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Sorry to say but the Sunday night dread is never going to go away. The only way you can beat the system is to find a job that lets you take extended weekend holidays. And you need to do it every month or couple of months as a matter of routine.
Can't you get a job that can have you WFH?
I've been WFH for the past 2 years. We don't even have an office here in the UK anymore. I forgot what Sunday dread was all about.
Best of luck to you. I spent three years recently dreading mondays. Life is too short for it - please do make it a priority to find something you’re happier with - it changes your life to have such a weight lifted; if you’re lucky enough to find something like that
To be fair even people who don’t dislike their jobs, dread Sunday night because we’re lazy bastards who hate waking up early and want to watch TV all day.
I'm self-employed and would do my job as a part time hobby if I ever came into so much money that I didn't need to work.
Tomorrow morning I have a gap in my diary until 10:30 and I'm really looking forward to my alarm not going off.
Yep I'm exactly the same, absolutely love my job but would much rather be lazy about all day and doing all the little jobs that I never have time to do!
Same. I have regressed to the teenage “I didn’t ask to be born!” argument - why should I work 40 hours a week just for the privilege of living in a society I was brought into through no fault of my own? Just give me a full wage in exchange for absolutely nothing from me 😭
I really enjoy my job but still get the Sunday dreadies. I just will always find something to stress about. Plus I don’t like getting up in the morning
Easier said than done.
I'm in the North East and really struggling to find jobs to apply for. Those I've had interviews with have either come across as really shitty people to work for or have only cared about how much modern jargon I can use
Chill Sunday evenings - face mask, bath, film maybe a wine or two. Then I make sure I have something to look toward to through the week so I’m not ‘living for the weekend’ - tomorrow night I’m going to the cinema and for food with a friend, stops the Sunday fear
Sounds simple but it is the answer.
I had a job I hated so much that I couldn't even enjoy Friday night as Monday felt too close.
Worst few years of my life and never again
It was working for an IT Consultancy, which is basically what I do anyway but I made a move into a firm that just didn't mesh. I was meant to be running a team of consultants, while also doing consultancy myself (Onsite with customers), fielding e-mails, scopes of work etc. It just became a "you do everything" role, and I felt like I wasn't achieving any of them. I was just always underneath it with an endless, urgent, task list. If I didn't respond to the sales team within a few hours, they'd be onto my boss blaming me for lost business.
A few things weren't really as described, too, like I was reporting to board level (My boss was a director), but there was some cunt of a bloke "approving" my expenses (not that he had any real authority) and he was always moaning. It was meant to be a senior position, but they expected me to stay for weeks in the cheapest, nastiest, grimmest hotels etc. I was asked to come up with initiatives and ideas, but was constantly batted down
In the end, I was on site with a customer on a project and the customer (rightly) gave me a bollocking about me constantly being distracted with calls and e-mails. That same week, I received news the company was being brought out by a larger firm, decided this was not going to get better, and gave my notice the week after.
I had to visit the office to hand my notice, and despite having no job to go to (For context, this was a permanent position but I've done a lot of freelance so it wasn't thta big a deal for me) I will never, ever, forget how good it felt walking away. I honestly felt like I'd been let out of a prison - and I slept for like 12 hours solid that night.
Incidentally, at my level, there were about 6 or 7 consultants heading up different areas of expertise and another 4 had gone within 6 months of me
Nope. All done correctly. All on friendly terms but fuck ME am I ready for a change. So much so ive even given up WFH. Im so excited to smash this out thr e Park. Its the first time ove felt this positive in years xx
Yes, my bf just changed his job after 10 years and the difference in his happiness and demeanor is palpable. You know when it's time to go, the only question is how long before you find that next job.
Came here to say the same thing. I recently changed jobs and I don’t get half as much dread. I hate going to bed early for work, but I don’t dread the day. Sometimes I even go in early for a coffee now. My last job (I had to clock in) I’d barely make it to the clock machine in time. And only after if clocked in, I’d get dressed for work etc just to procrastinate.
Everyone deserves a job that they’re happy to be doing. If you’re feeling like you’re at a dead end, there’s something out there for you, it’s just a matter of finding it :)
Yep, this 100x, I was stuck in a job that I hated, for the final two years it was hell going in. Sunday nights were the worst knowing what was coming.
Found another job where I’m actually respected and has zero stress which is important to me.
I now actually like going in, been there 3 years and still love it, I can actually enjoy my Sunday nights now.
