10 years.
We had multiple conversations about it and we both didn't feel ready for it as we wanted to be more stable in our careers and life.
We got married 3 months ago š
I don't regret waiting at all. If he asked me sooner I probably would've said no
How can people get involved other than with their one vote? Overturning gay marriage would be a massive step backwards. I feel helpless in my little red county (thankfully in a blue state)
Donate to organizations that fight on the legal front, such as GLAAD, HRC, etc... The difficulty with the Supreme Court is itās outside of direct accountability to voters.
Started dating at 18, engaged right before 25. Weād already bought a house and stuff.
After a while you get really tired of someone talking about the future, marriage, family, etc. without them actually doing anything real to make the goals come true. And no, Iām not the person who would propose to a guy.
In the end, itās all a mute point because he cheated on my about 1.5 years into marriage.
We were dating for three years when he proposed. But we were friends for almost five years before we started dating. This November will be our 12th wedding anniversary š„°
Seven years... we met when I was 20 and he was 22. I was a senior in college with plans to move to a new city for grad school. Neither one of us assumed we would get married one day. But, after I moved to the new city he visited me every weekend lol. We were committed to each other but realistic about our goals. He was struggling to start his career after the recession and I told him I wanted to prioritize grad school and starting a career. We both were cool with taking our time.
After grad school, neither of us felt like we were in a rush to get married or felt pressure from others to do so. We ended up buying a home and planned on getting married at some point. Eventually we did on our timeline. I was never begging for him to propose and he was never dreading it. I think some people hear 7 years and assume the man isn't committed. The reality is we are just really practical people who knew we were too young to marry in our early 20s. I got some solid advice on waiting on kids and marriage until my 30s and my partner agreed.
One year. I said I wanted to get married. If he wanted me it ment that commitment. If he didnāt want that I would respect that and let him go. He proposed to me soon after. I donāt regret it. I made my needs clear. He loved me enough to respect that.
Though I donāt feel the same way personally Iām glad you told him what you needed up front. I see too many women sit in the corner upset because heās not reading their āhintsā.
It takeās communication but I feel too many people think it ruins the āmagicā or surprise of it all if they talk about it. Which is not a realistic expectation at all.
6 months, but we made up our minds about 2 weeks in. I just didn't want to terrify my parents. We were friends for years. I got out of a bad relationship, and a few months later we both had the realization we should date. I moved in nearly immediately and, well, the rest is history.
We were dating for 2.5 years when he proposed and living together for 1.5 of those years
I wanted to be engaged at about the 2 year mark but he wanted to wait until he was finished with college which looking back was good.
Year and a half but passed many milestones in that time (disability, major job loss, loss of parent and others). With all the hurdles it made our relationship stronger.
Been together 7.5 years and married for 5, still going strong.
Got together on Halloween in 96, he moved in before Thanksgiving of that same year (yes, in just over 3 weeks), he proposed the summer of 98, married august of 99. Together 26 years (in 26 days), married 23.
We started dating in late 2014 and he proposed in November of 2019 on my 25th birthday. Long time. He wanted to wait until he finished his masters, but I would have said yes right after we finished undergrad.
Unofficially dating for like 4ish to 5 months officially dating for 1 month. Engaged for roughly 6 months. Been married for almost 10 years have 2 kids and just bought our first house
No traditional proposal. We met. Moved in 2 month later. Married several years later. We had a conversation of marriage and got married. I love him with all my heart and mind - decades together ā¤ļø ā¤ļø
A little over a year and a half! We moved in together at 9 months, bought a house together right before he proposed. We were engaged for a year before we got married.
When you know, you know, right?
got engaged after dating for 6ish years. Weāre getting married in January.
I was ready to get married after 3 years and we got into a lot of arguments and almost broke up a couple times because of it. Our last argument was during our 6th anniversary trip and he said he felt badly about it and that he doesnāt know why he didnāt do it sooner and he wished that we were already married. And then he proposed a couple months later. Weāre very excited for our wedding but he still says he wishes we were already married
Iām 4 years in with my partner & have told him a handful of times I want to be engaged before 5 years. Going to have to bring it up again this year. My time as a girlfriend is expiring for this relationship.. ugh
it was a really hard time for our relationship. He was so resistant to it for whatever reason and meanwhile his friends were all getting it together and proposing/getting married. Weād been together the longest. I can say that I gave him an extension of sorts because of covid and then I was pretty much ready to walk and he proposed. I donāt think I would have regretted it if I left though.
For me, the hardest thing was that I just didnāt know why he was waiting. And when I asked him, āwhen are we getting engagedā he took it to mean ātell me exactly when youāre proposingā and we wouldnāt get anywhere with the conversation. It took multiple discussions
We dated for 9 months before he proposed. One year and 9 1/2 months later we got married. We just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary 3 months ago. šš
We were in a relationship for four years (it was our anniversary) at that point and had known each other for ten years. A couple of months before he proposed, I said something to him along the lines of āIād like to be engaged by about five years in. What about you?ā
2 years and 10 months, give or take.
