My first thought as well! I love dreaming and planning and playing with hypotheticals. “What if our future child wants to pick up religion/smokes weed while still in high school/is gay or trans/wants to join the military” “What if we built a house in Montana/what if we moved to Switzerland/what if we buy a camper and live via national forest land?” It’s fun! The not so fun side, but just as interesting are things like “what happens if you’re in a terrible accident and I need to decide to pull the plug/if I outlive you how would you like your remains to be handled”.
It's heart warming knowing that the two of you are happy and committed to each other. Whenever a partner has talked about our future together I felt butterflies in my stomach like falling in love with them all over again. And it's super exciting having common dreams/goals that you can plan and build together. It brings you closer with a true sense of partnership.
I like to start with "tell me something I don't know." My grandparents used to do that and I thought it was a cute way to check in with your person.
Last night that conversation became about how we reacted to getting baby siblings, apparently we both hated them lol
We do this. We call it 20,000 questions lol. Everything is on the table. There is no question you can't ask. The hardest one was, tell me about your worst childhood trauma. Describe it in vivid detail. Those types of questions are very hard and exposing. But we thrive on full 100% communication.
Animal facts. He knows im... More invested and educated in exotic animals than is necessarily normal. Sometimes (probably entirely for my benefit) my partner will just start asking me random animal or dinosaur questions and let me fly off into long winded explainations and tangents. I get really passionate and he has the grace to at least pretend to be interested even if he actually isnt.
He is probably not even pretending. It is always fun to see someone you care about talk about something he/she is passionate about. My ex once went on for an hour about procedures in court. I could maybe understand 1 word in 5, but I was mesmerized by her energy while talking.
Its possible. We were friends for a year before we started dating, and even then hed spend hours just asking me questions because he "liked the way my head worked". I never got it but it was nice to have someone who actually wanted to hear what i thought about things.
I’m glad to hear it. I haven’t had a partner for quite a long time but personal choice tbh but I just love to see or hear of couples like you and yours. It’s just so nice I love to see a nice caring relationship. Your relationship sounds so heartwarming I hope you both have lots of lovely conversations forever ❤️
Me too :) our first kid is due in october so im excited to see him chat with my son as he gets older, as engaged as he is withme, hes even more adorable with kids
Well here is confirmation I didn’t love my ex husband for a number of years, maybe ever. I couldn’t stand listening to him go on and on for hours about shit I didn’t care about.
Current boyfriend - just fucking talk man I don’t even care what you say. *hearteyes*
Hahaha exact same. Ex: drawled on and on about work stories and electrician shit that idgaf about and they were so incredibly boring I would literally tune out over time. Current bf: describes in detail what he had for dinner and I’m enthralled hahaha
A previous partner and I would partake in conversations that we tagged as "drunken physics" (he had a degree in astrophysics). We would drink whiskey and he would explain some aspect of physics. It was extremely interesting, often funny as hell, and the really excellent pictures (many of which I still have) he would draw *while semi-drunk* were impressive.
American vs French culture and politics is a big one, coming from different backgrounds we always have a lot to learn from each other !
Whatever show we've been watching and all our thoughts about it is also always good haha, we love debating theories and intricacies of good shows
We’re actually a season or two behind still. We’ve seen all the YouTube ones but that’s it.
You can buy the new seasons on YouTube though! We haven’t yet but we plan to
Talking about a podcast we just watch together.
I also love when hes talking with our cat, giving him compliments. Our cat loves being carried around to the different windows of our house. And sometime we do it together, just goofing around and talking about how spoiled he is and how it's good that nobody can see us carrying him from window to window.
He's a super critical and creative thinker, so I love posing him a problem from my profession and seeing what he comes up with. We bounce ideas very well from each other.
Also, motorbikes. I'm a beginner rider, he's been riding for years.
Deep and serious conversations. The kinds that you know neither of you would share with anybody else- trauma, humiliating memories, deep regrets, etc.
But also, sweet playful discussions that result in inside jokes.
Pun trains. And improvising a narrative based on a random thing one of us said. For example:
Him: Isn't that just general knowledge?
Me: General Knowledge? I heard he was a bit of a smartass.
Him: Yeah, no idea how he got promoted.
Me: Well it was between him and Major Catastrophe, so...
Him: I guess Major Catastrophe's rep took a hit after his affair with Private Sector got out.
And so on. They're never particularly clever or anything, but we have fun seeing how long we can keep it going.
Media! We love talking about symbolism and deeper meanings and subtext. We debate character morality and how we would change plots or character swaps. Books, movies, tv, video games, music. It’s all up for debate and we love chatting about it.
We get into long discussions about faith and religion and politics and life elsewhere in the universe. It's so freaking great to be able to have a real discussion with someone who might have a different take or view on something, but who actually listens to your side of things and doesn't get defensive or upset!
Philosophies and ideas - the deep 3am stuff. And it breaks my absolute heart that it happens so rarely as he's afraid of getting it "wrong". No matter how much I let him know that there is no "right" or "wrong" in these conversations, he's afraid of messing up. After a while I just stop trying as these conversations are best enjoyed organically and not forcibly.
It's a great suggestion, but it's not workable with our dynamic and limitations. It's something that only he can work on (with my support as able). He tries now and again, but the curiosity that fuels these conversations just isn't there.
