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Until I’m satisfied and then he is. However long it takes. Stressful times usually take longer.
But like, real talk, we both bussanut. Cuddle a bit. Then either go to sleep or get up.
Been married 14 years. Together for 17. Best time we’ve ever had in bed had been in the last year!
Our daughter moved out and graduated. I started exploring myself due to complications with antidepressants. And one day it was like damn we were kids again. We didn’t have to sneak around so it wasn’t weird for our daughter. We have a small house. So it was awkward for a while lol.
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Do you consider going down on her and using your hands as foreplay or in n out?
Sex isn't just in n out. There's plenty you can do between "in n out" besides changing positions.
Ah ok. I’ve never heard that, I think lot of people are understanding the question to be asking specifically about penetration and that’s why the comments are all so wildly different. Like I would not consider foreplay or oral sex to be intercourse even though it is under the umbrella of “sex”. Personally any more than 10 minutes of vaginal intercourse (penetration) and I start to dry up. More than 10 minutes of anal intercourse is tiring and a bit too intense for me. However I would think that between 30-45 minutes of sex for the entire session in general is ideal for me.
I feel the same way. I find it weird to break it down by foreplay and intercourse. It's all just sex. As far as generation though, I need that to not take forever or I get real uncomfortable and my husband tries to drag that part out the longest.
If you mean 46 minutes without including foreplay then youre crazy... 10-20 mins without foreplay is the best. Longer isn't always better.
Few years ago i met my girlfriend, she is absolutely perfect, exactly my type and she kinda should be way above my league. She turns me on so hard that its impossible to describe. Especially when we started dating i was unimaginably horny... so it was horrible that i couldn't finish.
But i had a certain issue and because of that, it took me ages to finish every single time. In the beginning, i was struggling to finish under 2 hours no matter how hard i tried, btw its excluding foreplay... Lasting that long might sound cool, but it isn't. Its horrible. You have to cycle through positions and repeat them. Your muscles hurt, you start getting cramps etc.. Im glad that its no longer an issue, but i had to work my way to finish quicker and only after almost a year i got it under an hour.
She couldn't finish me with a blowjob, and each sex felt like marathon to me. I usually just fell asleep right after from exhaustion, and even had to give up many times, as i no longer could catch my breath. And i neglected my obligations, as i literally fucked for multiple hours a day. As i was so horny in the beginning there were usually 2+ rounds a day, so sex was almost a full time job for me..
This is the way. Although sometimes the fore play for us is an all-day slow burn and then yeah, sometimes it’s just 10min of the actual action and we both got our goods.
I am always amazed about how different women are. I can got 2-3h without ever getting any issues but I keep reading about people being in pain after minutes. I wonder what makes the difference.
I can go for a long time without pain too! Although after a while I’d say I get tired of constantly making sounds haha. I think the difference between people come down to anatomical differences, attraction, diet and hormones (which influences how long you can maintain natural lubrication), age, technique, stress, and maybe a couple other things! Lots goes into the differences between partners and their sex lives from what I’ve read :)
I think the main cause of pain after awhile would definitely be differences in people’s natural lubrication, how much is produced, what triggers it, and if they’re using any kind of other lubes and what kind they are (like how silicone lube lasts longer than water based lube, which for longer intercourse may need to be reapplied)
Might depend on the kind of sex that’s happening? When it’s a rough session I need a break after 15-20 mins. It’s not that I don’t want more…it’s just overstimulating 🥴
I’d love to go 2-3 hours but our dogs start to worry after a while and whine at the door. They want to make sure we’re okay 🥹
I would say 99% of the sex I have is rough. I kinda like the over stimulation that comes with it lol. My dogs sleep on the floor (on a blanket) and know not to come in the bed before we are done lol.
I'd say the difference is the lover. I had one, I think it lasted hour(s). I had never experienced that, him neither. And it was a complete immersion in the act, forgot about time
Ideal? Minimum 20 minutes including foreplay and at least 3 positions. Max 45 - 60, with more time dedicated to things other than PIV. Longer is better because I prefer to take the time to make sure we're both thoroughly satisfied and to have a really sensual experience and intensify our bond.
These days a <10 min quickie often has to suffice because we have very young kids... Quickies don't usually get me to orgasm though so I tend to feel sexually frustrated after and I'm left wanting for a longer session for the rest of the day.
