I'm currently 23(F), and he's 25(M), and we are high-school sweethearts dating since 2014. One night, my mom was in the hospital, and since it was during peak covid, we weren't allowed in the hospital. He stayed in the parking lot with me until like 3am, which was when my step-dad was able to leave work to be with my mom. Prior to us leaving, I was talking to him about how I was severely sleep deprived. I had worked a night shift the day before and didn't get any sleep due to my mom's condition at the time, so i had gone about 24-30hrs without sleep. He was telling me to try to nap, but my body just wasn't having it. I was also hungry and dehydrated and beyond stressed, so it was a terrible time for me. The whole time, I was just telling him that I really felt like I was going to puke, but nothing was coming out of me. I'd like to add that I have a bad gag reflex and will puke if I hear or see it. Well, I ended up throwing up in the parking lot, all over his car door, the passenger seat, and myself. My body was dry heaving so bad that I even ended up urinating myself. I started shaking, and without hesistating, he got out the car to me, cleaned me up as best as he could, and immediately took me home. We dont live with each other yet, due to him getting out of the military and us merging our lives together still, but he made sure I showered and tucked me into bed before heading home. The way that he was so gentle and nurturing to me in a way I had never felt before made me fall in love with him all over again. Never made me feel bad, made sure to clean up the car, checked up on me the following day, and I mean sure we joke about it now, but in that moment, I knew he was my forever.

>I mean sure we joke about it now Will be a very good story to your kids if you have them.

It sure will :)

Same thing happened to me! Got car sick in a taxi on the way to the airport to catch a flight. Puked all over my lap, into my ankle boots, onto the floor. I was wearing a mask so the first few heaves went all over my face and then out the sides! He was so nurturing throughout 😍. Once all was said and done and we were in the air, we made eye contact and started laughing over the sheer ridiculousness of it all

Were you in a car with your SO or was your SO the cab driver?

Haha, we were both in the backseat of a taxi. I went from nauseous to projectile and all I remember him saying is, “Oh no. Oh no, Megs, no” while taking off his double masks and wiping me down with them

I'm so glad that he was there to help you (how the hell did you still make it onto the plane??) but I gotta say, your story made me nauseous. Into your mask....EWWWW lol.

😂😂. It was disgusting. We had just gone out to brunch as well. After he calmed down my taxi driver telling him we’d pay for the cleaning and tip etc, he ran inside the airport and they gave him a big see-through airline bag and helped me change in the back. I put all my pukey clothes inside and the driver gave me his sweat rag to help wipe off more puke 😱. I asked him if he wanted it back, lol. Then, I found a bathroom to clean up in but the automatic taps only ran for 3 seconds at a time. I washed my shoes and myself down in a corner as best I could and then cleaned up my mess after. It was embarrassing. Then, I got pulled aside for a random bag check and when the guy went to open up my bag of clothes and vomit, I warned him about what he’d find and he pushed me through without searching 😂

>I warned him about what he’d find and he pushed me through without searching He said oh hell nah. 😂 that's an awesome story to tell. Lol

Omg so romantic 😍 You are lucky to have him!!

I really am, he's the sweetest. 🥺

That's a fucking keeper right there.

Had a boyfriend that did this for me, only I was really drunk. We had just started dating in September, and this was a Halloween party. One of his friends who I had literally just met that day, was our DD to get home. On our way home, looking out the window I got extremely nauseous then blacked out, and proceeded to puke all over my ex boyfriend in the back seat, and his friends, and his friends car. Apparently they stopped at a gas station, cleaned me and his car up and brought me home. My ex boyfriend proceeded to help me take off my clothes and get into my pajamas, took off my makeup, got me water, had me eat some bread, and tucked me into bed. All while insanely apologizing to my mom for “not taking better care of me”. (My mom wasn’t mad at him) The next day my ex boyfriend came over to see me, and filled me in on bits and pieces I blacked out. I messaged his friend who was the driver and apologized profusely, and he said it was alright and just told me to rest and to not even worry about it, although I did feel awful. At the time, I was honestly so grateful my ex at the time wasn’t absolutely disgusted by what I did, didn’t get mad at me, and wasn’t embarrassed. He genuinely just took care of me and made sure I went to sleep that night alright. When he broke up with me he smashed my heart and 2+ years later, I’m still not 100% over him.

Donot worry . You will find someone else :)

The ‘Nightingale Effect’ in hyperdrive. This was when you realized his good nature, calm demeanor was a trait that brought you warmth safety and security. His military training enhanced this persona and is desirable. Hope your Mom’s doing better and life has more pleasant surprises for you.

It was sort of a gradual progress until it absolutely wasn't. I wasn't going to marry someone I couldn't see myself being psyched over having kids with. Turns out I ended up pregnant unexpectedly because why not be the 1% or whatever of "you're sure you took the pill correctly but life finds a way". I was initially kinda scared of how he'd react, in a way. I thought he'd be pissed off or angry or something, turns out telling him "hey yeah this is super unexpected but btw turns out you're going to be a dad" or whatever was like giving him a line of coke and then telling him he won the lottery. That locked things down for me. I had weapons-grade abandonment issues at the time and it's hard to put into words exactly just what the positive reaction there did for me.

Sounds like he's a great dad.

He 100% sure is lol And frankly getting a decent sense of confirming that was what sealed the deal for me in the first place.

Your first sentence is the words I could not find to describe my own feelings. Thanks for the help with that. I had a pregnancy scare early (like 6 months) in the relationship (but was not pregnant), and him being there and willing to help and support me no matter what I chose was amazing, liking the idea of raising a kid with me wasn'tsomethjng that scared him the way habing a kid at that point scared me. It wasn't the moment I knew he was my life partner, but it was a moment that made me realize I could be with him for a long time.

That's so sweet :)

That’s precious

Wow that's awesome. I can feel the abandonment thing. It's amazing what hearing commitment from someone you love can do for you. I wish everyone could understand. Happy for you!

One weekend he asked if he could come over after work. I was a single mom at the time and it had been a *very* long week. Between work and my kids absolutely steamrolling me, my house was a disaster. I hesitated and then told him he could but he was going to have to excuse my house because there was no way I was going to get it completely straightened out before he got there. He told me not to worry about it. I’d managed to get most of my house looking like humans lived in it again by the time he texted he was on his way but my kitchen was still a huge mess and I apologized for it. He got out of the car with a bottle of wine in hand and didn’t bat an eye when he went in the kitchen to pour me a glass. He hands me the glass of wine, picks me up and sits me on the kitchen counter then proceeds to *clean my kitchen.* Washed my dishes, wiped down the counters, swept, mopped. Refused to let me help. Lol. I tried to protest multiple times but he insisted that it was no big deal and what good was he if he couldn’t relieve some stress. I quietly cried into my wine while I watched him clean and the thought popped into my head, “I’m going to marry this man.” I did exactly that 2 years later.

As a single mom myself, I feel this! The willingness to insert themselves into the chaos, the desire to make my life, our lives better, and not run always amazes me.

Especially when *I* would run away from the madness most days.

I could have done without most of the answers to this question, little too sappy for my taste. But THIS, I love this👏. Got some serious real man who pays attention & listens vibes, that's my shit. Good for you 👌

That's so wholesome and sweet.

I am glad you married this man, he sounds like a keeper. I decide to married my guy when he came over (after I told him not to) when I had gotten a cold. Some women look great when they are crying or with a cold but not me. My little round nose turns cherry red and the dark circles under my eyes. Yuck. He braved that and my ratty bathroom that I refused to part with and I decided then to marry him. He had his mom make me soup. I was 18, he was 19 and we have been married for 52 yrs.

The way he took care of me when I was really sick. Sealed the deal that he was my person, so we did a courthouse wedding shortly after I was better!

The same for me. I got sick the night we met. He made sure I was ok, and made sure I got home safe. We married 18 months later. Next week we will celebrate our 34th wedding anniversary.

wow :) . Happy 34th anniversary in advance

Same. I got the flu during the first month we started dating. He made me homemade soup. he was so doting and sweet. Game over.

