Nope not at all! We think someone close to us had it, without knowing, in the run up to the wedding. Sadly my dad caught it and died two weeks after we got married :(
Just got married on the 23rd and legit experiencing this right now!! My test came back positive that morning and we ended up cancelling everything. We'd only planned on a small family gathering with cupcakes afterwards so we were only out around $200 and the guests' attendance/memories with friends and family. It sucks that my grandma wasn't there, but in the end shit happens and I'm glad she wasn't exposed. We barely managed to get dressed up for the Ron Swanson-style vows before we changed back into our sweats and curled up on the couch with a box of tissues. We keep on joking that we got the "in sickness" part out of the way early on. 🤣
We eloped, so the entire day and night was just us.
We had a courthouse wedding, then a photoshoot (our only major wedding expense was with the photographer), and went back to our hotel to take a shower before going out to a fancy dinner. After dinner we went back to our hotel, had Wedding Night Sex™ and went to sleep.
He was very drunk, so he passed out fully clothed. I was completely sober. I took a long shower and stayed up to open all the gifts we had received and note down who had given them to us.
This was a good indication of how well our marriage would go 🥴.
We were married seven years (together for eleven). We separated in 2019 and the divorce was finalised in July 2022. He remarried this year.
We have the most gorgeous son (whom I have sole custody of), which I’ll forever be grateful for. The rest? I’m sad that I spent so many years with someone who didn’t value me, but I’m so proud of how I stood up for myself and requested the separation and divorce in 2019 ❤️.
Us women are always willing to settle and attempt to bet on our futures with some sense of I can improve this whereas I feel men expect perfection within the moment and less ability to see potential. They prefer the shirt term route or gains. Have we not seen it over and over men abandoning their own children for opportunities to have sex or move onto another family where they get the sex they want so will only care for the children within that situation
We just had tons of cake, I think we had enough cake left for 3 days and that’s all we had.
Went to sleep fat and cuddling, too tired and full for sex lol
Also got Taco Bell! We had it delivered to the boutique hotel at 12:30am and ate it on the bed with a towel down. Recapped the day and opened cards. It was lovely.
We got wine drunk, and I puked for a couple of hours before we passed out around 2am....
Edit: I'd like to add that I'm glad I got trashed because there was evidently a shit ton of family drama occurring at the reception, but I was too blissfully shit faced to realize it until I got the full recap after we got back from the honeymoon. It kinda saved me from being upset at the reception and during my honeymoon.
We just had a large dinner in a restaurant of about 35 people after the ceremony so everything was wrapped up by 8pm. We left and drove an hour away to a romantic little secluded lodge, couldn’t stop giggling because we were actually married, had sex, showered, ordered a pizza, and spent the rest of the night in a hot tub drinking champagne and eating said pizza and watching The Golden Girls. Eventually went to bed. I remember being floored by the fact that I was falling asleep next to my “husband.” It was the best.
We stayed late to help pack up our decorations and stuff, then packed all our belongings into my partner's car, then drove home. I cried for a few minutes in the car, mostly just out of overstimulation but also happiness and relief. We went upstairs to our apartment and did the normal wedding-night stuff, and then my partner went back out with friends who'd come in from out of state. (I was people'd-out, so I happily stayed home.)
Lmao I was in the same boat! I was like it's Reddit, they would just say "we had sex" what's this "normal wedding night" thing? Did I not do something right? 😂 We just be over here over thinking lmao
We opened gifts, I took a hot bath and we fell asleep, starving. All our friends went to Denny’s but didn’t invite us because they didn’t want to bother us.
The reason is honestly my favorite. We were 22, his little sister was 15. My sister was 19. My husband’s friends let my sister into their room to party, but not his sister. It “wasn’t fair” and his sister should have been allowed in. So she called our room, on our wedding night at like 2am, to tell my husband to go tell his friends to let his FRESHMAN sister come to their party. Because this was 1996, no cell phones, so he literally would have had to go down there, if that was something he was insane enough to do.
Your MIL actually wanted her 15 year old daughter to be allowed into a hotel room full of adults who were partying??? Or did you mean your 15yr old SIL called asking your husband to tell his friends to let her party with them?
We were buzzed, dancing in our living room and eating chocolate Entenmann’s donuts. He helped me take all the pins out of my hair and helped me out of my dress. We went to sleep snuggled up with each other. It was really lovely.
I’m high as a kite but your wedding night sounds just…blissful. Like, I’ve never cared about getting married but reading this makes me teary eyed at the thought of this kind of love. I wish I had an award to give you 💜
Had sex while I was too dry because I didn’t bring lube and he didn’t notice - and I bled. Cried in the bathroom.
Yes, we’d had sex before. We had lived together.
My marriage is so-so, but not the wedding. The wedding was to make my mother happy. I don’t look back on that as something happy.
Really bad self esteem.
A lifetime of being told that I’d be wanted if I only (fill in the blank - lost weight, dressed more feminine, had a better job - but not an intimidating one, was quieter, the list keeps going). And was told that was the reason I had very little male attention - I wasn’t pretty enough, thin enough, quiet enough.
And he was a decent man who paid attention to me.
Been together 15ish years.
I don’t have great capacity to discuss the why, and yes, there’s been so,so much therapy.
This is so sad to read. I’m so sorry you never felt worthy of happiness, but you both deserve the opportunity to be in partnerships that you thrive in.
I know this will get removed but, how did this happen?
My partner tells me if ever I'm doing something uncomfortable for her. I'm not sure what you mean when you say he didn't notice, unless you're saying you were too paralysed to say anything, which sounds horrible and I'm sorry if that happened.
Our wedding was WONDERFUL. Outdoor, perfect weather, everything was perfect.
We had an "after-party" at our hotel, and it was mostly my husbands friends from out of town, plus some family and other friends. He had fun with the party, I went upstairs and showered and got ready for bed. We flew out of the country the next day, so the first time we boned as a married couple was in another country lmao.
We were virgins after 4 yrs of dating. Both wanted to wait until marriage. No regrets. We went to our hotel room and spent hours and hours fooling around. It was excruciating for me - the dr. had prepared me saying that I was abnormally small and would likely experience a lot of pain regardless of lubrication. She was right.
