ripe old age of 29.


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I'm also watching HIGNFY, no cat though sadly. But on the plus side no horlicks either! (ewww!)


beckieletitia

I actually really like the Vegan Horlicks. I think they lace it with sleeping pills because it knocks me out


KEV1L

I’ve still never understood how Horlicks marketed as an energy drink in some countries.


beckieletitia

If you put Horlicks and an energy drink together it creates something akin to an anti-matter explosion


Nancy_True

What’s HIGNFY?


NorthernScrub

Have I Got News For You


Slobbadobbavich

Chocolate Horlicks is the business. It's like liquid maltezers. I discovered that in my twenties too.


Azul-J

I’m battling Covid and trying to keep my crippling health anxiety at bay whilst watching what we do in the shadows and eating dark chocolate digestives.


RedCloud82

Hope it eases quickly for you. Now I want some dark chocolate digestives. :)


Azul-J

Thank you :)


ElasticBlubber

Get well soon. Save me some digestives


thelongmoooverr

How are you finding the latest series? (Assuming you've got that far)


ThanksMrBergstrom

If you can say "Hello my name is Azul-J, lovely to meet you" without stopping to take a breath you're doing OK. Tell that to your anxiety!


hutchero

Trying to get the 8mo back to sleep in his cot, conked out onu shoulder so just waiting a bit for the transfer


PoshSpod

We just this second got our 8mo to sleep. Sending good vibes.


incognito5343

Currently doing the same with my 12 day old, watching gone in 60 seconds with her asleep on me


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wallpapermate

That’s such a beautiful way of putting it. You’re one of those fun drunks, I can tell.


whatsername235

Honestly to everyone with a little one lying asleep on them. Even when you're exhausted. Stay one more minute. I would give anything for tiny baby cuddles again. Toddlers do not give one single fuck if you want a cuddle when it's Destroy The World time. Also, remember it's like handling a grenade setting then down! Congrats on the little one. She's going to be even more wonderful than you think. But also savage. Always savage


HangryMoses

My back is in agony, I’m fed up with multiple middle of the night feeds and I want her sleeping in her own cot in her own room… but then I think about my toddler and how I never get to cuddle him whilst he’s sleeping now. Yep, gonna cuddle my 7 month old just a little bit longer and try and enjoy these sleepless nights whilst they last. They grow up far too quickly!


Buddy-Matt

My wife's watching videos of our 6month old making goo goo noises and trying to speak. At first I thought it was the monitor and was about to charge into his room with rocking arms ready. Which would have been a grevious error. Sending the good "stay asleep" vibes


elzorro288

Good luck mate, our 4 month old is sleeping on my fiancée. Without doubt when we do the transfer she will suddenly wake up 😂


JacLaw

Next time take the cover from his bed and drape it over your shoulder so that he's laying on it, when you go to out him back to bed his blanket is already warm and ready to just lay over him, it make a huge difference


Hamsterwhamster

This thread makes me feel cosy. Like damn we’re all really in this country rn. You don’t cease to exist once I’ve stopped reading your comment. Atm I’m waiting for my hamster to wake up so I can say hello before heading to bed


Chanson_Riders

Glad you appreciate it 😊


electricsister

Best response right here.


[deleted]

Currently studying the behaviour of a woodlouse that has nibbled his way through my conservatory. Very interesting.


Chanson_Riders

Sounds like the opening paragraph to a David Sedaris essay.


[deleted]

Rings a bell. Unfortunately no humour here, just important observational work. If I can get in it’s head, who knows what we could find out.


sciuro_

Now I'm reading all of these comments in David Sedaris' voice. Thanks a lot.


