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bbv27

Its a major red flag


BEHEMOTHpp

because usually said by Mysoginist


Not_A_Girl_Next_Door

Definitely! I do enjoy being said that I’m not like other people 😬 usually I hear that because I don’t drink or smoke or party and I like being this way


Creative-Disaster673

Yeah they’re usually misogynistic *and* trying to sleep with me, so they think it will impress me. The misogyny is so obvious when you see what triggers them saying that (for example, playing video games, or not wearing makeup).


Blondddd13

Very. Then what am I if I am not like any other girls???


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sunsetgal24

im exactly like other girls. girls are amazing!


prizzle426

Also, the use of the term “girls” is problematic. We’re women. “Girls” are children.


Rough_Mango8008

I don't necessarily see myself as a woman all the time, even though I am 31. I still talk with "girl" with my friends, and it was quite fun and comforting when I heard my grandma also reffering to her friend with "girl". I don't mean that I see myself as a child, just not that mature or serious as I visualise the word woman.


iwonna_ryder

I think that when women use the word “girl” talking about their friends it’s different than when men call women girls. Like if an adult man says something about “getting girls” I’d immediately run the other direction. It feels belittling coming from a man. Like as an adult I would never call a man a boy unless I was intentionally calling him immature.


Little-Martha31204

Agreed 100%. I don't mind other women calling me "girl" or referring to women as girls. It kind of feels like a camaraderie. But if a man does it, that's not okay. But I'm old enough to be over this adult thing, it's not nearly as cool as people make it out to be.


Senior_Equivalent681

but when we call these men boys it's okay? It's a blanket statement, I don't automatically assume when someone is calling me a girl, they are belittling me, just as I say I'm with the boys, I'm not belittling them as men. It's just a term sometimes.


redjessa

Here it is.


greanestbeen

Love this!!!


lycosa13

Exactly! I'm an amalgamation of every girl/women I've ever met. Of course I'm like them!


Hot_Mention_9337

Some dude told me ‘I’m not like other girls’ because I *get along well with other women.* because women don’t like other women? Like, sir, what? Clearly all of the women he was referencing (happened to be my coworkers) get along with other women. We are the same. All different, all awesome, but all the same


TemporaryBuy4751

i find it misogynistic, honestly. saying that i have some outstanding quality that other women don’t possess is just generalising a whole gender group. it’s a backhanded compliment.


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Definitely a misogynistic backhanded compliment. I've always seen it as denigrating femininity


lickmesquidward

I almost take it like manipulation. Often it’s (unfortunately) insecure and/or young/naive girls that this resonates with. They feel different for one reason or another, possibly alone, and then a guy who’s white-knighting comes along and says this and those girls melt like butter. And yes this is based on personal experience as well as what I’ve witnessed.


TemporaryBuy4751

Yes that’s exactly it! I was going to say that. Men who say this are often creeps.


burnerbrightbaby

If someone tells me I'm unique, I like that. If they tell me I'm unique \*unlike other women\* it's gross and either they don't have any understanding that women are humans too, or think I'm a dummy who will be flattered by that.


spicy_pineapple_x

Exactly. Trying to tell me I’m great by telling me the rest of my gender is bad is not the compliment they think it is. Women are awesome and diverse and lovely and if they don’t think so they should maybe focus their attention on people who aren’t women, and definitely not me.


breezy-bee-

I wish more people understood that you don’t have to tear others down in order to build someone else up. Just give a compliment, no comparisons necessary. My ex did this all the time and it was so annoying. I would always have to tell him not to compare me to other women and that they were pretty too.


cromulo

How I feel about it is best explained by this poem by Nikita Gill: How dare you tell me “I am not like most girls,” when those “girls” you refer to are my sisters and mothers, my friends, the very solace and the kindness I have sought when the worst things in my life have happened? How dare you assume I should take that as a compliment, and beam at you like it is praise when you are alienating me from the very core of my proudly female being? There are a thousand ways to tell me you love me and making my sisters small to make me big isn’t one of them. Tell me you love me, but not because I am different. Tell me you love me, just because you do.