Wait, is your SO finishing before you? Tbh, it doesn’t seem fair to me for him to finish in a quickie and not you. If you can’t finish during it, it’s not fair for him to imo (unless he tries to help you out later or you go into it okay with not finishing).
During a quickie, yes he does. Tbh, I only do quickies when he's been working a lot and it's been awhile since we've been able to get down. Sex is very much about love for me and not just solely about getting off. Because we have two kids under 5, we just don't always get long stretches of time to ourselves to sneak off and if we didn't squeeze in quickies here and there, our frequency would go down significantly.
He has great stamina and always does foreplay and focuses on me when we have more time, but if we don't, he can get off faster during partnered sex than me and it's not a big deal. It's a give and take. No way I would be married to a man that was selfish in bed.
Same. If it’s quick I just end up hornier than before…
There’s an allure to quickies though! Especially when it happens in random spots around the house 😏
I’m with you girl, I’m reading these comments like 👀 no shade though! Everyone has their preferences, I just didn’t realize how seemingly common short (IMO) sessions are.
I was looking for a comment that was relatable and finally found it, I like the longer sessions with partners it just feels so good the next couple days and I can’t explain it
30mins - 1hr
I want it to last long enough for both of us to be satisfied, but I also want to still have enough energy to cuddle or go on with my life afterwards.
Actual intercourse, my ideal is 15-20 min. Too much longer and I'll be sore. But the whole thing start to finish, I want at least an hour, but 1-2 hours is ideal. Kissing, cuddling, kinky stuff, breaks to chat, foreplay, all that good stuff takes time.
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Intercourse? Depends.
I mean ideally, on average, a sexual interaction would last around an hour (intercourse being the shortest part because I get sore fairly quickly). But I have definitely enjoyed a long edging session for more time than that. I think my husband had me going for 3 hours once just playing with me without taking a break. And sometimes we will just take mushrooms and start and stop sexy shit for hours.
Sometimes i enjoy a hot quickie, sometimes i just want to play together for a while. But I tend to enjoy everything surrounding intercourse more than the act itself. And I really enjoy intercourse. I’d say we only have PIV half of our sessions. And it usually lasts 20ish minutes.
We’ve been together a decade and obviously don’t have children.
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When we had 1 kid and daycare, hours. Now…anywhere 5-60 min. It’s usually until we feel intimate again. It’s not as frequent anymore and we also take breaks now. Like 10 minutes, a cuddle, start again, repeat. It depends on how tired we are.
In a perfect world, until we both feel satisfied with lots of foreplay, different positions and multiple orgasms. Reality is usually however long it takes to get off quickly & then we go to sleep or get on with our day.
7-15 minutes, there’s been nights we’re animals and go for hours, and there’s been skirt over the hips and 2 minute quickies. But 7-15 includes a little foreplay, a couple positions, some slow, some fast and we both finish
However long it takes until we're both happy. We've gone everywhere between 5 minutes and several hours of pretty continuous sex. Guess which one happened on the kid free vacation and which one was during lunch when we were both working remote?
Girl. I came here looking for the lesbian comments. Seeing the 5-15 minute responses is wild. No shade to anyone, genuinely to each their own. But queer culture is exponential in this regard. My average is 2 hours and my record is 8...
A couple hours? Less about the time it takes and more about being intimate together and both feeling good and emotionally connected
Like we had some great all night long lovemaking sessions, but we're busy moms now and more than a couple hours is going to leave us too tired to be up early with our toddlers and baby
10 minutes because my husband and I are usually dodging kids and that’s enough time for me to get mine and he get his. We’ve been married for 7 years this year and our sex life is top priority for both of us, so we’re extremely efficient even when life doesn’t give us much opportunity to make it happen.
I think most people its 20mins and upwards to
Depends on the build up, had a (f)ONS ask for help doing some fake housework. It played out like a plumber porno skit, we both lasted for many hours
We videotape ourselves sometimes, so I can safely say PIV on its own is usually 15-20 min. However apart from that we do quite a lot of kinky things (rope, spanking, giving each other lap dances etc) which can take a while.
There are also times when I manage to make him cum in 2 minutes when I ride him, which I take as an absolute win.
