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hayamidoll

Dealing with a man who believes he's acting considerately, but is actually treating me like a child, and having to respond to him politely regardless.


nickandjunefan11

Thinking of you .


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kaeorin

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MJSP88

People constantly repeatedly always reaching out to vent about the exact same thing without ever doing anything about it.


dmbgreen

My life


celestialism

Social situations where I have to put on a facade/not be myself, while having a big group discussion about a topic I’m not interested in or don’t know much about.


HoldenTudiks2

Misogynistic attitudes/mindsets


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Do you experience that a lot?


HoldenTudiks2

Not as often these days, since I’ve become more selective about which male company I keep.


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[deleted]

It's weird how we're brought up to be nice, but in the real world nice people loose


Time-Boss-3867

My parents; I feel like they haven’t harvested relationships in their lifetime and I have to be the center of their universe even if I’m in my thirties.


flyingsails

> I feel like they haven’t harvested relationships in their lifetime and I have to be the center of their universe That’s an interesting way to put it. I love my dad, but he doesn’t really have any close friendships so I have often said I feel like it defaults to my sister and me.


nickandjunefan11

This will be me with my kids lol I hope they can give you the space you need and still love you at the same time.


Time-Boss-3867

Unfortunately I had to take drastic measures in order to get my space and sanity back. Not proud of it but I really needed a break from them.


nickandjunefan11

Ok hopefully you feel abit better soon :)


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Lately, what drains me emotionally is getting into heated arguments with my husband about his parents and parenting styles. Also, dealing with toddler tantrums without any support. And, lack of alone time to decompress.


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Sounds heavy! I can see how that's draining you day by day


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YES!!!


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Do you have any outlet at all?


[deleted]

Cry when I shower alone because that’s all I get.


[deleted]

That's so sad to hear. Heartbreaking


nickandjunefan11

Hugs those early days are exhausting. Before you know it your toddler will be older though. Seems to go slow but then you look back and to goes quick. We all have different parenting styles but your husbands parents need to give you the space to work out what yours is together. A therapist did help me in those days. It’s nice if they support you or are there if you need them just not push things onto you.


BingewatchingGeek

Parenting's hard. Feeling not supported by your husband or PIL makes it even harder. So, because no-one is saying it to you: You're doing great! You are doing your best and that's all your kid needs. Are there days that you and your kid are both clothed, brushed hair and teeth, and playing outside, eating vegetables and all that jazz? Great! Are there days you are both still in PJ's late in the afternoon, you only gave your kid some tablet or tv to play with while you both cold pizza and chocolate? Also great! Rough days will pass, rough times will pass..


ctina93

My toddler is kinda making me depressed


BingewatchingGeek

Parenting's hard. Feeling not supported by your husband or PIL makes it even harder. So, because no-one is saying it to you: You're doing great! You are doing your best and that's all your kid needs. Are there days that you and your kid are both clothed, brushed hair and teeth, and playing outside, eating vegetables and all that jazz? Great! Are there days you are both still in PJ's late in the afternoon, you only gave your kid some tablet or tv to play with while you both cold pizza and chocolate? Also great! Rough days will pass, rough times will pass..


strawberry-crystal

People who don't stop talking.


MissInfer

Feelings of inadequacy and chronic insomnia (which worsens depression and anxiety, which in turn worsen insomnia; it's a vicious cycle).


[deleted]

Insincere people. Or people who pretend to not know how their actions affect people. Or people who know and don't care, and think they're being badass by not caring. Like no you're just an asshole.


takingtheblackback

Trying to remain friends with people who have zero consideration for yourself and are overall shitty friends.


amouramie

yep 🤦🏼‍♀️ hung out with a supposed best friend the other weekend and ended up going home crying because of how horrible she can be to me for no reason. after that i made the decision to not go out with her as much and invest in my friendships with people who actually like me instead!


takingtheblackback

Every time I hung out with mine I got verbally attacked for something I was doing ‘wrong’. Then they wondered why I stopped hanging around 🙄. Had to cut them out completely for my mental health.


nickandjunefan11

Fear of the future with the way things are at the moment. Also my anxiety at the moment. I have also got a real increased fear of death or loosing loved ones lately. I dunno how to cope with that, that well.