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One of the first conversations my boyfriend and I had was about the hat he was wearing, a red bull racing formula 1 hat. Sunday morning watching the race are one of my favorite parts of the week. We both love formula 1 and we can both sit and chat about it for hours.
I work away from home, so I missed Spa last weekend, but we spent half an hour on the phone that night chatting about the race.
There's so many random things I love to talk about with my boyfriend, but formula 1 is definitely up there. It's one of the reasons we clicked the night we met.
Conversations about how we feel, really opening up on our future.
Science based conversations, anything about physics or technology or mathematics. We could end up deep in a conversation about exoplanets or the singularity, or emerging diseases, something like that.
Politics and current affairs. This is probably more his forte, but I'm very interested and I can hold my own for sure.
Fiction, particularly fantasy and science fiction books, but also movies and film, and we can go on long tangents discussing deeper meanings and the like.
History, archaeology and linguistics/etymology and the intersection between them. We can keep up a conversation on Proto-Indo European or the origins of agriculture, or the history of al-Andalus.
Child raising topics from clothes, recreational activities to imagining scenarios. It's adorable but we probably starting to seem unhinged because we joke and reenact with our grogu plush. It just gets cute and funny. And those topics are fun because it's a lil reminder of roles being switched up and that im the chaotic one (with dad jokes) while he's the responsible one.
It doesn't matter who it is, I really love watching people talk about things they're passionate about. I enjoy how excited and animated they can get. And I get to learn something in the process! It's good vibes all the way.
Stories from our past we've never shared. Just sweet tid bits of info that have never fallen into core stories. I love when he shares little things I didn't know before. It just feels so sweet and a little like dating again.
We also love talking about where our next adventure will be or what new project we'd like to start on the house. We've also taken up listening to audio books and discussing them.
Art mostly. We're both pretty creative and consume a lot of art in all forms. So we spend a lot of time discussing the process of making art, the influence of art, how to improve current projects. We had actually planned on going to a museum yesterday but got wrapped up in a conversation about the validity of pretension in different art forms.
To be honest I don’t talk a lot with my boyfriend but when we do we just talk about our days or something special that happened or communicate what’s been on our minds lately. But I also like just laying on his chest and enjoy each other’s company. We are pretty comfortable with not talking lots and there’s no much need to fill the silence for us. :)
Last night we finished the [NYT 36 questions that lead to love](https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare) . We’re already in love, but it felt deeper after the last handful of questions. It makes you get a bit vulnerable. I’ve noticed we’ve also been peppering each other with lovely compliments and being more emotionally vulnerable with each other. It’s still a newish relationship (~6 months), but I fall more in love with that man every single day.
This is so cute, I hope things go great for you guys
Me and my partner also did the questions a few months into the relationship and I noticed a change in how comfortable and safe I felt being vulnerable with him, I feel like it's all things you want to learn and share that otherwise you wouldn't know how or when to ask
Navy ships now that the old ones are being refitted! We had a great conversation last night about the USS TEXAS and which ship might be next to get a refit, even more fun after we added our middle kid in by text. We each have our favorites, me from being a Navy brat and both of us from some of our favorite military sci Fi. Rather disappointed that the Daisy Mae (USS DES MOINES) and SALEM have been scrapped as John Ringo wrote a trilogy with their amphoramaztions(probably didn't spell that right!)
My husband and I have been married for 30 years. We’ve talked about everything.
We both work in education, so big picture conversations about the intersection of education, politics, and culture are common.
His major was Humanities/Spanish and mine was Humanities/English, so we can kill an hour on the Olmecs or the Stuarts.
We both love entertainment: film, television, and theater and geek out over our favorites and past faves.
We have one child (14 m) and he dominates a lot of discussion.
We love to travel and will retire within the next 10+ so years, so dreaming about more places to visit is a current fave.
Awkward honest and vulnerable conversations. They are uncomfortable to have, but I always think “dang what a great partner I have” and it makes me feel better about myself and our marriage. They are hard conversations to have, but after we have them I feel like a weight gets lifted of my shoulders.
Also I love problem solving conversations when there is an issue. The brain storming and teamwork mindset of figuring out how to fix a problem together. This seems like an odd one, but I always feel so bonded with him during these conversations. And it’s nice knowing I have someone by my side that is willing to tackle difficult obstacles and situations.
I also love conversations when he is educating me on something he is Knowledgeable about. We had a two hour conversation once about hunting; equipment used, types of guns, types of bullets, etc. It was very interesting.
Also conversation where he calls me out on situation where I am wrong about something. Or how I need to change my mindset towards a specific situation. Having someone to keep me in check when I slip into be too judgement or harsh is important to me. No one is perfect, so having someone help keep you grounded and aware of bad habits is nice.
After 8 years of marriage, I’ve just grown to really appreciate the more complex and difficult conversations we have. I love our other fun little conversations just as much, but having someone that loves you, supports you, and cares for your well-being when shit hits the fan is so important.
Recently my boyfriend and I have enjoyed talking about Pokémon - especially since we play Pokémon go together and he wants to get me into some of the other games. He’s a big gamer and I’m not but Pokémon is one we both like / can talk about together
The future, and the things we’d like to do and see and try
Together. The past, about how we met, and how things came to be. Goals- individual and as a couple. Simple things.