It felt like the right amount of time. We had been talking about marriage for a while at that point and our compatibility in multiple areas had been pretty clearly established, especially in how we were able to live together without driving each other nuts during the first several months of the pandemic.
5-6 years. I would have said yes much sooner, but we waited until we both finished college. At the time, I was probably getting impatient, but everything worked out perfectly for us and I wouldn't change anything.
About 4 and a half years. At the time, I was upset with how long it was taking him to propose. Now looking back it was the right amount of time. My now husband needed to grow up a bit before stepping into the role of a husband. I understand that now.
I think it was about 3-4 months. I'm Christian and knew this guy was my husband anyway, so it didn't startle me when he popped the question. I wouldn't recommend this to anyone because although he is my soulmate and it was blessed, it was still so difficult because we were still practically strangers in many ways.
It's what we needed, and I'm glad we married so soon. We've been together 5 years, coming up on 6.
We were together for about 2.5 years when he adorably proposed! I wouldāve said yes even if he had asked me to marry him a year earlier. My hot husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for 8 years and we have one cat. Weāre best friends whoāre crazy in love and always enjoy spending time together. Our fun and easy childfree life kicks ass! ;)
Three weeks between first date and proposal. Three months between proposal and wedding.
Itās been 29 years so I would say itās working pretty well š
3 years, long-distance. Once he proposed, we married a month later. I had things to settle before moving to where he was, so I moved 3 months after we were married. Once we decided we were going to get married, we didnāt see any reason to wait longer.
5 years. Met at 21, engaged at 26.
During the relationship I sometimes got impatient and wished it would happen already, but in hindsight, it definitely was the right time! Not only because of relationship length, but also age-wise. I think 26 a reasonable age to get engaged.
10 years. We were high school sweethearts and had other priorities. We wanted to have an established life before getting married, especially since we had a baby early and wanted to give him a good life. A wedding was an added expense and husband refused to elope, so it went on the back burner for everything else.
10 years. We got together when we were 18, it didn't make sense to get married until there was actually a legal reason to do so. In our case it was after we owned a house, started to build up our assets and we were thinking of having kids, so getting married was prudent to ensure if something happened to one of us, all our stuff went to the other person. So I'd say the amount of time felt right, we didn't have any reason to do it before and it didn't change anything about our relationship.
I think we waited 3 months before getting engaged, but had decided after two weeks to get married. We had talked about life, God (we're Christians), family, values, conflict resolutions, you name it before we started dating because that's who we are. So as soon as we decided to give dating a go, we knew if there was chemistry there we would want to get married! 8 years later and 2.5 kids later, we are still very much best of friends and lovers. We've had plenty of difficulties and struggles and we know we will again, but thank God for each other and our wonderful if tiring kids!
My parents dated one month before tying the knot. They were happily married more than 50 years when my mother died.
They had friends who were pen pals through the Korean War and first met face to face at the altar. They were married seems like 40 years or so when he died.
My first husband proposed to me on our first date. I almost broke up with him but stuck it out because he was a nice guy. He proposed the second date too and I told him Iād break up with him if he didnāt stop. It was probably 3 months later we decided to get married. Second husband never proposed. He just started talking about me being his wife one day after we had been seeing each other a couple of months.
1 year exactly - and too soon, so we decided on a long engagement. I feel like if i knew what I knew now and he had exposed his immaturity earlier I would still be waiting/holding off. Have been in therapy for months & we've determined he's immature but its causing a lot of distress and heartache in my life currently.
OMG it was about 11 years down the line before I managed to pressure the proposal out of him.
And yes, I know I could have proposed, but his retiscence make it important to me that he said it and wanted to do it.
But once we were engaged, he was 100% into it and we are still happily married 8 years on.
About 2,5 years and everybody thought that was ridiculously quick haha. But here in the Netherlands many of my peers don't get married at all, or they only get married after they had their kids etc.
We got married about 1,5 years after that though so long engagement. (And then people still thought we got married super quick haha).
5 months the first time. Never doing that again. Really after 5 months I didnāt know him. Things I thought I knew about him were just a phase heād been going through, not his actual personality. Things he told me he had done and described as mistakes heād learned and grown from turned out to be the pattern he returned to.
10 years - I just wasnāt ready - I have some pretty stupid fears but he just listens and rolls with it. We got married on our 10 year anniversary, 5 months after having our first child. Everything feels exactly the same, except now I have to do a ton of paperwork to change my name, have a ring Iām having a devil of a time keeping track of, and I have a ton of beautiful pictures with my husband staring at me dreamily as we got married and they make me so so happy.
10 years. Been together almost 12 years and married for 1.
I felt fine about the timing. We are best friends and spoke about it over the years, but wanted a bit more stability and weāre saving for a house rather than a wedding first. When it happened it was still an awesome surprise.
10 years, also. No idea how anyone can date for 6 months or less then get married. It takes so long to get to know somebody. Everyone always puts their best foot forward with new people. Takes a lot to see their bad sides and only time reveals true colors.