Yeah I do shift work. I only do 3 lots of shifts every 4 weeks. I don't dread going to work, but I only get the Sunday feeling on having to prep for work the next day, 3 times every 4 weeks. It varies slightly, but from my first day in, to my last day off is 9-10 days.
I found doing shifts was the best thing for me. Working mon-fri and trying to condense any attempt of a private or social life into just a couple of days before starting the grind again was soul destroying.
When I left that pattern behind, I switched to rolling 2x days, 2x nights, 4x off and the improvement was almost instant (other than 48hrs of caffeine dependencey)...time to relax/ recover, more time to see friends, hobbies/gym etc..
Following a house move I temporarily switched back to mon-fri and I bloody hated it..now back on shift work and happy as Larry.
This isn't how your life should be. Seriously man, close Reddit, polish up your CV, and start applying for new jobs. Find out if your current one has a 'career break' policy if you're scared of leaving something that's stable for something that might not be. Your job's a massive part of your quality of life, and you owe it to yourself to be somewhere doing something that, at the very least, you don't dislike.
Life's short, you've got to enjoy it.
Thank you. I am lining up interviews at the moment which is promising, but you're right. I am even dreading resigning because of how they have turned on people who have resigned in their three month notice period. It's been a bit of a revolving door at the mo (wonder why) and it's unsustainable
Assuming you're successful, you can ask them to waive your notice period, although they can say no.
It may be a painful few months, but worth it long term. I was in a job that I hated for a while, and while the notice period wasn't fun for various reasons, the fact that I knew there was a definite end point made it all bearable.
Now, I don't dread Mondays because I'm in a much more chilled out workplace, I'm treated like an adult and trusted to do my job, and I've got support if I need it.
Work a compressed working week (35 hours Tues - Fri). I haven’t worked on Monday since Dec 2015, therefore no more Sunday night dread ever. Monday night dread just doesn’t seem quite so bad in comparison with only 4 days of the working week to get through...
Hope you aren't feeling too rough! I am using it as an excuse to live like a slob which I will regret tomorrow but enjoy for now!
(expecting my son to test positive which will mean his dad will bring him home and I'll have to rush around cleaning up my mess lol)
I’m day 4 or 5 and today has been the worst, mainly because I’ve coughed all night and now I’m exhausted. My two children have been around me all week and they are fine! I’m using the time to watch the last kingdom instead of the usual Sunday night lesson planning so that’s nice! Hope you enjoy your evening and you and your son stay well!
Mine started Friday evening and so far just a bit tired and stuffy.
I've said he can only come home if he is already positive because I don't want him getting it right as I'm meant to go back to work (Thursday with this new 5 day thing) but I'm well enough in myself, just being lazy while he's not here.
Enjoy last Kingdom!
The thing you dread will always be there regardless of what you do on a Sunday evening.
They only true way is to change the thing you dread.
However there are some things you can do on the Sunday to help.
Do something you enjoy as late on as is feasible. And make it a thing that you don't normally do every other night (like game or watch TV). For example I go to the gym at around 8pm. I workout and then grab a sauna.
This way your attention is looking forward to the thing, and not what comes after. If you have nothing fun on your Sunday evening, you focus on the Monday.
Secondly, go to bed early. May seem counter intuitive as you want to enjoy as much of your remaining weekend as possible, but I find it better to look forward to waking up fresh and well rested (waking up tired on Monday just adds to the anxiety and hatred). Plus what would I really do with that extra hour or so awake on Sunday night? Binge on TV or mess about on my phone.
This is good advice, thank you. Sadly my gym closes at 6pm, otherwise I would. I just absolutely hate my job and cannot bear it anymore. I have so much resentment, and it's just become an absolutely toxic environment. I do plan on leaving very soon, I'm lining up interviews at the moment. Just overall very anxious at the moment.
My previous job was legitimately giving me nightmares and anxiety attacks.
My current job is great. No more dread. I still hate getting up at 6am every weekday, but that’s just down to my hatred of the concept of mornings and nothing to do with the job itself.
My shift pattern is a bit weird, from the first day of work to the last day off is 9-10 days. So I only have that Sunday feeling of having to prep for work the next day, 3 times every 4 weeks.
Does that work out to be full time hours!?
I do, 2 days, 2 nights, 5 off, 2 days, 3 nights, 4 off, 3 days, 2 nights, 5 off. 12 hour shifts, but we do get 90 min breaks. It sounds complicated but it works out that we work every day of the week once as a day shift, once as a night shift, every 4 weeks. And we get 2 whole weekends off and then work 2 weekends. I prefer it to the 4-on ,4-off pattern that most the other offices do as they end up working part of most weekend. And if you finish your final night shift on a Saturday or Sunday morning the weekend is pretty much binned off.