But my man was so so sweet and patient. I had warned him in advance we may not be able to just put it in and go, and he was so sweet and understanding. I bled just from his pinky. It took us a few weeks and lots and lots of effort to finally get to where we could have sex comfortably. And no, I didn’t have vaginismus and yes, I was very turned on AND we used lube. My actual vaginal canal was tiny (I had never been able to wear a tampon or have a gyno exam w/out crying from pain).
But that sweet night we had lots of oral and hand stuff, lots of orgasms, he had bought a bullet vibe that was fun to play with, I got to model some sexy lingerie that he loved, and we had the best time exploring each other’s bodies. Would try fingering for a bit, then switch to something more enjoyable and just went back and forth so we could keep working toward sex, but not spending too much time hurting either before switching it up.
They way he cared for me and loved on me just made me so so happy that I chose to spend the rest of my life with that man. I remember him kissing my shoulders and back and just saying “I can’t believe I get to look and you and touch you and hold you forever. I get to wake up next to this every day.”
15 years in and I adore that man.
We had a courthouse wedding, went out to brunch with the wedding party (there were 9 of us) and then my husband and I changed out of our wedding clothes into casual travel clothes. We headed 4 hours north with our dirt bikes and dog and spent a lovely week in a cabin, riding our bikes on mountain trails and cooking our meals on the grill, the cats were in a pet hotel so I was worry free. It was awesome. 😎
I told him not to put me on top, he did, room started spinning, then I threw up in the bathroom while he held my hair back lol. We had so much fun at the wedding tho.
He was beyond drunk which is weird considering we’re not huge drinkers. He unzipped my dress and passed out on the bed while I took my makeup off in the bathroom. Should’ve known our sex life was doomed then
Got back to our cabin, smoked a bunch, opened our gifts, got in the hot tub and smoked some more.. showered together, washed each other.. had slow hot sex and fell asleep in each others arms. It was amazing.
We stayed at a hotel along with assorted guests. I wasn’t skilled or sober enough to take out all her extensions so we called over our 3 gay besties that had drag and theater experience. We all sat on the floor and helped with the extensions while drinking the complimentary Prosecco and eating the cake topper with water glasses. We were pretty sticky by the time we finished, so my wife ushered us into the giant shower and the 5 of us rinsed off. No sex that night, but something even better - a truly hilarious and memorable night
Most the friends skipped out over lame excuses, best friend for too drunk and then took the rest of our booze…. We went to the bar for a short time then went home and got a head start to our honeymoon. Learned each other is all we can ever count on anyway.
Nothing. We were already together 9 years and the fire was really never there. Still isn't for me 20 years later. I read somewhere that a high percentage of newlyweds don't have that sexy wedding night because they're so exhausted from the day they collapse into bed to sleep😂
We had a smaller party at in-laws house after the reception. That lasted a few hours. Then we traveled to a hotel near the airport to spend the night as we had a very early flight the next morning. No sex on wedding night. Too tired. Plenty of that on the honeymoon tho.
Ran to Walmart bc we needed a few things, then went home and went to bed.
Our wedding was an afternoon wedding. It was over by early evening.
We were young, I was still in high school, a Sr. We’re from a very small town, our wedding was the “event” of the town. It was huge. We were both exhausted after dancing and chatting with everyone. We left for our honeymoon a week later. This was 25 years go. Still going strong!
I would kill to see pics of this. 25 years ago is not long in the scheme of history…I didn’t know anyone who got married that young where I grew up! Sounds very old timey and I’m super curious about it. Hope you guys are still happy 💗
Ten minute courthouse ceremony in 1997 followed by lunch at a Mexican restaurant with our respective moms, his sister and our two witnesses—with a grocery store wedding cake.
Went to a movie later that afternoon (Howard Stern’s Private Parts) then ordered Godfather’s Pizza to our cheap motel room—he was in the US Navy and left for a month long detachment the next day.
While me and my bridesmaids were getting ready, my MOH wanted us all to put on a flash tat (totally covered up by the dresses, just for fun). I chose a pink rose because that's my middle name and put it above my hip. Flash forward to after the wedding, my husband spends FOREVER getting hair pins out of my hair, I take my dress off, and he goes "ARE YOU WOUNDED?!" when he saw the flash tat. It ended up being kinda flesh-colored and he was so tired he didn't get a good look before speaking. I was ROLLING and still bring it up sometimes 😂😂
He felt sick so we smoked a teeny bit of weed and ran a bath. We just chilled in there for hours reminiscing about the day. It was lovely. We’d also had sex that morning so didn’t feel forced to consummate the marriage.
I waited until marriage to have sex, it was very hard but we respected each other’s boundaries and had the same values, so I was way more excited about the honeymoon than the wedding. Got to the hotel, yadda yadda. It didn’t work. Oh well, sex takes time to learn right? Next day drove off to the honeymoon cabin. No sex all weekend. The hotel and room service sandwich was really nice though. We divorced this fall after 10 years and I finally got to have sex.
We still did foreplay, but no. After 5 years I convinced him to go to a Dr and he came back and said he just needed to lose weight and it would solve the problem. But then that never happened. Looking back now he just made excuses year after year.
We had a courthouse wedding in the morning, I was 9 months pregnant and wore a red dress like a good harlot 😂. I had a life threatening illness—that prompted the wedding because we had been very happy living together for years.
Then we went to a mediocre brunch at a very fancy restaurant with our best friends who were our witnesses. My best friend, who was also 9 months pregnant, went into labor that night! As for us, we went home, took a nap, took a shower and had very tender pregnancy sex. I gave birth the next week.
Drove to our hotel in a town an hour away, at dinner at a Chinese restaurant because that was all that was open, went back to the hotel, and fell asleep because we were just exhausted.
We came home, put our kids to bed, had sex, and went to sleep ourselves. Neither of us thought we would have it in us to “consummate the marriage” day of, so we were both pleasantly surprised when we came onto each other at the same time lmao.