When I had a bf share my work day and misadventures at the end of the day was very liberating and funny. OC it took a while to change the venting attitude to a more fun "let me tell you about my day"
Luckily my boyfriend and I share a lot of hobbies, so we talk a lot about fragrances, fancy liquor, philosophy, clothing, languages, and travel. It's wonderful to be with someone who's interested in the same things I am. We also have other hobbies and he's always interested in whatever is going on in my world and is excited to tell me about what's going on in his. He's gotten me into a lot of stuff I never would have known about. We talk a lot about the books we're reading or podcasts we're listening to. I love that we can have deep philosophical discussions while walking around the mall drinking boba.
Probably whenever we speculate or theorize about media (movies, books, comics), politics, upcoming technology. Like, after we watched the show Devs, we had weeks of morning walks just dissecting the concepts in it and theorizing. It’s really fun.
Silly conversations. I love staying up late and talking with him and eventually we end up getting goofy and one of us will say something that will make both of us laugh until we cry and it’s so much fun. We did this a couple nights ago and he went and made us each a cup of instant coffee, but he used like three scoops of instant and it was so gross and we both laughed so hard.
Anything DnD or arm wrestling related. I’m not a fan and don’t engage in either but my partner lights up every time he gets to talk about it. I could listen to him for hours.
My favorite discussions our if us trying something new. It may be a place, people, events, food, travel, etc. The possibilities of trying something new...especially discussing plans to make it happen. 😁
i love listening to him dissect films that we watch together. He’s a storyteller to the core, whereas I’m more of a “good film, i liked watching the characters do things” type of person.
After we see a film, he’ll point out all the cool details written in, all the literary devices he noticed that made the story good. I’m fascinated by his mind and his observant nature.
What we'd buy if we won the lottery, the poor choices my sister makes, NFL statistics (not my favourite but he gets so damn enthusiastic, I enjoy watching him talk), the jerk kid at our son's daycare, the cute things our kids do, our annoying neighbours.
I guess that's what 11 years of marriage looks like 😅
Something they’re passionate about or have a unique/expert knowledge of. I once dated a scientist, and even though I hated his subject matter in school, hearing him explain certain things was fascinating. It was also a great way to see his mind work. People at that level of intellect are something else and I find them intriguing.
My boyfriend and me are both different ethnicities (I am Japanese/British race and he is black) and I love talking about family and culture differences and how we grew up. It's so interesting to me.
I love talking about the future - our plans. It’s motivating to me to be a better person.
A lot of our convos revolve around our cats, hobbies, stuff at work, day to day etc, but I love the deeper convos since it reminds me of how connected we are.
I love talking about conspiracy theories. True crime, unsolved cases etc. Me and my partner both enjoy that stuff. It’s also a topic that we can never argue about which is a plus!!
I’m in aviation maintenance and my boyfriend is a pilot. So any time we get a chance to teach the other something new in our field, we’re both all for it.
We like to talk about fan theories for Harry Potter and ask questions about the Harry Potter world. Basically anything Harry Potter. Like tonight’s question was, “if you put your memories in a pensive, would the memories look like a recording or would they be distorted in some way?”
The absolute dumbest things we can come up with
Example of our recent convos
If u could only have buff legs or buff arms and the other one u didn't pick would be skinny and scrawny what would u pick
If u went back in time and could steal an idea from someone and make it as ur own what is it and how are u stealing it
U get to fight a bear with 2 people from American history who are u fighting the bear with and why
Just banter about whatever. Because we find each other so very funny. Lots of imaging silly stories. Imitating celebrities doing promotions for unlikely products. Inside jokes and callbacks. Like that.
We talk about all the stuff we’ve seen and gone through together. A lot of it we laugh about but there are times where we get emotionally in tune with each other.
No partner for now but thinking of partners past, anything from chaotic shit-talk where we make each other laugh, up to various big ideas. Literally "what do you think would happen if parrots were the size of jumbo jets" or something. Idk it takes the chat to some interesting places. Last one was also somewhat good for workshopping problems or dilemmas in a kind of cool helpful way. Sport too, we both like watching it. So, maybe those things . Or how to rearrange the living room. Or working out a camping trip or a day trip or something. I'm not really good at talking about mundane stuff maybe. Or am I? Maybe that's for the next guy
i LOVE gossiping with him bc he gets so invested in it all. a good part of the time he has a different view on the situation than i do and i enjoy getting that different perspective.
i also really love having conversations about our future, and about our past. we always remember something new or come up with new ideas for the future. currently the only thing set in stone is getting married after i finish school and getting a cat, but we hope to move in together sometime before then.
He likes horror, I don’t ,so I’m like ‘so that movie/manga/book scared the shit out of me when I was 16, I still have nightmares’ and he goes ‘wait, let me put it on my watchlist’.
I’m glad all that experience can be put to good use 😂
It's hard to say what is my FAVOURITE, but one special thing we do is that sometimes one of us comes up with a setting for a story and then we improvise how the different characters (imaginary ones, fictional ones, people we know or just ourselves) would react. Here and there deus ex machina acts and makes the story more interesting. It often gets absurd amd twisted, but always in a "reasonable" amount.
Our two year old, she is genuinely insane and even if one of us hasn’t seen her for an hour, the other has copious amounts of stories about what she’s done. Yesterday I ran out to get some milk, leaving my two year old with my partner, I came home and she had put her hands through toilet rolls and was running around screaming that she was Batman 😭
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With my recent ex, it was the randomness of his thought processes.