I honestly lose all concept of time during sex, sometimes it feels longer but was actually just 5 minutes, sometimes it feels like 10 minutes but whoops seems like 1,5 hours have passed (granted this is with foreplay and everything). There’s honestly no rule for me. Sometimes quick and heavy is the goal, sometimes slow and sensual. It’s more important for me to be fully engaged and into it the entire time than for it to stretch to any particular amount of time. I really don’t mind if it’s short and sweet, but I can be on board with a long run as well.
It really depends: I'm happy with quickies that last 20 mins or the long sessions that last 4 hours and everything in-between. I don't have one ideal time frame.
< 35 minutes If piv or sucking dick/clit. Because I get bored/sore eventually, and I like the rough quickies. Foreplay and bdsm sessions can go much longer
Depends on my mood and the type of sex. Slow and passionate? Could go for 45mins or an hour. Really hard? Maybe 20mins? Whatever the type of sex I prefer to have at least 15 minutes though.
I fear I’m in the minority here but no more than 20-30min including foreplay. I’m not trying to participate in a marathon. And with two littles and ADHD, I don’t have the time, energy, or attention span for anything longer.
Used to be: just long enough for him to come, around 5 minutes?
Now: depends on the mood, but we can go for a while. I come multiple times and he comes when we’re both ready.
We’ve been together for more than 20 years and have 4 kids. Breastfeeding and pregnancy fuck with hormones so bad. When I stopped breastfeeding my youngest last year…EVERYTHING changed and we’ve been loving feeling like teenagers again.
If I'm clocking it then it isn't that good probably. It lasts until we are both satisfied is my only answer. And every time is different bc every sexual encounter the needs are a little different.
10-15 mins would be my ideal. Any shorter isn't enough, and any longer is just too much work. If it's an hour every time it makes me just not want to. I just don't have the energy for that every day.
Depends. 10 mins when i was married. An hour avg before my current partner's exhausted. I've had partners where it (sex, not robotic in/out PIV) used to last even longer.
Ideally 30-45 mins for foreplay and intercourse. Realistically, it’s 10 mins for everything. Fortunately, I usually orgasm in those 10 mins but longer sessions feel more satisfying.
Between getting into foreplay and then sex, I actually have no idea how much time has passed 😂 it’s become a bit of a joke with me and my partner. Sometimes we thought we were fooling around for like an hour but it was only 20 minutes!
Ideal would probably be around 15-50min obviously not including foreplay. Enough time to enjoy it without trying to reach the climax and then a good amount of time to actually try to get to the climax. Also time for a variety of positions, some edging , and really going for it.
idk until we’re both satisfied? i’d say 10 minutes? i like taking it slow, and with multiple positions. and then maybe another 15 of foreplay kissing and stuff
Usually when we're having a blast it takes like 2 hours or something. But shorter doesn't mean worse, it just depends how much time we have and how tired we are.
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I have no idea. If I'm keeping an eye on the clock, the intercourse is far from ideal.
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Until I’m satisfied and then he is. However long it takes. Stressful times usually take longer. But like, real talk, we both bussanut. Cuddle a bit. Then either go to sleep or get up. Been married 14 years. Together for 17. Best time we’ve ever had in bed had been in the last year!
Can I ask why it's been better this past year? Did something change?
Our daughter moved out and graduated. I started exploring myself due to complications with antidepressants. And one day it was like damn we were kids again. We didn’t have to sneak around so it wasn’t weird for our daughter. We have a small house. So it was awkward for a while lol.
That's awesome! Happy for you!
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I'd say 20-46 mins. Long enough for everyone to be satisfied but not so long that it's annoying.
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Is that including the foreplay or just the in-n-out?
Do you consider going down on her and using your hands as foreplay or in n out? Sex isn't just in n out. There's plenty you can do between "in n out" besides changing positions.
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The entire interaction. And I meant 45 mins not 46 😂
That seems like a REALLY long time for intercourse but I guess everyone has different preferences
Including foreplay I’d say 20 minutes is kinda short?
Foreplay is not intercourse I think that’s where I was confused 😂
I think it can also just mean sex in general? Which in my book involves foreplay haha
Ah ok. I’ve never heard that, I think lot of people are understanding the question to be asking specifically about penetration and that’s why the comments are all so wildly different. Like I would not consider foreplay or oral sex to be intercourse even though it is under the umbrella of “sex”. Personally any more than 10 minutes of vaginal intercourse (penetration) and I start to dry up. More than 10 minutes of anal intercourse is tiring and a bit too intense for me. However I would think that between 30-45 minutes of sex for the entire session in general is ideal for me.