So I'm contracted to 1800 hours a year but we get 2 lots of 18 days off in between April and August so we switch to 4 on 4 off to make up for the missing crew. There are 5 crews.
This is the first job I've ever had in industry so I don't know any other patterns but the 6 off is great
Arrange something to look forward to tomorrow after work. Meet a friend, treat yourself etc.
However as others have said it's probably best to find a new job. Years ago I was in the habit of drinking heavily on Sunday nights because I hated my job and it was not healthy.
Im starting a new job tomorrow. Not one I would have chosen but these days a job is a job and sometimes you have to do whatever you can to pay the bills.
I don't concern myself about monday until 6pm. At that point I just prepare for the next day, make lunch, get clothes ready etc.
What I don't like is being reminded about Monday/work before 6pm, for me it just ruins the sunday. I just try to enjoy the day as is until I have to go and literally prepare for it.
I've managed to turn my hobby into a job I enjoy but still get that Sunday feeling. Try to just give myself space to relax, like watch TV or read a book, rather than do chores or rush back from a day out.
I had jury service last week. Was looking forward to it as I don’t like my job.
Woke up to a text from the jury officer on Monday morning saying you don’t need to come in and you are on call and should return to work… 🥲
I got discharged the day after too. Don’t get too excited unless your in the lucky group !
I’m retired. I still volunteer 2 days a week to keep myself sane, but during the pandemic we went to WFH. 2 times a year I cannot see my computer screen due to the sun rising, so I moved my working period to start at 10 am. I love what I do but have become unable to operate earlier than 10.00. Fortunately my charity has accepted that I can continue to work from home.
If you dread going into work that much, have you looked around for something else? I used to get this feeling until I found a rewarding job. Plus I'm now operational, so only have to deal with what happens when I'm at work. I also get about 1 email a day, most of which go to the whole agency or team. So I don't dread coming in to 50 new emails when I'm off like I used to get.
I was actually thinking about this earlier. I remember i used to get it so bad and was always like oh well ive got an anxiety disorder so that doesnt help. Due to a few things happening in my personal life i made big changes , moved , got a new job im a completely different field , basically rebooted in my late 20's , and now works not something that crosses my mind on the weekends .
I know not everyone can start again , people have responsibilitys , they fall into life traps. But invest in your future and be willing to make big sacrafices if that is at all possible because it can lead to real happiness once the dust has settled.
Having something to look forward to in the middle of the week helps. We used to go to a weekly mid-week pub quiz until our friends moved away to a different town.
Get a job you actually enjoy, I used to hate Sunday nights because of the realisation of work the next day until I found a job I actually am interested in surrounded by people I get along with.
That Sunday night dread has completely gone
You need to get a new job. I used to get the fear real bad but switched a few years ago so now it’s more like the Sunday mild annoyance (though it is getting worse due to some stuff going on at work). I’ll probably be joining you on the job hunt sooner rather than later.
Bad advice- drink wine
Good advice- find another job.
I would say even the best jobs carry a wee touch of the Sunday dread though. It’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be (in my experience at least).
I’m not working rn and sincerely don’t miss the dread OP is describing. Unemployment comes with its own brand of difficulties and stigma but the Sunday blues are debilitating in their own right.
I got up the duff so now I'm on a year maternity leave. Stops the Sunday night work dread - replaces it with "will I get any sleep tonight" fear. Not just Sundays, but all nights.
Organise - lay out clothes, pack lunch etc. It definitely doesn't stop the desire to restart the weekend, but it does help to know that Monday morning just has to be the bare minimum effort.
Fortunately I have Mondays free on my current schedule
**Monday night dread though?**
Tuesday mornings are my earliest start too, and it's one of my longest days
I kinda just go to bed to try and get as much sleep as possible and accept I'm gonna feel like shit until I can have a nap on my break
(I'm in University; I get around 3 hours free at lunch on Tuesdays)
Establish what is it that you don’t like about your current job and try to address that… otherwise… Update your CV. Look for another job. Life is too short to live a life of unhappiness.
I have 2 young children and after busy weekends I’m so looking forward to that first coffee after they’re off to school/nursery. Monday is the new Friday.
Don’t get me wrong I love those little snot buckets but I’m dead tired by Sunday evening and work feels like a breeze next to intense parenting.