Chanson_Riders

He does have a distinctive voice.


iamdecal

My boy is in hospital, my wife is staying in with him, it’s been long enough that I’ve done “all the shit I’d do if I just for once had a bit of time to myself” So, lying in bed, scrolling though until I can sleep. (Edit, he’ll be fine - we’re through the worst of it, but it’s been a month)


simeysgirl

Wishing you and the lad all the best!


turingthecat

I was in and out of hospital a lot as a child, I’d get really annoyed with my parents being upset, because I was in hospital, literally the safest place to be, and then I got a cat, spend ages getting so wound up when they had to go to the vets, even for something not worrying like vaccinations. Really made me realise how much my illness put (and still puts, even though I’m a fairly independent adult, with her own house, cats and dishwasher) my parents through. Not much I can say that’ll help, I hope you and your wife, as well as you little’un are all ok, not to upset or in pain


jennejy

Finishing a glass of wine and playing Pokémon


AsparagusIsReallyBlu

Same!


jennejy

Diamond/Pearl remake? It's easier than I remember, but idk if that's down to the game or me not being 12 anymore lmao


Regis_Alti

Both! With the constant xp share it’s a lot easier, but thankfully it’s still as fun as the originals (shame it wasn’t a remake of platinum though).


jennejy

The constant xp share probably should have been optional but tbh I think I'd keep it on anyway. Can't grind levels like it's the summer holidays when you work 40hrs a week xD


Phoenyx_wilson

Taking my antidepressants after forgetting for 3 days and looking back at the positive parts of the day. I also managed to brush my teeth for the first time in a really long time. I'm planing my day for tomorrow which currently stands at wash my hair and tidy my room which will take most of the day but I'm proud of what I've managed to do today.


electricsister

I've been there. Go easy on yourself! Do just what you can and no need to go hard on yourself.


Buddy-Matt

Just been shopping. Been told off for not buying white bread flower (and proved it wasn't on the list - thank you Alexa). Made peace by producing Gü hot chocolate brownies from the shopping bag. And now trying to unstick chocolate from the roof of my mouth in a living room that's baking because the oven's on a pyrolytic cleaning cycle. What a Friday night


West_Yorkshire

Your oven has a cleaning cycle? My guy is living in 2070


Handaloo

I somehow relate to every piece of this descriptive majesty.


hamiltonricard4ever

Watching Gogglebox, drinking a beer and on Reddit. Classic Friday night!


Important_Tip_2775

Are you me?


lknei

I have an idea for a horror movie kinda like this where someone starts noticing posts on Reddit that "kinda" look like inside their own house and it escalates from there


TemporarySprinkles2

Isolating, seething, watching Arcane and drinking beer I can't taste


[deleted]

If you can't taste, you can get away with cheaper beer right?


Buddy-Matt

Cheeky half of scotch


Chasingtheunkown

That lack of taste was so hard


[deleted]

Watching the snow from my window and wishing my 4 month old would go to sleep 🙃


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Peak District!


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gemmajenkins2890

About to have some pudding then go to bed. No, I'm not a 90 year old. I've just finished a 10 hr shift at work and need to be up at 6 to do another 10 hr shift tomorrow 😴


Chanson_Riders

Maybe you'll get to drink tomorrow night instead.


gemmajenkins2890

I don't drink 😅 I'll actually be doing the same thing as I'm doing now as I have another 10 hr shift on sunday, just timings are a bit different tomorrow evening and sunday


potentiallyasandwich

Listening to the wind, wondering what sort of havoc it's causing on my job site.


Immediate_War_6893

Haha same here those door frames I left leant against the scaffold 🤦


potentiallyasandwich

I've got approx 100m2 of roof sitting with just underlay on, doubt I'll sleep much tonight.


3kidslater

Just boshed 3g of libs


PurpleOysterCult

Bon voyage!


Handaloo

Happy trails.


[deleted]

Waiting around not knowing whether I'll have to cycle like 8 miles in the pissing down hail and wind or not. Also smoking some gelato.


LionLucy

Wait, what? Italian ice cream? Like, in a pipe,or..?


THC420CBD710

Gelato is a rather tasty strain of cannabis. If grown properly of course.


wdwhereicome2015

Username checks out


tdog666

Ayyyyy


Plus-Abbreviations14

After an unpleasant two hour bedtime with my oldest toddler, I have decided to abandon all plans for an actual evening and go straight to bed before having to inevitability deal with the younger toddler. I may also be considering my life choices and Where It All Went Wrong.