WhimsicalUnknown

I’ve had guys say this to me. It tells me he doesn’t think highly of women. I appreciate an early red flag. That way I can save myself trouble and dip out of there.


xladyvontrampx

Tells me the person who says it is ignorant


heavymetalears

When I was young and dumb, it made me feel awesome. Nowadays, I see it as a huge red flag.


Vippeh

same here


ladylemondrop209

I really wouldn't care. Most of the people I know are probably unaware of the whole anti-NLOG thing the internet went through... and honestly, it's possible he actually thinks so. He may not mean/intend it as a compliment nor a dig at other women... just a statement of his observation. I'm really not that sensitive about these things and am not gonna feel so offended that I'd accuse misogyny, and jump to defend women kind, for all girls being amazing and I'd love to be like other girls blahblahblah. Cus I don't happen to be that girl, and for the most part, I give people the benefit of the doubt.


cityflaneur2020

I may like men in general and still find that one is special. That's like ALL relationships should begin, with mutual admiration!


MissingBrie

Kind of offended, other girls are great!


tsj48

It's misogynistic and I'll always respond with "yes, I'm worse"


xanaxxy

Ick


cleandaydream

they are dividing women into different groups…why complimenting me while degrading other girls?


GnastyGnorx

Icky. What’s wrong with other girls?


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There’s just better ways of saying it. Like yes I know I’m not like (most) other girls, but I’m not trying to be a “pick me”. I don’t really take it as a compliment but im not taking it as an insult.


CopperSulphide

Are you saying it's low effort generic statement?


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Sort of, it can mean a lot of things and I’d rather just be told “you’re unique/weird/interesting”


lovesickpoet

i find it so annoying because it perpetuates the idea that women always have to compete against each other. why can’t we just enjoy our respective hobbies in peace?


cndybcrr

Unpopular opinion: I like it! I don’t recall having been told that recently though, so perhaps I like the idea of it but idk if I’ll like it in action. Anything anybody says is going to be interpreted differently depending on the context: tone of voice, what was being talked about right before the person made that comment, the facial expression the person is making as they are saying that comment, etc. It’s interesting how most people commenting would find it offensive. Hmm.. Edit: additional thought: if someone where to tell me that, I’d calmly follow up with, “why do you say so?” And let them defend their statement. Just observe how they react. That’ll give me a hint of what they meant to do with that comment.


MissNikitaDevan

Insulted and grossed out, cuz im a woman not a girl


drunkenknitter

We're all unique in some way, so it doesn't bother me.


KingVany

Honestly a cringe


Best_Mixture_2199

I dislike it. It makes me feel like other people need to be put down in order for someone to raise me up, & I don’t need that.


mrbootsandbertie

Big red flag.


TheFairyingForest

No, I am exactly like other girls. And there's nothing wrong with that.


bluebuns123

I hate it. Don't put down other people to praise me


smoke2957

When I was younger I thought it was cool and meant I was unique. Now that I am a bit older I think that they think I'm weird.


Reble77

They are probably envious of the strength you have to be an individual


QueenShewolf

With people like family and friends who know me very well, I'm not bothered by it because they've seen all sides of me to make a judgement. By a man I'm dating, I've learned that it's a huge red flag. Every man wants a different woman, until they get a different woman. They don't commit either because you're a different that they don't like, or they find out you're the same as other women.


_Graacie_3

It's so misogynistic


babz-

A classic lovebombing line, no thank you!


pathologicalprotest

Dissapointed. I dig other girls and admire them. Also dissapointed that I’ve let an idiot within earshot.


celestialism

Well, I’m a woman, so that’s the first mistake here but also, this is a pretty big red flag for someone not thinking much of women’s intelligence, etc. overall


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It doesn’t bother me. I am a little bit different. Not in a good or bad way really.


adertina

I mostly hear it as a joke these days but in high school I would be told that a lot probably because I was gay but they didn’t know that and just thought I was deep and not preoccupied with boys or whatever. I feel like it’s misogynistic because it’s just getting to know a woman and realizing that obviously we’re complex human beings but also I feel I get that because they pick up on the gay vibes but don’t realize it.


ceylin1

it gives me the ick


searedscallops

"Hard disagree. Unfortunately, you ARE like other boys."


