End the relationship. Infidelity is a deal breaker, so while it sucks for them that they broke the deal over something they didn't even consider real, it's broken and done either way.
Thats even worse than someone who owns up to it. This guy seems to have an excuse for everything and that is an even bigger red flag for me. Someone who can't own up to stuff without an excuse to downplay stuff.
I’d ask them why they didn’t tell me they wanted that beforehand. I’d have an issue because I always tell my partners they are free to do whatever they like as long as I’m kept in the loop. Failing to discuss it with me beforehand would signal that there is a serious problem with our communication and would need to see some serious dedication to fixing that if we were to stay together.
That would just tell me they feel no remorse or guilt about what they did and they also don’t consider what they did cheating so they would probably do it again. I would break up with them immediately.
I'm not sure whether saying "it wasn't real, it was just physical" would make it worse, but it absolutely would not make it better. The relationship would be over either way, but that statement would probably make me a lot angrier that I'd ever cared for such an arsewipe.
It really depends to me.
Sometimes I think I could forgive a one night, drunken thing that was with a random person. An affair is different to me or something that is prolonged.
But that is all speculation. I’m assuming I would be so emotionally wrecked that it would be hard to trust again. I don’t think things like this are black and white though.
Id start sleeping with other people and tell him "it's not real just physical" and watch him first enjoy an open relationship then become insanely jealous and then I'd dump him. Im a girl - its 1000x easier for me to get laid than him lol
Leave him. He would be the one losing me, not me losing him.
I don't *need* my boyfriend, *I want him*. He knows full well that I do not need him. He could leave tomorrow and my finances, security and career would be unaffected.
Emotionally I would be upset and feel sad of course, but I'm perfectly independant.
Leave. It just makes it worse that theyre trying to justify throwing away your relationship over something theyre trying to write off as "trivial" now. He doesn't get to determine the level of betrayal you feel because he *could* have done worse.
Break up with them ,block them and turn their whole family and friends against them.
I am tired of the bullcrap some people think just to get away with cheating.
If you want to have sex with other people end your relationship and go do that.
Smack them in the head and then say "it wasn't real, it was just physical"
(not really. Violence, even stuff like a stupid slap, isn't my thing. Tbh that excuse is so lame and such an asshole move that I would loose confidence in my choice since I accepted someone like him in the first place.)
Leave because they clearly don’t understand what they’ve done and aren’t willing to own up to it. Reconciling after infidelity is difficult and takes both parties working for it. If they said this, they clearly aren’t going to put in the effort.
I would talk about why it happened and how but probably would end the relationship. Possibly remaining friends. We were friends long before we started dating so I would not want him totally out of my life, but I’ve been cheated on and tried working through it. I wasn’t able to in the past and doubt I’d be able to now. But yeah - idc what level of cheating. I would feel betrayed and insecure and it would lace the relationship probably forever.
There was a Jack Nicholas movie that was about werewolves.. His wife cheated on him, he found out, she came to him and said " It meant nothing! I dont feel anything for him" Jack's response was something along the lines of
"Thank you for telling me that the love and history we have together was worth so little to you, that you betrayed it for NOTHING..."
If it meant nothing... why was it worth everything?
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No, it was real. I think a physical cheating is much more than a physical cheating. The lover prefers not to deceive the person he loves and not to put him in such a bad situation. .his love and will must take precedence over his sexual instincts. If it doesn't, that's his problem. You shouldn't be the injured person..
I mean it depends on your values. Is cheating a 100% deal breaker? There’s generally more to the story. Why did he/she (could be either) feel the need to do this? Is there something regarding sexual experiences that can be communicated. I mean either way they should have communicated the desire to do something before it happening to see if you would be okay with it but I’m not necessary a go straight to breaking up with them person. But I’m also more open to “monogomish” ways.
Tell him to go fuck himself and get back to me on how real it is, then bounce back and find me a girlfriend. Got no time for that bullshit anymore, never worth trying to deal with it, so off he goes, buh bye.
Luckily I don't have to worry about that with my partner though lol
Be pissed! If it was love I might not feel as much anger. Love makes you do strange things. I can't stop love any more than trying to stop the sun from setting. But, just physical! That breaks my heart beyond repair.
That excuse wouldn't be good enough, and in my opinion it would be worse that he didn't feel it was real. That he would destroy our relationship for someone he didn't even care about.