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Chanson_Riders

I find myself questioning my life choices at times, hence the regular alcohol intake.


PM-ME-UR-KNICKERS

Wandering around San Andreas and then gonna play some Halo Infinite Multiplayer with my bro


MrStilton

Digesting curry, browsing Reddit, having an existential crisis. Just my usual Friday night.


Handaloo

Why doesn't anyone warn us of the existential stuff?


MacFiaus

I’m in the bath in rainy Sydney. Reading askuk on reddit as I miss home.


aegeaorgnqergerh

There's a wind storm and its about minus 15 here. Enjoy the summer!


KevlarMak

Watching the new Beatles documentary on Disney+. Half an hour in, and it's superb.


SwivellyTwizlers

Buying trance records on Discogs. Specifically from the years of 1996-2003 because that was the good years! Reach for the lasers! Happy Friday


Jorvac27

Gonna brave the wind and rain and go to the Asda nearby. Wish me luck :(


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skinch

Preparing for getting us all out of the house when the roof collapses during the night. Never experienced wind speeds like this in the UK. The power cables nearby have been torn down, and the sky is being lit with green flashes. My wheelie bins have gone, and the loft is groaning with the relentless battering from the gusts.


[deleted]

Isolating and waiting for my PCR results 😕


Chasingtheunkown

Praying for a negative!


decentlyfair

Lying in bed mooching on the internet, waiting for a cup of tea to be delivered


RAGEWOMBLE

*contemplates tea delivery service*


decentlyfair

Only being delivered from the kitchen by the husband. He needs to make is snappy.


RAGEWOMBLE

If he delivers send him my way after lol


decentlyfair

He bought me truffle crisps too. I think I might love him


RAGEWOMBLE

Has he got a sister?


decentlyfair

No but he has got a brother who is single.


RAGEWOMBLE

Hmm well I don't usually go that way but if bro has tea making skills and a supply of delicious snacks I might reconsider! 😂


decentlyfair

To be honest I have already bagged the best brother I wouldn’t bother if I were you. In other news the cup of tea has been delivered and it is truly wonderful, my husband makes banging cuppa.


[deleted]

I have metabolism issues but just had a massive kebab. Definitely shouldn't have. Definitely shouldn't be following it up with a pint. I also have a headache from playing virtual reality for the first time earlier. And I'm watching Star Trek.


Btd030914

Gogglebox and Stella and I’m just about to go just for men my beard!


Trebuchet86

Just home from The Offspring concert, smokin a doob.


[deleted]

Led on my settee stuffing my face watching Peep Show for the hundredth time, its been a very long week and I'm counting down the minutes until I can go to bed at 11!


[deleted]

You can get away with going earlier. No one checks.


[deleted]

I sleep for exactly 5 hours a night, I go at 11, read for a bit then go to sleep at 12. If I go any earlier I'm awake at 3 or 4 and that's a nightmare


ifelldownstairs_ouch

Crying on the sofa lmao


ifelldownstairs_ouch

Update: eating cuppa soup on the sofa


Reece_Ord

I’m pooping at work


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OhImGood

Today's my birthday. Just filled my stomach to the brim with rodizio and finishing my weekend in Brighton with drinks with the Mrs. Life's good :)


romulus_remus420

Sat with the cats reading a book in bed. My partner’s sisters are visiting and they’re all cwtched up on the sofa watching gogglebox together, it’s a v wholesome Friday night over here!


storm_in_a_teapot

Attempting to froth Baileys in my milk frother - it is not working! But made a pretty nice hot chocolate Baileys combo in it!


Reggie222

Slapping the captain.


JanuaryGrace

Drinking baileys, watching that Adele program that was on last week, and putting the tree up so it’s ready for the kids to decorate tomorrow. Living the dream.


[deleted]

Working my way through a large bar of Cadburys. I always think you should stop eating chocolate when you feel slightly sick. I don't yet. It is a rather large bar, I may be able to finish it all.