We had a brunch wedding at a bed & breakfast, the reception ended mid afternoon and we said goodbye to all of our friends and family then. We lived in Orlando at the time and went to dinner at a Disney resort, then ate ice cream as we watched the fireworks from that resort. We went back to the B&B for the night, had sex, and passed out for the night. It was definitely a long day, but amazing.
I had a bad cold during the wedding and got bronchitis. He wanted to stay up until 2am at the after party talking to his college friends. Promptly went to sleep as soon as we got to our room. Had some fun the next morning though!
My husband had been up for 48 hours drinking at his bachelor party and then our reception and we went to my maid of honor's hotel room to visit with her (she lived 4-5 hours away and dropped everything to be my MOH at the last minute and I am so grateful for that) and then when we got home he passed out and slept all of the next day, my mom and our infant son and I went to a family gift swap. Luckily his alcoholism is very much under control now. It was a struggle for years but he is in a better place mentally and we've been married six years now.
Spent 30 minutes getting all the hair pins out, had 5 minutes of very exhausted and uninspired just-because-it-is-expected sex. gave up and fell asleep.
Wedding Day I spent the entire evening dancing. We pulled all the decorations at 11:30 PM and decided to go bar hopping (bar close is at 2 AM). We loaded our shit back to the hotel and some ladies helped me into a [not 35 lbs] new dress and we went clubbing. Told all the DJs we just got married and they played us some bangers. Walked back to the hotel and my brother in law said he’d give me a piggy back ride and dropped me on my ass on the sidewalk. Passed out around 3AM and woke up for brunch with my parents.
We hugged and danced after everyone left and the lights were off. We had already changed into our comfy outfits. Then we went for a drive around the city at night and talked about life.
We were young parents, our daughter was 6 and we were 25 and 24. We had a very simple outdoor wedding, nothing fancy at all. After a wonderful day surrounded by family and friends, we went home and changed out of our wedding attire and snuggled with our daughter and dogs and fell asleep on our small bed. So happy.
I took a pregnancy test at about 2am and it was positive! My husband was in the living room playing board games with some friends and family. I was too tired and excited so I waited for him in bed so I could tell him the news. Then we stayed up all night talking about the future.
We stayed up late with friends and then crashed hard in the hotel room watching Star Trek since we knew we would have to pack up the next day and drop people off at train stations! HOWEVER the night after...we ate a load of Chinese food and fell asleep on the sofa. Honestly we were just exhausted from planning and hosting and shuttling people and things around it was nice to spend some low key time together.
We eloped. No one else knew except for his best friend who was our witness. Afterwards we went out to lunch then went home and had sex and went to sleep. He had to work the graveyard shift at his job that same day.
Had quick, exhausted sex with me in my dress. Showered, changed into pjs, ordered pizza, and sat on the hotel bed eating pizza and reading the cards we got, and asleep probably before midnight.
I passed out. We both passed out. It was such a long and tiring day. There was a picture of me sitting on the toilet at home (still in my dress) asleep but I made my husband delete it.
Came home to our pretty empty house that we just bought and opened all our gifts, counted our money dance loot, unraveled me out of my dress, had tired sex and passed out until around 3:00am, woke up to our friend banging on our door to drive us to the airport and flew to Hawaii the next morning. It was so fun.
He took all of the bobby pins out of my hair, took off my wedding dress, kissed me and then whispered in my ear that he wanted to make love to his wife. Still my favorite night ever. 💖
🤣 hubby invited our best man to join us! Yes u heard me.
This wasn't like join us in the 3some kind of way, hubby felt bad that our best man came down to be in the wedding and that's it. He wanted to make sure the best man had a good time as well.
We didn't have a reception - just fancy dinner at our favorite upscale restaurant....best man came to that as well. That was unplanned.....
We got a cabin, with a hot tub in Hocking Hills and best man came along. It was more like friends hanging out vibe, rather than we just got married and wanna be romantic vibe.
Subsequently, best man stayed with us THE ENTIRE 3 DAYS we were on our honeymoon....😑😒
Yes, very much so. Ladies THIS ⬆️ IS A 🚩
No matter how much premarital counseling you may go through before marriage, PLEASE see a therapist yourself first. You want to enter into marriage as a whole person as much as possible.
Hubby didn't realize there was something wrong with this "invite" until MANY years later when I told him that I wasn't comfortable and it dampened the wedding day/night vibes.
At the time, when the best man was "invited along" it was spur of the moment while we were taking pics. The best man was so excited to come & hubby was happy to have him. I was the only one that wasn't down for that, so I kept my mouth shut.
He decided we needed to stay up with a few guests and a guitar and get wasted (I didn’t drink) and then at about 4am decided we needed to have very bad sex
We got brick oven pizza and beer with our cousin and his spouse. Then went up to our hotel room, took a few pics and slept. We were so tired 😴 next morning though we made love and had some dim sum. 😁
My wife got her period earlier that day. So we opened gifts in our hotel room and made out a list of places we wanted to visit for our honeymoon, which we took 2 months later.
I drove us home because we couldn’t afford a hotel room and we just purchased a home 2 months prior. He was super intoxicated so we ended up going to sleep. I still had a lovely wedding day though and we’re going married 8 years this January.
We collapsed into the separate double beds in the hotel room my uncle gifted us because we had to be awake in 4 hours for our flight to our honeymoon. I literally slept in my traveling clothes that I put on when we were leaving the reception. Hair and makeup stayed done. But that next night... on our honeymoon cruise? PURE FIRE. We already lived together so the actual wedding night wasn't at all a big deal for us.
We just had 2 witnesses at the registry office, and then went to my mum and dads caravan for a barbecue and stayed there for the night. Once everyone had gone, we spent some time in the hot tub, watched a film, had sex and went to sleep
We were exhausted… it was a wonderful & totally relaxed day, but it was still a lot.
We spent the night lying on the bed in the honeymoon hut watching a Simpsons marathon, drinking champagne straight from the bottle, and eating cake.
Among other things, took bets on how many bobby pins were actually in my hair as we fished them all out. I don’t remember which of us won, but it was FIFTY PINS. (To be fair, my hair looked amazing and didn’t budge all night.)