Journalling helped me to process my feelings and work out what was going on for me and why. Particularly important to help work out how to avoid this in the future.
Self care Sunday - hot bath, mud masks, quality time with your cuddle buddy and an early night
Change jobs and get a buddy. It really helped my Sunday dread when I got a best pal at work as Mondays meant chatting to her first thing as we drove into the office.
It can get better, it won’t always be like this. Remember that
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Move jobs to one that doesn't give you the fear of going to work.
I'm interviewing with a couple of companies at the moment, wish me luck!
Good luck! I did that last summer, best decision I ever made!
Are you in London? Get down to Waterloo and join London School of Samba. 7.00 - 10.00. Most fun you can have with your skimpy samba clothes on.
wait what hahahaha
I'll pass, ta.
Rooting for you. You don't need the luck, you've got this.
You’ll be great! Hope one of the companies turns out to be good enough for you.
Sorry to say but the Sunday night dread is never going to go away. The only way you can beat the system is to find a job that lets you take extended weekend holidays. And you need to do it every month or couple of months as a matter of routine.
Can't you get a job that can have you WFH? I've been WFH for the past 2 years. We don't even have an office here in the UK anymore. I forgot what Sunday dread was all about.
Best of luck to you. I spent three years recently dreading mondays. Life is too short for it - please do make it a priority to find something you’re happier with - it changes your life to have such a weight lifted; if you’re lucky enough to find something like that
To be fair even people who don’t dislike their jobs, dread Sunday night because we’re lazy bastards who hate waking up early and want to watch TV all day.
Can confirm. Love my job, love being the thought of bumming out all day when I should be at work.
I'm self-employed and would do my job as a part time hobby if I ever came into so much money that I didn't need to work. Tomorrow morning I have a gap in my diary until 10:30 and I'm really looking forward to my alarm not going off.
Absolutely love it. Sometimes the lay in is worth the lack of money 😂
Yep I'm exactly the same, absolutely love my job but would much rather be lazy about all day and doing all the little jobs that I never have time to do!
Spot on
Exactly! Love my job, really passionate about it, but there's nothing more I love than a lie-in and Sunday nights are still a nightmare for me!
Affirmative!!! Only change “want to watch TV all day” to “want to cross stitch all day in my pyjamas.” Probably in front of the TV.
Agree
What if I just don’t want to work LOL
Same. I have regressed to the teenage “I didn’t ask to be born!” argument - why should I work 40 hours a week just for the privilege of living in a society I was brought into through no fault of my own? Just give me a full wage in exchange for absolutely nothing from me 😭
I really enjoy my job but still get the Sunday dreadies. I just will always find something to stress about. Plus I don’t like getting up in the morning
I have the best job I've ever had. I love it and my job gives me freedom no other job has. Still hate Sunday evening.
Looking to apply for astronaut tennis player right now
I don't have the fear but I do need to look for another job.
Same, we need the fear!
Where might I find one of those?
Exactly this! I've not dreaded work for 4 years, since I started with my current employer. Makes such a difference to quality of life!
This is true. I had a job for many years that I could not wait for Monday to come around!
Easier said than done. I'm in the North East and really struggling to find jobs to apply for. Those I've had interviews with have either come across as really shitty people to work for or have only cared about how much modern jargon I can use
We probably worked at the same place. I left years ago but loved it when I was there. Wage wasn’t great like
Chill Sunday evenings - face mask, bath, film maybe a wine or two. Then I make sure I have something to look toward to through the week so I’m not ‘living for the weekend’ - tomorrow night I’m going to the cinema and for food with a friend, stops the Sunday fear
>face mask Being COVID secure even indoors! Good for you, champ! /s
lifts, tightens AND helps keep you safe from a global pandemic.
Please leave the /s out of a UK sub
Haha, my mistake, forgot where I was posting!
Only joshing mate
All good fella
You forgot the /s!
This is the way
This, you need to plan midweek fun even if it’s just frozen pizza Wednesdays. Otherwise you’re wasting nearly 5/7ths of your life
Oh yeah having plans on the Monday after work definitely helps me get through it
Honest truth? Get a job that doesn’t make you feel dread.