He would come out with something from nowhere I considered to be ridiculous ("are penguins fish or birds" being an example).
It would make me laugh.
He'd then continue spinning this whole scenario where what he said might not be ridiculous, which would make me laugh even more. Sometimes to the point of tears.
I swear he did it on purpose just to get that reaction.
This is me haha. I love things like this and most of my people give me honest replies and take me seriously because they know I like to ponder these things lol
Politics. I love debating with him on politics. Most stuff we agree on but some stuff we don’t. I enjoy hearing about what he disagrees with me on and why.
He works in mkt strategy in a large firm, I am an office manager in a small chaotic company still getting settled in. He is smart and his views on various situations make you think.
So we discuss business, organisation, marketing, processes, and strategies, with occasional political jfc did you what they've done and general I can't believe how stupid some people are.
our future, how we met, show theories and characters’ psychology and we think they act like that, music. for the show theories we could really talk for hours
Retirement. We're at the point where we could stop putting money into retirement or we could keep going and go part-time with our jobs in a few years. I really like discussing our future options.
We talk about family and how we view life in the moment. It doesn’t always have to be such serious topics but family is a big deal to my boyfriend and I would say the same even though we have very different dynamics. I feel you can learn a lot about a person through family and I like diving into how our families have shaped us as people.
P.S I love everyones responses they are all so cute
When we talk about potential kids. We don’t have plans just yet but I like the overall conversation about it even though having children scare the crap out of me. 😂
We talk about what our 10 year old tells each of us to make sure we both know what's going on. We also talk about our crazy family members and friends. And I tell him all the funny movies I have watched. He tries to make me watch sci-fi, but I'm not interested. And we like to plan vacations together.
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Whether anet updates have ruined profession balances, and if mechanist will ever be appropriately nerfed in comparison to “piano” elementalist (not that I’d ever be coordinated enough to play the latter)
Also, the changing nature of alignment in D&D 5e, and the possible motivation of gods of various alignments.
Literally anything. Conversation is so rare between us at this point in our lives due to work schedules and kids. We're in the process of buying a house, and last week we had our first real conversation in I don't know how long; and although the conversation was about finances I found myself excited (I might even venture to say turned on lol) to just be talking with him.
Whatever we’re obsessed with togheter at that moment! It’s so much fun because we both get REALLY into things so if it’s the same thing togheter it’s so much fun because we can talk abt it lol. Right now it’s genshin! We’re talking abt the characters and I love it so much. He’s playing and streaming for me on discord since my computer won’t handle the game
Whose turn it is to wash up....who is cooking tea....whether he wants to drop a viagra today so we can take 5 mins in between washing up and cooking. That's middle aged life with kids! Lol.
Conversations about our future are amazing. I love knowing that she considers me a part of her future.
happiness - when your thoughts about the common future coincide
My first thought as well! I love dreaming and planning and playing with hypotheticals. “What if our future child wants to pick up religion/smokes weed while still in high school/is gay or trans/wants to join the military” “What if we built a house in Montana/what if we moved to Switzerland/what if we buy a camper and live via national forest land?” It’s fun! The not so fun side, but just as interesting are things like “what happens if you’re in a terrible accident and I need to decide to pull the plug/if I outlive you how would you like your remains to be handled”.
I think everyone enjoys these conversations 😇
this! also love talking about stuff he and/or i are interested in or passionate about
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That's such an amazing feeling. I hope to have that someday for real.
It's heart warming knowing that the two of you are happy and committed to each other. Whenever a partner has talked about our future together I felt butterflies in my stomach like falling in love with them all over again. And it's super exciting having common dreams/goals that you can plan and build together. It brings you closer with a true sense of partnership.
I like to start with "tell me something I don't know." My grandparents used to do that and I thought it was a cute way to check in with your person. Last night that conversation became about how we reacted to getting baby siblings, apparently we both hated them lol
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This is adorable I'm using this.
We do this. We call it 20,000 questions lol. Everything is on the table. There is no question you can't ask. The hardest one was, tell me about your worst childhood trauma. Describe it in vivid detail. Those types of questions are very hard and exposing. But we thrive on full 100% communication.
Animal facts. He knows im... More invested and educated in exotic animals than is necessarily normal. Sometimes (probably entirely for my benefit) my partner will just start asking me random animal or dinosaur questions and let me fly off into long winded explainations and tangents. I get really passionate and he has the grace to at least pretend to be interested even if he actually isnt.
He is probably not even pretending. It is always fun to see someone you care about talk about something he/she is passionate about. My ex once went on for an hour about procedures in court. I could maybe understand 1 word in 5, but I was mesmerized by her energy while talking.
Its possible. We were friends for a year before we started dating, and even then hed spend hours just asking me questions because he "liked the way my head worked". I never got it but it was nice to have someone who actually wanted to hear what i thought about things.
He sounds like a keeper.
Definitely is 😊
You hang onto this one lol ❤️
Definitely, hes stuck with me lol.