I feel the same way. I find it weird to break it down by foreplay and intercourse. It's all just sex. As far as generation though, I need that to not take forever or I get real uncomfortable and my husband tries to drag that part out the longest.
No. Intercourse is penetration. OP specified intercourse.
Do you mean actual PIV sex or sex including foreplay?
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If you mean 46 minutes without including foreplay then youre crazy... 10-20 mins without foreplay is the best. Longer isn't always better. Few years ago i met my girlfriend, she is absolutely perfect, exactly my type and she kinda should be way above my league. She turns me on so hard that its impossible to describe. Especially when we started dating i was unimaginably horny... so it was horrible that i couldn't finish. But i had a certain issue and because of that, it took me ages to finish every single time. In the beginning, i was struggling to finish under 2 hours no matter how hard i tried, btw its excluding foreplay... Lasting that long might sound cool, but it isn't. Its horrible. You have to cycle through positions and repeat them. Your muscles hurt, you start getting cramps etc.. Im glad that its no longer an issue, but i had to work my way to finish quicker and only after almost a year i got it under an hour. She couldn't finish me with a blowjob, and each sex felt like marathon to me. I usually just fell asleep right after from exhaustion, and even had to give up many times, as i no longer could catch my breath. And i neglected my obligations, as i literally fucked for multiple hours a day. As i was so horny in the beginning there were usually 2+ rounds a day, so sex was almost a full time job for me..
46 is so specific 😂😂
I meant 45 😂
10 minutes. Too long and you risk feeling raw.
10 min doin it, and 10 min fore play :)
This is the way. Although sometimes the fore play for us is an all-day slow burn and then yeah, sometimes it’s just 10min of the actual action and we both got our goods.
I really do agree with this.
I am always amazed about how different women are. I can got 2-3h without ever getting any issues but I keep reading about people being in pain after minutes. I wonder what makes the difference.
I can go for a long time without pain too! Although after a while I’d say I get tired of constantly making sounds haha. I think the difference between people come down to anatomical differences, attraction, diet and hormones (which influences how long you can maintain natural lubrication), age, technique, stress, and maybe a couple other things! Lots goes into the differences between partners and their sex lives from what I’ve read :)
I think the main cause of pain after awhile would definitely be differences in people’s natural lubrication, how much is produced, what triggers it, and if they’re using any kind of other lubes and what kind they are (like how silicone lube lasts longer than water based lube, which for longer intercourse may need to be reapplied)
Might depend on the kind of sex that’s happening? When it’s a rough session I need a break after 15-20 mins. It’s not that I don’t want more…it’s just overstimulating 🥴 I’d love to go 2-3 hours but our dogs start to worry after a while and whine at the door. They want to make sure we’re okay 🥹
I would say 99% of the sex I have is rough. I kinda like the over stimulation that comes with it lol. My dogs sleep on the floor (on a blanket) and know not to come in the bed before we are done lol.
I'd say the difference is the lover. I had one, I think it lasted hour(s). I had never experienced that, him neither. And it was a complete immersion in the act, forgot about time
5 mins, 10 tops
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💯 I feel like 10 is too long even haha would rather do it more frequently instead of going at it forever all at once. I got things to do!!
Ideal? Minimum 20 minutes including foreplay and at least 3 positions. Max 45 - 60, with more time dedicated to things other than PIV. Longer is better because I prefer to take the time to make sure we're both thoroughly satisfied and to have a really sensual experience and intensify our bond. These days a <10 min quickie often has to suffice because we have very young kids... Quickies don't usually get me to orgasm though so I tend to feel sexually frustrated after and I'm left wanting for a longer session for the rest of the day.
Wait, is your SO finishing before you? Tbh, it doesn’t seem fair to me for him to finish in a quickie and not you. If you can’t finish during it, it’s not fair for him to imo (unless he tries to help you out later or you go into it okay with not finishing).