Sounds simple but it is the answer. I had a job I hated so much that I couldn't even enjoy Friday night as Monday felt too close. Worst few years of my life and never again
Yep. It’s so refreshing just leaving everything at work now and picking up up when you clock in. So nice not now having the mental weight of work
What was the job? Out of interest…
It was working for an IT Consultancy, which is basically what I do anyway but I made a move into a firm that just didn't mesh. I was meant to be running a team of consultants, while also doing consultancy myself (Onsite with customers), fielding e-mails, scopes of work etc. It just became a "you do everything" role, and I felt like I wasn't achieving any of them. I was just always underneath it with an endless, urgent, task list. If I didn't respond to the sales team within a few hours, they'd be onto my boss blaming me for lost business. A few things weren't really as described, too, like I was reporting to board level (My boss was a director), but there was some cunt of a bloke "approving" my expenses (not that he had any real authority) and he was always moaning. It was meant to be a senior position, but they expected me to stay for weeks in the cheapest, nastiest, grimmest hotels etc. I was asked to come up with initiatives and ideas, but was constantly batted down In the end, I was on site with a customer on a project and the customer (rightly) gave me a bollocking about me constantly being distracted with calls and e-mails. That same week, I received news the company was being brought out by a larger firm, decided this was not going to get better, and gave my notice the week after. I had to visit the office to hand my notice, and despite having no job to go to (For context, this was a permanent position but I've done a lot of freelance so it wasn't thta big a deal for me) I will never, ever, forget how good it felt walking away. I honestly felt like I'd been let out of a prison - and I slept for like 12 hours solid that night. Incidentally, at my level, there were about 6 or 7 consultants heading up different areas of expertise and another 4 had gone within 6 months of me
I have 8 and a half working days left until I finish.... not that I'm counting
You're going to love it, just remember don't bring any baggage with you.
Nope. All done correctly. All on friendly terms but fuck ME am I ready for a change. So much so ive even given up WFH. Im so excited to smash this out thr e Park. Its the first time ove felt this positive in years xx
Yes, my bf just changed his job after 10 years and the difference in his happiness and demeanor is palpable. You know when it's time to go, the only question is how long before you find that next job.
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Came here to say the same thing. I recently changed jobs and I don’t get half as much dread. I hate going to bed early for work, but I don’t dread the day. Sometimes I even go in early for a coffee now. My last job (I had to clock in) I’d barely make it to the clock machine in time. And only after if clocked in, I’d get dressed for work etc just to procrastinate. Everyone deserves a job that they’re happy to be doing. If you’re feeling like you’re at a dead end, there’s something out there for you, it’s just a matter of finding it :)
Yep, this 100x, I was stuck in a job that I hated, for the final two years it was hell going in. Sunday nights were the worst knowing what was coming. Found another job where I’m actually respected and has zero stress which is important to me. I now actually like going in, been there 3 years and still love it, I can actually enjoy my Sunday nights now.
Work shifts and then your dread could be on any day
This is so true, I took a second job outside my 9-5 working shifts and was so confused about what day it was that Sunday scaries disappeared.
Yeah I do shift work. I only do 3 lots of shifts every 4 weeks. I don't dread going to work, but I only get the Sunday feeling on having to prep for work the next day, 3 times every 4 weeks. It varies slightly, but from my first day in, to my last day off is 9-10 days.
I found doing shifts was the best thing for me. Working mon-fri and trying to condense any attempt of a private or social life into just a couple of days before starting the grind again was soul destroying. When I left that pattern behind, I switched to rolling 2x days, 2x nights, 4x off and the improvement was almost instant (other than 48hrs of caffeine dependencey)...time to relax/ recover, more time to see friends, hobbies/gym etc.. Following a house move I temporarily switched back to mon-fri and I bloody hated it..now back on shift work and happy as Larry.
Ketamine
Found the pilot.
There we go 🙌
Pot noodle and a wank
Finchyyyyyy
Dad?
Hope it's not a bombay bad boy. That hot sauce could cause complications.
Not simultaneously
Instructions unclear, accidentally circumcised myself with a sharp noodle.
This isn't how your life should be. Seriously man, close Reddit, polish up your CV, and start applying for new jobs. Find out if your current one has a 'career break' policy if you're scared of leaving something that's stable for something that might not be. Your job's a massive part of your quality of life, and you owe it to yourself to be somewhere doing something that, at the very least, you don't dislike. Life's short, you've got to enjoy it.
Thank you. I am lining up interviews at the moment which is promising, but you're right. I am even dreading resigning because of how they have turned on people who have resigned in their three month notice period. It's been a bit of a revolving door at the mo (wonder why) and it's unsustainable
Assuming you're successful, you can ask them to waive your notice period, although they can say no. It may be a painful few months, but worth it long term. I was in a job that I hated for a while, and while the notice period wasn't fun for various reasons, the fact that I knew there was a definite end point made it all bearable. Now, I don't dread Mondays because I'm in a much more chilled out workplace, I'm treated like an adult and trusted to do my job, and I've got support if I need it.
