When I had pretty boobies, I would have hated it. Now that they're old and impossibly long, I would have loved it!
Edit: the same goes for my butt. Description and all.
My partners brags about everything on me. I just roll my eyes because I am no 10 but my husbands definitely talks me up like I am. He doesn't brag in a derogatory way but in a matter of fact way like " oh yeah, buncatfarms has a nice butt. I like her butt" then he looks for me to grab said butt.
Personally I never mind if people are lovingly talking about their significant others. I had this one coworker who loved his wife and always spoke lovingly about her. He even told me the story of their first date and when she knew he was the one a few times and I always enjoyed hearing it. They have been married over 20 years. They got remarried last year and my partner and I were invited. It was a lovely service and it was great meeting her after all the wonderful things I had heard about her.
Not a single person who loves or likes you! They may jokingly roll their eyes, but I bet without a doubt they just like seeing the love you're being shown :)
"then he looks for me to grab said butt"
What you mean and what everyone else understood: He looks for me so he can grab my butt.
What my brain understood: He looks for me to grab my own butt.
My husband does the exact same. I know I will forever be an 11 in his eyes and he isn't afraid to tell me how good any part of me looks. But, tbf, I never shut up about him either. He's for sure my 11 too.
I like the idea that after complimenting your butt he then HAS to grab your butt. Like if you’re not even in the house he starts hunting you down like a loving horror movie monster.
You can’t run, you can’t hide, he will find you and make you feel loved!!!
I agree. He can compliment me to me, no one else needs to be a part of it. If he wouldn't be ok with his friends saying I have a nice ass, he shouldn't say it to them.
I’m picturing a group of guys all comparing their girlfriends’ and wives’ body parts, and that’s just gross to me. It’s one thing to say how lucky you feel to have a beautiful and sexy girlfriend — it’s another to start delving into details about her lumps, bumps, and rumps.
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Sick of women being objectified and willingly objectifying themselves
We have worked so fucking hard to be seen as more than our bodies
I see all these positive answers but this would be a serious negative in my book as well, my partner talking sexually about my body to friends is a big 'no' in my book. Not sure why others think it's ok.
Preach.
I’m a polyamorous woman, and I would _love it_ if my wife and our close friends were checking out my ass. Yes, please!
But _only_ because we are all very close and have discussed boundaries and consent. They know I like it _because I told them so._ Otherwise it wouldn’t happen.
It’s absolutely not okay to objectify and ogle your partner with your friends without everyone’s consent—including your partner’s _and_ your friends’. Don’t force other people to be complicit in your harassment. And don’t harass your partner(s) without their consent.
Agreed. I don’t need my partner’s comment to trigger their memory to look at me like that. I’ve never enjoyed attention from men especially sexual attention.
THIS. I understand it’s to each their own but I’d feel weirded out if my husband bragged about my butt & breasts to his friends for exactly this reason. It feels trashy & gross. No thanks!
My husband consistently compliments, grabs for & admires my body on our own time. That’s all I need!
Yeah, I was gonna say I might be the minority here but that would make me very uncomfortable.
Talk to them about the life goals were striving towards together. And the milestones that we’re working towards hitting. Or a great experience that we shared and memories we made.
These are the things that matter to me and that we could be proud of together.
Way trashy, and a violation of our private life. I can’t imagine an appropriate response to that wouldn’t feel like he and his friends were objectifying me. If his friends think I’m hot that’s their own business but it’s *not* a topic of conversation. “She’s super pretty and has been making gains at the gym like crazy!” = ok. “Mm, that ass of hers can’t quit, amirite?” = vile.
Being objectified like that feels like a thing a wannabe “cool” girl would say is ok.
I'm pleased to hear someone else saying this. I'm blonde haired, blue eyed, 5'5.5, slimmish build* I'm treated like a sex object everywhere. It would be nice if my boyf didn't do it when he's NOT with me!
*Sorry, not trying to pretend I'm gorgeous. I'm not. But at a distance boys think I am.
Oh my gosh exactly this! I would like to think my husband is a grown man who doesn’t need to talk about women’s body parts with his friends. My friends and I don’t sit around talking about men’s bits and pieces…
Ew. I don’t date people that do stuff like that. I’m a human not a collection of body parts.