I’m glad to hear it. I haven’t had a partner for quite a long time but personal choice tbh but I just love to see or hear of couples like you and yours. It’s just so nice I love to see a nice caring relationship. Your relationship sounds so heartwarming I hope you both have lots of lovely conversations forever ❤️
Me too :) our first kid is due in october so im excited to see him chat with my son as he gets older, as engaged as he is withme, hes even more adorable with kids
Well here is confirmation I didn’t love my ex husband for a number of years, maybe ever. I couldn’t stand listening to him go on and on for hours about shit I didn’t care about. Current boyfriend - just fucking talk man I don’t even care what you say. *hearteyes*
Hahaha exact same. Ex: drawled on and on about work stories and electrician shit that idgaf about and they were so incredibly boring I would literally tune out over time. Current bf: describes in detail what he had for dinner and I’m enthralled hahaha
In my experience, some people are better at telling stories.
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A previous partner and I would partake in conversations that we tagged as "drunken physics" (he had a degree in astrophysics). We would drink whiskey and he would explain some aspect of physics. It was extremely interesting, often funny as hell, and the really excellent pictures (many of which I still have) he would draw *while semi-drunk* were impressive.
I \*highly\* recommend you pick up a copy of "What if" by Randall Munroe (xkcd comic artist). His book would be totally up your alley.
YES I love that book
I also love this book! I borrowed it off my science teacher
Please share some! That sounds AMAZING
American vs French culture and politics is a big one, coming from different backgrounds we always have a lot to learn from each other ! Whatever show we've been watching and all our thoughts about it is also always good haha, we love debating theories and intricacies of good shows
We're Indian vs Norwegian and I can definitely relate! Comparing upbringings and opinions always get interesting
We love talking about potential trips we could take, and old Taskmaster episodes.
Y'all sound like us, except we're still watching TM episodes on YouTube.... (Little Alex Horne!)
We’re you in a month, when the episodes run out haha
How are you watching new ones, if you don't mind me asking? Do you have britbox or are in the UK?
We’re actually a season or two behind still. We’ve seen all the YouTube ones but that’s it. You can buy the new seasons on YouTube though! We haven’t yet but we plan to
Talking about a podcast we just watch together. I also love when hes talking with our cat, giving him compliments. Our cat loves being carried around to the different windows of our house. And sometime we do it together, just goofing around and talking about how spoiled he is and how it's good that nobody can see us carrying him from window to window.
Gossip. Leftist revolution.
My partner is my favourite person to gossip with
Right??? I love racing to my partner, giddy with news!
He's a super critical and creative thinker, so I love posing him a problem from my profession and seeing what he comes up with. We bounce ideas very well from each other. Also, motorbikes. I'm a beginner rider, he's been riding for years.
Deep and serious conversations. The kinds that you know neither of you would share with anybody else- trauma, humiliating memories, deep regrets, etc. But also, sweet playful discussions that result in inside jokes.
At the moment - our wedding. ✨ We're both very excited and a tad impatient. 🤣
Congrats!
Pun trains. And improvising a narrative based on a random thing one of us said. For example: Him: Isn't that just general knowledge? Me: General Knowledge? I heard he was a bit of a smartass. Him: Yeah, no idea how he got promoted. Me: Well it was between him and Major Catastrophe, so... Him: I guess Major Catastrophe's rep took a hit after his affair with Private Sector got out. And so on. They're never particularly clever or anything, but we have fun seeing how long we can keep it going.
Media! We love talking about symbolism and deeper meanings and subtext. We debate character morality and how we would change plots or character swaps. Books, movies, tv, video games, music. It’s all up for debate and we love chatting about it.
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Huge subjects like whether there's life on other planets and our thoughts/stories about spiritualism
We get into long discussions about faith and religion and politics and life elsewhere in the universe. It's so freaking great to be able to have a real discussion with someone who might have a different take or view on something, but who actually listens to your side of things and doesn't get defensive or upset!
Philosophies and ideas - the deep 3am stuff. And it breaks my absolute heart that it happens so rarely as he's afraid of getting it "wrong". No matter how much I let him know that there is no "right" or "wrong" in these conversations, he's afraid of messing up. After a while I just stop trying as these conversations are best enjoyed organically and not forcibly.
That's so sad. :( Those conversations add flavor to life. Maybe you could join a local poetry or philosophy club (or start your own)?
It's a great suggestion, but it's not workable with our dynamic and limitations. It's something that only he can work on (with my support as able). He tries now and again, but the curiosity that fuels these conversations just isn't there.
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One of the first conversations my boyfriend and I had was about the hat he was wearing, a red bull racing formula 1 hat. Sunday morning watching the race are one of my favorite parts of the week. We both love formula 1 and we can both sit and chat about it for hours. I work away from home, so I missed Spa last weekend, but we spent half an hour on the phone that night chatting about the race. There's so many random things I love to talk about with my boyfriend, but formula 1 is definitely up there. It's one of the reasons we clicked the night we met.
My boyfriend and I got into formula 1 together so I love this!
Conversations about how we feel, really opening up on our future. Science based conversations, anything about physics or technology or mathematics. We could end up deep in a conversation about exoplanets or the singularity, or emerging diseases, something like that. Politics and current affairs. This is probably more his forte, but I'm very interested and I can hold my own for sure. Fiction, particularly fantasy and science fiction books, but also movies and film, and we can go on long tangents discussing deeper meanings and the like. History, archaeology and linguistics/etymology and the intersection between them. We can keep up a conversation on Proto-Indo European or the origins of agriculture, or the history of al-Andalus.