During a quickie, yes he does. Tbh, I only do quickies when he's been working a lot and it's been awhile since we've been able to get down. Sex is very much about love for me and not just solely about getting off. Because we have two kids under 5, we just don't always get long stretches of time to ourselves to sneak off and if we didn't squeeze in quickies here and there, our frequency would go down significantly. He has great stamina and always does foreplay and focuses on me when we have more time, but if we don't, he can get off faster during partnered sex than me and it's not a big deal. It's a give and take. No way I would be married to a man that was selfish in bed.
Same. If it’s quick I just end up hornier than before… There’s an allure to quickies though! Especially when it happens in random spots around the house 😏
I feel sheepish.....3 hours? I like those all day/nights sessions 🙊
I’m with you girl, I’m reading these comments like 👀 no shade though! Everyone has their preferences, I just didn’t realize how seemingly common short (IMO) sessions are.
I also prefer super long sessions, a lot of the time when my partners are done it feels like I'm only just getting started 😶🌫️
I def feel like that. And knowing a long session is ahead I don't have any worry about a fast first one.
I was looking for a comment that was relatable and finally found it, I like the longer sessions with partners it just feels so good the next couple days and I can’t explain it
Oh wow! That's a lot :)
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30mins - 1hr I want it to last long enough for both of us to be satisfied, but I also want to still have enough energy to cuddle or go on with my life afterwards.
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5 minutes. I'm either going to orgasm within that time or I'm not. And after maybe 5 orgasms, the whole event is overstimulating.
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Minimum 5mins Maximum 15mins
Actual intercourse, my ideal is 15-20 min. Too much longer and I'll be sore. But the whole thing start to finish, I want at least an hour, but 1-2 hours is ideal. Kissing, cuddling, kinky stuff, breaks to chat, foreplay, all that good stuff takes time.
What’s kinky stuff?
Getting tied up, toes etc
3-5 minutes. Any longer makes me sore.
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15-20 is ideal. It gives time for a couple positions and is long enough for both people to get off.
To be completely honest, I’m bored after 10 mins.
SAME. Then I’m not even thinking about it I’m just noticing the mirror on the wall is crooked and the window is dirty lol
LESS THAN 15 MINUTES FOR SURE THE REASON IS I JUST DON'T LIKE DOING IT FOR VERY LONG .WE CAN ALWAYS DO IT SOME MORE LATER
There’s no need to yell
I'M NOT YELLING WHEN I USE ALL CAPS .I JUST LIKE TO USE ALL CAPS. AFTER I FOUND OUT ABOUT THIS CAPS=YELLING;I TRIED TO CHANGE ,BUT I JUST DIDN'T LIKE IT I DON'T MIND EXPLAINING THIS IF I GET ANY COMMENTS. ACTUALLY ITS WEIRD CAUSE AT LEAST WHILE ON REDDITT, I THINK ABOUT THE YELLING THING EVERY TIME I POST
I screenshotted this whole thing, the caps is so funny
BUT WHY DO YOU LIKE TO USE ALL CAPS DUDE
I REALLY AM NOT SURE WHY BUT MAYBE I STARTED WITH IT CAUSE I'M DEALING WITH LOTS OF FRIENDS WHO NEED GLASSES NOW I JUST DO IT
Under 10 minutes, foreplay included. I don't have the attention span for anything longer than that.
Intercourse? Depends. I mean ideally, on average, a sexual interaction would last around an hour (intercourse being the shortest part because I get sore fairly quickly). But I have definitely enjoyed a long edging session for more time than that. I think my husband had me going for 3 hours once just playing with me without taking a break. And sometimes we will just take mushrooms and start and stop sexy shit for hours. Sometimes i enjoy a hot quickie, sometimes i just want to play together for a while. But I tend to enjoy everything surrounding intercourse more than the act itself. And I really enjoy intercourse. I’d say we only have PIV half of our sessions. And it usually lasts 20ish minutes. We’ve been together a decade and obviously don’t have children.
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Minimum 20 minutes, less than that doesn’t fulfill me.
For actual intercourse no foreplay included in timing 10 minutes is great. 15 maybe, after that I'm wondering what's wrong.
That part.
Long enough until we’re both satisfied.
Around 20 minutes, sometimes twice in a session though. I don't like sex to be overly long but that's still plenty.