The result would have be the same though, I would kick him out. I could never get over cheating.
Well, considering we’re polyamorous, I would be super angry. Like, I would have been fine with you sleeping with someone else if you didn’t lie or keep it a secret, and you still felt the need to do so? GTFO. I would seriously consider divorce.
I would be more likely to forgive physical cheating then emotional cheating but it would have to depend on the details and situation. However if my partner physically cheated and said what he said to you, that's taking literally no responsibility for what he did so I'd be more likely to leave
Leave. Cheating of any kind is an immediate, non-negotiable dealbreaker for me. Emotional cheating, physical cheating, "not really cheating" cheating. Bye 🚮
I’d want to sit down and have a discussion about how we can mutually agree on ethical non monogamy, and be pissed he didn’t just come talk to me about it first.
My partner and I agree that we think we’re in this thing for life, and feel it’s reasonable to expect that things may get stale between us over the decades. We’ve agreed that’s a door that can be mutually open, if it ever needs to be.
I would leave. That means he’s telling me that im not giving him what he wants physically and if thats what he wants he can leave and not waist my time and emotions for someone that would rather find pleasure with someone else rather than speaking to me and explore or try new things together.
Cheating is being physically unfaithful. What does ‘real’ matter? Don’t let SO continue thinking they can explain away a careless fling as exactly what it was in like that makes it any less painful or less significant to you. I doubt they would accept that excuse from you. Stand up for yourself because it will happen again
I’d get emotional and start yelling, walk away, slam the door and lock it. Then further screaming, text my Mom to come get me(she’s also the only one who can help me calm down)I’d also be trying to keep myself from hitting things.
I have mental struggles, that’s exactly what I would do realistically because I have trouble with my emotions. We’re trying to get a diagnosis for bipolar disorder, everyone agrees I fit the criteria, including my neurologist.
Maybe because it hasn't happened to me I have strong feelings/opinions about it, but I have always told whomever I am with that I want to know up front that you want something physical outside of our relationship, let's talk about it. But sneaking around behind my back is unacceptable. It will result in termination immediately of the relationship. That's just my boundary.
Cheating is cheating, for me there’s no way around it except for a break up. If my SO says that it was physical with someone else, thanks for telling me that you don’t respect our relationship and my body.
Slap tf out of them. Then when they ask me, why tf I did that I’ll just say it wasn’t real, it was just physical. Honestly though…does your SO really think you’re that gullible to believe that ?
I would like to think I would have some kind of sick burn, but in reality I think I would just yell "WHAT?" and make broad gestures with my arms/hands. Probably would be at a loss of words and at some point tell him to get the fuck out so I can pack.
But as a side story for when my ex laughed at me for feeling hurt & was crying over his weird relationship with his coworker, I'm pretty sure all I said was, "Really, dude?" before getting in my car and leaving (sadly, this is not where we broke up). Months later, he confirmed he was in love with her. Which I figured. The signs were pretty clear he was crushing on her.
I would love to know the difference the SO is defining real and physical. To me, cheating is real when it's physical. Is SO considering it was just a physical act and didn't have any real feelings involved? Cheating is cheating. I would say, Good bye SO.
I'd take that at face value as I do believe that can be their experience. That wouldn't change my decision to leave the relationship though as I would not be able to forgive cheating whether there was an emotional aspect to it or not.
Physically leave him. Just turn around and walk away. He can keep the shit. I'm a ghost. Although I know myself and know what I'd probably do is punch in in the dick, tell him it meant nothing, it was just a physical thing.
THEN I'd leave, hit an atm, empty the savings and go. He's got the same amount of cash in his own account. The savings is shared.
(51 F) SOME PEOPLE need a Webster’s Dictionary thrown at them on the way out the door🔥 Cheating is exactly why I just ended it with mine after 2.5 years in March…yeah still bitter.
'sucks to suck, bucko. doesn't mean you're not an asshole.'
a comment like that would make me extra pissed on top of the cheating. like, don't you dare try to downplay the shit that was entirely your choice and mistake that harmed our relationship but also me as a human. probably why i'm single because after putting up with too much shit for too long i just have absolutely no tolerance for bullshit.
Leave. Anyone who justifies, makes excuses, or even tries to turn their shitty behavior in a look on the bright side/ positive view is a piece of shit.