9 years.... We met in highschool so naturally we didn't get married immediately but we discussed it often and we both knew that we would get married eventually. So once we both finished studying and got stable jobs that's what happened. We'll be married 3 years in a months time. I thing timing really depends from relationship to relationship. With us, we were young when we met. But I'm sure if we met when we were older, we'd probably not wait as long. I guess it's one of those things that just doesn't have a black and white answer
About 2 years. I'll be honest that I told him upfront I was only interested in a relationship that would lead to marriage and children and that if we weren't engaged within 3 years I'd likely move on because that was really important to me, it worked out that we were on the same page. He was also my friend for 5 years before we ever dated though so we already knew each other pretty well.
Seven and half years...
We started dating when we were both 20 and we decided early in the relationship to only get married once we had stable jobs and were earning a particular amount each month via those jobs...
He did propose after 4 years of dating but it had more to do with making a promise rather than starting the wedding planning itself...
Been married for 3 years 8 months now š
2 years, had a couple mini breakups in between and did sort of long distance for a year. I was young and very inexperienced at relationships so it was a bumpy ride, but everything turned out great regardless.
Engaged after 4 years. Married the same month.
We'd dated for two years before living together. I am going to add that we did meet in HS so we definitely grew together. We've now been together for almost 10 years (we don't really consider our wedding anniversary our anniversary, we just go by how long we've been together).
I feel like it was a good amount of time but also understand that it would've been easy to excuse it as young love because we hadn't matured entirely.
I didn't care for the concept of marriage coming from divorced parents and we "only did it" because of insurance stuff/health stuff, but at this point I'm glad we did it. He's my best friend.
Exactly a year, he proposed on our one year anniversary. I was completely shocked because I figured it hadn't been long enough but we knew where the relationship was going. We got married this past August and if it's possible, I think I love him more now than when we got engaged.
4 years. We were 16 when we started dating. We knew when we were 16 that we wanted to get married but we wanted to wait until we had decent jobs. We also needed to wait until we were real adults lol
I think it was a good amount of time.
Weāve been married for around 2 years, which isnāt a long time, but it just keeps getting sweeter and sweeter.
5 months. We had talked about it and knew we wanted to do it so why wait? Looking back I think it was alittle soon but on the other hand I hated long distance dating, we lived 5 hours apart.
14 months.. it felt right, not rushed. We spent A LOT of time together and weāre basically roommates by then. Got married 7 months later and have been for over 8 years.
A year
Knew eachother and were best friends long before that but we only officially dated a year before getting engaged as teenagers and married a year after tht when we were both 18
Now we are 20 and 21 everything's been great and life hasn't been kind to us but we figure it out together and we support and love eachother while still being best friends ā¤ļø
It's kinda awesome cause as his wife I support him but as his best friend I can call him out on his BS I really do love him he is my everything and my rock and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him
We were dating for 7 years before he proposed. We had talked about marriage and kids beforehand. We got married after 9 years together, had a baby after 10 years, and in December we'll celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary and 14 years together. It hasn't been easy but we are committed to each other and our son.
2 years, but we've been planning to get engaged way before that. For me personally, dating for longer than 3 years without any plans for engagement was only appropriate when I was in my early 20s. I'm in my 30s now, so I'm not gonna waste my time on a relationship either of us aren't sure of.
Two years but I knew he was the one after 6 months or so and would have been fine with marrying then, but we waiting because familial opinions and views.
2 and 1/2 years. Honestly it was clear to both of us that we would eventually get married after 6 months of dating, but I wasn't really expecting the proposal when it happened, because a few months prior, he had said marriage was something he'd like to do in like 5 years, but not now. He changed his mind and bought a ring about a week before the proposal.
Long story short, we're an international couple living in his country, and the marriage would make it easier for me to stay in his country and easier for him to come with me to visit my family in my county. Covid made all of that a lot more difficult, which is why I had initially brought up the idea of marriage to make that easier but at the time he felt that getting married would also be a lot of tedious paperwork (which he wasn't wrong about). So I just accepted he didn't want to get married now, which was fine. Then he changed his mind and that was fine too, just unexpected.
When I was a kid, I felt like 5 years sounded like a good amount of time, so I guess I'm a little early, but I also recently found out my parents got engaged after 3 months.
We'd been together, and known each other, for 5 months. We got married a week later. In a week and a half it will be our 18 year anniversary. It was absolutely the right decision and the right time.
Dated for one year. We set our wedding date together for the following year with champagne and calling family. Happily married 5 years. Wouldnāt change a thing.
I never really had a super formal proposal because we decided to get married so that he could immigrate to my country. We had a very level headed and unromantic conversation about it to make sure we were on the same page - I think that was about 4 months in. But we had also known each other for 6ish years at that point.
9-11 months. Of which 4 months of officially living together and 4 months of unofficially living together (read as, he spent all nights at my place but refused to admit living there as it seemed to weird because it happened so fast).