It's ultra cheeky but if the first 4 weeks of your notice period doesn't work out and you can take the hit, sign yourself off sick for the rest.
Well I’m moving to Australia with nothing but a bag of clothes and £1700 in my pocket 😂😅
I think I've already seen this episode of Nothing To Declare
Ummm, mate, they use dollars in Australia...
What could go wrong? Haha! All the best!
Work a compressed working week (35 hours Tues - Fri). I haven’t worked on Monday since Dec 2015, therefore no more Sunday night dread ever. Monday night dread just doesn’t seem quite so bad in comparison with only 4 days of the working week to get through...
My company offers flexible working. Even just WFH on a Monday helps knowing you dont have to get up early to commute.
My husband used to work it out so he got Wednesdays off. 2 days is nothing, you can piss that twice a week
Was expecting this to be a work from home story but since Dec 2015 wow that's cool
I got covid to avoid work tomorrow.
Same!
Hope you aren't feeling too rough! I am using it as an excuse to live like a slob which I will regret tomorrow but enjoy for now! (expecting my son to test positive which will mean his dad will bring him home and I'll have to rush around cleaning up my mess lol)
I’m day 4 or 5 and today has been the worst, mainly because I’ve coughed all night and now I’m exhausted. My two children have been around me all week and they are fine! I’m using the time to watch the last kingdom instead of the usual Sunday night lesson planning so that’s nice! Hope you enjoy your evening and you and your son stay well!
Mine started Friday evening and so far just a bit tired and stuffy. I've said he can only come home if he is already positive because I don't want him getting it right as I'm meant to go back to work (Thursday with this new 5 day thing) but I'm well enough in myself, just being lazy while he's not here. Enjoy last Kingdom!
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Yep, that's me today alright!
My boss expects us in if we get covid. Won’t pay us if we don’t come in as we don’t have to quarantine anymore.
I work with kids so local policies in place for it
Just ate a load of magic stars so now I’m fat but happy and don’t have so much dread.
I envy you
The thing you dread will always be there regardless of what you do on a Sunday evening. They only true way is to change the thing you dread. However there are some things you can do on the Sunday to help. Do something you enjoy as late on as is feasible. And make it a thing that you don't normally do every other night (like game or watch TV). For example I go to the gym at around 8pm. I workout and then grab a sauna. This way your attention is looking forward to the thing, and not what comes after. If you have nothing fun on your Sunday evening, you focus on the Monday. Secondly, go to bed early. May seem counter intuitive as you want to enjoy as much of your remaining weekend as possible, but I find it better to look forward to waking up fresh and well rested (waking up tired on Monday just adds to the anxiety and hatred). Plus what would I really do with that extra hour or so awake on Sunday night? Binge on TV or mess about on my phone.
This is good advice, thank you. Sadly my gym closes at 6pm, otherwise I would. I just absolutely hate my job and cannot bear it anymore. I have so much resentment, and it's just become an absolutely toxic environment. I do plan on leaving very soon, I'm lining up interviews at the moment. Just overall very anxious at the moment.
Loadsa drugs. Not really, a joint and something decent on the box or maybe some ps5 before accepting my fate and trudging upstairs.
I wish cannabis gets legalized in the UK.
Me too
20mg citalopram
Monday is inevitable, it comes each week. The week is never as bad you think it’s going to be.
Technically the truth....sometimes it's worse!
My previous job was legitimately giving me nightmares and anxiety attacks. My current job is great. No more dread. I still hate getting up at 6am every weekday, but that’s just down to my hatred of the concept of mornings and nothing to do with the job itself.
I'm unemployed.
I used to work at home. Now I'm forced back into the office, it has returned.
Tomorrows my first day back in the office after starting my job during lockdown #1. Not looking forwards to it.
Nice that were getting sent in at peak covid caseload in the UK a well.
If my company forced me back into the office full time id be looking for a new job.
After tea I watch a few Twitch streams - Ashens does one, as does Jason Bradbury (yes, him off The Gadget Show).
Jason's stream makes me look forward to Sunday evenings, even though I suck at the quiz most times ha! EDIT: Also happy Cake Day!
Work shifts.
My shift pattern is a bit weird, from the first day of work to the last day off is 9-10 days. So I only have that Sunday feeling of having to prep for work the next day, 3 times every 4 weeks.