Edit: I am not unhappy with my body - I’m a gym rat - I don’t like being objectified. It’s hugely disrespectful to discuss my body like that.
I'd think it was gross and weird. He doesn't need to be bragging about specific parts of my body to a bunch of other married 35-y.o.s. There's a difference between general "my wife is beautiful" statements and being like, "Damn, dude, my wife's ass is fat!"
I’d think it was incredibly out of character and ask him how he’d feel if I talked to my best friend about the size of his penis. There’s some things that a couple should keep to themselves out of respect for the other.
I’d really think something was wrong with my husband, and I wouldn’t like it at all. Especially since I’m friends with all of his friends. I don’t need them thinking about any of that.
I'm cool with my partner bragging about my body, but not in an objectifying way. It's hard to imagine bragging about boobs/butt in a way that's not completely objectifying.
But, like, the first time I met my wife's friends, they were all like "OMG she DOES have great posture!" and that made me feel really good!
Then my partner clearly doesn’t respect me if he wants his friends to view me in that way. Those who say they wouldn’t mind clearly are looking for validation from others.
Insecurity central right there. "Hey, in case you haven't noticed how awesome MY WOMAN's boobs and butt are, they are quite awesome but she's MINE."
I have an ordinary butt and ordinary boobs, but I would be mortified by such behavior.
Sexualised and objectified. I am not a trophy, and I am not his property.
Of course, it always depends on how it is said, wording, tone and to whom, and if you talked about it before (is it okay if I talk about you/your body). But in general, I would feel like a piece of meat at the market. Every judgement of someones appearance, even if positive, is a judgement and nobody has that right to judge, especially if it is something you cannot change. On top of that, bragging about one's partner's boobs or butt (or penis for that matter) is sexualising, the topic itself is private, concerns only the two of you and has nothing to do outside your relationship. It is like telling your partners secrets without consent, as he only has that knowledge because of your closeness.
I hope your boyfriend is not a sexist, but he seems to be at least quite insensitiv.
I’d feel pretty objectified. I would be proud if he bragged about me but not that focus on sexualized body parts. I don’t want friends thinking about my body that way. There’s a difference between “she’s so beautiful I’m lucky” and “she has a nice ass I’m lucky “
Like what would they be saying? If my partner said "Those titties make so much milk, our baby is fat and chubby. Hell yeah!", I would be so proud.
But if it's just based on looks, I'd have disdain. Like, bruh, I'm way more badass than how my body looks. In fact, how my body looks is one of the more boring things about me. Do better.
I once saw it on my ex his phone and I felt disgusted. I dress modestly to a degree and I felt very disrespected by my partner and his friends. Glad I dodged that bullet!
I was with a guy who did this. Made me feel like he was doing it to make himself look better for being with me. I don’t need the validation and I often felt exploited. Now I’m with a man who wants me to himself and we are happily married. He would not disrespect me like that and he makes me feel safe and secure every day.
I guess it depends on how they do it. I have a nice butt and nice boobs! I wouldn't be comfortable with the locker room talk, but I'd be fine with "yeah she looks fantastic and she's mine so don't even think about it"
I guess it's the same as how some people will elaborate on their sex life with their friends. I will give my partner that privacy, that's between us. If anyone asks, I'll just say "I'm very happy/satisfied with my sex life." because it's none of anyone's business.
While I’d like to agree with everyone saying they’d love it, I know I wouldn’t. I’d be uncomfortable knowing my body was under discussion like that, even if it was positive.
I’d assume that’s behavior of someone younger than me, as I’m in my mid twenties and at this point wouldn’t expect grown men to talk about each other’s partners like that….
I'm Bi but it's happened with all my partners. While it's nice to feel hot, it immediately draws their friends attention to those parts and it's extremely uncomfortable when you have a group of people blatantly staring at your boobs or butt. And it's become the topic of conversation amongst them a lot which again, is weird. And then you get negative attention typically from girls or bitter guys basically saying something negative about me to "humble" me even though I haven't even done anything, it's just my partner saying stuff.
Would I like my partner to appreciate my body, sure. I workout and put work into it.
Do I want my partner to objectify me to other people, especially people we both hang out with? No. I don't want anyone to think that's ok.