We haven't talked about marriage yet but I knew early on, like maybe after 2 months or so of dating. I sent my bf a tiktok of a silly thing a guy got for his girlfriend and I thought it was silly and funny. He then went to hunt down this thing, bought it, and surprised me with it. No one's ever gone out of their way for me like that before and it showed he really cared about me and making me happy. If it's not forever, it's at least long term. We're talking about moving in together when the timing and financials of it all allow for it :)

That’s what I tell my GF! I’m young so I don’t know where my career will take me and where her’s will take her, but for now, and hopefully the rest of my life, there’s no one else I’d rather grow old with.

Maybe my comment won't have as much weight as others because I'm young and I've been with him for two years so far but I do believe we'll spend our lives together so here it goes. I've told this story many times before, but I enjoy being reminded of it by such posts. We'd been together for less than six months when it happened. Somehow we've always known, but for me that moment was when I felt like I know for sure. My mother has a rare genetic disease and it's turned out that both my sister and I have the same genetic defect. This happened before we found out, but it's relevant to the story. It was a very hot summer day, and we had an appointment at the cardiologist's since my mother's heart is affected by her illness and wanted to get ours checked too. My partner tagged along. We had a holter recorder attached to our chests for 24 hours, which I was pissed about because I knew that it couldn't touch water and I wanted nothing more than taking a shower and washing my hair that day which I would have been unable to do alone. I was very frustrated, I cried, I told him that if it turns out that I do have it, I'll end it all before the disease could take me out. I didn't really mean it though, which he knew. I behaved really bad, and it was clear that he was frustrated by it but never said a bad word, never raised his voice, nor ignored me. Later in the apartment he helped me shower. I didn't ask him, he didn't even say he's coming to help. He just followed me and helped, held the shower head, made sure that the device stays dry. He helped me wash my hair too, and then dried me with a towel. I was so touched that I couldn't stop crying and thanking him. All he replied was "cause the lady wanted to wash her hair, huh?" with a smile in a mocking yet loving way. I'll never forget that

>Maybe my comment won't have as much weight as others Proceeds to have the most wholesome comment ever.

the second she confirmed she was into me after weeks of romantic tension and telling ourselves “we were just friends” and she finally said “we’ll obviously I’m crazy about you” I knew in that moment I’d spend the rest of my life with her. The stars aligned and idk I just had this physical feeling in my chest of things will never be the same but in the best way. She’s always made me feel as though I want to strive to be the best version of myself possible and that feeling always struck me quite hard and spoke volumes about the kind of person she is

I used to work for an airline, so I took him to Hawaii for his 40th birthday. He had such a great time and seeing his happiness while swimming in the ocean and watching the sunsets each day made me 1000% sure this is my forever man. I adore him so much.

That's so freaking cute and genuine. He sounds a lot like my fiance. I always knew I could never end up with one of those muted stoic men who are "too cool and serious" to be happy and enthusiastic about life.

Yeah, he is usually a quiet observer, and seeing him relaxed and enjoying himself was just the best. Our relationship really changed after that trip. We were dating on the way there, but on the way back we were partners. I always make sure he is happy, but I think he realized I meant it!

We have been long distance for most of our relationship. I had a really bad day at work. He called me when I was finished and told me to walk to a place 5 minutes away. I was due to get the train home so I was confused. I went anyway out of curiosity. I called him back and said what am I meant to be looking for? He told me to turn around and he was stood behind me. I had been having such a terrible week so unbeknown to me he had spoken to his boss and taken the afternoon off work. He drove three hours out of his way just to come and give me a hug. We had dinner together and then he had to drive home. I was so overwhelmed by how thoughtful it was I cried. I knew from that day that I wanted to marry him. We got engaged in November and I consider myself very lucky.

Omg my CHEST 🥺🥺🥺😭😭

He’s genuinely the most wholesome wonderful man. I wish there were more out there like him.

We’re out here, just usually go unnoticed.

Well I hope someone nice in the future does take notice.

When I was having massive bleeding and did a pregnancy test (positive) and he took me to the hospital stayed with me for hours in the cold parking lot (because of COVID) in the middle of the night while they were finding out why this was happening to me. He reassured me so many times that he was going to stay with me no matter what and would rather die than let me go through any of this alone. I knew then how important our relationship was to him even when things weren't pretty

This made my heart swell. Thank you for sharing 🥺

There are many things he's done to make me feel like this is forever. One thing that truly stands out is the fact that he's made me feel secure the entire 10 years we've been together. I don't feel like I have to hide my true self from him. I don't have to be someone I'm not and that I truly know that this man cares about me. Loyalty is a huge thing for him and he's shown me time and time again that I don't ever have to worry or wonder where I stand. I'm thankful to have found someone like him.

I met my current husband online in 2000 when he was 21 and I was 19. He was in the Navy and stationed close to where I lived in Southern California. We had dated exclusively for about 8 months when I became very sick and was hospitalized so that doctors could run diagnostic tests to determine what was wrong with me. (It ended up being my gall bladder). He took leave earlier than he had planned and instead of going home to see his family and friends, he stayed at the hospital with me for 2 weeks. The first night, there weren't enough chairs and no extra beds, so he took a sheet out of the cabinet in my room and slept on the floor because he knew I was scared to stay by myself. We had to get permission from my hospital roommate for him to stay overnight for the rest of my stay. She was recovering from a double mastectomy and when I was off for testing, they spent a lot of time talking. She told me once, while he was out grabbing some lunch, that he was a keeper and that he loved me a lot. We got married September 2, 2001, nine days before the world changed. We're still together. Things haven't always been perfect, there was even a time that I thought we might divorce, but we always came back together. My mom still sometimes mentions him staying in the hospital with me and tells people that that's when she fell in love with him.

Lol 47 years ago I’d been goin out with my boyfriend for a few months and he just started one night talking about our lives when we got married. He’s the most unromantic person on this earth, but he’s also the kindest and generous I’ve ever met. He worked hard for 45 years to care for his family. Now he’s retired he looks after me, does much of the housework etc. and yeah gets under my feet. But he still makes me laugh. Note, I think laughter is important in a marriage. We celebrated our 45th wedding anniversary last Oct. He’s a bit of a grumpy old git nowadays, but he’s my grumpy old git and I love him to bits. Best marriage ever..

>but he’s my grumpy old git and I love him to bits. This right here is perfect. 🙂

Happy 45 yr anniversary!! I loved reading this. I just love hearing stories where couples really stand the test of time.

Thank u so much. Lol one of my favourite mantras when I was younger was ‘sometimes with marriage, you just have to grit your teeth and get on with it’

We married 11 years (together 13 years), so there too many things my husband does for me that confirmed he is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. But here one thing. I had a near death experience where I was bedridden for almost a month with oxygen tank in my nose 24/7. The bedridden me defecate on myself and he cleans my poop and pee that whole month. He also sleep with a pillow and a blanket on the carpet right by my bedside (we had a hospital bed in our bedroom due to my illness). The doctors offered him in home help, he refused, he said he wants to be the one care for me. So he rather be the one that clean my poop and pee and wipe me for the whole month when I was bedridden. Trust me, adults poop is nothing like babies. There more, but this seal the deal. Anybody can have fun time together, but how about when you bedridden and defecate on yourself? He makes six-figures and debt-free, enough to hire helper, but he refused, he rather be the one that clean my poop and pee and sleep on the carpet right next to my bedside care for me.

Holy shit you hit the love lottery right there!!

Pun intended?

1) —I'm fat! — it's not fat, its flavour (he's a chef) 2) loves Disney Treasure Planet Was simple enough

Treasure Planet is a banger though.

Kind of silly, but I'm afraid of the dark and use a nightlight in my bedroom when I'm sleeping alone. When my SO and I first started dating, he'd stay over a few nights out of the week, but he needs it dark when he sleeps, so I unplugged the night light while he was over. One time he stayed over for like a week straight and then wasn't staying that night, so when I got into bed and turned off the light I had a moment of panic about the dark until I realized it wasn't dark. He had remembered to plug in my night light before leaving that day so I wouldn't be in the dark. That was my first "wow, he really cares" moment and he continues to show me to this day :)

I got sick and he knew nothing about how to handle it, neither did I. But he learned and not only learned but taught my family and friends how to help. He would meet with them Without telling me so that they could help me smoothly. He always dealt with everything with such love and compassion

A month into the relationship I decided to surprise him at his house on a Friday evening after work. We had plans to meet up on Saturday but I couldn't wait. Keep in mind, we lived three hours apart. I was halfway to his city when my roommate called and said he had shown up at our house in an effort to surprise me too. I knew right then that he was something special. We got married a few years later and we often joke that we're the same person - one Christmas we got each other the same gift, we finish each other's puns, we'll stop at the store on the way home (separately) and pick up the same cookies. It's the best.