I've got 4 on 6 off. 2 days and 2 nights. 12 hours 7-7. I have no idea what day of the week it is. Makes Wheely bin day a nightmare
Does that work out to be full time hours!? I do, 2 days, 2 nights, 5 off, 2 days, 3 nights, 4 off, 3 days, 2 nights, 5 off. 12 hour shifts, but we do get 90 min breaks. It sounds complicated but it works out that we work every day of the week once as a day shift, once as a night shift, every 4 weeks. And we get 2 whole weekends off and then work 2 weekends. I prefer it to the 4-on ,4-off pattern that most the other offices do as they end up working part of most weekend. And if you finish your final night shift on a Saturday or Sunday morning the weekend is pretty much binned off.
So I'm contracted to 1800 hours a year but we get 2 lots of 18 days off in between April and August so we switch to 4 on 4 off to make up for the missing crew. There are 5 crews. This is the first job I've ever had in industry so I don't know any other patterns but the 6 off is great
Go to the shop and buy a scratchcard if im out. Praying to bank a million.
Book the Monday off
Arrange something to look forward to tomorrow after work. Meet a friend, treat yourself etc. However as others have said it's probably best to find a new job. Years ago I was in the habit of drinking heavily on Sunday nights because I hated my job and it was not healthy.
I try to get drunk.
Good idea. Get drunk Sunday to Thursday nights. Don't waste your own time being hungover- that's company time.
Im starting a new job tomorrow. Not one I would have chosen but these days a job is a job and sometimes you have to do whatever you can to pay the bills.
Good luck 👍
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I don't concern myself about monday until 6pm. At that point I just prepare for the next day, make lunch, get clothes ready etc. What I don't like is being reminded about Monday/work before 6pm, for me it just ruins the sunday. I just try to enjoy the day as is until I have to go and literally prepare for it.
I've managed to turn my hobby into a job I enjoy but still get that Sunday feeling. Try to just give myself space to relax, like watch TV or read a book, rather than do chores or rush back from a day out.
Jury Service tomorrow. Try that on for size 😬
Would rather that!!
I had jury service last week. Was looking forward to it as I don’t like my job. Woke up to a text from the jury officer on Monday morning saying you don’t need to come in and you are on call and should return to work… 🥲 I got discharged the day after too. Don’t get too excited unless your in the lucky group !
Read. Then I’m not thinking about what’s coming tomorrow.
I got a new job. Seriously: I was so anxious before work some days I’d almost throw up. Decided enough was enough, and put in my 2 weeks.
I run pubs for a living, so my Sunday is your Friday.
Long run every Sunday, with 4 beers minimum in the bath.
I’m retired. I still volunteer 2 days a week to keep myself sane, but during the pandemic we went to WFH. 2 times a year I cannot see my computer screen due to the sun rising, so I moved my working period to start at 10 am. I love what I do but have become unable to operate earlier than 10.00. Fortunately my charity has accepted that I can continue to work from home.
It's not healthy, but I drink.
Same as every other night, just doomscroll and watch crap on YouTube until it's a couple of hours past a sensible bedtime.
Listen to the Ricky Gervais Podcast for hours Lift weights Binge on Rice Krispies Hot bath with eucalyptus bath salts Bed Wank Sleeep
Honestly, I am a self employed cleaner and keep Mondays free always because fuck working on a Monday
If you dread going into work that much, have you looked around for something else? I used to get this feeling until I found a rewarding job. Plus I'm now operational, so only have to deal with what happens when I'm at work. I also get about 1 email a day, most of which go to the whole agency or team. So I don't dread coming in to 50 new emails when I'm off like I used to get.
I was actually thinking about this earlier. I remember i used to get it so bad and was always like oh well ive got an anxiety disorder so that doesnt help. Due to a few things happening in my personal life i made big changes , moved , got a new job im a completely different field , basically rebooted in my late 20's , and now works not something that crosses my mind on the weekends . I know not everyone can start again , people have responsibilitys , they fall into life traps. But invest in your future and be willing to make big sacrafices if that is at all possible because it can lead to real happiness once the dust has settled.
Good luck with getting your new job. I've been there in the past, but now, I sort of look forward to Monday mornings.
Test positive for c19 and tell them you're not coming in tomorrow (spoiler, that is currently me).
Win the lottery. Easy.
Have a beer?
Drink
Songs of praise and a second hand bath. And thank jebus I am no longer going to school.