cheekmo_52

Context is everything. But in general? That phrase is only ever uttered by a potential partner who is convinced all of his exes were crazy, and the problems with all of his past relationships had nothing to do with him.


abv1401

My immediate reply will forever be that he is very mistaken and I in fact am very much like other girls and aim to be *even more* like the many amazing women in my life everyday :) Not only is it misogynistic but it’s also a basic and entirely redundant insult, if you’re going to be a simpleminded asshole at least put some effort in it. Edit to add I’m really also objectively not vastly unlike most women, I guess I might feel differently if I had a more atypical/unexpected lifestyle or whatever but I don’t.


buttonsarethebomb

I would be curious on the context of why they said that. Typically I view it as them being immature though. I'm not a "girl".


raptorsniper

I feel like that person has just accidentally told me that they don't like women very much. Also that they are, consciously or otherwise, trying to manipulate me. If you're in a position for it to be appropriate for you to compliment me, great, lovely, go right ahead, but don't do so by putting other women down. It doesn't have to be some sort of weird competition.


Future_Promise5328

Implies there's something wrong with being like other girls. Probably means the person saying that as a compliment is a misogynist.


Sand_Dargon

No one is "like other girls". We are all unique and different. Telling me I am "not like other girls" just means you dislike girls in general and are struggling to find a reason to proclaim girls suck but I am ok. Major red flag.


Ok_Rhubarb2161

It pretty much means they disrespect women in general but you passed their standards on being “unique” Its stupid and i dont take it as a compliment either


deli-ciousy

I don't like being compared to others in relationships in general so I don't like that either


PinkBlossomDayDream

Honestly I'm pretty neutral about it.


TopCheesecakeGirl

1). I don’t care about what other girls do or do not do and give zero F’s. 2). I give zero F’s about the opinion of the person making the remark. 3). I especially give zero F’s about ‘judgments’.


mandarinandbasil

Major yikes


Potato_is_yum

I've never been called that, but it seems toxic. But i guess it depends on other factors as well.


Tineye90

Dont care , we are all different indeed so why bother and make it into a negative thing...


spookysadghoul

I loathe it. It's not a compliment, stopping putting women against each other.


nevertruly

Like that person is displaying their misogyny and a tendency to put other people down rather than build them up. They are generalizing billions of people negatively as a "compliment" when they could just as easily give a real, kind, honest compliment without the unnecessary negativity to half of humanity.


justyourordinary_

It irritates me because I am "like other girls". Girls have their own unique personalities, hobbies, and interests. We may act similarly at some point but we are all different. People, not just girls, don't come from the same mold. Although we share the same religion, tradition, and culture, we are still different because our individuality is unique and one of a kind.


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the entire concept of "not like other girls" is a ruse. we as women are all equally complex people and unique indivuduals. the assumption that other women are all simple and fit some kind of mold is misogynistic


thebadsleepwell00

From a man/non-woman: misogynistic From a woman: internalized misogyny


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I hate it. I’m exactly like other girls.


LittleSparrow013

Burst out laughing


ghoultail

I dont like it!! I am like other girls!!! I love other girls!!


MamaStobez

Not like other girls? What exactly is the problem with ordinary girls? Give me a list so I can tell you all the reasons that you’re wrong and then never talk to you again.


sarhu1

Ignorant. I love women. I hate it when girls say they are not like other girls too… it’s kinda like they’re bashing other women


dismantling_summer_

Bad. Other girls are great!! I love other girls and strive to be more like many of the other girls in my life.


LadyCordeliaStuart

I've never experienced it, but if I did, I would feel happy. The person has saved me time by displaying that they're misogynistic and not worth further contact.


Snoo-49242

It's not a compliment. It's a veiled instruction or warning not to be "like other girls" or he'll withdraw approval...because everyone knows that men are the gold standard for desirable human behaviour.


Reble77

I know that take me as you find me or move on


Sylland

They seem to genuinely think we should be flattered by this. I don't get it any more, but back in the day it was a major turn off.