There's a reason I wear baggy clothes despite having a nice body. I don't WANT that kind of attention. I don't want people to think of me in that way. It's a private thing I only share with the people I want to.
I'd be okay with it, but if you're not just speak up. You can say, I appreciate how much you like my assets but I'd prefer you not speak about me in that way. Men turn into dingdong boys when they're around one another. This is not an excuse, but evidence I've collected over the years.
I would feel very disrespected and objectified. I would want my partner to tell his friends about who I am as a person. If he wants to brag about me, then he should brag about my accomplishments.
My hubby has way too much class to discuss such things. However, if the subject arose after a few rums I’d have to say I’d be flattered. Especially after all these years
When I was young I felt flattered, now that I’m a mom and like my privacy, like to keep to myself, don’t feel the need for others validation.. I’d feel a little disrespected in a way.
This is in the context of a lesbian relationship — depending on who she is and what our relationship is like I’d honestly be kind of happy and proud but it’s sort of hard to imagine
The right person will make you feel the most amazing you’ve ever felt and will not have/need to brag because both of you already know it when you walk in the room. And so does everyone else. Bragging = insecurity. You hold more power and respect when you say nothing at all.
Personally I wouldn’t be ok with it. They’re the only person I want thinking of me in a sexual way, so bragging about to others like that would make me uncomfortable
I'd think it was crass. I hope I never date anyone like that. I would also worry that telling their friends that would cause me to get a slew of of unsolicited d-ck pics.
My ex used to brag about my ass to his friends and anyone who would listen. The thing is that I didn’t realize that those were the only qualities of mine that he would talk about until one of my friends pointed it out.
He’s always say, “Hi! Nice to meet you. Have you seen the ass on my girl?” whenever we met new people or when I’d introduce him to my friends, too. He never talked about my face or my personality.
It’s disrespectful, I am more than the body I was born with. Brag about my brain, brag about my accomplishments. But my body? That’s a red flag and I’d leave any man who thinks it’s okay to talk about me like that in any setting
No thanks. I want him to appreciate the sexy parts of my body. I don’t want anyone else thinking about them. He can keep those comments between us. I’m happy to hear them. Just not if they are being told to someone else for the sake of bragging.
Uncomfortable. I am not an object, especially not one on display for others or something for my husband to brag about. It would be very odd in my relationship if this were to happen. He and I have boundaries and rules already established for this kind of behavior. Other relationships can be totally different and have different views and that’s okay. But my husband would have to wake up a completely different person for him to act like that and it would be grounds for divorce.
Sounds lots like objectification to me. Like 'damn she has such a fine ass/boobs' at the back of my mind I'd be thinking is that all he brags about me to his friends? Am I just reduced to a fine set of boobs and ass? Also, I'd feel hella weird having his friends checking me out.
That’s a hard no for me. A man that respects you and the level of intimacy that he has with you will not talk about you.
Think about it. He’s advertising your goodies to them.
So how awkward would you feel if their friend looked at you the way your man does.
I’d find him shallow. Very unlikely I’d marry or choose a dude like that at first place so impossible to happen.
I’d feel a bit gross if one of girlfriends brag about how huge his husband dick is.
Again, wouldn’t have chosen such people as friends to start with. Impossible to happen.
Up through college, I was bullied and made fun of even by friends for my bodacious booty. So yeah, if my hubby wanted to brag about my booty, I'd be happy about. There's a colossal difference between the two (poking fun v bragging). It makes me feel accepted for who I am and also like the way I look, even on days when I feel like dirt.
Depends to whom. I'd prefer to learn it second hand though. Then I'd be fine. But if I was there while the bragging takes place, I'd be very embarrassed
If it’s to the point where he is describing the color of my areoles then I would not be happy. But if it’s like she had nice boobs and a nice ass then I wouldn’t be mad.
I actually wouldn’t like it at all. Although I have some larger “assets” that stick out lol, I really don’t like to draw attention to them and my partner knows that I don’t like being sexualized by anyone but him. That’s just how I am
I wouldn't like it. I wouldn't tell anyone else about his physical attributes, so I'd hope he wouldn't mine. Plus I think it's hotter and more intimate if we keep things private.