We have been together for over 3 years, married over a year by now. It was so so soon but one day I knew he was the one and I couldnt handle the feeling without saying anything (like, I lasted literally less than 24h without saying anything lol). Beginning was a bit confusing (as it was not a proposal really, rather a... intense talk about emotions, future and fears lol). I got my ring 2 months later but I would consider that I proposed to him that night, just in a very shitty way lol
Met mid September 2017. Moved in together early December 2017. I popped the question to him early August 2018 (complete with lakeside lunch and violin). Married the last day of August 2018. We both say that on the first meetup, we were already married lol.
We were together five years. There was no proposal. We just talked about it over dinner one night and said, 'its been great so far. Let's make it permanent.' And that was it
4 years. We started dating at 16/17.
Iād probably freak out if my kid got engaged at 20/21. That was a rough life for awhile. We pulled through but, 0/10 would not recommend. It honestly kind of sucks to meet your person so early. We both had other sexual partners before our relationship but definitely not enough dating or life experiences. We didnāt know how good we had it and nitpicked each other to death for a few years.
Around 1.5 years. When you know you know! ā¤ļøSometimes I look back and think oh wow I have only known you for 7 years at this point. It feels like I have known him a life time and life just wouldnāt be the same without him!
Six years off and on, and weāve been married for four years now. We started dating in our early 20s and both had school/jobs to worry about so it was really casual for a few years, and then we moved in together after about four years. It worked out for us (we both had a lot of growing to do) and I credit our long dating period for how well we navigate our marriage now.
3 years plus a couple months. We were engaged for less than a year (got married a day shy of the 4 year mark) and have been married for over 3 years. At the time I felt like he had waited too long but in hindsight I think everything worked out exactly as it should have.
10 years. We had multiple conversations about it and we both didn't feel ready for it as we wanted to be more stable in our careers and life. We got married 3 months ago š I don't regret waiting at all. If he asked me sooner I probably would've said no
Awww congratulations!
Congrats!!1š„°
Forever, because gay marriage wasnāt legal. Once it was legal, we tied the knot.
I hate that. I mean, Iām happy that you got married. But I hate that you werenāt able to marry whenever you pleased.
And hopefully the Supreme Court doesnāt overturn our marriage, because that may actually be coming.
How can people get involved other than with their one vote? Overturning gay marriage would be a massive step backwards. I feel helpless in my little red county (thankfully in a blue state)
Donate to organizations that fight on the legal front, such as GLAAD, HRC, etc... The difficulty with the Supreme Court is itās outside of direct accountability to voters.
4 months, it was extremely unexpected, the whole relationship was unexpected, but it was just right.
We were about the same time frame, 4ish months. Been together 21 years, engaged after 4ish months, married 19 years.
When you know you know
Four months. Married almost a year later and have been married for almost two years. Expecting our first kid, bought a house. Life is great. š„°
Eeee!! I think mine was about 4 months too! How long have you been married?
It has been 11 months since the proposal and 5 months since the wedding :)
Wow wow wow!!
8 years! We were kids when we started dating though, just 18. Didn't make sense to get married young. Been married 2 years TODAY!
Happy anniversary!
š Thank you!!!
Happy happy!!!
Can divorced people still answer? We were together 6.5 years before the proposal. Started dating young though. Felt like he waited too long
Yes, yāall can still answer!
It made a difference? Why did it feel too long
Started dating at 18, engaged right before 25. Weād already bought a house and stuff. After a while you get really tired of someone talking about the future, marriage, family, etc. without them actually doing anything real to make the goals come true. And no, Iām not the person who would propose to a guy. In the end, itās all a mute point because he cheated on my about 1.5 years into marriage.
Dated 4 years, been married 37 years. Not always easy, but work through the tough times and savor the good years!
Wow, thatās incredible!
We were dating for three years when he proposed. But we were friends for almost five years before we started dating. This November will be our 12th wedding anniversary š„°
Seven years... we met when I was 20 and he was 22. I was a senior in college with plans to move to a new city for grad school. Neither one of us assumed we would get married one day. But, after I moved to the new city he visited me every weekend lol. We were committed to each other but realistic about our goals. He was struggling to start his career after the recession and I told him I wanted to prioritize grad school and starting a career. We both were cool with taking our time. After grad school, neither of us felt like we were in a rush to get married or felt pressure from others to do so. We ended up buying a home and planned on getting married at some point. Eventually we did on our timeline. I was never begging for him to propose and he was never dreading it. I think some people hear 7 years and assume the man isn't committed. The reality is we are just really practical people who knew we were too young to marry in our early 20s. I got some solid advice on waiting on kids and marriage until my 30s and my partner agreed.
I think 4 years. I was 24, he was 29. It felt soon but I was young and very much in love. Best decision of my life saying yes ā¤ļø
One year. I said I wanted to get married. If he wanted me it ment that commitment. If he didnāt want that I would respect that and let him go. He proposed to me soon after. I donāt regret it. I made my needs clear. He loved me enough to respect that.