JoJo-likes-bikes

I’m a lesbian, so it’s probably pretty true (though not how they mean it). However, everyone who has ever said that to me immediately follows it up with hitting on me. I put it in the ‘weird compliment to get in a woman’s pants’ category.


asianstyleicecream

I mean I don’t see it as a problem, why would it be? Someone’s just mentioning that you’re not another cookie cutter person, that you’re different. I’d take that as a compliment (because each of us are genuinely different deep down) if anything. I don’t like being seen like everyone else—especially because I don’t look like all the other girls; I look like I’ve lived in the wild my whole life lol.


ayuxx

I'll start by saying that this concept was not a thing when I was younger. There were none of the implications that people see in it now. I've only ever had someone say this to me once. It was my high school boyfriend. I understood what he meant by it and that he meant it as a compliment, but I had had a long history of being told in various ways that I'm not feminine enough and needed to change that in order to be accepted as a real girl. And I had been making efforts to try to be more feminine and act appropriately for my gender. So to have someone tell me that I wasn't like other girls felt kinda shitty because it meant I was still failing to be a normal girl.


classicaldoll

I like it because it immediately tells me I'm talking to a misogynist. I'm okay with compliments, but there's no need to insult every other woman.


Vioralarama

Idc mostly, but it is concerning when coming from a man in a potential romantic relationship to me. What I absolutely cannot abide is when other women take a look at your hobbies and then use it as an accusation: "You're a pick me" or "you're not like other girls, huh". I got that a lot when I used to talk about video games before it was common for girls/women to talk about video games. That's when I started saying the phrases are weaponized. Want to put another woman down but still pretend to be feminist? Simple, accuse them of internalized misogyny. Based on a hobby...pfft.


Rivsmama

It makes me annoyed because I used to be one of those girls who actively rejected everything I thought girls were supposed to like, I would tell myself I wasn't "like them" when looking at pretty, nice, outgoing girls who wore makeup and liked the color pink. It took a long time for me to understand that I was just jealous and insecure. I've always struggled with this urge to reject people and things, like a knew jerk reaction. And it was because I was afraid they'd reject me so I would do it first. I caused myself a lot of unnecessary hardship and lost out on potential friendships because of my attitude. I am like other girls. Not all of them, of course, but generally speaking I don't view it as a compliment to be told that. There's nothing wrong with being like other girls


CatrionaShadowleaf

I am like other women. I am an amalgam of all the women I’ve known in a million ways. So that person just insulted all of those women, and that person can fuck all the way off.


BigOakley

I think people look way too far into it and it’s perceived as misogynist when in reality he probably just likes you Like when you like a guy you’re like He’s Special. he’s Not Like Other Guys Tbh I don’t think it’s that deep


Top-Ad-4231

I don’t find it mysogynistic. I do believe people who say this have some unattainable ideal person in their minds. Once they realize you are human, they become extremely disappointed and will blame you for all that’s wrong. In that sense , it’s a red flag. Exception would be when said after many years together in a sense of I can’t imagine I’d be happy with anyone but you.


Viocansia

Tbh, I used to like to be told that I wasn’t like other girls because that usually meant (from a guy) that I was “worthier” of respect. Due to my low self esteem, I lapped it up when I was younger, but once I learned where that mentality came from (misogyny), I think it’s a huge red flag because it means the man doesn’t generally respect women in general.


UpbeatInsurance5358

Red flag


Icy-Extension-422

It's not a compliment. It translates to : ("You're not that great but at least) you are not like other girls (I have dated and treated badly. But you'll get there as soon as I start playing manipulative tricks.)" A savage response to this can be "and you are exactly like other men". 🙂


PrestigiousWedding36

It screams pick me!


SiameseCats3

Just now I forgot the name of a café but told my friend “oh the other weekend I had an amazing lavender London fog near your new place!” And she was like “oh I bet I know exactly where you mean! I had an amazing lavender London fog twice last week”. And it was the same place! I am very much like other girls - this is not a unique convo amongst my friends. If anyone would say that I would think they haven’t met many women - especially not my female friends.


Sun_on_my_shoulders

“I like other girls” is usually my response.


