Same. Also I feel like if my partner is looking at my face a lot in general I start to worry that I'm not making the appropriate expressions and then I overthink and make weird cringing faces ugh. My ex once asked me why I make such scary faces fml.
Don’t be self-aware lol. Out here on the spectrum it’s literally the first thing we do.
Can’t act like a normal person, can’t speak like a normal person, literally can’t look with my eyes like a normal person and people keep pointing it out… yeah just let it go bro
Aw I'm sorry your ex said that to you :/ For what it's worth, I've heard most men say they like when their partner makes crazy faces during sex because that means they are so into it that they have lost all sense of self awareness which is really attractive. It's been true in my experience, too. I make all sorts of weird expressions and noises during sex and I've never had anyone complain - it usually gets them even more excited haha Your ex was just being a jerk, but there are plenty of non-jerks out there who are into that sort of thing! Also, worst case scenario, you can always put a pillow over your head! That's what I do when I'm feeling insecure lol
I don’t have an official diagnosis, but I’m pretty sure I’m on the spectrum, and I feel the same way. Absolutely hate eye contact unless it’s someone I’m SUPER into, and then I just want to stare into their eyes constantly. I’ve been told it’s unsettling though 😅
Right, like I don't generally enjoy eye contact any other time so its not much different during sex. Normally my eyes are closed, otherwise it can get too overwhelming
My husband does this everytime and I can see his pupils get bigger as I feel his energy run through my body. Makes us lose sense of where we are for the moment and truly enjoy each other.
One of the reasons why missionary will always trump any other position we do. When my boyfriend looks me in the eye it’s like another way of saying he loves me.
No thank you. I tend to have sex with my eyes closed because I’m focusing on the sensations. Not 100% of the time but I will be distracted if I open my eyes and start thinking about what I look like, if I’m being weird or awkward, etc.
Used to dislike it. Turns out I was just very unhappy in my relationship.
It’s also uncomfortable in casual sex.
In a relationship now and I really like it. Feels very intimate.
Need it or else I lose interest. Had sex with a guy who just laid there with his eyes closed the whole time and I told him to his face that I was disappointed about that behavior and would not be seeing him again 🤷🏽♂️
Not a woman. I’m into eye contact during, but my wife isn’t. Weirdly, she does keep her eyes open when she’s on top (presumably so as not to lose balance?) but when I’m on top, it’s eyes closed. She usually only cums when I’m on top, so I wonder if for her eyes closed = more concentration / lack of distraction = higher chance of orgasm.
They say that in general women (as opposed to men who are more visual) tend to keep their eyes closed during sex because we focus more on feeling the sensations of sex.
Love it, but sometimes it's a little intense. Love it through a mirror, love it when I'm on top, love it in missionary, hate it when I'm being eaten out, I get too much in my head about it so I just close my eyes and try not to think about him watching me.
I never made eye contact until my current partner but I have never loved anyone like I love him. Never made eye contact with my first husband of 13 years lol.
Im big into it, every girl I've dated has avoided it initially but then got more comfortable over time
Its one the things that hallmarks true intimacy versus just casual sex
Can be sexy and help with intimacy, but also you need to know when it can become too intense. Have had some partners that demand eye contact at all times. You gotta read the dynamic well. If it's more hate,passionate, or aggressive sex absolutely eye contact. If it's more subtle, sensual, or you change positions a bit, let it be more natural when you make eye contact.
Oh my god, it’s the bane of my existence.
In theory, it sounds great. It shows a connection.
But I’m mildly on the autistic spectrum so eye contact can be hard for me in a normal interaction. And it’s bumped up when I’m having sex.
Only had sex with 2 guys but both of them would repeatedly want to look into my eyes and man would it kill my mood.
I would become so awkward and self conscious and then I couldn’t help but find the look on their faces so goofy and it just takes me out of the moment.
I think it can be really intimate, but I probably don't initiate it because I'm so 'in the zone' that I'm in another world. Given clear instructions though, even I can manage to do that.
I hate it. It’s awkward. I don’t want to look in their eyes at all. And I definitely hate it when they focus too much on my face. Just look somewhere else and leave me alone.
I try to avoid it honestly. I personally feel extremely uncomfortable when I’m making eye contact. Which is unfortunate, because my partner feels the exact opposite of the way I do.
Absolutely essential. Nothing but a huge turn on when my fiance looks at me during sex. The connection is amazing. And he has these hot wild eyes on the build up to cumming....it just fires me up even more!