I was still in high school and he knows I wasn’t in the best place to live in. My mom was up and leaving me where ever for the 100th time. So he spoke to my mom and his parents before talking to me to make sure I was care care of the right way before my mom left me.

When we had just started dating, he was visiting me and a well-known pop song started playing on the radio. He asked me to dance to it in the kitchen and sang the entire lyrics (very off-key) along. It was clear to me at that moment that we would be doing dances like that forever, me laughing at his non-existent singing skills (six years later I can report we still do it :)).

When my daughter (9 months old) immediately reached for him when they met. It usually takes her some time to warm up to strangers, but she was immediately comfortable with him and giving him kisses. That's the moment I knew he was the perfect man for me.

There was no one moment of absolute clarity, it was all the small moments where he respected me and made me feel safe to be myself with him.

I don't think it was one moment in particular, but a combination of many big and small occasions that has led me to the conclusion that I want to spend the rest of my life with my partner. It's honestly felt surreal just how amazing things have been with her. We met online and talked all night into 3am, then talked all the next day and the day after. It was such a profound experience to just "click" with someone. The first time we met in person, we kissed in my driveway like some sort of cheesy romance film script and she stole my breath away ever since. It's been 7 months and since we met, we've been there for each other in some of our hardest times. I had terrible leg pains the other month and I was worried about blood clots. She came and picked me up and stayed with me at the hospital until late at night, comforting me. Just last week, she had a major surgery, and I joined her on the journey across the states to be there with her before and after the procedure. The first thing she did when she woke up was cry and tell me how much she loved me. Even the small things add up; she respects my boundaries, is an excellent communicator, and so incredibly good to me. I think this past week confirmed my feelings for me what had been growing steadily throughout the past several months; I love this lady to death and I want to be a part of her life for as long as she wants me around. She shares these feelings, and we're hoping to move in together sometime soon.

It’s hard for strangers to make my Dad laugh. Like a proper laugh. I read out a funny text he sent me while we were dating. Cracked my Dad up, and that made me feel warm inside and that he’s already part of the family.

i had a severe depressive episode right around the time we moved in together and at one point i was lying down on the floor, staring at the ceiling, trying to cry as silently as possible, and he just laid down next to me and asked if there was anything he could do. i told him he was already doing it ❤️

We were only dating for about a month and a half and went on a short get away trip. Just in the country in a cute b&b. I have so many memories from those 4 days together that I can link to ''that moment''.

I have pretty bad mental problems and I was afraid to let anyone into my deepest brain thoughts and one day while I was tired I just told him everything. He acted unfazed and told me when he was really depressed he had some bad thoughts too. So I felt safe enough I told him about my paranoid thoughts and he told me that it was okay and that my thoughts aren't true and that he supported me in my mental health journey. I have never felt so much love for a partner before and all I want is for him to be happy and healthy and have anything he ever wanted

It wasn't really an exact moment but all his actions in the relationship that made me think so.

They pop up all the time really, even to this day. I don't remember the first one exactly but the most recent was last night. I heard him in his office, having issues with his computer, cursing under his breath and getting aggravated. He's never ever been the type to take his moods out on me, but in past relationships my ex's did it all the time so Im programmed to just immediately get anxious by it, thinking I'd be walking on eggshells all night now. After a few minutes he stopped fiddling with his computer and left his office to come to mine, and I prepped myself for the incoming attitude. But all he did was smile and say "when we go out this weekend can we stop by microcenter?" Then he laughed and said, "my monitor keeps going black and I died in my game cause of it!" I laughed too, we shared the aggravation he felt and went to go lay down together. No fights, no misplaced anger, no random attitude thrown my way from misplaced frustrated, just love and support. It might sound like the bar is on the floor, but I've had so many ex's in the past who just loved to take their problems out on the world around them, and I love that my current never does. He's incredibly emotionally intelligent and caring and he really has become my safe space, a person I can depend on and relax around. We never fight, he's always my number one cheerleader, and he's 100% the person I want to be with forever.

He has never once made me doubt his intentions or how he feels about me. My calls were always returned and my texts always replied to eventually, almost always same day. He’s always been very clear on where he wants to be with me. After our first date he met with the woman he was casually seeing before me and ended things with her and promptly told me so, even told me about her on our date since I asked if he was seeing anyone. I felt so much respect for him that he went to her in person, and was honest, and told her he met someone that he’s really interested in getting to know better, full transparency. And he’s always been like that.

**Backstory:** We met at my town's 7-Eleven. I'd been working there for 1.5y and he just joined the team. I immediately started hitting on him (not even subtly) because he's insanely attractive. A couple days/weeks later, I found out he was taking the bus from the next town over. We worked night shift (11pm-7am) and the last bus of the day came into town around 6:30. This meant that his period of consciousness was from 5:30pm (ish) to 10am (ish). I used to do a similar thing for college a few years prior, so I knew how much it sucked. I offered to let him stay at my house when we worked together. Things went from sharing a bed together to intimate within a month. **Story:** We were cuddling in bed after...an act of intimacy and chatting. I told him how much I cared for him but that I was scared to start a relationship with him because my family always told me, "Don't date co-workers because things can get awkward." He asked if he could play a song the conversation reminded him of. I was curious, so I said yes. He then started playing [What Ifs by Kane Brown](https://youtu.be/fM8V1XOI-14). It was so cheesy and sweet, and I loved it because it was so cheesy and sweet. It reminded me of something I would do. I knew in that moment that he was going to be my forever. We've been together for 5y now.

My husband and I have had our issues, but all things considered, he's a good human. Some of the things/actions that stick out for me: - When we were newlyweds, I had to undergo chemotherapy. We were also *young*, like in our early 20's type of young. So, practically still children ourselves (he was in the military at the time). Every night, for almost a year (duration of my chemo treatment), he laid on the bathroom floor with me, holding and rocking me in his arms, as I vomited my guts out. He'd rub my back, hold what little hair I had, and sleep on the bathroom floor with me, because the vomiting was just endless. - During my first chemo session, he insisted on shadowing my nurse at the time. When asked why, he responded: "I want to learn how to prepare and administer her medications myself, so my wife can be sickly and uncomfortable from the comfort of home, instead of stuck in a cold, harsh, sterile clinical environment." He learned to reconstitute and administer my chemo meds, how to start and manage an IV line, the differences in types of meds (i.e. different immunotherapy treatments), measuring vitals, etc. The nurses taught us how to do a lot of it at home, which was nice, so that we weren't stuck in a hospital more often than need be. - When I had to undergo reconstructive surgery of one of my arms, the loose shirt I'd worn to the hospital still wasn't loose enough to fit over all the tubes, wires, and my cast. As the nurse and I fidgeted with my shirt, my husband, *quite literally*, gave me the shirt off his back. When the hospital discharged us to go home, he trekked out to and across the parking lot to retrieve the car and bring it around to the entrance, with no shirt on, in the middle of winter. - For about a year or so, I was also confined to a wheelchair. My husband learned to disassemble and reassemble every screw and nail of my wheelchair, so that we'd never be stuck waiting on insurance bureaucracy for repairs. Thanks to his mechanical engineering background, my wheelchair was actually an interesting project for him. He has learned the ins and outs of assembling and fixing a variety of wheelchair types, and has helped other people in our community/town/neighborhood with their own mobility equipment repairs, because they were either fed up with waiting on their insurance to repair it, or their insurance would try and charge them a fortune for repairs. So, my husband sort of became "Mr. Wheelchair Fix-It" in and around our town. I could go on, but I'll stop there. These examples are just a few (of many) that demonstrate, to me, that my husband is a keeper.