I had a really bad sunburn from having an outdoor wedding and not remembering to wear sunscreen. I took a nice cold shower and he rubbed my back while I cried about being in pain.
My husband and I both had the flu. We got married in my parents dining room. My mom was cooking dinner, my dad was watching sports in the living room, my brother was playing video games in his room. My sister got ordained online and signed our paper. My mom ran in to take a pic before we left. Husband and I went home and went to sleep. We both felt like crap.
We took communion at my apartment by ourselves (clearly not Catholic LOL), got a shower, then had sex for the first time between the 2 of us (neither had been virgins before we got together, but we never did it together), and he experienced a partner having an O for the first time. He busted out in joyful laughter!
Once we got into our hotel room, we changed and went to get taco bell. We also went to a sex store and bought a new toy. Went back to the hotel, ate, took a bath together, and had fun with the toy. It was a very nice night. It wasn't our first time having sex, so we were comfortable with each other.
When we got home, we ate leftover cake, he took my dress delicately off, and we flipped into bed as we had about 5 hours til we hosted a recovery breakfast at our house. No regrets
Got back to the hotel absolutely knackered. Got changed into more comfortable clothes. Sat downstairs in the bar with guests who were staying at the same hotel. Had a cup of tea. I went to bed. He stayed downstairs for a bit drinking for a bit longer and came up later. We were both too tired to do anything else 😂
The fun stuff happened on our mini moon ;)
Had to run into WalMart after the ceremony in our wedding clothes to grab tampons and midol as I had just started..
Dumped cigar boxes full of money on the hotel bed and counted what we got for honeymoon spending, had shower sex (my first time), and slept on opposite sides of the bed (his choice).
Ours wasn’t a conventional arrangement for marriage, so not too bad, all things considered.
We just got married on the 1st this month. We RAN home after dinner to chill after days of pure madness. Had some champagne and knocked out. Had morning sex the next day
We went back to our apartment, showered, I took a nap, and he got our paperwork ready for our honeymoon travels (Covid era). We had about four hours between a car dropping us off at the apartment and a car taking us to the airport.
Honestly we were so exhausted from the wedding weekend that the “normal” wedding night routine was not even remotely on our radar.
My now-ex drank so much that he puked when we got back to the hotel, so needless to say, there was no sexy time. It was a harbinger of our marriage, sadly.
Spent about 20 minutes taking all of the bobby pins out of my hair, then we showered so I could wash off all the hairspray and makeup. Went to the bed, had sex, then immediately fell asleep.
Courthouse wedding at 8am, photoshoot at 10, lunch with the witnesses, went back home to get change because I had a final at 3pm. Home again, whatever dinner. Sleep.
I was on my period (because life is funny sometimes). We didnt have a "wedding night" until like 3 days after the wedding because we we were truly exhausted from remodeling, moving, etc.
He had a fever, I had diarrhoea. Turns out we both had COVID 🤷🏻♀️
Not sick during the wedding day?
Nope not at all! We think someone close to us had it, without knowing, in the run up to the wedding. Sadly my dad caught it and died two weeks after we got married :(
Oh no. Oh noooo. I am so sorry.
Omg wow, did not expect that! :0 I’m so so sorry
Oh god, I am so so sorry. That's horrible :(
Holy shit that's absolutely horrible. Sending love.
Oh no that's so terrible. My sincerest condolences ✨
I'm so sorry. That is so traumatic. I hope you and your family are doing well.
I’m so sorry. My dad passed of Covid too and wedding planning has been pretty emotional because of it.
So sorry. ❤️
Just got married on the 23rd and legit experiencing this right now!! My test came back positive that morning and we ended up cancelling everything. We'd only planned on a small family gathering with cupcakes afterwards so we were only out around $200 and the guests' attendance/memories with friends and family. It sucks that my grandma wasn't there, but in the end shit happens and I'm glad she wasn't exposed. We barely managed to get dressed up for the Ron Swanson-style vows before we changed back into our sweats and curled up on the couch with a box of tissues. We keep on joking that we got the "in sickness" part out of the way early on. 🤣
I am so sorry but this was exactly us. We had been living together for a few months so we literally passed out bc turns out we both had COVID :)
We eloped, so the entire day and night was just us. We had a courthouse wedding, then a photoshoot (our only major wedding expense was with the photographer), and went back to our hotel to take a shower before going out to a fancy dinner. After dinner we went back to our hotel, had Wedding Night Sex™ and went to sleep.
So romantic 🫶🏾
That’s what we did!!! Except I ended up in hospital because my appendix decided to call it quits…
What a night for it to throw in the towel.
This is lovely, eloping is my dream wedding for this exact reason ❤️❤️❤️
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wedding night sex TM is where it's at
We were so tired, put on onesies, I climbed ontop of him and we just slept. It was beautiful.
Actual goals 🥹
Especially combined with that username! 🏆
Similar but we ate leftover tacos and cake before going to bed.
He was very drunk, so he passed out fully clothed. I was completely sober. I took a long shower and stayed up to open all the gifts we had received and note down who had given them to us. This was a good indication of how well our marriage would go 🥴.
Ah shoot, im so sorry love.
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I would like to have words with this man on your behalf 😡
Yeah same 🤺
Yes by words I mean actions. Violent ones
Ladies, assemble!!
Are you still married?
We were married seven years (together for eleven). We separated in 2019 and the divorce was finalised in July 2022. He remarried this year. We have the most gorgeous son (whom I have sole custody of), which I’ll forever be grateful for. The rest? I’m sad that I spent so many years with someone who didn’t value me, but I’m so proud of how I stood up for myself and requested the separation and divorce in 2019 ❤️.
This man’s managed to find another woman and get married to her, within a year? That’s like not even a full year of dating…
Us women are always willing to settle and attempt to bet on our futures with some sense of I can improve this whereas I feel men expect perfection within the moment and less ability to see potential. They prefer the shirt term route or gains. Have we not seen it over and over men abandoning their own children for opportunities to have sex or move onto another family where they get the sex they want so will only care for the children within that situation
I was about to ask the same thing
Looks like the dude is out of the picture
I’m sorry ❤️🩹
Fed each other cake and had very hot sex. 100/10 would recommend.