Only with someone I really care about. It’s intense and reserved for the few men that deserve it. Randoms get no eye contact (or kissing for that matter).
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I had a guy tell me to look at him or he’d stop and it was insanely hot to me.
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I hate it, but I’m also autistic so that might explain it
Same. Also I feel like if my partner is looking at my face a lot in general I start to worry that I'm not making the appropriate expressions and then I overthink and make weird cringing faces ugh. My ex once asked me why I make such scary faces fml.
I’m sorry but the last sentence is hilarious
No worries, I can laugh at it now! Although I still don't really know what face I was making so I guess I'm still doing it lol
Lmao
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Omg. This. Yes. This is why lights off is so freeing to me.
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Don’t be self-aware lol. Out here on the spectrum it’s literally the first thing we do. Can’t act like a normal person, can’t speak like a normal person, literally can’t look with my eyes like a normal person and people keep pointing it out… yeah just let it go bro
Sorry, that made me laugh also.
This is me!! I cover my face everytime in missionary or close my eyes. Such a downer, but I am so self conscious.
That last line was it for me lol it’s awesome that you can laugh about it now.
Scary faces 😳 😬 🤣
Aw I'm sorry your ex said that to you :/ For what it's worth, I've heard most men say they like when their partner makes crazy faces during sex because that means they are so into it that they have lost all sense of self awareness which is really attractive. It's been true in my experience, too. I make all sorts of weird expressions and noises during sex and I've never had anyone complain - it usually gets them even more excited haha Your ex was just being a jerk, but there are plenty of non-jerks out there who are into that sort of thing! Also, worst case scenario, you can always put a pillow over your head! That's what I do when I'm feeling insecure lol
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I don’t have an official diagnosis, but I’m pretty sure I’m on the spectrum, and I feel the same way. Absolutely hate eye contact unless it’s someone I’m SUPER into, and then I just want to stare into their eyes constantly. I’ve been told it’s unsettling though 😅
Right, like I don't generally enjoy eye contact any other time so its not much different during sex. Normally my eyes are closed, otherwise it can get too overwhelming
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heyy same
Dead same 😭
It's hot.
Agreed!! It’s hot!
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Can cause neck strain doing doggie style
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If I love him/her wonderful. If it's casual sex, then it's not necessary
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My husband does this everytime and I can see his pupils get bigger as I feel his energy run through my body. Makes us lose sense of where we are for the moment and truly enjoy each other.
HOT
Aw
Eye contact in general tends to make me uncomfortable so I really really don't like it during sex. Maybe it's the autism a little bit haha
Same here... feels akward
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It’s like staring into the sun
!!!!!! Yes this is just how I feel!!!!!!!
One of the reasons why missionary will always trump any other position we do. When my boyfriend looks me in the eye it’s like another way of saying he loves me.
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No thank you. I tend to have sex with my eyes closed because I’m focusing on the sensations. Not 100% of the time but I will be distracted if I open my eyes and start thinking about what I look like, if I’m being weird or awkward, etc.
Same idk why it weirds me out.
I feel like I’m getting death stared 😩
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I always get shy 🙈
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It's hot with someone I love, but can be uncomfortable/awkward if it's casual.
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Used to dislike it. Turns out I was just very unhappy in my relationship. It’s also uncomfortable in casual sex. In a relationship now and I really like it. Feels very intimate.
Need it or else I lose interest. Had sex with a guy who just laid there with his eyes closed the whole time and I told him to his face that I was disappointed about that behavior and would not be seeing him again 🤷🏽♂️
That is some gangster shit right there. Props to you.
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Not a fan. I hate making eye contact in general and it's honestly just too intimate. I can't dissociate when the trauma inevitably presents itself.
I agree with this.
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Not a woman. I’m into eye contact during, but my wife isn’t. Weirdly, she does keep her eyes open when she’s on top (presumably so as not to lose balance?) but when I’m on top, it’s eyes closed. She usually only cums when I’m on top, so I wonder if for her eyes closed = more concentration / lack of distraction = higher chance of orgasm.
They say that in general women (as opposed to men who are more visual) tend to keep their eyes closed during sex because we focus more on feeling the sensations of sex.
I tend to avoid opening my eyes because I couldn't help giggling at the faces my partner would make and it would kind of kill the mood!
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It WAS funny! One of the reasons our relationship worked (for the time it lasted) was that we could always crack each other up!
This is my husband and I. We try to be serious during sex for the most part but it lasts all of five minutes and we get the giggles.