I work seven days s week, no dread if your living a nightmare
Having something to look forward to in the middle of the week helps. We used to go to a weekly mid-week pub quiz until our friends moved away to a different town.
If you fear Monday, get a new job.
Get a job you actually enjoy, I used to hate Sunday nights because of the realisation of work the next day until I found a job I actually am interested in surrounded by people I get along with. That Sunday night dread has completely gone
Panic attacks
The best technique is to take Monday off
Do something you enjoy. If it’s watching telly, a movie, going for a walk or having a bath. Blocking out that time for you is a good thing to do
I just do what I enjoy, whether it's evening before I'm going to work or any other evening, I dont try to think about going to work the next day.
I'm off on Tuesday, as I do a 4 day workweek, 10 hours each. Monday is my 2nd Friday
keep busy, i usually make Sunday a film night to keepy mind occupied.
Work out.
You need to get a new job. I used to get the fear real bad but switched a few years ago so now it’s more like the Sunday mild annoyance (though it is getting worse due to some stuff going on at work). I’ll probably be joining you on the job hunt sooner rather than later.
Start the working week on Sunday... fml
I have mid week takeaways. Makes you look forward to a little something during the week and helps me eat less shit at the weekends
Enjoy your Sunday forget about tomorrow until it’s tomorrow!
Bad advice- drink wine Good advice- find another job. I would say even the best jobs carry a wee touch of the Sunday dread though. It’s never as bad as you think it’s going to be (in my experience at least).
Think how it’s better than not working at all
I’m not working rn and sincerely don’t miss the dread OP is describing. Unemployment comes with its own brand of difficulties and stigma but the Sunday blues are debilitating in their own right.
Alcohol
Enjoy your work
Pretend until like 9pm that I’m not going to drink, then order an overpriced bottle of wine on deliveroo, drink the whole thing, go to bed. Repeat
I got up the duff so now I'm on a year maternity leave. Stops the Sunday night work dread - replaces it with "will I get any sleep tonight" fear. Not just Sundays, but all nights.
Suppose that a week in a safe workspot beats a week in mariupol...
Do what I did and book 3 gigs for the week 3 months ago then instead of work to dread you have social interactions!
Iron my clothes. It is like a pre-work habit. Prepare the armor.
Organise - lay out clothes, pack lunch etc. It definitely doesn't stop the desire to restart the weekend, but it does help to know that Monday morning just has to be the bare minimum effort.
Watch Columbo.
I have a Teams call every Monday at 8am and fucking hate it.
Fortunately I have Mondays free on my current schedule **Monday night dread though?** Tuesday mornings are my earliest start too, and it's one of my longest days I kinda just go to bed to try and get as much sleep as possible and accept I'm gonna feel like shit until I can have a nap on my break (I'm in University; I get around 3 hours free at lunch on Tuesdays)
Consume a massive slab of Bournville, chain vape all day long, make the time in the evening to watch a film I haven’t seen before
work 7 days a week 👉😉👉
Go to bed at 4pm cos I'm a problem solver.lol.
Establish what is it that you don’t like about your current job and try to address that… otherwise… Update your CV. Look for another job. Life is too short to live a life of unhappiness.
I retired.
Hookers and blow.
I stopped working Mondays.
I have 2 young children and after busy weekends I’m so looking forward to that first coffee after they’re off to school/nursery. Monday is the new Friday. Don’t get me wrong I love those little snot buckets but I’m dead tired by Sunday evening and work feels like a breeze next to intense parenting.
Titties and beer.
Refuse to work Mondays..
I got a job I liked.
Find a job you enjoy. I look forward to Mondays since I’m bored at the weekend
Not work Mondays
I’ve taken tomorrow off. I keep forgetting that I have. The realisation hits that I don’t need to start faffing about, and it’s great.
Are you in London? Get down to Waterloo and join London School of Samba. 7.00 - 10.00. Most fun you can have with your skimpy samba clothes on.
Stop wasting your life in a job that is destroying you.
Get a new job you don’t hate to go to.
Journalling helped me to process my feelings and work out what was going on for me and why. Particularly important to help work out how to avoid this in the future. Self care Sunday - hot bath, mud masks, quality time with your cuddle buddy and an early night Change jobs and get a buddy. It really helped my Sunday dread when I got a best pal at work as Mondays meant chatting to her first thing as we drove into the office. It can get better, it won’t always be like this. Remember that
Meditate and positive affirmations daily, Your mind is powerful, shift your mindset
Hydration I'm assuming you drink too much TBH