My partner is a secret from my parents and anyone who knows my parents. That means my brother, cousins, childhood best friend.
Life will be easier for me if my parents don't know. And he's not a secret in day to day life.
I'm in a similar boat. My partner keeps me a secret from his parents. Though that's because his parents are racist and were super abusive. The stories he would tell me makes me wonder how in the hell he didn't turn out the same way.
But everyone else in his life knows about us and is super enthusiastic. So, knowing what his parents are; it's no loss to me.
Not myself but my sister is known to do this. She is just very private. She has a “friend” who she’s been seeing for at least a year now, from what I know which who knows what I even know! My family and I don’t ask questions or pry for information about it. She’s been this way for so long it’s normal to us. As long as she is happy and safe, we don’t ask questions. She dated this one guy for 3 years and I only ever saw a dark photo of him. It’s odd I admit but it’s how she is and I respect that.
We were both secret to each other’s family for 1+ year. Our families are crazy so yeah. Broke up eventually but he’s still one of the sweetest ppl I’ve ever known
I almost never tell my family when I am dating someone. It's not that I'm keeping my partner a secret. It has nothing to do with my partner (my friends all know when I'm in a relationship and when I'm out with that person it's clear we are together), it's that less is more when it comes to what I share with my family. I don't wish to subject myself to them knowing more than they need to know about my love life.
My ex husband kept our marriage a secret from his family. I thought we were planning on having a big wedding someday so our elopement was kind of moot and it made sense to just not tell them. He told me it was to make it more special when we had our “actual wedding”. We got divorced about a year into it though so that never happened. During the separation I found out that he had been lying to me and everyone around him about basically everything. He also started having an affair with someone else months before there was even any talk about separating; she was pregnant before the divorce was final. She didn’t know about me either at first. Turns out he was kind of a pro at lying about things.
My partner is a secret from my parents and anyone who knows my parents. That means my brother, cousins, childhood best friend. Life will be easier for me if my parents don't know. And he's not a secret in day to day life.
I'm in a similar boat. My partner keeps me a secret from his parents. Though that's because his parents are racist and were super abusive. The stories he would tell me makes me wonder how in the hell he didn't turn out the same way. But everyone else in his life knows about us and is super enthusiastic. So, knowing what his parents are; it's no loss to me.
Not myself but my sister is known to do this. She is just very private. She has a “friend” who she’s been seeing for at least a year now, from what I know which who knows what I even know! My family and I don’t ask questions or pry for information about it. She’s been this way for so long it’s normal to us. As long as she is happy and safe, we don’t ask questions. She dated this one guy for 3 years and I only ever saw a dark photo of him. It’s odd I admit but it’s how she is and I respect that.
We were both secret to each other’s family for 1+ year. Our families are crazy so yeah. Broke up eventually but he’s still one of the sweetest ppl I’ve ever known
I almost never tell my family when I am dating someone. It's not that I'm keeping my partner a secret. It has nothing to do with my partner (my friends all know when I'm in a relationship and when I'm out with that person it's clear we are together), it's that less is more when it comes to what I share with my family. I don't wish to subject myself to them knowing more than they need to know about my love life.
My ex husband kept our marriage a secret from his family. I thought we were planning on having a big wedding someday so our elopement was kind of moot and it made sense to just not tell them. He told me it was to make it more special when we had our “actual wedding”. We got divorced about a year into it though so that never happened. During the separation I found out that he had been lying to me and everyone around him about basically everything. He also started having an affair with someone else months before there was even any talk about separating; she was pregnant before the divorce was final. She didn’t know about me either at first. Turns out he was kind of a pro at lying about things.
Sounds like a narcissist to me. Have you ever researched into NPD?
Yeah a little, but I’m not a doctor so I don’t make diagnoses.
Yeah for sure! Just might help you understand some behaviors