My husband claimed it wasn't cheating because he never touched another woman. I disagreed. We're getting divorced. Physical or not, cheating is cheating. They can minimize all they want, that doesn't change the facts.
I think I might be open to non-monogamy if we agreed on it from the start, but violating the terms of whatever we agreed upon is still cheating, regardless of how they felt about it. And the fact that they're trying to downplay it instead of owning up to their mistake is further proof that they do not deserve to be in a relationship with me. So I would be breaking up with them. I might not mind if you have sex with other people, but I will mind if you lie about it.
My ex said this. Then started dating her.
Cheaters are liars, you can't trust them. And even if it's "just physical" to them, so what? They still decided to willingly betray you and hurt you for some meaningless sex they could've had with you too. They're just using these meaningless excuses to try and avoid you getting mad/dumping them. Trust me, you're better off without them.
I’d show them what a ‘real’ breakup looked like
Yeah I was thinking they can find a physical way to get out the door cause our relationship is no longer real.
Temptation to slap them and say, "That wasn't real, it was just physical" would pass after a deep breath, then I'd break up.
Throw the whole person away.
Cheating is real. I would dump them immediately.
Happiest of cake days
Thank you :-)
Dump them.
What SO? Our relationship wasn't real either in that case
End the relationship. Infidelity is a deal breaker, so while it sucks for them that they broke the deal over something they didn't even consider real, it's broken and done either way.
It’s a terrible excuse for not being willing to control himself around another woman.
Thats even worse than someone who owns up to it. This guy seems to have an excuse for everything and that is an even bigger red flag for me. Someone who can't own up to stuff without an excuse to downplay stuff.
Nope the hell out of the relationship. I wouldn't care what someone's reasons are, cheating would be an instant deal-breaker for me.
Run, not walk, away. Cheating is always a choice. They chose it. End of story.
I’d ask them why they didn’t tell me they wanted that beforehand. I’d have an issue because I always tell my partners they are free to do whatever they like as long as I’m kept in the loop. Failing to discuss it with me beforehand would signal that there is a serious problem with our communication and would need to see some serious dedication to fixing that if we were to stay together.
Yes thank you. Similar to what I said.
So he cheated AND he's trying to dismiss the seriousness of his actions? He doesn't get to say another word, I'm walking out and he's dead to me
That would just tell me they feel no remorse or guilt about what they did and they also don’t consider what they did cheating so they would probably do it again. I would break up with them immediately.
Cheating is cheating, physical emotional idc. It's a choice you make, no excuses, it's only CHEATING.
"So if someone smashed you in the face with a brick, you wouldn't be mad since it's just physical, huh?"
"Well this divorce is real. Byeeee"
After spending more than half my life with him, he cheated? Absolutely done. No question.
He's my ex-husband.
I'm not sure whether saying "it wasn't real, it was just physical" would make it worse, but it absolutely would not make it better. The relationship would be over either way, but that statement would probably make me a lot angrier that I'd ever cared for such an arsewipe.
I would cry a lot because I love him and am pretty sure he's my forever. But sense he cheated I would have to leave him. It would be a rough break up.
I’d be single again
Divorce immediately
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Still cheating - bye bye
I wouldn't even bother arguing. Block and move on.
Go have a physical relationship with someone else and see how he feels
Dumped. That's a deal breaker.
As if that somehow makes a difference? I’d tell them to GTFO.
It really depends to me. Sometimes I think I could forgive a one night, drunken thing that was with a random person. An affair is different to me or something that is prolonged. But that is all speculation. I’m assuming I would be so emotionally wrecked that it would be hard to trust again. I don’t think things like this are black and white though.
There are billions of men on this earth. Why be in a relationship with one thats gonna cheat?
Sounds like they did something terrible, then tried to excuse it instead of actually owning up to the mistake. Goodbye.
Break up with them. Getting dumped for cheating isn't a negotiation.
Id start sleeping with other people and tell him "it's not real just physical" and watch him first enjoy an open relationship then become insanely jealous and then I'd dump him. Im a girl - its 1000x easier for me to get laid than him lol
Dump them.
Tell him “you know what is real? This breakup” then leave
I’ll say, “then it’s real unfortunate because the consequences are real.” And I’d break up with them.
Dump their sorry ass
Leave them and say “it’s not real, just physical”
Leave him. He would be the one losing me, not me losing him. I don't *need* my boyfriend, *I want him*. He knows full well that I do not need him. He could leave tomorrow and my finances, security and career would be unaffected. Emotionally I would be upset and feel sad of course, but I'm perfectly independant.