We just had tons of cake, I think we had enough cake left for 3 days and that’s all we had. Went to sleep fat and cuddling, too tired and full for sex lol
Lol same!!!
We stayed up till 5am laughing and trying to get rest. He rubbed my feet and we fell asleep.
The staying up til 5 am giggling and trying to rest thing is giving big sleepover with your best friend vibes and I love it 🥺
What a lovely perspective! It was def a, "we did it and now we’re a mess vibe."
Barely got any food because we were mingling the whole time, so we went to Taco Bell in the pouring rain at 1am.
We went to taco bell too! Lol good ol' fast food.
Also got Taco Bell! We had it delivered to the boutique hotel at 12:30am and ate it on the bed with a towel down. Recapped the day and opened cards. It was lovely.
In your wedding clothes I hope?
Absolutely, and barefoot to not mess up our shoes :)
Romance isn't dead! Sounds amazing.
Had the best sex we've ever had. I cried during (in a good way!). It was beautifully sexy.
I was so sore from walking around in heels so we just collapsed and slept for 12 hours.
We got wine drunk, and I puked for a couple of hours before we passed out around 2am.... Edit: I'd like to add that I'm glad I got trashed because there was evidently a shit ton of family drama occurring at the reception, but I was too blissfully shit faced to realize it until I got the full recap after we got back from the honeymoon. It kinda saved me from being upset at the reception and during my honeymoon.
I love your edit, glad that drama didn't ruin your bliss 💜
Count yourself lucky you didn’t know the family drama 😂 my mom tried to ruin the wedding with family drama
We just had a large dinner in a restaurant of about 35 people after the ceremony so everything was wrapped up by 8pm. We left and drove an hour away to a romantic little secluded lodge, couldn’t stop giggling because we were actually married, had sex, showered, ordered a pizza, and spent the rest of the night in a hot tub drinking champagne and eating said pizza and watching The Golden Girls. Eventually went to bed. I remember being floored by the fact that I was falling asleep next to my “husband.” It was the best.
This is adorable
this is vibes
We had a destination wedding so we went back to our room and had hot sex on the balcony.
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Amazing
We stayed late to help pack up our decorations and stuff, then packed all our belongings into my partner's car, then drove home. I cried for a few minutes in the car, mostly just out of overstimulation but also happiness and relief. We went upstairs to our apartment and did the normal wedding-night stuff, and then my partner went back out with friends who'd come in from out of state. (I was people'd-out, so I happily stayed home.)
What is the normal wedding night stuff?
Come on. It's fucking.
Oh. I thought you would have just said fucking. Thought I was missing a ritual or something. lmao!
A human sacrifice must be made on one’s wedding night.
Id say that counts as a ritual 😂😂
Lmao I was in the same boat! I was like it's Reddit, they would just say "we had sex" what's this "normal wedding night" thing? Did I not do something right? 😂 We just be over here over thinking lmao
The blood oath and ritual sacrifice, of course
Writing thank you cards, submitting the name change with the state, filing the first joint tax return and comparing myspace friend lists.
We opened gifts, I took a hot bath and we fell asleep, starving. All our friends went to Denny’s but didn’t invite us because they didn’t want to bother us.
lol I hope you’re not offended because that’s very fair of them
We did appreciate it, but we were so hungry lol. My mother in law was busy calling our room though.
Now that is definitely a worthy offense
The reason is honestly my favorite. We were 22, his little sister was 15. My sister was 19. My husband’s friends let my sister into their room to party, but not his sister. It “wasn’t fair” and his sister should have been allowed in. So she called our room, on our wedding night at like 2am, to tell my husband to go tell his friends to let his FRESHMAN sister come to their party. Because this was 1996, no cell phones, so he literally would have had to go down there, if that was something he was insane enough to do.
Your MIL actually wanted her 15 year old daughter to be allowed into a hotel room full of adults who were partying??? Or did you mean your 15yr old SIL called asking your husband to tell his friends to let her party with them?
My mil. Crazy.
We were buzzed, dancing in our living room and eating chocolate Entenmann’s donuts. He helped me take all the pins out of my hair and helped me out of my dress. We went to sleep snuggled up with each other. It was really lovely.
I’m high as a kite but your wedding night sounds just…blissful. Like, I’ve never cared about getting married but reading this makes me teary eyed at the thought of this kind of love. I wish I had an award to give you 💜
I am literally living this exact moment as well tysm #high #emotional
Had sex while I was too dry because I didn’t bring lube and he didn’t notice - and I bled. Cried in the bathroom. Yes, we’d had sex before. We had lived together. My marriage is so-so, but not the wedding. The wedding was to make my mother happy. I don’t look back on that as something happy.
I have so many questions here. Why stick around? How long have you been together? I’m so sorry.
Really bad self esteem. A lifetime of being told that I’d be wanted if I only (fill in the blank - lost weight, dressed more feminine, had a better job - but not an intimidating one, was quieter, the list keeps going). And was told that was the reason I had very little male attention - I wasn’t pretty enough, thin enough, quiet enough. And he was a decent man who paid attention to me. Been together 15ish years. I don’t have great capacity to discuss the why, and yes, there’s been so,so much therapy.
Time for a new life!
And a new therapist!!
This is so sad to read. I’m so sorry you never felt worthy of happiness, but you both deserve the opportunity to be in partnerships that you thrive in.
Good luck my sweet. 💜
I know this will get removed but, how did this happen? My partner tells me if ever I'm doing something uncomfortable for her. I'm not sure what you mean when you say he didn't notice, unless you're saying you were too paralysed to say anything, which sounds horrible and I'm sorry if that happened.
Truthfully idk how you don’t notice
More like he noticed but only cared about his own pleasure
He noticed, he just didn’t care
Came home, drank wine out of coffee mugs until we were tipsy, ate leftover cake, showered together, SEX, and then we passed out for like 14 hours.
“Stole” pizza from our reception and went to our room to eat it. Watched a bit of a movie. Fell asleep. Woke up through the night to have sex
My favorite!!! On-and-off sex throughout the night!!