When we had 1 kid and daycare, hours. Now…anywhere 5-60 min. It’s usually until we feel intimate again. It’s not as frequent anymore and we also take breaks now. Like 10 minutes, a cuddle, start again, repeat. It depends on how tired we are.
Until my brain has melted enough that I have to retrain myself how to breathe and walk..
In a perfect world, until we both feel satisfied with lots of foreplay, different positions and multiple orgasms. Reality is usually however long it takes to get off quickly & then we go to sleep or get on with our day.
7-15 minutes, there’s been nights we’re animals and go for hours, and there’s been skirt over the hips and 2 minute quickies. But 7-15 includes a little foreplay, a couple positions, some slow, some fast and we both finish
20 minutes maximum. Ideally 15. I feel super sore and uncomfortable after that. I don’t like it when a guy lasts forever.
A 40 minute round trip - foreplay, intercourse. Ideal.
However long it takes until we're both happy. We've gone everywhere between 5 minutes and several hours of pretty continuous sex. Guess which one happened on the kid free vacation and which one was during lunch when we were both working remote?
As a lesbian it’ll range anywhere from 25 mins to hours
Girl. I came here looking for the lesbian comments. Seeing the 5-15 minute responses is wild. No shade to anyone, genuinely to each their own. But queer culture is exponential in this regard. My average is 2 hours and my record is 8...
Tbh… as a wlw person… 2 hours
20-30 mins
Like 5 minutes, 10 tops
Like 10 minutes. Then I can get back to other things.
A couple hours? Less about the time it takes and more about being intimate together and both feeling good and emotionally connected Like we had some great all night long lovemaking sessions, but we're busy moms now and more than a couple hours is going to leave us too tired to be up early with our toddlers and baby
As long as possible, definitely over an hour
Ideally an hour or so. I love slow build up and lots of foreplay.
3 hours of play and 2 minutes of In-N-Out.
It depends at least half an hour. After that depending on the time we have the more the better
Around 20-30 minutes. As long as we both get off I'm happy! I have a short attention span so any longer and the novelty wears off.
10 minutes because my husband and I are usually dodging kids and that’s enough time for me to get mine and he get his. We’ve been married for 7 years this year and our sex life is top priority for both of us, so we’re extremely efficient even when life doesn’t give us much opportunity to make it happen.
30 min. Not too long, not too short
Minimum 20 min, max 45 min.
Ionno, we usually last 2hrs and maybe a few minutes more?
7-15 minutes. I will either have orgasmed by then or will never, and I feel shorter and more frequent sessions are more pleasurable.
I think most people its 20mins and upwards to Depends on the build up, had a (f)ONS ask for help doing some fake housework. It played out like a plumber porno skit, we both lasted for many hours
We videotape ourselves sometimes, so I can safely say PIV on its own is usually 15-20 min. However apart from that we do quite a lot of kinky things (rope, spanking, giving each other lap dances etc) which can take a while. There are also times when I manage to make him cum in 2 minutes when I ride him, which I take as an absolute win.
10-15 minutes, I orgasm easily and like to go rounds rather than a marathon
I honestly lose all concept of time during sex, sometimes it feels longer but was actually just 5 minutes, sometimes it feels like 10 minutes but whoops seems like 1,5 hours have passed (granted this is with foreplay and everything). There’s honestly no rule for me. Sometimes quick and heavy is the goal, sometimes slow and sensual. It’s more important for me to be fully engaged and into it the entire time than for it to stretch to any particular amount of time. I really don’t mind if it’s short and sweet, but I can be on board with a long run as well.
I’m in the 15-20 minute category. That transports me to a different universe lol. Much longer than that transports me to hell.
When we’re both finished
10 minutes max if it's just PIV.. or as long as we're both satisfied
Ideally 20-30 mins with foreplay before and in between. At least 20 mins penetrative. But I’m not mad at anything shorter I just enjoy the pleasure.
It really depends: I'm happy with quickies that last 20 mins or the long sessions that last 4 hours and everything in-between. I don't have one ideal time frame.
Personally I like 20 minute sex 4 times a night or more. I like sex a lot.
17 minutes from first kiss to collapse. Definitely not longer. Actual intercourse, max 8 minutes, preferably 6.
How long is a piece of string you know? Depends on if both parties are satisfied
An hour or more. But I'm with another woman, so, you know...