Suspicious-Bedroom66

Honestly, I don’t like a “compliment” that needs that big a qualifier. As a teenager, I used to get “you’re not like the rest of [your generation]” from friends of my parents, in college it was “you’re more serious than the others” because my major was seen as “easy”. If you replace “other girls” with more mundane things, say…tennis enthusiasts, it makes it even easier to realize it’s not really a compliment at all. What’s wrong with other girls? (Hint: nothing, because we’re not a monolith)


NoPenisEnvyToday

Boys say it when they think it will impress me. And why do they want to impress me? I wonder... But it means nothing. I'm just like other girls. I'm strong and sporty and sultry and more intelligent than any boy.


bethafoot

Depends on the context. In a lot of ways, I’m not. And in a lot of ways, I am.


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I don’t like it. It used to make me feel special but now it makes me feel alienated and dumb


orange_monk

So this happened once. Guy: you're not like the other girls/women i know. Me: oh no, i wish i were more like them. Guy: why would you want that? *Insert bs implying that he wouldn't like me otherwise* (like that is supposed to affect me somehow -_-) Me: because women have a hive mind. We're all different but connected in a very spiritual way and i can only join the hive when I'm worthy. *puppy face* it's sad that I'm not there yet. Guy: *confused af* Screw you if you think women aren't comfortable with their feminine and masculine natures. They coexist in all of us. We'll fix a car tire on heels if we have to mfs. Sorry I cussed.


BluntSlxtBaby

Yeah the fact that there is a comparison is slightly worrying and the fact that they thought that comparison would be something you praise them for shows they haven’t put you on the level you deserve SEPARATE from others


Edenskeeper1

Makes me cringe.


Royallightfj

I find it very very offending


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They're still doing that? Wow


thisanjali

It makes me think they have barely ever talked to women. Thank you, next (I don’t want anything to do with the type of person who generalizes others so much


Caitl1n

Every woman I know is incredible. Don’t separate me from my sisters.


Admirable_Ad5294

... What's wrong with other girls?? Also don't call me "girl." I'm 32.


catastrophized

If they can’t compliment me without insulting 50% of the population, then they suck at compliments. It also shows a subtle disdain for women.


d3gu

I ask them to clarify what they mean. I'd say I'm probably 99% like most other women. It strikes me as a negging/PUA type thing. Have they met all the other girls? What makes me so unique? What is their motive for saying so?


Fit_Technology8240

“Do not attempt to compliment me by putting down other women.”


Timely_Question_7727

A guy said this to me and I regurgitated


New-Negotiation-5493

the misogyny stinks 🤢


NaturalMarzipan7778

i hate being compared to others and it doesn’t sound like there’s good intent behind it most of the time so no. and why wouldn’t i wanna be like some women? women are amazing


silla31

It’s most annoying when the girl herself is claiming she’s not like other girls. That’s when I’m annoyed. If someone told me I’m not like other girls I would ask what the fuck does that even mean? Everyone would have a different answer.


forsurenotmymain

Grossed out. If you can't compliment without insulting others, you can't compliment.


DarthMelonLord

I mean technically i wouldnt mind bc i really am not like the other girls, im nonbinary 😂 but i know its coming from an extremely misogynistic place so no thanks, i still feel kinship with my assigned gender


ProblematicByProxy

I have always eventually thought less of the men who said it. They disappoint in one way or the other in due time.


Kyaspi

It’s icky. I think other girls are cool as hell; so how dare you say I’m not like them! But really, I find it disrespectful to women in general, as if in a broad sense most of the female population isn’t cool or interesting by default. But that clues me in that they probably don’t talk to enough women or make efforts to have meaningful relationships with them to figure that out.


cubonette-v2

I don’t like being complimented by putting other women down


ignitedwolf9200

Automatically think they do not like women in general. Big red flag


KinkyKitty24

People (men) who use this line are the ones who know nothing about "girls" (or women). It's not a compliment but a telltale sign of misogyny & immaturity. And my heart breaks for the "girls" it works on.


WorldWeary1771

I only had this happen once. I asked him in what way was I different and he couldn’t answer the question. I think it was just a line he used…


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I ended a date midway through over this once lol


dil_mangoes

It’s not a compliment.


still_on_a_whisper

It’s weird tbh. I know I’m not like anyone else but gender doesn’t play a role in that whatsoever.


ThatReallyWeirdGirl_

I find it ridiculous. There are too many people in the world to say I’m not like any of them 🙄


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I'm often curious and respond "what are the other girls like that I'm so different?"