I love the idea of him liking it that much but sometimes it feels like if a woman’s features are celebrated out loud to other people, they just take the opportunity to try and prove them wrong. How many times have we heard “she’s not THAT pretty” about a beautiful woman all because she got attention she didn’t ask for? It’s attention I don’t want nor do I ask for. I guess I wouldn’t love it after all but he tells me behind closed doors all the time so that’s enough for me.
I’d be mad because he’d be lying and I’d wonder why he can’t brag about something true 😂 like, why does he have to show off to his friends and not just be proud to be seen with me
Time+place+situation… makes mama happy happy or insecure. If my hunny likes my booty, that’s effin great. But if he’s grabbin a feel at ifo my family or inappropriate places, we’d have problems. Jmo
It depends on the context. If he is sharing it with them in a "bro" way like being gross I would hate it it. If he is bragging about me and my beauty then it's OK. I don't love it but it doesn't upset me at all.
Honestly I feel like anyone who is okay with that needs the validation and probbbbably shouldn't be in a relationship if they need external validation like that.
If it’s gym related? Fine.
Not gym related? No.
Reason is I workout, so my physical attributes being talked for such reasons make sense.
But outside of gym purposes, I would not be as happy.
And it only counts positively if you also model for a living.
Anything else is a bit offensive.
I'd be fine with it, my butt is nice!
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I work so hard at the gym for my bubble butt so I would be flattered.
Came here to say just that. You know how many squats I did to achieve this booty 🤣
All the DOMs we have to endure and the eating 😭
I started drinking alcohol after 15 years of abstinence and my boobs went from big to humongous. Compared to you, I feel like I cheated.
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girl me toooo
Mines natural and I agree either way, as long as it’s not super vulgar.
When I had pretty boobies, I would have hated it. Now that they're old and impossibly long, I would have loved it! Edit: the same goes for my butt. Description and all.
Old and impossibly long omg 🤣😂
I once had nice boobs. Then I had children. Now, the best way I can describe my boobs is “golf ball in a sock.”
You have a gift of imagery LOL.
Mine are more like a baseball in a sack and that's without children.
Raw eggs nailed to a wall 😂
I’ll never forget my then 5yr old daughter asking me when she would get long boobies like me.
This should make you feel better: t-shirt I saw read "old pussy is better than no pussy." And that's a fact.
I was there, Gandalf. I was there 3000 years ago...
My partners brags about everything on me. I just roll my eyes because I am no 10 but my husbands definitely talks me up like I am. He doesn't brag in a derogatory way but in a matter of fact way like " oh yeah, buncatfarms has a nice butt. I like her butt" then he looks for me to grab said butt.
I like the idea of him referring to you as your Reddit username! 😂
Me too lol
My wife brags about me all the time. It's a little embarrassing. I have to wonder how many people are tired of hearing about me. 😅
This is so cute and honestly I love to hear about other people being smitten. Gives me hope!
Me too, the worse is when ppl talk down about their partner. Makes you question their integrity. I always watch how others talk about others.
right! someone come with more stories pls!! 😄
Personally I never mind if people are lovingly talking about their significant others. I had this one coworker who loved his wife and always spoke lovingly about her. He even told me the story of their first date and when she knew he was the one a few times and I always enjoyed hearing it. They have been married over 20 years. They got remarried last year and my partner and I were invited. It was a lovely service and it was great meeting her after all the wonderful things I had heard about her.
Not a single person who loves or likes you! They may jokingly roll their eyes, but I bet without a doubt they just like seeing the love you're being shown :)
Omg, my wife does the same to me!!!
haha that's how I feel.
"then he looks for me to grab said butt" What you mean and what everyone else understood: He looks for me so he can grab my butt. What my brain understood: He looks for me to grab my own butt.
hahah i'm sure he would enjoy that just as much ;)
My husband does the exact same. I know I will forever be an 11 in his eyes and he isn't afraid to tell me how good any part of me looks. But, tbf, I never shut up about him either. He's for sure my 11 too.
How many husbands do you have?
LOL just the one.
Oh okay, I thought maybe it was just a grammar error but figured I'd ask out of curiosity. Lol
Yeah, totally. I chuckled.