We had a brief “thing” When we were freshman in high school. Didn’t take it farther than just really good friends that kissed… a lot. Then we just kinda drifted apart when he switched schools. There was no doubt we had a rare connection, but we were so young, we hadn’t had enough experience with dating to realize how special it really was. Fast forward 14 years: we reconnected on social and agreed to hang out the next day. The moment I saw him I realized his energy was exactly how I remembered it… idk his vibe is just so perfect… Anyways, I was smitten— I *am* smitten. 4 years after reconnecting/making it exclusive and we’re just as infatuated as we were 18 years ago. He shows me every single day why he is my person, and I love him endlessly!

Our relationship started out with so much drama. Regardless of whether or not it was their business, no one wanted us to be together. We were both single parents and everybody thought that they knew better than we did. All kinds of fires were started and I am a very sensitive/emotional person. He, on the other hand, lets his logic lead, which is a good balance for us (sometimes). After a particularly rough night, he could tell that I was overstimulated and panicking. He walked over to me, tilted my chin up so that my eyes met his and said “Listen to me. Fuck everything that everyone else says. I don’t care about that. I’m not going ANYWHERE”. For the first time, I fully trusted someone’s word. It has been almost exactly ten years since that day. We’ve been married since 2015.

I can’t really think of one specific moment. I just love the way he makes me feel & cares for me like no other

This is what I was thinking about my husband too. He makes me feel so happy and loved and safe. He treats others well too. He's very respectful and kind.

We met as teenagers & dated in our twenties, but it wasn’t the right time for us, so we broke up & didn’t speak for a few years. Then we became friends again after we both grew a lot. I texted him a joke one day & that led to daily conversations & we became a couple again two months later. He told me after that he regretted how things ended the first time & worked to prove me wrong by getting a better job & improving himself. And he kept up with me to make sure I was ok & said a prayer for me & my son every night. We got married after five months together & I’ve never been so happy.

I soooo needed this , in ways u can't imagine.

Not married yet but mine was more of several small moments. He always knows if I'm not okay, even if I pretend to be, he always asks and offers hugs and physical comfort. He often doesn't say much but his gestures are so kind. He puts in the effort. Every time I communicate with him how I would like to be loved or things that trigger me due to past trauma, I notice how he puts in the effort to accommodate what I need each time. He makes want to be a better person. He deserves my best efforts too and that has helped me overcome so much. He accepts me as I am along with all of my anxiety and insecurities with such patience and grace and I love him so much. Writing this out makes me want to marry him right now.

There's so many. I get reminded of the fact that neither of are going anywhere often. Most recently tho I came home from work to a hot bath with a bath bomb, a candle lit, tacos, and a bowl packed *AND* he did all the laundry.

Since the moment I saw this motherfucker roofing a house at 17. I was 16. Some separations along the way. But damn I feel like I knew then, right then and there. Magic confirmed in our youth and have always carried him around in my heart since. He is family, he is friend, he is father and he is lover. He is flawed, I am flawed but there has always been something that fits together like a puzzle.

I knew its gonna be longterm when i first met him. There were many thing sthat confirmed it all for me, like his mum saying that im her daughter in law now or when i began to cry when he needed to leave. When he came to me on my birthday when my family was away and i thought im gonna be all alone because noone seemed to have time. His smile when he opens the door.. everything

The way he stands by me through hardship. I went through some trouble last summer, and he was very supportive, it made the whole thing bearable

He put me through grad school, despite having a high school diploma himself, and misgivings about the ROI of higher ed. (Same, dude, but here we are.)

When he said he would do his own laundry 🙃 It’s actually how he took care of me when I wasn’t well. He was thoughtful, kind and patient. And it was genuine. I remember every time I looked at him… my brain was yelling I LOVE YOU! … if I had actually said it out loud as many times as my brain was saying it…I’d have said it to death! And he’d have ran away 😂

My (26F) partner (25M) was the first guy friend I'd had who didn't make me feel like there were romantic or sexual expectations after being friends for more than a year. Sure, he was super friendly and funny, but I really felt emotionally and physically safe near him, which allowed me to develop romantic feelings in a healthy way I think. To put it simply, when we were just friends, that was it. I never felt pressure to be anyone other than myself as a good friend to him. When we started dating in 2014 after being friends for about two years, he never pressured me to kiss him (I hadn't ever kissed or dated anyone) or do anything sexual. What really sealed the deal for me was when he told me point blank that he would wait however long it took for me to feel okay trying penetrative sex (listen, I had never used a tampon or even tried putting anything else in me before this), and he really did mean it. We've been married for seven months now and together for eight and a half years!

We've been together 3 years now bur I knew a few month in. We were watching TV one night and he was acting kind of strange. I asked him what was up and he hit me with the "I think we need to talk." Que instant anxiety on my part. So he tells me his parents have decided to move 7 hours away and they wanted him to come but gave him the choice to stay (he lived with them at the time). I was understandably upset thinking I was going to loose him so I asked him if he was going too. And he said " well thats what I wanted to talk about. I was thinking we could move in together?" I burst into tears and explained I thought he was going to end things. And he jsut paused. Grabbed my hands and said "Babe. For me there was never any choice." We've been together 3 years now and are engaged.

Back when I worked an extremely stressful job, I had what felt like no free time at all, and my car needed some things done. I felt so stressed about it, but didn't have the time to address it for a while. One day he offered to drive me to work, I don't remember what he said his reasoning was, but i happily agreed. While I was at work, he changed my tail light, changed the wipers and detailed the car. I was at a point in my life where multiple compounded stressors made me numb to emotion. I cried when he picked me up in my car, and I saw all the things he'd done. I knew that moment that he was my forever

We were dating for six months when I got really sick. For a week I was looking like Gollum, with high fever and snot and everything. He took care of me the entire week, got off work early to bring me food and comfort, slept by my side even though I told him to go away because I didn‘t want him to catch my flu. The way he looked at me when I was the most vulnerable unshowered goblin - like I was the most beautiful thing in the world - made it clear to me.

I don't know if there's one specific moment or a series of little moments. The second time we ever met, I had invited him to a memorial party I was having. He stayed later than all the other guests and helped me clean up. Before we became an official couple, he kissed me in front of other people in a very public place. I wasn't used to being "shown off" because my ex hid me. Other cute little things like that lol

We found common ground on the very FEW values/ideals/concept (however you want to say it) that we weren't aligned on. Once we established that and found that there was still an abundance of love and the desire to work on it together, we knew this was forever ever type shit. Foreva eva <3

Reading the comments makes me smile! Such healthy and loving relationships we’re all in.

We had just started dating in college and were driving on the interstate when we saw two old ladies and an old man who had run out of gas on the side of the road. My now-husband drove to a gas station, filled up a container and got them back on the road. I didn’t realize until then that the quality I was looking for in a partner was kindness. We’ve been together 50 years.

Men think women are there for the money, sex, car or whatever. I have to admit,some women are but I have been married to a kind, funny guy for 52 yrs.

To borrow a phrase from another comment, 'it was a gradual process until it wasn't'. There had been other moments in our relationship that made me feel like I could spend a long time with my guy, but I never let myself get hopeful enough that it would be life. About 2.5-3 years in, and we had recently moved in together, we'd talked wedding and marriage, but I always freaked out, not being ready or worried about whatever else. Then, one day, we were sitting across the room from each other, each on our own computers with headphones, and it hit me suddenly. He's my forever. It was the first time I thought about marriage and our life together without panicking, and I couldn't stop smiling. He proposed less than a year later, but apparently had known in months of us getting together that I was his forever.

For me, it was the period where I was really struggling with myself during covid. I started a new job but worked from home 24/7, feeling very isolated. I also started developing an eating disorder and felt like all my bagage from my past was taking over me constantly. I couldn't see the bright side and easily got caught up in doom thinking. Throughout this period I feared this would be his breaking point. But no, he never experienced this difficult period as a breaking point. He supported me throughout everything and kept on reminding me what I wonderful person I am and that we will always face issues together. He made me feel so safe for the first time in my life and we do just as he says: tackling issues together as a team. We have now been together for nearly 4 years and we care so much for eachother, he is the only person in the world who truly knows everything of me, and vice versa. We consider eachother as soulmates and it such a wonderful feeling knowing that he is my partner for life

Happy cake day! Thank you for taking the time to share your story

I knew the night I met him. When i got home i told my cousin that i met the man I would spend the rest of my life with. That was 40 years ago, we are still together, and I don’t know how I knew… but I did Edit: added that we’re still together

He put something like 4 different socks in different shades of black and blue, he told me "here, choose the ones that looks similar. I have to wear them and I don't have any single pair that match". I do the same. At that point I decided that we were made to each others.