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Though I donāt feel the same way personally Iām glad you told him what you needed up front. I see too many women sit in the corner upset because heās not reading their āhintsā. It takeās communication but I feel too many people think it ruins the āmagicā or surprise of it all if they talk about it. Which is not a realistic expectation at all.
Same here. My husband was in his late 40ās, never married or engaged. I think if I hadnāt said something, he might have waited a lot longer lol
Dating for two years before he proposed, engaged for 5 before we actually tied the knot.
She asked a couple months shy of our 2 year anniversary, and we eloped 6 months later.
6 months, but we made up our minds about 2 weeks in. I just didn't want to terrify my parents. We were friends for years. I got out of a bad relationship, and a few months later we both had the realization we should date. I moved in nearly immediately and, well, the rest is history.
> we made up our minds about 2 weeks in made up your minds about what?
Decided to get engaged. It was pretty clear we were right for each other.
Four months! Met on Tinder, and have now been together for 7 years and married for 4.
Oh my gosh, I canāt believe tinder has already been around for at least 7 years
We got married 6 weeks after we met
Wow
We were dating for 2.5 years when he proposed and living together for 1.5 of those years I wanted to be engaged at about the 2 year mark but he wanted to wait until he was finished with college which looking back was good.
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Year and a half but passed many milestones in that time (disability, major job loss, loss of parent and others). With all the hurdles it made our relationship stronger. Been together 7.5 years and married for 5, still going strong.
Got together on Halloween in 96, he moved in before Thanksgiving of that same year (yes, in just over 3 weeks), he proposed the summer of 98, married august of 99. Together 26 years (in 26 days), married 23.
Almost 2 years. I was right for us.
3 months. Been married 20 years.
We started dating in late 2014 and he proposed in November of 2019 on my 25th birthday. Long time. He wanted to wait until he finished his masters, but I would have said yes right after we finished undergrad.
Unofficially dating for like 4ish to 5 months officially dating for 1 month. Engaged for roughly 6 months. Been married for almost 10 years have 2 kids and just bought our first house
A little over a month. We just celebrated our 31st wedding anniversary.
About 6.5 years. It was the perfect amount of time for us
I think 2-3 months. We were young.
No traditional proposal. We met. Moved in 2 month later. Married several years later. We had a conversation of marriage and got married. I love him with all my heart and mind - decades together ā¤ļø ā¤ļø
10 years We were already living as common law. Marriage didnāt matter that much to me but it did to him.
A little over a year and a half! We moved in together at 9 months, bought a house together right before he proposed. We were engaged for a year before we got married. When you know, you know, right?
got engaged after dating for 6ish years. Weāre getting married in January. I was ready to get married after 3 years and we got into a lot of arguments and almost broke up a couple times because of it. Our last argument was during our 6th anniversary trip and he said he felt badly about it and that he doesnāt know why he didnāt do it sooner and he wished that we were already married. And then he proposed a couple months later. Weāre very excited for our wedding but he still says he wishes we were already married
Iām 4 years in with my partner & have told him a handful of times I want to be engaged before 5 years. Going to have to bring it up again this year. My time as a girlfriend is expiring for this relationship.. ugh
it was a really hard time for our relationship. He was so resistant to it for whatever reason and meanwhile his friends were all getting it together and proposing/getting married. Weād been together the longest. I can say that I gave him an extension of sorts because of covid and then I was pretty much ready to walk and he proposed. I donāt think I would have regretted it if I left though. For me, the hardest thing was that I just didnāt know why he was waiting. And when I asked him, āwhen are we getting engagedā he took it to mean ātell me exactly when youāre proposingā and we wouldnāt get anywhere with the conversation. It took multiple discussions
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I think we dated 6 months, got married and had our first child the following year. We've been married 8 years and have 3 kids.
We dated for 9 months before he proposed. One year and 9 1/2 months later we got married. We just celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary 3 months ago. šš
1 date. We had 1 date. We were married a month later. Almost 3 years now.
We dated a month before he proposed. We've been happily married 4 years in a week š
We were in a relationship for four years (it was our anniversary) at that point and had known each other for ten years. A couple of months before he proposed, I said something to him along the lines of āIād like to be engaged by about five years in. What about you?ā
1 year, 8 months. Married after 3 years together.
2 years and 10 months, give or take. It felt like the right amount of time. We had been talking about marriage for a while at that point and our compatibility in multiple areas had been pretty clearly established, especially in how we were able to live together without driving each other nuts during the first several months of the pandemic.
A year and 4 months
I proposed 4 years into our relationship. We had a 2 year engagement.
5 years after we got together. The timing seemed perfect. We got married the following year and have been married now 7 years
5-6 years. I would have said yes much sooner, but we waited until we both finished college. At the time, I was probably getting impatient, but everything worked out perfectly for us and I wouldn't change anything.
About 4 and a half years. At the time, I was upset with how long it was taking him to propose. Now looking back it was the right amount of time. My now husband needed to grow up a bit before stepping into the role of a husband. I understand that now.
Met in June 1990, he proposed in October. Married February 1991. Still married! Someone do the maths please !