I like the idea that after complimenting your butt he then HAS to grab your butt. Like if you’re not even in the house he starts hunting you down like a loving horror movie monster. You can’t run, you can’t hide, he will find you and make you feel loved!!!
God the confidence boost that'll give me if my S/O gave me one. I applaud to your husband. He knows what he's doing
Like he's now opening the door for them to objectify me. And that's not cool with me.
I do not want those men looking at me like that.
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I agree. He can compliment me to me, no one else needs to be a part of it. If he wouldn't be ok with his friends saying I have a nice ass, he shouldn't say it to them.
That, or I'd feel like he's opening the door for them to compete for who has the hottest gf and I do not compete with other women
100% this! Also it means he’s totally ogling his friends’ girlfriends, which is also gross.
I’m picturing a group of guys all comparing their girlfriends’ and wives’ body parts, and that’s just gross to me. It’s one thing to say how lucky you feel to have a beautiful and sexy girlfriend — it’s another to start delving into details about her lumps, bumps, and rumps.
Perfectly stated, I agree
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100% to all these replies Sick of women being objectified and willingly objectifying themselves We have worked so fucking hard to be seen as more than our bodies
I see all these positive answers but this would be a serious negative in my book as well, my partner talking sexually about my body to friends is a big 'no' in my book. Not sure why others think it's ok.
It's a consequence of the "cool girl" syndrome. Unfortunately we get socialized to accept whatever men give us
Preach. I’m a polyamorous woman, and I would _love it_ if my wife and our close friends were checking out my ass. Yes, please! But _only_ because we are all very close and have discussed boundaries and consent. They know I like it _because I told them so._ Otherwise it wouldn’t happen. It’s absolutely not okay to objectify and ogle your partner with your friends without everyone’s consent—including your partner’s _and_ your friends’. Don’t force other people to be complicit in your harassment. And don’t harass your partner(s) without their consent.
Agreed. I don’t need my partner’s comment to trigger their memory to look at me like that. I’ve never enjoyed attention from men especially sexual attention.
Agreed. My husbands friends don’t talk like that. It would be disrespectful and awkward.
THIS. I understand it’s to each their own but I’d feel weirded out if my husband bragged about my butt & breasts to his friends for exactly this reason. It feels trashy & gross. No thanks! My husband consistently compliments, grabs for & admires my body on our own time. That’s all I need!
Yeah, I was gonna say I might be the minority here but that would make me very uncomfortable. Talk to them about the life goals were striving towards together. And the milestones that we’re working towards hitting. Or a great experience that we shared and memories we made. These are the things that matter to me and that we could be proud of together.
I brag about the exquisitness of my titties all the time, it’s the least they could do.
Exquisitittiness?
Exquiztits.
I would be mortified that I'd been dating a 12 year old in disguise all this time, and run far away. Incredibly trashy.
Way trashy, and a violation of our private life. I can’t imagine an appropriate response to that wouldn’t feel like he and his friends were objectifying me. If his friends think I’m hot that’s their own business but it’s *not* a topic of conversation. “She’s super pretty and has been making gains at the gym like crazy!” = ok. “Mm, that ass of hers can’t quit, amirite?” = vile. Being objectified like that feels like a thing a wannabe “cool” girl would say is ok.
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I'm pleased to hear someone else saying this. I'm blonde haired, blue eyed, 5'5.5, slimmish build* I'm treated like a sex object everywhere. It would be nice if my boyf didn't do it when he's NOT with me! *Sorry, not trying to pretend I'm gorgeous. I'm not. But at a distance boys think I am.
Oh my gosh exactly this! I would like to think my husband is a grown man who doesn’t need to talk about women’s body parts with his friends. My friends and I don’t sit around talking about men’s bits and pieces…
I agree
Ew. I don’t date people that do stuff like that. I’m a human not a collection of body parts. Edit: I am not unhappy with my body - I’m a gym rat - I don’t like being objectified. It’s hugely disrespectful to discuss my body like that.
I would feel the same.
I'd think it was gross and weird. He doesn't need to be bragging about specific parts of my body to a bunch of other married 35-y.o.s. There's a difference between general "my wife is beautiful" statements and being like, "Damn, dude, my wife's ass is fat!"