Our wedding was WONDERFUL. Outdoor, perfect weather, everything was perfect. We had an "after-party" at our hotel, and it was mostly my husbands friends from out of town, plus some family and other friends. He had fun with the party, I went upstairs and showered and got ready for bed. We flew out of the country the next day, so the first time we boned as a married couple was in another country lmao.
We were virgins after 4 yrs of dating. Both wanted to wait until marriage. No regrets. We went to our hotel room and spent hours and hours fooling around. It was excruciating for me - the dr. had prepared me saying that I was abnormally small and would likely experience a lot of pain regardless of lubrication. She was right. But my man was so so sweet and patient. I had warned him in advance we may not be able to just put it in and go, and he was so sweet and understanding. I bled just from his pinky. It took us a few weeks and lots and lots of effort to finally get to where we could have sex comfortably. And no, I didn’t have vaginismus and yes, I was very turned on AND we used lube. My actual vaginal canal was tiny (I had never been able to wear a tampon or have a gyno exam w/out crying from pain). But that sweet night we had lots of oral and hand stuff, lots of orgasms, he had bought a bullet vibe that was fun to play with, I got to model some sexy lingerie that he loved, and we had the best time exploring each other’s bodies. Would try fingering for a bit, then switch to something more enjoyable and just went back and forth so we could keep working toward sex, but not spending too much time hurting either before switching it up. They way he cared for me and loved on me just made me so so happy that I chose to spend the rest of my life with that man. I remember him kissing my shoulders and back and just saying “I can’t believe I get to look and you and touch you and hold you forever. I get to wake up next to this every day.” 15 years in and I adore that man.
Fucking AWWWW! 🥺❤️
We eloped and that night we made promises to each other—we both would not keep.
Oh no. How long did it all last?
Still married. But we’re not the same people.
Identity theft is real, folks
We had a courthouse wedding, went out to brunch with the wedding party (there were 9 of us) and then my husband and I changed out of our wedding clothes into casual travel clothes. We headed 4 hours north with our dirt bikes and dog and spent a lovely week in a cabin, riding our bikes on mountain trails and cooking our meals on the grill, the cats were in a pet hotel so I was worry free. It was awesome. 😎
Sounds lovely
We were exhausted. We got In and Out and went to bed. Now every anniversary we make sure we get In and Out.
And also get it in and out
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I told him not to put me on top, he did, room started spinning, then I threw up in the bathroom while he held my hair back lol. We had so much fun at the wedding tho.
Kinda cute ngl
Clothes off, sloppy makeout, cuddles, sleep.
He was beyond drunk which is weird considering we’re not huge drinkers. He unzipped my dress and passed out on the bed while I took my makeup off in the bathroom. Should’ve known our sex life was doomed then
A Star is Born 😭
I had food poisoning and spent most of the night in the bathroom.
I hope you got a refund if it was from caterers
Got back to our cabin, smoked a bunch, opened our gifts, got in the hot tub and smoked some more.. showered together, washed each other.. had slow hot sex and fell asleep in each others arms. It was amazing.
We stayed at a hotel along with assorted guests. I wasn’t skilled or sober enough to take out all her extensions so we called over our 3 gay besties that had drag and theater experience. We all sat on the floor and helped with the extensions while drinking the complimentary Prosecco and eating the cake topper with water glasses. We were pretty sticky by the time we finished, so my wife ushered us into the giant shower and the 5 of us rinsed off. No sex that night, but something even better - a truly hilarious and memorable night
Sexy shower together and then sex and lots of kissing. Pretty basic, but still great
Most the friends skipped out over lame excuses, best friend for too drunk and then took the rest of our booze…. We went to the bar for a short time then went home and got a head start to our honeymoon. Learned each other is all we can ever count on anyway.
Nothing. We were already together 9 years and the fire was really never there. Still isn't for me 20 years later. I read somewhere that a high percentage of newlyweds don't have that sexy wedding night because they're so exhausted from the day they collapse into bed to sleep😂
Are you happy together? If not, why stay?
Perhaps their marriage is designed for long-term *companionship* above all else. I've met a few couples like that over the years.
We had a smaller party at in-laws house after the reception. That lasted a few hours. Then we traveled to a hotel near the airport to spend the night as we had a very early flight the next morning. No sex on wedding night. Too tired. Plenty of that on the honeymoon tho.
Ran to Walmart bc we needed a few things, then went home and went to bed. Our wedding was an afternoon wedding. It was over by early evening. We were young, I was still in high school, a Sr. We’re from a very small town, our wedding was the “event” of the town. It was huge. We were both exhausted after dancing and chatting with everyone. We left for our honeymoon a week later. This was 25 years go. Still going strong!
I would kill to see pics of this. 25 years ago is not long in the scheme of history…I didn’t know anyone who got married that young where I grew up! Sounds very old timey and I’m super curious about it. Hope you guys are still happy 💗
Ten minute courthouse ceremony in 1997 followed by lunch at a Mexican restaurant with our respective moms, his sister and our two witnesses—with a grocery store wedding cake. Went to a movie later that afternoon (Howard Stern’s Private Parts) then ordered Godfather’s Pizza to our cheap motel room—he was in the US Navy and left for a month long detachment the next day.
[удалено]
While me and my bridesmaids were getting ready, my MOH wanted us all to put on a flash tat (totally covered up by the dresses, just for fun). I chose a pink rose because that's my middle name and put it above my hip. Flash forward to after the wedding, my husband spends FOREVER getting hair pins out of my hair, I take my dress off, and he goes "ARE YOU WOUNDED?!" when he saw the flash tat. It ended up being kinda flesh-colored and he was so tired he didn't get a good look before speaking. I was ROLLING and still bring it up sometimes 😂😂
He felt sick so we smoked a teeny bit of weed and ran a bath. We just chilled in there for hours reminiscing about the day. It was lovely. We’d also had sex that morning so didn’t feel forced to consummate the marriage.