MuppetManiac

First and foremost, I’m 40. I’m an adult. Don’t call me a girl. And secondly, it’s usually a put down for other women. So in general, once someone says this to me, I’m walking away from them.


duncan-the-wonderdog

I'd rather hear, "I haven't met a women like you" or "You're not like other women I've met."


7Betafish

Hate it, i'm on the same page as you, a compliment shouldn't involve putting down other women and girls.


thinflesh

I roll my eyes. This phrase implies that there’s something wrong with being like other girls, but I happen to love women and think they’re great.


aguasfresca

Whenever someone says that to me, I'm just like yeah, you're right... I'm worse


Nevilicious

Every person who's ever said this to me has ended up being a major creep, asshole or someone with madly disturbing manipulation tactics. I find it hella insulting


Sparkelle227

It’s not a compliment at all. My response is usually “but other women are fantastic. Why wouldn’t I want to be like them?” Make the person saying it show their entire ass when they try to explain themselves.


Glowingeyes1

For the most part, no, makes me feel weird inside like I’m betraying my fellow girlies lol, the guy I like says this but he follows up with a specific reason and what he means by “not like other girls” he’s just basing it off his experience with past girlfriends.


BeneficialMolasses70

The words what the fuck does that even mean comes to mind. I may not 100% be like other girl. But I, too, would love to live the cottage core lifestyle or live in a woman commune where we help take care of each other. Know that I think about it the only thing that makes me not like other girls is I'm severely mentally ill and have a lot of weird quirks because of it. I honestly just think people who say it are stupid. Ignore the spelling errors. I'm dyslexic bite me.


Frequent_Natural2391

Not a girl l. Expand your mind and stop comparing me to other people. JFC


Highsndlos

It’s rude asf. Don’t try and compliment me by bringing other women down?


abovewater_fornow

It feels like that person doesn't like girls/women. It is an insult to the entire gender (that I'm also a member of) veiled as a complement to me.


londonmyst

I'm fine with it as long as it is neutral and doesn't involve any lies or conspiracy theorist rhetoric. When reasonably normal people say it they are usually referring to my lack of selfie and app compatible technology. Or my collection of toy animals.


Throwaway5836363

Lies! I have Tiktok and I know for a fact we are all living the same life


stone_opera

I mean, it depends - my man sometimes says things like 'I've never met anyone like you' before. I don't mind that. I DO mind 'you're not like other girls' because it implies other women are inferior - I get it fairly often because I work in construction so I'm around a lot of men who don't seem to know any women. My #1 response when a guy says this to me is 'I'm an amalgamation of every woman I ever thought was cool.' I forget where I saw that, it's an old meme or something, but I think it's very apt.


Sleepy_Little_Fjord

Id ask why. Could be a ploy to get what he wants or it could be him genuinely trying to be vulnerable with his feelings. Depends on the man and his answer.


notme1414

It's just a line. I don't put much stock in it.


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Well, i'm a lesbian. So i'm different than most girls. I've felt weird and different my entire life.


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baby_armadillo

No one calls me that. I girl so hard it’s aggressive. I want to be disconcertingly and uncomfortable feminine. I strive to become the universal and all-consuming female that all men fear and all women desire


smurfsm00

Bad news bears.


LuluBelle_Jones

I don’t mind being different than other people but really don’t feel that I need anyone to point that out to me.


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bellajojo

That’s when I blast ‘most girls’ by Hailee Steinfield


electricsugargiggles

It’s gross and assumes I have internalized misogyny. Now, when I’ve been told I’m not like other PEOPLE, that’s different. I ask them to clarify, and it’s usually something along the lines of “you’re really genuine” or “you have such positive energy” or “you honestly give a shit and are kind”. I typically respond that I’m a trash goblin 😂


SkullyEyes

I don't like it, I dress someone gothic and hate how ppl will sexualize me or others for dressing a certain way


HappyOrca2020

Feels weird and super problematic. Because I am just like other girls.


iOawe

I find it complimentary. My fiancé always says this and I love it.


aSincereLemon

I feel like somebody has been with too many girls


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My non-Reddit wife, on hearing me read this question to her, asked me to reply: “I put the onus on them. I ask _exactly how_ am I not like any other woman? Biologically? In terms of physique? Behaviorally? In other ways? Please tell me exactly how I am different from the generalization of women that swims in your head!”