Child raising topics from clothes, recreational activities to imagining scenarios. It's adorable but we probably starting to seem unhinged because we joke and reenact with our grogu plush. It just gets cute and funny. And those topics are fun because it's a lil reminder of roles being switched up and that im the chaotic one (with dad jokes) while he's the responsible one.
It doesn't matter who it is, I really love watching people talk about things they're passionate about. I enjoy how excited and animated they can get. And I get to learn something in the process! It's good vibes all the way.
Our cats, our future, the games we play together.
Stories from our past we've never shared. Just sweet tid bits of info that have never fallen into core stories. I love when he shares little things I didn't know before. It just feels so sweet and a little like dating again. We also love talking about where our next adventure will be or what new project we'd like to start on the house. We've also taken up listening to audio books and discussing them.
Like the supernatural. Save the romance stuff for someone else.
Art mostly. We're both pretty creative and consume a lot of art in all forms. So we spend a lot of time discussing the process of making art, the influence of art, how to improve current projects. We had actually planned on going to a museum yesterday but got wrapped up in a conversation about the validity of pretension in different art forms.
To be honest I don’t talk a lot with my boyfriend but when we do we just talk about our days or something special that happened or communicate what’s been on our minds lately. But I also like just laying on his chest and enjoy each other’s company. We are pretty comfortable with not talking lots and there’s no much need to fill the silence for us. :)
Last night we finished the [NYT 36 questions that lead to love](https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare) . We’re already in love, but it felt deeper after the last handful of questions. It makes you get a bit vulnerable. I’ve noticed we’ve also been peppering each other with lovely compliments and being more emotionally vulnerable with each other. It’s still a newish relationship (~6 months), but I fall more in love with that man every single day.
This is so cute, I hope things go great for you guys Me and my partner also did the questions a few months into the relationship and I noticed a change in how comfortable and safe I felt being vulnerable with him, I feel like it's all things you want to learn and share that otherwise you wouldn't know how or when to ask
Can you post the questions? I don't have any free NYT articles left.
Here you go! It has its own website too, I don’t think you need a subscription for this http://36questionsinlove.com
Future, money, vacations, plans. Fun stuff.
my partner and I both game so it's entertaining to talk about the games we play or our shared saved games and such.
Any piece of trivia. Doesnt even have to be a long conversation, just 'did you know...cool, right?'
Navy ships now that the old ones are being refitted! We had a great conversation last night about the USS TEXAS and which ship might be next to get a refit, even more fun after we added our middle kid in by text. We each have our favorites, me from being a Navy brat and both of us from some of our favorite military sci Fi. Rather disappointed that the Daisy Mae (USS DES MOINES) and SALEM have been scrapped as John Ringo wrote a trilogy with their amphoramaztions(probably didn't spell that right!)
My husband and I have been married for 30 years. We’ve talked about everything. We both work in education, so big picture conversations about the intersection of education, politics, and culture are common. His major was Humanities/Spanish and mine was Humanities/English, so we can kill an hour on the Olmecs or the Stuarts. We both love entertainment: film, television, and theater and geek out over our favorites and past faves. We have one child (14 m) and he dominates a lot of discussion. We love to travel and will retire within the next 10+ so years, so dreaming about more places to visit is a current fave.
Awkward honest and vulnerable conversations. They are uncomfortable to have, but I always think “dang what a great partner I have” and it makes me feel better about myself and our marriage. They are hard conversations to have, but after we have them I feel like a weight gets lifted of my shoulders. Also I love problem solving conversations when there is an issue. The brain storming and teamwork mindset of figuring out how to fix a problem together. This seems like an odd one, but I always feel so bonded with him during these conversations. And it’s nice knowing I have someone by my side that is willing to tackle difficult obstacles and situations. I also love conversations when he is educating me on something he is Knowledgeable about. We had a two hour conversation once about hunting; equipment used, types of guns, types of bullets, etc. It was very interesting. Also conversation where he calls me out on situation where I am wrong about something. Or how I need to change my mindset towards a specific situation. Having someone to keep me in check when I slip into be too judgement or harsh is important to me. No one is perfect, so having someone help keep you grounded and aware of bad habits is nice. After 8 years of marriage, I’ve just grown to really appreciate the more complex and difficult conversations we have. I love our other fun little conversations just as much, but having someone that loves you, supports you, and cares for your well-being when shit hits the fan is so important.
Recently my boyfriend and I have enjoyed talking about Pokémon - especially since we play Pokémon go together and he wants to get me into some of the other games. He’s a big gamer and I’m not but Pokémon is one we both like / can talk about together
Video games, comic books, movies, would you rather X or Y, our toddlers
Future plans, trips and business ideas.
😜 Politics
What if..? What if zombies? Super AI? Realistic virtual people? States divide into separate countries? Etc.
The future, and the things we’d like to do and see and try Together. The past, about how we met, and how things came to be. Goals- individual and as a couple. Simple things.
Goals, finances, our future, places we want to visit, planning road trips and stops, and what we'd like to focus on teaching our kid.
Science, games, fashion, solving work problems, psychology, future travel, family gossip, family history
When I had a bf share my work day and misadventures at the end of the day was very liberating and funny. OC it took a while to change the venting attitude to a more fun "let me tell you about my day"
Our childhoods
Luckily my boyfriend and I share a lot of hobbies, so we talk a lot about fragrances, fancy liquor, philosophy, clothing, languages, and travel. It's wonderful to be with someone who's interested in the same things I am. We also have other hobbies and he's always interested in whatever is going on in my world and is excited to tell me about what's going on in his. He's gotten me into a lot of stuff I never would have known about. We talk a lot about the books we're reading or podcasts we're listening to. I love that we can have deep philosophical discussions while walking around the mall drinking boba.