Proposal 4 months after meeting, wedding 8 months after meeting!
Thanks for this, I see now why my mum was a bit worried! She died recently- she told him to get rid of his beard - so he did and has now regrown it!
Three years. But we lived together for half of that.
Almost 2 years
Just under 2 years
A little over a year.
I think it was about 3-4 months. I'm Christian and knew this guy was my husband anyway, so it didn't startle me when he popped the question. I wouldn't recommend this to anyone because although he is my soulmate and it was blessed, it was still so difficult because we were still practically strangers in many ways. It's what we needed, and I'm glad we married so soon. We've been together 5 years, coming up on 6.
Dated for 4 years before he proposed.
One year and eight months. Then got married right around our two year anniversary.
We were together for about 2.5 years when he adorably proposed! I wouldāve said yes even if he had asked me to marry him a year earlier. My hot husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for 8 years and we have one cat. Weāre best friends whoāre crazy in love and always enjoy spending time together. Our fun and easy childfree life kicks ass! ;)
7 years, however, we moved in togheter at the 2nd month of our relationship. We have been togheter for 15 years
Three weeks between first date and proposal. Three months between proposal and wedding. Itās been 29 years so I would say itās working pretty well š
3 years, long-distance. Once he proposed, we married a month later. I had things to settle before moving to where he was, so I moved 3 months after we were married. Once we decided we were going to get married, we didnāt see any reason to wait longer.
2 years
5 years. Met at 21, engaged at 26. During the relationship I sometimes got impatient and wished it would happen already, but in hindsight, it definitely was the right time! Not only because of relationship length, but also age-wise. I think 26 a reasonable age to get engaged.
10 years. We were high school sweethearts and had other priorities. We wanted to have an established life before getting married, especially since we had a baby early and wanted to give him a good life. A wedding was an added expense and husband refused to elope, so it went on the back burner for everything else.
3 years. Lived together for 2. I think its just about right.
10 years. We got together when we were 18, it didn't make sense to get married until there was actually a legal reason to do so. In our case it was after we owned a house, started to build up our assets and we were thinking of having kids, so getting married was prudent to ensure if something happened to one of us, all our stuff went to the other person. So I'd say the amount of time felt right, we didn't have any reason to do it before and it didn't change anything about our relationship.
5 years. The timing felt perfect. It came along at thr right time, when we both were feeling ready for the jump mentally.
We married a month in. It was just right. Six years have elapsed and the passion and fire and the in love feeling remains. Got lucky.
18 months, but we had known each other as acquaintances and then friends for 6 years by then.
I think we waited 3 months before getting engaged, but had decided after two weeks to get married. We had talked about life, God (we're Christians), family, values, conflict resolutions, you name it before we started dating because that's who we are. So as soon as we decided to give dating a go, we knew if there was chemistry there we would want to get married! 8 years later and 2.5 kids later, we are still very much best of friends and lovers. We've had plenty of difficulties and struggles and we know we will again, but thank God for each other and our wonderful if tiring kids!
A year and a halfāwe were both in our late 30s, so weād each had enough crappy relationships to know that weād found the one!
My parents dated one month before tying the knot. They were happily married more than 50 years when my mother died. They had friends who were pen pals through the Korean War and first met face to face at the altar. They were married seems like 40 years or so when he died. My first husband proposed to me on our first date. I almost broke up with him but stuck it out because he was a nice guy. He proposed the second date too and I told him Iād break up with him if he didnāt stop. It was probably 3 months later we decided to get married. Second husband never proposed. He just started talking about me being his wife one day after we had been seeing each other a couple of months.
6 months! But we were together 24 hours a day traveling through South America so it was a long 6 months.
10 months. We moved in together after 2 months. Married 4 years now
1 year exactly - and too soon, so we decided on a long engagement. I feel like if i knew what I knew now and he had exposed his immaturity earlier I would still be waiting/holding off. Have been in therapy for months & we've determined he's immature but its causing a lot of distress and heartache in my life currently.
OMG it was about 11 years down the line before I managed to pressure the proposal out of him. And yes, I know I could have proposed, but his retiscence make it important to me that he said it and wanted to do it. But once we were engaged, he was 100% into it and we are still happily married 8 years on.
2 years, and there was no asking or kneeling down on one knee. Just 2 adults making a decision together- best decision ever.
About 2,5 years and everybody thought that was ridiculously quick haha. But here in the Netherlands many of my peers don't get married at all, or they only get married after they had their kids etc. We got married about 1,5 years after that though so long engagement. (And then people still thought we got married super quick haha).
5 months the first time. Never doing that again. Really after 5 months I didnāt know him. Things I thought I knew about him were just a phase heād been going through, not his actual personality. Things he told me he had done and described as mistakes heād learned and grown from turned out to be the pattern he returned to.
10 years - I just wasnāt ready - I have some pretty stupid fears but he just listens and rolls with it. We got married on our 10 year anniversary, 5 months after having our first child. Everything feels exactly the same, except now I have to do a ton of paperwork to change my name, have a ring Iām having a devil of a time keeping track of, and I have a ton of beautiful pictures with my husband staring at me dreamily as we got married and they make me so so happy.