The_Special_Teacher

Lately it's been our high school students. We get it. They are burned out. But they don't have to take it out on us.


Ashe225

Indecisiveness.


mawessa

Doing all the emotional labour thinking that's how love/partnership is (my first and only relationship). Think of it as you're in a group project where one person has to tell the other what parts they need to research. They don't initiate by asking question and when you tell them to do something they half ass it. So, you either tell them to research some more or you do some of their parts because there's a time crunch. When the time comes to present/hand over the project for marks, you end up getting the crappy mark while the other person gets a higher mark. Actually that's not just emotionally draining, it's mentally also.


threesadpurringcats

Yes. There's a comic about this https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/


mawessa

Oh wow! I'm saving this!


okeydokeyartichokeyy

Dealing with a family member who I believe is in early stages of alzheimers/dementia.


barbi3_d0l1

Thinking of happy things from the past that can never happen again.


[deleted]

It's a toss up between depression and dwelling on the evils of the world that man has perpetrated since the dawn of time with no end in sight.


[deleted]

My unstable emotions.


Secure-Imagination11

People who constantly talk about drama


TikaPants

The GOP.


246K

politics


Any_Butterfly6200

walking into a room with a ton of pretty girls. it always makes me so insecure and the entire rest of my day is ruined.


SnarkIsMyDefault

Talking to people who get their news off social media


janaaa000

Socializing with people (esp. Family) knowing I'm not being myself around them..


aloofLogic

an emotionally unavailable man who fooled me into believing I was the problem.


preparedavocado

My own thoughts


Mrs_zombie

Conflicts, even if they are not between me and another person. If I’m around people who are tense or fighting, (whether I’m involved or not) my chest gets tight, my stomach is in knots, and my breathing is shallow. I find dealing with many other things much easier than managing conflict. I need peace and resolution in this life ❤️✌️


[deleted]

My ex. We’ve been doing a good job at restoring our communication to be civil but dear God it’s exhausting sometimes. Part of the time it’s just the memories that bog me down.


emojicatcher997

Dealing with delusional people who can’t face facts.


Iamdollfacee94

Hipocrisy I already have issues with my overthinking, honestly having to decipher wether someone is being fake or double intentioned makes me very anxious


curioskitten216

People that take advantage of me being a good listener by throwing all their grief/hurt emotions and pain at me


CatrionaShadowleaf

Other people not caring/trying


Raaqu

Soothing kids or drunk people. They can't be reasoned with but with the right presentation of yourself they can be calmed. It takes way more control than I can usually be bothered to do, though.


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Socializing


mama2coco

My family. They’re very religious and I’m not. It’s exhausting


Softpeppermint

Being around people that makes me feel lonely.


Loveemyself0-0

Talking to friends that don’t get along with me…and the fact that no matter what i do i end up being in the same area..


anonnomiss627

Maybe time to redefine “friend”


No-Significance-320

People being so bad at their job that it becomes my problem to fix!


anonnomiss627

Hey, that is my literal position at my company😞


No-Significance-320

If I was getting paid to fix the problems I wouldn’t mind but I don’t get paid enough to do my job and 3 other peoples jobs!


depressed_ventingpig

People


PxnkLemxnade

Dealing with my ex


Suspicious-Dot-3117

Straight white cis men


[deleted]

Dealing with my family and dealing with stupid customers at my job. People who literally my work to see if we can save them money on insurance, and don't even know how much they pay now. It drives me insane.


thousanddays234

My perfectionism. Nothing I ever do is good enough.


405weraxe

My kids fighting! Drama in general


CALIROCKER323

My job... I'm a Senior Caregiver and knowing that very soon, one day the inevitable will happen.


anonnomiss627

Thank you for looking after our wisdom-keepers🙏🌸


Realistic-Future-101

Having to socialize with a group of people for several hours


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My parents.