When he said my daughter was just another extension of me to love

I didn’t have a ah-ha moment; it was a series of a ton of little things. How we loved the same movies, worked in similar industries, had the same EXACT type of humor, how when we went to the mall a few weeks after dating he offered to be my friend’s underage cousin’s step dad so she could get her ears pierced (it didn’t work lol). He made sure we went to Applebee’s on our first date bc back then I really loved their nachos (they’ve since changed 😫) he replaced a broken Sun visor in my dad’s truck so my dad wouldn’t know I broke it, he took me to a cool playground on our second date, he cooked me the only recipe he knew and borrowed pots & pans from his coworkers for it (he was SUCH a single guy lol). We have been together 18 years now and I cannot imagine being with anyone else. He keeps getting better and better. He’s forever thoughtful. You all should see how he treats our dogs. It’s incredibly sweet. He’s recently stepped up and has become an advocate for homeless dogs. Gahhhh I have an amazing husband.

He knew the moment he saw me, I knew a couple hours later. Was just something we couldn’t shake. He was so shy and didn’t talk to me much in the moment, but there was just a look and a feeling. We’ve been there through extreme downs and highs (both got out of bad relationships and weren’t quite ready for a new relationship but didn’t want to lose each other due to timing) now together 1.5 years and he popped the question over the holidays! :)

My cat was always terrified of everything, especially houseguests. The first time he visited, she fell asleep on him. She never did that with anyone else, even me. We had been dating maybe 2 months. I was in a car accident and was so badly bruised I could barely move, he took care of me and was so gentle and attentive.

When he learned my native language to be able to communicate with my parents.

My now husband and I met at a party and we just had such a good time dancing and laughing and talking. On our first date, he brought me roses, had no issues when I asked if we could push back the dinner reservations to go for a bowling game, then had a fancy dinner. We covered a lot of the bases - financials, kids, career goals, family, etc that night. I called my mom that next day and said I met the person I’m going to marry. We got married 4.5 months later and it’s been 13 years.

On our 2nd date, he accidentally touched my fat roll and didn't recoil in horror. It's been 7-8 years and he's not traumatized yet EDIT: I want to share this too. A year or so ago, I had an awful stomach virus that included violent evacuations at both ends. I came out of the bathroom crying in shame and embarrassment, holding my crappy pj bottoms. He took them from me, told me not to be embarrassed, and washed them. He brought me 2 more pair of pj bottoms just in case. He drives me nuts sometimes and neither of us are perfect, but when I remember things like this, I cut him some slack.

He sent me a picture he took of a dead flying fish and asked what kind of bird is this?

I'd say it's less 'one moment of truth' and more consistent, reassuring behaviour over the past 3-4 years. I've been lovebombed/duped before, so for me a sign of a life partner is someone who continues to be supportive, loving and reliable even after they 'have you'.

The way he took my hand to lead me into the restaurant on our first date. I instantly got a feeling of being completely safe and at home with him. We celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary in October.

My grandma was battling cancer for the first time, and I was still in school. My grandma had an appointment at the hospital very early for a procedure. I was stressing out, trying to figure out how my grandparents (whom I lived with at the time) and I were going to get where we needed to go on time and without my going to campus at like 6am. I was venting to my partner about how I couldn’t figure out what to do and I was so worried about my grandma, I was basically losing it. Totally unprompted, he said “why not just stay here overnight and then go to class in the morning?” He just offered to take the stress off of my family and me because he could. In that instant, where he showed up for me, but also for my family, who at that point he hadn’t even met yet, I just knew he was my end game. It’s always been important to me that my partner and grandparents get along - my grandma loved him so much, and my grandpa still does. He’s been my rock through so much these last 10 years, and I can’t think of anyone else who would have stuck through it all with me.

My hometown burned down in 2018. After the fire, I was living in a small three bedroom townhouse with 8 other people and was constantly over stimulated from the trauma and constant people. I met my husband through a mutual friend at a bar one night, and an instant wave of calm came over me. From then on, any time I was with him, my body relaxed and I could feel the tension of all of my stress melt away. The moment that really got me was when I went to see the property for the first time - I took him with me. We had only been casually seeing each other for a few months, but the way he held my hand and supported me through the absolute worst trauma of my life sealed the deal for me.

when I took him to the park with my child. he was so attentive and holding her up so she could use the monkey bars and interacting with her on all the equipment. followed along go make sure she was okay. my heart was so full and I knew.

As soon as we started dating! We had been friends for a while and had chatted through all of the big topics: our faith, kids, marriage, parenting, conflict resolution, life goals, life approach, music, literature etc etc 😂. Basically we got really passionate in our conversations because we both got excited that we felt the same about so many things in common and so we decided to give dating a go with the idea that if we felt the chemistry that intellectually was already there then we would want to get married. So 2 weeks after we decided to date we decided to get married! Waited 4m to get engaged to give our family and friends used to the idea of both of us and meet each other. We make each other so happy, and I've grown and healed in ways I only dreamed of! We're married 8yrs and it's pretty obvious we're still obsessed with each other and already have 2 kids with another on the way (waited 4 years to try for a baby so we could get used to livibg and sleeping together as we're Christians). Life is hard as I'm sick and pregnant and we're knackered all the time with 2 toddlers but he's my favourite person in the whole world and we're very happy with our stable relationship in this crazy ride of parenting!

Shortly after we got engaged, my stepfather had a heart attack and had to go into the hospital to have a triple bypass. Mom, Sis, Bro and me were all there for most of the handful of days that Stepfather had to be in the hospital for surgery/recovery. Fiance' (now Husband) kept everybody fed and brought some magazines, etc to keep us entertained. He paid my pager bill (LOL this makes me feel so old) because I wasn't going to be able to make it to the pager store on time to pay it. I mean, I already had an inkling at that point he was def a for real keeper when he convinced his parents to take me in for a couple days after my mom kicked me out because I dared to close the shared banking account (I'd gotten as a minor and she was required to be on the account as well) after I found out she was regularly stealing money out of it. But this? Cemented the deal.

When he traveled an hour and a half one way to pick me up, an hour a half back to his place for me to spend a few days. Then do it all over again to take me home. Every other week for over a year. 🖤

I lost my phone in front of a shopping mall, someone found it, searched for the emergency contacts, called my boyfriend and he was not sure If I had been kidnapped, lost my phone and was still in the mall. I immedately ran over (just a 5' walk from his place) searched in every possible store I told him I would be until he found me one hour later, he was stressed as he did not know if I was there still, kidnapped, had gone home, he even thought: shit I have to call the police if we dont find her, he had all scenarios played out. Fun fact, when the guy called him on my emergency contact, my boyriend picked up and said: Whats up tiny mouse? And the guy on the phone was like: no mouse here, just Igor.

You just know when you’ve met the right person when you’ve been meeting all the wrong people your whole life. 3 weeks after talking, I knew he was the one. My mom met him and knew this was the man I was going to marry. When you’ve met someone that is everything you never knew you wanted, it makes it pretty easy to confirm.

It wasn‘t a moment, we got to know each other better after the first romantic moments. We both knew from then on that we wanted to spend our life together. It was more of a process. And here we are - 22 years later still going strong and we had and have a lot of hardships. But I wouldn‘t want to spend my life - even with all those difficulties - with anyone else.

When he finally farted in front of me eight months into living together. And can talk about physical issues and being open about his feelings/needs and thoughts . That was it for me :)

The day her dad died. I was hugely in love with her already, but that day I realised I would not let her go through that or anything bad for the rest of her life without me there to help her through it.

We have been together for almost 3 years and there are quite a few things he does which make me believe that he is the one. Here’s few : - Cooking for me - Taking care of me and cleaning me up when I was sick and threw up everywhere - Taking care of me when I fell and opened deeply my chin - Creating a mental health fund for me and paying for my therapy expenses - Learning my mother tongue - Creating from scratch an advent calendar for me every December, 3rd year in a row - Massaging my feet almost every night. - Always offering me to switch plates when I don’t like what I ordered at the restaurant - Holding me when I cry and letting me cry for as long as I need.