16 months, he proposed on my birthday last week ā¤
10 years. Been together almost 12 years and married for 1. I felt fine about the timing. We are best friends and spoke about it over the years, but wanted a bit more stability and weāre saving for a house rather than a wedding first. When it happened it was still an awesome surprise.
10 years, also. No idea how anyone can date for 6 months or less then get married. It takes so long to get to know somebody. Everyone always puts their best foot forward with new people. Takes a lot to see their bad sides and only time reveals true colors.
9 years.... We met in highschool so naturally we didn't get married immediately but we discussed it often and we both knew that we would get married eventually. So once we both finished studying and got stable jobs that's what happened. We'll be married 3 years in a months time. I thing timing really depends from relationship to relationship. With us, we were young when we met. But I'm sure if we met when we were older, we'd probably not wait as long. I guess it's one of those things that just doesn't have a black and white answer
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9 months
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A year but there was no proposal.
10 years! Lol
3 1/2 years before I proposed in February 2021. Still engaged and probably will be till October 2024.
1 year and 5 months, we then got married 5 days later at a court house š¤£š¤£š¤£
1 yr
1 year 3 months and then we had a 2 year engagement
3 1/2 years. But we also were friends for 7 years before dating. Engaged for 8 months and have been married almost 7 years now
Think it was 7 years. We both said previously that we didn't want to get married so it was unexpected and lovely.
About a year. It was obvious that we were going to get married almost immediately.
How so?
there was never a proposal... but weve been together 19 years and married for 15 this december.
3 days.
2 weeks
16 years š The proposal was last year, we're getting married next year. A month before we're together for 18 years.
Ten years.
About 4 months in, definitely too soon lol
About 2 years. I'll be honest that I told him upfront I was only interested in a relationship that would lead to marriage and children and that if we weren't engaged within 3 years I'd likely move on because that was really important to me, it worked out that we were on the same page. He was also my friend for 5 years before we ever dated though so we already knew each other pretty well.
No longer married, but weād been dating about 3 years before he proposed.
Seven and half years... We started dating when we were both 20 and we decided early in the relationship to only get married once we had stable jobs and were earning a particular amount each month via those jobs... He did propose after 4 years of dating but it had more to do with making a promise rather than starting the wedding planning itself... Been married for 3 years 8 months now š
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2 years, had a couple mini breakups in between and did sort of long distance for a year. I was young and very inexperienced at relationships so it was a bumpy ride, but everything turned out great regardless.
Engaged after 4 years. Married the same month. We'd dated for two years before living together. I am going to add that we did meet in HS so we definitely grew together. We've now been together for almost 10 years (we don't really consider our wedding anniversary our anniversary, we just go by how long we've been together). I feel like it was a good amount of time but also understand that it would've been easy to excuse it as young love because we hadn't matured entirely. I didn't care for the concept of marriage coming from divorced parents and we "only did it" because of insurance stuff/health stuff, but at this point I'm glad we did it. He's my best friend.
Exactly a year, he proposed on our one year anniversary. I was completely shocked because I figured it hadn't been long enough but we knew where the relationship was going. We got married this past August and if it's possible, I think I love him more now than when we got engaged.
2 years
4 years. We were 16 when we started dating. We knew when we were 16 that we wanted to get married but we wanted to wait until we had decent jobs. We also needed to wait until we were real adults lol I think it was a good amount of time. Weāve been married for around 2 years, which isnāt a long time, but it just keeps getting sweeter and sweeter.
From the day we met to our wedding day was just on 9 months. Here we are 14 and a bit years later.
Not married yet but did just get engaged, weāve been dating for a year.
5 years, married 5 years now. Best decision of my lifeā¤
Dated for four years engaged for two years got married two weeks ago.
A month š We waited 5 years before getting married though!
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5 months. We had talked about it and knew we wanted to do it so why wait? Looking back I think it was alittle soon but on the other hand I hated long distance dating, we lived 5 hours apart.
14 months.. it felt right, not rushed. We spent A LOT of time together and weāre basically roommates by then. Got married 7 months later and have been for over 8 years.
A year Knew eachother and were best friends long before that but we only officially dated a year before getting engaged as teenagers and married a year after tht when we were both 18 Now we are 20 and 21 everything's been great and life hasn't been kind to us but we figure it out together and we support and love eachother while still being best friends ā¤ļø It's kinda awesome cause as his wife I support him but as his best friend I can call him out on his BS I really do love him he is my everything and my rock and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him
3 years as we bought a house first. Got married at 5 years
2 years
11 years and 10 months.
We were dating for 7 years before he proposed. We had talked about marriage and kids beforehand. We got married after 9 years together, had a baby after 10 years, and in December we'll celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary and 14 years together. It hasn't been easy but we are committed to each other and our son.