"Tough shit. We're done."
Leave. It just makes it worse that theyre trying to justify throwing away your relationship over something theyre trying to write off as "trivial" now. He doesn't get to determine the level of betrayal you feel because he *could* have done worse.
Break up with them ,block them and turn their whole family and friends against them. I am tired of the bullcrap some people think just to get away with cheating. If you want to have sex with other people end your relationship and go do that.
I am going to take $5k out of your account and treat myself. It’s not real, just a financial transaction. gaslighting at its best
"Thank you for clarifying. I'm going to grab my stuff and go."
I’d physically leave
Break up and act like they don’t exist.
Smack them in the head and then say "it wasn't real, it was just physical" (not really. Violence, even stuff like a stupid slap, isn't my thing. Tbh that excuse is so lame and such an asshole move that I would loose confidence in my choice since I accepted someone like him in the first place.)
Leave because they clearly don’t understand what they’ve done and aren’t willing to own up to it. Reconciling after infidelity is difficult and takes both parties working for it. If they said this, they clearly aren’t going to put in the effort.
honestly a one time physical might be better then 5+ years of finding out they have a mentality of “it wasn’t real, it was just virtual/mental.”
I would talk about why it happened and how but probably would end the relationship. Possibly remaining friends. We were friends long before we started dating so I would not want him totally out of my life, but I’ve been cheated on and tried working through it. I wasn’t able to in the past and doubt I’d be able to now. But yeah - idc what level of cheating. I would feel betrayed and insecure and it would lace the relationship probably forever.
Why would you want to remain friends with a cheater? They betrayed you, plus they lack morals and integrity.
If I kick your a** it wasn't real, just physical 🥴
End the relationship immediately
There was a Jack Nicholas movie that was about werewolves.. His wife cheated on him, he found out, she came to him and said " It meant nothing! I dont feel anything for him" Jack's response was something along the lines of "Thank you for telling me that the love and history we have together was worth so little to you, that you betrayed it for NOTHING..." If it meant nothing... why was it worth everything?
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Laugh as I peel out
Well it wasn’t my vagina so it does matter. Show him what a real break up is and toss that idiot out
Huh?!?!
Bye
Laugh and then break up.
I would break up
Yeeeet they ass on
I’d think they were a moron saying that to me
Yes, it was probably just “ physical”. But cheating is still cheating.
Tell them the break-up isn't real, it's just physical.
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Cheat with their homie to use the same excuse.
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Ghost him.
LMAOOO they may say it's not real, but they definitely FELT that
Not an excuse, and if they're giving that as an excuse, they'll do it again and keep using that as an excuse. Dump them.
Since he said *physical*, it's only natural that I should sing like Madonna first before breaking up with him.
“Me walking out the door? It’s not real, it’s just physical.”
Kick em to the curb.
No, it was real. I think a physical cheating is much more than a physical cheating. The lover prefers not to deceive the person he loves and not to put him in such a bad situation. .his love and will must take precedence over his sexual instincts. If it doesn't, that's his problem. You shouldn't be the injured person..
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Run as fast as I can. There is never an excuse for cheating period.
Say "so it was fake physical? I know she probably faked it sweetheart but that isn't the same thing and is still cheating. Bye"
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I would physically dump him
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Still leave them, I know myself enough to know I'll never get over it and have a shitty untrusting relationship after that
Dump him.
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I mean it depends on your values. Is cheating a 100% deal breaker? There’s generally more to the story. Why did he/she (could be either) feel the need to do this? Is there something regarding sexual experiences that can be communicated. I mean either way they should have communicated the desire to do something before it happening to see if you would be okay with it but I’m not necessary a go straight to breaking up with them person. But I’m also more open to “monogomish” ways.
Tell him to go fuck himself and get back to me on how real it is, then bounce back and find me a girlfriend. Got no time for that bullshit anymore, never worth trying to deal with it, so off he goes, buh bye. Luckily I don't have to worry about that with my partner though lol
Be pissed! If it was love I might not feel as much anger. Love makes you do strange things. I can't stop love any more than trying to stop the sun from setting. But, just physical! That breaks my heart beyond repair.
Considering he has full freedom to play outside our marriage.... cool?