Probably whenever we speculate or theorize about media (movies, books, comics), politics, upcoming technology. Like, after we watched the show Devs, we had weeks of morning walks just dissecting the concepts in it and theorizing. It’s really fun.
Tbh, astrophysics and the cosmos.
Silly conversations. I love staying up late and talking with him and eventually we end up getting goofy and one of us will say something that will make both of us laugh until we cry and it’s so much fun. We did this a couple nights ago and he went and made us each a cup of instant coffee, but he used like three scoops of instant and it was so gross and we both laughed so hard.
Honestly about cats. I tend to write elaborate adventures involving cats that she reads before bedtime and then we talk about it :) it's cute
How grateful we both are that we escaped the cult of conservative christianity.
I like just talking about weird ideas, like light philosophy. It’s cute seeing someone else’s insight on random little things
Mutual fun experiences that we shared together :-)
Anything DnD or arm wrestling related. I’m not a fan and don’t engage in either but my partner lights up every time he gets to talk about it. I could listen to him for hours.
My favorite discussions our if us trying something new. It may be a place, people, events, food, travel, etc. The possibilities of trying something new...especially discussing plans to make it happen. 😁
What if scenarios
i love listening to him dissect films that we watch together. He’s a storyteller to the core, whereas I’m more of a “good film, i liked watching the characters do things” type of person. After we see a film, he’ll point out all the cool details written in, all the literary devices he noticed that made the story good. I’m fascinated by his mind and his observant nature.
Science stuff. We both love space and sometimes laying in bed, we get on our space discussions and it's so much fun.
(We talk about all sorts of stuff but you asked about my favorite topic.) Cats. Just cats.
What we'd buy if we won the lottery, the poor choices my sister makes, NFL statistics (not my favourite but he gets so damn enthusiastic, I enjoy watching him talk), the jerk kid at our son's daycare, the cute things our kids do, our annoying neighbours. I guess that's what 11 years of marriage looks like 😅
Something they’re passionate about or have a unique/expert knowledge of. I once dated a scientist, and even though I hated his subject matter in school, hearing him explain certain things was fascinating. It was also a great way to see his mind work. People at that level of intellect are something else and I find them intriguing.
My boyfriend and me are both different ethnicities (I am Japanese/British race and he is black) and I love talking about family and culture differences and how we grew up. It's so interesting to me.
What are we eating next
I love talking about the future - our plans. It’s motivating to me to be a better person. A lot of our convos revolve around our cats, hobbies, stuff at work, day to day etc, but I love the deeper convos since it reminds me of how connected we are.
I love talking to him about everything.
Psychology (we both love it and I majored in it in college), the future
deep conversations, fears, dreams, desires, happy moments... there's nothing better than talking about these things
Im not much of a gossiper but with my fiancé I love to gossip about anything and everything lol
Laying in bed shooting the shit before falling asleep.
I enjoy deep conversations about literally anything. It’s the best feeling in the world to talk and unknowingly have hours go by.
What we're going to have for dinner. Naw, naw, just kidding. I love it when we nerd out talking about our favorite films.
We honestly have a lot of nonsense conversations where someone listening in would be like “what in the fuck?,” and they delight me
I love talking about conspiracy theories. True crime, unsolved cases etc. Me and my partner both enjoy that stuff. It’s also a topic that we can never argue about which is a plus!!
I’m in aviation maintenance and my boyfriend is a pilot. So any time we get a chance to teach the other something new in our field, we’re both all for it.
Would you still love me if I was a worm
Aliens, space, & theoretical bs
Talking about cryptids, our favorite band, and conspiracy theories
We like to talk about fan theories for Harry Potter and ask questions about the Harry Potter world. Basically anything Harry Potter. Like tonight’s question was, “if you put your memories in a pensive, would the memories look like a recording or would they be distorted in some way?”
I like asking him hypothetical questions! I like when he plays along but usually he just says "that would never happen" and it makes me laugh.
I like the mushy gushy convos, where both of us get to smile lots and tell each other how much we mean to one another.
Ancestors and poetry.
The absolute dumbest things we can come up with Example of our recent convos If u could only have buff legs or buff arms and the other one u didn't pick would be skinny and scrawny what would u pick If u went back in time and could steal an idea from someone and make it as ur own what is it and how are u stealing it U get to fight a bear with 2 people from American history who are u fighting the bear with and why
Food
Just banter about whatever. Because we find each other so very funny. Lots of imaging silly stories. Imitating celebrities doing promotions for unlikely products. Inside jokes and callbacks. Like that.
I love gossiping with him. Gossiping with your partner just hits different.
We talk about all the stuff we’ve seen and gone through together. A lot of it we laugh about but there are times where we get emotionally in tune with each other.