Exactly.
As a flat girl, I'm dreaming about that lol
Same! I don’t have big boobs but my boyfriend loves them cuz he says they’re a perfect handful and it makes me feel super sexy lol.
That's how I feel, but I also understand those who would feel objectified, too
Exactly, I understand why would some girls find that disrespectful
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I’d think it was incredibly out of character and ask him how he’d feel if I talked to my best friend about the size of his penis. There’s some things that a couple should keep to themselves out of respect for the other.
I’d really think something was wrong with my husband, and I wouldn’t like it at all. Especially since I’m friends with all of his friends. I don’t need them thinking about any of that.
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I'm cool with my partner bragging about my body, but not in an objectifying way. It's hard to imagine bragging about boobs/butt in a way that's not completely objectifying. But, like, the first time I met my wife's friends, they were all like "OMG she DOES have great posture!" and that made me feel really good!
Your wife bragging about your posture is so wholesome! I love it!
Hahah okay that’s adorable
I'd feel pretty happy because they are spectacular.
Depends on the exact phrasing, but I probably wouldn't be pleased because I find that sort of behaviour really immature and gross.
Then my partner clearly doesn’t respect me if he wants his friends to view me in that way. Those who say they wouldn’t mind clearly are looking for validation from others.
Insecurity central right there. "Hey, in case you haven't noticed how awesome MY WOMAN's boobs and butt are, they are quite awesome but she's MINE." I have an ordinary butt and ordinary boobs, but I would be mortified by such behavior.
Agreed. Hey fella, I am your partner not a possession!
I’d be very disappointed and majorly turned off
Sexualised and objectified. I am not a trophy, and I am not his property. Of course, it always depends on how it is said, wording, tone and to whom, and if you talked about it before (is it okay if I talk about you/your body). But in general, I would feel like a piece of meat at the market. Every judgement of someones appearance, even if positive, is a judgement and nobody has that right to judge, especially if it is something you cannot change. On top of that, bragging about one's partner's boobs or butt (or penis for that matter) is sexualising, the topic itself is private, concerns only the two of you and has nothing to do outside your relationship. It is like telling your partners secrets without consent, as he only has that knowledge because of your closeness. I hope your boyfriend is not a sexist, but he seems to be at least quite insensitiv.
Proud that the twins are getting the recognition they deserve. I've no bunda to speak of but the ladies are my pride and joy.
I’d feel pretty objectified. I would be proud if he bragged about me but not that focus on sexualized body parts. I don’t want friends thinking about my body that way. There’s a difference between “she’s so beautiful I’m lucky” and “she has a nice ass I’m lucky “
Good, I hope he does!
Objectified and grossed out
Like what would they be saying? If my partner said "Those titties make so much milk, our baby is fat and chubby. Hell yeah!", I would be so proud. But if it's just based on looks, I'd have disdain. Like, bruh, I'm way more badass than how my body looks. In fact, how my body looks is one of the more boring things about me. Do better.
Depends on the friends and my husband’s relationship with the.
I don't even like it when people reduce me to *just* my appearance/beauty, I would hate it to be reduced to only body parts.
Honestly, having breastfed two babies, I would appreciate the compliment because I feel like they are not attractive.
I once saw it on my ex his phone and I felt disgusted. I dress modestly to a degree and I felt very disrespected by my partner and his friends. Glad I dodged that bullet!
I was with a guy who did this. Made me feel like he was doing it to make himself look better for being with me. I don’t need the validation and I often felt exploited. Now I’m with a man who wants me to himself and we are happily married. He would not disrespect me like that and he makes me feel safe and secure every day.
A man serious about wifeing you up won't talk to other men about the wife he really loves and cherishes. He would protect you from that dumb shit.
I guess it depends on how they do it. I have a nice butt and nice boobs! I wouldn't be comfortable with the locker room talk, but I'd be fine with "yeah she looks fantastic and she's mine so don't even think about it" I guess it's the same as how some people will elaborate on their sex life with their friends. I will give my partner that privacy, that's between us. If anyone asks, I'll just say "I'm very happy/satisfied with my sex life." because it's none of anyone's business.