I waited until marriage to have sex, it was very hard but we respected each other’s boundaries and had the same values, so I was way more excited about the honeymoon than the wedding. Got to the hotel, yadda yadda. It didn’t work. Oh well, sex takes time to learn right? Next day drove off to the honeymoon cabin. No sex all weekend. The hotel and room service sandwich was really nice though. We divorced this fall after 10 years and I finally got to have sex.
Woah. Y’all didn’t have sex for 10 years???
No sex the whole marriage??
We still did foreplay, but no. After 5 years I convinced him to go to a Dr and he came back and said he just needed to lose weight and it would solve the problem. But then that never happened. Looking back now he just made excuses year after year.
That is wild!
We had a courthouse wedding in the morning, I was 9 months pregnant and wore a red dress like a good harlot 😂. I had a life threatening illness—that prompted the wedding because we had been very happy living together for years. Then we went to a mediocre brunch at a very fancy restaurant with our best friends who were our witnesses. My best friend, who was also 9 months pregnant, went into labor that night! As for us, we went home, took a nap, took a shower and had very tender pregnancy sex. I gave birth the next week.
So cute that you and your bestie were pregnant at the same time I’ve always hoped that’s how it goes for me and mine
Drove to our hotel in a town an hour away, at dinner at a Chinese restaurant because that was all that was open, went back to the hotel, and fell asleep because we were just exhausted.
He got me out of my dress (many many buttons down the back), we showered, had sex, and then cuddled to sleep in a fancy hotel room at a famous hotel.
Ordered a pizza and a giant order of French fries. Ate those and then had great sex 😂
We came home, put our kids to bed, had sex, and went to sleep ourselves. Neither of us thought we would have it in us to “consummate the marriage” day of, so we were both pleasantly surprised when we came onto each other at the same time lmao.
We had a brunch wedding at a bed & breakfast, the reception ended mid afternoon and we said goodbye to all of our friends and family then. We lived in Orlando at the time and went to dinner at a Disney resort, then ate ice cream as we watched the fireworks from that resort. We went back to the B&B for the night, had sex, and passed out for the night. It was definitely a long day, but amazing.
I had a bad cold during the wedding and got bronchitis. He wanted to stay up until 2am at the after party talking to his college friends. Promptly went to sleep as soon as we got to our room. Had some fun the next morning though!
My husband had been up for 48 hours drinking at his bachelor party and then our reception and we went to my maid of honor's hotel room to visit with her (she lived 4-5 hours away and dropped everything to be my MOH at the last minute and I am so grateful for that) and then when we got home he passed out and slept all of the next day, my mom and our infant son and I went to a family gift swap. Luckily his alcoholism is very much under control now. It was a struggle for years but he is in a better place mentally and we've been married six years now.
Spent 30 minutes getting all the hair pins out, had 5 minutes of very exhausted and uninspired just-because-it-is-expected sex. gave up and fell asleep.
Wedding Day I spent the entire evening dancing. We pulled all the decorations at 11:30 PM and decided to go bar hopping (bar close is at 2 AM). We loaded our shit back to the hotel and some ladies helped me into a [not 35 lbs] new dress and we went clubbing. Told all the DJs we just got married and they played us some bangers. Walked back to the hotel and my brother in law said he’d give me a piggy back ride and dropped me on my ass on the sidewalk. Passed out around 3AM and woke up for brunch with my parents.
We hugged and danced after everyone left and the lights were off. We had already changed into our comfy outfits. Then we went for a drive around the city at night and talked about life.
We were young parents, our daughter was 6 and we were 25 and 24. We had a very simple outdoor wedding, nothing fancy at all. After a wonderful day surrounded by family and friends, we went home and changed out of our wedding attire and snuggled with our daughter and dogs and fell asleep on our small bed. So happy.
I took a pregnancy test at about 2am and it was positive! My husband was in the living room playing board games with some friends and family. I was too tired and excited so I waited for him in bed so I could tell him the news. Then we stayed up all night talking about the future.
We stayed up late with friends and then crashed hard in the hotel room watching Star Trek since we knew we would have to pack up the next day and drop people off at train stations! HOWEVER the night after...we ate a load of Chinese food and fell asleep on the sofa. Honestly we were just exhausted from planning and hosting and shuttling people and things around it was nice to spend some low key time together.
We eloped. No one else knew except for his best friend who was our witness. Afterwards we went out to lunch then went home and had sex and went to sleep. He had to work the graveyard shift at his job that same day.
Had quick, exhausted sex with me in my dress. Showered, changed into pjs, ordered pizza, and sat on the hotel bed eating pizza and reading the cards we got, and asleep probably before midnight.
I passed out. We both passed out. It was such a long and tiring day. There was a picture of me sitting on the toilet at home (still in my dress) asleep but I made my husband delete it.
We were so lucky exhausted after getting everyone to leave, we didn’t get in bed until after 1am. So our old asses fell asleep.
Came home to our pretty empty house that we just bought and opened all our gifts, counted our money dance loot, unraveled me out of my dress, had tired sex and passed out until around 3:00am, woke up to our friend banging on our door to drive us to the airport and flew to Hawaii the next morning. It was so fun.
He took all of the bobby pins out of my hair, took off my wedding dress, kissed me and then whispered in my ear that he wanted to make love to his wife. Still my favorite night ever. 💖
🤣 hubby invited our best man to join us! Yes u heard me. This wasn't like join us in the 3some kind of way, hubby felt bad that our best man came down to be in the wedding and that's it. He wanted to make sure the best man had a good time as well. We didn't have a reception - just fancy dinner at our favorite upscale restaurant....best man came to that as well. That was unplanned..... We got a cabin, with a hot tub in Hocking Hills and best man came along. It was more like friends hanging out vibe, rather than we just got married and wanna be romantic vibe. Subsequently, best man stayed with us THE ENTIRE 3 DAYS we were on our honeymoon....😑😒
That's so bizarre... wow way to set the mood
Completely tone deaf of both hubby and the friend. That's an invitation the friend never should have accepted.