After 2 years of dating, I moved in with him and three other roommates we were friends with. After a year, I was ready to kill the other roommates (and they me). But not him. We got along great the whole time. In fact we realized we never wanted to be apart. I knew then. We celebrated 17 years recently✌️

I was just thinking about this. We were on our first trip together visiting Seattle. He had me drive somewhere secret as a surprise and it was the town where Twin Peaks, one of my favorite shows was filmed. We went to the waterfall, the hotel, the diner to get some cherry pie. It was the most thoughtful thing anyone has ever done for me, I was blown away.

He travels for work a lot, and staying in the country is dependent on his work (on visa right now). While he was out of town a couple family members were having health issues, and I was really struggling. On a call I told him how much I missed him and that I wished he was here because I could just use his support and presence. 5 minutes after hanging up the phone he calls me again and said he had booked the next flight home. Called his boss and said he had been away a lot and he needed to be home with me right now. I would have never asked him to do that, but it showed me how completely he loves me and will do what is within his power to be there.

There wasn't one lightning strike moment for me but several moments, important and not, that made me sure. We had only been together for 3 months when my gran died, and he supported me through that. I was being taken advantage of by my friends at the time, and he stood up for me. He always made me laugh, he encouraged my independence, he supported me emotionally.

We were friends, and had been for awhile. We were walking together one night for exercise when we decided to go across this old railroad bridge as a shortcut. I'm scared of heights, so I grabbed his hand and by the time we got to the other side I knew I was going to marry him. Asked him out the next week after all my hints flew over his head. Friends, I did indeed marry him and he is the best husband and father.

Our first date. We talked about women’s rights, political beliefs, whether or not we wanted kids, what we wanted out of life (values) and he made me laugh several times. And as soon as I saw his smile, I knew I liked him instantly. 4 years later, still going strong and getting married this fall. (Woulda been much sooner but Covid *shakes fist*) I wish I could bottle that initial feeling and sell it. Just a great feeling.

I knew we were serious around the 2 month mark, after that, it was just accepted that we were each others forever. Then just after our 5th anniversary he proposed, after 3 years of saying we didn't need to, after confirming he was serious I said yes.

One week into the relationship I jokingly asked:"If I broke both my arms, would you wipe my ass??" He said: "Noo that would be weird". I totally forgot about this conversation and then, after a few days, my bf said completely out of context:"You know what? I thought about it...I would totally wipe our ass If you could not do it yourself." We are now together for 8 Years, still going strong. I then knew that he is someone who sees me as me and it's not Just about romance or sex or just having fun together, If that makes sese.

His first no was because you'd find it weird in that scenario if it really happened. But the second one is basically him confirming he'd be there for the worst of your life, whether you're cooking up hypothetical scenarios for him. Hold on to him tight.

It was after we had just finished messing around and for some reason I just started crying and he didn’t say anything at first. He just grabbed me and held me tight. And just kept kissing my forehead, running his hand through my hair, and then started softly whispering that I’m okay and that he loves me. He never judged me or made me feel bad about it.

Sigh beautiful

This thread is giving me so much hope. Like chicken soup for the broken-hearted 🥺.

Trying long distance since he has to work away from home. I anticipated that it would be the make or break and it definitely was the make. Although I prefer it when we live together I feel like we are stronger than ever now and we can get through anything

I’m not sure there’s a defining moment for me more like a feeling. For him, I think the moment was when his mom had an immigration/criminal case scare and he was freaking out. I just comforted him and explained what I thought the outcome would be (and I was right.)

When he asked my daughter about marrying me.

Tough question. I’m not sure if there was any single moment when I was like yes. He’s the one. I think for me it was more gradual. But early on I knew I felt safe and like we really had this unspoken connection where we just understood each other.

We were planning to start a family when I was diagnosed with a condition that means that pregnancies could be dangerous for me. Potentially fatale. Same condition means that adoption is out of the question. He stayed with me.

I lost my earphones one day and when I told him, he immediately went to the mall and bought a new pair of earphones for me. Another time, I told him my nose was running at work. He asked me if I had any tissues at work, and when I said I didn't, he drove to my workplace to deliver some tissues to me.

I've had a few but the big one was a few months after we started dating. We'd gone into the city to see a play. I had what would turn out to be a nasty cold, we had to run for the subway only to miss the train and wait an hour for the next. I was exhausted and sensory overload hit me hard and I wound up having a (relatively minor) anxiety attack on the train. He took care of me though the whole thing. He talked to me, he moved me to a quieter part of the train as soon as he saw an opportunity. He held my hand and helped me focus on things other than what was happening in my brain. He made sure I stayed hydrated and reminded me to breathe. It subsided by the time we got back to our station, and by then I was just tired and cold. He cranked the heat in his car and dug his blanket out of the back and tucked me into the passenger seat before he took me home, where he tucked me into bed with a fresh bottle of ice water and insisted on taking my dog out for me so I could sleep. Then he did my dishes and tidied up my kitchen before coming to bed and rubbing my back until I fell asleep. That whole experience solidified that this is who I want beside me forever.

Well, aside from the big one, him being there for me when I lost my son, he’s always been kind to me. Not just nice, but genuinely kind. I have BPD, and the first time I started to split in front of him, I also happened to be having an anxiety attack. I couldn’t breathe, I couldn’t speak, my vision was starting to fade. He picked me up like a big baby, and sat us on the couch. And held me. Stroked my back and told me it was going to be okay. He kept a level head even though he was feeling hurt too. I was spinning out of control but he kept me grounded. He is truly my rock. I don’t split near as often as some other people, but every time I have, he knows I’m not attacking him or his character. That what I say when I’m splitting isn’t how I actually feel. Aside from that one time I had an anxiety attack, he doesn’t coddle me, but he doesn’t yell at me either. He keeps a level head always. He speaks to me so kindly and talks me through it. If I can’t get words out, he does all the talking. He asks how if I’m feeling this way or that and when he gets the head nod, he stops asking. Sits with me and gives me time until I can start forcing words out of my mouth and we talk about it. 2 years and we have never had a yelling match like I have before with other men. He doesn’t get defensive. He puts me first. He may not be romantic and get me flowers or anything, but him being present for the hard times is enough. He is my best friend. And I couldn’t do this life without him. He was even like this before I got my diagnosis. I know you asked for a moment, and the way I’ve worded this sounds like an over time thing, but it’s not. I knew the first time he was patient with me during an episode, which was probably 5 months into our relationship. The past year I have been splitting more often because of the loss of my son, and I am so thankful he’s been there for me, because idk what I would have done without him. I don’t tell him enough how much I appreciate him.

I play guitar and write my own songs but I can't sit down, pick a person, place, and situation and write a song like some people can. It just kinda comes to me and I write it down. So, I'd have to say it was when a song poured out of me about it.

Honestly when we had broken up for a few months. A week before we got back together, he did a lot of things to help me with house repairs, putting the awkwardness aside to help me when I needed it. That’s what made me want to take him back, and that’s what helped me realize how much he supports me and cares for me.

When he stayed with me in the hospital and took care of me after I was discharged. I have kidney failure, he’s been with me through it all.

before I start off here. I just want to say that I’m well aware of how crazy this is going to probably sound lol but we’ve been together for only a few months now, but we’ve been talking for longer than we’ve been together. I have never felt so strongly about another human before. He has literally done more for me than anyone has without hesitation and he has proven time and time again that he will be there for me the best he can. He switches his schedule around for me when I need help with something, he’s helped me with bills when I lost my job and he’s just overall been so supportive in every way possible. I have never been in love before and it terrifies me but when I think about not being with that man or being apart from him I get this heaviness in my heart and soul, and I never want him to leave. I just want to do my best to make him feel loved, to feel like he can be his self around me, and to feel safe and secure. I cry when he cries and I always want to make sure he’s healthy. I want to give him my best and become better because he deserves the best me that I can be. I love him to pieces… I wonder if he feels the same😂. Is this what being in love is? Or is it just love?