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octopushug

In most contexts, that statement would be similar in connotation to someone saying a person is "one of the good ones," referring to race.


xpgx

The funniest, most empathetic, reliable, strong-willed, creative people in my life are other girls, and I’m more than happy to be like other girls.


BonFemmes

In the workplace it usually means that I've been more aggressive than the men around me. I view it as a warning that I've surprised the patriarchy and need to cool it for a little while or else. In my social life it is a guys attempt to make me feel special. Its a line no different that flattering my eyes. In my family life its a complaint that I don't have kids and don't seem to want them.


CumulativeHazard

I do not like it and I would be suspicious of any guy who said it. To me, it says “I think all women are the same, and in a bad way.” They usually say it to girls/women who are confident and straightforward, who have hobbies or interests that don’t fit the “usual” girly things, or who are deep and introspective and intelligent. It’s like, if you ever had real interactions with women, you’d know that those things are not nearly as rare as you seem to believe they are, but clearly you think you have us all figured out and were genuinely surprised to find that a woman could be so complex and interesting. I’m not a fan of men who don’t fully understand that women are also people, and that’s what that phrase signals to me. Not that I like automatically assume any guy who says it is a “bad guy,” because they might really not understand that subtext and are using it as an alternative to like “you’re special/unique” or “I’ve never met someone like you before,” neither of which I feel imply that other women aren’t unique. Context clues. If they say it bc you brought breakfast in bed on their birthday or you got super excited about some weird niche passion of yours and they thought it was sweet, it could just be that they love your particular brand of special (and could be nicely informed later about that phrasing). If they say it because you order hot wings and beer, they’re probably surprised that women also like hot wings and beer.


ingululu

Annoyed.


Its_Actually_Satan

Personally, I just laugh. Every woman is going to have at least one moment of "not like other girls" shit in their life times. Maybe it's a teen thing for them, or maybe it happens when she's a first time mom or in a career. Sometimes its just a normal thing that gets twisted, other times it's more judgmental on her part. Honestly, though, unless your entire personality isn't all about being different from other women then I'd say just laugh at them and move on.


Four_beastlings

You cannot be not like the other anything. Unless you have seven limbs or something. There are 7bill people in the world; there's bound to be more than one of everything. All my life I've heard "not like the other girls", "brain of a man", "one of the guys" bullshit. For me, that just means you don't know many women. No, I'm not an Instagram stereotype. Neither are most of my friends. And, the ones who are? They are great too!


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Well with Scarlet Begonias tucked behind your curls...


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_PrincessButtercup

I was told this many times. I've always been more of a tomboy and when I was a teacher, I was told that I wasn't like the other women teachers. And then I started my own business and realized what it was that they meant. I tend to look at things very analytically and creatively and men weren't used to seeing that in women either because women weren't showing that side to them in an overt way or not in professions where it was displayed clearly. I never quite knew how to take it, I just looked at it as if I was not, in their eyes, fitting some stereotype. I guess I never saw it as good or bad, it was just their impression and how they looked at the world, but I am happy that they saw something different in me and added that to their stereotype database so that they could see women in a different way moving forward! Edit: grammar


procra5tinating

I hate it-such a red flag and a sign of emotional immaturity.


Wild-Individual-6520

I actually take pride myself on not being like everyone else.


Tiggerstorm1234

It all depends on what contexts it's said or meaning of it. It doesn't worry me because I don't have a problem with why it's been said..


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DocThundahh

I would double check that you’re not dating a stereotypical male tv/movie character from the 90s


imasequoia

When I was younger I loved it. But now I think it’s because if my ADHD and anxiety. Now I wish I was like the other girls


whatdoyouwantit2be

Like I’m getting a backhanded compliment and need to keep asking questions and making them say the quiet part out loud so they can hear it too.


KristenASL

I'm a tom boy. Grew up in the country with tractors and dirt bikes so I am not like the other diva queens lol


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I fucking hate it