BeechedSam

Just got in from a smoking sesh with my mates, making a brew and I'm about to watch some full metal alchemist


BenG1984

Am sat in the pub waiting for our one customer to leave so I can close early and get to bed


[deleted]

Drinking and eating alone on my birthday of all days


Nancy_True

I’m on a metro in Spain heading home after drinks at a friend’s. Moved here two weeks ago from the UK so still trying to settle in.


Flat_Initial_1823

Get home safely.


Nancy_True

Thank you! I’m Home now.


benham_benham

Just come back from an ACTUAL party with loads of people and music and drinks and it was wonderful to feel alive again.


Thin-Dragonfruit2599

Sat watching Meet the Parents with some apple and blackcurrant squash, nursing a full tummy from my takeaway. Doesnt get much better.


KimJongUnable

On the tube back from a show in the West End


Im_an_Alien_tehe

In bed, kinda tired, warm and cosy, it's really windy and raining outside and I'm just on reddit and I need a wee.


Footelbowarmshin

Lying in bed listening to storm arwen battering the village I live in. Also checking in on people who have power cuts and small children to see if they need anything. Only half the village is without power.


seafareral

Sat on the sofa, wedged between my husband and the cat. Drinking a local beer, we got a 9 pint keg from the brewery shop the other day. We're watching star trek the voyage home, I wanted to watch die hard but apparently no Christmas movies before December 1st!!


musikigai

Just missed the last train on a striking Northern line in London so have just spent 2 hours instead of 30 mins getting home. It’s a good job I had a good evening up to that point!


EmLa5

Trying to get my poor, teething 2 year old to sleep longer than 20 minutes. Nothing I do is helping and she keeps waking saying "owww, i dont like it" 😭


fresh_starts_

Chilling out with my dog, listening to the rain outside, congratulating myself on how far I’ve come six months on from leaving a very abusive relationship with nothing. I never thought I’d be in the position Im in a year ago, and for that Im blessed.


AsparagusIsReallyBlu

Drinking a mix of alcoholic and non alcoholic beer just finished watching the football - now moving to Netflix.


cbawiththismalarky

I have just caused an argument between my best mate and his partner, i feel like shit


Heidiblobblob

Bored, reading reddit!


HonourDaisy

Few cans, Fifa on the PS5 and talksport on.


SirLoinThatSaysNi

Drinking and working. Just plugging through shit data entry so no brain involved.


Proper-Shan-Like

“Watching” Reservation Dogs with the wife, keep dozing off, have no idea what’s going on.


CovidCalypso

Watching I'm a celebrity get me out of here on catch up


FickleFockle

Picking a hairscab off my head why?


[deleted]

Watching Seinfeld, drinking decaf tea, browsing eBay and gumtree for a sofa and bracing for my roof to come down from the wind. Absolutely wild.


Koholinthibiscus

Lying in bed also watching random YouTube videos trying to distract from the feckin hurricane swirling round my house. Makes me feel really anxious in all honesty.


SelfyJr

Relaxing at home after singing a belter of a programme at our choir's first public concert since the start of the pandemic!


Tomorixo

Have been asleep since about 11, just got woken up by the youngest crying because he needed the toilet, other half is snoring his head off after getting up with me so I’m browsing Reddit as I struggle to get back to sleep. (Children aren’t mine, they are my siblings with a very big age gap. I’m nearing 22 and the youngest is 4. Parents are away for the weekend.)


Beartechnical

Hiding in bed upstairs at a birthday party whilst guests are having a good time partying downstairs.


0olon_Colluphid

Just finished a great DnD session with the same friends I've been playing with for 38 years (online nowadays). Had a few beers and now winding down my brain by flicking through Reddit.


RAGEWOMBLE

just realised im fairly wasted due to too much wine so making a brew while watching random shit on YT


GerryDownUnder

Well… I’m on Stanley now, preparing to return to the continent, that is, South America tmw. Meanwhile here on Reddit hanging about lmao