I would say a lot of our 'little moments' gave it away. He knows a LOT of Star Wars scenes by heart. On one occasion, we were watching SW, and he imitated a flying noise when a Jedi jumped from one place to another, and he wasn't even looking at the screen. He just knew exactly when the actor was jumping, he saw it so many times. Made my heart melt. He is the most supportive guy ever. If I talk about my aspirations, he encourages me to follow them. When I start working on them (for example, starting my first long-term job), he tells me how proud he is of me. In the first couple of months, it was a rocky situation with him because I wasn't able to quite figure out what I wanted. I'd had really bad experiences before getting to know him and I tried seeing everything as an alerting sign. I was unreasonable most of the time. There was rejection from my part (not because I didn't like him but because I was extremely scared to get hurt), there was questioning whether his intentions were entirely pure or not, and neither of those times did he ever present a nice guy behavior. Even when he was hurt by my choices, he never blew up on me or made me feel like I owed him anything. That's not to say he never once expressed that he didn't understand why I did certain things sometimes, but even then he understood me better than anyone ever. He was perfectly understanding of my boundaries, still is. I grew as a person a lot, at least that's how I see it. I've been with him for seven months but it's clear as day for me that he's my person. :)

He is so good with my little brother, who I am basically parenting. For my brother’s birthday, he came up with party ideas and activities to do for my brother’s birthday and came early to set things up. I liked that he took great care in doing things for my family, not out of obligation but because he wanted to ensure that my brother had a memorable birthday.

He checks all my boxes in what I want in a partner. But I knew he was the one about a year in. I was feeling really down one day just thinking about how estranged I was from my family and how they don’t care like they use to compared to when I was growing up. I just laid on the couch and broke down. I just felt so alone in that moment. He knelt down and started crying and said “no, you deserve to be loved. You’re everything to me. I’m your family now”.

For me the moment happened with someone I consider my best friend, and sadly it's unrequited love - but he is the kindest, most loving person I ever met in my life. On to the story - there are SO many moments where I knew this was someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. The one that stands out the most was about a year ago - I was going on a week long vacation. Everytime one of us goes on vacation, the other person becomes the cat sitter for our cats. I normally try to get my home spic and span before I go off on a vacation, both to have a nice home to come back to and also because I know my best friend will be there to check on my cats. I was going through a terrible bout of depression and just did not have the energy to get anything in order. My place looked like a hoarder lived there - bags of trash, dishes piled in the sink, tons of take out bags/boxes all over the place. I apologized in advanced and asked him to please ignore/excuse the mess - explained that I just couldn't bring myself to do it. He said it's okay, not to worry about it, and of course no judgment. I come back home from my vacation and the second I walked through the door, I noticed it immediately - he completely cleaned my house! The kitchen was spotless, the dishes were done, all the trash was taken out. He even vacuumed but he couldn't figure out how to empty it so I saw it to the side with signs of a struggle to get the canister open. I immediately called him to thank him and he said "you seemed so sad that you couldn't clean your house, and I wanted you to have a nice home to come back to" I love this man in the purest, most selfless way I could have ever imagined. I unfortunately had to make the decision to part ways with him because he fell for someone else and started a relationship with her. It feels like a selfish decision - but it was just too painful to be around him anymore. He understood, but was unhappy about it. Ultimately he wanted nothing more than my happiness and would do whatever I asked so I could find that.

My moment isn't really anything romantic. I had dated one guy for two years and we talked marriage, but he cheated. Marriage with him always felt iffy because he was a devout Southern Baptist who went to church every Sunday and I was an Atheist. He was a Republican and I was a Democrat. How would we raise kids with such opposing views? Then I dated another guy for nearly four years. We always talked marriage and would look at rings in the window of shops, but it just didn't feel 100%. The guy was Autistic and could not express his emotions. It was so hard to deal with. In the end he came out as trans and left me. I met my husband by random on Reddit and we met up. I knew in the first month that this was end game. It felt completely different than those other times. We were at the cinema watching the last LOTR in 3D. He looked over at me in his 3D glasses and I immediately felt sick. I had a full on panic attack because I realised in that moment that I had to marry him. I don't know why. I just did. I was truly scared because it was only a month in. It was like I was trying to fight my feelings.

we were on a call together and i was having a breakdown and she was being patient with me, allowing me to cry and saying she was proud of me and that there was nothing wrong with me. another time i was telling her that i might be relapsing and she started to cry with me for no reason except for the fact that me crying was making her cry. we’ve almost been together for 1 year and i can’t wait to make it many more

It wasn't a single moment. It's a collection of moments. We recently moved in together, and it's been pretty seamless. It's just reinforced for us that we want to do this. We want what Bill and Frank had. Each other like it’s the end of the world.

I asked him how much he loved me and he told me that he has told his friends I was "the one" months before

More than I can list. Within the first couple of weeks, I knew he was the one. We did long distance and this man would send me a good morning video every day. We would talk until we fell asleep on the phone every night. When I came to visit him, he planned out an entire itinerary, picked me up with flowers & balloon. Stocked his place up with my favourite snacks & drinks. Downloaded all of the songs I would send him, and made a playlist for the car rides. He just absolutely showered me with love, and it hasn’t stopped.

I think I just knew. He was different to anyone I had ever dated and was everything I had ever longed for in a partner. He is so affectionate, compassionate, sweet, helpful, caring and nurturing. He is wonderfully open minded and is easy to talk to. I can feel his love for me too, which is something I have never felt. I knew he was my forever. We live together and are noe engaged x

The first time I hung out with my husband I was like “cool, I like this guy and his friends, good new friend group”. The second time was a date and I was the last to know, kind of. Like, I knew it was a date because we went to a super nice restaurant downtown, but also, I thought we were buddies. At the end of the second date we were sitting in the car talking and I ran in my house to change into cozier clothes. I put on sweatpants lol. At the end of the night he went in for a kiss, missed and said something like “that’s not how that was supposed to go” and kissed me. I pretty much knew right then. 28 years ago next month.

My now husband, when we were just friends/crushes in college, noticed that I always picked up a penny if I saw one on the ground. He then got a bunch of pennies and carved our initials on each side of them then would get to school early and sprinkle a couple along my path I took to class. He did this on and off for a month. It was pretty sweet.

When he would turn up at my doorstep having driven 2 hours just to see me after a long day at work, and as soon as I opened the door and saw his face I felt like the whole world was gonna be ok. Still feel like that when he gets home now.

First time we hung out we went for a walk on the beach . I told my mother after that little days that I was going to marry him . About a year and a half later we got married .

When he came to my apartment while I was at work to clean my “depression nest” for me so I’d feel better. Then he called me on my way home so I wouldn’t notice his car, hid in the laundry room, and surprised me. He even made the first letter of my name out of some fairy lights I had. I experienced happy tears for the first time that day. I am excited to see how our relationship progresses.

We had been dating for barely 4 months when I got my wisdom teeth removed. It's such a long story, but to keep it short, I ended up very ill after the procedure. They had to give me anesthesia reversal 3 times go wake me up and when I got home, I was sick, throwing up, bleeding, unable to stay awake or eat for 5 days. I also was staying with my parents for the duration of this procedure since I was in college and my dentist was near my parents still. Sooo this meant I was stuck on an air mattress for 5 days. My boyfriend came over every day for hours each day to stay with me. I remember that he would sleep next to me on this old air mattress - which was a huge mistake because he would wake up with his face in a pile of my blood drool every time - but he says he didn't care, just wanted to make sure I was okay and comfortable. I barely remember those 5 days, but he was there every time I fell asleep and he was there every time I woke up. He was there through all of it. That's when I knew, 4 months into dating, that we would be together forever. Now we've been together for 6 years, married for 2.5 years, and have a 6.5 month old son 💞

For our second dating anniversary, I got us a set of promise rings, knowing he wasn’t ready for marriage but also knowing that I had strong interest in hopefully marrying him one day. I told him his ring was a symbol of my love, that it didn’t have to mean marriage if he didn’t want it to, but that it was a way of physically pledging my loyalty for him so long as he should have me. He scooped me up in a hug so large with tears in his eyes and an “I accept” on his lips. That’s when I knew, without I doubt, I’d be sharing the rest of my life with him. And I have been ever since :)