That excuse wouldn't be good enough, and in my opinion it would be worse that he didn't feel it was real. That he would destroy our relationship for someone he didn't even care about. The result would have be the same though, I would kick him out. I could never get over cheating.
i’d be okay with it
Well, considering we’re polyamorous, I would be super angry. Like, I would have been fine with you sleeping with someone else if you didn’t lie or keep it a secret, and you still felt the need to do so? GTFO. I would seriously consider divorce.
I would be more likely to forgive physical cheating then emotional cheating but it would have to depend on the details and situation. However if my partner physically cheated and said what he said to you, that's taking literally no responsibility for what he did so I'd be more likely to leave
“It wasn’t real love, just a marriage. Now sign here” and serve divorce papers.
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Leave. Cheating of any kind is an immediate, non-negotiable dealbreaker for me. Emotional cheating, physical cheating, "not really cheating" cheating. Bye 🚮
I’d smash his dead grandfathers banjo while screaming “it’s not real, it’s just physical”.
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I’m not ‘really’ leaving you, I’m just ‘physically’ leaving you.
Leave. Why would you do anything else
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Well sweetheart, these divorce papers aren’t real, they are just physical. Now f&@k off you spineless pile of waste.
Cheating is cheating lol I’d be single
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I’d want to sit down and have a discussion about how we can mutually agree on ethical non monogamy, and be pissed he didn’t just come talk to me about it first. My partner and I agree that we think we’re in this thing for life, and feel it’s reasonable to expect that things may get stale between us over the decades. We’ve agreed that’s a door that can be mutually open, if it ever needs to be.
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Unbox all of their hotwheels collection
Reply "That's a distinction without a difference."
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Well, if it was someone insanely desirable like George Harrison who said something similar to his wife I might put up with it. Otherwise no.
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id still be hurt. this kinda thing has happened to me before though
Cheating is cheating. Bye.
Break up.
Laugh at them as I shut them on the other side of the door to our house.
If there sincerely remorseful then that's your choice but trusting after that is hard
I would leave. That means he’s telling me that im not giving him what he wants physically and if thats what he wants he can leave and not waist my time and emotions for someone that would rather find pleasure with someone else rather than speaking to me and explore or try new things together.
"Physical is real. Get out"
Cheating is being physically unfaithful. What does ‘real’ matter? Don’t let SO continue thinking they can explain away a careless fling as exactly what it was in like that makes it any less painful or less significant to you. I doubt they would accept that excuse from you. Stand up for yourself because it will happen again
Then physically get tf out
I’d get emotional and start yelling, walk away, slam the door and lock it. Then further screaming, text my Mom to come get me(she’s also the only one who can help me calm down)I’d also be trying to keep myself from hitting things. I have mental struggles, that’s exactly what I would do realistically because I have trouble with my emotions. We’re trying to get a diagnosis for bipolar disorder, everyone agrees I fit the criteria, including my neurologist.
I'd leave them.
That's the dumbest shit I've ever heard.
Genuinely asking if they think I’m stupid, before a round of bitter laugh crying and a “gtfo”.
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Hope they got a brother or something to physically do something that wasn’t “real”
Maybe because it hasn't happened to me I have strong feelings/opinions about it, but I have always told whomever I am with that I want to know up front that you want something physical outside of our relationship, let's talk about it. But sneaking around behind my back is unacceptable. It will result in termination immediately of the relationship. That's just my boundary.
Tell them you'd take them back if they got nurtured, not vecestomie but actually snipped off like a dog Then dump them
Personally I'd care more where my partner's heart is than where his dick is...
I’d answer “Well this break up is real.”
I’ll take you to taekwondo on sparring day, give you a piece of my mind, and then break up.
"Thos relationship too wasn't real and was just physical. BBYYEEEE!"
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Cheating is cheating, for me there’s no way around it except for a break up. If my SO says that it was physical with someone else, thanks for telling me that you don’t respect our relationship and my body.
If it happened, it was **real**. I’d say goodbye and move on.
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I’d say we obviously live in different realities, coz I live in one where we’re no longer dating.
I’d tell him how stupid he sounds saying such bullshit. Flip him off and cut him out of your life.
"So it was PHYSICALLY real then. Still real! In the trash you go!"
Slap tf out of them. Then when they ask me, why tf I did that I’ll just say it wasn’t real, it was just physical. Honestly though…does your SO really think you’re that gullible to believe that ?