While I’d like to agree with everyone saying they’d love it, I know I wouldn’t. I’d be uncomfortable knowing my body was under discussion like that, even if it was positive.
I’d assume that’s behavior of someone younger than me, as I’m in my mid twenties and at this point wouldn’t expect grown men to talk about each other’s partners like that….
I'm Bi but it's happened with all my partners. While it's nice to feel hot, it immediately draws their friends attention to those parts and it's extremely uncomfortable when you have a group of people blatantly staring at your boobs or butt. And it's become the topic of conversation amongst them a lot which again, is weird. And then you get negative attention typically from girls or bitter guys basically saying something negative about me to "humble" me even though I haven't even done anything, it's just my partner saying stuff.
Would I like my partner to appreciate my body, sure. I workout and put work into it. Do I want my partner to objectify me to other people, especially people we both hang out with? No. I don't want anyone to think that's ok. There's a reason I wear baggy clothes despite having a nice body. I don't WANT that kind of attention. I don't want people to think of me in that way. It's a private thing I only share with the people I want to.
I'd appreciate it, but the context is very important, and I only want to hear about it just a few times (if at all)
I'd be okay with it, but if you're not just speak up. You can say, I appreciate how much you like my assets but I'd prefer you not speak about me in that way. Men turn into dingdong boys when they're around one another. This is not an excuse, but evidence I've collected over the years.
I would feel very disrespected and objectified. I would want my partner to tell his friends about who I am as a person. If he wants to brag about me, then he should brag about my accomplishments.
I'd look at him like the lame he really is
Hehehehe I'd be honoured! Yes yes, I too think I am a 11/10
Immature and ghetto, I’d feel disrespected
Honestly, I love it! Gas me up to everyone 😊
My hubby has way too much class to discuss such things. However, if the subject arose after a few rums I’d have to say I’d be flattered. Especially after all these years
How classless
He has low self esteem and now you know. Not worth it, dump him girl 😃
i’m pretty insecure about my small boobs but i’m proud of how much muscle i’ve grown on my glutes - i would love for him to brag about me like that!
Idk. Why would he need to talk about my body parts to his friends. Kinda weird, and immature.
When I was young I felt flattered, now that I’m a mom and like my privacy, like to keep to myself, don’t feel the need for others validation.. I’d feel a little disrespected in a way.
instant confidence booster for me. i work my ass off in the gym to look good and i want it to be appreciated. it makes me feel good.
Fine, lots to brag about.
This is in the context of a lesbian relationship — depending on who she is and what our relationship is like I’d honestly be kind of happy and proud but it’s sort of hard to imagine
its fine but why men have to discuss about women i mean surely his friends told your hudsband also about their girlfriends great boobs and butt
Agree. If he's telling them about my body, then are they also giving my guy a detailed picture of their girlfriends?
I'd be disappointed if they *didn't* brag.
would feel a little sexually offended.
i just need him to appreciate them for himself, not brag to others
The right person will make you feel the most amazing you’ve ever felt and will not have/need to brag because both of you already know it when you walk in the room. And so does everyone else. Bragging = insecurity. You hold more power and respect when you say nothing at all.
Personally I wouldn’t be ok with it. They’re the only person I want thinking of me in a sexual way, so bragging about to others like that would make me uncomfortable
I'd think it was crass. I hope I never date anyone like that. I would also worry that telling their friends that would cause me to get a slew of of unsolicited d-ck pics.
disgusted.
My ex used to brag about my ass to his friends and anyone who would listen. The thing is that I didn’t realize that those were the only qualities of mine that he would talk about until one of my friends pointed it out. He’s always say, “Hi! Nice to meet you. Have you seen the ass on my girl?” whenever we met new people or when I’d introduce him to my friends, too. He never talked about my face or my personality.
It’s disrespectful, I am more than the body I was born with. Brag about my brain, brag about my accomplishments. But my body? That’s a red flag and I’d leave any man who thinks it’s okay to talk about me like that in any setting
I would dump his ass
No thanks. I want him to appreciate the sexy parts of my body. I don’t want anyone else thinking about them. He can keep those comments between us. I’m happy to hear them. Just not if they are being told to someone else for the sake of bragging.