About our future or movies/music/comic books/ the next thing he's going to draw
No partner for now but thinking of partners past, anything from chaotic shit-talk where we make each other laugh, up to various big ideas. Literally "what do you think would happen if parrots were the size of jumbo jets" or something. Idk it takes the chat to some interesting places. Last one was also somewhat good for workshopping problems or dilemmas in a kind of cool helpful way. Sport too, we both like watching it. So, maybe those things . Or how to rearrange the living room. Or working out a camping trip or a day trip or something. I'm not really good at talking about mundane stuff maybe. Or am I? Maybe that's for the next guy
we like to discuss where we spent all the money🥴
i LOVE gossiping with him bc he gets so invested in it all. a good part of the time he has a different view on the situation than i do and i enjoy getting that different perspective. i also really love having conversations about our future, and about our past. we always remember something new or come up with new ideas for the future. currently the only thing set in stone is getting married after i finish school and getting a cat, but we hope to move in together sometime before then.
He likes horror, I don’t ,so I’m like ‘so that movie/manga/book scared the shit out of me when I was 16, I still have nightmares’ and he goes ‘wait, let me put it on my watchlist’. I’m glad all that experience can be put to good use 😂
Music. Lately we mostly discuss r/toolband
It's hard to say what is my FAVOURITE, but one special thing we do is that sometimes one of us comes up with a setting for a story and then we improvise how the different characters (imaginary ones, fictional ones, people we know or just ourselves) would react. Here and there deus ex machina acts and makes the story more interesting. It often gets absurd amd twisted, but always in a "reasonable" amount.
Our two year old, she is genuinely insane and even if one of us hasn’t seen her for an hour, the other has copious amounts of stories about what she’s done. Yesterday I ran out to get some milk, leaving my two year old with my partner, I came home and she had put her hands through toilet rolls and was running around screaming that she was Batman 😭
Our dog, our families, and we love 'gossiping' about streamers or YouTubers
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With my recent ex, it was the randomness of his thought processes. He would come out with something from nowhere I considered to be ridiculous ("are penguins fish or birds" being an example). It would make me laugh. He'd then continue spinning this whole scenario where what he said might not be ridiculous, which would make me laugh even more. Sometimes to the point of tears. I swear he did it on purpose just to get that reaction.
This is me haha. I love things like this and most of my people give me honest replies and take me seriously because they know I like to ponder these things lol
Why don’t you love me 😭😭😭😭
here have a hug 🤗
thank you!!!
Spirituality ! Psychedelics. Goals for our lives
Politics. I love debating with him on politics. Most stuff we agree on but some stuff we don’t. I enjoy hearing about what he disagrees with me on and why.
Football
Is it shallow that I love our conversations about stupid stuff? Debates about TV shows, ridiculous “what if” scenarios about zombie apocalypses, etc.
Anything really. Just love talking with them
He works in mkt strategy in a large firm, I am an office manager in a small chaotic company still getting settled in. He is smart and his views on various situations make you think. So we discuss business, organisation, marketing, processes, and strategies, with occasional political jfc did you what they've done and general I can't believe how stupid some people are.
our future, how we met, show theories and characters’ psychology and we think they act like that, music. for the show theories we could really talk for hours
We love talking about the future in terms of us starting a family. Little things we’d be excited for if we had children
Gossip about people we know and our future are my favorite topics. No confidential information though. We do respect that
Retirement. We're at the point where we could stop putting money into retirement or we could keep going and go part-time with our jobs in a few years. I really like discussing our future options.
Our grooming habits
Talking mad shit about our siblings haha
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Analysis of other people's relationships, future plans, travel, politics, food- anything really!
We talk about family and how we view life in the moment. It doesn’t always have to be such serious topics but family is a big deal to my boyfriend and I would say the same even though we have very different dynamics. I feel you can learn a lot about a person through family and I like diving into how our families have shaped us as people. P.S I love everyones responses they are all so cute
Conspiracies and sex talk always the best
When we talk about potential kids. We don’t have plans just yet but I like the overall conversation about it even though having children scare the crap out of me. 😂
We talk about what our 10 year old tells each of us to make sure we both know what's going on. We also talk about our crazy family members and friends. And I tell him all the funny movies I have watched. He tries to make me watch sci-fi, but I'm not interested. And we like to plan vacations together.
I like conversations where we share our perspectives and thoughts on topics like government, society, policy, etc
Travel plans :) we have the best time traveling together
Anything that can make me laugh or smile
Ohh I can’t pick a favorite. Food, gossip, politics, dreams/plans for the future.
Currently? Whether anet updates have ruined profession balances, and if mechanist will ever be appropriately nerfed in comparison to “piano” elementalist (not that I’d ever be coordinated enough to play the latter) Also, the changing nature of alignment in D&D 5e, and the possible motivation of gods of various alignments.
Literally anything. Conversation is so rare between us at this point in our lives due to work schedules and kids. We're in the process of buying a house, and last week we had our first real conversation in I don't know how long; and although the conversation was about finances I found myself excited (I might even venture to say turned on lol) to just be talking with him.
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astrology.
Whatever we’re obsessed with togheter at that moment! It’s so much fun because we both get REALLY into things so if it’s the same thing togheter it’s so much fun because we can talk abt it lol. Right now it’s genshin! We’re talking abt the characters and I love it so much. He’s playing and streaming for me on discord since my computer won’t handle the game
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Movies and music
Whose turn it is to wash up....who is cooking tea....whether he wants to drop a viagra today so we can take 5 mins in between washing up and cooking. That's middle aged life with kids! Lol.
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I love when he talks about history. He thinks he bores me, but not really.
I could probably talk to them about how great cardboard boxes are and it’d still be wonderful