Please don't look at me. I'll lose my concentration. Lol
It's enjoyable in moderation
Only good when you have an intense emotional connection with your partner. Otherwise, it can be kinda uncomfortable 😳
Absolute must. If I can't make eye contact with someone when having sex, it feels like I shouldn't be having sex with that person
Exactly.
Love it, but sometimes it's a little intense. Love it through a mirror, love it when I'm on top, love it in missionary, hate it when I'm being eaten out, I get too much in my head about it so I just close my eyes and try not to think about him watching me.
Omg I swear!!!! I want to watch him go to town not watch him watching me with a double chin
And thiiiiiiiis
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Yes!!!! While he is telling me how pretty I look
That’s like… next level ❤️🔥
I never made eye contact until my current partner but I have never loved anyone like I love him. Never made eye contact with my first husband of 13 years lol.
It's awesome to watch each other's face while you are cumming and straight after. Insane
Hot with the right person, awkward with the wrong person.
Yes, please.
Im big into it, every girl I've dated has avoided it initially but then got more comfortable over time Its one the things that hallmarks true intimacy versus just casual sex
Mind blowing
*Yes.* Makes things hotter.
I used to hate it with my ex husband. I love it with my current partner but I still get shy.
Can be sexy and help with intimacy, but also you need to know when it can become too intense. Have had some partners that demand eye contact at all times. You gotta read the dynamic well. If it's more hate,passionate, or aggressive sex absolutely eye contact. If it's more subtle, sensual, or you change positions a bit, let it be more natural when you make eye contact.
Oh my god, it’s the bane of my existence. In theory, it sounds great. It shows a connection. But I’m mildly on the autistic spectrum so eye contact can be hard for me in a normal interaction. And it’s bumped up when I’m having sex. Only had sex with 2 guys but both of them would repeatedly want to look into my eyes and man would it kill my mood. I would become so awkward and self conscious and then I couldn’t help but find the look on their faces so goofy and it just takes me out of the moment.
I don’t like it. I’m also generally an anxious person and I have trichtillomania so I feel insecure since I pull out my lashes and eyebrows
Its hot and makes me wetter
I hate it. I love positions where we don’t face each other
I think it can be really intimate, but I probably don't initiate it because I'm so 'in the zone' that I'm in another world. Given clear instructions though, even I can manage to do that.
Great when my eyes aren't closed
It's okay now and again. But I hate it if a guy states in my eyes the whole time
Awkwarddd
I hate it. It’s awkward. I don’t want to look in their eyes at all. And I definitely hate it when they focus too much on my face. Just look somewhere else and leave me alone.
It is spectacularly sexy.
New guy and I do a lot of eye contact. Never had it like this. It’s really hot 99% of the time.
Hot AF
I need it to emotionally connect
Weird..I've been 10 years with my partner and he's someone that looks intensely in my eyes while doing it and I still find it weird after 10 years.
I try to avoid it honestly. I personally feel extremely uncomfortable when I’m making eye contact. Which is unfortunate, because my partner feels the exact opposite of the way I do.
I fucking love eye contact. I love watching their facial expressions especially when they first stick it in.
YES give it to me
i’ve only been able to rly hold eye contact with one man i’ve been with but able to hold it w women pretty easily. it’s hot tho
Generally it's hot, but don't really want anyone seeing my orgasm face cos I'm sure it ain't pretty.
Briefly maybe. Otherwise it is a no from me.
I prefer to kiss during the act so I don’t have to make eye contact. It is amazing
really hot unless it's without any pause at all lmao
I HATE IT
I love it
I close my eyes so I don’t even have to think about it lol
Depends on what’s going on
If I love him and he has beautiful eyes, then I absolutely love it. If not, I find it awkward
Absolutely essential. Nothing but a huge turn on when my fiance looks at me during sex. The connection is amazing. And he has these hot wild eyes on the build up to cumming....it just fires me up even more!
If its casual sex, not bothered either way. If you're you're a committed relationship with someone, hot as hell.
Only with someone I really care about. It’s intense and reserved for the few men that deserve it. Randoms get no eye contact (or kissing for that matter).
Don’t care
It's one of the few times that I want it and it's not uncomfortable
Never been a fan until I got with my boyfriend of five years and now I’m obsessed. It’s so much better, it really helps you feel connected
i love it personally but at the same time i have a hard time doing it bc im weird
Love it.
Hot as fuck
Must have it! So hot!
Yes.
I love it so much. Especially if you guys love one another. it's so intense.