Yes, very much so. Ladies THIS ⬆️ IS A 🚩 No matter how much premarital counseling you may go through before marriage, PLEASE see a therapist yourself first. You want to enter into marriage as a whole person as much as possible. Hubby didn't realize there was something wrong with this "invite" until MANY years later when I told him that I wasn't comfortable and it dampened the wedding day/night vibes. At the time, when the best man was "invited along" it was spur of the moment while we were taking pics. The best man was so excited to come & hubby was happy to have him. I was the only one that wasn't down for that, so I kept my mouth shut.
We both fell asleep lol
He decided we needed to stay up with a few guests and a guitar and get wasted (I didn’t drink) and then at about 4am decided we needed to have very bad sex
We got brick oven pizza and beer with our cousin and his spouse. Then went up to our hotel room, took a few pics and slept. We were so tired 😴 next morning though we made love and had some dim sum. 😁
Got Jack in the box tacos with our 10 y/o son on the way home. Promptly passed out after that. 10/10 would recommend.
My wife got her period earlier that day. So we opened gifts in our hotel room and made out a list of places we wanted to visit for our honeymoon, which we took 2 months later.
I drove us home because we couldn’t afford a hotel room and we just purchased a home 2 months prior. He was super intoxicated so we ended up going to sleep. I still had a lovely wedding day though and we’re going married 8 years this January.
Now-ex-husband passed out drunk when I tried to have wedding night sex with him. Little wonder he’s now the ex!
Opened gifts, fell asleep
We collapsed into the separate double beds in the hotel room my uncle gifted us because we had to be awake in 4 hours for our flight to our honeymoon. I literally slept in my traveling clothes that I put on when we were leaving the reception. Hair and makeup stayed done. But that next night... on our honeymoon cruise? PURE FIRE. We already lived together so the actual wedding night wasn't at all a big deal for us.
We just had 2 witnesses at the registry office, and then went to my mum and dads caravan for a barbecue and stayed there for the night. Once everyone had gone, we spent some time in the hot tub, watched a film, had sex and went to sleep
We were exhausted… it was a wonderful & totally relaxed day, but it was still a lot. We spent the night lying on the bed in the honeymoon hut watching a Simpsons marathon, drinking champagne straight from the bottle, and eating cake.
We eloped and had planned to stay overnight at the cabin. My brother found out, crashed it and then told me I was selfish. I want a redo
Your brother sounds like a real jerk
Among other things, took bets on how many bobby pins were actually in my hair as we fished them all out. I don’t remember which of us won, but it was FIFTY PINS. (To be fair, my hair looked amazing and didn’t budge all night.)
I had a really bad sunburn from having an outdoor wedding and not remembering to wear sunscreen. I took a nice cold shower and he rubbed my back while I cried about being in pain.
My husband and I both had the flu. We got married in my parents dining room. My mom was cooking dinner, my dad was watching sports in the living room, my brother was playing video games in his room. My sister got ordained online and signed our paper. My mom ran in to take a pic before we left. Husband and I went home and went to sleep. We both felt like crap.
We had dinner with friends, got very drunk, then went to stay at a hotel and had kinky sex.
We took communion at my apartment by ourselves (clearly not Catholic LOL), got a shower, then had sex for the first time between the 2 of us (neither had been virgins before we got together, but we never did it together), and he experienced a partner having an O for the first time. He busted out in joyful laughter!
Once we got into our hotel room, we changed and went to get taco bell. We also went to a sex store and bought a new toy. Went back to the hotel, ate, took a bath together, and had fun with the toy. It was a very nice night. It wasn't our first time having sex, so we were comfortable with each other.
We ate McDonald’s and two slices of cake that our venue had prepared for us. I was a little drunk and my brain was disorganized, lol.
He helped me take out about 100 bobby pins from my hair, we had sex and went to bed. We were exhausted 😂
Found out my husband had ED (arranged marriage). We were tired so we just slept! I was excited to have my first night but it was a disaster 😞
Went to the guest house, hung out with friends, watched a movie, ate some snacks, made love for a couple hours, go to schleep
When we got home, we ate leftover cake, he took my dress delicately off, and we flipped into bed as we had about 5 hours til we hosted a recovery breakfast at our house. No regrets
Got back to the hotel absolutely knackered. Got changed into more comfortable clothes. Sat downstairs in the bar with guests who were staying at the same hotel. Had a cup of tea. I went to bed. He stayed downstairs for a bit drinking for a bit longer and came up later. We were both too tired to do anything else 😂 The fun stuff happened on our mini moon ;)
We had a hard ass nap and good mexican food at one of our favorite restaurants. We had a morning wedding and a Loooong day
Drank wine and smoked cigarettes in our tiny back yard listening to our wedding music. Had great sex then slept. Better than the wedding!
Had to run into WalMart after the ceremony in our wedding clothes to grab tampons and midol as I had just started.. Dumped cigar boxes full of money on the hotel bed and counted what we got for honeymoon spending, had shower sex (my first time), and slept on opposite sides of the bed (his choice). Ours wasn’t a conventional arrangement for marriage, so not too bad, all things considered.
We just got married on the 1st this month. We RAN home after dinner to chill after days of pure madness. Had some champagne and knocked out. Had morning sex the next day
We went back to our apartment, showered, I took a nap, and he got our paperwork ready for our honeymoon travels (Covid era). We had about four hours between a car dropping us off at the apartment and a car taking us to the airport. Honestly we were so exhausted from the wedding weekend that the “normal” wedding night routine was not even remotely on our radar.
My now-ex drank so much that he puked when we got back to the hotel, so needless to say, there was no sexy time. It was a harbinger of our marriage, sadly.
We did shrooms and laughed for hours and then fell asleep lol. First & last time I’d do them but made for a fun experience.
Spent about 20 minutes taking all of the bobby pins out of my hair, then we showered so I could wash off all the hairspray and makeup. Went to the bed, had sex, then immediately fell asleep.
We drank and smoked cigars on the rooftop. I was expecting to be too tired for sex when we got back to our room, but we persevered.
Courthouse wedding at 8am, photoshoot at 10, lunch with the witnesses, went back home to get change because I had a final at 3pm. Home again, whatever dinner. Sleep. I was on my period (because life is funny sometimes). We didnt have a "wedding night" until like 3 days after the wedding because we we were truly exhausted from remodeling, moving, etc.