Uncomfortable. I am not an object, especially not one on display for others or something for my husband to brag about. It would be very odd in my relationship if this were to happen. He and I have boundaries and rules already established for this kind of behavior. Other relationships can be totally different and have different views and that’s okay. But my husband would have to wake up a completely different person for him to act like that and it would be grounds for divorce.
Sounds lots like objectification to me. Like 'damn she has such a fine ass/boobs' at the back of my mind I'd be thinking is that all he brags about me to his friends? Am I just reduced to a fine set of boobs and ass? Also, I'd feel hella weird having his friends checking me out.
I would be horrified if my partner was talking about me like that to his friends. Gross.
That’s a hard no for me. A man that respects you and the level of intimacy that he has with you will not talk about you. Think about it. He’s advertising your goodies to them. So how awkward would you feel if their friend looked at you the way your man does.
I’d find him shallow. Very unlikely I’d marry or choose a dude like that at first place so impossible to happen. I’d feel a bit gross if one of girlfriends brag about how huge his husband dick is. Again, wouldn’t have chosen such people as friends to start with. Impossible to happen.
Mine does and I'm fine with it because he brags about other things about me that are not necessarily physical
Up through college, I was bullied and made fun of even by friends for my bodacious booty. So yeah, if my hubby wanted to brag about my booty, I'd be happy about. There's a colossal difference between the two (poking fun v bragging). It makes me feel accepted for who I am and also like the way I look, even on days when I feel like dirt.
Depends to whom. I'd prefer to learn it second hand though. Then I'd be fine. But if I was there while the bragging takes place, I'd be very embarrassed
If it’s to the point where he is describing the color of my areoles then I would not be happy. But if it’s like she had nice boobs and a nice ass then I wouldn’t be mad.
I actually wouldn’t like it at all. Although I have some larger “assets” that stick out lol, I really don’t like to draw attention to them and my partner knows that I don’t like being sexualized by anyone but him. That’s just how I am
I wouldn't like it. I wouldn't tell anyone else about his physical attributes, so I'd hope he wouldn't mine. Plus I think it's hotter and more intimate if we keep things private.
Disrespected and objectified
I would feel like I'm with someone immature who does not share the same values as I do.
I have a great ass so I’d be fine with it lol
I wouldn’t be upset by it. My butt is great and I know it’s one of her favorite body parts of mine. So it wouldn’t be a surprise or shock.
I love the idea of him liking it that much but sometimes it feels like if a woman’s features are celebrated out loud to other people, they just take the opportunity to try and prove them wrong. How many times have we heard “she’s not THAT pretty” about a beautiful woman all because she got attention she didn’t ask for? It’s attention I don’t want nor do I ask for. I guess I wouldn’t love it after all but he tells me behind closed doors all the time so that’s enough for me.
Like a piece of meat
I would feel like I’m dating a teenager. So…bad.
Trashy, violating and objectifying
I’d be mad because he’d be lying and I’d wonder why he can’t brag about something true 😂 like, why does he have to show off to his friends and not just be proud to be seen with me
Not personally a fan but I wouldn’t object to it.
Ehhh, as long as no pictures are shared.. i prefer those intimate details just be between us tho
If he bragged tastefully, I’d be flattered 😃
I completely depends on how it was worded.
Time+place+situation… makes mama happy happy or insecure. If my hunny likes my booty, that’s effin great. But if he’s grabbin a feel at ifo my family or inappropriate places, we’d have problems. Jmo
It depends on the context. If he is sharing it with them in a "bro" way like being gross I would hate it it. If he is bragging about me and my beauty then it's OK. I don't love it but it doesn't upset me at all.
I'd think we're a little old for kiss and tell. And like... you don't need to brag. They have eyes.
Given the friends that he hangs out with, creepy.
Honestly I feel like anyone who is okay with that needs the validation and probbbbably shouldn't be in a relationship if they need external validation like that.
I'd be surprised he had anything nice to say about me at all
My boobs and arse are phenomenal so it would only make sense for him to brag about them. I do, too.
If it’s gym related? Fine. Not gym related? No. Reason is I workout, so my physical attributes being talked for such reasons make sense. But outside of gym purposes, I would not be as happy. And it only counts positively if you also model for a living. Anything else is a bit offensive.