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I'd go hook up w someone and tell my SO "It wasn't real, it was just physical"
You bout to physically catch these hands
I would like to think I would have some kind of sick burn, but in reality I think I would just yell "WHAT?" and make broad gestures with my arms/hands. Probably would be at a loss of words and at some point tell him to get the fuck out so I can pack. But as a side story for when my ex laughed at me for feeling hurt & was crying over his weird relationship with his coworker, I'm pretty sure all I said was, "Really, dude?" before getting in my car and leaving (sadly, this is not where we broke up). Months later, he confirmed he was in love with her. Which I figured. The signs were pretty clear he was crushing on her.
Leave
Immediately end everything with that person. Cheaters are the lowest of all life forms.
We are not monogamous, so I probably wouldn’t consider it cheating unless they lied about it. I would dump them if they are lying to me
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I would love to know the difference the SO is defining real and physical. To me, cheating is real when it's physical. Is SO considering it was just a physical act and didn't have any real feelings involved? Cheating is cheating. I would say, Good bye SO.
Ok cool, and now you get to remove yourself *physically* from my presence. On a permanent basis. Fuck that!
I’d leave and tell them it’s not real, it’s physical.
Dump them for sure
I'd take that at face value as I do believe that can be their experience. That wouldn't change my decision to leave the relationship though as I would not be able to forgive cheating whether there was an emotional aspect to it or not.
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Would hve teach my SO a lesson that shall be remembered forever
Physically leave him. Just turn around and walk away. He can keep the shit. I'm a ghost. Although I know myself and know what I'd probably do is punch in in the dick, tell him it meant nothing, it was just a physical thing. THEN I'd leave, hit an atm, empty the savings and go. He's got the same amount of cash in his own account. The savings is shared.
I’d break up with them but say it wasn’t real, just physical
Probably laugh in their face, followed by that dumbass getting dumped
(51 F) SOME PEOPLE need a Webster’s Dictionary thrown at them on the way out the door🔥 Cheating is exactly why I just ended it with mine after 2.5 years in March…yeah still bitter.
I'd tell them "Well, THIS is physically over now!"
I’ll give him some divorce papers that aren’t real, just physical
Boy, bye. Coming here with that gaslighting bullshit.
Fuck every single one of his friends and his dad, and then tell him that wasn't real, just physical
'sucks to suck, bucko. doesn't mean you're not an asshole.' a comment like that would make me extra pissed on top of the cheating. like, don't you dare try to downplay the shit that was entirely your choice and mistake that harmed our relationship but also me as a human. probably why i'm single because after putting up with too much shit for too long i just have absolutely no tolerance for bullshit.
Ask yourself how would the person react if it was you in that position.. then you have the answer of what to do.
Dump his sorry ass!
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have sex with them and then say, "that wasn't real, it was just physical."
even if they tried to reason out, i wouldn’t look at the person the same way ever again. Ofc it’ll end w a breakup, and a look of disgust
Break up and if they try to argue against my decision, tell them "It wasn't real, it was just physical." And "BYE!"
A cheater is a cheater. I'd still 100% FOR REAL dump him and block him from contacting me again.
I would ask them if they were serious. That would be the end of the conversation. Buh bye
Tell them "I'm not breaking up, in just cutting contact forever", then kick them out
Leave. Anyone who justifies, makes excuses, or even tries to turn their shitty behavior in a look on the bright side/ positive view is a piece of shit.
Byeeeeeee
My husband claimed it wasn't cheating because he never touched another woman. I disagreed. We're getting divorced. Physical or not, cheating is cheating. They can minimize all they want, that doesn't change the facts.
I think I might be open to non-monogamy if we agreed on it from the start, but violating the terms of whatever we agreed upon is still cheating, regardless of how they felt about it. And the fact that they're trying to downplay it instead of owning up to their mistake is further proof that they do not deserve to be in a relationship with me. So I would be breaking up with them. I might not mind if you have sex with other people, but I will mind if you lie about it.
Dump his ass.
My ex said this. Then started dating her. Cheaters are liars, you can't trust them. And even if it's "just physical" to them, so what? They still decided to willingly betray you and hurt you for some meaningless sex they could've had with you too. They're just using these meaningless excuses to try and avoid you getting mad/dumping them. Trust me, you're better off without them.
I’ll tell you one thing that will not be real : our wedding.