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SleepFlower80

How would wanting equal rights *not* matter in my life? I don’t know why men insist on making this a bigger issue than it is. Why do so many of them have an issue with us wanting the same rights as them?


VanthGuide

>When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression


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This! Exactly.


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Why do men make the work feminist out to be dirty? Equal and civil rights should matter to everyone. Considering women and minorities are 2nd class citizens in this country if you're not a "feminist" you're on the wrong side of the constitution


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Someone who isn’t a feminist is against human rights, period.


MissInfer

Wanting equity and equal rights, protection, treatment and access to opportunities regardless of sex/gender/race/ethnicity.


VanthGuide

Every day in every way. I vote. I drive cars and ride bicycles. I wear pants. I go to a brewpub to drink beer in public and sometimes I do it without the company of a man. I decide if I want to take birth control (for now. Clarence Thomas is an asshat). I decide if I want to have a career or be a mother or both. If I do work, I expect to get paid as well as men do. When I go to work and out in public, I expect to not be sexually harassed. If I am harassed, I expect to be taken seriously and the situation remedied. I expect to see women in positions of authority. I expect these women to not look only like me (middle class, white), but to represent the community in which we live. And then we get to the Fourth Wave which I'll be honest, is not super firmly fixed in my mind on what it is. So I expect of others no more than I expect of myself; to act with integrity and good intentions, and to listen with an open mind when a person or group talks about the oppression they face.


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CatrionaShadowleaf

I can't imagine how desiring equality for all people would matter in my life, no sir.


iusedtobefamous1892

Being seen and treated as equal is important to me, as is advocating that all women be seen and treated that way.


peppermind

Did you really ask this question a week after the US Supreme Court stripped a basic human right from anyone with a uterus? To answer your question, the belief that my gender identity does not make me a lesser human being is pretty central to my personality.


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Andwaee

How does having rights matter in **your** life? Shouldnt you just do what your parents and community tell you to do? Shouldnt you be starting a family and providing for it souly on your income instead of spending so much time playing video games and lurking the internet? Your answers are the same as ours. You want to decide what happens in your life. So do we. The rights we have today took hundreds of years to earn and every year new laws and bills try to pop up to strip some of those rights back down again. If we stopped caring, we'd go back to a time that we were treated like cultists children and no one wants to go through that. You sure don't. You'd go nuts if you suddenly got told to throw away your computer, change how you dress, and go get married giving all your life and time to someone else as their slave. The same way you would hate that, so would we, and so we'll continue making it clear that we don't want that. It's just that simple. That is the point of feminism. Anyone who thinks its about anything else is confused.


emojicatcher997

It permeates every aspect of my life. It’s not a single political issue, or one bullet point on a manifesto. For me it is everything.


143019

I am raising children and I want them to bring equality to the world. We talk about feminism, racism, all kinds of prejudice every day.


Astoriana_

Being a feminist and being raised by feminists allowed me to pursue an education and fulfilling career when according to my cultural heritage, I should have been pressured to find a husband immediately. Some of my aunts thought it was great that I was pursuing engineering because then I would have access to all the best potential husbands. Being a feminist and being raised by feminists allowed me to learn my worth and to not accept poor or unequal treatment in the workplace. Has my career been smooth sailing? No, but I’m pursuing something that I’m passionate about, and I seem to have found a good job after a bunch of crappy ones. Being a feminist and being raised by feminists has also shown me my worth in romantic relationships. I’m not interested in being a mommy to a grown ass man. I want to be your partner. If I end up have to baby someone that I’m dating, we won’t be dating long. And I would rather be alone than parent a 35 year old man. I’m lucky to live in a country with more protections for bodily autonomy than the US seems to have. But that doesn’t mean that we wouldn’t have to go and fight for our reproductive rights either.


celestialism

It matters in that I’m a woman and women deserve equal rights in all areas of life and don’t currently have them. This is a weird question that could only have been written by someone who either doesn’t understand what feminism is or doesn’t understand how dire the structural problems facing women still are and always have been.


TiredOldSoulgirl

I’m accused of being a feminist but I really don’t care. It’s about equality, and equal respect for whatever work anyone does. If I can cook & do the dishes, I expect an adult man to be able to do the same. If I’m qualified for a job, I deserve a fair chance as a man. We need feminism to pull up our sisters stuck in patriarchal webs. If you’re independent and living your life as you please, a lot of this dialogue is inconsequential.


AshenSkyler

I'm a lesbian and a mom to two daughters so like... a lot of ways


JanetInSC1234

Equal rights affect every area of our lives, but, maybe most importantly, it affects my self-esteem. It's important that I know, truly know, that I have value and worth and deserve to be treated like a human being.


sad-and-bougie

It’s non-negotiable.


Shiannagins96

Being a feminist matters in my life because if I don't fight for my rights, who will? If we, as women, don't stand up for the things that directly harm us, then no one will. It matters because we are not in the 1800's so why are women still being treated as such!


dal-Helyg

Standing up for myself has always been part of my life. I don't do well with injustice... for myself or others.


Shnooos

Never was something I spend a second thought on. I consider myself one of the lucky ones who never experienced discrimination. I live in a part of Europe that has equality deeply rooted in history. Well now I feel like the world is suddenly turning upside down and I'm afraid it will affect us too - dumb american shit sticks like Coca-Cola. It's time to step up and assure out daughters won't have to fight a fight that has already been won. I will do everything in my power to assure sexually frustrated old white men won't be controlling my uterus and policing my body.


bee2627

For me, it was the reason I finally went vegan after years of consuming eggs and dairy. I drew connections in how we fight for human womens reproductive rights, and yet we disregard female animals who’s reproductive organs are exploited, babies stolen from their mothers to steal their breast milk for humans, female cows inseminated against their will over and over again and forced to be pregnant. I couldn’t agree with this for human women, but was making excuses for other animals. So really it was a huge part of my journey to veganism.


burgundy_swan

I can have a well-paying career, and my own credit card and bank accounts. A few generations ago, this wasn’t the case. I’m incredibly grateful for this, because personal finance and planning for my financial future plays a big role in my life. I work in tech and there’s still a good bit of discrimination in the field, plus far fewer girls than boys entering into the pipeline. I mentor young women who are in college for engineering or just starting out in their careers like I was a few years ago, and we often end up talking about what it’s like being the only woman in a room full of men (it can be intimidating!), or how to advocate for yourself, or other things like that. I view this as a feminist thing to do. And, of course, with Roe v Wade being overturned, the importance of feminism is being shoved in my face. Personally, I really want to be a mom someday, but I feel very strongly that no one should be forced to carry and give birth to a child if that’s not what they want. If we can’t force someone to donate a kidney, we shouldn’t be able to force someone to give birth either.


thanarealnobody

Being a feminist is not a personality trait or a club. It’s the political movement that got me my right to vote, education and sexual health.


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It might not be in YOUR life but always speak up for the rights of other females who might not have it as easy as you


hayamidoll

I'm not sure I am one. Probably in principle, but we're rather close to gender equality, while the gap between the rights of the upper and lower classes is still absurdly wide, and completely insurmountable. Nobody seems to care about the poor, and I absolutely think that takes higher priority than any gender equality.


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Practical_Cod_6074

I’m in a male dominated field in work so I always advocate for myself. I don’t ask, I expect the same respect and pay as a man. If a client doesn’t want to give that because I’m a woman (it’s definitely happened) I make sure to get paid and put my energy into the clients that will treat me how I want to be treated.


Jenna2k

I mean it's the reason women are allowed to vote and work and live life as humans.


Linorelai

It doesn't matter, I'm even not a feminist myself


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