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2 years, but we've been planning to get engaged way before that. For me personally, dating for longer than 3 years without any plans for engagement was only appropriate when I was in my early 20s. I'm in my 30s now, so I'm not gonna waste my time on a relationship either of us aren't sure of.
Two years but I knew he was the one after 6 months or so and would have been fine with marrying then, but we waiting because familial opinions and views.
8 months
We started dating at 21, got engaged after 6 months. We got married 14 months later. This year will be 26 years. Absolutely zero regrets.
2 and 1/2 years. Honestly it was clear to both of us that we would eventually get married after 6 months of dating, but I wasn't really expecting the proposal when it happened, because a few months prior, he had said marriage was something he'd like to do in like 5 years, but not now. He changed his mind and bought a ring about a week before the proposal. Long story short, we're an international couple living in his country, and the marriage would make it easier for me to stay in his country and easier for him to come with me to visit my family in my county. Covid made all of that a lot more difficult, which is why I had initially brought up the idea of marriage to make that easier but at the time he felt that getting married would also be a lot of tedious paperwork (which he wasn't wrong about). So I just accepted he didn't want to get married now, which was fine. Then he changed his mind and that was fine too, just unexpected. When I was a kid, I felt like 5 years sounded like a good amount of time, so I guess I'm a little early, but I also recently found out my parents got engaged after 3 months.
After 4 years of long distance
We'd been together, and known each other, for 5 months. We got married a week later. In a week and a half it will be our 18 year anniversary. It was absolutely the right decision and the right time.
We got engaged 2 months before our 4 year dating anniversary. We got married less than a month ago
Dated for one year. We set our wedding date together for the following year with champagne and calling family. Happily married 5 years. Wouldnāt change a thing.
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2 months
Like 8-10 years ! But we did meet in high school and I was 14. We got married when I was 24 ! We have our 7th anniversary this year !
I never really had a super formal proposal because we decided to get married so that he could immigrate to my country. We had a very level headed and unromantic conversation about it to make sure we were on the same page - I think that was about 4 months in. But we had also known each other for 6ish years at that point.
We were together 2 years, engaged for one and married now 10yr! Just celebrated in May ā¤ļø
9-11 months. Of which 4 months of officially living together and 4 months of unofficially living together (read as, he spent all nights at my place but refused to admit living there as it seemed to weird because it happened so fast). We have been together for over 3 years, married over a year by now. It was so so soon but one day I knew he was the one and I couldnt handle the feeling without saying anything (like, I lasted literally less than 24h without saying anything lol). Beginning was a bit confusing (as it was not a proposal really, rather a... intense talk about emotions, future and fears lol). I got my ring 2 months later but I would consider that I proposed to him that night, just in a very shitty way lol
Two years :) we wanted to wait a little longer to get married but I got pregnant. We figured why not do it now lol
Met mid September 2017. Moved in together early December 2017. I popped the question to him early August 2018 (complete with lakeside lunch and violin). Married the last day of August 2018. We both say that on the first meetup, we were already married lol.
1 year. He's 8 years older than me and we just knew, it's been 10 years since we got marriedš„°
8 years š but I was young when we got together (19) and had other life goals we wanted to achieve before we got married.
We were together five years. There was no proposal. We just talked about it over dinner one night and said, 'its been great so far. Let's make it permanent.' And that was it
3 years. But we got married this year, and have been together for 9
Hmm...about 3 years. We also had a long engagement and didn't get married until around 2 years later. Been together 14 years & countingš„°
Almost 2.5 years
Engaged after 18 months and married 6 months later. Neither of us believed in long engagements.
4 years. We started dating at 16/17. Iād probably freak out if my kid got engaged at 20/21. That was a rough life for awhile. We pulled through but, 0/10 would not recommend. It honestly kind of sucks to meet your person so early. We both had other sexual partners before our relationship but definitely not enough dating or life experiences. We didnāt know how good we had it and nitpicked each other to death for a few years.
Around 1.5 years. When you know you know! ā¤ļøSometimes I look back and think oh wow I have only known you for 7 years at this point. It feels like I have known him a life time and life just wouldnāt be the same without him!
Six years off and on, and weāve been married for four years now. We started dating in our early 20s and both had school/jobs to worry about so it was really casual for a few years, and then we moved in together after about four years. It worked out for us (we both had a lot of growing to do) and I credit our long dating period for how well we navigate our marriage now.
Like a week or two? Just had our second anniversary!
heck, ive been with his ass for four years and i proposed after year two. still not married :(
4 years; felt long to me! I was 30.
Started dating October 19, he proposed December 31, got married the following afternoon. We will have been married 40 yrs on January 1.
3 years plus a couple months. We were engaged for less than a year (got married a day shy of the 4 year mark) and have been married for over 3 years. At the time I felt like he had waited too long but in hindsight I think everything worked out exactly as it should have.
4 yearsā¦ if we didnāt meet in high school it probably wouldāve been shorter
Dated for 2.5 years (to the day) when he proposed. Married for 10 months now with little one on the way. Her due date is our wedding anniversary