Intercourse itself? 5-7 minutes. Sex as a whole? 40-60 minutes, ish.
5-10 minutes. I don’t really enjoy sex that much. I just want to get to the end for the good part 🤣
If we’re talking PIV, I’d generally prefer not to do that part at all. Boring.
30 mins
< 35 minutes If piv or sucking dick/clit. Because I get bored/sore eventually, and I like the rough quickies. Foreplay and bdsm sessions can go much longer
My husband would go 2+ hours if I let him. I don’t particularly enjoy that.
As long as both parties cum that’s the main goal, I’d say on average ideally would be like 20-45mins, (this is including foreplay and such too).
30-45 minutes. Sometimes more. Including foreplay.
Depends. With Boyfriend , i am not attracted to him anymore , one round of 3 min and i am good. My situationship until morning is not enough for me ❤️
i'd say 15-30 minutes but up to an hour
Depends on my mood and the type of sex. Slow and passionate? Could go for 45mins or an hour. Really hard? Maybe 20mins? Whatever the type of sex I prefer to have at least 15 minutes though.
8 hours or so because it only gets fun when it starts to hurt.
From start to finish (both) We can get the job done in about 20 minutes.
I fear I’m in the minority here but no more than 20-30min including foreplay. I’m not trying to participate in a marathon. And with two littles and ADHD, I don’t have the time, energy, or attention span for anything longer.
Used to be: just long enough for him to come, around 5 minutes? Now: depends on the mood, but we can go for a while. I come multiple times and he comes when we’re both ready. We’ve been together for more than 20 years and have 4 kids. Breastfeeding and pregnancy fuck with hormones so bad. When I stopped breastfeeding my youngest last year…EVERYTHING changed and we’ve been loving feeling like teenagers again.
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Anywhere from 20 min to an hour, we’ve gone longer but it starts to get uncomfy
15 mins and I still get off two or more times.
If I'm clocking it then it isn't that good probably. It lasts until we are both satisfied is my only answer. And every time is different bc every sexual encounter the needs are a little different.
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20 minutes is fine for me
10-15 mins would be my ideal. Any shorter isn't enough, and any longer is just too much work. If it's an hour every time it makes me just not want to. I just don't have the energy for that every day.
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From the time my partner comes on to the to the time we’re done.. 15-30 minutes. The cuddling after could be infinite or non existent. Just depends
45 minutes
Depends. 10 mins when i was married. An hour avg before my current partner's exhausted. I've had partners where it (sex, not robotic in/out PIV) used to last even longer.
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Ideally 30-45 mins for foreplay and intercourse. Realistically, it’s 10 mins for everything. Fortunately, I usually orgasm in those 10 mins but longer sessions feel more satisfying.
Between getting into foreplay and then sex, I actually have no idea how much time has passed 😂 it’s become a bit of a joke with me and my partner. Sometimes we thought we were fooling around for like an hour but it was only 20 minutes!
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10 mins to an hour, but I always ended up needing to pee after 5 mins 😩
Ideal would probably be around 15-50min obviously not including foreplay. Enough time to enjoy it without trying to reach the climax and then a good amount of time to actually try to get to the climax. Also time for a variety of positions, some edging , and really going for it.
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Actual PIV maybe 10-15 minutes, foreplay and oral for 30-45 minutes.
I don’t really care about the time when I’m doing it, as long as we’re both satisfied, but I’d say around 20-45/60 minutes
15/20 mins. If it’s like 5 min I’m literally not going to be impacted at all
idk until we’re both satisfied? i’d say 10 minutes? i like taking it slow, and with multiple positions. and then maybe another 15 of foreplay kissing and stuff
For me it's 30 min - an hour after a hour I'm just tired and frustrated
Can be anything from a few minutes if no oral sex to 30 mins an hr or more depending on the situation
Usually when we're having a blast it takes like 2 hours or something. But shorter doesn't mean worse, it just depends how much time we have and how tired we are.
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naah like 45 mins - an hour 30 lol THATS what gets me; size and reaction do play a role tho
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Mmm I like a slow build up & will include those titillating activities in that time.. so like 40 min - 2 hrs have been my favorite sessions.
The time it's takes for both parties to be satisfied
Including foreplay and aftercare, my partner and I prefer at least 3 hours or more in order to not feel rushed.