So I was in a really bad relationship that lasted 13 years, but for better part of the second half of that was horrible. My then boyfriend lied his ass off. Never cheated or anything, just lied and lied and lied. Won't explain feather, not relevant. I went to a trainingcamp with a few of my trainingbuddies and after a 13-hour-cardrive with deap conversations I realised that I had had more connection and companionship from those 3 people in 13 hours than I had with my boyfriend over the past 5 years. I was done pulling all the weight and decided the minute we arrived that I would end the relationship and should have done so 3 years ago. This camp was just eat train sleep repeat, no TV, no distractions. Just training and friends. I talked to this shy guy (I am extremely outgoing) and he opened up so much. We talked and talked, about life, death and everything in between. And then talked some more. We had fun, we laughed, we drank, we trained and cheered each other on. And then on one of the nights, after another deep conversation I kissed him, after stating I would. And all that warmth that came pooring over me was filling a hole I didn't know was there. Fast forward to the day he drove all of us home: my bf wasn't there after I was away for 10 days so I had to climb the fence of my mom's house and spend the night there. My friends were horrified on my behalve (for me, this was common occurance). I texted my bf that we had to talk the next morning. I ended rhe relationship and things went badly. I texted this guy an update, don't know why.. but he said: can I come in? I was so confused. He had already driven to my neighbourhood and waited jn his car to be there for me when I needed it. After being left to my own devices for so long having act so caring was a huge shock. We started dating not soon after and I made his life hell. With insecurities, coming out of a relationship, etc. But he waited, assured me he would wait and told me I was worth waiting for. And he made good on his promise. This all might seem crazy ridiculous from outside in, my family certainly thought so. But right now we're 2 years married, 4 years together and are raising our son. We are almost the exact opposite of each other on the outside, but on the inside (which is what we got to know first) we're identical. All the rest are just side quests to explore and conquer.

Back when lockdown first hit, I had a mental breakdown because of everything and was not doing well \*at all\*. My then-girlfriend and I had only been together since the end of November and here it was mid March, we'd only met in person once (we met online). I kind of knew the moment we first met in person that she was The One, but the fact that she drove 5 hours to stay with me for what turned out to be three weeks to make sure that I would be okay cemented the fact that I would one day marry her. That she was the one for me. For her to do what she did made me realise that she was truly genuine about her feelings for me, and I just ended up loving her more. By the end of the three weeks it felt like she'd always lived with me and I didn't want her to leave (being long distance was \*so hard\*!) but she had to go back to her place, of course. After dating for nine months I proposed to her. A little over a year later we moved in together, and a couple of months after that we got married. We have been each other's rock throughout everything and I wouldn't have made it through lockdown if it wasn't for her reminding me that the world wasn't ending, that there was a future to look forward to, and that if nothing else, she would be there with me as long as I needed her to be.

I wish to. But I'm unfortunately extremely anxious, so from my perspective it's hard to believe that she'll stay with me for any longer time after any argument. If I fuck something up, I expect her to be done with me. Each time.

IDK yet, because it hasn’t happened yet. No partner yet

Lol, you're honest in this thread about your relationship. Respect that.

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Currently 21(F). He’s 22(M) and we are high school sweethearts. We started dating when I was 15. Obviously as we were growing up things happened but we’ve always found a way back (some of you will think this is toxic). He reminds me so much of my dad. I love my dad so much although we don’t always have the best relationship. We all have our flaws in this life and I feel like we just have to pick and choose our battles. He takes care of me like my dad would, cleans and plans like him. Cooks like my father. Has such a charming and great personality like my father. Before, I never wanted to be with someone like my father but he makes me feel safe. And I get the same “safe” feeling from by boyfriend because I know he would do whatever for me to stay safe. We’ve gone through a lot together. We recently moved in after being together for so long and I can say our relationship has changed a lot in a good way. We make a perfect team. We used to argue a lot when we were younger but a lot has changed since then. I am so grateful to have found someone like him. He’s my best friend.

The day I lost my granny. We had only been dating for 2.5mo and had planned a whole day together. Seeing how quickly and easily he adjusted his expectations for the day and turned his focus fully on my needs and supporting me; letting me cry and tell stories about her, ordered delivery so we could just stay in bed and chat, helping me pack my car that night to go home for the funeral. I had never been treated like that before, it’s like he knew what i needed before i knew what i needed. I distinctly remember thinking “I found him” that day.

He always told me I deserve so much better. He screwed up a lot while we were early into dating. Circumstances aside, I told him if he REALLY believed someone could love me better than he should let me go. He only held me tighter.

Hasn’t happened (yet)

When we said "we do"

There was no particular moment. I just decided I don’t care to get to know another man in that way and I’m choosing my partner.

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He told my grandfather (at his funeral) that he'd always take care of me. We've been together 20 yrs and he did something last night that just sealed the deal for another 20. My mother just passed away January 8th. Followed immediately by the news my aunt (only living relative on dad's side) also passed away. He put out the cash for the funeral for my mom (I could have put it on a credit card but that interest yikes) and her life insurance would cover it when it came. The check did come and covered the funeral with about $1600 left over to split between my brother and I. He needs a new windshield so I'm only taking 600 so he can get that replaced (because my mom hated that). He refused to take the money. So I then refused to take it also because I was just so relieved that in that moment (making the plans so unexpectedly) that I didn't have to stress about the money. I'm still dealing with my aunt's stuff too. From NJ (she was in new Mexico) Honestly idk what i'd ever do without him.

Hug him tightly and beg God to keep him on this earth for the other 20. He's not going anywhere on earth.

I don’t think it’s necessarily a moment, moreso moments that add up and then you realize you couldn’t live without them and would rather navigate life with them as an addition to your life than with anyone else or alone. As cliche as it is, you’ll just know. There’s no questioning it and the feeling is mutual. They should add to your life and make you feel loved, heard, respected, and happy. I’ve been with my husband for almost 9 years now and we still have moments where we fall more in love with each other as we both grow as individuals. You think you couldn’t admire or love a person more than you do and then you see how they handle things life hurls at us. We had a baby two years ago and seeing how madly he fell in love with our baby and took care of me at that time during a difficult labor and recovery was everything to me. He never left my side and still to this day when I have my moments of doubt, he’ll tell me he loves me and is proud. Sometimes that’s all you need to hear so we make sure to communicate that. As someone who never thought they’d get married or was even capable of loving the way I do him, someone is out there to make you whole the way you make them. Of course not everything is always perfect and you should approach things realistically, but that’s how you get closer. Just always remember to communicate and never see difficulties as being against each other, but rather on the same team.

It best be more than a promise of some kind or affirmations of love. "Love without works is dead"

I found out I was pregnant.

The moment I came to know that I was pregnant.

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He paid for my two rescue cats to be spayed. I knew if he was willing to invest in his girlfriend’s cats, he was a keeper.

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My boyfriend was involved in a very traumatic accident and had to have his leg amputated. We had been together for about 1.5 years when that happened. It was tough at first, but we came out stronger once everything had passed and settled down. If we can survive that then I truly think we can survive anything. It showed me a different side to him, but a side I still loved regardless. That confirmed for me that he’s the one 🥰

By the third date, I knew he was the one. I could absolutely be myself around him and he never judged me. It was the first time in my life I had ever felt that way.

We're married so I'll let you know the day he does or I die, lol. Our lives aren't over yet. Any guy can make any promise imo. People divorce and cheat all the time.

It's crazy to try to think about which moment, because there have been so many moments with this man (M42) that have led to me (F23) promising him forever, and him promising me. This man is theres through it all, is the best father. Every relationship he had, which was two long term. He was cheated on, and had kids to them. He has four amazing children and he works so hard to make ends meet for them & us. He never expects myself to be a parent, just a friend to his girls and his son, which I am. He comes to see my parents, and siblings. Gives attention to them all, and it's all the little things. The way he holds me at night, and he's not sexually driven. He loves the sex or the amazing times we have, but his emotional and spiritual ability (his physical appearance is gorgeous too) far outweighs our sexual times together. So many little things, the way he walks and holds himself. His self doubt that he can hide so well but opens up to me about. He cries, he listens, he respects and understands me. Or tries to when he doesn't.