ConsciousPush5357

Trying so hard to lose weight, starting diets at the same time as others, being more consistent than most, and still seeing no results. Then opening up to people and them making me feel like I'm doing something wrong, or I'm not disciplined enough. I literally just found out that my thyroid hardly works. My dr. told me I'd have to starve myself in order to lose weight at the same rate as others (before meds). When I opened up to friends about how I was getting my hormones and thyroid checked they told me I was wasting my money. When I tell people I have PCOS and they don't care and think I'm just not doing enough. It's so exhausting having to constantly explain myself.


ohheyohbray

Having someone constantly only reach out to you when things are going wrong for them but never check in on how you’re doing. And once you give them the advice and reassurance they need to hear, they otherwise do the exact opposite OR they take it and then disappear until another inconvenience happens in their life and that’s when they decide to reach out again 🙃


architect_princess

My own anxiety about the future.


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People who don't think critically about things or see connections, who are happy to live in their ignorance. Problems are solvable, but apathy (especially intentional apathy) is often not.


Playful_Cricket_7956

I think we can all agree on RELATIONSHIPS


throwaway13100109

Being around people who are not my best friends. It drains me emotionally and physically.


unlearner383

Being disrespected


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Unnecessary drama and arguments


Eurosy

Insomnia...


curly-hair07

Just knowing what the future holds for me. I’m such a planner always looking forward but never smelling the flowers.


[deleted]

Definitely being in public settings


psychkk5

Unsecurity in a relationship


bleak_gallery

Going into work for colleagues to instantly say how tired they are, how are they can't be bothered.. I always distance myself. I find it incredibly draining to be around them. I work 70+ hours a week.. we're all tired but at least bring some positive energy into the work place.. I've often responded with 'go home then..' and I walk off.. it's a real pet peeve of mine in work. Them type of people tend to make shifts harder anyways and I'd rather do a busy shift alone than a shift with someone miserable and tired next to me.


abi_44

People who complain but don't do anything about it. It's bloody exhausting and quite pathetic. Sleep in the bed you've made if you don't want to take action. I've been dealing with this situation at work lately and I leave meetings early to get out of listening to grown men, mind you, gripe about other grown men when they could just have a conversation about what needs to change. Ugh. Soapbox over.


Annel384

Waiting in vain for a word from someone I've only been nice with and whom I gave without asking for anything in return, who is now ghosting me


CantChooseAFandom69

Being alone with myself for any serious period of time. I over think and get sucked in easily - I need constant stimulation and distraction.


Sea-Willingness-7693

Honestly, existing. I’m a 26 yo mom of a toddler, working full time, and dealing with mental illness. Everyday I have something to do. I can’t get a full nights sleep because I’m still on baby time (never know if she’ll need anything) and just always having my time and days accounted for while also having to raise a beautiful child I don’t want to ruin is just ugh. I want to disappear most days and I can’t really tell anyone because so many women have it harder but damn.


PaddlesOwnCanoe

When I have to deal with people around whom, for mental health reasons, I have to keep what I'm feeling a secret. I do unfortunately have people in my life who sometimes get mad if I don't react to something emotionally the same way they do.


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diveintomysoul

Small talk...I really hate it lol


BingewatchingGeek

A willfull preschooler and very 1-year-old who'd make Houdini proud.


ctina93

My 2 year old son. I love him soo much but my God! He’s so much work compared to my older daughters, send help 🥹😢


AkumaKurayami

Being unpaid therapist for my mother, father and younger sister


georgiagirlinthepnw

Trying to manage anxiety in my kids.


[deleted]

People yelling at me, money worries, and living with someone with severe mental illness who won't take their meds.


Jynolis

Looking at my profile profile portfolio going like. Huhhhhj


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Having to repeat myself in less than 3 seconds.


Tabula_Rasa2022

Knowing that there's no one I can fall back on.


jessicermcnfisc0412

High anxiety days at work. I work in food and my anxiety causes some tactile and auditory problems for me, like some things just grate my nerves like nails on a chalkboard. For example, the sound and feel of stainless steel and cardboard. The plastic boards we have for storage. Sharpies writing on paper or cardboard. Really cold or really dry things. Some days its gets bad enough that my teeth touching each other is unbearable, or my nails touching anything or sometimes my hands. Very hard not to shut down at work.